Being A Transformational Leader In A Narcissistic World, featuring Adrian Terry

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[@joangick6803]

This video speaks deeply to me. I was in the IT world for 31 years before retiring. I absolutely loved my work but almost all of my managers were narcissists. It was really disheartening. Thank you, Adrian for talking about this!

[@pinkposey8134]

same in aerospace, wish I understood the behavior during my career. Was able to manuever using my gut , and it did work out. You could tell when the shuffle would begin regarding projects...head count.

[@Teacher369]

No need to wait. Give a thumbs up now! 💕

[@bq1424]

Yep. Narc boss asked me on day one of the job- “Do you know how to do that”. I said “Yes I learned it a few years ago”. Then she said “But can you do it yourself”. I said “Oh yes”. Then she said “No you can’t do it because I didn’t teach you”. She THEN arranged for someone to come and teach the said skill to the whole dept because she didn’t know how to do it herself..

[@snowy4282]

T - Transformational E - Empathetic A - Appreciative M - Motivational All members participating and bringing their best to the table. No petty games and power plays. Everyone working together to achieve optimal results, and valued for their aptitudes/skill set. Shortcomings addressed in a constructive manner, and tasks distributed accordingly. ⚖️ ⚖️ ⚖️ I hired someone once who far exceeded my educational level. I felt that I was probably hiring my replacement, but she was the best qualified candidate, so I needed to move past my fear of being replaced and do the right and honorable thing by hiring her. She was amazing, and we became lifelong friends. In truly successful interactions, (work, family, friendship) people are supportive of each other. I don’t see anything wrong with competition, as long as we can feel joy for the successes of others, as well as our own. Metaphorically, Giants are hugely important, but Elves and Fairy Godmothers are essential, too. 😊

[@mariannethames962]

Thank you Dr. Carter and Adrian Terry. Very refreshing and as I am retired now, I watched so many wonderful people in the corporate world just get stepped on and betrayed by Leaders Want To Be and take credit away from them. This is the way it should be.

[@ZarpeParadise]

What a great session with Adrian and Dr. Carter. Very enjoyable with so many points to ponder, I will need to rewatch because being that person who is a perpetual student, transformation is key for myself. I Love to Learn and Grow. Thank You Dr. Carter for sharing!

[@suzannebell51]

Loved Adrian's concept of transformational leadership - wish I'd had a manager like him during my working life!

[@sage9836]

I have had and now have bosses like this. It changes you when you get used to healthy leadership. You become accustomed to the idea that dedication and mutual respect are normal, so you expect that in other. relationships.

[@jeankipper6954]

Actually said to me, "I need you too much to give you a good rating," knowing perfectly well it damages raises, promotions, on and on. Almost all my managers and companies were flat out narcissists. I WANTED to be an effective team member, respected and supported. I have decades of rich experience and value to bring, but retired life is so much better.

[@PistolPete1984]

Exceptional interview Adrian seems like he would be a great teacher. Sadly between the year 2000-2020 we’ve had a 7% increase in students, an 8% increase in teachers and a mind boggling 87% increase in administrative positions. Seems a little off kilter to me. Thanks for a great one Dr C

[@chipchippie]

Dr Carter you should convince Adrian to maybe write an article or a paper on this topic. That would be helpful to a lot of people.

[@laurataggart8018]

This is fabulous! Thank you Adrien Terry. I love your statement about rallying around the goal of the organization instead of the narrative of an appointed person. This applies nicely to families. Compassion and protection can be the family’s goals.

[@Wynterlass]

No better way than to be snowed in watching Gus & Dr Les prepare me to darte & being single in a Montana ski resort! I’m in!

[@snowy4282]

Oh, Yes ! ❄️😊❄️

[@angelawade1445]

I lived in Montana when I was a teen. Loved that place. So beautiful.

[@snowy4282]

@@angelawade1445 Lol. It has always been my dream to move to Montana. Love the great outdoors, and also the quiet beauty of winter. 😊

[@Wynterlass]

Thank you all so much for you kindness . I’m so new to dating after 32yrs of marriage & I feel naive. Narcissistic, love bombers, oh my!! Montana is beautiful & I worked in Glacier Nat Park - STUNNING - search & rescue nurse. So many guys! So many jerks! I know my worth & thanks To Gus, Dr Les & all of you, I’m going to make it! I won’t settle & plz visit Montana!!

