My New Horse Is Terrified!! How Can I Move Forward??

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@marieparsons9908 Ай бұрын

This young owner has very good timing and seems to grasp the concepts exceptionally well. I am quite hopeful for them! My heart goes out to this horse. But all the successful trainers that I have watched seem able to put any history away in their mind and to just train the horse and it's mind that is before them at the current moment. In other words, I think that it's maybe the best to keep consistent and patient and to let the horse adjust to their present reality. Sure, putting together a picture of what might have happened previously will help you to find things that the horse must learn to deal with now that the abuse is over. But Steve never acts soft/ sorry toward an abused animal. You train the horse that you have today. There is no past. I would find it difficult to do, but it seems the best way for a horse's brain. Best of luck to you both! Just remember to enjoy the journey. The destination will take care of itself.

@syrenadurager Ай бұрын

I could not agree more. every horse is different, especially coming from an abusive background . It will take time for that horse to trust again and it will unfortunately never forget the abuse so reaffirmation will always be needed with that horse. A gentile hand and comfort for life.

@osmia Ай бұрын

@cherylniemi553 Ай бұрын

Jess is one of the best horse women I have seen you work with. Her timing is spot on. Her gentleness when Benji first came, I think, allowed him to settle and, as mentioned, get to the point where he could work with you in the short time you were there. Her short follow-up video demonstrates a new confidence, and "quality with grace, as if it were nothing!😊✝️🇨🇦"

@ameliaf784 Ай бұрын

He seems like a really nice horse! I bet her being very gentle with him for the first couple of months really helped give him a chance to settle in and be ready for Steve. What a lovely owner.

@dianer.9203 Ай бұрын

Jess is an incredibly dedicated horse owner. She is fabulous!

@sue5242 Ай бұрын

That owner did such a good job before your visit, her new confidence will only propel her forward….i think Benji and her will do just fine. 😊

@suzannechance5876 Ай бұрын

I wish that every horse has an owner like Jess, and a trainer like Steve. How wonderful would that be for the Equine Universe....Blessings to all!

@annearoe2293 Ай бұрын

Yes! Just imagine, lots of happy, confident horses, and people being loved and respected by their horses.

@julzhepburn3688 8 күн бұрын

What a great comment ,,absolutely agree ,,too many dreams between people and horses that go bad because of lacking just a little but very expert help ..a few hours with a true horseman can give you more help than spending hours and weeks struggling with "lessons " with a less experienced help .

@payntpot7623 Ай бұрын

Neat wee horse. Funny wee short stepping walk, but a nice type. I remember being told (long ago) as a child not to pussyfoot around nervous horses. It took me years to learn an even better attitude....when a horse like that "startles" at something, burst out laughing and smile, especially if you have had to leap away from them for safety. Horses seem to understand laughter and its is like a nervous horse, hearing you laugh, will even visibly relax if they realise it is a bit of a joke on them. I know it sounds daft, but it has been my saving grace when dealing with a nervous horse, many a time. Perhaps it just relaxes me, but I swear, I can see them start to breathe again and soften. This wee chap looks like he will be a rewarding lad to deal with, but I do hope she stays safe as he may always be unpredictable, even after a few years under saddle. Highly strung, nervy types like this are always prone to random "flashbacks" in my experience. Complacency by the handler/rider can lead to preventable accidents. Being a mum and having children around (?) are serious considerations in this instance. Ed to add, Jess, if you see this, please, please always undo the surcingle First and do it up Last! Undoing the chest before the surcingle is an accident waiting to happen; especially with a spooky horse. Imagine if the wind had caught the rug, he spooked, pulled back and the rug slipped to "flank" him....... Another thing I would suggest, is to get closer to him when dealing with him, rugging/unrugging etc.... You stepped away from his rear end instead of stepping into him, putting you arm on his rump and almost hugging him close as you moved behind him. You placed yourself right in the maximum kick zone, even if it had been an accidental kick on his part due to fear of something else. The closer you are to a horse, the less leverage a kick has. Think of the old "punch" test. Someone punches your shoulder from one inch away and there is little pain. The same person punches your shoulder from 2 feet away and it hurts like hell. A horse is the same principle, so keep close to them and you will be safer. Nervous horses also benefit from a Hand on them *At All Times* when working around them. I learned this from an old groom/handler who worked on a large thoroughbred stud farm. What he could not do with a horse, could not be done. Enjoy this lad, he will be a good friend for you.

