Story of a Detransitioner - I react as a Trans Woman myself.

[@Alexis_blake00]

***Please Read*** During this video i mention a statistic I believed to be 1% for detransitioners. I had read this a while ago in an article and I took this to be true. I have now been made aware this is possibly an old statistic or I am getting my numbers mixed up. I think detransition is an area I can definitely learn more on and of course moving forward I will extend my fact finding before giving any statistics - including links to said numbers. The last thing I want to do is spread misinformation on anything. Thank you for all your comments letting me know - as it can only help me grow and learn. Massive love Alexis xxx

[@ChautoOfStar]

I could be wrong but last I read somewhere it was up to 1.5% and going up

[@WatermelonPlayzzRoblox-u3i]

@@ChautoOfStar Trans activists love to say it’s much less than it really is. In reality, no organisation has ever followed their trans clients long term so there really are no reliable statistics. The study that says 1% is from 2016 where they followed 30 people for 6 months and at the end asked them if they had any regrets. So once you understand the parameters it’s a stupid statistic like many that get thrown around in this community.

[@janebennetto5655]

Just found the talk - Detransition time bomb with Wilfred Reilly- Genspect Denver conference. Listen to the questions as there is a lady who got clear numbers from the USA armed forces. 🇬🇧❤

[@Ponderosa518]

You are the positive YT influence the LGBT community needs right now. ❤️

[@stanleyfox4201]

Would a truly trans person detransition? Most detransitioners that I have been made aware of, were wrongly diagnosed as trans. So my view is that it's not trans who are detransitioning but those who have been wrongly diagnosed.

[@TheSheGoz]

I think the "challenges" to transition are being eroded with the inception of things like "self-identify". I think that's the problem. On the one hand, people shouldn't be pigeon-holed, or boxed-into roles that are uncomfortable to them. On the other hand, completely medically altering your sex, shouldn't be viewed/portrayed as a simple/faddish/reversible thing. It should be okay for males to express their feminine side, and for women to express their masculine side, without having to medically prove that they're one gender or the other.

[@eavye95]

I agree, I feel like we were there. Men like Jeffree Star wearing the clothes he wants, makeup, wigs, etc. Women wearing suits, that hate dresses, the color pink, etc. All of this was the norm, but now if you dress like that, people think you need to be trans.

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

@@eavye95 Exactly. What happened to androgyny? Or tomboys? Or more feminine men? Why must everyone be one thing or another. I really thought we'd come farther than this. 😒

[@horror-core]

​@@bobbiejojackson9448 We're in a bad way, and it's just crazy to me. I was always a tomboy growing up. I played with boy toys, as I got older I got heavily into skateboarding and BMX, and as a fully grown woman I'm still tomboy in style. My family let me go and have fun. At 13 yrs old i came out and told my family I was gay, and they literally laughed at me, and told me to tell them something they didn't already know lol. So I got VERY lucky with that. Some kids get disowned when they come out. I'm just happy I spent my 20's in the 2000's just being me. Nobody judged much, we hated labels and we were all different. I was a mohawked punk rocker but I had friends who were the complete opposite of me and that was cool. We didn't put anyone in a corner. What a mess everything has become, and I can't work out how it ended up this way. Or why the parents today are dealing with this. This is the most dangerous trend there's ever been.

[@SeinIshamiado]

​@@eavye95 those people still exist yk. Not everyone is "trans"

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

@@SeinIshamiado That's the point that the people in this thread are trying to make. We know that androgynous people and those who don't conform to "stereotypical gender roles", definitely exist. The point is that in recent years, younger and younger children who are exhibiting even a few of those tendencies, are being told by activists and yes... some progressive doctors and psychiatric professionals in our society, that they must be trans if they feel like that. They're being told that if they're a more masculine girl or more feminine boy, there's actually no other possible reason for the way they feel, than that they must have been born in the wrong body. Just about anyone over the age of 30, knows that's simply not true, because the majority of us knows at least one person in our circles, who is a tomboy or a more feminine male. It literally seems as though there are certain factions of the (current) LGBT community, who are deliberately trying to erase the very ideas of androgyny and gender non-conformity.

[@inotaishu1]

The 1 % detransition rate is based on information that was published/gathered before the big push for puberty blockers, so I would not consider it up to date anymore.

[@archgirl7797]

also, many trans people who want to detransition feel they can't because of the social impact, the added cost of more surgeries, feeling like they'be gone too far and can't undo what has been done. Those feelings must at least partially influence why the self deletion rates are so high. They trap themselves in something they can't undo and would rather end it all when they realise what a mistake it was.

[@inotaishu1]

@@neko7606 Right I forgot that. Also, I do remember detransitioners reporting that they were left alone afterwards because either the prior doctors/surgeons either would not help them, or simply did not know how. So much money and time is put into transition but barely anyone seems to know anything about detransition. Well except all those "transgenders" for whom it all seems to be just an act.

[@Marcussucram_]

Yes that's very true, latest figures are are 3% and that is going to absolutely sky rocket due to this new gender agenda. Putting pride flags everywhere in schools, adults telling children they can be any gender they want. Cartoons with transgendered characters. It's all.so dangerous.

[@StormBringer5]

The most recent data for the US puts the discontinuation rate of hormones during a 4 year period at 30%, which is significantly higher than previous studies.

[@mentalalchemysubliminals]

the detrans ppl I have seen online sharing their stories all also say that there was no follow up with them after their surgeries/transition, so who is keeping the score with how many detransition? It seems like the small number is trans activist propaganda.

[@lindafisher8441]

The empathy on your face when he spoke of his abuse, was so caring..

[@Chrisstinnaa]

18:01 i don’t think that’s what he meant. I think he was saying that the Lord will take him and heal him in the way that he needs instead of him using transitioning to run away from his trauma. Facing trauma is very hard and obviously that is something he didn’t feel ready to do for a big portion of his life. Some people drink or do drugs and he transitioned. Not comparing transitioning to alcoholism or drug addiction but just saying people will do what they feel they have to to escape instead of facing what they need to. I do believe trans people exist and it’s a real diagnosis but I agree with you that it does needs to be set up to, as you said, challenge if that’s what you really want because it is a big life changing choice and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly so we don’t have cases like this. Great videos and thank you for sharing your point of view and your life with us. Keep up the good work!! Much love from the USA

[@JBSRCS]

Yes, I understood him to be saying that he felt healed by the Lord and was able to let go of the damaging influences from the dysfunctional adults in his life when he was a child, and therefore able to accept himself for who he actually was… not who he had been influenced to become. I felt like he was speaking about his own experience, not making a declaration that no one can really be transgender. I don’t know him so I could be lacking information. That’s just how I took what he said.

[@LyndaAlsford]

I thought the same thing. Once God had healed the trauma but he suffered as a child, he realised he wasn't trans.

[@lindatonies5185]

I truly love how honest and balanced you are with every topic!

[@auouraschannel5230]

It's more then 1% at the moment, the initial study was done between the 70s and 2012. It's thought ti be between 3% and 10%. Because subjects kept dropping out they can't be sure

[@naomimoore47]

I've found a 2017 UK study that finds the rate to be 0.47% amongst a group of 3400 people who transitioned.

[@nickname2935]

The gatekeeping has massively dropped since around 2015. So those 1% are referring to a completely different population of patients than what we are talking about currently. Since those studies transition has changed from a middle-aged male phenomenon to a female teenager phenomenon. Diagnostic criteria have shifted from rigorous questioning over months to self-ID. As far as we know, regret often comes in about 10 years later. So there is no data on regret or detransition about the current trans population. Also detrans people who kept their gonades usually just drop out and stop seeing their doctor, as they lost trust in the medical profession altogether. 1% is clearly an outdated number.

[@Marcussucram_]

Yes I can believe that it's more now, but that's exactly the point we need to make, more and more people are literally being groomed into transitioning due to all of this hype of pronouns, and teaching it in schools, this is why we are getting more detransitioners. We need to make sure that we are not confusing people who detransition with all trans people. And trying to portray a message that it is wrong to transition, because it isn't. If you get more people transitioning, your going to get more detransitioning its common sense. I reckon this time next year, youtube will be flooded with detransitioning interviews. Detransitioning is going to skyrocket. Watch this space

[@horror-core]

Yea I do believe it's definitely more than 1%. We have to take into account that there's Drs who give these percentages to people, and no surgeon who performs medical and surgical transition are going to give a honest number on how many patients have come to them in such bad condition that they've said they want to detransition or that they regret it. I also take into account the amount of detransitioners who don't speak out because they are scared of the backlash from all angles, or perhaps embarrassed or it's just too much for them so they keep quiet. Of course there are many people who have transitioned and are living a happy and healthy life, and made the right choice for themselves. There are people out here, and even some of these TikTok and KZbin big mouthed activists who I'm 100% sure do regret getting bottom surgery, most of all though. I think a lot of the percentage of people who regret their decision are kept in the dark. These are just my opinions.

