Straight Talk on Penis Size with a Gay Dude

[@the23rdbryan]

My life motto since1991 is "I would rather be rejected for who I am than to ever be accepted as someone I am not". I'm 50 and have always been very petite and feminine by nature. I'm called "sir" and "ma'am" pretty much every time I'm in public. Neither one is better than the other. Although many people see "female" I personally have no need to change my body parts, some people do. My size is proportionate to my body and have never had a complaint. My hope in sharing this is to tell anyone to be who you are. The size of a mans penis is no match to the size of their character and honesty of self. Thanks for sharing this video. I'm definitely a new subscriber and will watch the content !!

[@Tiqerboy]

I get lots of junk mail from the Scientologists who want to sell me the way to happiness but as you said, happiness is something you find from within.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Amen!! And ha… yeah…I’d throw those pamphlets to the wayside

[@jamesrobiscoe1174]

From my experience, happiness is not a goal we do things to obtain but rather how we feel along the way when we do things for the right and true spirit.

[@JackgarPrime]

I literally had a scientologist come up to me last night and tried to hand me a pamphlet. He was very polite, but I was still like "Naaaah, bro."

[@nannoc3297]

As a member of the average to smaller average this video was very enlightening. I'm a bigger guy 6'1 and 320lbs but my gf seems completely happy with my size. I can't agree with the message of this more, you sound like you have truly found happiness, keep living your best life, and spreading acceptance of unique beauty. :)

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe, thank you, buddy. That was a lovely message to receive. Best wishes to you!

[@Scottspa]

Thank you so much for your video. I am a 58 year old gay white male , I am overweight with lots of health issues. A lot of times I feel like I don’t deserve to be loved but my husband is always telling me that he loves me and I sometimes feel like why are you with me. I came out 8 years ago and I was in much better shape then now I look in the mirror and go , what the hell happened to me. I’m battling a terminal illness, have fought brain tumors on and on. But after listening to your video I feel better about myself. Thank you very much.

[@athleticau9069]

Phenomenal!! Every gay/bi/trans man in the world should see this! For some older generations, might take longer to absorb and accept. I wish every gay/bi/trans man in their teens and 20s had to watch this before going out or online or anything. Hear it, absorb it, believe it!! Thanks for posting! Amazing! And your approach and voice is on point! So warm and welcoming. Thank you for posting!

[@EcstaticSelf]

You're very welcome! Thank you so much. I am so glad you enjoyed it :)

[@chicomacdonald7843]

Hey straight guys should see it too. They obsess about their cock size too.

[@peruvianauthorities1739]

Whoa - "some older generations, might take longer to absorb and accept" That's quite ridiculous of you to type! Btw, where do you fit in with this comparison?

[@ak5659]

@@peruvianauthorities1739 Just guessing, but he might mean that older generations might have more years of brainwashing to overcome, that's all. Again, that's just my inference.

[@hikazayanikushi9086]

Can I just say this is extremely beautiful. I really do appreciate the maturity, the depth and the life messages that you’ve talked about in this video. It’s not only surface level opinions people have have about dick sizes, but it’s also explaining the reason why people feel a certain way and metaphorically, it feeds my soul.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe, you are very welcome, Hikazaya. I am so glad you found it meaningful. It’s a pleasure to offer it up and connect with you.

[@gminik66]

This video was completely unexpected, but I'm grateful to the mysterious logic of KZbin's algorithm, that brought it to me. I'm happy to discover that even among the gay community (i'm in it) there are people that look at things and human relationships in such a wise and balanced perspective; that was so touching for me. A huge thank from Italy!

[@EcstaticSelf]

You’re very welcome, Giuseppe. I’m so glad you could hear and resonate with it. Much love to you!

[@billyhorn5345]

All I will say for now is that I enjoyed this video. I accidentally ran across one of your videos and it led me to watch a couple of them, including this one. I think it would be something to know you personally as a friend. I really like your personality and demeanor. They say acceptance is the key to be truly free. Approaching 57 yrs of age, I have never reached that point of life. Thank you for what you do. Take care and be safe. 🙂

[@StevenCiceron]

I am not sure of your training, but you have a great way of explaining things and you make a lot of sense. Bravo!

