Stop Worrying - Why Worrying is Pointless

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Shadé Zahrai

Shadé Zahrai

Күн бұрын

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We have a tendency to worry a lot about things we have no control over. Focussing on things outside of your control can easily make you feel overwhelmed, especially if you have a tendency to become consumed in thoughts about all the things that COULD GO WRONG, all the things that AREN’T RIGHT in your life and how powerless you feel…
It’s not helpful, and only leads to feeling worse. In short, worrying is pointless.
In fact, a 2005 study found that 85% of what we worry about, never happens!
So instead, make a conscious decision to stick with what’s within your control. Make choices. Be grateful for what you have. Seek support if you need it. And take considered action.
In the comments, let me know what you thought of this video! If you liked it, please hit the thumbs up button and subscribe to support my channel - it means a lot to me!
REFERENCES
The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You by Robert L. Leahy PhD
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@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
In the comments, let me know what you thought of this video! If you liked it, please hit the thumbs up button and subscribe to support my channel - it means a lot to me! (Thank you all for your amazing support 🙏🏽 It really encourages my husband and me to keep creating these videos! )
@juliorosario9868
@juliorosario9868 4 жыл бұрын
You welcome
@surajagasti2309
@surajagasti2309 4 жыл бұрын
its like simple to say, but how can you describe me losing my job now...? how can someone not worry?
@surajagasti2309
@surajagasti2309 4 жыл бұрын
btw i Luv u and ur videos...i have been leaving comments here if ever you have noticed.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
@@surajagasti2309 This is an important question especially during this difficult and disruptive. Perhaps a more useful question to ask is: How does worrying help? Worry can result in anxiety and even fear. These emotions are natural but if we don't silence our thoughts the worry will take over us, weaken us and rob us from our ability to think creatively and to problem solve. There is enormous power in letting go and just accepting our current circumstances. This allows us to quieten the mind which can be like a monkey chattering away, and calm our nerves. Then you can start feeling stronger and thinking with clarity. For me the power of prayer and meditation really helps, followed by taking constructive action. Sending you my very best wishes during this difficult time. 🙏🏽
@surajagasti2309
@surajagasti2309 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai yes...
@charleemac94
@charleemac94 Жыл бұрын
Really what I needed today , thankyou 85% of what we worry about never happens !! This is gold
@kanizfatima3447
@kanizfatima3447 10 ай бұрын
And the 15 percent that does only makes us stronger and better ❤
@apple_fish
@apple_fish Жыл бұрын
I'm recording my piano playing exam today and it made me so tense and worried for a full month that I wasn't even able to play as well as I always used to. My hands literally felt rock solid and robotic every time I played and even THOUGHT about it Even in practice recordings I would get so stressed I could barely press any notes. So, to get myself to stop worrying I came to this video. I would really really appreciate if you guys wished me luck or prayed for me, it would rlly help 🙏🙏 God bless ❤❤❤
@veeraldogra5684
@veeraldogra5684 4 жыл бұрын
I misread the thumbnail as "why working is pointless" and i was like, finally someone made a video on it.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 that made my day!
@veeraldogra5684
@veeraldogra5684 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai :), regardless, i still saw and loved the video. Thank you for posting it.
@MrBrelindm
@MrBrelindm 4 жыл бұрын
From a public health perspective that headline is indeed apropos for certain economic sectors at the present time! I do gig work in IT so occasionally I have the "opportunity" to go be "essential" and that's nerve wracking because IT customers cover a wide range of economic sectors and their associated risks. And I am immunocompromised. I'm relatively as healthy as can be living with HIV and COPD. To be sure it's not the virus that scares me. It's the behaviors of others that has and always will be out of my control! I survived ARDS with several serious complications back in the early part of 2004 already. Been there, done that before. Don't have any wish to do it again please and thank you.