[@nate2759]

Yes, there is no accurate information on detransitioners and that’s mostly because universities do not want to fund these studies because the results would be shocking. There would be more detransitioners than trans people because trans people make up around 0.6 of the population and the rest who are claiming to be “trans”, are actually confused.

[@TanyaRando]

Even 40years ago, in the UK, I needed a breast implant, but just on one side, due to development issues, and before they'd do that, I needed to go through counselling, and prove that it was what I really, truly wanted, and was shown pictures and video of the complications of the surgery. It should never be TOO easy to change your body. I'm not saying you shouldn't get it done, if that's what you really want/need, but I think you need to go into it fully understanding the pros and cons. I've known quite a few transgender people over the years, I just don't think the way the activists of today are acting is helping the cause at all. With HRT, it's all "sure....It's not going to permanently affect you...." even though they KNOW it is. That's so wrong. They need to be honest. I really dislike the way that detransitioners are abandoned by the activist groups, I know this is mainly in the US, but we usually follow behind them after a while. The genuine people on here, like you, Blaire, Marcus, Buck, Sara, Jessica, to name a few, you're the ones that make me feel there's some sanity still out there. The pronoun people, the non B people, people like Blossom, etc, they're the ones putting people's backs up, and ensuring a backlash. I think you look stunning, and you and Liam make a lovely couple. I look forward to more podcasts!

[@ana_with_the_world]

‘it should never be too easy to change your body’ so damn accurate! and that applies to any kind of body mod, even things like botox and fillers. doctors have a duty to do no harm, and just because someone wants something doesn’t mean it won’t cause them harm. i’m sure it was a laborious process but i’m glad the doctors went through that with you, that you got properly vetted. exactly what doctors and physicians should do! blessings to you friend

[@horror-core]

That was so well said, and I agree with everything you've written. It's a sad state of affairs right now. I commented earlier that it's horrible the way the activists treat detransitioners. Detransitioners aren't trying to hurt or destroy anyone. They needed help, didn't get the proper therapy and care they needed and made the wrong choice. Now they're mentally going through something i cannot even fathom, and are feeling hated and abandoned on top of it. All they want is for people to be 100% sure, know the risks and to keep children away from it all. I'm a gay woman and I have never cared what people have thought about me, so I never thought in a million years I WOULD worry what people thought of me, because I don't want people to think I'm one of those lunatic activists. I wonder if they even acknowledge that they're making the whole of lgbt look terrible to the world, and if they even care? I surly don't want to be seen as one of these people. To be honest I've never sported a rainbow, been to a pride parade or cared about pride month. We're not special, we're just people like everyone else. I dunno. Things have gotten extremely out of hand, and I just pray that the whole non binary, neo pronoun nonsense is a trend with these kids that will pass fast. There's already 18 year old girls who have had their breasts removed and demand to be called "it" What a hot mess everything is.

[@TanyaRando]

@@horror-core totally agree. Although not gay myself I have a few close family members who are, so I take all of this seriously.

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

Sara and Jessica who, please? I already follow Blaire and Buck. If Marcus is the Offensive Tranny, I already follow him. If not, could you tell me who he is, too? Thank you.

[@peachxtaehyung]

1. Blaire makes up a lot of the subject of her videos stories, and 2 most places don't have it that easy lol most people I've heard from they had to go to Dr for more than a year, also what's wrong with "pronoun people"? It's a normal part of english language plus those who put it on bios are just trying to make thingsmore inclusive. There's nothing wrong with non binary people either

[@SecretSquirrelFun]

This person’s story has absolutely nothing to do with a child wearing the dress and everything to do with the dysfunctional adults surrounding that child.

[@nate2759]

Well clearly, it was because the grandma only gave him validation when he wore a dress and otherwise did not pay much attention to him. Of course it wasn’t about the dress.

[@aprilapril2]

@@nate2759 there was clearly abuse in the family… it’s all a bit Psycho.

[@JBSRCS]

Yes! Exactly! The dress wasn’t the point. The grandma was grooming him and telling him to keep secrets from his parents. The father physically abused him and the uncle sexually abused him. The poor kid!

[@Kathleen-vl5ws]

Preach. My heart breaks for that man, but he's zeroing in on the dress when that wasn't the problem.

[@cobrakaier238]

Exactly notice how he was excusing their behavior with the fact that he was wearing the dress. Like it was the root of all evil that happened to him. He is clearly very disturbed.

[@CharliStar]

What I got from this guys story…. He was never actually transgender! Why do I think this..!? He never actually chose the dress - what he chose, was the attention it gave him from his Grandma, someone he spent a lot of time with. Her giving him attention in the dress most likely confused him because he never actually “felt like a girl” - notice that not once did he _ever_ say anything about feeling like a girl. He was then sexually abused and totally traumatised by a close family member, adding another layer to the confusion he felt. For whatever reason, in his own head, he decided that it must mean he should have been a girl, and then when he goes to a psychiatrist and _they_ TOLD him he was trans and this was the treatment for his issue - he took the advice of the person who is meant to be there to treat you professionally and medically and do what is actually best for you. However at this time, there was also a very big push towards aiming the world in a certain direction, the one that started us heading towards this world we live in where right now - children are being allowed to make decisions they simply cannot make. Yes the problem is more severe in America - because they have been giving people cross sex hormones and or puberty blockers by the end of their first appt. The de-transition rate used to be 1% - this figure was accurate up to around 2012… however since then, there has been a major agenda in our world to guide children into doing this to themselves, before they can even understand what it is they are actually doing to themselves. Since this started, and since children started being taught that men can have babies and you can change your gender just like that, even though in actual reality no one can actually do that. Your biology will never actually change, what you can do though - is alter your body with hormones to make yourself to _be perceived as_ the gender you chose to transition to. This is not the same as being the gender. Now i am not trying to demean what it means to be trans at all, what I am saying, is that there is a difference between men and women, between women and trans women, between men and trans men, but none of that makes their life experience any less important than any of the others. I am a female, I know what it is like to be a female for all my life, I know what it is like to be female in society, I know what it is like to be a Tomboy - a masculine female and a bisexual woman in society….. I will never understand what it is to be a man. I will never understand what it is to be trans - but the same goes for everyone else in the list. A man will never know what it’s like to be female…. And everyone who isn’t trans, will never know what it is like to experience life one way, transition, and experience life the other way. *There is nothing wrong with any of those life experiences and all of them are now valid life experiences of adult humans* However that being said - this stuff should never have been introduced to children. Specially small children. None of it should be being taught in school or in children’s tv shows. Drag Queens should have remained in their lane (the adult entertainment industry) and should never have been a thing to be interacting with children and babies. I wouldn’t let children go to a Strip-Club or Night Club or Casino…. So why would it be ok for drag queens to be performing their routines to minors!? It just makes no sense!

[@moosedawg71]

💯 💯 💯 very well said.

[@aprilapril2]

I grew up seeing pantomime dames….. when I first saw trans women they just looked like pantomime dames, stubbly faces with bright red lip stick and blue eye shadow. Balloons for boobs. Things have very much improved for transwomen ….and most just pass as women which I guess is a success.

[@zeekmatthews680]

I have seen some this story think just hart broken and I think same poeple transitioned because lot way and so meny reasons just think I girl and live as one but no one fully know what push some one in to it come out.

[@CharliStar]

@@moosedawg71 thanks 😊

[@dianemcclure2334]

You have to remember the time he was a child attitudes were VERY different then.

[@TheBlkQueen]

I’m from the US. That 1% is unfortunately going to increase because of the trans activists and malpractice of some therapists/organizations just automatically affirming everyone to transition. It’s sad, which is why I’m for having a set process for dysphoric people to go through like you did.

[@Alexis_blake00]

I think the number is higher than 1% and I got it wrong! I will do better to get more fact finding done in future. X

[@janclifford1]

He said that he was safe in God's hands. I did not interpret what he said at all to mean that trans is "bad".

[@marjutraks1038]

Same, and what I felt was that god wanted to redeem all the horrible things that had happend to this little child on the way

[@peachxtaehyung]

No it's not that it's that he's an anti trans speaker

[@stanleyfox4201]

He is telling his truth and you are telling yours. There is space for both.

[@nate2759]

Alexis’s story is a minority but, Walt’s is the majority, she needs to think outside of herself.

[@Alexis_blake00]

I agree with you, there is space for both 😃 I was just giving my take on this story x

[@Marcussucram_]

​@nate2759, this isnt true, the majority of true trans people are not like alexis only because they are not brave enough to tell their story, there are so many trans people living happy Ives that are not public figures. That's why it is so important that there are genuine public figures like her telling a positive story. There are so many people who think the way you do, believing that most trans gendered people are like Walt, which is so far from th truth. If you belive that the only trans people have lived like Walt, then you only are aware of these awful social media horror stories. It's around 3% now. It's gone up, this is true but Walt is not a real life example of most truly transgendered people.

