Stop Crying Or I Will Give You Something To Cry About

[@meg-p9d]

"Being seen, being heard".... That's SO important for horses as well as humans. Thanks a million Warwick!

[@southernforestgypsy]

Don't forget the whole quote, "being seen, being heard, feeling 'felt' and getting 'got'. " All mammals do better under these conditions 🤔😁❤️

[@grannyhorsetraining878]

@@southernforestgypsy they sure do 💞🐎

[@louisegogel7973]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@eddisianc8639]

I love the growth this dude promotes. My horse is a completely different, more relaxed, happy and willing partner since I've started operating out of empathy instead of my "stuff".

[@louisegogel7973]

That is really awesome!

[@xAccalia17x]

There needs to be more horse trainers with Warwick's mindset, so insightful.

[@marh122]

there should be something like ambassadors program or something like that so he has main contacts in each country, because i am from Slovakia, I am, as Warwick says "believer" because I am subscriber, I learn from him, discussing problems, etc. but I am in a country where not much people around horses speak English, so I cannot point them to his website, and I dont know anyone from my country who is a subscriber or part of his group so Warwick wont come to do a clinic. World would be a lot better place then :/

[@sarkamarova6195]

@@marh122 if you manage Warwick come to your country or if you are open to manage it in CZE i bring to his clinic 5 persons 1000%sure. #hugefans :)

[@marh122]

@@sarkamarova6195 hey, lets chat about this on FB or somewhere else :) my FB: /stefan.marcin22

[@tinastark1173]

Love your conversation❤️ I believe horses are very spiritually advanced! We have a lot to learn from the about being present and inclusive. Check out kzbin.info/www/bejne/f5STXqitbd98ha8

[@gh0st_xr]

I'm a horse trainer in Australia and I study psychology as well. I actually use the psychology to find the reasons behind each horse's behaviour so that I can help them as if a therapist would. I also follow a lot of Warwick Schiller because he uses a very similar style to me and I love that he empathizes with the horse since that is my exact reason for using psychology.

[@angaeltartarrose6484]

"If you can't say no, it's not a real yes."

[@forensicgirl]

Yes, this!

[@louisegogel7973]

❤❤❤

[@RickyJr46]

"The beatings will continue until morale improves."

[@hwpine7011]

"two way conversation", "atunement", "they need the relationship first". I've always noticed how my horses start to work for me, and try harder when they know I'm communicating with them. Thanks for putting it all into words so "we" can understand it.

[@nepheshr290]

The biggest secret about horse training was relealed here, and it was when he said he spent 8 days matching her steps, time with a horse is just so important

[@AxanarGaming]

Join up is faster but you are right the morale of the story here is you have to let the horse decide that your ok even if it takes 8 days or 8 months. The biggest rewards comes from putting in the time.

[@Blinks46]

I love your dog bouncing up and down outside the fence lol 😂

[@matttaimuty5397]

I'm glad you covered this. I've been on about this for years. If a horse knows you want them to tell you how they feel and what they are thinking, they feel more confident and trusting. If you listen, they will tell you everything you need to know and then some. They can actually be quite "talkative". Listening to horses can create very deep relationships with them. They need close friends just like we do, so be that friend.

[@saspinks3001]

It is SO nice to hear a man say what you said. Kudos for your open mind and being willing to speak up!

[@linaulnes8821]

Yes! Ive said this since I was a kid, all animals need to be heard. So what if a dog barks a little or a horse put their ears back if their trying to express themselfs so you can support them through it ❤️ so lovely to see more think this way, and for men to explain it so well.

[@jmo53214.]

YESSSS!! BE that friend!! Perfectly stated, sir!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Sophie-mq1eo]

