Storytime | Your coworkers are NOT your friends!

Hey everyone!
I am currently ending week 5 of my coding bootcamp and will have my review of the week up this weekend!
Since this is a tech x lifestyle channel, here is a video about the time my coworker took advantage of me!
Has this happened to you? Let me know in the comments below!
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Software Engineering Immersive Student at General Assembly
Current Location: Atlanta, Georgia
Education: B.S. and M.S. in Biology
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[@jamesreed2366]

No colleague is my friend. I will be supportive, approachable and will greet you in the morning, but I'm not accepting any invitation after work. There is no favoritism, you will get the same amount of treatment and respect as everyone else.

[@leighharwood916]

Precisely, when people mix work and pleasure lines often become blurred as a consequence. For some bizarre and unfathomable reason - many of my co-workers assume that because I do not socialize with them outside of work - therefore I am some type of anti-social loner type who is awkward and non-approachable. They cannot seem to grasp the fact that some people prefer to remain independent with respect to keeping a private life. You go to work because you're getting paid to do a job. You're not getting paid to socialize and buddy up with co-workers. This distinction seems self-evident to me.

[@jamesreed2366]

@@leighharwood916 yeah, you are absolutely right. Just because I'm reserved and more engaged with work doesn't mean I'm insecure or I have anything against my coworkers. When some coworkers try to engage with me, I just try to be polite and respond, but I try to cut the conversation short and get back to work. The last thing I want in the workplace is antagonism, so I do nice things for my coworkers like bake for them, and bring my freshly baked confections to the office.

[@biancaihua5841]

Right🤞.

[@biancaihua5841]

I remember a colleague that was so nice to me at first. I would help her do some stuff. But she just changed suddenly. She began insulting me. Gossiping about me. Lying against me and snitching on me. She'd literally go to my boss and tell her shitty things about me. Each time my boss was warning me in her presence, this colleague would interfere. It was so annoying. I wanted to do a lot of things to her, to make her pay for all she was doing to me. But it's not her fault. I shouldn't have been too friendly with her to the extent of telling her about my partner, my career prospects, family etc. This girl's a backstabber and pretender. I just had to take all in till I left that place. Again, it's my fault; I extended an arm of friendship. Your colleague may not be your friend. Don't tell them so much cos they'll use it against you.

[@jamesreed2366]

@@biancaihua5841 sorry to hear you went through all that. I hope you were able to recover and find yourself again. The only thing I regret when having those turn against me is being too patient. Just got to accept that people change and that's the way it goes, can't change them back to who they were, they are just going to go through phases.

[@TheRealDennisFamilyTV]

Every job I’ve ever been on I make sure that I don’t get close to my coworkers or managers. Growing up my parents, grandparents, and family always told me, that when I get a job is to work only. Don’t make friends and don’t tell anyone my personal business. As a 29 yr old I still live by this. People at your job will use the information you gave them against you. They only want to know your business because they don’t have any of their own to attend (in reality their lives are shitty) and/or they based your information on how they’re going to treat you. Never go to work to make friends. People at my job say all kinds of crazy things about me because I choose not to smile and Keke haha in their faces. I careless about you guys, I’m just here to make my money.

[@misstruth1115]

Preach!

[@starlightwhispers6781]

Keke 😂

[@deamateurjurist]

It is very generalizing to think that every colleague is a danger.

[@ISTHIStheKRUSTYKRABx]

periodddd

[@glendamcdaniel5725]

Exactly

[@LinhNgo-on2tv]

Coworkers are not your family. These are backstabbers

[@freddy_is_thetruth]

Snakes 🐍

[@deamateurjurist]

Not all of them.

[@jaymorgan.]

@@deamateurjuristMajority of them are.

[@TJDW]

@@deamateurjuristGood outlook, but be careful

[@anon2218]

Exactly

[@Ama28]

Your were not stupid, you were acting on the kindness of your heart. Just a lesson learned. People that take advantage, it will come back to them!

[@ctrlaltdenise8]

you are 100% right!

[@clutchinmypearls6490]

I have learned that we make mistakes when we THINK people have the same decency and values like ourselves. YOU wouldl not steal from people, but it dosent mean they wouldn't steal from YOU. I hate when people take advantage and they know thay are wrong.