[@Wynterlass]

@@snowy4282 live your dream darling !! we have everything, but time. I survived pancreatic cancer and I’m gonna live!!! come up and visit.

[@kathiemihindukulasuriya1538]

Adrian, best of luck in your PhD, I hope you can be a force for doing well by doing good. The funny thing is that I didn't think I had a leadership style because I am not in a leadership position at work, but I do use collaborative leadership with my kids. Whenever I plan a holiday or vacation, I always find out what everyone likes the best and then try to accommodate that so that it is fun for everyone. When my daughter was 2, she wanted to swim and eat breakfast in a hotel, for example. So simple to accommodate, but it made it her vacation as much as ours.

[@Alice-fr1ef]

Hi Dr. Carter, Gus and Team Healthy from California. Hello to Adrian Terry too and thank you for being with us. Dr. Carter only brings us the best. You are in my home town. This video speaks to me too as it does Joan. The difference is that my managers always allowed me room to grow and I loved working and always excelled and learned until I was teaching and supervising others and learning from them too. I was a people person and loved all I did. We worked as a team too. I loved working and school. Then at 32 I got married for the first time to this narcissistic person and having five ministers in my family divorce was never an option. Thank you so much Dr. Carter and Adrian Terry, this video has been very exciting for me because it brings memories of the best time in my life and I had not thought of these memories in a very, very long time. Thank you so very much.

[@aubreyj.tennant1123]

I hear you, your story resonates with me in the fact that family’s can have cultish dynamics such as Narcissistic and built in gaslighting unseen by the general family members. I can’t imagine the hell you might have experienced. I hope you found a way out and are doing better now. Thanks for sharing that. It’s given me fodder for the work I’m doing. 🙏🏼🤗

[@Alice-fr1ef]

@@aubreyj.tennant1123 Thank you so much for your reply. I am doing better now but only because my Faith has kept me going.

[@MarlanWarren]

Very interesting! As a theater director, I found out the hard way that leadership is about keeping conscious of how the other person is perceiving me and receiving information and especially how it makes them feel positive or negative. In the end it was important for me to let people know how important they are not just to me but for the whole production. I had a lot on my mind - especially the success of the play and sometimes I would find myself giving orders instead of being empathetic. That did not go over well at all!

[@TC-gx3qn]

Great concept about how true leaders want their subordinates to reach their full potential. Thank you, Adrian!

[@mandycote5662]

♥️ 🎵l’ll be there!🎶 🎶I’ll be there !🎵 Thanks for the invite 🎵I’ll be there! 🎶

[@bioliv1]

Me too🙂 First time I see this topic discussed.

[@mandycote5662]

🤓

[@SheTraxter]

Adrian - this is like the TQL/TQM we in military changed to in 90’s!!! It’s exactly as you describe here! I adopted it myself for 30 years! Made my IT team big rock stars with best IT security inspection in our Air Force reserve command of 28 bases! My Narc boss was in corner disconnected with zero contribution! Jealous of me vice trying to join in! I landed a very good IT security officer job after that but in VA it was back 28 years to all narcissism! 😫

[@nildabridgeman8104]

Awesome talk.. I took so much from this talk even as a single homeschooling mother

[@sheiladay-od2me]

I love this video! This self-actualized way of being in the world is so necessary in all aspects of our lives and relationships. Transformational leadership can change the world!

[@SheTraxter]

I love ❤️ when you bring guests! Just fascinating as we know they are terrific people! 🤗 yay 😃 an IT person like me! I understand his angst in workplace totally here! Wish I had Adrian as a boss 😫😫🥺😢😢 federal Govt iT breeds narcissist evil disconnected leaders! 😫 TQM in 90’s regressing to evil narcissism in 2000’s! 🤯 I am retired since 2018 but what a living hell I came from as mid manager who is not a narcissist! 😫 but I did exactly what this speaker wants to create! He is my clone! I see I had the right idea as a connected leader! I supervised 26 IT males and they treated me like their wife with careful boundary presence with me! When I said Jump, they all jumped a mile for me! I was so shocked at the support I asked them all once how this is happening! They replied that they have a wife and know what lines not to cross to be with them! How compassionate!!!! WoW 😮

[@aryanasaiter6150]

Ha ha ha that's so funny! You broke the mold.

[@SheTraxter]

@@aryanasaiter6150 I tried to anyway for 30 years, but narcissist bosses took over!!! Dictators to compassionate to narcissists! Insufferable society! Glad to be retired!