@patriciamalemikia2743
@patriciamalemikia2743 2 жыл бұрын
😂
@jan26597
@jan26597 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@Sentient-potato
@Sentient-potato 10 ай бұрын
Just reminds me of that horrible birthday party I didn’t want to go to when I was 11. It was just as bad, if not worse then how I imagined
@Travelogues_Arunava
@Travelogues_Arunava 4 жыл бұрын
The best part of your messages are that it seems coming out of our own deep thoughts but voiced by you. Thanks.
@aditya87913
@aditya87913 4 жыл бұрын
Thank You I needed this at this moment !!
@richkirschenbaum6957
@richkirschenbaum6957 Жыл бұрын
Such Great Advice. Thank You Soooooooo Very Much ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️
@MrBrelindm
@MrBrelindm 4 жыл бұрын
On the illusion of control (of our circumstance) we find the only real control is in how we choose to react to whatever circumstance brings our way.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
If there were ever one core message to living a better life then this would be it. Thank you David! 🙏🏽
@deuronius
@deuronius 4 жыл бұрын
I worried about an interview today but it was pointless as everything went amazingly...so I can confirm you are 100% right.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on an amazing interview 🙌🏽 And yes, letting go of worry and taking action is a better way to live. 👍🏽
@shreehari2589
@shreehari2589 3 жыл бұрын
Hey shade thank you for this, your videos are like elixirs keep them coming
@andamankhan5959
@andamankhan5959 4 жыл бұрын
Make more of such videos based on real human tendencies... These short videos r the best as thr msg is rcvd well and quickly.. Ur video abt procrastination had a live chngng moment on me... And lastly u r very beautiful(dnt wnt 2 sound creepy bt this is so true)
@ABhiSHEKTiwariz6qd
@ABhiSHEKTiwariz6qd 3 жыл бұрын
Lots of love for you (shade) from india.❤️ keep motivating and inspiring us.
@ashodd1642
@ashodd1642 4 жыл бұрын
Hhmm maybe you are right as now I recall some recent events the things I was worrying about didn't happened!
@bol8lod
@bol8lod 4 жыл бұрын
Your voice is hypnotizing. Gives the content much more value.
@deviousdevil5556
@deviousdevil5556 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Zahari, there's a lot of negativity outside. This video is much needed.🙂
@sunnydhillon856
@sunnydhillon856 4 жыл бұрын
I found your channel through a random recommended story and the topics you cover are really helpful and has made me try to become a better person or atleast got me on the right track. Thank you miss ❤️
@odwamthethwa5026
@odwamthethwa5026 4 жыл бұрын
This channel is my best discovery of 2020. Great work Shadé.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Odwa! 🙏🏽 Glad you enjoy it.
@arjuns9528
@arjuns9528 4 жыл бұрын
I don't know I am worrying about things that happened in the past and I keep on repeating those things, reoccurring thoughts of my past is killing me
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
If this pattern of thinking isn't serving you and causing you to be come a prisoner to self then make it your intention to change it. The fact that you are aware of this is good. Because you can catch those thoughts and make a choice not to allow the random chatter to take over. Find a daily practice that will gradually re-focus you thoughts to the present, to making others happy and to being of service to humanity. Sending you best wishes 🙏🏽
@arjuns9528
@arjuns9528 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai can we have one on one therapy session will do a good one for me and also I really appreciate for your response
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Arjun, I'm not a therapist but well done for seeking help. Most people don't. I highly encourage that you find a qualified therapist in your area. You might get a lot of value from it.
@arjuns9528
@arjuns9528 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai the problem is I am from India and I am not interested with the therapist here since they all have prejudiced idealogy , I think some one from other culture would be beneficial to cure me
@tetebokula3693
@tetebokula3693 2 жыл бұрын
THANK YoU
@phani5137
@phani5137 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for these Power full words from you about handling negative things. The impact you created will reach the people in a meaningful way and each and every word you said is absolutely necessary to the people those who are thinking lika a pessimist. Hare at this point i would like emphasize one thing that "Words have the power to make and break the change in a person". Thank you very much mam keep going never give up . Have a great future.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
So true Phani. It's what we consistently say to ourselves that ultimately directs our lives and how we experience them. Thank you for the kind words of encouragement. Sending my best wishes 🙏🏽
@phani5137
@phani5137 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai Tq very much for your reply Is there any chance for us to view you in KZbin Live.