[@JeMayaSye]

Hello

[@barbpaq]

​@@ctrlaltdenise8I'd love to know how you managed to work with that lady after the airpod incident. During COVID did you two continue being chatty. How did you part ways. Lessons learned.

[@jackcarraway4707]

Be stingier than Scrooge with your trust. Not just at work, but life in general.

[@LaNoire27]

I trust no one. Had too many issues with wolves in sheeps clothing.

[@haroldfridkis3536]

Being friends with coworkers should be against the law.

[@ctrlaltdenise8]

100% agree

[@jamesreed2366]

you're correct, no workplace should have nepotism.

[@brendaechols5929]

I never talk about my personal life at home to others.

[@OGfromQueens]

The only ex co workers I still affiliate with are ppl I served in the Army with!! They have my back in a REAL way!!

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

well then where the heck else are you supposed to find friends?

[@anon2218]

This just happened to me. I go to work, stay to myself and do my job. The boss called me in the office and wrote me up because the staff claims I disappear on the job and don’t help them. Moral of the story, people will talk about you either way. Can’t win for losing at these jobs.

[@1honeychild]

Never loan co workers money or do business with them

[@madameversiera]

Well, you shouldn't feel too bad, I was so naive enough to lend 400 euros to a "friend" which he promised he would give back of course....I never saw that money again. Be smart people, don't borrow stuff to random people...

[@lenebrantley221]

Your coworker never intended on paying for the IPods. What a deceitful person. Karma is always waiting.

[@Renzo_Anime]

You're right. Karma always come on the deceitful coworker, who pretend to get everything of what he/she want.

[@freddy_is_thetruth]

Thats at any job, part time or full time, degree or no degree, you are always watched and they can find anything to use against you

[@Ama28]

agreed..they are not your friends. learned it the hard way, years ago.

[@sharchannel1836]

Learned it the hard way a few days ago

[@freddy_is_thetruth]

Yup

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

so where do u make friends then?

[@adrukova1407]

I'm learning it right now..... all the people at work I thought were friends, are snakes, for no reason. I bought them cards, candy and little knick-knacks for each of their birthday meanwhile they couldn't even tell me hbd. Only one said it as an after-thought. It's so weird 😮

[@TJDW]

@@iiCounted-op5jxAnywhere but work. In a public restroom would honestly be a better place.

[@deebee8170]

Your coworker is a shitty person. She knew when she asked for those airpods she had no intention on paying. Some people are truly disgusting. This makes it so hard to trust people.

[@ctrlaltdenise8]

agreed!

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Thats why I don't ever accept this type of toxic behavior and I really wish that it wasn't a normalized

[@galaxyglitterlatte4664]

I have been working at a new job for a year and thought the people were great. Well guess what. I'm now seeing they aren't as great as I once thought. The gossip is ridiculous. Constant griping, bitching and backstabbing. But I think it's like this EVERYWHERE. It's human nature. It sucks.

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

If it were truly human nature, it would be your nature too. The fact that it isn’t and you’re unhappy like that, to me, shows that this isn’t a natural human instinct, it’s a learned behavior due to artificially scarce resources under capitalism

[@TheDarkHorseRides]

People forget that the work space is about power, position and money to many, thus making it a realm of human competiveness! They are not your friends, they are your competition rather you have realized it or not!

[@Mrs.TJ516]

So true! That’s why you never date nor make friends at work lol nothing wrong with being cordial.

[@carolynmerritt7100]

You were not stupid. Your coworker took advantage of a kind gesture from you. That's on her, this time. As long as you have learned, you've grown. then you're good.

[@Sheisme120]

It took me 27 years to finally realize befriending coworkers is rarely if ever a good idea.

[@JonelleElise]

You remind me of my friend and how she talks. I think you’re just naturally a nice person who assumes good from other people. I don’t think that’s a bad thing because it’s worse to always be suspicious of everyone and everything…BUT you do have to watch your back. Take care of yourself first. We’ve all been there and I’m glad you learned your lesson. Shame on that other girl!

[@Redds1111]

I had a similar situation. In my case I never ask for the money that was owed. I was cleared in my mind that I will never give money to that person again. And trust I was bless in the past.

[@ctrlaltdenise8]

I have learned my lesson.