[@EcstaticSelf]

I appreciate that! Thank you so much :)

[@cantordavid613]

This is perhaps the most spiritually validating discussion about gay sex coupled with self-worth and combating feelings of sexual inadequacy I have ever encountered. Yasher kō'ah! (awesome job!)

[@EcstaticSelf]

Oh, wow. Quite the high praise. Thank you, David 🙏🏼

[@cantordavid613]

@@EcstaticSelf, you're quite welcome 😁

[@rodneybaptistejr1908]

Talking about your husband just made me cry. Thank you for sharing.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. You’re very welcome!!

[@staceybirke3476]

Your amazing you are a beautiful soul an I love the way U talk about your husband that is pure true love an we all need to stop being so shallow an love like that. This world would be a much better world. Thank you was amazing keep up the good work xxx

[@EcstaticSelf]

My pleasure, Stacey. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment. Blessings to you!

[@keithblevins5093]

Thank you. This is the most heartfelt, and meaningful video I have ever watched. I hope I find a man with the kindness that you obviously have. You really have made me feel better about myself. Be well, and please continue with your videos.❤

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. My sincere pleasure, Keith. I wish that for you as well. Also…I see your profile pic. “Panda” is my nickname xox

[@anthonydidato5855]

Just discovered your video - the end of your video made me cry - which is a good sign. Looking for the positive energy of a person is what counts. I often forget that - thank you for reminding me of my own beauty and the beauty of others around me.

[@EcstaticSelf]

My sincere pleasure, my brother. Thank you for watching until the end. I’m so glad that it spoke to you!!

[@wjuliangancarz7228]

​@@EcstaticSelf it is easier for you to say this and talk about this, but since you or your boyfriend or above average, you really don't understand how people feel who are just average or slightly average.

[@yazz2jazz313]

lol...I like how no topic is off limits. Its great to be able to feel comfortable and have these discussions.

[@EcstaticSelf]

We absolutely should be having open and non-judge mental talks about these things.

[@robertperez6106]

I SOOO NEEDED TO HEAR THIS✨🙏thank you oh soo much!!!!

[@EcstaticSelf]

I’m so glad it spoke to you

[@edcastrillon787]

I just discovered your channel yesterday. This is powerful stuff you’re doing here. Important work. Thank you❤

[@dougpettey7144]

Thank you! I'm not a fan of the word, "enough," but that's on me. I understand you use it as an affirmation, and accept that. So, thanks, again, for this video! Subscribed, today.

[@EcstaticSelf]

🙏🏼❤️

[@drewrathbone7857]

Personally I find the affirmation “enough” to be a great way of self acceptance. I accept that I am “enough” the enoughness is merely a shortcut removing all of the numerous qualifiers that clog and weigh down my inner conversation. If I, with total vulnerability, and acceptance of what IS, can say I am enough, it then allows me a base upon which to grow, to improve. Today I’m good enough, tomorrow I will endeavour to be a little better.

[@dougpettey7144]

@@drewrathbone7857, thanks for the interaction! As I said, my struggle with the word is just that, "my" struggle. I do understand and appreciate what it means to others, I just wish there was a different word - concept, even - to identify my being. It will be interesting to explore this as I progress on my spiritual journey. Thanks, again!

[@francopena627]

All I have to say is WOW!!! Not certain as to why this was a suggestion either, but so very glad it was. I am going to follow now, and I browsed some of your vids tittles, and they seem quite interesting. Cant wait to start to watch them all. Thanks for sharing yourself. Much blessings your way! Namaste !!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Many blessings, Franco. Thank you for sharing your experience. I am glad it spoke to you!

[@antm64]

As long as "Spock's biological function" is delivered, size doesn't make any difference. Thank you for this honest, realistic delivery of information...much appreciated!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Thanks for watching!

[@peruvianauthorities1739]

I think you should repeat this - however not with paper examples - but with real men with those sizes!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Haha. Probably not on KZbin… but I hear ya!

