Black women ain't emotional punching bags... some of us aren't "strong".
@Monrentho20084 жыл бұрын
NONE of us are continuously strong, every human have their “moments” of strength, black women included.
@angelofscorpio4 жыл бұрын
Thank you 👏🏾
@lvjonjon2154 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry for calling y’all strong.
@heykayrenee_4 жыл бұрын
Yes ma’am!! ☝🏾
@xanthra5924 жыл бұрын
I need therapy lol TBH
@dayum_mi4 жыл бұрын
I’m strong because I’m forced to be strong. Not because I want to be. I want to be soft. How I was intended to be
@Nekole14 жыл бұрын
I agree, I am with you.
@QueenTici4 жыл бұрын
You're not alone, Sis. I'm KNOWN for my strength... that alone shows how many traumas I've survived. It's exhausting and spiritually draining, despite the wisdom that can be obtained from it. Blessings to you, and all reading. 💖 (Edited for a spelling error.)
@4everlovemusic1014 жыл бұрын
@@imaginedatingdarkskingirls4930 This is a safe space, if you aren't looking to help, just leave
@PrincessYonna14 жыл бұрын
Yes when we are little baby girls we are soft and girly but we become conditioned throughout life and than it sticks with us and stuff like us being called strong and warriors will ingrain in us that we are some hero or strong being over other races of woman
@maatgictrix4 жыл бұрын
💖Yes Ma.💖
@buffytheinternetbullyslayer4 жыл бұрын
People forget black women are strong because they have to be not because they want to be. “Dying inside but outside you looking fearless “-Tupac
@denicewms4 жыл бұрын
I want to 👍🏾this 100 times.
@reasc20714 жыл бұрын
That just brought tears to my eyes
@audriiiiroberts30304 жыл бұрын
@@reasc2071 me too..
@LadyKane774 жыл бұрын
Just imagine the state of the world if we quit.
@fatudaniel73014 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@lisewagnac36234 жыл бұрын
I'm really tired of this "strong black women" rhetoric that people throw around. I'm not strong 24/7, I'm sensitive, I have feelings, I express them and I cry in moments of anxiety and stress. Lets stop teaching young black women to suppress their emotions and be their emotional support. Let them express their feelings, let them be passionate, let them cry, laugh, dance. Let them have the full experience of being a woman.
@blueiris15424 жыл бұрын
Just because someone call you strong, doesn't mean you don't have feelings or not sensitive. Strong people can be sensitive as well.
@crystalthesocialworker4 жыл бұрын
Yess girl.. I totally agree..
@lvjonjon2154 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry For calling Y’all strong not knowing I am playing into a stereotype.
@malibubliss81534 жыл бұрын
Yes, you said it, “a full woman experience...” thank you 🙏🏾
@jessicapetrino22544 жыл бұрын
You’re human. We feel everything. Happy or sad. Weak or strong. You’re human. Black lives matter. & you’re beautiful, Lisa Wagnac. I liked your comment a lot & you’re allowed to feel any feeling you want, you’re human like any one else ‼️❤️ love from CT
@highdefinition82614 жыл бұрын
Notice how words like beautiful, gorgeous, happy, nice, funny are not being used.
@kourtneydouthard-becker15014 жыл бұрын
I seen a few, but baby, I can count on ONE HAND how many I seen in that post smh
@divine22974 жыл бұрын
Yep this is sad. They hate their own
@bricastellanos75894 жыл бұрын
Words like that would be used on a more personal level. Beautiful, funny and nice, are not generalized compliments.
@alilrazzledazzle9924 жыл бұрын
Bri Castellanos Why is strong a generalized compliment then? That doesn't make sense. Beautiful can definitely be used generally...
@TIAOFNEBULA4 жыл бұрын
i was really holding on to some hope to see those words not one time wow.
@carta3604 жыл бұрын
This is why people bullied that poor little 17yr old girl that filmed George Floyd's video for not stepping up and fighting for Floyd. I mean she's SEVENTEEN and a GIRL and you were expecting her to fight off 4 grown armed men?! Really?! I was shook honestly
@gdesiree294 жыл бұрын
Ikr? And then u will hear men say "oh what did she do for that to happen to her?"
@AKilahVamp4 жыл бұрын
I didn't know she was bullied. That's awful
@chinaking9184 жыл бұрын
Girl meanwhile you can hear a black man in the video screaming not doing anything yet they expected her to risk it all 🤦🏽♀️
@saladcaesar77164 жыл бұрын
Carta 360 the police was a murderer! What can a teenager do in the face of a murderer who has power to kill you ?
@christinem87994 жыл бұрын
THIS!!!!!
@lunagonzalez49764 жыл бұрын
Idk calling black woman strong feels like it helps them justify the mistreatment bc black woman "can take it"
@cachaygreen96414 жыл бұрын
True shit!!!
@gunslingah24 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!!
@josedeleon39314 жыл бұрын
FACTS!!!
@isma76394 жыл бұрын
If he praises you for being a "Strong Black Women" Run! he about to work your ass to death 😂
@curlycurl83264 жыл бұрын
😂 factssss
@zaireacquaah96414 жыл бұрын
Lol!
@TheLovesnowangel4 жыл бұрын
Lol right! He’s gonna expect you to do everything so he can do nothing. It’s all a setup for laziness and not capable of being a real man.
@kourtneydouthard-becker15014 жыл бұрын
Lmboooooooo 😩😩😩
@nc98024 жыл бұрын
@RachLyna me too
@livewell-xt5xr4 жыл бұрын
YOUR STRENGTH IS ONLY APPRECIATED WHEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO BE THE MULE.
@AstrogirlNessa4 жыл бұрын
THIS IS THE ONE.
@jaesimpson4254 жыл бұрын
That touched my soul
@mimia.48104 жыл бұрын
They only ever notice us when we fighting the power for them.
@livewell-xt5xr4 жыл бұрын
@@imaginedatingdarkskingirls4930 ask your mother that question
@angelofscorpio4 жыл бұрын
This!
@seyimajek4 жыл бұрын
I'm a black woman and I'm not strong but vulnerable🥴🤷🏿♀️ so tired of the strong black women narrative.
@r.b79794 жыл бұрын
Same
@r.b79794 жыл бұрын
@Rae Golden same
@seyimajek4 жыл бұрын
Rae Golden Rae Golden being called ”white” for working and speaking correctly should be considered an insult instead because it's like they think that only white people are known for working hard and speaking properly when it totally not the case.