[@laurenlocd3180]

They crack me up saying they will give it back lol.

[@glamgurl5618]

And that’s exactly why I don’t ask for favors at work because although I don’t mind, I just don’t want ppl asking me then trying to take advantage

[@theladyfe019]

You were so kind to her. I would’ve reported it to HR, bc most companies don’t tolerate that. OR Report them stolen…because they were.

[@clutchinmypearls6490]

Easy fix. Have the sheriff serve her ON THE JOB. The motivator for payement will be the embarrassment. She will pay you and her embarassment on the job will be priceless. Even if you spend xtra money to seve her it will be worth the show. TINK TINK

[@ryanramkissoon1630]

So why they always want social events like birthdays?? They seem to want to be friends

[@leenasandoval9994]

God showed you how she was in the beginning with that car situation we’ve all done stuff like that but you had a heads up before it even happened

[@Girlbenatural]

Nahhh she was never to be trusted from the beginning. She was showing you she was con artist from the beginning. Don’t worry karma get her back

[@thatlovegirl12]

Wow her credit must've been bad because Drivetime typically approves everyone

[@jasmineisshorter]

Lmaooo

[@heidimckeithan8160]

They tell you the truth you ladies are 100% right when you comes to coworkers and I learned that the hard way and because I looked at the hard way I’m cutting off these coworkers as much as I possibly can because I’m learning hard lessons and experience like they say is a good teacher and the best advice that I can give to anybody out here that’s questing in the back of your mind. What these videos the different ladies are saying about coworkers they’re right, keep your business to yourself your personal life to yourself and that’s the truth and itself.

[@henryferguson447]

I don’t help co workers at all I’m in and out strictly 😅

[@sensimania]

Right! I don't get close enough to them for them to feel comfortable enough to ask me for non-work related help

[@kittimoore9034]

And you learned she is a thief...thats her name..thief

[@ctrlaltdenise8]

RIGHT

[@beasaroseco5840]

Thank you so much for posting this, this is the info that I needed.

[@deanaderrick3474]

Yep. I ket a coworker "borrow" special cake knives for her wedding. She was gone from work within a month and Ill never see them again. Shot her a message, no response.

[@Sheisme120]

15:22 Sounds like she lied about her son losing the AirPod. Even if that was true, that should’ve been even more of a reason why she should feel bad and pay up. Unbelievable!

[@Corazanaoro]

She stold them, did not ever intend to pay u. Happened to me even with close fam.

[@aleayh]

That coworker would have gotten her ass beat ! I would have told her to meet me at my house I have a case for the AirPod . Once she came to my house I would have went in on her and claimed self defense because she’s on my property. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sensimania]

I like your style 😅

[@larry4657]

How the hell did we go from a friend buying a car at Drive Time to lost Air Pods all of a sudden. Get to the point!

[@sensimania]

​@@MrsBlackButterfly And something about CashApp, lol!

[@pamelabillings4293]

Thank you...I was thinking the same thing. She is all OVER the place. Just get to the point 🙏🏾 please.

[@AndreRosario-zm8pf]

🙏🙏🙏🌎 Thank you for this message. I always do the best to work in Silence.

[@uu99ful]

Agree

[@ononaokisama]

I don’t think it’s bad to say that you acted stupid during this interaction. You did but that’s not bad i act stupid my mama my dad my sister everybody does it sometimes. Its just a learning experience. And now your more experienced because of it.

[@ctrlaltdenise8]

Definitely!

[@Patricia-413]

I'm so sorry that hairbrush to you. You are NOT stupid! You are a kind, honest person who wouldn't do too antibes what she did to you. Lesson learned. I'm 64 yo and needed 😂 I just don't trust people. I have a very small circle of friends and would NOT want to be friends to any of my coworkers.

[@taurahelms3068]

Yea she was using you and never planned to pay you.

[@sunnyskys2428]

I'm sorry this happened to you.

