Surviving A Violent Road Rage Attack

[@angelinap1671]

What the absolute fuck? He had a glass breaker at the ready, this man was waiting for someone to cross him so that he would have a reason to hurt somebody. I hope he goes to jail, what a freak shit person. I'm sorry you had to go through that Gabe

[@emmaj0]

you're not overreacting at all. that is scary as hell, I was in a very minor road rage incident a few years ago with a guy following me after I cut him off by accident and then pulling up next to me screaming when I parked. Just the absolute unhinged (and seemingly random) anger/hate lashing out made me freeze up and left me shook for several days. it's probably even more scary because there is no way to anticipate it.. sending love!

[@shy4229]

A man tried opening my car doors, which THANK GOD were locked. He looked like he wanted to kill me. Even though I managed to drive away before anything happened, I STILL think about it every time I drive. I’m checking whether my doors are locked every 5-10 minutes still. You’re not overreacting. It is a source of trauma. It’s so horrible, and I hope to god they find him. So sorry, Gabe. Sending my love (and unbelievable anger at him) your way.

[@kgrim024]

Gabe, how absolutely horrifying. You are not overreacting to someone trying to end you. I’m practically shaking just hearing this. I’d be terrified to go out. You have nothing to be embarrassed about, but it’s a valid feeling because I would feel the same way. This person obviously has mental health issues… and we don’t force people to get help for mental health issues. We don’t do enough as a society to make sure this type of thing doesn’t happen. So proud of you for getting the plate number and getting someone to call 911. You did the smartest things you could. You’re incredibly brave for continuing to drive. You’re brave for sharing your story. You’re absolutely amazing for going to therapy. ❤sending love. It will get better ❤

[@tyler-kristofr]

Holy crap, this just confirms how I’ve been saying driving anywhere now feels like a scene from Mad Max. And don’t get me started on what people consider getting “cut off”… especially these ridiculous ramps and interchanges in LA, I’m literally just trying to merge or get in/out of an exit lane. I often wanna scream “Other people are allowed to drive on the road too!” when people speed up to not let you in, it ride your bumper to act like they’re gonna hit you. I’ve started taking public transit as much as I can. Even though it has a reputation for being unsafe, I feel WAY less in constant danger than any time I get on the road.

[@kmac-goob]

I'm so sorry this happened, and I'm so proud of you both for not recording that day!

[@BeeZeeCrochet]

That’s so scary! I’m so sorry that happened and am very glad you’re okay! I am furious at that mailman, what a PoS. Why does this year suck so much 😭

[@heyyyitskat]

Oh my g-d guys, I’m SO SORRY this happened! This is so scary! Gabe, please, please don’t be embarrassed or feel silly or stupid. I know it’s easy to feel that way, but some random guy attacked you out of the blue for no discernible reason and made it known that he fully intended on ending your life! You are ALLOWED to react however you reacted and feel however you are feeling now. It’s okay to NOT be okay. To be shaken up, traumatized, scared, etc. I’m so glad that you have people around you though that will love you and take care of you, though. You’ve got this 💕💕💕💕

[@katiesb34]

Hey that sounds absolutely terrifying and I am so sorry that this psycho randomly chose you to threaten and try to kill. That is insane and I don’t think you could be over/under reacting as there is no playbook for what you’re “supposed” to feel after this type of situation. All in all I wish you the best on your process of getting support and I am really sorry that this happened - I’m lucky to have never gotten in a car accident or had any car related trauma but my dad got into a minor car accident as a car ran through a stop sign into him, and he still carries some degree of anxiety while driving and I can understand why.

[@steakleyclaire]

Allison’s joke intros are a magnificent innnovation

[@lavanyasunthara]

I am so sorry that you had to experience this. Really, really thankful that your suburu windows held and that at least nothing happened to you physically. Wishing you all the best for the recovery.

[@riverofperil]

Shout out to Subaru damn. I’m sorry you went through that.

[@marykatespencer9097]

So scary 😢😢😢 so glad the Subaru held up, so glad youre still with us Gabe!!!

[@fwiffo42]

At times like this I instinctively want to say something comforting, but my words are inadequate to the burden of my heart. So I’ll just say I’m thinking of you, Gabe, and wish the best for you on your healing journey.