@mimia.48104 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I'm not strong tbh. I can't fight, my first instinct is to run, hide, and cry. 😭 There are plenty of black women out there who can't handle the heat. It's scary to know if a black woman is in need of help people will assume she can handle it because she's sTrOnG. 🙄
@seyimajek4 жыл бұрын
Mimi A. Honestly it's sad how unprotected we black women are because of this toxic narrative😭
@karminyates32614 жыл бұрын
Notice how loving black women is about loving them and not actually loving black women.
@DianaMillan4 жыл бұрын
Karmin Yates !!!
@princessleah187xx44 жыл бұрын
Right. It's like: What do you love about bw? Black males: I love how much they love us😑😑😑😑😑😑
@The_Neighborhood_Oasis4 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@harlemsbaby99664 жыл бұрын
Sis put this on a shirt and sell it !!!💯💯💯💯
@TheLovesnowangel4 жыл бұрын
Karmin Yates right! If that’s not narcissism idk what is. Smh
@amberpalmer37084 жыл бұрын
Calling us “strong” is just giving them leeway to treat us badly because they know we can eventually bounce back from it. This is not an excuse to traumatize us and make us single mothers (for example)
@blairsnitch974 жыл бұрын
I’m a white girl and I can say with confidence that if this tweet was “white men what do you like about white women”, it would be cutesy stuff like “I love the way you guys twirl your hair or when you do X Y & Z.” I really doubt that strength and resilience would be a common answer. Eloho is right this tweet is grooming black women to tolerate stuff they shouldn’t have to put up with, such high expectations, and it casually de-feminizes them. Strong is a masculine word :/
@serenitysbubble23844 жыл бұрын
Preach
@neo10534 жыл бұрын
Agreed but strong is not a masculine word it is just a word
@AlllSmiless4 жыл бұрын
@@neo1053 strength is definitely a measure of traditional masculinity. It goes along with the provider/ protector role
@profaneinquest37854 жыл бұрын
@@neo1053 I disagree especially in that context. It's like if someone asked to women what they liked about men and they answer something like I like men who are weak because it's easier to get along, I don't think men would take it like a compliment. I'm opposing strong->lean on to weak->easier to get along. I'm not saying that being weak is wrong but just that is not associated with masculinity (Actually majority of people don't like to be associate to weakness) but especially men and they would be the first to call out the women who like "weak" men. The same way strong is not associated with feminity. It doesn't mean that women have less value than men or less capable than men.
@playablue4 жыл бұрын
.... same as they in regards to women or any black woman being feminine....; its a word. Geeez.. white suprmacy loves threads like this.
@schadia13254 жыл бұрын
I'm not strong, I'm sensitive and soft and feminine. I'm a woman.
@eulywade97454 жыл бұрын
Mmmm Mg huh? 🤔
@deenaprice15244 жыл бұрын
Sensitive, soft, and feminine is a kind of strength in itself. It means you got through this life without turning hard. It takes a lot of resilience to resist hardening.
@שםשםמִשפחה4 жыл бұрын
But feminists want you to be strong , independent female.
@librarianrose44724 жыл бұрын
I wonder how different the replies would’ve been if he said: “Black men what do you like about *white* women. Black women come listen”
@Alvinperth4 жыл бұрын
Not in this period.
@missshannonsunshine4 жыл бұрын
Yessss I said something similar. That’s the post I need to see
@CrystalLovesChrist4 жыл бұрын
Femmefatal “they have nice eyes” “They’re cute” “Feminine and sweet” “Talk nice and sweet” “Compliment us and love on us good” “They got a lil sum sum going on” “They ain’t got attitudes” “Their hair is real” “They’re just…better” I didn’t even bother scrolling through that thread bc I had NO hope in any black man there to give legitimate compliments on our femininity and beauty🙄🙄🙄 instead of our pain and suffering
@TheeBratzDollxox4 жыл бұрын
I would’ve LOVED to have gotten a cackle out of the contrast in responses. The contradictories would’ve just lined up gracefully.
@ImNotCallingYouALiar4 жыл бұрын
Marcellies Holland You completely missed the point. Of course this isn’t about white women. It’s about black men and their perception of black women which is sadly different from how they view other races. Black women are viewed as strong and can basically take whatever treatment is thrown at them. But other races are viewed as delicate, gentle, feminine, worthy of protection, etc. Black women on the other hand are required to be the protectors...
@KhaosDancer4 жыл бұрын
I cried when I broke a nail. I cried when I got lost. My husband knows I'm NOT strong. He likes being my hero. Strong, my foot.
@KhaosDancer4 жыл бұрын
@@soboom7350 I copied from Disney princesses and Marilyn Monroe movies...plus I was a daddy's girl until my father died. Back to the movies, and don't watch Princess and the Frog, these were ALL girls who were heartbroken over fake problems. "I don't wanna be a princess". Once you can cry about being a princess, you can cry about ANYTHING. Marilyn Monroe got what she wanted (in movies) without giving it up by being a sexy damsel in distress with a dash of bimbo. Being adorable and helpless in the right crowd will usually attract a stronger, usually chauvinist or traditional, male. At least in my experience.
@missshannonsunshine4 жыл бұрын
Girl! Yes! I’ve never met a guy that shamed me for crying. Only family and friends do. I need a protector type.
@KhaosDancer4 жыл бұрын
@@missshannonsunshine beautiful, you ARE going to get a provider male. When we can leave the house again, your beautiful self is going to slay in a sundress, be as fragrant as the flower you are...and "accidentally" drop something in an area where men of means frequent. The right man will pick it up, and you'll get your well-deserved, princess happily ever after.
@Babygirl29864 жыл бұрын
@@KhaosDancer I'm like you. I was a daddy's girl my whole life until he passed away. I feel like a damsel waiting for my knight in shining armor lol. I was my dad's little princess so whoever I date has some big shoes to fill.
@MrsNicolas4 жыл бұрын
That's my finacé. It's sad that I had to search high and low for a BM that doesn't get upset at me crying, and doesn't take advantage of me or see me as weak for crying. I'm able to be vulnerable with him. He doesn't see me as strong all the time, he sees that I'm fragile, delicate, soft and feminine.
@ayabaforever49704 жыл бұрын
So getting beat up physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually is a compliment. No question mark because it's not a question it's a statement Um ahhkay. Ladies be safe. I LOVE YOU 💜
@ayabaforever49704 жыл бұрын
The dysfunction 🤦🏿
@ayabaforever49704 жыл бұрын
Either superwoman or sexualized us.