[@TheresaMoore-o4t]

I asked a fellow employee if he could hold $20 for me untill next week. Knowing he needed it ....I had to ask for it back and he made me feel like he did me the favor. And he said anytime 😮

[@kckgirl78]

Lesson learned. Thanks for sharing! 😃

[@leenasandoval9994]

I get what you’re saying, and I am sure we’ve all been there before, but in scripture, it says if you see that somebody’s not paying credit to somebody else, don’t vouch for them

[@kellyt285]

I meant the co-worker who finessed you

[@1terriblesouthamerican134]

I had to be depressed to understand it, the millennials needed to make friendships with some people at the workplace because it was necessary for them, unless they were serving God and the true one not the “god we all serve” , Gen Z needs to watch their back for these things for them it’s going to be worse.

[@MrSwagnificentSpeaks]

You live you learn. That was a $150 lesson.

[@Emir3000]

I would have followed her home and flatten some tires or something. I would have gotten $75 from her somehow. lol.

[@JoseLopez-wb9kj]

You should do a video on Carvana you said you were going to do a story time on it and I haven’t seen that video. Can you share your story?🤣🤣

[@GullahGeecheeGeno]

Damn yo axx is long winded geesh😂

[@MyThoughtzAndOpinionz]

Small Claims courts can garnish wages if she still refuses to pay, including court fees.

[@Mrs.TJ516]

150 isn’t worth it lol

[@omegawicked1]

i just keep ppl arm length

[@ryanramkissoon1630]

This new girl now came. And already she want birthday cake and sports day

[@jasmineisshorter]

I befriend an older Black Woman at my weight loss gym. I’m sweet, kind and giving by a default. She called people “stupid nice” and meanwhile I didn’t know she lowkey including me in that! She took full advantage of me until I cut that shit off cold turkey. She also was weirdly jealous of me losing more weight than her, even tho I had/have more weight to lose than her. Heffa got the audacity to freak off on me via text because I wasn’t able to add her on my Costco account and that was the last straw for me. I was no longer “stupid nice” for her. It’s been 3 years now since I seen her and the other valley girls in that gym! Couldn’t care less whether she is still on earth or not… 💅🏽

[@Worldshottestpariah]

I been screaming that since day 1

[@AndreRosario-zm8pf]

🙏🙏🙏✝️🌎 Thank God I understand that I have to be responsible for myself and support my family and keep a roof over my head. Thank God I am healthy greatful to have a roof over my head. Be professional

[@EquineloveDisney]

I know it old co workers aren’t not your friends

[@Febreze99]

3rd excuse would've ended with hands, feet & elbows

[@brandycoke713]

You shoulda took her to court and sued her

[@C0ffeesip11]

I would've done the small claims just to prove a point😅

[@cahabadr]

My God you have nice teeth!

[@percubit10]

I had a friend in college who was always talking shit about me. he had no jobs and was living off of a family that supported him. It got to a point where I had to ti totally cut him off. later on, he sent me a text that I need to leave this country cause I was calling hos bullshit.

[@michellewaters7509]

So true 👍 again hood mood for sharing this

[@KantoCafe715]

What an interesting title. Subscribed!

[@Mr.Oct___]

Kool Screen Name...& No. They Are NOT Ur Friends. ..

[@officialpamipickle9261]

Your sweet , things had to happen to good people to know some people are full of 💩💩💩💩 lesson learn . Take care 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️ I got burnt also never again

[@virtualbutterfly99]

Some can be but not all

[@kyb2765]

Thanks for sharing 🌹

[@michellewaters7509]

Job right 💯 nothing personal business business ❤️

[@RockyJones-t8f]

Squash all that Tell her to meet you somewhere and bring cash that's it.

[@michellewaters7509]

Nope 💯💯

[@kellyt285]

🥴 she us a thief

[@BartendressTwin]

#Fact

[@michellegarcia7753]

Blah blah..traaaaa. good explanation.

[@7333Ktbbc]

Good vid and info. 17 mins is a bit long tho. Try for like 6-8 mins.

[@rong2393]

Most yall are law abiding citizens....me personally I would have got her robbed....

[@rhonnesanelms8969]

🤣🤣 You're funny 😅👍

[@ShawnMaxx]

Get to the point already.

[@TyroneCannon-b2u]

You talk to much

[@TJDW]

You talk alot of trash for someone with zero subscribers.

[@TyroneCannon-b2u]

@@TJDW I don’t need any subscribers I have a real life

[@staedlerok]

Lol what a racist:” she was black so that was also cool”