[@stanleyfox4201]

@@Marcussucram_ I don't think Walt was ever transgender. What gave you the idea that I did?

[@Marcussucram_]

y​@@stanleyfox4201 Sorry, no I thought when you said Alexis was a minority and Walt was the majority of transgendered people, that sounded like your were suggesting that most trans where like Walt. Are you with me? Or did I answer to the wrong comment, sorry, 😂 xxxx

[@LaZhenZhen]

#1 Your top is everything, I'm livin for your style as always😍🤩 #2 My little brother used to wear my moms nightgowns when he was a toddler (3 or 4yrs old) and he is a totally straight married man with 3 beautiful boys so on that I call bs. In my opinion it sounds like the trauma caused him to want to totally be a different person to leave the little boy he was behind, truly sad but at least he finally has found his true self and is finally happy!

[@retrovinyl5392]

Whatever reason that man transitioned and de transitioned are irrelevant, the issue is he didn’t get the proper treatment in the first place. Like you said maybe in the USA it’s too easy to transition. A few years of what you went through before your transition might of prevented this man from transitioning. Blaire White said she had a 30min consultation and left with a prescription for hormones. Love the new podcast and how it all looks ❤

[@mikemhnnz]

I think he throws his grandmother under the bus a bit too much. Making it like because she made him the dress, it follows that his dad gets to beat him and his uncle abuse him. Let’s recognize that the only thing WRONG and INEXCUSABLE is what those men did to him, and the responsibility for that attack rests solely with them, and not on grandma. Like I get why he thinks, if only she hadn’t made that dress none of this would have happened. But really you could have had that dress without being your dad and uncle’s victim, and I’m sure the story would turn out very different.

[@sailingayoyo]

Yes, his grandmother made him something beautiful and made him feel beautiful wearing it. Nothing wrong with that. If a bid deal had not been made of it, things might have been different. The men in his life were so evil, no wonder he didn’t want to be one.

[@Alexis_blake00]

I think this is such a great point, and I definitely agree with what you are saying here. Thank you!

[@JBSRCS]

I disagree with this. A grandparent shouldn’t be doing something behind the parents’ backs and telling a child to keep it secret. That is not healthy behavior. An adult telling a child to keep something secret from his parents is generally considered to be a red flag and even grooming behavior. The dress isn’t the point. It’s how it was handled and the messages the boy internalized. Of course the dad’s subsequent behavior and the uncle’s sexual abuse are horrible and heartbreaking. I agree that if those elements were removed his story may have turned out differently. But it doesn’t make it ok for a trusted adult to hide things from his parents and tell him to keep secrets. That creates issues of its own. We don’t know if the grandma’s intentions were benign. I tend to think they weren’t due to the secrecy. Normal exploration in kids is one thing, intentional and secret grooming by an adult is another.

[@caroldietz-walker8317]

But it is pretty strange that Grandma chose to cross dress her Grandson.

[@Labebedepapi]

@@Self_deleted_Tranmost likely she didn’t have bad intentions just like many extremists trans activists who truly believe they’re doing the right thing in the name of love and acceptance… but the deepest true and reality is that the dress and the secrets at such young age to understand he true identity put him in a vulnerable position to get sexually abuse!!

[@miniscenesgb]

Wow Alexis! Red - you must wear red more. Stunning. Interesting video, you do talk so much sense. Heck it must be horrendous trying to go back. How hard their life must have been. The whole children issue terrifies me. Re the religion thing - I'm not religious but surely anyone who believes in God should think that God would just want us to be happy, and if they believe God made us then surely they should think that God made us as we are, whatever form that takes? Just my take on this.

[@Marcussucram_]

Totally agree,

[@schuylerrees7029]

Alexa, as a children’s counselor, I so appreciate the tenderness and sympathy you respond with to this man’s troubled story. You always respond so thoughtfully, keep up the good work ❤ There are so many threads to this story, obscured by politics and religious language. What I heard him saying was that he experienced major trauma from an early age, some of which was centered around (but not caused by) gender, which eventually caught up with him in drug addiction, disruption of his most important relationships, and loss of a career. In trying to escape his trauma, he ran to one of the only truly safe attachments he had as a child, his time with his grandmother in which he could be whoever he wanted and still be loved. As an adult he sought to return to that place of safety, love, and care before all these terrible things happened to him which so destabilized his sense of self. This initially surfaced as questions around gender, which makes sense given the context of his early abuse, but it wasn’t his real story. What is interesting is that his doctor did not take into account his sobriety, he was involved with mind-altering substances (drugs and alcohol), when diagnosed with gender dysphoria. While in active addiction and/or a state of acute psychological distress, no one is in a good state to make sense of themselves and do the deep work necessary before giving consent to medical intervention. What to me is interesting is that it was after he got into treatment for his addiction, released his guilt and shame (by burning that paper), and opened up his heart (in prayer) in vulnerability, the true wound and need surfaced. He realized it was never about gender, but it was about meeting that wounded 4 year old, and through his relationship with faith and safe treatment provider who prioritized his deep needs, he was finally safe enough to allow the healing of his inner child, and thereafter to progress with his life in a healthy manner. This is what he had been looking for all along whether he knew it or not. Like you, I wish he’d been able to keep his story just to his own personal experience, we would probably have more to take away if he did. But as he sees it, healthcare providers all over America are doing to young children what was done to him, and he can’t rest with that being the case. I wish him, and you, all the best ❤

[@elenawilliams32]

Alexis, i just searched online the percentages of detransitioners. The Oxford Academic said it was 11% of women and 4% of men. With further research different sources say that there's no exact data as so many never go to a Dr, therapist, gender clinic etc... They self ID. As an example, a friend of my daughter identified as a transman from 14 to 19. She dressed male, wore a binder( to flatten breasts) and went by a male name. During lockdown (covid) my daughter told me that her friend now identified as female, aligning with their biological sex. People like her obviously miss being counted in any sort of statistics as a detransitioner. Yet she is one. Side note; I've had a few good chats with her since she's detransitioned. There were a myriad of reasons behind her decision to transition... Then detransition. Ultimately, she's a happy, healthy young woman now. Take care.

[@Alexis_blake00]

Thank you so much for sharing the statistics and your daughter’s story. Apologies I definitely missed the mark on that one and I will do better to research moving forward! X

[@elenawilliams32]

@@Alexis_blake00 It was my daughters friend, not my daughter. 💙 It's really hard to find accurate numbers as so many don't interact with any official trans-gender services and self ID. Let us know if you find a reputable source please. You're so diplomatic, especially when he went on the religious tangent. Your expressions give you away. 😁 Your face doesn't lie for you, which is endearing. Well done Alexis.

[@backtomyroots6515]

Him interpreting that his grandma was saying he wasn’t a cute little boy because of her complimenting him in a dress shows why we shouldn’t confuse kids. He is emotionally damaged now for nothing poor guy. Look how you said it’s a huge leap and grabbing straws, you’re right! It is! That is how different a child’s mind processes information compared to an adult. Emotionally this caused him torment but she didn’t even say anything horribly wrong (she shouldn’t have put him in that dress in the first place). He knows how he felt in that moment and will feel for the rest of time and that’s what he’s conveying to us. Poor guy. I swear this totally confirms how a child’s mind is so imaginary compared to an adult. BTW, I LOVE the way you do your eyeliner!!! ❤️ 😻

[@Alexis_blake00]

💖💖💖

[@susansullivan9255]

I'm transgender and proud....my transitioning journey was the best thing for me....i.have no regrets what' so ever ..

[@marihencita]

In a less serious note, that red lipstick looks gorgeous on you 🔥🔥🔥

[@caroldelaney4700]

In my time I have known very few detransitioners only 2. It’s not that common but it’s a shock when you have known a person for a long time

[@jennifernicholson6159]

I love your videos & the red looks fantastic. The first thing I thought was wow, that is stunning. I think the thing is he didn't get the attention & affirmation from his parents & the grandma saying that as a 4 year old probably confused him. He thought "so, I'm adorable & pretty when I'm dressed like a girl", that could be psychologically scarring. Then the rest. There's nothing wrong with being a little boy who wants to wear dresses. My son put on his sister's dresses & is straight as it gets. (It seems) but this boy was put in a dress, sounds like it was grandmas idea to do it, & then she gave him validation in the dress he didn't get from when he dressed like a boy. That can be very influential to a child when they're being told those kind of things at a very tender age & they're developing their personalities & who they are. It's really starting to shape them. I think he could have explained it better... but I do believe what his grandmother did was a big influence on him. Especially if he still remembers it so clearly. Children are very easily influenced. That's why we need to be careful how we speak to our children. I don't think it was simply wearing the dress. It was a mix of not getting attention as a boy, & getting the attention he wanted in the dress. If you know what I mean? Also, get Jeffree Star Velour Liquid Lipstick, it won't transfer. Lol

[@danielday100]

The red looks good!