@vanessathomas69994 жыл бұрын
Love you too Sis😍😍😍
@ayabaforever49704 жыл бұрын
@@vanessathomas6999 😘😘🤗
@lvjonjon2154 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry For calling Y’all strong , y’all shouldn’t have to be.
@MosesJD864 жыл бұрын
Yeah, maybe if we, black men, were more supportive, protective and nurturing of black women, they wouldn’t have to be so strong.
@stephemeye37864 жыл бұрын
Say it again!
@tracey89874 жыл бұрын
That whole thread is cap the guy started it because he got dragged for saying disgusting things about black women
@Alicapy4 жыл бұрын
Ofc why would they mention us when they don't really care?
@tracey89874 жыл бұрын
Alimagedon_1368 the guy had tweets saying WW are better than BW call us nappy headed the list goes on and on I’m over it
@opaluci97614 жыл бұрын
I knew he was shady. I gave this the side eye when I saw this on my timeline.
@mimia.48104 жыл бұрын
I knew something was fishy about a black man praising black women. It's all fake love 🥴
@imnwithnols4 жыл бұрын
@@imaginedatingdarkskingirls4930 tf you just say?
@karlahussain75754 жыл бұрын
Yes we deal with pain and hate. But not all of us are the “strong black women” stereotype you don’t see white, Asian or Hispanic women being described as “strong” what’s up with that?
@talkswithali4 жыл бұрын
Girl, they are trying to make it seem like we can handle anything when we are just as human as anyone else!
@MaleniaBladeofMessmer4 жыл бұрын
Evangelin Samantha Madari LETS GO ISRAEL!!!✊🏽
@Nekole14 жыл бұрын
Exactly,
@QueenTici4 жыл бұрын
@@evangelinsamanthamadari3375 You speak truth. I will check out those vids.
@MeganAllen17384 жыл бұрын
A while back on this channel I was pointing out the problem with calling black women and girls strong and magical. Black women did not want to hear it. I'm glad you all are waking up
@tleeanna4 жыл бұрын
Dam.. I love our strength as well but Sometimes we don’t want to be strong.
@LK-em2ly4 жыл бұрын
What would you be otherwise?
@mewmew61584 жыл бұрын
You shouldn't have to be so hard on yourselves or hide how you feel, you deserve to be expressive. Now why the hell doesn't everyone agree?
@Cybershadowz4 жыл бұрын
Yup done being strong
@mimia.48104 жыл бұрын
L K A human.
@mrszoldyck81864 жыл бұрын
@@LK-em2ly vulnerable!
@jjjj.54 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I want to be known for more than what I can endure or take . The load us bw carry is a load no one will ever understand.
@talkswithali4 жыл бұрын
Exactly We tend to always be on the Frontline of injustice and such and using our voice instead of black men, who SHOULD be the one on the Frontline and in front of us. protecting us! It's sad
@highdefinition82614 жыл бұрын
I want to be known for more than a warrior ALL the time!
@KhaosDancer4 жыл бұрын
The best thing to do is a mass exodus from the stereotype. We can no longer be here to mule for acceptance from black men. We have to silently take our femininity back, especially in these times. How many bullet holes must we get before bm find us beautiful? How many burns from tear gas before our burning eyes become smart sassy and alluring for bm? If we were any other race, we'd be waiting at home for our men to come back from the protests, bc we, along with the children, would be the symbol he's fighting for. It's time to stop being warriors. We need to silently stop, and get back into feminine areas of protest AND of life. Stay at home. Organize fundraisers. Spread awareness. But we have to stop putting ourselves at the front line. Only then will we become known for more than being Wakandan "royal" guard of kings who value us for the same strength they use as an excuse to NOT choose us. Sorry for the length. But this strong mess, and the hypocrisy and emotional blackmail that come with it, makes my blood boil
@cleopatramyers61344 жыл бұрын
nevaaaaaaaaa!
@sarahbrinkley21804 жыл бұрын
I’m a 14 year old black girl please excuse me for my ignorance when I ask this question , but what loads do we carry?
@Stephanie563724 жыл бұрын
Strong won’t bring my life back
@Bliss-kt1hg4 жыл бұрын
Im saying
@lvjonjon2154 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry For calling Y’all strong , y’all shouldn’t have to be.
@queentrina72224 жыл бұрын
Most of us don't even have childhood because we're busy raising ourselves and our siblings
@Aquariuswonder864 жыл бұрын
Queen Trina that part 👏🏽👏🏽 I think that’s why I’ve never really had a strong urge to have children of my own.
@chenellebeautytv4 жыл бұрын
Period
@Andrea-be8qz4 жыл бұрын
This is very interesting. I’m a Latina woman and I also have fed into the narrative that black women are “strong” out of respect and admiration that I have for you. I never realized that this perception of strength is doing more harm than good. I wanna thank you, Eloho, for continuously educating me on these issues. Much love 💞
@witkneemenyon56124 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️. I myself never even realized how much harm it has been doing
@LadyPinkster4 жыл бұрын
Andrea Thanks for sharing your opinion. In the latino community, do you hate when others call you all spicy?
@Andrea-be8qz4 жыл бұрын
Nina w It’s more of an eye roll than anything. So I can only imagine that annoyance tenfold for black women considering the history behind it
@LadyPinkster4 жыл бұрын
Andrea ah okay, I was always wondering. thanks for responding :)
@NoName-be8vp4 жыл бұрын
Black men don’t realize how much this “strong” stereotype affects black women and girls. Im 5’6 and about 116 pounds. Yes I’m underweight, I’m also very soft spoken and a crazy book worm. The fact that both men and women, especially from other races look at me and literally tell me “wow I thought you were rude/loud/tough etc, i thought you’d be ratchet, wow you’re actually sweeter than I thought” 😐... what part of me looks intimidating to you? You barley know me. And those words were basically upon first encounters too. So therefore, ppl are looking at black women before actually knowing them and assuming they’re masculine as hell. I’m proof that size doesn’t matter. You’re darkskin? Oh you must be loud, you must be ratchet, you must sound rough 24/7, you must be able to take anyone’s crap. Also, because of me being a book worm, being skinny and being soft, ppl call me white. That’s the problem. Anything feminine = white to the black community, and nobody in the black community wants to be called “white”. So it forces our girls to stick to masculinity because unless you’re “strong and independent” you aren’t a real black girl. Let black girls be who they want 🙄 black men need to start learning to protect us because this stereotype is giving other races of men reasons to disrespect us.