[@luisbeltran9604]

Although I am lost in translation... well that was interesting. It is somewhat true, that we do tend to look for the size, yet I am more in the direction and conformity of thickness rather than length. As I became much older in age and less activity but camaraderie, then again it never dies. I used to think that territory on bleeding after sex was... me been alpha and after ten or more years it become more automatic rather than lust for it. Personally, I guess I really arrived to my final station in life. Everything change with time, no more altruism and guesses for that is who I am on that department. Since I'd been station in one lane for so long, it comes automatic. Congratulations.!! Your eyes draw me to your attention plus your soft voice. Keep the good work and as always chin up. Greetings from Puerto Rico.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Blessings to you!

[@willynilly2545]

To me, the shape is more important than size. I've dated 10 inches before. It's amazing but after the initial amazement wore if it was like, "what am I even supposed to do with this?"

[@EcstaticSelf]

Ha. I hear that.

[@solinterior]

Thanks Kae, beautiful perspective!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@michaelnagle9231]

Bottom line, Number one is elusive. Once you get there it is very hard to maintain that level. Be happy with yourself, love yourself, do the very best that you can all of the time. Be humble and loving. Look for sustainable qualities that will go the distance. Looks change, we get older, things stop working the way that they used to.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Amen to this! Well said

[@jamesgladden6618]

I was always happy with my size never complained and always happy with the size of whoever I was with I know there are people who do think about that but I never did so I was very happy with me and the other people thank you

[@EcstaticSelf]

That’s awesome to have such good self regard!

[@JL-re1rx]

Maybe stretch your thinking about scruff etc…you can make platonic soul friends via apps - to label them as “only for hookups” is not enjoying them for their good value of platonic friends…bc you can’t force “chemistry” hence, m&f platonic friends.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Absolutely. I’ve met wonderful people on those apps.

[@gabeescoto6590]

Thank you for this video. I always dress to the right and both females and males always looked and made nice compliments.

[@vaughanbaker1177]

Beautiful commentary and guidance. Thank you!

[@EcstaticSelf]

You're sincerely welcome!

[@protegemoi9819]

It’s about the passion in the person.

[@jockstrap6179]

Love this video. Words of wisdom delivered in an amusing, calm, measured way. And with perfect clarity, too. 👍 You're a brick! Your husband's a lucky guy.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you so much for your kind words and willingness to engage. Also...not entirely sure what "brick" means...but I will take it!

[@jockstrap6179]

@@EcstaticSelf 'Brick' is an English idiom; it means 'solid, reliable person'. There are various meanings, all comlpimentary, but this is the one I had in mind. Stating the bleeding (another British idiom) obvious, I'm a Brit. 👍

[@noahvasquez8777]

Love your vids, and your reddit! Keep it up.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Thanks so much, Noah!!

[@sp503075]

Beautiful. Thank you.

[@Jordan-pf9ws]

It's very interesting how the transman community have adopted allot of these issues about size of bottom growth and surgery sizes

[@EcstaticSelf]

It’s true. I’ve heard that doctors often need to talk them out of getting hugely oversized members.

[@trenttrent3228]

It’s a trap it’s never big enough even when your big. I’m 7.3-7.5 and I’m still insecure

[@abrad3061]

Great video every young man should watch this.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Glad you found it meaningful!

[@turbobrain1342]

I do wish there was a friend to talk to about his penis when I have those insecurities. He never exists. Ever.

[@starryknight437]

Amazing and inspirational...Thank u!

[@alexnmark64]

I have had self esteem issues my whole life because of having a small penis. My husband of 25yrs doesn't care but I still do.

[@EcstaticSelf]

I hear that, my friend

[@FINEDIAMOND]

This was a very poignant, eye-opening conversation! Thank you for putting it all in perspective! You are so beautiful and intelligent!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. Thank you very much, my friend. Blessings to you

[@FINEDIAMOND]

@@EcstaticSelf: You too! You're welcome.

[@Ozen30776]

Well is harder to get used to it when is to extremely big... So if is nice size or normal thats nice to big is really not that comfortable lol depends also your hole size to some guys are smaller then other in that department... but over all i think all that matter is the type of man u have in ur life... how he treats you

[@EcstaticSelf]

Amen to that!

