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[@mirabeaa]

"Obsessing over a man who offers you the bare minimum is like obsessing over being broke when you could be rich" I needed to hear that

[@galileagallardo4913]

Damn I really need to tattoo this on me or something 😂

[@MissRedWine]

just put a sticky note on your forehead and you'll remember. @@galileagallardo4913

[@Nare1313]

Fr

[@chanellove3482]

🙌🏾

[@shamsattabrizi]

Since being a child I had 'daddy issues' (emotional & physical violence) and I promised myself that no other man would treat me as my father did, I won't accept such trash treatment from no man, I don't care if he's handsome or not. Now I only get to know people that are treating me like a literal princess, nothing matters more than the mindset you hold, trust me besties.

[@madeline7969]

Same here, I was in a loop of receiving breadcrumbs. Not anymore

[@AliceArnaud-zs8sq]

Good for you!!

[@mornigfd]

love ❤️

[@Godsavedmylifeandidontknowwhy]

Im sorry this happened to you, and im glad youre getting thee treatement you deserve, same goes for anyone who relates to u here

[@aliciadewi4789]

Queen

[@belperezzz]

Never underestimate the power of lists... the past year i had something with a classmate from college who didn't want to have anything serious with me but i was so attached. when i had enough suffering i made a list of all the bad things he did to me, and literally when i finished the list, i didn't feel anything for him, it helped so much.

[@monimon-ee3zc]

so tureeee. i had the same experience when i was healing from a rough breakup. listing really helps.

[@pooezja]

because of this video i blocked my narcissist "boyfriend" on everything. i stayed with him only because i loved him and because of the memories but i never realized my worth, how much he was blocking me from improving myself and my life and how badly he actually treated me. im convinced that his good side only existed in my imagination and past. thank you

[@AliceArnaud-zs8sq]

congrats

[@v.l1nnn]

I’m proud of you ❤️

[@Ibeiveieviwblwbiw]

Good job 🫶

[@xoxotullia]

exactly. if you don’t even respect yourself, they will never, ever, respect you themselves. this video came at the perfect time.

[@blk_lies]

This assumption makes the other people in control over you. You not loving yourself makes it impossible to let yourself be loved by others. Also, respect is the wrong term here, respect is conditional.

[@desirpjm]

alessia is absolutely correct, though attachment makes it harder to detach from such toxic relationships or friendships, it's crucial to understand sometimes our brain gets addicted to pain and yes this exists if your standards aren't high enough, you'll always experience attachment and attract trash. instead, raise your standards-if not now, then maybe someday there'll be someone who truly loves you. fall in love with yourself and heal and you'll automatically start attracting healed friendship and love life. if you're wounded, you'll always have wounded connections.

[@eileenazimi]

Thank u so much for this clarity!!

[@evicka88]

Thank you so much!!!!!

[@lovefromjenny]

My first situationship happened this year. He ghosted me once and he came back with “I was busy with work” and I was like “okay cool”. The next thing that happened to me because he came back was I started doubting myself and feeling worthless out of nowhere. I instantly prayed to God to get rid of toxic people in my life. He left. With no explanation at all. And it made sense to me. He ghosted me after I made clear to him that we need boundaries. He left after I said to him he needs to put actions to his words. My friends asked why I wouldn’t contact him again asking for an explanation and I said “I don’t need his explanation. He doesn’t need to say anything else. He proved his point.”

[@avanir-wt7sc]

Damn the "I'm actually doing charity work " got me 😂😂

[@Justjanhavi8]

Me feeling uneasy and Alessia just casually dropping a video to lead me just explains that we are connected 🤞🏻

[@alakanandamv4889]

I was having double thoughts on texting my ex the other day, this video is literally a sign!! I love you

[@marylynn259]

When you let go of what's not meant for you, you open the doors for the best thing to come to you.

[@Antaresisnotreal]

Thank you so much for this, Alessia 😭 I invested so much time and energy into my crush who isnt even sure if he likes me and I've been confused on how to handle that. Even though this isn't exactly a toxic situation for me, I don't see the point in staying the same. If someone isn't sure about you, they simply don't deserve you. I'm glad I made it here before 2024 for a brand new start. I love your content always 💖

[@eileenazimi]

Exactly girl and im proud of u🤍🤍

[@Shrieeeee]

Currently in a similar situation and I was asking for a sign. I feel as if she reads our mind. Alessia knows exactly what her audiance need.