[@chastitysmith9036]

Him being redeemed only means HE wasn't meant to be Trans. He was living a lie. This is from his perspective . He was delivered from HIS lie. He wasn't saying that to upset the trans community. This is his story. XOxo love your channel!!

[@nate2759]

Also, that’s his personal experience with God and I find it disrespectful that Alexis is internalising it and making it about being trans.

[@shelbyseely8732]

Exactly but i think its being narcissist to take wat he said as an insult to urself and the trans community. As a Christian we get saved everyday from many thing. And many people do have to be saved from sexual confusion ​@nate2759

[@chastitysmith9036]

I just think she misunderstood what he said. No big deal.

[@andreabrown-isley9992]

Thank goodness for you, Alexis! I love that your content is always even and reasonable. You tackle a number of uncomfortable trans topics, and I've never once seen you become outraged, defensive, or hostile, and it really is commendable. Thank you for your voice and careful opinions.

[@LyndaAlsford]

I haven't watched the full video of that man's story, although it is on my watch list. But from the clips you played, I didn't take his remarks about being redeemed to be saying that his transition was inherently sinful. I took it to mean that he was being redeemed from the pain of his childhood. God was making good the pain he suffered as a child and giving him the love and support he should have had as a child. The natural consequence of receiving this love and support from God meant he realised he wasn't trans but simply a damaged little boy who grew up to be a damaged man, so he detransitioned. It would be interesting for me to now see that full video and see what I think of it. Fascinating to get your view on all this as a trans woman as I am a straight biological woman, and share this man's faith. So I'm probably somewhat biased I think. I love how reasonable you are and how kind you are and how thoughtful to others feelings you are. I really enjoy your content.

[@mrburgess1698]

It’s the message that the anti trans lobby take from it. I’ve seen many people on Facebook telling gay and trans people to find god or Jesus because they see being LGBTQ as sinful and wrong. This video will have been used to justify their anti trans rhetoric.

[@jewellclarke6512]

Hello my lovely.....I understand your point about him putting his opinion on a social platform that could affect potential trans people negatively, but by the same token you could say that the opposite is being encouraged by governments, and trans doctors, towards young people to transition before puberty, which can be more damaging if its a mistake. So I think, personally, that if his story encourages people to wait and think twice before going ahead with transitioning then it can only be a good thing. 😊

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

Oh, Alexis... I could see that this was a very difficult video for you to watch. I'm sorry that it wasn't what you were expecting. I can honestly say that while Walt's story is a very tragic one and my heart really does go out to him, it wasn't the right type of story to address the current issues around detransitioning in the US today. His story is very unique to his particular journey and he's obviously very angry about what he went through, but I don't feel that it accurately represents the experiences of the average young person who is choosing to detransition today. I don't know if you've heard of a young woman named Chloe Cole, but I personally believe that her story is a much better representation of that. Thank you for sharing this experience with us. I would assume that you probably went back and forth about whether or not you wanted to upload it, after it turned out to be so very different than what you had expected. I have a lot of respect for your willingness to be so genuine and transparent, even when things might not have turned out to be what you'd intended. I think a lot of people hesitate to show their more vulnerable or maybe uncomfortable experiences and it's truly refreshing and endearing to see you share yours. Big hugs from across the pond. 💛

[@naomimoore47]

Chloe Cole has spoken at rallies with Matt Walsh, a far right commentator and a critic of gay and trans rights. From Wikipedia: "In October 2022, Cole was among a number of speakers at a "Rally to End Child Mutilation" hosted by right-wing commentator Matt Walsh in Nashville"

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

Couldn't have said it better myself!

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

@@naomimoore47 How does that affect her experience? Are you saying that she doesn't have a right to tell her story or be heard after what she went through? The community that had once embraced and celebrated her, sure didn't want to help her navigate through an extremely difficult time in her life, so what would you suggest that she do instead?

[@daTribbleMaker]

@@naomimoore47 Doesn't make her story any less true or relevant. Speaking of relevancy, what was your point?

[@naomimoore47]

@@bobbiejojackson9448 Not engage with far right agitators. Find your own platform, but never engage with the far right of the conservatives.

[@barbloft]

Thank you for tackling these important but often complicated subjects! It sounds like this person may have had internalized homophobia and definitely was messed up by the SA. Heartbreaking! I wonder if the "redemption" is from his abuse? Alexis, I think the way you described your transition is the responsible and wise way to do it.

[@fereshtehehsan745]

The problem is that the numbers that are given for detransitioners is likely to be highly inaccurate but when people detransition they often stop taking their hormones and don't return back to their doctors and clinics. Also mistaken transitionning due to such things as mental health issues, abuse, internal homophobia is certainly not unusual.

[@daliam8715]

Internalised? He's straight. But definitely can't stand the idea of a man in a dress as a man. Why are we shocked though? He's old. Very old. From a completely different time.

[@nate2759]

Gosh everything is “internalised homophobia”. No, maybe think that sexual abuse and validation as the wrong identity can cause gender confusion.

[@scotthix2297]

Alexis, I’m a 70 yo gay man who was born and grew up in San Francisco. I have had many friends who are Transitioned many years ago. They are well because they had the gates in place, as you describe, that helped them grow into their Transitions and learn how to pass and flourish. I used to give makeup and deportment classes in what was then called “Finishing School” for mtf. That couldn’t happen now but it made a difference in the lives and success of early mtf transitioned. Don’t take this guy to heart. He found a road to follow that traded one set of obsessions for another and now he’s just another Evangelical. You, my real transexual friends and the other sane voices just need to keep the conversation focused and true. Your experience and voice are valuable now and please know that you are heard. Much respect.

[@DrSamanthaH1975]

I’m so glad you see you’re covering the subject of detransitioners. It’s brave of you because its a hugely taboo subject in the trans community. However, the issues with kids are not restricted to the U.S./Canada. Please look up Kiera Bell, Ritchie Heron and read the interim Cass report. Please look into why the Tavistock was shut down. It is a social contagion amongst teenagers, the majority of whom are simply gay, many of whom are autistic, and it is dangerous. Children are being put on a pathway to sterility, removal of sex organs and harm from wrong sex hormones. You are an adult who can make an informed choice, children cannot consent. Also… the “1% detransition rate” is not true. There are no up-to-date stats on transition or detransition, but the estimated rate is considerably higher. Please don’t take this as hate, it truly isn’t. You seem like a lovely person and you think for yourself, which is admirable. All the best. X❤

[@nate2759]

Yes the biggest study ever on children with gender dysphoria actually ended up being gay as adults.

[@Nyctophora]

Alexis I just want to say that you are a wonderful, kind person. This poor man went through so much abuse and you listened to his story with compassion and grace. You set a wonderful example! I wish he had just been able to be a little boy playing dress-up. I think a bit less stricture on what children can and can't look like would help everyone!

[@jorgeluiscazares2105]

I love your videos, you’re making it easier in accepting my transition! Luv u girl❤

[@jenpotatz6194]

Girl looking like she's about to crash some celebrations with her outfit! So glad I continue agreeing with you whole-heartedly on this video

[@saras1150]

you're truly the best trans KZbinr Alexis

[@moosedawg71]

Gesundheit for the sneeze, lol! Such a cute little sneeze! Gave me a giggle that you left it in.

[@deneeblstmama1128]

We have as young as 5th graders on hormones in the US. I’m sure it’s happening younger. 5th grade is just my personal experience with my twins friends.

[@meganashlea]

My son is in the 6th grade, the school is planning an overnight trip in the spring. When they had the parent meeting they said they would be separating the kids boys/girls/non-binary 😳 at 11-12 … they wouldn’t clarify if the non-binary group would also be separated by sex… to me it’s just asking for trouble with puberty starting if they aren’t. Not giving us straight answers has me concerned as well, not sure if my son will attend yet.

[@daTribbleMaker]

This week in New York a Judge blocked a father from preventing his ex the right to give their 8 year old boy puberty blockers. So yeah, as young as 8 now.

[@eduardomerino8098]

Love you Alexis. You are so open minded👏

[@sarahdimmichbrumley3978]

Great video. I love your content. You are so real, thoughtful, open minded and kind. And beautiful.

[@cindymichelle5728]

Loving the red, your top looks FAB and a lovely match with your lipstick. Can i ask what brand and shade of lippy you are wearing? I also want to say that i am SO PLEASED to have found your channel. You always look fab Alexis❤. And loving the kindness, understanding and balance you express in your videos. It is such a breath of fresh air from the all too ubiquitous polarized and often hateful content whose creators appear to have ears only for voices of their own tone that is so pervasive in the echo chambers of the online world. If only more people could be as kind, open minded and understanding as you and Liam, what a wonderful world it would be...cue music! Thank you both for making my week❤️

[@terryestepp2615]

As always I love your videos, your open heart and open mind, and your kindness... You are a steadfast and authentic voice of reason and kindness. ❤

[@amyevans9042]

I work with victims of sexual abuse and child abuse. Previously this demographic of kids would have suffered from self harm, or eating disorders. We never affirmed the self harm or eating disorder, can you imagine agreeing with a person that they need to carry on restricting their diet? But now we're affirming their gender and have given them medication for this

[@r-platt]

Do you have honor or shame? You should know medicine isn't so simple. Nobody says, "oh, you're trans? Cool. Have some hormones." There's a LONG process that requires us to prove our transness over and over. Gender dysphoria is first a DEADLY child abuser. We don't start a conversation with an abuse victim by DENYING the abuse. So why would you start a conversation with a trans child by denying their stated identity?