@karenjackson3269 Ай бұрын

Benji so wanted guidance.well done ti the owner for what she has achieved so far ❤

@juliastrzyga2274 Ай бұрын

What a beautiful horse! Jess is amazing owner and her progress is mind-blowing. She really saved Benji. I'm happy for both of them. 😄 inspiring!

@Fubar2024 Ай бұрын

Wonderful! Thank you, dear owners and Steve, for taking Benji into a new life.

@ThisnThat54 Ай бұрын

Aren't they always beauties?! So much encouragement comes from this channel! 💗

@katherinewheatcroft3617 Ай бұрын

You really helped change her mindset, Steve. That was life-changing for both her and her horse. He may not be 100% reliable but he's now in confident hands. I wish them both good luck. It can happen to anyone in life, that we self-doubt and in that fraction of a second, a horse can get nervous as he senses your hesitation instead of leading. Great video. Lovely to see anyone on a good path towards their goal. As always, well done Steve, thanks for filming Tania.

@vickyannpaintingwithoils Ай бұрын

The owners are amazing. What a wonderful interaction with them and this horse. Benji is going to be a wonderful horse. So freeing when he can accept the closeness and calm down knowing that his leaders are in control and looking out for him. Great video. ♥

@ealexeenko Ай бұрын

I'm so happy for the girl and Benji! All the best wishes! Well done, Steve & Tanya ❤❤

@mariaparker7545 Ай бұрын

Jess and Benji the perfect pairing.. a beautiful future is on the way thanks to you Steve!

@Vigula Ай бұрын

So astute of her to pick up on the fact that her own timidity was adding to the horse's nervousness. You helped her get past that and exude confidence and the horse can sense it a mile off.

@jacquelinetaylor8683 Ай бұрын

Watching Steve his confidence makes the horse less nervous. It reminds me of when I came home with our first baby. I was so nervous which showed in my first babys temperament for a few weeks, my nervousness made her nervous. With my second baby everything was easier. I was calm and so was he. We are all mammals and on a basic level feel similar primeval emotions that we can read in others.

@shilohndrah Ай бұрын

Love this sharre of Steve's work with Jess and Benji! Love Tanya's encouraging comforting talk. I've been watching The Clever Cowgirl who rescues auction horses. She has shown that a certain scarred horse she has, is taking years to calm and learn what another horse learned in an afternoon. She is always saying how brave the hoses are. Thank you for the follow-up good news from Jess!❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

@charlotterockel-kennedy8913 Ай бұрын

He is such a beautiful horse with such a gentle personality, just like his owner Jess. You have done so well with him and I'm sure it's due to your kind and calm handling. You are going to be such an unbeatable pair. Steve is amazing on helping not only horses but their owners too. All you needed was a little push for your confidence Jess ❤ This is a horse that I would love to see the outcome of in the future. Wishing you all the best

@californiadreamer2580 Ай бұрын

Kudos to all the owners of these horses that you work with, for allowing us to learn from their "problems".❤

@louisegogel7973 Ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤ Absolutely agree! Bravo to everyone who brings their issues to Steve.

@beccimathews2677 Ай бұрын

For as terrified as Benji was in the beginning, he didn’t try to hurt anyone. Such a beautiful boy and so kind.

@marlaatml Ай бұрын

What a wonderful session. I love how he accepted things so quickly. Thanks Steve and Tanya. ❤❤❤

@Jude_196 Ай бұрын

MORNING, STEVE!! Thanks for the new video!! ❤❤

@dd3wc Ай бұрын

Brilliant VLOG you guys! I could tell right away she watched your channel … the first giveaway was the tie on the stable door latch! The second was she did what you do re: groundwork. She just didn’t have the confidence the horse needed to feel safe and secure … like you give off Steve. I think part of your visit was also to desensitize her to working with an overly sensitive horse. It was very disconcerting at the start with Benji’s reactivity but she already had the basics of your groundwork laid down. So when you came on the scene with your confidence, it took you no time at all to get to the part where new groundwork had to be laid … embarking on unknown territory. I think she just needed to know what she was doing was right and the fact the horse is not as fragile as glass. Obviously Benji was traumatized at some point before she got him but I think he’ll eventually be safer to be around. However, he may always be the kind of horse that might react with the intensity we first saw. Perhaps maybe as time goes on the reactivity will be to a lesser extent … once she becomes a better leader! He’s a gorgeous horse and obviously she was able to see his potential … she just lacked strong leadership skills, which is what Benji needed. It’s more than just technique … it’s also the necessity of having strong leadership skills. Watching you over the years it seems imperative that you not only deal with the horse … you also have to deal with the owners/handlers too. So the lesson isn’t just about the horse no matter how bad off the horse is … but it’s about the owners/handler’s just as much … and in some cases it could be the source of the problem. Not saying it was the case in this situation. Love that ‘horseonality’ quip Tanya! 😂 Thanks again for the VLOG … learned a lot regarding the importance of how much leadership skills play a pivotal role with the likes of sensitive horses, such as Benji. Looking forward to the next VLOG … it’s always a joy to watch! Happy Trails! 🙏🙌❤️✝️✡️