@brittanyr14564 жыл бұрын
👏🏾 .. I couldn’t have explained it better. I’m in the same 🚣♂️
@starberrysweetee14954 жыл бұрын
This has been my experience forever! I'm tiny, I dance ballet, I'm super into science and reading. People always act so surprised when they get to know me, like they didn't expect me to be so mild-mannered. It's beyond maddening to think that peolpe every day are misjudging me based on something outside of my control.
@NoName-be8vp4 жыл бұрын
Starberry Sweetee exactly !! It annoys the hell out of me
@theetherealshaye4 жыл бұрын
I relate to all the experiences on here on such a personal level. I’m the same way, underweight, an avid reader, soft spoken, highly emotional and passionate, and people forget that girls like us exist. Skin colour doesn’t have a personality attached to it. We are as diverse in character as we are in our skin. Allow us to be diverse.
@joyandbeauty20244 жыл бұрын
No Name I agree and can relate to everything u said. And it’s so disrespectful that ppl would actually say to u that they thought that you’d be ratchet, loud, and tough when they first saw u. I mean for them to admit that as if it’s not disrespectful and as if it doesn’t show that they’re a racist pos is just crazy. They basically gave u a back-handed compliment and I would’ve replied to them “oh so u usually automatically assume that every black girl u meet will be loud, tough, and ratchet?” and watch them squirm to answer the question once they realize how racist they just admitted themselves to be
@valadina44774 жыл бұрын
Is it just me or I did not hear the words beautiful, affectionate, sensual, seductive, sexy, tender, loving, kind, sympathetic, empathetic, forgiving, romantic, sexual, enticing, sweet as brown sugar, Queens, ect😔 made a sound like we were MEN 👀😭
@tavi58414 жыл бұрын
Exactly 😐
@bellarennnwa64884 жыл бұрын
FACTS🗣
@chocolaterini174 жыл бұрын
They were describing their mothers🙄😑😒
@nse73324 жыл бұрын
Right
@goodjudygirlfriend4 жыл бұрын
I was looking for this comment 🙌🏾.
@sea46054 жыл бұрын
Yikes. This makes it seem as if we are indestructible. We are humans too, can feel pain and be as vulnerable as anyone else. It's not a compliment at all. It's a reflection of how much we have to handle on our own in this world.
@micahmoore24244 жыл бұрын
Sèa I feel that being vulnerable IS strong. It’s powerful. Not everyone can do that
@angelofscorpio4 жыл бұрын
So basically, we’re emotional (and physical) punching bags that exist to be selfless incubators, sex toys, and disrespected + non reciprocated warriors for black men. Kay, got it.
@harvestmoonbeam20604 жыл бұрын
I’ve always hated that word “ strong”, it makes me feel masculine.
@blueiris15424 жыл бұрын
The word strong is not a masculine word.
@youngwolff25604 жыл бұрын
How does the word strong makes you feel masculine. Just because you're strong, it doesn't make you masculine.
@oghenerunorp94054 жыл бұрын
Strong is a masculine connotated word. Stop acting dense
@CrystalLovesChrist4 жыл бұрын
Young Wolff But that’s what people mean when they call black women that. One minute we’re muling for them and being “strong”, the next minute we aren’t fit wives because we’re “masculine”. But that’s what they want us to be when we’re dying on the frontlines for em🙄
@sarahbrinkley21804 жыл бұрын
I’m a 14 year old black girl so please excuse my ignorance when I ask this question, but whose forcing u to be “strong”. I’m a introvert and when I speak i don’t use much slang and I’m not loud like a stereotype black female so other kids in my neighborhood accuse me of “acting white”.
@chanelghostin60604 жыл бұрын
i’m mixed. i was watching this video and my white mom overheard “black women are strong” and said “what about white women” chile 💀
@s._valentine4 жыл бұрын
😭 RIP
@jeg06234 жыл бұрын
😯
@sugarcube6164 жыл бұрын
lord 🙄
@vurgolove24 жыл бұрын
....👀....
@Julia-ji9kr4 жыл бұрын
Mrs Pizarro CT Girl I hope you’re being sarcastic
@EnchantiNails4 жыл бұрын
I am tired of being seen as STRONG child. I wanna cry and I wanna express an opinion without being seen as rude and angry
@AmanirenaII4 жыл бұрын
Or not a "true black woman". Lmao, they literally teach us at a young age that if we show emotion in public we won't survive in this world. Honestly express your emotions how you want black women. We're damned of we do and damned if we don't.
@adrianasabode15834 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was younger, I went through some tough shit. I had a mental breakdown at a Child Care center, (I was probably like 10-11.) because my mom came by drunk, and it made me break. (She always drank. She was an alcoholic, and when she was drunk she used to hit me.) I remember catching the daycare teacher calling me a “brat” and that she just wanted to “strangle me” because of it. We black women/girls have emotions..
@oghenerunorp94054 жыл бұрын
Adriana's Abode that’s terrible. I’m so sorry 😢
@MrsNicolas4 жыл бұрын
Or seen as weak for crying or yelled at when you start crying 🙄🤦🏽♀️
@mourningst5r4 жыл бұрын
Adriana's Abode Fucking ridiculous. Sadly I can relate badly.
@vox33474 жыл бұрын
Is strength the only thing they have to say about black woman? Because at the beginning all I was hearing was Strength or "They are so strong" over and over....
@Monrentho20084 жыл бұрын
Pretty much😑
@guacgirl4 жыл бұрын
Basically, black women are MEN is what I am hearing everytime I hear STRONG STRONG STRONG. LOL Ask your self WHY are we so strong? Then, why do you add more burden for black women to bear? Shouldnt you try to give us a better life as a black man,if you LOOOOVVVEEE us so much???!! 👀🙌😏
@mayfulgal4 жыл бұрын
@@guacgirl exactly, I wish it was the other way around so bw don't have to be strong
@TheeBratzDollxox4 жыл бұрын
We can carry their burdens on our shoulders while they slap and salivate over our fat asses from behind. Win win for them right 😒😒😑🙄
@micahmoore24244 жыл бұрын
Now I can understand this. It’s the only compliment besides when they compliment our physical. We are brilliant and passionate as well
@vurgolove24 жыл бұрын
Honestly, maybe some black men like that we are strong so they can continue to slack and do whatever they want to do at our expense. We can't shed our tears but they can, they cant see our potential, but we have to see theirs, we have to be the backbone so they don't have to have one. Ugh... Chile.
@Kimmy_954 жыл бұрын
Well said!!! You summed it up PERFECTLY.
@chinneynz78614 жыл бұрын
Point blank period !!!!!!