@viswanathangowrishankar3187
@viswanathangowrishankar3187 4 жыл бұрын
Circle of control is smaller than the circle of concern
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
That's right!
@sarithamuddamalle7774
@sarithamuddamalle7774 Жыл бұрын
Yes ❤
@elianamoreira4075
@elianamoreira4075 2 жыл бұрын
Suas aulas são otimas
@mdzohaib7368
@mdzohaib7368 4 жыл бұрын
Wow.. 👏👏👏
@praveenbhardwaj617
@praveenbhardwaj617 4 жыл бұрын
Case of 2005 study failure---if a lady is going to become mom in next coming months, how can she stop worrying about her baby and her own health.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
It is natural for humans to worry because it is a survival instinct. However, continual worry is bad for the health and can also harm the baby in a mother's womb. It is more constructive for a mother to focus on educating herself on how to best care for her child. I hope that this clarifies things for you.
@praveenbhardwaj617
@praveenbhardwaj617 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai See, may be you are right by going through studies, but don't you think so, on earth, these theories are misfit and are not universal. Every iota of seconds, life takes turns, and all proven concepts fail or amends. With due respect.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Praveen. For me “Religion without science is superstition. Science without religion is materialism.” Therefore, I like to refer to both spirituality and science as a guide for life.
@anuragshrivastava18
@anuragshrivastava18 4 жыл бұрын
Spot on loved it!
@leistaslaysta
@leistaslaysta Жыл бұрын
Turn to God. That’s the answer!
@toothpickunderurtoenails5782
@toothpickunderurtoenails5782 Жыл бұрын
For the 15%... it's because we've already thought about the situation before it happened thoroughly.
@johnadams2053
@johnadams2053 4 жыл бұрын
First comment Hoping you all the best
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
👍🏽🙏🏽 Sending my best wishes too.
@abdulrazzak3976
@abdulrazzak3976 4 жыл бұрын
Thank You So Much For An Amazing Video... I desperately need this type of motivation from you at this moment bcoz I am suffering with some hard time in my life... God Bless You Shade Zahrai...! 👍👍👍
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Sending you my best wishes for your resilience and success during this difficult. Remember, we are never tested beyond our capacity. God bless you too Abdul 🙏🏽
@abdulrazzak3976
@abdulrazzak3976 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai Thank You So Much for Your Good Wishes... 👍
@tripitaka4704
@tripitaka4704 4 жыл бұрын
Awesome 👍
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks 🤗
@luckychauhan2267
@luckychauhan2267 4 жыл бұрын
thank you soo much... u always motivate me.. 💕😇
@sayanlaha2784
@sayanlaha2784 Жыл бұрын
One day, I will become psychologist and youtuber like you
@ruchitjain4
@ruchitjain4 4 жыл бұрын
Please make a video on how to sleep easily.
@Mr.Mehtab
@Mr.Mehtab 4 жыл бұрын
You awesome
@codecentrix
@codecentrix 4 жыл бұрын
I am huge fan of you
@zaeemahmedabbasi
@zaeemahmedabbasi 2 жыл бұрын
👍
@Onmysheet
@Onmysheet 3 жыл бұрын
In the thumbnail she looks lkke Valentina Nappi
@mujimax007
@mujimax007 4 жыл бұрын
Nice saying. But what shall we do when we see our business is going towards bankruptcy?