I have had virtually the same experience with my own "double-swirl" gelding who had what some would call a very strong stubborn streak when I first bought him. In truth, he had severe kissing spine and had learned to say "no" to protect himself. When someone asked him to do something that hurt his back and he refused, they would of course ask more sternly, so he learned to respond more adamantly against increasing pressure. Against all professional advice (and, arguably, common sense), I decided to simply be attentive and listen when he said "no". After years of coming to trust that I wouldn't force him to hurt himself, this horse has gone from a stick-and-spur ride to stepping into a gallop just off the sound of my voice. This gelding is the most gentle, courteous, attentive horse I've ever worked with but I believe he is so because I treat him gently, courteously, and attentively in turn. When working with other horses- particularly younger horses- I do still think about what sort of emotional expressions we should allow a horse to have (since of course there must be a limit somewhere). What I've settled on for now is that I still discourage inappropriate displays of emotion, the same I would with human children. From working with young children with disabilities, I've found it's helpful to very quickly establish firm boundaries for which emotional displays are appropriate and which aren't. For example, hitting a caretaker because you're upset quickly results in a stern talking-to where we discuss why that isn't appropriate. That doesn't mean that the child is discouraged from being upset, just that we expect those emotions to be expressed in a manner which isn't harmful to others. I take the same approach with horses; if a horse is upset or frightened I will listen to his feelings, express sympathy, and help him work through them in a constructive manner (and learn to better manage his own emotions in the future), but I draw a firm boundary at behavior like kicking, biting, etc. Ultimately it's a two-way street; the horse (or child) cannot be allowed to express his feelings in a manner which is harmful, but that also means YOU have a responsibility to listen to his attempts at constructive conversation. If a horse (or child) tries to tell you something nicely and you dismiss his feelings, he'll feel that he needs to be rude in order to get his point across. Or, for some horses and children, he gives up trying to engage you at all.

[@sewingstoryprojects6178]

This is awesome!!!! Yes, yes to all of it!

[@sactopyrshep]

It has been my experience that kicking, biting, bucking, tearing, bolting , etc. are the equivalent of screams. Really listening to a horse (or a child) and acknowledging the messages they give you from the very first moment can prevent the over-the -top responses.

[@louisegogel7973]

Wisdom!!! Acknowledge what someone is going through is the best way! Not put them down, but help them move through it as needed. “The way out is through”. “Allowing the horse to say no!!!”. You aren’t backing off what you seek to do so much as you are giving them time to consider it and decide okay, now I’m ready.

[@seersbe-ersknowersanddoers3556]

Again.. your perception about human behaviors and relation to the horses is profound and so well explained. Thanks Warwick for all you do with your candor and your gift of words

[@sineadbeel1917]

I was raised not even horribly strictly, but strict enough where a very agreeable person like me just didn't feel okay causing disagreement. I got married young and it took me 4yrs before I learner to stand up for myself and say no. I guess it's just so hard to know where that line is of how agreeable in society is healthy. Especially when raising kids. And like you say, some personalities take it well, others can't handle it.

[@stephanierogers4211]

"They just want to be heard"...Gosh, don't we all. Wouldn't that make all of our lives better. By being a better horseman you become a better person. "You're not working on the horse. You're working on yourself". Thanks so much for showing us how to be better humans for our horses.

[@daveanderson8776]

Thanks Warwick ! This is such a journey for me with horses 🐴 I have begun at 64 and am loving it as I am working through my own issues as well ! Mt instructor told me about you and I am so glad . I am on my way to a different place now , thank again! Dave from Oregon

[@RabiezDeWorgen]

Warwick hit the nail on the head, Not everyone handles being told to "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" well. Usually I was beaten if I didn't shut up. Over the years I shut down emotionally and I can imagine horses doing the same. It took a great therapist years to get me where I am now. I'm so glad you're helping this horse do the same.

[@ina7084]

What you say about becoming more reactive after starting to trust people has actually resonated so much with my own personality disorder. It's why I avoid genuine connections because then I'm shut down and when I'm shut down I'm less reactive, but the moment I find someone trustworthy I just absolutely explode and become afraid and worried of everything. It's inspired me to keep going through the chaos instead of going back to shutting down next time, but I've also realised that I cannot do this alone and that I need to find someone understanding of it to ever have any hope of getting better. I've actually been implementing a lot of what you've said about horses into my own life. It gets worse before it gets better.

[@pon1952leod]

Thanks for sharing this...I think a close family member has the same issue but has never explained it as well as you did🌿

[@ina7084]

@@pon1952leod Yes, it's an odd thing how when I'm alone I can do things, go outside with little difficulty. But when that someone appears I realise just how much afraid of everything I already had been by the constant need to tell them, run to them, do things with them and suddenly I cannot do anything I could before. Becomes extraoridnarily difficult. And my life slowly falls apart through fear of losing that person. Separation anxiety. I don't know how much of what I say is supposed to be subconscious anymore, sadly. Had years of reading up about this in hopes of progressing anywhere but down. Probably why I can explain it more clearer. I wish luck to your family member in finding themselves stable and confident enough.