@gaywalker2117 Ай бұрын

Go Jess. You are a star. Benji is one lucky horse.

@straycat8126 Ай бұрын

I’m so happy for Jess and Bengi……

@dawncamp303 Ай бұрын

Great job, I knew from the start that this horse just needed some sure guidance and steve did a great job. Wow, lots of learning here. I also can tell Jess will do fine, she is a very good horsewoman , just needed steve to give her some guidance. I would love to see future videos of how they get on. I am so happy benji is in her hands, exactly what he needs. GREAT video.

@kazzj62 Ай бұрын

He's a lovely horse and very intelligent and he will be a great horse. Jess and Benji are made for each other I think . Very nice energy and Steve got them both over some hurdles.. as always .

@janettacurtis4403 Ай бұрын

Once again you did it Steve. Beautiful horse. Lovely owner. Well done.

@novascheller5957 Ай бұрын

Yes, Jessie looked wonderful in her clip after your session! Great work as usual Steve and Tanya! ❤

@louisegogel7973 Ай бұрын

Good going team! Jess, Steve, Tanya, horse Benji, family behind the video production. Awesome how being confident has changed the whole relationship! Bravo!

@corinneguest Ай бұрын

Just a fabulous video all around. Such a difference to the horse almost immediately and we know the owner is soaking it all in to carry on. I admire her for reaching out, she has done so well, just hit a bit of a wall and needed some mentoring. Beautiful horse too.

@laurajackson6860 Ай бұрын

This gorgeous animal just needed a leader and now he has one. Well done!!! ❤

@elouan5092 Ай бұрын

It's not that simple.... at all. It's a traumatised horse and what this young lady did alone was wonderful. Steve Young gave her more confidence, yes, gave her the capacity to be a leader, to be more trustfull for Benji. But she already did an amazing job. Be a leader is not a magic wand ! People who mistreated this poor horse thought certainly they were the leader !

@rosablume4346 Ай бұрын

amazing about the spray bottle. Do all horses learn that fast or is this one somewhat smarter?

@shel.b.1090 Ай бұрын

Brilliant steve and what an amazing relationship the owner has with benji xxx

@andrearock2208 Ай бұрын

You are such an encouraging person. Love your wife too for videoing!

@livinglife5130 Ай бұрын

Such a beautiful horse. I really hope everything works out well.

@spfisterer3651 Ай бұрын

Such a beautiful Connemara, all the best to his new owner Jess (it's a lot of work but you've got this!) and a huge thank you to Steve and his team for helping him ❤

@deb4405 Ай бұрын

😂 Literally flooded. Jesse, I wish you much success and healing with Benji. Utah/USA

@debbiehollis5711 Ай бұрын

Ah it's so lovely the way you could help this lovely young lady and her beautiful horse.Mr magic Steve.

@milliedk Ай бұрын

Well done Jess. Wishing you and Benji all the best ❤

@carolnoel9660 Ай бұрын

Wonderful owner has done a great job also getting Steve in when she had to.

@dennisreeves632 Ай бұрын

Wonderful video, I love people that realize they may need a little help to get to the next level. Jess is just fabulous!

@myrnaedmisten599 Ай бұрын

Loved hearing Tanya and this horse having a moment at the very beginning. ❤️❤️

@vickyannpaintingwithoils Ай бұрын

Definitely! Isn't she just a joy? ❤

@ginnychibbaor4578 Ай бұрын

Jess is going to have a wonderful talented horse to enjoy

@margaretfleming3554 Ай бұрын

Kudos to the young lady owner who really stepped up confidently. What a change Steve brought about.

@peggyewoniuk1478 Ай бұрын

What a pretty pony!!! Good job all of you.

@franciskasartstudio741 Ай бұрын

Brilliant, so proud of her and all the work she has put in. Thank you for helping so many people who need it. Always love your videos. You are a wonderful team. ❤

@joycee5493 Ай бұрын

This girl is no dummy. She’ll be fine and this horse is lucky to have her.