[@leeboriack8054]

Gay culture can often be our biggest enemy. Thank you for taking the time to create this video.

[@EcstaticSelf]

My pleasure, brother.

[@carlorizzo827]

Thank you! Uh hunh, interesting. Would you hold it against me🤣if i reminded everyone the actual grammatically correct plural of penis is not penises, but "penes", as it follows the pattern of words like crisis/crises, thesis/theses. "Penes" sounds like baby talk, so penises it is. Languages evolve

[@EcstaticSelf]

You made me smile! 😃😃😃 And yes - our lovely English language has as many exceptions as there are rules

[@PUAlum]

Why are exaggerated reports of penis size so popular in the gay community in particular? they seem so self defeating. I guess that could be said of many facets of our general standards of beauty? I..e. how many men or women closely resemble the ideals? We've evolved ideals that leave more and more of us all way below the mark. It's interesting to compare American and UK television shows; Americans seem to hire more actors that are attractive; Brits seem to prefer "average" joes (and janes).

[@amadkenali8027]

Hhh your clip is really enjoyable 😉

[@EcstaticSelf]

Glad you enjoyed

[@Tonytrekdax]

Great content

[@VladimirBlarp]

7 inches is fine for using the mouth, even 8 is nice. Anything more seems like a chore

[@juanrodino4219]

Simplemente GRACIAS.

[@EcstaticSelf]

De nada

[@AbelDavila-j2c]

Thank you

[@toddgraber3675]

Interesting and informative. Interesting specifically because of perspective. In ancient Greek time, a large penis was seen as undesirable as it resembled those of animals - horses, dogs and the like. This is reflected in the sculptures and paintings of the masters. David!?! So when did this shift towards coveting a larger penis come about? hmmmm

[@riverp9019]

I don't think porn is "a wonderful extrapolation of reality" most often it's a vile abusive distortion of reality that encourages people to believe sex is a vile abusive act, particularly vulnerable age groups. Of course it need not be and I'm not anti-pornography at all, it's just there is hardly any good pornography that makes one feel the emotions and joy, surprise, ecstasy. It's not even about the intimacy so much though that is of course important. The act itself is either just so incredibly dull or alternatively abusively portrayed. Meat either way. Both straight and gay.

[@MrJohnblaine]

Loving you 💓

[@EcstaticSelf]

😘

[@thomasmadonna1796]

Thank you!

[@EcstaticSelf]

You’re very welcome

[@jasonsubhan8479]

The background music is unnecessary and distracting.

[@MikeHoughtonasUnit8720]

In ancient times smaller was better and bigger was gross

[@EcstaticSelf]

That’s very true! In Ancient Greece, they made fun of other cultures for having oversized members

[@marksalerno3478]

Thank you

[@grandudetonesnob7107]

I'm guessing some are using the A to B standard of measure, otherwise known as asshole to belly button.🤔

[@EcstaticSelf]

🤣🤣

[@wavelyholmes7133]

Beautiful thank you

[@EcstaticSelf]

Welcome 😊

[@stevelukoski7152]

My urologist says i'm average. I measure erect 6 inches. Guess im just normal.

[@SailorGreenTea]

6:53, Macron!

[@ahmedkh7836]

Love

[@alvarogarcia6319]