[@manondekkers1023]

Maybe find a gestalt therapist that van help you.

[@ina7084]

@@manondekkers1023 I've had therapists, psychiatrists.. I don't care for them anymore. Too tired to be dealing with people that constantly push you into going where it hurts with no regard for how you feel. It's all their projection with them and no validation. I've yet to find a psychologist that uses unconditional positive regard and doesn't make my condition worse. Seems to be impossible where I live. Or maybe I just get too explosive in defending myself. I don't see the use in being pushed into my defensive state with no plan whatsoever because they don't believe the personality disorder diagnosis (which is official on paper) so they ignore it like it isn't even there and sometimes even try to convince me non provokedly how there is nothing wrong with me when I'm explaining how my day's been and how much I despise other people. It just gets thrown into there "that's normal now moving along". I don't remember ever saying I was abnormal nor that there was something wrong with me. But infuriating that is.

[@ina7084]

Ah, but then I start agreeing with them on it and don't want therapy anymore because I'm fine and I don't need it nor didn't and suddenly all that's wrong in this whole world is me and I find myself being pushed into hospitalisation, intensive therapy and medication. I despise that switch. (No, it's public heath care, they don't do it for money how everyone keeps telling me. They don't get paid by me and they're all overbooked already so anyone with that opinion can keep themselves and their conspiracy theory away from me.)

[@terryst9835]

I stopped riding my gelding for a year because of just this sort of thing. He would be standing in his stall, head out the door. He would see the saddle coming and turn, putting his head in the back corner of the stall. Even though we have started riding again occasionally, I will still present the tack to him, and if he reacts in any negative way, I put it away and we don't ride that day. But that hasn't happened in awhile. Funny when you started talking about mules, I thought, 'My guy must be part mule!' Then you mentioned the whorls, and guess what? He has the two whorls side by side. :) We have done a LOT of work on relationship, and it shows up in his willingness.

[@saddletramp6245]

Awesome.......”First you go with them, then they go with you, then you both go together”, Tom Dorrance

[@leealexander3507]

I want my horse to tell me how he feels. I don't want to give him anything to cry about.

[@thehorsebackheroine5950]

What a lovely thing to say 🥰🙏

[@ina7084]

I see you've moved on from Rick Gore. Used to see you a lot in comments of his videos.. Good for you.

[@alaya9860]

thank you. me too.

[@jeanfish7]

@@ina7084 Rick gore is an idiot

[@ina7084]

@@jeanfish7 He knows what he's doing, but he's stuck in his outdated ways. Arrogant. And misogynistic. And his followers are masochistic for taking constant verbal abuse through his videos. I used to watch him and ignore his chitter chatter, but at a point I realised why should I when there’s so many much less hateful horse trainers out there that actually improve, update their knowledge and don't call you an idi*t every 5 seconds. Enough said.

[@jennyrenken8451]

I loved this. My horse "freezes" with the new stirrups on my new saddle. They are metal and they make a noise he doesn't care for. He did this with the same sort of stirrups on another saddle. It makes him spooky at the hitching post. He is a pretty much - great trail horse. But you've given me something to think about. Maybe another way. I usually try backing him up and then bringing him back to the hitching post. Today, he stood frozen even after I walked him to a grassy area where I was allowing him to graze. He just stood completely still. I've had him most of his life. I'd like to figure this one little thing out.

[@josebarrientes177]

Warrick your the best horse trainer I have yet seen and Iv´´e seen all of them. You have a unique insight to the horses mind.

[@heathercollins4432]

What's up with the 20 people that gave this a "thumbs down???" Someone needs to give them something to cry about...

[@jouleseel9627]

I love how patient and gentle you are with the horses. Thank you for sharing your gift and showing what true horsemanship is supposed to be like. Watching that mare come up almost saying please pet my nose and bumping you was very sweet.

[@jessica-walt]

Did anyone see the dog jump up on the other side lol

[@slmronan]

Dog jumping is hysterical!