[@Marcussucram_]

Yes it's true, when you transition I the UK it's a long process, 25 years ago it was actually easier, I got an appointment in 5 months and only had to live two years as a man. And my doctor said I have to do this to really prove that I can be brave to do it. This guys story I think needs to be heard as today, it is totally different in the UK. I mean you can practically wake up in the morning and class yourself as trans non binary etc and claim to have dysforia without any assessment, you can ask to be called they, etc. This is really worrying as children are so vulnerable, they are always looking for a place to belong. Not only that it seems that if you make a point of detransitioning, many youtubers will want an interview with a detransitioner to get views. Which is scary as it's the new buzz word. I think there's a huge difference between true transgender people and detransitioners. That's why your doctor will tell.you to live for a few years without any surgery in your trans identity, its the hardest thing to do, telling people to call you a guy when you clearly look like a girl lolllll. If you can do that then there's nothing that would make you change back. People who detransition you will.find always did.it for the wrong reason. This guys story is very sad, but it's true and can happen easily. Especially today, when you've got three trans parents living a poly lifestyle man that's so worrying. His story doesn't benefit true trans people, but it may benefit parents and children who want to be part of this new gender generation. Unfortunately I believe that the more detransitioning that is seen, the less we will eventually have. Fantastic subject

[@nate2759]

Yes but, people who are truly trans are such a tiny fraction of the population hence, his stories relates to more people on average.

[@Marcussucram_]

@nate2759 no , I disagree, sorry this isnt true. The total of detransitioners is a tiny fraction, compared to the the total of true trans people . He isn't by any means talking about "most trans" because most transgenderd people do not transition. If everyone who lived there lives happily as transgendered people came on to a youtube interview just like nearly every detransitioner does, true trans people would out weigh them by around 3 in a 100. When they did their last survey it expressed that detransitioners where 3% of all trans people, .......that included nearly every detransitior however did not include thousands of trans people that didn't want to be identified as trans, (as most trans just want to get on with their lives and not make a stupid fuss about it). The surveys are conducted in a very bias way ...they were looking for detransitioners thats what they will find, so if we do the math it's totally different.

[@lm3049]

I saw his story a long time ago. I don't think his message is dangerous, I think it is simply his story. I agree with another comment here that he felt that the Lord was healing him from his past hurt. He never said in that video that being trans is wrong. What he is saying is what you said. People should have to go through a process, but here in the U.S. they don't. Did you know that kids in the U.S. in some states can be transitioned WITHOUT their parents' consent? Did you know that in states like California, if you don't "affirm" your child's gender, that child can be taken from you, and you can face jail time? Did you know that in some schools around the U.S. children are automatically "diagnosed" with gender dysphoria after maybe ONE 45-minute session with a "therapist" or school psychologist and if the parents don't go along, they can face imprisonment? Your transition took time, you had to live as Alexis, change your name, "come out" to family and friends. That is not the case in a lot of States here, this is kept from parents. And that is one hundred percent WRONG. One other thing I came out of this story with when I first heard it a few years ago is that he had an uncle that was clearly not well as he abused Walt, and a grandmother that taught him to keep secrets from his family. I don't think his dad handled it well at all, but perhaps his dad didn't know what to do because maybe he came to the realization that there was something amiss in his family and he didn't want his child impacted by it. This was in the 1940's when people didn't really talk about things. Today, it's the opposite and people share too much sometimes. It wasn't a good situation all around, but it is Walt's story... he is not speaking for the whole community.

[@dreznoryorkekeenanbuckley2226]

Hey Alexis! First off You are SO classy and beautiful! That shirt looks SO great on you I LOVE that style! You always look SOO put together!!! I am not trans and wish I always looked so well put together! You seem like such a sweet kind soul! Much respect to you for correcting/commenting it is an old statistic. It seems like the UK is dealing with this entire issue in a much more responsible way. I say that based on your attitude. Maybe it is just your experience. I know living in the US it has been EXTREMELY aggressive and has gone INSANE! It became a massive "trend" and with all trends there is enivitable backlash. Unfortunately though this NEVER shoild have become a trend! I always thought that was DEEPLY insulting to people like you and other people who are truly trans. I think the "non-bianry" thing is just a way to be "different"... I know that may offend some people and im sorry but, its true imo. The channel baggage claim (I may make misspelled baggage? Sorry im ill and feel a bit off today... Sorry!) ANYWAY... She does GREAT videos and that one explains imo what some of the issues are with that whole thing. At the very least I think lumping EVERYTHING with "trans" which is VERY specific is wrong, foolish and is the cause of A LOT of people jumping on the bandwagon for all the wrong reasons from using it to harm women/children to using it to make money and everything inbetween. The fact gay people get called transphobs and horrible names simply for not wanting to daye a trans person is pretty messed up alone. THEN you add in men with beards, ect.... It's utter madness! Im sorry I know ive gone a bit off topic im just trying to address what I know is going on in America. Anyway sorry for the tangent! I just wanted to throw some things I think ate huge problems especially in America. I cannot speak for the UK. I wish I could because I LOVE it! Anyway love your channel! Look forward to watching more! ❤ 💋

[@rose-hope]

Alexis, I’m so glad for you that you are happy living your authentic life. You’re taking a lot out of context in discussing this. Statistics you stated are applicable to actual transsexuals. The incident of transitioning now has increased exponentially by thousands of percents. There are no issues with all kids dressing up and playing pretend. What is happening in the US and especially in Canada is much different than that. Kids are being groomed and encouraged to transition. Social media influencers are causing a contagion amount young people because they are getting so much positive reinforcement for being so brave, when in actuality they need mental health support, not to cut off body parts and take medication that will turn them into lifelong patients for big pharma. There is an agenda here and people need to face it. We are accepting inappropriate behaviour around children and cutting off parental rights as though the government owns children. It’s truly dangerous and depraved and this movement has co-opted the LGBT to create division and hate where acceptance used to be.

[@JBSRCS]

Alexis, you are my favorite voice on these issues and such a lovely human being. I wish all conversations about these topics could be as reasonable as you make them. I think people in the US have heightened sensitivity to these topics because they aren’t being handled in the same way as your experience. I think most people would be fine with adults having the right to make their own choices for themselves. The problem is that children aren’t being protected in the US and even adults aren’t getting the proper psychological help prior to making these kinds of life changing decisions. I think that is the biggest issue for most people who have concerns over the trans topic.

[@r-platt]

The suicide rate is going UP. Trans people are 4x more likely to be victims of violent assault as cis women. Trans healthcare is illegal in more states than it's legal. That means conservatives are NOT helping. *They are killing us.* Conservatives have equated mental health with school shooters and insane people. Children needing mental health think that makes them a threat to society. Conservatives are making trans healthcare harder and harder to find. As a result the few professionals helping are being overworked. That's when mistakes are made. Conservatives then use _every_ mistake to further damage trans healthcare. That's how they shutdown Tavistock in England. PARENTS MAKE INFORMED MEDICAL DECISIONS, not children. Please don't take away a parent's right to help their trans child.

[@TanyaRando]

I think grandma thought she was just playing along with a game he was playing

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

Not if she told him to keep it a secret from his parents. I'm not saying that grandma was trying to do something nefarious, but I can't say that it wasn't pretty odd for her to do that. Maybe she wanted a granddaughter and not a grandson? Whatever her motive was, it sure wasn't a good thing for 4 year old Walt. 😒

[@patriciacipolla1588]

Watch the whole video. This is just a little part of his life. The outlined version. His grandma was a sick woman. Can we stop looking at the small picture?

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

Thank you for providing a balanced perspective. This person's story is heartbreaking, but that doesn't make his perspective right.

[@nate2759]

His perspective is right because it’s his perspective lmao!