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
This is a question that many business leaders are facing in today's highly disrupted world. At times like this many leaders try to make things appear less drastic, perhaps to avoid employees and other stakeholders from panicking or perhaps they don't want to accept the possibility of bankruptcy. During such a crisis it is important to be transparent with employees, highly pragmatic and fast acting. Reduce costs where possible, contact creditor, banks etc. and explain the challenges upfront and open a dialogue to discuss creative solutions. Gather support from employees who may be willing to support by taking voluntary unpaid leave or reduced work hours. Strategize possible scenarios and contingencies. And even reach out to experienced mentors and advisors. The least productive thing to do is to worry because it robs us of our ability to be rational and creative. I hope that this helps 🙏🏽
@mujimax007
@mujimax007 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai Yes. Quite helpful. Thank you!
@extraamongordinary7586
@extraamongordinary7586 4 жыл бұрын
Like it
@harikrishnanr9835
@harikrishnanr9835 4 жыл бұрын
😀👌
@SafiullahWasiullah
@SafiullahWasiullah 4 жыл бұрын
You are doing great work. Regards #SafiullahWasiullah
@Belief_Before_Glory
@Belief_Before_Glory Жыл бұрын
"I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened." -Mark Twain
@selfhelpchampion9664
@selfhelpchampion9664 4 жыл бұрын
"When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.” - Winston Churchill. Thanks Shade🙏❤️selfhelpchampion
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
That about sums it up! Thank you for sharing that quote. There's so much we can learn from the experience of our elders.
@EzekJohnson
@EzekJohnson 4 жыл бұрын
God bless you, Shadé. Well timed message. I’m blessed. You’re a real blessing.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Ezekiel. I'm glad the right message reached you at the right time 😊 God bless.
@sunilphangcho2595
@sunilphangcho2595 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai hey.. sister. this is very excellent topic. I really love it. I used to have that kind of thought. but today I got a lesson from you. Thank you so much sister. May God bless you and have a blessed day and enjoy your day. Take care. Greeting from br John phangcho MC. God bless you.
@ktr9761
@ktr9761 3 жыл бұрын
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@ktr9761
@ktr9761 3 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai Dear dear greetings, I wish you lasting success and happiness in this world and the hereafter and that all wishes come true for you.🌹🌹🌺🌺🌷🌷💐💐
@angham3829
@angham3829 2 жыл бұрын
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
@pratikskamble
@pratikskamble 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks ma'am actually i am living my life as a failure... I have totally destroyed my teen age life And i always feel bad about it! I am 20yr old and i have failed in an extrance exam again. My life has literally ended. And i am totally responsible fr it. I always wish if i could get , like a time machine or something so i could improve myself from the past. But its not possible... I dont want to give up... Its my dream to start a business. I dont want to regret when i am old, that i couldn't do anything in my life !!! i am going through some suicidal thought, once even planned to end up! But dont even have guts forit. All my old friends are successful in what they where doing... I've been giving an entrance exams, for some higher education. But after failing in it i came up with an idea of a startup. And i think it will be okay .... i will study hard again for that entrance exam , will clear it and i will start my own startup. Its ok i still have my 20s left with me, cant waste it.... I dont have any friends to talk with. So i decided to share what i feel overhere. I know you are busy and wont read this but still..... My parents and sisters are my strength... I will make them proud one day. ❤️
@Mariana-kk5xf
@Mariana-kk5xf 4 жыл бұрын
Don't give up, you're young! Everyone has a different timing. God has a plan. Good luck!!!
@pratikskamble
@pratikskamble 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mariana-kk5xf thanks ma'am. It means alot to me ❤️
@bratwurstmitbiryani
@bratwurstmitbiryani 4 жыл бұрын
Go start your company. Passing the entrance exam isn't gonna help you anyways. Do what you wanna do.
@demodemo5146
@demodemo5146 4 жыл бұрын
I've felt like that a lot of times and every time I've overcome it I'm better for it. Hang in there, when you look back at this time, you'll thank God for the lessons you've learned from it.