[@andre1987eph]

Don’t flatter yourself. Men merely want to work for good leaders.

[@SheTraxter]

@@andre1987eph what kind of weird comment is that!!! Everyone wants good leaders! Most bosses are women now in USA. Ukraine is a culture clash. Many men are psychopaths. I supervised 26 males and all but one were great to me.

[@karentrejo1290]

Thank you very much Dr C and Adrian very very helpful

[@wazzup3270]

Thank you, Both 😊

[@MrJfortheElohim]

Great broadcast. The you not ready to be a leadership analogy, is gold.

[@thesehandsart]

I so sincerely hope that this is the future and becomes the primary direction for humanity🙌❤️🙌

[@MsOrganic1]

Great video Dr. Carter! I have been watching you for a while now. Adrian Terry was a fantastic guest, and thanks for addressing this on a larger scale.

[@uncleclaw171]

wow.. this great, Gus. Great guest. I would think this is so pertinent for your audience, as most of us must work for a living. What Adrian says about the narcissistic manager/boss keeping you in a box is so true. I had one like this in Silicon Valley. I would add, that any boss who entertains suck-ups is a narc as well. And I saw this a lot in the Valley. I have come to the conclusion that suck-ups are merely unempowered narcs. Think about it. No shame. And guess what the suck-up will expect from underlings if that person gets promoted by the narc boss..... That's right, they will of course expect to be sucked-up to. That's their dynamic and how they roll. Funny, because I am old enough to remember when this was seen as a failure of leadership, and suck-ups were looked down upon since is a form of CHEATING and not part of a merit-based system.

[@notsoreverendbecca2308]

This was wildly helpful as a former clergy person.

[@siriastridkristensen4272]

❄️Yes! Snow! Going home to listen now❄️

[@lesliebucari4096]

At a point in my life I attended as school which had a change in leadership. I was an older student and found the new instructor was very knowledgeable about the subject but new to teaching the course. He tapped into my experience as an older person and we feed off of each other. I became a better student and he a better instructor. We both benefitted from the exchange and the younger students got a better teacher in return. This man felt much more comfortable with a relationship with his students that we did incredibly well and graduated with honors. His style of connecting with the students as People helped everyone learn together. It was very rewarding. Thank you Gentlemen. I am happy to be on team healthy with you Dr. C. God bless you and Gus Merry Christmas and Peace be with you 🙋‍♀️🙏

[@brightantwerp]

Thank you for this. I am asked to take a leadership job, which I have not done before, and I like to do it differently.

[@aaronkwolfe]

No risk = no reward. Invest in people, everybody can win.

[@sturobertson6791]

I like the phrase invest in people. Governments can do it but you can also do it in a 60 second chat with your neighbour... Think how it feels when others do it for you...

[@snowy4282]

“Everybody can win.” Yes! I always did extra projects at home that streamlined procedures and caused the daily tasks to flow more smoothly for everyone. A few co-workers would appreciate that, many others would be apathetic or jealous. One supervisor, ever, acknowledged my contribution. Usually, they just wanted to keep me in their box, earning bonuses and praise for them. All I wanted was for everyone to pull together, each of us doing our best, and have a work environment where no one dreaded showing up each day. I hoped we could All come to work thinking, “We are going to do some wonderful work today.” Sadly, I think lots of folks just get ground down until they feel that nothing really matters and they just want to get through the day and go do something they like better. 🌼

[@snowy4282]

@@sturobertson6791 Agree. A little investment in others can make a big difference. A word of encouragement or recognition may set the tone for the whole day.

[@sturobertson6791]

@@snowy4282 let's come up with a phrase that is the opposite of 'kicking you when you're down'

[@snowy4282]

@@sturobertson6791 lol. I like to keep things as simple as possible, so I am going with “How can I help?” or “No worries, we will figure it out.”

[@kathleenbristol6747]

This talk was awesome,it's good to know,that explains why my husband narc. got fired.he'll never admit I witnessed it at work.after married him I noticed more,we worked in the same department.Hes arel good has lighter.thankyou for info.

[@MegaMARLEEN1]

A wow interview Finally people and leaders and real leadership 👏 Hope is what I feel so deep down inside when I listen to this interview. Better leaders better leadership better humans better planer for sure

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thank you so much!