[@micheleirl22]

I love you Alexis, I think that your point it's very true I agree with you 100% %, you really peak up for us trans giving very good informations

[@norwalkspectator5275]

Years ago, I worked in a nursery/child care facility. We had two large bins of dress up clothing for the kids to wear and we never so much as batted an eyelash about which child was wearing what. It didn't matter. Interestingly enough, our family doesn't celebrate Halloween and a number of people were very concerned that our son would never have a chance to "dress up" or go collect candy. After a while I found it hard to keep a straight face when explaining he could dress up in any assortment of clothing he wanted to three days out of five. As for the candy issue, my father was more than happy to sneak all the chocolate and sugar he could to his beloved grandson any day of the week. Trust me on this. We had an interesting event one day when one of the boys was coloring with the magic markers. When his mom came to pick him up, she was so upset because he'd "painted" his fingernails along with coloring the picture. My boss pulled her aside and cautioned her against freaking out. My boss suggested they go home and do an activity like making cookies or cupcakes that required him to wash his hands thoroughly. She calmed down and last I heard, he's married with three kids. Regarding Walt, it probably all would have come to nothing if his father hadn't started hitting him and his "uncle" had kept his hands to himself. In both cases, the adults violated the child's trust and probably unwittingly pushed him towards transitioning. I think the key point Walt was trying to make was that some of the advocates were pushing kids towards transitioning in a positive manner rather than the negative manner he experience. As for the religious aspect, everyone's story is different. Walt doesn't hate transitioners. He's trying to help people realize what he went through and what kids today are experiencing.

[@nate2759]

If you watch the full documentary of Walt you can understand it’s not only the fact that the grandma put him in the purple dress. Grandma literally only validated him and gave him compliments in the purple dress and otherwise did not pay him much attention. Alexis cannot really react to small short clips of the documentary and give her opinion.

[@Kathleen-vl5ws]

Damn if saying you need to wash so we can bake isn't brilliant for any situation where you need a kid to get their hands scrubbed clean! 😂

[@norwalkspectator5275]

My boss felt that going for cooperation was always better than confrontation -- and she was really sneaky about it, too.

[@ikeakarose]

@@nate2759I completely agree. I remember that part in the documentary & definitely gives a much deeper insight into how he ended up a she & going back to a he. I think it’s absolutely heartbreaking that his grandmother told him to keep it a secret. A child wants nurturing & love & to just pay attention to them. If Alexis had actually watched the entire documentary rather than pieces (which I hate people doing though I think that’s a me sort of issue) she’d have a greater understanding where he was coming from & how those experiences effected him. His father’s heavy handed abusive actions probably made him even more susceptible to his grandmother actions. It’s unfortunate activists are telling children that going on puberty blockers & having surgeries are reversible & parents using their children for clout on social media saying they knew their child was trans as an infant because of insane things like they didn’t like green vegetables or liked playing dolls or with sisters toys & socially transitioning children as toddlers. It’s unfortunate but in coming years there will be TONS of children going to have to deal with the effects of this push & medical rules saying mental health providers have to affirm & can’t actually ask questions & try see if the child - or adult - is truly trans. You would think that even activists would want to make sure those transitioning are doing it for themselves…the massive spike in numbers alone should put up warning signs.

[@tracycornish7011]

His Energy is anti now trying to eradicate that part of his life now, just like he did with Transitioning ,eradication of his life from age 4. Sad 😔 A different Generation different thoughts and perceptions. Love the videos ❤

[@krzysztoph]

Thank you so much for this video Alexis.

[@ClaudiaEhrhardt]

I think you have to take in account that it was a different time. I missed what age he was when got to the specialist, anyway there wasn't much information at hand and most likely no other people like him - at least from his point of view. On top of that religion might have had a bigger role and in the USA it still has in many ways, so I can understand him. Somehow.

[@nate2759]

Religion and a relationship with God are two different things but, most of the world will never know that because they won’t seek him with their whole mind, heart and soul.

[@PuffTheMagicDragon86]

I love tops like that! Reminds me of one I got from Reiss (when they had the sale on, definitely couldn't afford it otherwise lol) mine is deep red velvet with an asymetical split, it's lovely.

[@zorkwork3841]

I worked in the medical field.Years ago ..if a person was questioning their identity..they had to have years of talk therapy then ...decide if you wanted hormones or surgeries. I think today they are rushing this process through(in America anyway) Thank you Alexis for your open heart and spirit.

[@tatsf]

Once again, I agree with your take on this situation. This man's situation and experiences throughout his life sound very difficult. But that doesn't reflect as much on the state of being trans as it does on the huge impact that trauma and abuse can have on a child who will then try to find ways to disconnect from those impacts as they grow up. As someone in the mental health field I was immediately aware of a red flag when he said that after a therapy session with his psychologist they told him to come inside and pray together. I'm an older gay man and have known many trans folks over time, including my brother, and I don't know anyone who has ever de-transitioned. Anecdotal, I know. But not common. This story (and honestly many of the comments here) were difficult and uncomfortable for me. It's hard to hear about other's pain, and very difficult to hear it intertwined with their gender identity in this way. I'm glad that he is happier now and feels that he is living his life in the way that is best for him. But I also don't think that stories like his should be used to generalize about trans people's experiences overall. Thanks for a thought-provoking episode!

[@frankpierce8489]

Alexis thanks for sharing, your heart ❤is truly felt by your caring reactions

[@TheSheGoz]

Alexis, I had to come back to this video. It has stayed with me for awhile. Specifically, the attitude of the man from the video you were reacting to, has stayed with me. His angst and animosity toward all things trans, is so sad, and unhealthy. The thing that struck me, as I watched HIS video, was the way he blames everyone, and takes no accountability for his own choices. I mean, maybe his grandmother fostering his interests in dresses when he was a child had some influence, but ultimately, HE chose to transition. It's as if he's placing all of the blame for his unhappiness with his choices, his religion-fed-guilt for his choices onto trans people so that he can then disassociate from it. ◄ THAT is the bit that has taken up residence in my head. Hate is unhealthy. Hate is especially unhealthy when it's self-hatred. We're all human. We're all doing the best that we can to survive and thrive in a world full of external obstacles. Please, everyone, do the work necessary to overcome the internalized obstacles, and to understand that hatred is not the answer. The everyday world outside our own heads and hearts will do enough to harm people. It doesn't need our help to hurt others, but others may need our help to heal.

[@jennytwentythree9351]

Alexis you look so beautiful in red ♥️ I love your videos. So thoughtful and kind

[@Alexis_blake00]

thank you so much

[@smsmsm33434]

Detransition rates are quoted as between 1%-25% so there are no clear stats yet, and the numbers are expected to be on the higher side as transitioning has become a trend lately, so old statistics won’t apply soon. Anyway, I think at this point I’d be considered extremely transphobic, but I believe suggesting that being trans is always wrong is not the right idea to promote, so I don’t fully agree with what the detransitioner is saying. The thing is, I love Alexis, I love Blaire, I love Buck, I love Marcus, and I fully respect their gender identity and I think when listening to them, it’s clear that being trans is right for them. Alexis doesn’t strike me as masculine, I can understand why transitioning was necessary. With that being said, I think many people do transition as a result of sexual abuse. It’s more common with FtM transitions. Another issue is self-ID and the ease with which people can now officially change their gender. At least where I live, you just have to fill out some paperwork and don’t require any medical diagnosis. There’s a man who transitioned to have cheaper car insurance. It’s ridiculously easy, and it shouldn’t be. It should only be possible to transition after the age of 18 and with an actual medical diagnosis that should be achieved through very thorough work with a psychiatrist. An unbiased expert should be able to guarantee that the person transitioning truly has gender dysmorphia. Hormones should also be mandatory, at the very least, to qualify for an official change on drivers licenses and all that. It should also be impossible for prisoners to transition.

[@aviolet3981]

You make lots of great points 👍

[@horror-core]

It really is different over here in the states. There's no proper therapy that comes from a regular therapist or psychiatrist. It's all from GENDER AFFIRMING therapists, and their job unfortunately isn't to have months of sessions to work down to the root to see if the reason why a child or young adult is feeling this way is due to another life factor. Their job is to say yes, cross X hormones is what you need, and to push them through the door. They're handing hormones out like Halloween candy over here to teenagers. All of the detrans cases I've found, and KZbinrs who have detransitioned are all no older than 23 years old. That's because they were confused, had things going on with their bodies through puberty that they didn't like etc, and when the parents took them to see these therapists without getting down to other issues that may have been taking place, they were just started on hormones. Then by the time these people reached young adulthood they started figuring out things for themselves with an adult brain, and said omg what have I done? Trans are very harsh to detransitioners, over here at least, because they think these people are now transphobic, or saying to everyone that transitioning is a mistake, but that's not what they're saying all. All they're saying is that the kids need to be left alone and that they believe there should be sessions with good therapists who aren't gender therapists, and that these Drs are only seeing these people as walking dollar signs. I'm not trans I'm a gay gal, but I do think it's terrible the way some detransitioners are treated. The guy in this video seems like he's saying since he made a mistake, it shouldn't be done even for adults, and I do think that's wrong. What works for 1 person doesn't always work for another. Just because it doesn't work for that person shouldn't mean that it shouldn't be a option at all. That's a bit much.