@trishhoapili7587 Ай бұрын

That beautiful horse is in the best of hands. She achieved so much before you got there and as you say, you got them over a hill. I love her description of how it’s going now. I really hope to see what happens as she progresses on. 😊

@sirrobinofloxley7156 Ай бұрын

Miraculous, as usual, what a lovely horse too. I'm sure he'll be fine.

@charlenetull736 Ай бұрын

I love Benji! Just gentle and kind. We all know what fear feels like. God bless you for helping him.

@leelindsay5618 Ай бұрын

Well, with all the planes, he's desensitized to them.😂😂😂 Such a better mindset that "this won't hurt you, let me show you" than feeling just sorry for the horse. Its much more healthy for both sides. A beautiful ending.

@clarekelso7841 Ай бұрын

What a beauty. Good looking and so light. I’m so sorry someone’s made Jess’s job so hard. Good on her. She seems a lovely bold but gentle horsewoman. They were meant for each other. Good luck, Jess. He’s a stunner.

@helenlane8281 Ай бұрын

So much learning for everyone, brilliant 🙂

@charisseayre1299 Ай бұрын

Wonderful breakthru! This one made me teary! I think they make a wonderful team, all the best to you both! 💖

@sharonlarkin1601 Ай бұрын

What an absolutely wonderful video. ❤

@maureencousins6538 Ай бұрын

Just love the way you and Tanya show us where you are and what you do after your hard work. Also enjoy the journey with you in the car and your lovely chatter. You are a great team. ❤

@elouan5092 Ай бұрын

What a wonderful video ! I had tears in my eyes ! I don' t have your experience with horses, but i know what trauma does to the brain ( brain's animal but also, in the exact same way, human's brain). I see a traumatised animal in this horse. He's so gentle, so elegant but also so terrified. He's doing his best, but it's very hard to overcome a trauma. And i stilll wonder, with a lot of pain, what happened to this so gentle and so smart horse.... I think, you're right, Jesse did a very good job before you come. Traumatised people or traumatised animals need a lot of kindness, reassurance. Jesse did that in a wonderful way, i think. But traumatised people or animals need also to overcome their fears, to be pushed a bit further. And you were here for that ! I'm very glad to see Jesse understand so well what you did, and take over the job you started ! Jesse, you are a horse woman, no doubt ! You learn very fast. You love and respect Benji. I understand very well why you bought him, despite his fears. He has something unique ! And only few people could see that ! Something matches beetween you and Benji ! It's rare and precious. Of course, be careful. I'm agree with Steve Young. : Benji is a gentle soul, but saddly, his traumas won't dissapear. They can be relieved, but not erased. It's a life journey... I don't know how far you will go together, but i hope the best for you and Benji !

@elouan5092 Ай бұрын

@@Skystone123 If you think that, you don't know, at all, how trauma happens, how it works... Firts, a trauma is not a simple fear. It'as a lot more complex, more difficult to heal. A traumatised human can reason, yes, but it's useless to heal traumas . Worse, you can understand very well why who have a so strong fear, and in the mean time, you can keep all your fears and never heal from it. in fact, trauma has nothing to do with reason, so it has nothing to do with the front cortex ( horses don't have this part in their brain). But horses have a lymbic part, so do we ! Traumas has to do with this part of the brain, not with the front cortex. However, it makes a huge difference, i agree, but not the difference you expect, i think. It's more difficult for humans to overcome traumas than for horses, because of this cortex, because of our believes, our subconscience... We make up stories, in our mind, to avoid pain. Horses don' t make up stories and this incapacity help them to heal ! That's why i'm think there is hope for Benji. If you want to learn about traumas, there is a lot of litterature, with studies with animals ! , in neurosciences. Last thing, in therapy, in 2024, we very rarely ask why to heal ! We ask "how", exactly the same we do with animals !

@kerrybogdanski1027 Ай бұрын

Lovely, life-changing for both of them again 👏👏👏👏

@jbohio7821 Ай бұрын

Those safety ties are wonderful! I was at a trail ride last year. The horse that was tied at the trailer beside me, pulled back and broke her rope. When they caught her, I walked over with one of your safety ties. I showed her how to put it on the rope and to the girl to always tie her mare with that tie. I did show her how the horse can pull back and not get hurt. I saw the same girl just a couple weeks ago. She is still using that safety tie! Bravo!

@melissariner131 Ай бұрын

What a great video. Your work with the owner changed both the horse and the owners life. Good on you!