@oghenerunorp94054 жыл бұрын
Do NOT respond to the troll
@BlackGirlLovesAnime64 жыл бұрын
That's exactly what it is
@playablue4 жыл бұрын
Ty ty please stop this. White suprmeacy loves u. please do, stop saying they when its not all black men.... same as they in regards to women or any black woman. Geeez.. white suprmacy loves threads like this.
@bossytweed66644 жыл бұрын
I'll never forget a conversation I had with an older white woman about this topic. We were talking about how men don't pursue women like they used to and she said, "maybe some men hold back with you because they know you being a black woman they know you're stronger and won't put up with their crap"😒 I am so annoyed by this stereotype! IT IS NOT A COMPLIMENT! It offends me! I AM NOT A MAN! PERIOD!
@lumilabiyi4 жыл бұрын
Eloho can you talk about little black girls (especially dark skins girls) in the middle of protests screaming with poster signs? Maybe it’s just me but I don’t like it, I believe kids should be children 😢 especially little girls
@AJMQueen4 жыл бұрын
You're not alone. I don't like it either. While I'm giving my children age appropriate information, I am not letting them participate in the protests. They're macing, gassing, and shooting rubber bullets into crowds WITH CHILDREN PRESENT. It's not safe out there for kids.
@sdh70914 жыл бұрын
Yes! Children should not be at these marches/protests, they could potentially get hurt, especially if they get out of hand. With these rubber bullets and tear gas, she should've been at home.
@MeraBaid4 жыл бұрын
We need to be careful to not burden our children with racial anxiety either. I've been writing about this because it's been going on for a long time. Age appropriate is good but that needs to be defined, I'm working on a video about that. Facts only, no opinion, no breaking down. This where we need to be strong for our kids not anyone else.
@AJMQueen4 жыл бұрын
MeraBaid and KYV subbing to your channel cause I wanna learn more. I agree, now is the time to be strong for our children❤️
@kittothekat4274 жыл бұрын
I hate it because it’s not safe!! And it’s necessary
@itsonlyfair4 жыл бұрын
This is the reason for so many of us having mental illnesses
@CrystalLovesChrist4 жыл бұрын
Kan I Live the reason why we are most likely to die while giving birth in hospitals. They don’t “believe” our pain cos they think we’re so SKRONG and can endure anything
@Womynxx4 жыл бұрын
Netochukwu I’m terrified to have a child. @Kan I Live A lot of us need therapy and we need to stop stigmatizing it in the community.
@TiandreJR24144 жыл бұрын
As a black men I can tell this cap. This sounds forced. They say they love a black women “strength” but that same strength be scaring them off.. there’s a difference between strength and caring
@Nekole14 жыл бұрын
I agree
@jvstkiki4 жыл бұрын
If I hear STRONG ☝🏾 more time 😤🤣
@librarianrose44724 жыл бұрын
I felt every single one of those emojis
@jenniferwade78614 жыл бұрын
@@librarianrose4472 Especially the one in the car😩
@שםשםמִשפחה4 жыл бұрын
You want to be the shit out of people? damn such strong woman lol.
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
Pease watch the video before commenting “what’s wrong with being strong” ... I explain it in the video 😆😒
@whitebrick874 жыл бұрын
Had to lay it on em before the mush mouth trolls come flooding in
@MeganAllen17384 жыл бұрын
Eloho you are maturing a lot and I'm truly proud of you. I used to be on this channel trying to explain why calling black women and girls strong and magical was a problem, but black women did not want to hear it. You are growing and learning so much.
@tegagreats93324 жыл бұрын
Its so true! Back handed compliments
@bellalegendre26444 жыл бұрын
Very good good and insightful video! After watching the indie movie "Strong Black Woman", I started rethinking about being referred to as strong as a compliment. Because the only time the wife in that movie referred to herself as a strong black woman...was when she was fighting with her husband.
@reeceburrell54874 жыл бұрын
Eloho, log in on his account on Twitter. BW are exposing colorist comments.
@TheLeah23444 жыл бұрын
I told my mom I don’t want to be strong all the time and I’m human. I told her the strong black women stereotype is hurting us and she got OFFENDED saying she is a strong black woman and she is a single mother who did it all on her own. She even called me WEAK.
@BanCensorship4 жыл бұрын
I'm tired of being "strong" for everyone else
@keyanna26334 жыл бұрын
GIRL ME TOO IM TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@talkswithali4 жыл бұрын
LONG RANT!! I have come to realize that black women are seen as strong just because we tend to speak out on matters that matter to us. And frankly, it's exhausting. We are not strong just because of what we say and do. We are regularly human beings and I am tired of being seen as some superhero BECAUSE of my skin color or my voice. I want to be seen as submissive but not afraid to speak out. WHY WHY WHY are we always seen as strong???? It's an internal belief of sorts that needs to be broken in some way. Black men use the term "strong" only on black women when we are seen standing up for them but white women are always seen as "submissive" no matter what, no mattwr what bs they put black men through themselves. It's tiring and bothersome all together
@MeraBaid4 жыл бұрын
The whole submissive thing is not a compliment either. It's just propoganda that men have latched onto and they don't really know why, either that or they have abusive tendencies. A healthy man doesn't look for a submissive woman (even if he uses that word) he looks for someone who compliments him and why would anyone want to be submissive anyway? This is a habit based in fear, like a dog. There are many more ways to be feminine than to be submissive.
@oghenerunorp94054 жыл бұрын
MeraBaid and KYV I think of submission, in the sense of going with the flow instead of trying to do it yourself or trying to take the lead. I think that’s the submission they’re talking about. Plus, if you have a dominant man, then you don’t want a dominant woman who will try to compete with you in the relationship. Submission can also be out of respect instead of fear.
@MeraBaid4 жыл бұрын
@@oghenerunorp9405 and this is where semantics come in. I will admit I'm a stickler for clear communication and the word denotes something more than "not dominant". That is one of my major interests though. I don't like the use (and overuse) of the word because it often is not clear enough what is meant by submission. It's a loaded word. True submission is defaulting to someone else. Not just the lead situationally. You can't be totally submissive and have a partnership. A totally submissive person is essentially a slave. Only abusive people want a relationship in which the other person defaults to them like a slave.
@margareta.65064 жыл бұрын
Ugh..the story of Henrietta Lacks alone highlights the disrespect toward Black women. Thank you for really touching on this topic Eloho.