[@HeyWatchMeGo]

I was hoping W.S. would take the dog into account when he was explaining how/and why the horse was reacting the way she did. Not saying it was a big factor, but it would be interesting.

[@stuffstuffstuffyay]

Yeah hahah

[@christinaharmon8778]

Yes! Too cute!

[@tinastark1173]

I sense the dog wants to be seen and heard just like the horse...just like we all what to be seen, heard, valued, loved and appreciated for who we are!!

[@laurenaston7940]

I’ll admit I clicked on this video ready to heartily disagree, but when you sided with empathy, I was pleasantly surprised. My very sensitive 9yr QH mare is currently with a wonderful trainer who has made some great progress with her because she took the time to create that bond and go at the horse’s pace, tuned into her, rather than trying to do things the “normal” way or on a standard timeline. She’ll be coming home soon and I’m super excited to get to start riding her. 🤗

[@cynthiakeyes8402]

If they connect with the fact that you are trying to understand them, even in small steps, they will give you their trust and their whole heart. They really do want that next level of connection

[@bipolarbear9917]

Beautiful body language from the horse. Warwick is definitely a ‘horse whisperer’ in the Monty Roberts style.

[@tinoyb9294]

Love how he stops and acknowledges the horse in the middle of the video.

[@barbelliott8289]

I think this is another succinct way of saying not every technique works for EVERY horse! That (as we) are INDIVIDUALS! And thet need to be listened to as individuals.... THANK you Warwick Schiller for another equine nugget of wisdom...🥰🥰❣❣

[@lara16croft]

I'll be honest, when the vid started with the quote, I thought we were going in a completely different direction. Happy I was proven wrong. I love this mentality. There are enough problems in the horse world, especially with ppl on YT doing the shaming videos. It's refreshing to hear you as well as ppl like Nolan M Cruz ignore the shaming game and go the informative route. Shaming ppl makes them defensive. Informing them makes them better to do better. Thanks again and subbed.

[@lorrygeewhizzbang9521]

I've been having issues with my anxiety about riding and dealing with horses and as I told one teacher, when I went to a new stable to try again, people are more than willing to help a frightened horse than a frightened person. I said I had more in common with the horse. That teacher understood that and things were going well until I had to work with a different trainer and their pushy hard nosed attitude pretty much undid any progress made and I left. That was 3 years ago. But i hope to try again next summer sometime at a different school and hope as I work on myself it will get better.

[@comesahorseman]

When they know that you know....many, many good things become possible. You *have* to be prepared to meet them where they are, not where you want them.

[@RickyJr46]

Beautiful episode. I was never much of a "horse person" until the day when an older fleabit mare silently came to the fence and watched me pick up glass in the bike lane. Turning around, she was right there - surprise! From then on I stop to greet her, to share a carrot and hang out. Her owners don't consider Scarlett to be exceptional, but they like that I do! And it's nice to learn more about that friendly lady along the fence.

[@thon25250]

Love your comment about the swirls/whorls! I have a red mare that has so many of them all over her body and you are spot on! She needs that attunement! And once you give it to her she yawns repeatedly ( 12 was the most) and then engages with you.This all came out when her buddy died unexpectedly and she was grieving. She needed a connection and opened up to us. Thank you, Warwick, for all the knowledge and wisdom you share. It has been so valuable with our horses. Your explanations are clear and concise and delivered in a very unpretentious way. We have a new three yr old (introvert with lots of swirls who is always wanting to engage lol!) so I have been watching your videos daily. Thank you for making them all available through your video subscription! You are such a Blessing!

[@josebarrientes177]

Like My dad always said take your time so that it takes less time.

[@liamrooney5133]

Interesting presentation. I certainly heard, and probably said, that wretched threat to children. It's humbling to admit we were so arrogant with our kids! I love the comment about mules and the treatment of horses.

[@devilssemblance5938]

Its so good to hear this from a big trainer like you, Warwick. Ive been saying this for years. My first horse was a mess because I tried to train her with the traditional "show her who's boss" mentality, and she was both mule-like and very VERY flighty at different times. She was a hell of a filly, and now we speak the same language. When she was about eight months old I began listening to her for real, and that was when our relationship bloomed. She went from a scared filly who would panic when I tried to take her on trail walks, to a horse who actively threw a fit if we didn't go for a nice long hike. Shes an awesome trail horse now, and her progression has been incredible. Ive trained my other two mares the same way, and I'll be training my little stud colt (almost 7 months old) the same way over time. With luck he'll be my endurance horse prospect, but we'll see! Good video, as usual!