[@bereal6590]

This is why when an organisation starts bringing in managers with a narc style good people leave and the organisation becomes more and more toxic. Find a good manager and a healthy or and people don't want to leave and they're loyal and hard working and the organisation is healthy and positive place to be. Sadly the latter is rare these days

[@gregoryheelan]

Great talk. Inspirational and hopeful while respecting "production.". Thank you Mr. Terry.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks, Gregory. Adrian is one of the good guys!!

[@houseplantnerd2872]

I have been turned down for employment because I'm an introvert with social anxiety. They wanted more aggressive people.

[@GabrielsTears]

I have been in the IT hell for the last 25 years. Every place I work has very controlling narcissist bosses. Being an introvert in the extroverted narcissistic world is very difficult. Thank you Adrian for giving me courage to keep going in this hell of industry. If you can do it then I can do it too. It is good to know there is one good team out there.

[@gracewarrior5354]

GREATLY APPRECIATED ❣️💯💕

[@mostHigh23]

I believe him.

[@tinajones5548]

These narcissistic leaders do know you, the trouble comes when they feel threatened by you and your abilities so they have to keep you down. Then they leave that work place eventually ( caught out or get bored ) and you stay and breathe a sigh of relief. Who's the stronger character?

[@lillyofthevalley208]

Yep, you get people who own busineses where they say, it's their way or the highway. Then you have the one working for that company who starts their company. This person puts the workers ahead of them and actually cares about them. All the workers will come across to this business owner. The employees will follow that person purely because his reputation. People do so much better as free thinkers. No one likes being controlled. Your name goes ahead of you.

[@rosieE121]

Organizations that seek out those with leadership as synonymous with narcissism, instead of those who learn from all of their employees in the trenches, will fail in time. Leaders who don't care, don't learn, and don't have the knowledge to make good decisions.

[@aaronkwolfe]

I was out today after the stream, so missed a lot of the timely comment chatter. I finished our home (church) group study of The Ragamuffin Gospel, by Brennan Manning. Tonight’s focus was on Folly. I thought of this #TeamHealthy in that we do the outrageously ridiculous in regards to narcissists. But, in a way, it is the only way to survive.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Such a good book, Aaron

[@aaronkwolfe]

@@SurvivingNarcissism Yes, one that is easy, yet near impossible to teach.

[@thewoundedhealer4950]

Simply common sense.

[@lisaruben6217]

I Love You Guys ❤️❤️❤️

[@TC-gx3qn]

Important topic-power hungry/disrespectful authority figures can make work culture/home life unbearable.

[@natalievitrano8251]

Lao Tzu - To lead people, walk behind them....

[@xclusyphicon]

I am a Transformational Leader and Inspiring Motivational Speaker.

[@sallyjaynes2433]

Introspection deliverance of discussion with Adrian, Dr. C.! 🤔. If I could get my husband to understand this between a Standardized 'his boss' & ''the boss that hired him'. He is a leader out in his field of work, but I think to him he is just stuck there & no other movement. To me, the wife, his Covert style personna & this job position will stay the same. Frustrations abound for him, work world .... with no one to help him push upward & see a little potential either pay grade (stuck) or a wanted (by him) movement in the company. Just a "cog ⚙️ in the wheel" .... Thanks for the 👂 listening. #teamhealthy ✌️☮️

[@carolmaplesden916]

yea i was given opportunity to some pretty good leadership positions when i was young probably around 17 im talking about being sponsored for like regional position training but as i was introduced to the other leaders i would be working with they scared the fire out of me way too much personality i just wanted to get the job done and done well no funny stuff they would chew me up and spit me out lol

[@mariamassey5468]

❤❤❤

[@anniebrowning7354]

This no II.

[@waxi8631]

😊

[@hg2.]

Jack Welch? "Four Es a jolly good fellow... of leadership"? #1 Do they like people?

[@SheTraxter]

Doc - your shift to the workplace narcissist dynamics lately is triggering me with hellish memories from my career, but most of team healthy is still working so it’s OK 👍 I feel that I made a difference in workplace with empathy and team building and talent drawing for productivity, but wasn’t well accepted amongst nasty narcissists. This team here needs workplace coping methods. Keep doing this!

[@SheTraxter]

I was part of the transformational leadership in the Navy in 1990 away from Dictatorship to quality supportive team management, so this really interests me. I am a IT professional from my 35 year career too. Not the antisocial type though. Outgoing supportive team leader bringing out the best talent in others in small working groups! My bosses were disconnected psychopaths, and I was opposite and they were jealous of me! The hate was gross! I did often feel alienated too! Lots of sadness from men alienating me. I get it! 🤦‍♀️

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Which is why we need more people like you, Mary!!