[@VeraPrizmic]

Real

[@jashodharabhose619]

She's like the big sister I have never had. I needed to hear this.

[@ghazalashaheen1678]

i just watched almost the whole video sis and today while journaling i included the point of not allowing people to drain me this year and even from today. Because i have some friends who say they really love me and praise me like a Goddess and call me an angel but after meeting them and talking to them i feel so drained and negative. Thank you for ur video. May god bless you

[@Persephonesmind]

Always trust your intuition, you deserve friends who have a positive and inspiring impact in your life. May god bless you too ♥️

[@NostalgiaStarfish]

As someone who got stuck with a narcissist. Thank you for this video. I never use to disrespect myself, and use to be so strong minded and blunt - then lost myself (been a broken record) since being betrayed by friends. This is where I fell victim to a narcissist who I’m out of their league; mind you. Why? You said it, hurts my ego - self-esteem gone, always thinking I’m the monster after being broken by the friends. Which folded me as people pleaser. 2024 is a new start, the trash needs to be taken out. My goal is to ghost the narcissist and I hope karma whack a moles them. I deserve so much better; and not a loser. Not to mention - I never use to settle for loser behaviour and I need to rid myself of the people pleaser mold that bounds me. I owe nobody anything. Needed this video.

[@_Gontse]

I’m 3 min in & I just- 😭 I never thought I was going to get called out like that

[@shin-fs2fs]

It has been 2 years already and i "moved on" from this one guy that didn't even want me, but lately i've started to miss him again and you posted this. Thank you soooo much❤

[@VeraPrizmic]

Realll

[@MNiharika-v8r]

''"The same lesson just with different faces''"

[@heavenlycreatures3697]

Thankyou So Much Alessia this video was much needed. Just because I have no friends as of now I became desperate and started to reach out to my toxic friends. But now I'll not repeat it at any cost. I'll see your this video whenever I catch myself doing this thing again ❤❤❤

[@Persephonesmind]

You‘ll start to attract the friends who are meant for you. There was a time where I cut off anyone and was completely alone too. All of the sudden I got to know people by „coincidence“ who felt like as if they are part of my soul family. Some people enter your life as a lesson, others are a blessing. And sometimes you need to learn the lesson in order to attract the blessing. ♥️

[@alexaistrying]

I wish you dropped this when i was going through it last year with this guy who dropped me the first so there wouldn't have been a 2nd time of me finding him and begging him to take me back as a friend 💀 better late then never. Happy new year, queen!! 💙

[@Feastingthroughlife]

Omg i did same and now I'm regretting like anything 😭😭😭😭although there are times I miss him

[@coqey]

“He wasn’t even a tall man. He was a very short man. Shorter than me.” 😭

[@dearxdiary]

Alessia you're becoming more and more beautiful with each passing day. 🥺🤍

[@Persephonesmind]

Thank you so much dear 🥹🤍

[@jashankaur13]

I just saw her on Pinterest and searched and then boom here I'm watching the first video which feels like she knows my whole life :,)

[@herlandforlove]

Me watching this while crying in period pain...just some 💫 little gifts 💫 of god for being a woman...Anyways thank you Alessia for always being there for me as always and reminding me how precious I am even in the worst days. Love you so much ♡

[@aleezabukhari2]

I have said this exactly to him! I'm feeling really good now! Allhumdulilah Thank you for making this video❤

[@Holdyourhandwhiledancing]

Manifest a healthy relationship, not the guy you’re sitting to manifest. If he was the one, would you really be sitting down praying to have him?

[@arfaasif1842]

Posted right on time before new year. I'm so glad I found your channel this year Queen!!😍

[@Farah1ab]

This girl's message is GOLD 🎉🎉🎉🎉. Thank you!