[@shevhunter986]

How fascinating I hope you share all the things that are worse before you make them better

[@ShadeTreeStables]

Yes, yes, yes! If you don't listen to their whispers, they will start shouting!

[@pon1952leod]

Once the horse notices you noticing him everything changes...so cool!!! Thank you Warwick for being so tuned into these wonderful creatures and sharing what you know❤️

[@AxanarGaming]

Try join up. It is very rewarding when you realize they see you as their leader.

[@johanna7096]

@@AxanarGaming mhmm join ups can be very inefficient with certain horses and it is not a thing that fixes a lot.

[@wilmamcdermott3065]

My horse use to come looking for me Every day after i left home as a kid

[@russellkelly3321]

One of his best videos

[@katyratyra]

So interesting. I was a part of that generation who grew up with that sentiment. And now I can see how damaging it can be. I've been following a trainer (horses) for almost a year, and although she expresses it differently, she is saying the same thing. The things she can do with horses is nothing short of amazing! Thank you for the insight.

[@gingercox6468]

Kinda works like a runaway pulling in a circle. You really connected with her. She needed to be listened to. Nice job.

[@MsDother]

Wow! You nailed it. I have a Mustang in my life too with multiple swirls and I totally agree with the method/approach you used. They truly have a desire to be understood and know that you can be trusted before anything else. My boy acts just like your mare, including all the affection. Thanks for sharing your journey.

[@jolandameivogel9006]

I do that my whole life with horses and people! The beauty of it is that you are always a team and there is respect. If a horse don't respect you, than the horse is dangerous. I am a farrier and I see in my work a lot of dangerous horses, a specially by people who think there horse is a little toy dog and pamper the horse to to match. Greetings from the Netherlands

[@MsDother]

What a beautiful horse

[@noahman27]

Warwick, you are the best. I just love your compassion, understanding, and deep wisdom in connecting and being HELPFUL to horses...which you can apply to your relationship with yourself and with others!! That's why these videos for people like me, who don't have horses, and wonderful and soothing.

[@aprilbasinger7868]

I’ve really applied your don’t go over the thrush hold and I’ve gotten amazing results from it. I also have done the human factor with Robyn WOW!!! WOW!! I have been an accomplished horsewomen for more than half my life and what I’m learning now with the Schiller family is ROCKING MY WORLD IN AN AMAZING WAY!! Thank you and God bless!!

[@southernforestgypsy]

So happy to hear of other happy changes in people's lives the Schiller team are enabling. Everything you said, "me too". Except now despite the rooms full of trophies, buckles and ribbons...I don't feel so accomplished for those things any more. Now I have genuine communication (work in progress) happening with my big fur babies - that, those moments of connection are worth a million times more than any silly trophy. My horses seem to WANT to be with me now - THAT means the world and is like getting a big shiny trophy every single day 🥰 and God bless and keep you and yours connected April ❤️

[@TheClayone]

My mustang mare was afraid of flags and helicopters when I got her. She could care less now, it took time and trust. I love her opinions as she has a great sense of humor, she is also coming along extremely well in beginning dressage. And Warwick, your principles have helped me to deepen this relationship further, thank you.

[@imba.hjaltalin]

Thanks for this!! A horse that bottles everything up is dangerous. Because he can burst like a volcano. So please everyone take the time and listen to this type if horse. If your method is nit working and the horse seems smart, take a step back and re-think things. The horse will actually tell you. I asked my horse what was wrong (in my mind), I was desperate to know what had been bothering him. And stood silently just there with him in the field, and he told me "it hurts" (message to my mind), we usually take this as intuition and will say "I think my horse is in pain". But I believe he told me telepathically!!! Because I asked "does it hurt" as if this was a coversation, and he moved forward and put his hip near me. I laid my hand there and he started shivering. It was obvious he was in pain. I guess while brushing he had just suffered through becsuse this has never showed up. But he is always extremely tense in general. This time he shoved me, then I got a mental image of him falling on this hip in a slippery place, inside. I could be imagining all this but I know he was castrated in a veterinary hospital bc he needed to be put down (the balls did not descend) properly. So it is quite possible he got hurt a bit. It also felt like he was emotional about this experience. I felt all this pain and sadness. He freezes a lot and has thrown me off once. It was the saddle I believe, he is extremely sensitive to any pressure. He is also very much like a stallion prancing around and sometimes has those sad eyes like a tiger in a cage. I can envision him as a leader of a huge flock of horses. He is so smart and would really be reliable, would give his life for them. Its weird, but he is only 4 years old but feels like he is very old and wise. Horses are amazing creatures.