[@SheTraxter]

@@SurvivingNarcissism yes!!! But many of us retired early to get away from the evil!!! I was a one of a few like me who cared about others happiness. If someone tells you their boss is a psychopath, believe it full on! I once told someone 5 of my 7 career bosses were psychopaths!

[@SheTraxter]

@@SurvivingNarcissism I think this well meaning leader won’t be able to change this current narcissist evil in workplace as it’s gotten worse in last 10 years and will take an army to change it now! Very sad 😢 this poor guy will have nothing but walls and retire early too!

[@mcfrisko834]

Bring him back on some more Dr. C! Adrian is brilliant 🔥

[@crystalford_aaco]

Please tell me that Adrian is doing Ted talks, etc. The world needs more of his message and approach. This is awesome.

[@yamlwoz]

What a wonderful man!!!!! If only there were more people like him in the world. The everyday world, as well as in positions of authority.

[@FionaC1]

I wish there were more leaders like you, Adrian. It so often seems to be the selfish and narcissistic people who get promoted into leadership 🙁

[@phoenixrising33]

Wow! Awesome mindset! Together we all win.

[@pinkposey8134]

Silver tongue narcissists for entire career. If a person would ask them to repeat what they just said, they could not. We let it go....was a SME....LOL! Sponsorship happened with executive leadership but did not know enough what to do with it, not savvy enough to grab on to it. Entered into some high level executive meeting rooms and conference calls, that was the hint. Thank you for explaining what went on....

[@michellehill718]

Great teaching, Dr. C! Thank you for having such an interesting guest today speaking on a very important subject. And, one that is absolutely needed in all aspects of healthy relationship building, including within the vast world of business leadership, at all levels. "Who is willing to say my name in a positive way when I am not in the room?" Absolutely! No one wants to be known as a mere number added to (to a work team, for example) simply to make someone else look good! Nope! Many people, including all levels of workers, are absolutely thirsty for so much more in a transformational leader! We are interested in basic fairness, genuine empathy, whole staff inclusion, meaningful connection, ethical engagement, reciprocity, etc. 😊

[@MentalHealthWellness-Self-Care]

This is the BEAUTIFUL reality of growth!! As education and learning is a Life-Long process I readily embrace the newer generation fresh out of college!! This is why! As my profession REQUIRES CEU’s to remain licensed and certified I be the one saying, “Y’all come on in and JOIN US! What are they teaching in the classroom these days?”… It helps you and me!!! As a TEAM, we’re moving this ship side by side, front to back, up and down! Let’s Gooooooo 🗣️💥💫 .

[@sonyaparkin7841]

Wow!! - such an inspiring interview! Thank you to you both Love it 💛🙏🙏🙏

[@sickofcrap8992]

I would have LOVED to have a supervisor like Adrian! 32 years in the workforce and NEVER 1 like that. SMH.

[@DrNancyLivingCoCreatively]

Finally getting to listen to this all. Thank you Adrian. My doctoral work is in Transformative Learning and Change. First academic job they loved my background the community got involved and removed all the language and practices they felt were too woo woo. I then taught briefly at a private college. I worked very hard yet I was let go. My boss did not get this "participatory" stuff. The students loved it. The main word that came hearing you both was CARE which is the core to my life. In Quiet Cain says introverts make good leaders. I really have to watch my boundaries and as the Highly Sensitive author suggests for me research and writing seem better fits. Now about income... I am amazed and pleased that many understand experientially transformative practices NOW. Adrian gives me hope. Just modeling as he does seems transformative. Maybe we will begin to see more empathy and DRC. That's what I'm here for and it's always great to meet a similar soul. Many thanks both of you.

[@sage9836]

This approach can change the world. And the ideas about followership are so interesting.

[@JackieSuz917]

Oh my, this happened to me everywhere! Not that i asked, just hard work, not real social (which women folk don't take kindly too). I've labeled it: being "Trumped" 🤪🤯 so blessed to be retired @ 55 with military service

[@warriormom5843]

Wonderful talk! I have been kept small under the thumb of my boss more than a few times……NO MORE!! #selfactualized

[@ecohumanism]

I was happy to realize that I ended up in a workplace without much narcissism or narcissistic managers. Then again I might not know people close enough, but I've seen some overt narcissism before. Healthy workplace is very important, thank you for bringing the guest

[@sharontalbot2579]

What a wonderful talk this is. Learning and growing together. A mentoring environment vs. slave and master. A collaborative adventure where all are valuable and lead the team to victory. I think one of the most destructive issues in mental health during Covid was dividing those who were "essential" or necessary and those who were not.