@pratikskamble
@pratikskamble 4 жыл бұрын
@@demodemo5146 yes sir. I feel confident but then i easily get demotivated. I know its just a bad phase of my life. But i must say i have learnt alot from this failure at the age of just 20... And thankyou somuch for reading my text! It means alot to me 💚
@ryan2130
@ryan2130 Жыл бұрын
Worrying (thinking about fears) is a joke and it's all because of what the Bible says. The Bible says don't worry about anything, pray about everything instead. It says only think of the things in Heaven and not the things on earth. It says to be spiritually minded is peace. You don't have to think about fears. The Bible says so. Worrying about things on earth is a joke. As long as you keep your mind concentrated on spiritual things you'll be peaceful. You don't need to think about things that scare you.
@Rose80388
@Rose80388 4 ай бұрын
Oh good now I can worry about that 15%
@KimVillarubia-d8q
@KimVillarubia-d8q 11 ай бұрын
I was wort cuz I delete roblox
@luv2cook5
@luv2cook5 Жыл бұрын
how do I know what's in my control 🤔
@MotivationToMovegoal
@MotivationToMovegoal 4 жыл бұрын
Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession.
@adityabhatt5506
@adityabhatt5506 4 жыл бұрын
Am I the only one who read the title as "Why working is pointless"😀😀😀
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
😂 Someone else commented the same thing! So I'm sure many others initially read it as you did.
@lancelot5125
@lancelot5125 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the advice.👍👍
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome 😊
@MotivationToMovegoal
@MotivationToMovegoal 4 жыл бұрын
Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little".
@charcoalelement6276
@charcoalelement6276 Жыл бұрын
Yep. Action is the Solution. Taking Action is the #1. real solution to stop worry. No time to worry if your busy taking action steps to fix the issue you were worrying about. Some things are completely not in our control and we can only accept that fact and move forward.
@ShreerangUgemuge
@ShreerangUgemuge 4 жыл бұрын
👌👌👌
@apple_fish
@apple_fish Жыл бұрын
I'm recording my piano playing exam today and it made me so tense and worried for a full month that I wasn't even able to play as well as I always used to. My hands literally felt rock solid and robotic every time I played and even THOUGHT about it Even in practice recordings I would get so stressed I could barely press any notes. So, to get myself to stop worrying I came to this video. I would really really appreciate if you guys wished me luck or prayed for me, it would rlly help 🙏🙏 God bless ❤❤❤
@Son_of_aesthetics
@Son_of_aesthetics 4 жыл бұрын
If you are able to solve the problem,then why do you worry? If you are not able to do anything about it,then why do you worry?!🤔
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Yes, would it help you to worry? 👍🏽
@dreamingangel1317
@dreamingangel1317 2 жыл бұрын
I lost my English copy.... my exam is after 5 days... I can't Stop worrying
@ashrafhassan6610
@ashrafhassan6610 3 жыл бұрын
كلام ممتاز . شكرا
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome! My husband lived in the UAE for a few years so he translated this for me.
@laseel5200
@laseel5200 Жыл бұрын
Hi...Shade...🏵🌼🌻🕊🎈💃💃 Hw r uuu?🌼🌼🎉🌪 Have a great day.. Which food u like to eat more? Well I like Veg biriyani...🏵😊🎉🌺💃 🏵🌼🌻🐝🌙🕊🎈🎉🏵🌼🌻🕊🍡
@boingaon
@boingaon Ай бұрын
Does this work for thoughts derived from continuous physical pain ?
@nermeannasrsaber3754
@nermeannasrsaber3754 4 жыл бұрын
actually the video doesn't include alot of words but influent me positive you have berfict manner
@mariaaviles7773
@mariaaviles7773 Жыл бұрын
I just heard your video. What you are saying depends on the context of the situation. It is better to be realistic and depending on the situation, not to have too much or too low expectations, just to work honestly to manage the challenge.
@farazkhan2279
@farazkhan2279 4 жыл бұрын
It's easy to say so.. May be your life is wonderful.Not everybody's is.... . You are blessed with good looks and luck.. May be you dint face any hardships... Life is like a movie.. It's a part and parcel of life.the word . Worry... We have to overcome it...