It's a package for both sexes. But especially LGBTQlX-PAN. Who are 110% strictly a bottom. Straight men & women & LGBTQ. Its is the "looks" that attracts you first. Then when you start meeting the person. And you realize. You don't like there personality. Their ideas. How they think about certain subjects. Maybe they are: Arrogant, Self-Centered, Egotistical, Shallow, materialistic. And you don't like that or if you are like that: & you like guys like that: you might be a "match". And that goes for "Straight" attraction also. I had a co-worker (Female) at work. That she said to me she had to see the "member"(of course months in the relationship to the "next level". So he won't think she was easy!)She said: not that it had to be large. But she had to like it. Before she continues the relationship(Sounds Familiar?) The "Package" for both (in my opinion is Beauty is in the eye of the beholder then.) They wanna know like "Elite Singles" 1)What are you studying 2)What are your goals. I am Gay. 3)What kinda car you have. 4)Are you gonna buy a House. 5) Are you a Top or a Bottom. 6)Where do you work. 7)What do your Parents do for a living. They would ask me all of this on the first date! But sometimes I say if the "Sex" "Love Making" does not work. Nothing works! But like they say you can't "live on love❤alone"! This also goes for Heterosexuals also. And 110% Bottoms might let some things slide. If they like "the subject you're talking about" even women. (But we all know in dating when we are being used) It happened to me a typical tall skinny guy. But when they ran with the list of questions. I did not fit the "package" except for the "subject".(Yes all guys add an inch!) I think I was Handsome & had a good heart. And more positive things. But not a workout body. Also I don't drive. So for a gay "date" we have to go in "Separate Cars"? Btw I did not fit the whole package. Nobody wanted me of both Sexes! But guess what: At a relatively young age I don't have a mtg anymore! So it was there loss not mine. And a group of friends are 6six feet under. After having survived a dangerous decade. So I have a lot to be thankful. I am so glad for you that you found happiness! I am just happy to be Alive! And have good health the most important thing in life!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Thank you, my friend. Many blessings to you!

[@SailorGreenTea]

1:18, well...

[@ryanscottlogan8459]

Now you know we all want to see your big tool.☺️

[@EcstaticSelf]

Lol. It’s not that hard to find online…

[@nuyourrican]

What’s his name?

[@goldfinger1970]

My husband and I don’t connect with men in the gay community at all.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Ha. I hear ya.

[@neptuneamaru5649]

Straight black man here, I've never heard someone say that I could be sexy and beautiful no matter your body size, shape, gender expression, etc. Thank you.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Of course, man!

[@hookbeak3516]

You're such a warm & welcoming person, I love how you turn the basics into the spiritually beautiful: Empowering those who secretly live with self doubt, that seems to hang over them like a dark cloud. I shared the moment of meditation, & felt at peace with your concepts that resonated within. Your home environment mirror's the mood, the soundtrack echoes your message... "namaste" I lower my head & shoulders to you in respect.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. Blessings to you!! I’m so glad you felt that, and that it spoke to you in that way!

[@andreastrom6106]

They should show this video to high school health classes. How amazing would it be to get rid of that self worth measuring mentality in the next generation. Maybe it wouldn't change over night but to even just recognize what your doing to yourself is a big step on the way to changing how you think. Totally agree about the energy you vibe with has nothing to do with the package its in too. Thank you for making this

[@EcstaticSelf]

My sincere pleasure!

[@andreastrom6106]

@Caligula Orgy 🤣🤣 well I'm female....

[@andreastrom6106]

@Caligula Orgy Me personally I've never cared about other women's boobs. We complain about them or the torture devices called bras sometimes but I wouldn't say that's all that often. I dont think I've sat down with a bunch of women and said hey how do you feel about boobs lol. Like do guys talk about and discuss theirs? Unless your at the gym and working on your chest id think they mostly go unnoticed right?

[@lynnpalmquist4410]

Gross. Just gross.

[@flyjet787]

Really helpful. The trick for me is staying mindful of great advice like yours. I feel mentally lazy because I let the old thought patterns (tapes) just run - it's almost unconscious and SO ingrained. I have lived my 52 years in shame. I am deeply ashamed of my body, lack of financial success (whatever that is), and the fact that at this point in life I find myself friendless. Friendless not for being unkind or unloving. Friendless because I'm so deeply shy I don't reach out to others - I wall myself up for fear of being rejected/embarrassed/ashamed. I recently joined a gym to improve my health but that dark side of me wants to take over and workout in order to look "better" or to look handsome/hot. And as you say and I know so well from past experience, no matter how hard I lift weights, no matter how much muscle I gain or weight I lose I will still feel ugly. And there's nothing I can realistically do to improve MY member, which is 5"X5" - very much the lowest end of normal. (The first 3 people I was ever intimate with shamed me about my dick.) The only upside to that is In the 1980's when I was in my teens and early 20's, I didn't mess around with very many other men because of my insecurity about my dick. This was a good thing because I feel pretty certain it saved me from AIDS (which killed 100% of its victims back then). I don't wish to demean your excellent video by harping about self-esteem problems. I will re-watch and subscribe an try to be more mindful of my thoughts. Thanks for your YT work - it will help lots of people.