[@fangirlinneverland6335]

You posting so frequently genuinely makes me so happy beyong any words😭love you so much,you made my year and life better,thank you💖

[@muskaanbedi8406]

Yesterday I called a friend who keeps me blocked coz his girlfriend is insecure about me! He was a friend who was there when I was suicidal and completely submerged into depression, Even tho he started ghosting me and blocking me, I still couldn't stop myself from calling him like once or twice in a year, so that I can know what he's doing in life now, i didn't had any ulterior motive so yesterday his gf fought with me, it was a very ugly fight, i realised I was wrong to accept that he would be caring still.. I apologized to her and told her I will never call him again Now I don't know how KZbin suggested most needed video

[@adeenajan.]

It felt like a personal attack This video popped up like a slap💀

[@iLoveLucy28]

Why are we socialized to always strive after a relationship? I'm better off alone, miss me with that drama. Women live less in a marriage for a reason, while men live longer. Read that again

[@klarabrezovska9542]

Thank you so much Alessia! I’m trying to heal from my ex boyfriend and this video helped me realise that i should let him go and don’t give him space to come back into my life❤️. I’m learning so much from you already and I love you!!

[@Persephonesmind]

I love you too 🙏🏼 I’m sending you strength and love 🤍

[@nexithedestroyer]

People who obesses over manifesting men who don't even like them will always confuse me. Manifest a man who respects you

[@AnkitaSingh-kw5of]

Not her positing this vid and me seeing it right after and I say right after when I send my crush who is not toxic but doesn't care about me a follow request and yes I removes my following request after watching this thankyou so much I cant believe I would do such a thing to myself love u also ur very beautiful --

[@AnkitaSingh-kw5of]

Also he was ugly , depressed and I do thing I was doing charity work

[@daphneophelia3618]

She literally describes my toxic man. God bless you I needed to hear this. You are an angel

[@galileagallardo4913]

“The same lesson just with different faces” that one hit home because all my relationships were the same

[@missdior999]

this is exactly what i needed to hear post my breakup few months ago and even though i have 97 percent healed from it im still so so grateful for your channel and this video and how much impact you potentially have and will continue to make on those going through healing , thank u so much love ❤

[@VictoriaHunder]

This is all trauma bonding and the way people have normalized getting only the bare minimum these days and loving man that are broke and dusty. Thank you for healing generations of women ❤❤

[@AlizaKhan-zf7df]

"He wasn't even tall" IM WHEEZINGGG💀💀💀💀

[@Dolce-Vita1111]

I wrote the list of every bad things he said and did. It works. He is miserable and misery wants company. No way! See you never, bye! 🚫 Thank you 🌟 2024: the year to learn self respect and self love🍀

[@ЗнамениядляразмышляющиХ]

You look so good, MashaaAllah! ♥️

[@AyakGarang-g4s]

Alessia I love you so much 😭you actually inspire me and you made me start chasing my dreams thank you so much ❤

[@gooddaysinmymind]

2:39 OMG I FEEL SO ATTACKED CUZ THATS HIM 😭😭 I just ended my 6 months relationship 1 week ago, respectfuly, finally realizing i’m not getting what i want anymore. And now i understand why i still couldn’t let go of him no matter what, even though i knew so well that i’ve made the right decision. Right, it’s my ego. And I relate every word you say. Thank you so much for your timing this video literally gave me a new vision ❤

[@suriyanandhinim8147]

" You can't mold a bare minimum guy into a provider." This one sentence is so powerful and I wish more people who really need this see this. You're a Queen really ❤✨

[@bettina5755]

„You really have to hate yourself to do this“ ALESSIA HAHAHA SO TRUEEEEEE 🤣😭😭 ich lieb dich so

[@AdnaKapic-o3i]

Im so impressed. Every single time I need an answer it's like God sent you. I always get an answer of you. Thank you Alessia, for answering all of my questions and helping me go through all of this

[@DanielaRosenrot]

Reinacting trauma because it is stuck in the nervous system and subconscious mind. When traumatized women are not aware of that trauma they will always let such toxic men disrespect them because she is in survival mode and is desperate for his approval. she created this fantasy in her head of the perfect relationship with him just like she daydreamed in her childhood to escape reality when her mother was an alcoholic and emotionally explosive and dad became more and more unavailable. Ending that trauma bond cycle begins with realizing and accepting that you have been neglected, shamed, punished, made feel stupid, traumatized as a child and that you now want to inform yourself on healing techniques (with books for example : "How to Be the Love You Seek", "The body keeps the score") or therapy.