[@ashleyelliott0616]

It is horrible how just because one person experiences something important and make the effort to change and then change back and then tell everyone else should too. We all have different life experiences. It has been a blessing to have HRT and I'm waiting on word for electrolysis. I'm getting ready for the when the time comes and I can get SRS which is life saving to me. I have attempted suicide multiple times only to tell them part of the truth that I was depressed and not what I was depressed about. Just a little bit about me and I can't wait for the next steps.

[@RaeBell01]

Would you consider researching the recent rise in detransitioners ?

[@BiohazardBunney]

People realized that Twitter isn't real and the people that forced them into the trans space to be accepted is actually ridiculous.

[@nate2759]

I don’t think Alexis would but, Blaire White would she’s more objective.

[@mentalalchemysubliminals]

She said in a comment in this comment section that she researched it again and was wrong about one percent,

[@peachxtaehyung]

​@@nate2759lol she lies about most her subjects stories but ok...

[@Ultramentsh]

I am so glad that you're here posting and representing the trans community. It seems all we get exposed to is extreme examples. Most trans people are not Dylan Mulvaney or Blaire White. Truly happy you're showing the world that 👏🥳

[@nate2759]

I love Blaire White, there’s nothing wrong with her, she’s the most level headed trans person that is publicly out there.

[@Caleb17-ym6pq]

Blaire White is hardly extreme. Blaire's views and opinions on LGBTQ+ topics are very moderate and centrist. There is a difference between being 'objective' and being 'extreme'.

[@Ultramentsh]

@@nate2759 nothing against Blair. But she's definitely way more over the top than Alexis. Did you ever see her gun wall 😁

[@nate2759]

@@Ultramentsh Yeah, she’s awesome. I live in Australia and we don’t use guns at all. But, I think do you, as long as you aren’t harming anyone.

[@Ultramentsh]

@@nate2759 I'm an American I believe in the second amendment. But I'll say it again. Much like her gun wall(a pink flamethrower) 😂. Blair can be a little extreme 😁. I'm not saying it's always a bad thing. But to some extent, that is her thing

[@sandracabrera7861]

First of all, you look stunning!! I don't know if there are more of him giving so an so message, but I can get from it is that he did feel confused because exploring with the dress it was induced, whereas, in your case Alexis you and your boy friends explored and played by yourselves. He was put in a dress and given love for looking like that. Then the abuse coming from and male figure. If we go in the context back then, the was not such thing as "you choose your gender" but female liking males and viceversa. The last part, I would say he is not giving the message "oh this is a sin you must convert". He was lost and he needed to feel safe to see what was going on and he found in that place, praying. His brain showed him the answer he always knew and just adjusted it to the environment he was

[@kristallman6527]

Your simply lovely. ❤ Red is your color. Love your podcast and educating and helping ALL us understand better.

[@JS-ep7qv]

*you’re

[@Alexis_blake00]

Thank you so much!

[@garyindiana2127]

i'm sorry but this man somehow blamed his grandmother for his dad and uncle's reprehensible, criminal behavior. and then the utter devotion to a completely patriarchal religion, like i think misogyny might have something to due with detransitioning as much as any overzealous diagnosis. and for the therapist to forcefully push their religion onto someone in such a vulnerable state is wildly unethical

[@nate2759]

He didn’t blame her he said he did not know the consequences of wearing a dress because he was a child.

[@bethanygribble]

and i think the religious aspect plays a part in the absolutely disgusting word choices. there was a lot of hatred towards the whole “boy in dress” aspect, not just critiquing his own experience, but men wearing feminine clothing in general. seeing as he is now religious, it seems like the mix of high regret and religious ideology has turned into this transphobia/homophobia talking point.

[@Labebedepapi]

⁠@@bethanygribbleI don’t agree on the religious part of the story, but coming from someone sexually abuse and traumatized and being alcoholic I can understand how religion was he’s last option for help… I do agree on the reverse transphobia part 😢 but imagine he probably was just a feminine boy 🤷🏽‍♀️ or juts gay 🤷🏽‍♀️ I do blame the grandma a little, but not as much as the uncle, the, father, and the trans therapist!! I think 4 years old is too young to understand identity or sexual preferences…

[@teridoster5840]

I’m glad it’s more difficult in the UK, but it’s quite easy to medically transition in the states. Gender affirming care is becoming such a hot button issue the doctors are afraid to even give any pushback when a person comes in to their clinic and says they’re trans and want to transition. It didn’t use to be that way, you had to be very very sure over a long period of time and jump thru some specific hoops before they would consider medically assisting them. It’s a subject close to my heart bcuz I have a very good friend I’ve known since childhood who began her medical transition to male in 2020 with hormones within an hour of meeting with the doctor, and about 6 months later had a mastectomy. She (I say she bcuz she doesn’t identify as a trans man anymore) has since realized that it was not the answer for her after finally getting intensive therapy for the last 14 months. She quit the hormones, and regrets having her mastectomy, but thankfully she’s in a much better mental space than she’s been in quite a while. She has some lingering effects, like her voice, not sure if those will change over time tho since she was only on them for a little over 2 1/2 yrs. It’s just sad to know that if she were made to wait until AFTER she went thru that year of therapy before being allowed to transition medically, she wouldn’t be dealing with those effects and the loss of her breasts.

[@jojowynne233]

That was a sad and powerful story. He was misdiagnosed with GD due to everything that happened to him in his formative years. Alexis, when he had his God vision and he knew he’d be redeemed, I think you misunderstood what he meant. It seemed to me he was talking about being an alcoholic because he stopped drinking and we all know that damage’s relationships. He’d already been seeing a new therapist so he’d probably worked out he wasn’t trans when he said the yellow pieces of paper were burnt I think? You have a very kind heart lovely 🥰

[@r-platt]

He transitioned and that gave him gender dysphoria. His "coming to God" moment was because his dysphoria reached a climax where it severely damaged him as it does most trans people. He then PROVED transitioning works because he transitioned to male and his dysphoria stopped. I believe they neglected to mention: 1. Several doctors refused to help him transition. He had to search long and hard to find a doctor willing to help him. 2. He's gay. He (like so many others) figured being a woman would make him heterosexual. No more homophobia. And somehow that's medicine failing him. That was 1982. He wants people to believe medicine hasn't improved since then.

[@ajtommo]

I think that guy was a little brain washed as a child confused never actually wanting to be a girl. Alexis you really are the voice for the trans in Britain. Love you so much and wish you the best. P.s that top looked great on you x ❤

[@gerisnede7307]

I feel what he is saying is his interpretation,as a small child, of her words/actions towards him in a dress verse him as a little boy in boy clothes. So much, so many hours and days of words and actions we know nothing about, I feel it’s sort of like Jazz’s story; born a boy but not accepted as one by the most important parental figure one has, a mother and grandmother, what a bond is formed in the formative years. I could be wrong about this particular situation. 😆♥️

[@gerisnede7307]

The one thing I feel so many young people forget, don’t realize or just can’t fathom, were the restrictions, (un) education in the this area, medical resources ( limited need at the time, the entire flow of 99% of the population was very Christian based, born in 1960, radical changes in the 70’s and wow the 80’s, but through it all, that diversity straw is much like the carrot held in front of the donkey to make him change his stubbornness, but alas, the master, much like our government, always keeps that carrot just out of reach, so that poor donkey just moves forward without ever accomplishing more then his master, our government, allows. We are the beast - the government is our yoke.

[@Lucy_Isabel_78]

In the US it is extremely easy to get on hormone therapy. I remember bringing my daughter to a new doctor and her basically offering this to my daughter on the first visit! It shouldn't be that easy. It's something an individual has to have time to research and understand everything that comes with such a drastic change.

[@Briannadawn20]

Hey Alexis, for myself all I had to do is say I believe I am trans and my Dr prescribed estrogen without question. When I stopped and restarted 2 years later I went to a place that helps people who are transgender. I said I was trans women and have seen a therapist and they agreed. Was asked couple questions and prescribed estrogen and on follow up started on t blocker. And last follow up started on progesterone. And doing well with the medical transition.

[@dawnsheard4786]

To start with I want to say I love your channel I think we’re all here to learn something from you & I want to thank you for that ❤ but i think you missed the point a little bit. we have all seen on line parents who seem to be pushing a point ‘ all in ‘ my friend works with trans youth & she explains there’s no need to give yourself labels no one is pushing the point just trying to get children in a better mental state. We don’t know what’s happening in other parts of their lives family friends bullying we just need to give children the space to grow & what will be will be. Hope my word haven’t offended anyone because it’s the last thing I would want to do ❤

[@just_passing_through]

I don’t know whether this is appropriate or not… Nothing is innocent any more. I am a gay man, so I’m not sexually attracted to you in any way, if I’m even allowed to say that I don’t know. But you look really beautiful in this video. I love the way you’ve done your make up. There I’ve said it. If it’s wrong it’s wrong. Please take this as the totally innocent compliment thatI intended it to be.

[@Jgotmilk555]

Great video, Alexis! :) You're great representation for Trans Women! :)

[@TravelingwiththeGramkracker]

IMO he never had gender dysphoria. I heard his story before, I'm a 67 YO trans man. IMO I believe one is born with gender dysphoria, you don't get it or choose it.