[@sunshinelavender5889]

Gabe, I am so grateful you were not physically hurt and could go to Allison’s house (safe place). You are not over or under reacting and doing phenomenal considering the trauma that happened to you. You are going to therapy, can name how the events are affecting you, and can even name it verbally. Allison, thank you for being a bff to Gabe and supporting him during this stressful time. Hugs to you both and on this Thanksgiving, I am glad you are both here and safe ❤️‍🩹

[@AirQuotes]

This is so scary. What a disappointing mailman

[@mxanarchycake]

Allison and i have the same exact dark humor impulse and I appreciate that

[@bigjimfrom1976]

That's an incredibly horrifying experience, I'm so sorry that happened. :(

[@luisenriquevlog1099]

I live in the Texas, and I cannot believe the amount of people who just pass red lights, drive wrong way, cut you off and are super aggressive. I know I am not exaggerating. The crazy drivers are just too present now. It is scary to drive or walk places now.

[@ottercai]

I am so sorry. I hope you are able to heal quickly. I am victim blaming myself for something that happened to me recently. I was told the anger is useful, but that I need to stop directing it at myself and redirect it towards ensuring that it doesn’t happen again. Using that anger and energy towards making me feel safe.

[@KimGhidorah]

6:19 "Fun" fact: Covid can cause brain damage even if it's just a mild case Anyway... Sorry you went through that Gabe :( P.S. 11:55 Jesus Christ LMAO 😭

[@misswilde3054]

Gabe, that's horrible with capital H. Please take care of yourself and I hope trauma therapy goes well.

[@JohnSmith-ep6bj]

thank you for sharing this. thank you for making sure he is held accountable.

[@mxanarchycake]

"I think people are just out of control"

[@cutiepeel]

god bless the indestructible subarus 🙏 seriously though, I'm so sorry this happened to you Gabe, truly horrifying and I'm so, so glad you were able to get out of the situation without physically being harmed. I can't imagine what you're going through, sending lots of love. 💗💗💗

[@liptoniceteamandalina]

Hope you feel better soon Gabe, it’s so shitty that you had to experience that.

[@desertels5119]

This is awful. I hope everything goes well with your insurance so thats one less issue for you to deal with and the man gets punished for this awful act

[@TheGoonies51]

Lots of love to you Gabe, so sorry you went through that. 💗

[@kaja_vdb]

I was going into this like "oh, yay, let's just quickly catch up with JBU before dinner" and now I just want to send big hugs to both of you! It sounds like a terrifying situation and I'm very sorry that happened to you, Gabe! It's also eery that I'm currently in the looong process of catching up with the pod (got a job after uni and can now afford patreon!) and just listend to the episode were you guys talked about Road Rage in Topixxx...

[@AJFilms14]

I don’t understand why people get angry about being cut off in traffic because sometimes people have to merge. Like merging in front of people is a normal part of driving.

[@Emmah1243]

Possible trigger warning Seven years ago, I was walking around Dublin with my sister when I saw a man sprinting who then jumped over a wall right in front of me. He was greeted by his friend and there was an air of panic. He said "He stabbed me". I could see a wound on his hand and blood dripping from it. We turn around and there was a junkie holding a knife less than a metre from me. There was blood dripping from the knife and him and I locked eyes. I could tell he was high as a kite and he had an unhinged look in his eye. I genuinely thought i was going to die. His friend appeared, seen what was happening, intervened and starting shouting at him, telling him to throw his knife in the nearby river. He obliged and they quickly left. It was an absolutely horrible thing to encounter but at the same time I was also embarrassed to talk about it afterwards? I felt it was such a random, freak thing to happen and that my co workers mightn't believe me if I told them about it. We gave a statement to the police and were informed that a strung up junkie randomly attacked a tourist (this is the aftermath of what i had witnessed). He said it was very rare for them to attack civilians, they often have drug related feuds amongst themselves but it never extends beyond that. You are not at all exaggerating, Gabe and I am so sorry this happened to you! I understand the conflicting feelings of feeling embarrassed about going through this. Wishing you all the best!