@jaminwaite38674 жыл бұрын
Not to mention Black women are 200%+ more likely to die in childbirth...and generally left to die by the medical system
@Andrea-be8qz4 жыл бұрын
Normani is better than Camila Unfortunately, no. Black women are about 2 and a half times more likely to die of childbirth in the US, making it more like 250%. Researchers have no explanation for this, other than racial bias. It’s complete bullshit. If you want more info: www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna1125896
@jehovahthickness16754 жыл бұрын
I was the only student in my predominantly white class who chose to do a book report on that novel. As soon as I picked it up, I couldn’t stop reading. Finished it in one night in absolute tears. Although no one cared about my presentation, it was incredibly powerful to me.
@ashleybree54824 жыл бұрын
Strong is a triggering word for me ,and I'm tried of ppl using "strong " to describe us.IM TIREDDDDD. I understand now why everytime my bf tells me to be strong I say I DONT WANT TO BE STRONG .
@sharnagrayson96494 жыл бұрын
I’m tired of people calling us strong like why do I have to be strong I seen on the shaderoom where they had a little ass black girl that was no more than 5 speaking to grown people about what’s going on and they were saying she already a strong black women like no she’s a damn baby that needs to be home I swear we need to get that strong shit out the vocabulary while talking about black women I have had it 🥴🥺
@deej56084 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY. The shade room has a clip of a toddler marching saying no Justice no peace and people are cheering it on as if we don't know that police aren't shooting rubber bullets, tear gas and killing people put there. That's not ok
@highdefinition82614 жыл бұрын
Well, unless majority of black women stop acting like social justice warriors then this will continue.
@sharnagrayson96494 жыл бұрын
High Definition they need to stop but they won’t a lot of black women believe that this is the way for black men and everyone to love us if we fight hard for them when black men don’t give a shit about us and neither does any other race let’s just keep it a buck 🤷🏽♀️
@Breonaleonard4 жыл бұрын
OKAY! Girl that video was so cringeful to see. And it’s blows my mind that OUR community is praising that
@sharnagrayson96494 жыл бұрын
Laraine Soul see no your doing entirely too much don’t bring African women down saying dumb shit
@princessleah187xx44 жыл бұрын
Ask them why they love White and Latina women, the answers would've been COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. Strength is not a compliment. Strong just means being able to endure. This...........................wow!
@undeadisha6664 жыл бұрын
Yep. # BurnTheCape
@ms.wilson64394 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@jeremiahalexander2504 жыл бұрын
When do Black women get to not be strong we as Black men dont give y'all the chance to not be strong Black men we need to do better. Also Black women deserve and need the chance to be vulnerable. (I dont know how to word this better)
@chococookies44 жыл бұрын
@Shadi Why are uou here? If you can't allow a black woman to be vulnerable and feminine you don't belong here. Strong and resilient is not a compliment.
@tiptip74 жыл бұрын
@@chococookies4 She's just saying that whenever a black man compliments a black woman, here come the black women hating dudes calling him a simp. She was just telling him to ignore those comments when they come, not saying that strong and resilient is a compliment.
@zoe._.18504 жыл бұрын
Honestly not a compliment. Has me feeling like the damn hulk 😑
@kourtneydouthard-becker15014 жыл бұрын
@Jhgd Eggg 😩😩😩😂😂😂😂
@divine22974 жыл бұрын
Ah😂😂
@thesellingsocialworker47734 жыл бұрын
“Thank you, black women, for putting up with our pathology time and time again, no matter how much it encourages your own. You build us up so we can turn around and give our best to white girls, and still pat us on our back every time! We can be less of a man when we’re with you, and we so thank you for that! You da best, sis!”
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
😢
@fatudaniel73014 жыл бұрын
Apart from being strong there’s NOTHING else they love about us. This should speak volumes ladies. Enough with being strong. Let’s be just GIRLS for once. 😓
@jadenalise4 жыл бұрын
I remember back in high school I was sexually assaulted. I confided in one of my male friends about it, and in response he said “you’re strong, you’ll get through it.” Now I know it came from a good place but I remember thinking wtf, I’m not strong rn Im at my most vulnerable. It always bothered me bc in that instance I realized that’s how the world views us black women. I’m a sensitive, vulnerable person. I am also a black woman. Let’s create the space for both, not all of us are “strong” or have the capability to be all the time.
@Nekole14 жыл бұрын
I agree. Thanks for sharing your story.
@raearchive4 жыл бұрын
'You love us unconditionally'- HA I was waiting for that!
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
NO MATTER WHAT ! 🙄
@osayiorumwense28924 жыл бұрын
“ . . . Becomes a wretched thing.”
@strawberrycheesecake79124 жыл бұрын
The ride or die
@simpliabigail4 жыл бұрын
I remember at work one time my colleagues and I were speaking about relationships and I said at this time I want to focus on my studies (since I’m still in school) and this one white girl was like “Yes, since you’re a strong black woman that don’t need no man.” And my eyes almost rolled to the back of my head. I was like wow what a stereotype, we really need to break away from this narrative. 🤦🏾♀️
@asdfghjzxcvbnm76374 жыл бұрын
And the thing is were not supposed to be this strong but men refuse to act like a man
@franchesskaw364 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 truth
@jaminwaite38674 жыл бұрын
Then blame Black women for emasuclating them🙄
@brooklynnegunn6274 жыл бұрын
This!!
@2023Mermaid4 жыл бұрын
What black men love about black women: Strong What black men love about non black women: Sexy, attractive, trophy, sensual, smart, patient, "good hair", kind, successful, feisty, eye color, caring, lovely, thicc, cute, dateable, wife material. They turn into a damn thesaurus then 😒. That's ok though, cause we marrying Jared's, Yin Ko's, Ahmad's or Pablo's anyways💅
@Asha-dn3gh4 жыл бұрын
Black women are strong because they have to be and are expected to be. That's not a compliment but shows something else that needs to be discussed.
@user-sh4mh2rw2p4 жыл бұрын
We shouldn’t have to ALWAYS be strong, people should just stop hating on us!
@WhitneyUchendu4 жыл бұрын
PREACH!!! i always see black women saying "I have a black father..son..brother" when talking about BLM but never include themselves who is a black woman that can also fall victim to police brutality.
@Nekole14 жыл бұрын
Preach!!
@Tanya-hh6rw4 жыл бұрын
The guy that tweeted this was exposed as having anti black women tweets, which is very telling
@SuP3rpRiNc3sSa4 жыл бұрын
Really? Link?