[@Manzartr]

My first time seeing/hearing you. I am so impressed by your honesty, both about yourself and what you see around you. I've subscribed.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe awe. Thank you so much!!

[@keithMc35]

This goes deeper for me than you know bro, it’s something I think about constantly and have since I hit puberty, it’s become toxic thinking for me sometimes, horrible feeling “Less Than” or ‘Not Man Enough”.. You’re awesome mate, this made me feel temporarily better. ❤️💯👍🏼🙂

[@EcstaticSelf]

I’m so glad, Keith. Many blessings to you-may you find confidence and peace. xo

[@WilliamJulienNkogheOlympio]

Also, "big" is relative. What is big to some may be just average or small to others. And vise versa

[@EcstaticSelf]

Amen! Perspective in life is everything. One person’s rich is another person’s poor. One person’s feast is another’s bare necessities.

[@johniii8147]

Yep it's all relative. My best gf is dating someone now and she said he was HUGE. She finally sent me pic of it and no darling that is not HUGE..lol. Apparently her last bf of like 4 years on the small side so she definitely got a surprise with the new one. I thought the whole thing was funny as hell. She's not like most of gay guys that lost count of our number of partners. Just open wide you'll be fine.

[@EcstaticSelf]

@@johniii8147 OMG. I love this scenario. Haha

[@johniii8147]

@@EcstaticSelf Good for her. Seems to be a good guy from what i've heard and met. She was just funny how big she thought it was. He is pretty hot so good for her. Finally got rid of the loser ex and moving on to better things.

[@victorkd9926]

I don’t like them big, 6 inch is the perfect size IMO

[@johniii8147]

If you're going to take in the butt their riming skills are key, regardless of size.

[@seth4914]

@@johniii8147 😂

[@chocobeachboy1]

I love the segue into self love and acceptance! That’s what matters the most and as a community we need to wake up to the divinity within us no matter what we look like on the outside.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Absolutely, my friend. 100% agree!!

[@alexbrisbane3050]

great meditation at the end, empowering us to feel good about ourselves !

[@marccheban194]

I am overwhelmed by your Divinity! You have the Love, the Power, the Wisdom and the Patience of the Universe living in you. Who uses the term 'Sentient Being' these days? How powerful the phrase 'Every Sentient Being is worthy of Love, of Acceptance'! In a short 20'44" video you have combined the best of Minister, Budda, Counsellor, Psychologist, Friend, Lover, and Healer. How amazing a person you are. Thank you for channelling your Divinity to the masses. Thank you for Loving all of us into acceptance of the perfect beings we have been made to be. Thank you for calling us to universal acceptance of all beings. With my Love, Marc Cheban

[@EcstaticSelf]

Oh my goodness Marc. THANK YOU so much for such kind, thoughtful, and encouraging remarks. So much love and well-wishes to you, my brother. NAMASTE ✨

[@JL-re1rx]

Maybe stretch your thinking about scruff etc…you can make platonic soul friends via apps - to label them as “only for hookups” is not enjoying them for their good value of platonic friends…bc you can’t force “chemistry” hence, m&f platonic friends.

[@freelightexpress]

This was most excellent, and love the meditation at the end. - subscribed.

[@EcstaticSelf]

So glad you enjoyed!

[@Amar-bl5no]

Whats that nasty background music...cant u see its distracting and irritating

[@JL-re1rx]

THANKS! Spiritual and all affirming words always beautiful and seemingly scarce in this world. My billion dollar poetic and beautiful English language gift to you is : Never end a sentence or question with the word “at” or any preposition. Heartfelt thanks for your morning meditation today (latter part of this video). Much love, peace, fun, and confidence

[@EcstaticSelf]

Peace and love to you!