[@alaya9860]

love what he is saying. great thoughts. (love the dog in background too!) :) I love that he lets the horse say no...

[@This1LifeWeLive]

I reeeeeally love how you talk about how long it took. Its too easy to get frustrated thinking we must be doing something wrong! 30 minutes after 8 days! I think not hearing that, I would have said after day 4 "clearly I'm not doing something right!" And gotten frustrated. It could take 2 days or 10 days, but at least I know its not a quick simple fix :)

[@ambileotard3849]

Good horse advice and parenting advice! awesome stuff

[@fallbrkgrl]

It sure looks like she is enjoying her connection with you. It's plain as day! Really heart warming to see how she is with you. For the mare's sake, hope the owner is going to work on their connection with her. Thanks again for another great video! ❤️🌵☀️⛈️🌈☮️🐎

[@hibas801]

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[@MD-bu3xc]

Listening to Warwick has made me want to have a horse in my life again after 40 years since my last horse; I was sick of the "show the horse you're the boss stuff....." the traditional way took all the joy out of being around these wonderful animals.

[@loridawson2677]

Thank you for all you do. I have a mustang that is very much like this one and she has come so far since I put our relationship first. She needed to be heard.

[@deepquake9]

That little bit about the swirls was amazing.

[@dawnhughes-bissonnette9070]

So true...all of this. When I first started relationship based / natural horsemanship whatever you want to call it....my TB that I had completed fairly high in Eventing and Dressage wouldn't let me saddle him at Liberty. I cried.....Then went to work on myself. My newest horse is black, has some draft in him, double whorl, came through lesson barn. Took me 3 years to really connect from the ground..though he is awesome under saddle he still gets worried very easily. Thx for this focus on the horses mental health 😁

[@3Sanibel33]

Interesting. I was told that as a child of the70's. Thanks again.❣️🍀

[@Daish05]

That horse just loooves him 🥰

[@friederikeheller9486]

The world needs more people like Warwick. Thank you for showing a different and such a gentle approach to some problems. It's eyes opening.

[@lsavatski]

I want to be this guys horse. He really understands.

[@SomniiLinn]

It is great to see a trainer that is willing to put down the time, that simply everyone should. Some horses take things in stride, others just need a little, or a lot, more time. If you want them to be happy, relaxed and sound for life, then you give them that time. Thank you for sharing this, so many people still need to learn that we are so often taking from the horses, and forget to really give back.

[@mdee860]

I am so impressed by your thoughtful, intuitive approach to training. One size does not fit all. I wonder if some of her issues started when she was pulled from her Mustang herd? She had no choice, no say so & maybe she wants that to be acknowledged? Such a huge change for her - going from a herd of her horse family, to intense human touch & demands. She seems so sweet. I'm so glad you're helping her to adjust.

[@jameystone2650]

I love how your training techniques are evolving -- a sign of a great horseman.. I've found that when a horse is forced, confused, and not being listened to you get behavioral issues -- with horses as well as children. Remove the rope and give the horse complete freedom and, in time, you get a better connection. It's better for the horse and much better for your soul. Both are more at peace.

[@gailfreese3849]

Wow, I love how you put the horse's perspective in our interaction with them. Great lesson.

[@AxanarGaming]

I thought this was going to be stupid by the title but he actually addresses one of the biggest issues that both rider & horse suffer from. Great video!

[@EventDogs]

When helping some dogs with issues with aggression I've loved it when I've got them to start growling. This may seem odd, but often if they have been punished for growling before coming to me, and the owners don't read body language well so the dog has learnt that them using their body language doesn't work either they have sometimes learnt to fly in with teeth before communicating, because they are still worried but all of their other communication has either been ignored or punished. Once they learn that we're listening and understanding we can bring them back down that ladder of aggression (which is often fear based) and tell us what they're worried about, and if that is handled correctly in many cases we can get them to the point where they stop growling because they are no longer concerned. If we listen early enough the 'aggression' (and that is a whole conversation in itself!) goes away naturally because we are listening and building relationship and trust.