@speedoflight3395
@speedoflight3395 3 ай бұрын
I need answers please. What about problems that you've created in your life but you subconsciously created these problems. Would your life in anyway improve if you can manage to stop worrying?
@golamkibria3966
@golamkibria3966 4 жыл бұрын
Tomorrow I have exam and I found out I haven't studied yet . You are right worrying is pointless
@srijandwivedi2541
@srijandwivedi2541 Жыл бұрын
lol did you passed the test?
@ume2465
@ume2465 2 жыл бұрын
I'm just 13 and I always worry what will happen if my parents die and cuz of this I can't even talk to them cuz I will cry thinking that
@SnapWild164
@SnapWild164 Жыл бұрын
"We suffer more in imagination than in reality." -Some old dude
@imrankhan-ri7iv
@imrankhan-ri7iv 4 жыл бұрын
Nice video... always support you... 👍👍👍
@princerajput9107
@princerajput9107 5 ай бұрын
Not 85 percent but i would say 99 percent of things we worry about never even happened
@appuagrawal
@appuagrawal 4 жыл бұрын
I have always loved your videos ma'am but don't you think 2005 study is a bit old in today's world considering the impact of social media on our lives is more prevalent as compared with 2005? What people worried about in 2005 might be different from what people worry about today
@jakop8029
@jakop8029 Жыл бұрын
Shade I like what you said but unfortunately most of what I think about it happens.😢
@Charon__IV
@Charon__IV 4 жыл бұрын
actually I don't why but I think I do feel myself always at the edge of failing but in reality somewhere I just overcome by it......but still that failing fear always give me a thunder blow at least 50-60 times a day which disturbs my daily life routine and my goals to achieve in mean time......I mean in short my whole day is ruined by just thinking not taking actions.
@qqll1949
@qqll1949 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your knowledge Can you please tell whats your age.
@NardoGreyRam
@NardoGreyRam 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Shadé, nice video as usual I would like to know your thoughts on something please, do you consider negative thoughts, (and i mean here to have negative thoughts close to being pessimistic or expecting the bad to happen and planning accordingly, not to be worried with the negative thoughts) do you consider it to be a good thing or a bad thing, or it could be both? And a small explanation of your view would be highly appreciated Thank you
@Coolboy_6000
@Coolboy_6000 10 ай бұрын
I AM worrying to much because i sent a letter to My crush but she was dating someone else, but i told My friend to send the letter to her, and the guy who is dating My crush and he though My friend likes her then the guy she is dating pulled My friends shirt because he though My friend liked her, and My friend said i'm going to tell him the truth and i'm worrying because i'm scared My Friend is going to tell him and the guy she is dating is going to beat me up idk what is happening next because it was a friday and we had 1 week of a break in school and My grandma left to another country and i was sad SO we went to Virginia to SEE My cousins in 6 years and it's the last day tomorow with them and everytime i was having fun with them i remembered that and i pray every day that My friend won't tell him and it's thursday right now and i'm going back to school on monday and i'm worrying too much but this video helped me a little bit Like if You wish me luck😢😢
@pratikchakraborty6354
@pratikchakraborty6354 4 жыл бұрын
But the thing is, how should I not worry? Isn't that the major question?
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
You can practice being stoic and focusing on solutions. The emotions of worry do not serve us if we allow them to take over.
@Wanderers-Bulgaria
@Wanderers-Bulgaria 3 жыл бұрын
I've read the same explanation in Allan and Barbara Pease book.
@azeemahammed8646
@azeemahammed8646 Жыл бұрын
do you have any videos on how to avoid Guilty mentality that grown up from the childhood to an adult life ,even if made right decision repeat the same mistakes due to this guiltiness?
@bloomelo
@bloomelo Жыл бұрын
I'm worrying if I can ever stop worrying
@CLPCRK
@CLPCRK Жыл бұрын
Just hearing that fact litteraly deleted every single emotion of worrying in my soul thanks for that :D
@niranjan782
@niranjan782 4 жыл бұрын
A wise men once told me the same. But some time I started worrying too much, which I will feel it later ' waste of time'...