@gdesiree294 жыл бұрын
Not surprising
@Tanya-hh6rw4 жыл бұрын
I’ve checked they’ve been deleted now sorry 😭
@zsazsa41594 жыл бұрын
And the crazy part is we gotta be “strong” because of the lack of blk men support! We wouldn’t have to be so dang strong if we had a partner who held us down in our community
@blackdivine67624 жыл бұрын
💯🎯🔥🔥🔥🔥
@globalstudy014 жыл бұрын
That's why we're dumping black men
@pamayapaya4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Like yes we’re strong but it’s honestly so sad that we always have to be. We’re never allowed to be soft and vulnerable and sad. Why does no one want to protect us?
@chabbie4 жыл бұрын
I was reading all the replies 95% mentioned some sort of struggle and strength. Less than 20% mentioned anything in terms of beauty or any other feminine attribute other than a "big ole butt". Upsetting
@davinciacox18594 жыл бұрын
I was exhausted hearing u read the same thing over and over (strong and superwoman). That even sound inhumane to just be strong all the time. How can you not feel pain? Am mind blown that they think since we’re “strong” they could treat us like trash.
@chestchirecateyes4 жыл бұрын
They forget that superman is technically not human period.
@duquesacrittenden97974 жыл бұрын
Being strong is great. But feeling safe, loved, secure, appreciated and respected is everything.
@elefantlort40924 жыл бұрын
Its so sad how black women are always forgotten.....
@girlfriendnextdoor4 жыл бұрын
First off, why do bm/everyone else love putting us through pain and call our strength beautiful; but the trauma is us doing too much??? Please make it make sense
@LittleMissDeeDee4 жыл бұрын
I completely agree and support your sentiments. I will say that black women need to take accountability by admitting that this narrative has been pushed by black women also. The idea that a strong black man needs a strong Black woman by his side, advocating for being independent and not needing a man to do jack for us - we also have supported this narrative. Personally, I’ve never liked it because I feel it strips me off my vulnerability but I know many women pride themselves in being super human.
@misshisokapaints1094 жыл бұрын
Lol his page is gone because his colourism was exposed😂😂😂😂😂
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
Whaaaaaaat 🤦🏾♀️
@misshisokapaints1094 жыл бұрын
@@iameloho718 yup, tweets popped up where he was talking about how much black girls ARE baldheaded, and they look like a crunchy bar when they have acne. Making fun of black girls who say they're "winning". Ooo also how much he loves white women
@peteadenuga4 жыл бұрын
lmaoo. it was so obvious.
@playablue4 жыл бұрын
Where do you think. He got it from? Most black men raised by who? Ill leave that there. Love the balck woman and love the sense that comes with it.
@ab_47234 жыл бұрын
playablue it’s easier to blame the parent that stays but why don’t you consider the impact that absent fathers have on their sons lives. A black man leaves a black woman to raise their black son, don’t you think that has any effect on how black sons view their mothers??
@ZZdebbiecake4 жыл бұрын
I just wanna be a princess, a small, dainty, beautiful princess. That's the type of black woman I wanna be. Is that ok with y'all. Like damn.
@marylester454 жыл бұрын
Happy Birthday Breonna 😔
@paisleykinchlow4 жыл бұрын
We’re strong by default tho. Men left us to be the single parent. Left us to pay to the bills, slave at our 9-5s, and be “independent” because they refuse to be the providers. Left us to stand on the frontline because they’re afraid to be the shield and to protect. When will they realize our “strength” comes from them not being able to handle the responsibilities that God set forth for them? God didn’t make Eve to be strong, to protect, and to provide for Adam. So to some of the men who posted these complements, thanks but no thanks. The biggest compliment you can give us right now is standing up for us and being the type of men that God made y’all out to be. Yes, there are some black women who are not deserving of that kind of treatment but that doesn’t give y’all an excuse to fall short.
@angiejordan64544 жыл бұрын
Amen! Especially, "Yes, there are some black women who are not deserving of that kind of treatment but that doesn’t give y’all an excuse to fall short." Any perceived mistake a black women may make is viewed as a rationalization to demolish her and to slack in his own responsibilities.
@citrinestone68844 жыл бұрын
I have been here for WELL over a year and you always come with the girlfriend vibes. You always having me talk to this screen like you really here or something
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
Like sis let’s talk 🤗
@citrinestone68844 жыл бұрын
I would love the conversation. Your were the first woman I saw on KZbin speak on issues like this. Plus your beautiful and cut throat when it comes to issues that effect black women. A female at any age could learn a thing or two from you 💯💅🏾 I found Thee Mademoiselle, Empressive, Chrissie, Golden Baby and BLACK FEMININITY TV and so many others that give such insight on my favorite artists drama, political views; perspectives on the same topic with different commentary that gives such rich and intelligent aura. It’s truly refreshing 😌 You give me a safe zone from social media. I can look at it in a palatable way that doesn’t annoy me to no end Bless 😭🙏
@chelseajoseph46814 жыл бұрын
I already know she gonna come with the facts and the tea
@jeremiahalexander2504 жыл бұрын
And the looks
@09kenedy4 жыл бұрын
My husband told me that 1 time as a compliment and I had to correct him. “Abeg Abeg, I’m not strong, I’m very very soft.” I. Have not heard him utter that ish to me again.
@oneandonly19904 жыл бұрын
Being strong is honestly forced on BW. Ive always been feminine, girly girl and it confused people bc Im not only am I a very dark women im also tall. I guess it was expected of me to be masculine. My mother literally tried to beat the femininity out of me telling me "you're too big and black for all that"...even as an adult those words hurt me. But I kind of understand why she did it...BW are unprotected. I had no father or uncles or cousins to protect me so being feminine and pretty was dangerous. Her abuse was her sick way of protecting me 😢. If I ever have a daughter "strong" will not be in my vocabulary for her. She will be "beautiful", "smart", "kind" and "loving". Her father, possible brothers and uncles will be "strong" and protect her. She will have the freedom to be feminine and express herself...something that I and a lot of other black girls don't get.
@oneandonly19904 жыл бұрын
@@WFL-f4e thank you! Unfortunately I can't change the past but I definitely can change the future. Therapy, prayer and staying away from my mother has been the best thing for me. BW we have to focus on ourselves now because noone else will.
@jaywilliams48464 жыл бұрын
Happy Birthday, Breonna. May your soul rest in heaven, you didn't deserve the fate that you got ❤✊🏽
@babyyodachelsea70344 жыл бұрын
Take a shot at everytime they say they love our strength 😭 Mr. Compliment! 😂😂😂 this entire video spoke to my soul
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
🤣‼️
@capricorn27234 жыл бұрын
Woahhhhh, I'd be wasted 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm good!