[@michelepascoe6068]

Well, I hope Adrian trains lots of transformational leaders. I suppose the dishonest ones who'd take credit for the work of a team member wouldn't be interested, but if more people knew how to be inspirational, encouraging leaders, hopefully they'll be the ones getting the team leader jobs!

[@nataliatorkhova8793]

Narcissistic bosses know one saying or at least they understand it, it runs: do not raise you a tiger from a tiger cub, the tiger cub will grow up and will kill you (Chinese proverb and probably one of 33 stratagems, not sure though if is a stratagem, gotta check on it).

[@evonx7373]

Thank you, very enlightening

[@marykoch1611]

This is great information and can be applied to all aspects of life, professionally and personally!!

[@pipnipipa7627mimmahappunchaol]

I have to listen to this again to remind me and to help me make progress thank you .

[@andre1987eph]

All of my worst supervisors were male narcissists.

[@lisaruben6217]

Your Both Such Wonderful Men. ❤️

[@LoriSings65]

Thank You both 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

[@maxwell-cole]

Excellent interview and discussion. Thanks for sharing this with us. Insightful and informative Dr. C and Adrian.

[@denisesatt7044]

Awesome video. Respect

[@tjtampa214]

Mr. Terry had great insights 🌷 and I have always had that mindset as well so it is nice to see it explained so well here on this vid. 🎯 Thanks to both of you. Great message.

[@gighomes8892]

Can you do a video no contact with narisissist parents

[@msmacmac1000]

Thank you Dr C and Mr Terry! Awesome discussion.

[@siriastridkristensen4272]

I would like to come with on this path. Thank you two. 🎀✨ Siri

[@reality_design]

👏🏽😊👏🏽😊👏🏽

[@MoonlightMacaws]

What an inspiring episode! These are the concepts that our young people should be learning in school, so they can lead/live this way of "being"!

[@EdOnEos]

Heart warming! Thank you for this one!

[@grannywindu7]

My Dad was a leader at work. He made sure everyone had a voice at work and his door was always open. However he let everyone know he was there to help but don’t let help turn to a normal thing or you will need to find help elsewhere.

[@martinmargerrison2300]

Dear Dr C. On Christmas Eve I will wear my 101st Airborne Bastogne shirt from the museum I have visited 3 times. Lest we forget the horrendous conditions and inhumane activities that were enforced by the nazis on Europe. All that remains of the hospital destroyed by a nazi shell in Bastogne (pron: Bass-toyne btw) is a plaque outside a Chinese restaurant. Lep pozdrav in Srecno. Martin

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You're the best, Martin!

[@martinmargerrison2300]

@@SurvivingNarcissism I'll try and put something on my KZbin channel. I'll be in Trieste all being well. Regardless I will have a beer or 3 for you. Comes as standard. Don't go starting any more sieges now. The Dead South here (not literally obviously).

[@martinmargerrison2300]

In fact Dr C, I will go one better and upload the videos I made at the 101st Airborne Museum in Bastogne in September 2018 to my KZbin channel. That way you can see what it's like and so can other people who might be interested. It is amateur footage and there is no commentary as a mark of respect. The soft background music is provided by the venue. LP od Slovenia

[@snowbear1877]

My partner has been the victim of a narcissist smear campaign for 7 years now. The Executive General Manager running the campaign is a former disbarred lawyer. I exposed him by writing a series of letters to politicus the Board, Press, and various ant corruption institutions. All to no avail. All that has happened is that they have somehow linked me to my partner and made his life hell (by shunning, exclusion, denying of opportunities etc etc. Nothing you can actually prove). He has approached the people doing the shunning and bullying to talk (including the narcissist Executive General Manager instigating the campaign). But they just be deny, deny, deny (and continue doing it) Dr Carter, how do you deal with this? It's all smoke and mirrors. It's incredible that people support this criminal and treat my partner as the villain.And it wasn't even him writing the letters. It was me! As a citizen and a taxpayer I pay this crook's salary. I can't believe how people complain about paying taxes for some poor unemployed person or single mother, but don't mind paying for the very high salaries of criminals.

