Swedish Death Cleaning and Mindful Consumption

[@Beingnessing]

I had to empty my parents home of 60+ yrs.Intense!I did it I over two so called vacations and 2 garage sales, Facebook marketplace,siblings coming to take things.The last push was 3 straight months while not working.please do this for your family if you can and if you can't maybe family /friends can help you

[@marylut6077]

Cleared out 50 yrs of stuff when pack rat dad sold the house. Swore I would not put my kids through that

[@lindaanderson8329]

Found the same thing right now!

[@elib7311]

Your master closet is the size of some tiny houses! 😂😂 By the way, thanks for being real. Exhausted, frustrated, no makeup, just…real. Donating to a Women’s Shelter would be awesome. One of those saved me when I was only 21. Also, if you have cosmetics you never opened, they take that as well. Some men don’t let their wives wear cosmetics, and makeup is such a treasure for some women who weren’t allowed to even have so much as lip gloss.

[@susan5661]

I’ve been decluttering for 3+ years. It just gets better and better. More peaceful, so easy to clean and care for. Minimalism for me is just having the things that serve me well. And no one walks into my home and says where is all of your stuff. They say, your house looks so great.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Always such a great compliment!

[@annellis8412]

After cleaning out my mother in law's house that was loaded with stuff, I refuse to leave that mess to my own kids. I've been working on this for several years and I'm finding it getting easier to get rid of stuff. I'm fascinated by the fact that I may be ready to get rid of something today that I wasn't six months ago.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Something shifts and it honestly has surprised me as well!

[@carolholt3313]

If you have no legal connection (responsibility) or emotional connection to someone's home and stuff, just walk away.

[@carriel3054]

12:13 During our last move I found FOURTEEN rolls of scotch tape in various locations around my 600sq foot condo. And in case you're wondering, I am *not* a professional gift-wrapper 🤣🤣

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It's truly remarkable the things we can't find and then buy again and it just goes on and on. And thank you you're making me feel better! LOL

[@wordwoman9900]

I feel like this kind of practical, straighforward, honest vlog is exactly what's been missing from my youtube consumption lately. Thanks for sharing your journey and for encouraging and reminding me of my own intentions toward my space and my life.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

What a kind comment! Thank you!

[@lisasproul8027]

I started this process after clearing out my moms apartment when we moved her to long term care. I didn’t want my kids having to go through the same thing with our house where I have so much more than my mom did. I don’t want to store stuff I don’t use. This was a good reminder to keep going!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It's sobering, isn't it? And I'm so glad you liked it!

[@spmarsh3747]

Yes, I helped clean out my Dad's house and emptying out 60 years of stuff was work! While his stuff was organized another family member who died left a daughter an absolute mess of things that should've been thrown out decades ago: I'm determined not to leave that kind of mess for anyone to deal with. Every other year I go though this process and what makes it a positive experience is knowing I'm keeping up with it and my family won't have to deal with it. What will be a challenge will be getting rid of 2 boxes of papers and move them to digital site!

[@teresamartin4735]

lisasproul8027: I'm doing the same exact thing. Doesn't it feel good once you get over that hump of hanging onto stuff you don't need or use?

[@LisaShear-fb6nd]

Always donate suitcases in usable condition! There are so many kids in the foster system that have no way to ‘pack’ their few belongings and have to use a garbage bag- social workers are great about getting these kids luggage from donation stores!

[@sct4040]

Tell me how to donate to them directly. I have 2-3 suitcases I can give them, still in good condition.

[@BethM-q6e]

Yes! I made the same comment, ♥️

[@princessdumbarton9877]

Old suitcases are good to store things in. Things you want to keep. They keep them clean and organized and keep the dust off. I just put an unused blanket in a suitcase and now it's not an eyesore and the suitcase has a purpose.

[@JulieMcDougall-j5h]

My parents every year had a pre-funeral give away. My sibs and I would come over for a cookout potluck. After dinner we would draw numbers from a bowl and could take from the pile when your number was Called. Ayer my dad died and mom went to independent living, it took two weekends to unload the house. So easy.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I love this!

[@maryanne4606]

The neighborhood Buy Nothing groups have been great! People appreciate what others don't want or need. ❤

[@yesterdaysjam8464]

that picture of you laying on the floor staring at the ceiling is so real

[@veronicamartini9659]

I just spent two days Swedish death cleaning my primary closet, linen closet, under bed storage, nightstand, coat closet and second closet and now that it’s done I feel tired but amazing. Like you mentioned there is no big before and after difference, but I have 6 trash bags to donate, a couple of bags of trash, and about 20 items to sell. I too came across shoelaces, paperclips and foreign coins, and so many items stashed away. Now all that stuff is gone and I have space in my closet to breathe. One thing I learned is that so many items of clothing were bought in the hopes I would look like someone else, and I now realize I need to find my own style and look like the best version of me. Thanks for your very honest inspiration and humor.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I love to hear it, Veronica! And yes, our homes can breathe!