[@rubenceballos6760]

As a Latino I can relate to bfs culture it's norms on society. Particular when it comes to my small penis size and the difficulty I have accepting or embracing it. Thank you for such a powerful video perhaps it would help me begin the healing process. Although I have a long way to go because I am not even out of the closet. Thanks again for a wonderful video.

[@EcstaticSelf]

My sincere pleasure, Brother! Many blessings to you on your healing journey.

[@brianfloyd5510]

"If someone has one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow then that person is pissing all over today." Likewise, suffering yesterday and suffering again tomorrow means that today has not been taken advantage of very well either. In my humble suggestion, I encourage you to work on being honest with your own self, loving yourself, and doing so whilst you are living life today. It may take a while and you might have to learn a lot of new lessons about life. However, the sooner you start the sooner you can find yourself and end that suffering. All of the best energy to you!

[@rubenceballos6760]

@@EcstaticSelf thank you

[@RNRetired]

You are so incredible. Please continue, thank you!

[@abidc9568]

Just Awesome, dude! I am leaving a comment now after watching the whole clip. The explanation, your demeanor, your voice, the kindness you show is very rare. Thank you for spreading the good word! Thank you so much!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. Thank you so much, Abid! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️

[@peterluisvenero]

You’re one of the most authentic people I’ve found on the tubes! The men’s community needs more like you. Thank you! Subscribed.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. Thanks so much, man!! That means a LOT 💚

[@dwaynegrobinson4125]

"I at my essence am not good enough." Wow. So profound. This has been the biggest challenge of my life. Self acceptance with things that cannot be changed. Just discovered your page today. New sub here. Thank you for this. You're also beautiful.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Wonderful! Thank you for your kind words.

[@danielhorvath9563]

You honestly are amazing, I am new to your channel and can't wait to see all the positive things you have created.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. Thank you, Daniel. That’s very kind of you to say!! 🙏🏼❤️😘

[@AustinRoberts88]

I LOVE this so much, I recently got out of a very confusing relationship and this was so encouraging

[@EcstaticSelf]

I’m so glad it was helpful to you, Austin. Blessings to you and find balance again after that trying time

[@AustinRoberts88]

@@EcstaticSelf I have!!! I'm starting my own business again but this time something I really want to do that I'm passionate about. And I'm motivated to love myself now and not betray who I am. ❤️❤️❤️. It's encouraging me to actually be more vulnerable so I can encourage others like you have done. Sending you lots of love and hugs!!!

[@isabellsheehan5307]

I love the message, I hope it reads true for many people, that they open their hearts to learn to appreciate and love themselves.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Amen! 🙌🏼

[@Foxfire99]

The meditation part brought a smile to my face and happiness inside my heart! Really well put video, Thanks!

[@EcstaticSelf]

So glad that it did. Thanks for watching all the way through!

[@SculptyWorks]

I have absolutely no idea why KZbin recommended me this video, my recommendations are usually about crafts and arts. Maybe it's because I've been watching nature videos? 😉 Whatever the case, it's a great video! Good job addressing such a mythicized and stigmatized topic! I hope more people see it! 👍👍 ❤❤❤

[@EcstaticSelf]

Thank you so much, my friend! Many blessings to you.

[@chocobeachboy1]

Omg! I was not expecting the meditation at the end!!! Love it!!!! You are an example of where gay culture should be going...more spiritual, more self love, more accepting. 🙏🏿❤️

[@EcstaticSelf]

Awe. Thank you so much!! I’m a big believer that we queer people have a profound ability to hold love and acceptance for ourselves and others ... we just need to tap into it! We can be the healers, the shamans, the sages of the world

[@chocobeachboy1]

@@EcstaticSelf Absolutely!!! I believe we embody both masculine and feminine energies exceptionally well.

[@allaboutsprinting]

Feels like I went to therapy 😊thank you!

[@EcstaticSelf]

My sincere pleasure!

[@danielwalshsr6942]

I wish you were around 74 years ago when I finally realized I was different but had to hide my being. Love that I found your videos and want to watch them all. Peace to you and all your followers and anyone who struggles with who they are. Remember to love yourself and love others. I’m finally learning to love myself.