[@calgal7828]

Interesting....very insightful. BTW that is a great looking mare! Thanks

[@franmeyers175]

Wow my Blue has 2 swirls and I think I have totally misunderstood him, I love his down to earth sweet approach ! This is what the world & our horses need now! Looks like the puppy wants some love too! LOL

[@kleineportugiesin9784]

Großartig!! Und die Stute konnte im Video gar nicht nahe genug heranschleichen. Sie hat vielleicht vorher noch nie einen Menschen gekannt mit der Energie eines WarwickSchiller. Fühlte sich wahrgenommen und wollte noch mehr davon

[@horsehangout]

Makes sense to me. Hoping for more videos like this, thank you for your work

[@CC-xk6cp]

Hello WARWICK I must say the wisdoms in this vid are absolutely some of the most valuable and important I have ever heard! A philosophy for both horses and humans that actually takes on and faces the issues instead of abruptly given the ultimatum to accept or have something worse to deal with. Issues are surfacing now because she's trusting in the fact she can talk with you now and you're listening so she's starting to let go of all her baggage because now she can! Over under around or through yes she is understanding she can do this with you! I am soo touched by your desire to take her issues to a deeper level of understanding and you have the patience and care to travel next to her as long as it takes to work it through to a conclusion that is actually the beginning of her healing but also a new way to live. I just found your channel and what an amazing way to begin following along with you! So many many things are swirling in my mind of horses humans including children I could probably talk with you about for hours. I'm drawn to your way of thinking/believing because I've been on your same pathway for years with horses dogs and people. Getting to the place of the most pain and heaviest baggage all to find a way to relief then planting new seeds of comfort and peace to carry on hopefully in a happier life... You're a special unique one Warwick and the world of horses definately needs someone like you in it. Actually the world in general needs more of you in it. I feel very blessed to have found you and your channel and look so forward to watching and learning from all that you offer in the future. Many thanks!

[@WarwickSchiller]

Thank you

[@carolinesalpeck2567]

I really wish I had seen a video like this when I was growing up and learning to ride. I was taught that you impose your will over the horses to get what you wanted and it took me years to realize just how wrong that was. Thank you thank you thank you for making this video :)))))

[@galinasandorova5046]

Thank you for this insight. I absolutely trust my mare and I allow her to express her opinions. Sometimes I accept it, sometimes I just listen to her and say no, let's do it my way. But I am convinced, that it makes a big difference in her attitude, because she knows, that she was heard.

[@rochellegracilla6157]

Thank you so very very much Warwick! You confirmed what my intuition has been niggling me about recently. My mirror is similar to your mustang mirror in that she seems very shut down and refuses to go. My trainers answer is to hit her harder. I have recently gone back to ground work and our relationship and she is beginning to blossom and lick & chew! I'll keep you posted thanks again!

[@Gushara]

I really resonate with what you are doing with the horse/human relationship. I have always felt this way about most animals and rarely change my demeanor towards them ...horses, dogs, cats, goats, donkeys....I sense they feel the love that is being offered to them in acceptance of who they are....always with the goal of knowing more of who they are. I have a beautiful, sweet Arab who I have been using your approach with, much to the consternation of my barn owner who is of German dressage training with obedience as the first goal. I have had him for 6 months and we are just now getting to "know" each other. I get teary eyed when I connect with his gentle spirit yet he has his own personality and is very curious and playful. I watch him try so hard to work with me....I am an older person learning dressage however he was a trail horse that is shining in his schooling in the dressage world. I know this is long winded but there are few that understand that the inner work translates to the outer world with so much goodness in return....these animals I relate with frequently remind me of this. Always in gratitude!

[@Sandra-cm1du]

I live your youtube videos. You are so interesting to listen too. You are an excellent horse trainer, and a kind handler of your equine friends.

[@rtadvocate1010]

awesome technique(s) - people need to listen as well! GREAT video!

[@racheldavis7266]

Literally, everything you say is such powerful words for those hurting.