[@mauramercury]

I wonder if the feeling of embarrassment was a sort-of instinctual reaction to the fact that this was such a random and non-sensical event that it's really hard to describe in words. Like, the act of describing it requires you to lay out the events in some sort of order, that you have to make some sort of story or meaning out of it, but there is no meaning to be had - and so I could imagine it feeling like telling people about it could feel like you're burdening them with something incomprehensible, and so feeling a responsibility to make it comprehensible in some way? Not sure if that makes sense XD

[@peachnecctar1658]

im still truamatized by a road rage instance when i was a kid over 20 years ago. im so sorry you went through this. that person deserves so much jail time but im sure the system will fail

[@MsVickster12]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I send you love as you continue to work through your feelings and find your way to peace about it. ❤❤❤

[@oremukihss]

The hard cold floor thing makes total sense to me. Both feelings help ground you, makes sense Gabe instinctually wanted that.

[@mauramercury]

Totally - when I have panic attacks I always want to sit on the floor, against a wall - it's stimulation that is constant and solid and safe and reminds me I have a body. Experiencing the level of fight-or-flight that Gabe wen through, and not being able to either fight or flee because you're inside a car, must be so confusing to the body - you have so much adrenaline coursing through you and nowhere for it to go. I feel like if I were Gabe I'd want to do like, screaming therapy or get a punching bag or take up kickboxing or something, to try and release all of that energy.

[@heyheychels]

That’s terrifying. So sorry that happened Gabe.

[@catherinesvideos156]

I'm so sorry this happened to you Gabe. I hope you're able to heal and regain a sense of safety. These things really and truly are random and not really something anyone can prevent 100% of the time. It looks like the LA LGBT center has some support resources for victims of crimes--may not be a perfect fit but they may know where to refer you for something more specific to your situation. I'm so glad you're accessing therapy as well. If you're able to find a trained provider for it, a type of therapy called EMDR can be really helpful for this sort of thing. Also, studies have shown that playing tetris after a traumatic event can help lessen the impact, so that's something easy to do in the meantime. Take good and gentle care of yourself in this time, and please take all the filming/recording breaks you need, I'm so glad you had Allison and John nearby in this situation.

[@bestintentions4249]

That's actually horrific. I hope Allison or John confronts the mailman.

[@bunnyrabbit1098]

I’m sorry Gabe 😞 I hope you’re able to feel some safety soon.

[@Theo-fj7os]

Jesus. I'm so sorry that happened. Take all the time you need of course. I've said to a friend before that I wouldn't run if a bus was about to run me over because that would be embarrassing, so I get being embarrassed about yelling. That was such a smart thing to do though, and we're so glad you're still here. Thank you both for taking care of yourselves and each other

[@TheArcSet]

So sorry to hear this.

[@notl33t]

WOW. I've never been a fan of any car, but wow, I would get a Subaru now. I am so grateful that you're both physically safe, and hope that dealing with the aftermath of this attack will be easier over time.

[@chelseeez]

I think your reaction is completely valid and appropriate Gabe because what happened was awful, undeserved, and yes violent as well. I know cars aren’t cheap, but I would consider selling for a different model or getting the interior seats recolored so it feels a bit different of a space than where the incident occurred

[@classic.caitlin]

I am so sorry this happened to you Gabe, and I would have all the same thought processes as you! But you're not to blame at all, this guy is clearly unhinged and I'm so glad you survived 🩷🩷

[@ikutozoom234]

This is horrifying. Im glad you're safe physically. No one should react like that, it's not normal. I wonder if he's done that to other people. This goes beyond "oh maybe he was having a bad day". We're here for you ❤

[@teagenglenwright9162]

So sorry that happened to you Gabe! ❤

[@zingzing7426]

Absolutely horrific, I'm so sorry this happened. I hope you find the ressources to deal with the trauma it's caused you, take care

[@cynthiaxwangcomedy]

My heart is with Gabe

[@twontree]

i’m worried that that person just has a glass breaker on hand. i wonder if he’s done this to anyone else

[@judithliddle7652]

I feel like this is the wrong response to have to this video and absolutely terrifying story but jesus christ, Gabe!!! I have never seen you look so handsome! What did you do in this video??? All aside, I’m so so sorry this happened to you, I hope you are okay, and that he gets the help he needs.

[@Lastings]

So sorry that happened to you, sounds really f'n scary

[@Mr.Whoopy.BooBoo]

I feel like you reacted way better than I would have. I probably would have escalated it once my anger rose. That dude was obviously on one and decided to make it your problem. I don't think there's undereacting or overeacting in a situation like this. It's just trying to react in a way that does the least amount of harm to yourself and those around you. I'm sorry you had to witness someone watching you and doing nothing. That part always fucks you up.