[@nadiaouni529]

Why no one is talking about how family is so toxic and how can we deal with them and we always make sure to go back to them Sis it's not always about a guy it's my shity family

[@daisylilies2483]

Listen there’s a guy that he’s been chasing me for a while and rejected him for the same reason lol he wants to get to know me but prefers to go for a walk on first dates then if get along he’ll plan something on second date I get his way but for my high maintenance I don’t go on a first date just for a walk plus its -5 during the evening lol it’s giving cheap no thank you 😊

[@ifrosesarefalse]

It's annoying to know, that there's people who are fantasizing that they can turn red flags into green, c'mon stop being delulu

[@angelinabeniwal148]

I fell in love with you for the 100th time today! ❤ You are so articulate and say genuine facts that a person actually needs to hear. You are helping so many women out there, I hope u have a wonderful year ahead!! ❤

[@thatgirlirl]

Alessia, Thank you, I love that how respectful and Direct you are, literally you are so respectful and not also sugarcoating anything. You are Litrally Doing your Profession sooo Beautifully, i just wish that one day I will also find something I love. You are my mentor

[@laffla_]

Omg, I wanna say the really big "THANK YOU" cause you just opened my eyes. I'm not gonna cry and suffer anymore because of the guy who treated me like a shit. I was even laughing during that video cause I realized how stupid I was. It's time to move on and leave him in my past. I deserve the best. Thank you so much, wish you all the best, ilu ❤

[@YAERLN555]

Exactly what I needed to hear before entering 2024 ,thak you Alessia I love you 🤍

[@Katyaboginya]

Thank you so much for opening my eyes. I am an extremely people pleaser that everyday is struggling because of receiving toxic behaviour from other people. I’ve been watching a lot of videos but you literally saved me. May god bless you 💕💕💕💕

[@oazanmedicinskihinformacija]

At this point in time, we all have to make friend with loneliness. Many people do such a foolishness because they (think that they) don't have any other options. But I done this differently,. I gave many attention to people that spitted on me, because I thought they were sick, and I also thought that love is needed for the sick ones, not for healthy ones.

[@Qwertyuiop-xz3kj]

How to deal with friends who never listen to your advice? Like if they keep running back to that sadistic narcissistic guy that hurts her. Its so frustrating and it drags me down too.

[@RebeccaVernencee]

The fact that im seeing this video after i just got left on delivered by a guy who wanted me first😭😭😭

[@kanji8671]

I knew a girl exactly the same. In their relationship they fought like crazy. The boy was in other relationships. The girl knew that! Her logic was "he's doing this to punish me for my mistakes ". She even tried to attempt suicide for that guy!!!!!! Even swear at her parents!!! It's not that the guy treated her like a queen or princess. She told me " I cooked a dessert for him that took hours to made, but he didn't come to meet me and didn't taste that dessert ". Seriously! Even that guy posted stories hugging a girl intimately and the girl didn't believe he cheated on her! She explained he was punishing her. He still loves her!!!

[@sunnyshin6298]

I was thinking all night about the guy who lied to and ghosted me then I see this when I wake up..this is a truly a sign!!

[@bookishtugi6461]

The moment someone disrespects me, I`ll ghost them.

[@ppurii]

this is literally me with all my friends and female cousins. I'm at my limit too. I used to belive "why are these woman on youtube teaching how a man should treat you?" it was so obvious to me, but when i start to watch my cousins and friend's tiktoks and began to have deep conversations with them...what it's happening to women these days?

[@AlexisBelon]

Same! I didn’t see the use for it until seeing some of my friends! Btw idk if you’re into nyc vlogs but if so, you might like mine! I’d be sooo grateful if you swung by and took a peek. 🙏 Stick around if you like!