[@irenecoermann2439]

Keep rambling, Warwick! 😃

[@jeananneblessing2212]

Thanks for sharing Warwick. So good.

[@lkatz212]

This is just like my mare! Very excited to try this tomorrow

[@vibekekirk]

I just love the insight in this video. I think every body must "like" this video so youtube can help spread this important and wonderful message to horse people (and parentes) around the world. Thanks Warwick for sharing your knowledge.

[@robinfriedrich6678]

really nice to see that there IS people that get this...wish they caught on to this at the (US) race tracks...

[@WarwickSchiller]

or ANY race tracks worldwide...

[@lesleyhiddins2067]

Yes we all want to be heard, animals included! I had a number of horses to retrain because, as I see it, things have gone too fast for the horse to understand and learn. Just like people

[@terriedwards1770]

She is sweet horse she needed that and you listened It's being one with your horse being a partner and friend ur right a deeper bond she may teach you a lot 🐴💖

[@suzannerichmond8677]

Thank you!!! I have a 9 year old mare like this. Her biggest issue is getting her back left hoof trimmed. But sometimes it starts with the halter. My farrier has been around horses her whole life and she tells me the mare is being disrespectful, and sometimes she can be. But sometimes I think she is just not ready, or is a bit stiff/sore maybe. I will try matching steps with her. When she joins up, she is super eager to please and connected, and I think she will be an amazing partner, if I can get the relationship right. 💖

[@NNLBC]

thank you so much for making these videos and sharing so much

[@kathybradbury]

I love the sensitivity you bring to your interactions with these animals. As you are talking it’s very endearing to see her nuzzling you, hiding her nose in your back or chest. Very cool. I notice her left front foot turns in slightly? As I deal with some structural issues I realise it can be, or become -painful; perhaps that is contributing to her balkiness?

[@martinwilson3269]

There is a saying if only i knew then what I know now. This is how I feel with this trainers. His wisdom to stay open and work things through is refreshing and amazing.. i learn something from each video and my mare loves the change in me and I am loving the changecin her.

[@jenayaschipper3032]

This puts it into words so perfectly! I’ve been trying to find a different way to help my gelding feel comfortable with being saddled as he does the exact same thing this mare does in the video. Thinking back to previous experiences, this explains a lot of his past behaviours and I really think this is going to help me understand and listen to him better. This was a real “aha!” moment for me, and i’m definitely going to start taking this into consideration when i work with him and my other horses in the future. Thank you so much!

[@sarahposey7166]

Nice looking mare. Sure appreciate your shares

[@charlottebakker3160]

This genuinely helps me so much to open my eyes again. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!

[@piggylover4808]

What a brilliant concept that works! Imagine how this would go on forever and ever with nothing being solved, just a continuous cycle. Wow you're amazing Mr. Schiller with your problem solving!

[@pyrografix]

It’s a matter of respect really. I purchased a tremendously professionally trained, 2x Grand National Champion WP mare a couple of years ago. I am allowing her to be used for a few riding lessons at the barn she is at. She developed a fear of a doorway on the side of the indoor arena and the instructors were just forcing her to go by that door and never letting her have a minute to figure it out for herself whether or not that doorway was really a threat to her. I spent a few weeks just sitting on her with her facing that doorway and checking it out for herself. Once she started getting more confident we moved a little closer to it and parked there for her to see it, making no forceful demands of her and respecting that, for whatever her reasons, the damn doorway spooked her. It took a few weeks of patiently letting HER feel comfortable enough to walk up to and past that doorway confidently without forcing her past it. What a world of difference that made for her! Not only did SHE work out her fears, but she understood I was understanding her fear and willing to work with her to get past it. That couple of weeks improved an already wonderful relationship I had going with her too. She clearly trusts me more for understanding and respecting her fears and not dismissing them and forcing her to do something that she was so uncomfortable about.

[@LadyAkashe]

My first mare OTTB taught me this. The relationship first and then we danced. One of the most incredible relationships I've ever had. You just won my subscription. That girl fired more trainers than I could count. She would have liked you.

[@inconspicuouscharacter7755]

I’m only just starting to gain experience with working with horses and I love how empathetic you are about the horse. Horses are not machines and neither are people. Animals can have empathy too, so we need to show empathy to them too.