@mp710014 жыл бұрын
You’d end up in a damn coma! 😵💀
@Tyland20204 жыл бұрын
Who said Riri wanted you tho? 😂
@iameloho7184 жыл бұрын
Like who TF he thinks he is 🥴🤣
@skindippedingold4 жыл бұрын
Right!!! The audacity!?!?!?
@milandiu54554 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂ikr the audacity
@mamboawasum-henry49804 жыл бұрын
I wrote a poem about a black woman’s strength not being that much of a compliment. Glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. How can a man protect you or take care of you properly if he sees you as strong as he is? That’s how we Black women, especially darker skinned black women get the short end of the stick.
@breaklunner4 жыл бұрын
I CAN BARELY OPEN A JAR AND I CRY FREQUENTLY.
@isx90464 жыл бұрын
🦨 I couldn’t find a mule emoji, but a skunk will do, because those so called compliments STANK!
@abreeanderson4 жыл бұрын
YOUR PERSPECTIVE IS REFRESHING AND EXTREMELY NEEDED. I’m so happy to have come across your chanel
@IphiaCarlene4 жыл бұрын
I have come to realize that this strong black woman....I dont know her and she is not me. I am a very sensitive flower, who battles with shyness and depression way to often. I still sleep with a night light, love sci fi movies and watches anime. The only reason I am independence is because I have been forced to be. I have yet to meet a black man that has mad me feel safe without wanting sex without a commitment. I am a TIRED black woman.
@keyanna26334 жыл бұрын
.your comment resonated with me so much I am done being strong.
@rosakami15883 жыл бұрын
Me and you both sister im moslty sensitive than strong like its a necessity for black woman as if we dont hve different qualities of our own individually.
@ladiesindependent66814 жыл бұрын
Exactly... No compliment
@Hitomiaka4 жыл бұрын
GIRL. My whte woman manager just told me how strong I am today. I definitely felt some type of way.
@christianand79024 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I don't want to be strong, I want to be able to cry, I want to be embraced and protected. I want to feel like a girl not a warrior
@yourfavoritepessimisticexi80414 жыл бұрын
There's nothing wrong with being strong but when that is the ONLY compliment you have for black women, that's when I don't like it.
@angelofscorpio4 жыл бұрын
The fact that I’ve never felt feminine around the men in my life says a lot. I didn’t even know other races of women didn’t act like us when I was younger. The fact that I thought it was normal for men to act like women and force us to coddle them
@Auntkekebaby4 жыл бұрын
So when is it time for BW feel anything. When is it time for BW to be vulnerable. BW, we carry too much. NEVER feel some kind of way about taking time out for you.
@jenniferwade78614 жыл бұрын
We couldn't get a "Black women look beautiful in any color, especially in yellow, red, and green"," The way their skin has been kissed by the sun. " Black women are so talented and intelligent", or "Black women are really sweet as brown sugar/ rum when you get to know them and they like you" or sumn😒 ! I mean Damn! I got better compliments from my managers during evaluation 🤨😒!
@UncJoWe4 жыл бұрын
11:00 That artwork is very telling! The White/Non-Black Woman has the Black Man by the neck, yet the Black woman is carrying the weight of the world & even going through pain (her foot bleeding) yet still uplifts the Black Man & treats him like royalty. 🔍
@way2kool894 жыл бұрын
So basically they love that we can take their abuse great so I can take a punch #blacklove 🤮🤮🤮
@kourtneydouthard-becker15014 жыл бұрын
Lol..
@sarahbrinkley21804 жыл бұрын
Kourtney Douthard-Becker it’s not funny and not all black people are the same . Not all black men are this way
@TynishaTalks4 жыл бұрын
Oooo sis. You def raised a very valid point about our strength only being valid during wartime. I have to share this.
@tleeanna4 жыл бұрын
Honestly I agree with the statement you made of the black men coming together and saying black women and children stand back we got this, we gonna hold it down for y’all but then I think about the black feminists who would have a problem with that as well. They feel like they can do anything a man can do which is true to an extent but they CANNOT BE A MAN at the end of the day!
@nothingtoseehere2994 жыл бұрын
Black women stop defending everyone, be selfish and hypergamous.
@AmoreAmoraa004 жыл бұрын
I want to be allowed to be soft. Even as child I was never given the privilege of being soft I always had to be strong for myself and everyone around me. I want to be soft and loved
@bellalegendre26444 жыл бұрын
There was an episode of the FOX show "Star" where Queen Latifah's character had a mental breakdown. A lot of things transpired that caused her to get to that point. The doctor recommended she take a little vacation to rest her mind and her body. She told her, "black women are the strongest beings on the planet...but we are not invincible". Sometimes I feel like that belief of the "strong black woman" can be damaging. It makes it seem like we can take anything and everything and not feel pain or shed a tear. There was a movie I saw on Tubi.com called "Strong Black Woman". I hated how the wife would only refer to herself as a strong black woman when she was arguing with her husband. When there was drama going on or her unmarried spinster auntie was sticking her nose in her business. But when things were good...she's not referring to herself as a strong black woman. That definitely made me rethink that "compliment" of being a strong black woman. Just like some sisters don't like being referred to as "queens" because they feel it makes black women sound ferocious or violent.
@CoCoFantastique4 жыл бұрын
Wow! sounds like some of these men found a fine dedicated MULE!!!! May not be beautiful but they get the job done, endure and work in the harshest conditions. Chileeee help us Lord
@ilooklikeaburntchickennugg55114 жыл бұрын
"Strong" has such a masculine tone to it. It's like saying Guys are "Flowers" It's not seen as a compliment to them because it tales away their masculinity. Just like strong takes away black women's feminity. Black women can't be seen as soft because they're "weak." Idk how many times i've been called "scary", "weak", etc. for not indulging in drama. It's childish and not worth the time nor effort. Instead of being called stronge how about "beautiful","smart","delicate"? It would make a big difference on how us black women respond to things.
@Cuteskittles224 жыл бұрын
There are so many other ways to describe the amount of greatness a black women has. Our humor, our fashion sense, our smiles, how unique we all are but still there to hype each other up, our confidence not just in our strength but in the ability to love, our generosity, our spirituality, OUR BEAUTY not just physically but internally. Our knowledge and intelligence. Yes we are independent but we need to depend on people too. Our self esteem, our happiness, the ability to bring smiles wherever we go. And last and happily least our strength. Yes we are strong but it doesn’t start from that. All the qualities listed above create our strength and I won’t deny that we are strong but people need to realize what makes our strength.