[@whodahellru8124]

Came from *Reddit* ... you’re _very_ modest. Subscribed

[@EcstaticSelf]

Lol 😂 🤣

[@whodahellru8124]

@@EcstaticSelf 😂😂 Honestly though, you’re a breath of fresh air in this toxic world right now! Keep it up, the content is pretty good!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Thanks man! I’m trying to offer the best I can. And to try to keep young the quality of what I offer the world 🌏

[@iancolePRD129G]

Great look at the wider determinants that affect us as men, thank you

[@EcstaticSelf]

My sincere pleasure!

[@nodoboho]

You are *lovely* ! Those bedroom eyes, that skin, that perfect grooming, that voice. If I was bi, I'd want a guy like you, but I'm a gay girl. You got a sister?

[@EcstaticSelf]

Haha. No sister. And thanks, considering I only get a haircut once every other month and take about 15 seconds on grooming my hair :-P

[@charliewilkins8888]

I hope you do more videos.... I found it very spititual.

[@matthewmcdearmont9667]

This was a nice surprise. Your voice is so comforting. Thank you very much for something far better than I expected.

[@EcstaticSelf]

You’re very welcome, Matthew. Glad you enjoyed!

[@brianlavigne596]

It's nice to hear a very intelligent perspective on this topic. Gay men don't really have role models. They don't rise above the sex trap and look for something more meaningful in a person than what they see. For many reasons men don't want to have or express emotion, and this only inflates men into becoming promiscuous. Love is the greatest feeling any person can feel, and it's sad that men don't want this. And then there's the expectations that men have when looking for someone, and it's mostly physical. We, as gay men, have created our own burden of having and looking for physical attributes which devalues men of having any worth other than just a vehicle to get off. It's sad that we treat each other this way. Learn to love and you can learn to find out what real happiness is!

[@anthonymeans9702]

Well said !

[@davidrodger2633]

Wonderful video. One quick cheap way. If you feel you want to look bigger. Is to simply trim your public hair. It visually makes a difference. Obviously it doesn't actually increase the size. Dxx

[@EcstaticSelf]

Good note!

[@JackgarPrime]

I've always been nervous about doing that. I know its totally fine if you know what to do, but it still makes me anxious thinking about blades near my junk.

[@ak5659]

@@JackgarPrime NO! NO BLADES!!!!!!! Clippers with guards! and there're electric shavers specifically designed for body hair. There's a lot on this topic available online. Google is your friend.

[@wolfwood2743]

I haven't watched you in a bit because I have been busy because of school but I love the camera that it is clearer and the lighting! Also the transition/opening was nice!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Glad you’re enjoying the changes!

[@wolfwood2743]

@@EcstaticSelf I do man! Keep it up!

[@EcstaticSelf]

Will do!

[@johniii8147]

My husband falls in the mr large category. Fortunately he's mostly btm other than 2 or 3 times a year. He has to get me a little drunk to take that when that rare mood hits. Fun to play with though. I was was definitely surprised the first time I saw it a full mast.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Sounds like fun!

[@johniii8147]

It's an interesting topic . He was actually insecure about being too big as a btm. He had experiences prior that when other guys saw his dick they suddenly wanted him to top them. Was a big turn off for him. I'm like nope i'm all about your great ass..lol. He works hard on that and it's definitely appreciated.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Nice

[@ForgeMasterXXL]

@@johniii8147 I can definitely agree with that statement, several times I’ve had hookups where I intended to bottom (which is not very often for me) and when we get to the naked part suddenly they want me to top, even if the have a large member themselves.

[@jorgejavier4065]

Thank you for your honesty and authentic view of true love for ourselves.

[@EcstaticSelf]

My sincere pleasure, brother

[@johnnyfantaztic7286]

you voice is a comforter on a cold night. excellent communication and speaking cadence.

[@EcstaticSelf]

Thank you so much, Johnny. 😘😘😘

[@mnh1956]

I agree with the statement, "Love yourself" Love your self uncunditionaly, be your own best friend, be your own lover, & be yourself, do not be what you think a gay person should be, be yourself

[@EcstaticSelf]

🙏🏼❤️✨🌈 Amen!