[@r-platt]

I mostly agree. 1. Nearly all people who detransition are homosexual. This points to homophobia being the major underlying problem nobody wants to fix. 2. Transitioning gives non-trans people gender dysphoria because their body no longer represents who they are. They then PROVE the treatment works because they transition back and most of their issues go away. It's called "de-transition" but really it's *RE-transition* because they are doing it again.

[@charlesmorrill7226]

That man is so full of self hate. And it sounds like he always was. He's just deflecting it on others

[@MagicLights555]

This man's story is SUPER important, especially in the current context, where as soon as a child wears something that's considered to be of the opposite sex, or plays with an opposite sex toy, etc... the woke narrative pushes for immediate affirmation. This is so harmful, it should be criminal.

[@aliy4823]

Hmm, I took what he said a bit differently. I think when he said he reconnected with God, it was more a feeling of safety from all the abuse he'd suffered in his life, and the detransitioning was simply a side effect of feeling comfortable in his own skin. I don't think he was trying to be damning to trans people. It was just that in his experience, his transition was a trauma response and he had now healed that trauma. But that's my take on it. Love you either way Alexis, and keep sharing! x

[@dnbw1979]

You have to bear in mind, that the numbers of people identifying as trans has "exploded", therefore the numbers in detransitioning will also go up. So yes, a small percentage, but 0.1% out of 100.000 adds up.

[@chopstax]

That man has been relentlessly abused and manipulated by outside forces his entire life. Someone else telling him who he shall be seems to be the common string through his entire story: outside validation, outside invalidation. As unfortunate as that is, it is hard to take his words as anything other than a trauma response in and of itself. His desire to protect people from his own painful journey is understandable, though I find his method as potentially damaging as if he didn't speak at all. It is the exact flip of those who think there should be zero restrictions, and ultimately, I'm left wondering where his opinion would be if he received positive influence from an alternate point of view. The failure to realize that not everyone who chooses to transition has been abused, broken, or coerced is the wildest part. You can feel healed, be taught a conviction, and still be misguided. Much like how he wasn't actually transgender, but misdiagnosed and convinced. A lifetime of abuse, which he seems to imply he also subjected his wife and children to, truly a shame. I am glad he has found his peace, but he'd do well to not demonize those who have carved a different path.

[@vickieandrew1010]

Take a breath and give Liam a cuddle..❤

[@janebennetto5655]

Genspect- look up their recent conference. Detransitioning was put between 25-32%. This is unacceptable physically, mentally and fiscally. Thanks for the content. ❤🇬🇧

[@Alexis_blake00]

Wow thank you for letting me know, I defo missed the mark on the statistic and apologise! X

[@janebennetto5655]

Just found the talk - Detransition time bomb with Wilfred Reilly- Genspect Denver conference. Listen to the questions as there is a lady who got clear numbers from the USA armed forces. 🇬🇧❤

[@jennifermcmillan9518]

😂 I wish I could sneeze like that. I have this squeaky choo that is SO LOUD. I’ll hear my husband make the same sound right after. It’s hilarious.

[@shelleytremper5940]

Alexis you are stunningly beautiful!!! And you always wear the most amazing clothes, including today!!! And last but not least you are always right on with your commentary!! Love you!!

[@CircuitBird]

I feel like our transition paths were as different as they were similar. I would like to, one day, discuss my experiences with you and see how different our transition experiences were.

[@Mr_Justy]

Your audio sounds better! Soundin good!

[@Alexis_blake00]

Yay, thank you!

[@wondering_stars_in_oz8462]

I think his story is exactly why all of this trend of only affirming telling people who don't affirm they are committing a hate crime is going to end in disaster. This man needed careful treatment to even figure out what was going on with him before giving him the go ahead for surgery. Some psychologists who have spoken about the fact that gender confusion dosnt lead to adult transgenderism like 90% of the time, this needs to be figured out before mutilating kids and if that means we have laws creating a blanket ban on gender surgery for kids because people can't be responsible about this issue, then i support that. As for the religious side of the discussion, ideally you wouldn't feel like you needed to do such drastic things to your body, potentially steralising yourself, then God dosnt want that for you, Christians would pray that you can feel good in your body as it is without the lifelong medicalisation, that would be what we consider healing and redemption. I don't think anyone wants you all suicidal at the end of the day.....I think Christians need to consider their language and approach when discussing this though, i get that.

[@emilyevans6989]

At the end of the day everyone must do what they need to do to be the best version of themselves.

[@Alexis_blake00]

I agree :) x

[@simplypagans]

I wanted to let you know a couple of things, one, I think you are amazing and we have the same views on a lot of things, secondly, I am now living as Paige full time. Love you and Liam so much xxx❤Paige❤xxx

[@Alexis_blake00]

Thanks for sharing!! and awww ill be sure to show Liam this message, congratulations hun x

[@moosedawg71]

The process to transitioning in UK, is the way it USED to be in America, but now, you can essentially get HRT on your fist appointment with a gender specialist, especially if you're a minor. We have a LOT of children that are just going through NORMAL growing pains with feelings of "not fitting in" or feeling like you don't have friends, simply just not understanding what's going on with their bodies during puberty, teenage angst and all that, and NO ONE is explaining to them that a lot of these feelings and thoughts are NORMAL, and that puberty is TEMPORARY and they may feel differently later. Nearly everyone goes through these types of things during puberty. Instead our medical industry and mental health industry convinces these children AND their parents there is something WRONG with them and that becoming trans will fix it. So making them go through PERMANENT changes for a TEMPORARY period in their life, which is again, a NORMAL part of growing up. I'm not saying that some children aren't experiencing some sort of dysphoria, as Alexis herself can attest to, but in the US, the medical and mental health industry are SO quick to automatically assign just about everything to gender dysphoria. Girls who are tomboys are teased and told they need to become boys if they don't like traditional girly things. Boys are told they are trans if they like pink or don't like sports...it's become an absolute ABUSE of the medical system for profit and straight up child abuse IMO. Puberty blockers and teenage mastectomies are straight up child mutilation! I'm not even going to go there with parents in the TQ spectrum having kids and raising them without a gender or REFUSING to believe they had a child that is NOT an LGBTQ from birth. I feel a lot of these people are robbing children of their childhood and forcing gender issues on children WAY too early. Just LET THEM BE KIDS and when it's time, they'll figure it out and, heaven forbid, they turn out heterosexual and are fine with the sex they're born with. You don't need to FORCE it on them. And some parents are just plain sick and evil and selfishly raise their children as the opposite sex because they wanted a child of a specific sex and mother nature didn't play along...or worse yet, they want the "fame" from raising a transgender kid...Jazz Jennings comes to mind here.

[@LilLingLing6789]

Hey hun wow I made it through some tough subjects I usually can't get through... Your so lovely really

[@Alexis_blake00]

You got this! and thank you hun

[@horror-core]

An example of what you were talking about at about 16:55. There was a band from the 2000's that i really liked. Everyone really liked, and i listened to all the way up to 2 years ago until i read a book the singer wrote, and watched some interviews with her. She 100% believes in conversion therapy. That she saw jesus swoop down and cure her. She has outright said that God saved her from being bi-sexual and burning in hell. She won't allow her kids to take place in Halloween. They are not allowed to watch even any Disney movies that have witches in them. People need to consider the Wiccan religion, which is sort of a earth based religion and the people who practice it believe in healing, light, love and hurting no living thing. They want to help people overcome and help them rid themselves of negativity. Anyway you get the point. Anyway, i lost all respect for her. People will say someone has "drank the kool-aid" well, she really ended up drinking gallons of it. When they perform live now she will stop and preach on stage to an entire festival that just came to hear bands play. She sounds terrible now because her performace is now based on getting her message out to "save" everyone and convince them to repent. Not to put on a good show. A whole lot of the fans turned to her and started following her beliefs which are absolutely bigoted. In my opinion people like this go way too far and are blind to their hypocrisy considering what their bible says. Btw. The band is Flyleaf. If you know you know. Smh.

[@TiffsProduction]

1. I recommend watching Blair’s White’s interviews with detransitioners. I think that’ll give you more of what you’re searching for. 2. I can appreciate how the part of him being redeemed was hard for you; but to me it sounded more like redeemed from all of the trauma and bad choices he made because of it. Not transitioning specifically. But we all hear things differently because of our personal experiences and filters.

[@LovesGaming37]

A child should not be taught about gender identity or sexuality identity at 5 years old. It's ridiculous

[@naomipeverill7984]

Hi Alexis. I find your videos fascinating. I live in Leeds and would love to understand more. I’d say more but have bad arthritis in my hands and can’t type for long. Much love. X

[@Alexis_blake00]

Awww hope your hands feeling a little better - we actually just got back home from Leeds. We went for food with some friends. Thank you so much btw that's sweet