@Amber-me1qx Ай бұрын

Steve, your videos are so encouraging. Thank you! 🇨🇦

@karenjackson3269 Ай бұрын

Beautiful pony ❤

@tammyspurdle9208 Ай бұрын

Lovely horse and lovely owner, God bless them as they go forward together. Thank you Steve and Tanya for this wonderful video❤

@karenjackson3269 Ай бұрын

Love watching you work your magic steve ❤

@meinePferde Ай бұрын

Danke Steve und Tanya, wieder ein tolles Video zum LERNEN. Sweet Horses

@shelleyjack1579 Ай бұрын

You go Jess!! Youre an amazing horsewoman and your little Connemara will be your heart horse for a very long time. You deserve the best and I hope you achieve all of your goals with Benji ♥️♥️♥️♥️

@ellisd77 Ай бұрын

I've had a rescue for almost a year and a half. He was taught next to nothing. I taught him to lead, back and lunge to one side. He does not respect people and doesn't understand personal space. So to get out of a vet or farrier visit, instead of trying to get away, he runs one down. I got trampled last year, before I realized that was his M.O. I got knocked down this summer, because my guard was down. He is twenty-one.

@TLAR24 Ай бұрын

Love to see the break throughs with horse and owners. ❤️🇨🇦

@plainspokenJane Ай бұрын

I really like the way this horse looks to be at just the right weight.

@JazzyJ-tn9ph Ай бұрын

Sometimes it's equally important what the Humans are going through also. Jess, was experiencing single motherhood which is not easy, plus getting settled into a new routine for her and the baby. She had really done quite well with the horse, especially being he is unbroken. Benji seems to be doing quite well, and I think Jess is too. I never realized just how much our energy transfers to our animals as well. Animals do take over if they Sense our nervousness or hesitation. Thanks, Steve for Helping such a Wonderful Young Lady. 🐎💐💜

@neelamwadhwani505 Ай бұрын

Steve, you truly have a way with horses. The hose must be MIGHTY scary to Benji, but he has faith in YOU. That's why his bursts of fear are as SHORT as they are. Excellent job!

@joannsmith9 Ай бұрын

I’ll say it again-YOU ARE AMAZING!

@jennyrosd2003 Ай бұрын

Hes gonna be fine. !! Hes in good hands with her.

@careycroft8648 Ай бұрын

The look on that horses face when the sheet was on him and you walked away was priceless. It was like he said what is this on me ?

@tinedanielsson1531 Ай бұрын

Not really a horse person but I love these videos. I love how Steve treats the horses AND owners with love and respect

@saradejesus9869 Ай бұрын

He is so gorgeous.

@claverton Ай бұрын

Brilliant!

@johnnorman1793 Ай бұрын

Benji survived the day. Nailed it again Steve..!!

@victoriacohen3319 Ай бұрын

G’day Steve Tania Jess & Beautiful pony Benjy another exceptional job helping a wonderful owner to achieve exceptional horsemanship 1 on 1 looking forward to the future follow up! With many source blessings with truth clarity love light laughter happiness joy fun play creativity adventures abundance wisdom wealth health and may peace be with you all! Victoria Australia 🇦🇺 xox 😘

@ckh2815 Ай бұрын

The hose water pressure at 38:00 is far too high. Such intensity would put most horses off. Ah, finally turned it down at 40:00. The owner is extremely calm, confident and capable. Lucky horse.

@claudias4601 Ай бұрын

Gorgeous horse.

@lindalala5813 Ай бұрын

I'm curious as to how he is with the ferrier...such a beautiful horse! It's beautiful they came to meet when they both were in need..great job here..TFS.

@pam-x2k Ай бұрын

benji is beautiful, terrific work you did , young woman.

@mariagillinson8527 Ай бұрын

Well that wasn’t fair right away going to spray him I’d do a lot more prep letting him smell the bottle … how can he trust if he’s surprised with something like that…

@bettyforsythe2513 Ай бұрын

Great job training horse and helping both horse and owner🙏

@kellygalvin7775 Ай бұрын

What a brilliant video

@pollyh7715 Ай бұрын

Wonder if he is so jumpy on his left side due to “whatever” happened to him when being previously “trained”. Since most people handle from the horses left…

@PRINCESSDREAMYLYN Ай бұрын

Fantastic. Jess seems to have really got the leadership bug from you Steve. Some times we can be to careful to ind and not firm enough when need be. I have good feeling they will be brilliant together going forward.