[@andre1987eph]

Maybe your partner is better off without you. ? Look at the fruits of your relationship with him from his perspective. You caused drama for him which hurt his career. I had a gf like that. I still get ptsd flash backs.

[@snowbear1877]

@@andre1987eph I have been feeling suicidal with guilt. I had no idea this would be the outcome. My only intention was to remove a crooked person from their pos.

[@snowbear1877]

@@andre1987eph Nonetheless I find your response very cruel. It's easy to be wise with hindsight. When I wrote the letters my partner had left the organisation, but it seems the influence and reach of this crooked executive is far and wide.

[@jcm5171]

Terrific, Dr Carter ! Adrian, what a guy !!!

[@sylviaford3828]

Awesome discussion!

[@mythologic]

Does a narcissist have any specific cognitive problems?

[@z32luvr]

No insight. Lack of empathy.

[@kathyadair8552]

A lot of them were pathetic Students, K-12. So, Trauma & Add Genes (Epigenetic WWII TRAUMA'S) + 2 other genetic Syndromes, made them a Monster + his "BuLLy Victim"! How cowardly, destroyed Boyz, only turn into 'men' like, their Mentor, the Xfg, Dj Trumb!

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Thank-you so much Dr.C and Adrian Terry. Very interesting topic. This produced alot of food for thought AND discussion. If there were more people with this mindset, the world would thrive. It's a shame but I feel like a failure sometimes with my lads.

[@sturobertson6791]

@ Amanda Liverpool Hi Amanda. I missed this one too... I think there must be a Team Healthy 1 hour bunk off work pass that I missed... And I will say to you probably what you would say to me... Parenting is vvvv tough... So do not sweat and think you failed..... The very fact you are learning this stuff as part of this group shows your intentions are sincere... So even if you some days feel like you failed surely that's just a small flat spot on the general onward and upward positive path that your creating for your lads... Hey I'm new to this so work with me on my imperfect words... Kind thoughts from sunny Essex. ☀️☀️☀️🤔

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@sturobertson6791 Hi Stu thanks for your kind words. I started watching Dr.C about 6 or 7ish months ago and I'm learning new stuff all the time. I'm tryin. g to steer my lads in the right direction and you're right. It is sooo difficult. I'm a bit poorly at mo. They don't like it if the fairy is sick ha ha! This was a surprise for alot of people. Dr.C has had guests on before and they've been on a Tuesday. I watch replay anyway. Is it really that sunny 🌞 in Essex? Take care 🙂

[@sturobertson6791]

@@amandaliverpool3374 hi Amanda. 🍵 That's a bowl of chicken soup for you to get well soon. Sorry it's green. 🤔 And no... It's frrezing🌨️🌨️🌨️ I just like to think of sunshine. And sand between my toes... Does wonders for lifting my mood ☀️☀️ Enjoy the footy! ⚽⚽⚽

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@sturobertson6791 Ha ha. You made me laugh..and cough, unfortunately. FYI I'm vegetarian , occasionally fish 🐟 😅 ah Mediterranean fish. Now, there's a thought 🤔 🌞 ☀️

[@snowy4282]

@@amandaliverpool3374 Parents are human, too. Everyone makes an error in judgement somewhere along the way of bringing up children. The most important thing is that the children know you Love them! As adults, they will totally understand if you made a wrong choice from time to time, as long as they know you had their best interest at heart. Good parents do the best they can with the resources and circumstances they have at the time. Above all, they love their children. I think that is the biggest advantage you can give them. ❤ 🕯 ❤

[@LamaRiman]

Thank you for highlighting this topic, I am passing through this right now. Please continue doing such videos ❤

[@majestic.feminine]

Perfect. In a world being led by narcissistic political leaders, and a distorted corporate media worldview, this sheds a light on alternate possibilities. As well, it lines up nicely with the Equity, Diversity and Inclusion movement. It is empowerment for women leaders whose unique skills and abilities line up nicely with moving the team ahead, rather than themselves. A subject so challenging to those that believe women's should change to match old style gender biases led in old corporate boardrooms.

[@kennethlapointesongwriter3330]

(All the good qualities an orange man is the antithesis of.) When you encounter truly good, sane people it really is like walking out of the dark into the light. Fresh air compared to foul. One can forget sometimes.