[@lyssyr1711]

I don't think I killed my Mom. 😂💀

[@alissa6380]

Gabe, I am so sorry that you had to go through that, and I hope this man gets put in prison, and you are definitely not overreacting but probably (understandably) trying to suppress it in order to protect yourself because it's too big of a thing to confront directly. I have never been in a situation like this (and am not American at all, so don't have to deal with the constant threats of everyday violence that y'all have to keep in the back of your heads), so I have no idea if this would be a helpful thought or a damaging one, so feel free to ignore, but given that you said that you're hypervigilant all the time anyway, I could imagine that later, after this event settles and gets worked through in therapy, it might lead to a sense of, "well apparently these things can happen without any warning signs, so maybe there's actually no point to the hypervigilance, and maybe it makes more sense to let my nervous system rest from it and improve my overall quality of life in the meantime, even if something bad occasionally happens, than to keep being so stressed about it and still not be able to protect myself 100% of the time." That instead of you feeling even more unsafe in a world that is unpredictable and uncontrollable, it might, in a roundabout way, lead to some kind of freedom from the constant fear, and a more peaceful existence, eventually, maybe. Like I said, no idea if this is helpful or not, and maybe that train of thought just highlights my privilege, in which case I deeply apologize. I just wanted to share in case that would be useful in any way, since it was the first thing that came to my mind.

[@tahmenaferdous5213]

Im so sorry this happened to you 😢

[@Paulinemoke]

Wow, that is absolutely terrible. I get why you think it's both over and underreacting, but there is truely no right way to behave after such an incident. I hope you get help from your therapist working through that! I hope this isn't too personal, but you might also still be in shock, so I hope you get the time to go though the emotions as they come up.

[@haileystatler4418]

that is so scary I am so so sorry that happened to you!

[@lw4423]

I don't know what to think about this situation. The only thing I'm certain of is that incarceration is not the answer.

[@lalalandisoccupado]

That’s so awful.

[@marieluise6907]

❤❤❤

[@aT-ko2gd]

First viewer flex!

[@Mommy_Moss]

I wish you were a gun owner. You did not deserve that. Everyone fed to feel safe. I’m so sorry that happened to you Gabe

[@evoltaocao5078]

that is crazy in many aspects. dude couldn't break a window with a hammer? said he was gonna kill you and you didn't defend yourself? violence is not good but at that point if you ran him over it is self defense. also, the mailman could have called the police but you shouldn't expect him to take on a crazy person with a hammer.

[@pissangelmindfreak]

victim blamey

[@ccbab613]

I think it was probably hard for him to fight the instinct to not to run someone over even in an emergency. Also, you’d be surprised how you react in a crisis. It’s fight, flight, freeze…a lot more of us freeze than you could ever imagine. Especially if you’re a caring person who avoids conflict.

[@XXXXxx-qi6tw]

Oh poor Gabe😢. All of those drugs and plastic surgery and you still, think, act and mostly fell, like a scared woman.This is a cleary case of violence against women, no matter, how much the victm thinks is not. Hope this is a awake up call that you still a middle age woman. Not just from the outside but inside as well. I hope you one day have the courage to admit that to yourself and others. Gaby had a great life. Gabe is a poor joke of a man. And deep down you know this. That is why you are felling this way. This trans fase is taking a toll on you emotionally, physically and psychologically.

[@666froggy]

you are a strange and obsessive person and I hope you can find peace in your own life rather than spending so much of your time focused on bringing someone else down

[@saggguy7]

This is…such a weird thing to spend your time doing lmfao. Are you on drugs rn?

[@pissangelmindfreak]

deranged comment

[@recepcionistade]

violence and oppression is not a monolith of cis women. this is such a deranged take, and i hate that you use this traumatic episode as an excuse to spew your transphobic views here. do you even care about Gabe at all? what's even up with that crocodile tears emoji? don't pretend to know what Gabe's going through just because you have access to the content he puts out on the internet.

[@tiffanyb543]

That’s insane, I am SO sorry that happened to you Gabe❤️‍🩹praying for your healing