[@deluludiyaaa]

As someone who grew up as a middle child, it's really hard for me to not look for external validation while having middle child syndrome, i also grew up with family issues and daddy issues in particular my dad never liked me he hated me because they didn't even wanted another girl child. As a child I used to blame myself. I used to convince my dad that I'm not that bad by trying to gain his attention by doing everything i could I did each and every thing to gain his attention. Scoring good marks, giving him everything he needs , providing him with everything but he still blamed me for that and even today even when I have improved a lot mentally. I have evolved a lot mentally and emotionally and I'm proud of myself but as if today when he's not in my life I try to get PPL attention even when I know that my own validation is the main source but I still feel the need of some approval any advice by anyone would help thankyou for reading

[@sickofthesun194]

wake up everyone queen posted

[@lizgarcia6741]

I NEEDED this video right now and right here. THANK YOU.

[@shrushtipatil06]

Thank you so much I love you . Also the way you said delulu every single time was so cuteee 😅🤗

[@Persephonesmind]

I love you too ♥️

[@DEVKUMAR-mn1dv]

Omg. I love your videos. I actually can't live without your videos ahhhhh may god bless you my dear

[@Persephonesmind]

Thank you my angel, may god bless you too 🤍🤍🤍

[@rrusheberisha7915]

I think lot of woman can’t let go the time were everything was good

[@minxtica845]

i agree. we actually don't miss the person, we miss the memories and want to recreate them just to feel the same feeling..

[@JUVERIYAKHAN-]

Why the actual hell no one posted timelapse???ok let me👉👈 -why do u want someone who doesn't want u? -its time to heal that wound instead of opening it again and again -theres a diff between being delusional & being so naive that u allow someone to constantly disrespect u -stop being obsessed with being treated like an option - !f they would be scared of losing u,they would nvr treat u like that -stop trying to mold someone into something they'll nvr be - if they truly want u, u'll know it.if they don't, u'll be confused - what belongs to you will find you.anything else will not work out no matter how much u force it -sometimes not getting what u want can be the biggest blessing in disguise - seek honest advice from healthy frnds don't listen to ppl who romanticize toxic behaviour - its better to be alone than to be in the company of toxic ppl -make a list of what they did to you.... Thnkewww

[@evicka88]

I'm manifesting a partner, no less I'm having fun with one "friend" now, who has a lifestyle that I don't support, but he's rich... sometimes we kiss and sometimes I feel a little stupid because of what he sometimes says. I'm blocking the door from blessing with this, aren't I? Please, tell me true :D

[@cecilyerker]

If he doesn’t treat you with respect now he never will

[@evicka88]

@@cecilyerker you are right

[@muskaanbedi8406]

Yesterday I called a friend who keeps me blocked coz his girlfriend is insecure about me! He was a friend who was there when I was suicidal and completely submerged into depression, Even tho he started ghosting me and blocking me, I still couldn't stop myself from calling him like once or twice in a year, so that I can know what he's doing in life now, i didn't had any ulterior motive so yesterday his gf fought with me, it was a very ugly fight, i realised I was wrong to accept that he would be caring still.. I apologized to her and told her I will never call him again Now I don't know how KZbin suggested most needed video

[@muskaanbedi8406]

Yesterday I called a friend who keeps me blocked coz his girlfriend is insecure about me! He was a friend who was there when I was suicidal and completely submerged into depression, Even tho he started ghosting me and blocking me, I still couldn't stop myself from calling him like once or twice in a year, so that I can know what he's doing in life now, i didn't had any ulterior motive so yesterday his gf fought with me, it was a very ugly fight, i realised I was wrong to accept that he would be caring still.. I apologized to her and told her I will never call him again Now I don't know how KZbin suggested most needed video

[@muskaanbedi8406]

Yesterday I called a friend who keeps me blocked coz his girlfriend is insecure about me! He was a friend who was there when I was suicidal and completely submerged into depression, Even tho he started ghosting me and blocking me, I still couldn't stop myself from calling him like once or twice in a year, so that I can know what he's doing in life now, i didn't had any ulterior motive so yesterday his gf fought with me, it was a very ugly fight, i realised I was wrong to accept that he would be caring still.. I apologized to her and told her I will never call him again Now I don't know how KZbin suggested most needed video