@harshsharma8400
@harshsharma8400 9 ай бұрын
Overthinkers be like there is still 15 percent chance that what we are thinking can happen
@vvvp4228
@vvvp4228 Жыл бұрын
That's why I worry a lot as 85% it never happen
@mujimax007
@mujimax007 4 жыл бұрын
Shade what is the profession of your beloved husband?
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for asking. My husband is an entrepreneur and his background is quite broad. He has founded a couple of companies in technology and corporate training, has grown several businesses, has worked with several fortune 500 clients, was an economics and sustainability advisor for the G20, lectured executive MBAs, designed the world's thinnest USB cable and so much more. And now we are business partners running our company together that focuses on helping professionals and organizations. 😊 What is your profession?
@mujimax007
@mujimax007 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai WoW! That is alot of diversity and smart work. He is a genius. I am always delighted to see happy married couples :) I am an MBA. I have lectured MBAs specialising in HR. Have taught on University of Queensland distance learning Business Communications and Finance. Currently I am the owner of a restaurant and soon taking on an active partner so that I can concentrate on something else. I have also trained in Grant Proposal Writing, CRM, Time Management and a few other topics. When I was in London I was a Hotelier too for big hotel brands. Stay blessed! Thanks for your prompt response: )
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
@@mujimax007 You too have quite an impressive and broad career. A truly multi-talented person! It's lovely to learn about what you do. Have a good evening. 😊
@mujimax007
@mujimax007 4 жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai Thanks for the appreciation. I like it.😊
@nayan_megatron8215
@nayan_megatron8215 4 жыл бұрын
Once I used to be driven by negativity Now I am focusing on the positive side of life and it feels good. Helpful video👌
@johntresca8531
@johntresca8531 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, why are your videos so short? Is there a strategy behind it
@ImranBashirIB69
@ImranBashirIB69 3 жыл бұрын
Very valuable. Thank you.
@henrydownes6301
@henrydownes6301 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much I needed that talk ❤
@gmshovo
@gmshovo 4 жыл бұрын
That was a good bite. Yummy.
@deepanchakrvarthyp7063
@deepanchakrvarthyp7063 4 жыл бұрын
Worrying is waste of time...
@Marolafics
@Marolafics 2 жыл бұрын
Yea are baby's dead and we will be not worry right
@mohammedmaaz9188
@mohammedmaaz9188 4 жыл бұрын
Love you shadé from INDIA....
@Earthtime3978
@Earthtime3978 2 ай бұрын
It’s easy to say don’t worry when you’re financially good. If money is a problem there’s always worry, and it’s real and it’s justified as much as it sucks.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 2 ай бұрын
Worrying is a normal human response. The question is do we allow worry to consistently take over or do we train our minds to redirect our thoughts to problem solving, accepting the things we cannot change and to find gratitude even in the smallest thing.
@asitpurohit_108
@asitpurohit_108 4 жыл бұрын
Short and simple
@Fal01100
@Fal01100 4 жыл бұрын
wooooooooooooooow!!!!!!
@DaveRucci
@DaveRucci 4 жыл бұрын
I got a little crazy buying silver miners recently and I was worried when I saw the spot price tanking and I didn’t sleep all night. I guess my experience fell within that 15% time when our fears are legitimate. I will say it wasn’t as bad as I thought but it wasn’t good either. Lol. Thanks Shade. Still great advice! 🙏🏻🙌🏻
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын
Yes, this is so true! Investing in shares can cause so much worry if one isn't comfortable with the risk. I'm not sure if putting ourselves in a constant state of worry is worth the risk/reward
@DaveRucci
@DaveRucci 4 жыл бұрын
Shadé Zahrai Haha. You’re right. I had that same thought wondering if it was worth the stress. Thanks for replying! 😄
@asadurrehman3591
@asadurrehman3591 7 ай бұрын
i love your words mam, you are awesome
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