[@muskaanbedi8406]

Yesterday I called a friend who keeps me blocked coz his girlfriend is insecure about me! He was a friend who was there when I was suicidal and completely submerged into depression, Even tho he started ghosting me and blocking me, I still couldn't stop myself from calling him like once or twice in a year, so that I can know what he's doing in life now, i didn't had any ulterior motive so yesterday his gf fought with me, it was a very ugly fight, i realised I was wrong to accept that he would be caring still.. I apologized to her and told her I will never call him again Now I don't know how KZbin suggested most needed video

[@ardorstar]

i luv the way of her talking shes so damn right, i realised the things she’s talking abt so late, if some1 is gonna say my comment, if ur in unhealthy relationship pls leave, bcs in the end u will leave anyway and if u were too late u will get more and more damage

[@v_lovchan]

A few years ago I had a relationship with that one guy and I would send him long texts about how I miss him. He always left me on read. I started watching Alessia's videos & some other KZbinrs. When I realized that he would never want me I just ended our relationship (when I texted him that day, he tried to stop me, but I knew that he always does it like this. I know it might hurt to end a relationship, but if he makes you unhappy, ghosts you, or does something that you don't like please end the relationship cuz if it doesn't hurt you now it will definitely hurt you in the future. Thanks, Alessia, I learned so much from you

[@YasmineKim-yo9rm]

Stay away from people who don't interest you What does it indicate?Is introversion a problem?

[@Luphifree]

Abusive parents relative very trashy

[@glamzz4480]

Trauma bonds really ruin lives.

[@ronaldnock9666]

Very beautiful!

[@Imtoobusyslayingrn111]

Alessia I just want to say this, the moment my toxic ex-boyfriend broke up with me, I saw your 'stop glorifying the bare minimum' video. And I kid you not, that video CHANGED my life PERMANENTLY. Like- I did not expect a year after our break up I would come to love myself, cut off negative leeches THAT easily, heal my anxieties, and literally be super duper blessed and closer to God. Tysm omg I can't thank you enough for starting a yt channel.. you may not know me personally but the impact you and the other youtubers I watch have on my life will forever be remembered. ❤ TYSMM ILYSM 😚❤

[@melissastapane3229]

you are not only intelligent, but also so beautiful and pretty !

[@Eva-bcc]

Last year he started ghosting me everytime we fought until this year he told me he regrets that he’s with me and i will not respect me the thing is i’m so attached to him that im afraid when he comes back (he always does ) I will forgive him ( Like always) Help me giiiirls

[@isv3ellv]

8:56 how the bells in the background assure that you are spitting facts

[@WistarWisdom]

Thank you for this video Alessia 💜

[@Jihandahmen04]

my parents are the most toxic people i ever seen

[@gh0st_scar]

You’re such an inspiration/blessing thank you so much love!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@free_mind_writes]

What is the one book you need in your 20s as a girl...please recommend...

[@user-mj6qr2ky9d]

Where to find a good man these days? I don't get to know any high quality man even though I am high quality

[@Carina-ng7fz]

Many peoples need to see that video

[@kaya.star1]

They're soo many lost girls who endure so much pain and when they listen to you i feel they can be guided well❤

[@Wr-3985]

I love seeing you getting more and more comfortable in front of the camera. Your videos are very strong and powerful, but also as if a good friend is giving you advice. Also, your hair looks super healthy and beautiful. Maybe you can give us some advice about that one day. Much love

[@not.fatimalol]

YOU ARE A BLESSING 🙌 🙏

[@MyeshaFatima505]

I'm so proud of myself i am finally standing up for myself I'm making progress I'm taking care of myself and am really really happy...i want to thank you as well I've learned so many things through your channel love you

[@katyarivera1475]

watching this video without having had a boyfriend in my entire life 😶

[@jujubampa]

Thank you again. THANK YOU!!

[@danielthedude]

I appreciate the reminder. Thank you, genuinely.

[@andregustavolr2k22]

The last line was everything i needed to hear. I still was feeling like the power wasn't mine because i couldn't stop thinking about that situation i put an end to

[@Candydice26]

Mother I’m listening to you ✌️😔