[@abbyh.593]

I read Swedish death cleaning after my dad died. He had so much stuff to go through it was very eye opening. Even a decade after his death my mom is still finding random objects he had hidden away. Going through all that really made me want to minimize my possessions.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I'm sorry for your loss, Abby.

[@evercuriousmichelle]

As a 32 year old, I have found a good way to do the same thing with a slightly different reason: I plan to move abroad one day, so I need to start slowly trimming down my items such that I could feasibly fit my life and two or three suitcases at some point.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Fabulous reason and I love this!

[@colinkulowcreative]

I think you are already a minimalist. The way you talk about being deliberate in only having things you use and love is pretty much the definition of minimalism. It’s not about a number of items or the amount of square feet you have. 💕

[@louisedamjanovic3983]

Family and children’s services would love to have any working suitcases, backpacks, duffle bags for kids in foster care!

[@tonyaxelsson4625]

I'm 42 yo and I have been death cleaning for a while now. Great feeling to erase/sell/give away unnecessary things. And yes, I'm swedish ;)

[@keithallinder6232]

(Jane) The "random shit" comment made me laugh out loud because I know EXACTLY what you meant. I have been on an extended quest to de-clutter, simplify and let go of things that don't bring me joy anymore. Some things that have helped me along the way are: 1. I have a designated spot where I put things that I THINK I want to part with but I can't pull the trigger. Then I periodically go back to them and my response is almost always immediately one of two ways. Either it's "gasp" I love that and want to use it again or, more often, "I forgot I even had that" It's time to go. 2. I have learned to give myself permission to get rid of things that for many years I enjoyed but I don't anymore and maybe someone else will. 3. I forgive myself for my buying mistakes. Keeping something I don't like/use just because I feel guilty about buying it (even inexpensive things) does not make it worthy to keep. It just prolongs the guilt. Thank you for being so open and getting this conversation started!

[@elizzy8754]

I too identified 💯 with the "random shit" remark! I like your 3 categories. So far I'm good at 1 and 2 but must do better at 3. I'm now on to home filing and archives. One of my neighbours is going through the same process and we decided to share the purchase and use of a document shredder. Getting there. I am making tiny inroads into the garage but will I be able to get my DH (on the Alzheimer's journey) to part with any of his huge tool collection, I don't know.? Thank you for sharing your insights.

[@abeamzn1898]

Thank you. For me retiring I have started a process of clearing things out I don't need any longer. It is quite a task.

[@sct4040]

As I retired, I have purged my closet of clothes, handbags and suitcases. It’s quite a task and took 3 years and counting.

[@wendybeattie6935]

Suitcases are good for women’s shelters and foster homes

[@kathyn91]

I appreciate your honesty about how you navigated this process. I have the same pack rat tendencies and it's so emotional and exhausting to go through all the tiny crap that I have shoved into cabinets and drawers. It helped to hear you be so honest about your challenges. Thank you!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yeah it’s a lot. So glads it’s not just me!

[@summerwatson8239]

Thank you for showing us yourself in the weeds. I often feel shame in those moments and it’s so helpful to see you who I admire so much in that place.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I’m in the weeds the majority of the time! Right there with you.❤️

[@1DawnMarie1]

I am working today from home while watching this whole playlist over again and have cleaned out a few small spaces when my brain needs a break from work. Normally I would think of this as a weekend project where I work for hours but 15 minute increments here and there has been so nice!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

This is the way! I’m so glad to hear it.

[@lurkingcaro]

I've been moderately minimal the last few years, and it has really changed my perspective. It feels so much better knowing what I have and being intentional. It scared me at first, but now I don't think I could go back to my old cluttery self!

[@tracyprice4935]

Omg I just love you Jen Lefforge! Let’s just acknowledge the silliness of setting up a camera to video myself reading a book 😂 This is why we all love you….you are keeping it real❤️

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I mean it’s just odd….🤣😂🤗

[@barbarakhan5275]

Exactly! Too many channels do not feel genuine.

[@WhoAteThePeach]

Very true! So weird when lifestyle channels do all of the shots … like waking up and brushing their teeth… when they have to set up the camera to do it! 😂

[@leejuhsu]

I used the same junk company you used about ten years ago. Their professionalism and speed (they came right after I asked) were awesome, but the price is so expensive. They helped me get rid of two old ceramic toilets, which I had already placed by my driveway. They came and loaded them and handed me a $240 bill! I had bought them brand new for $80 each at Home Depot! Had I known the cost was so steep, I would have let those old toilets sit in my backyard as flower pots.

[@amybrinkley2012]

I turn 50 Sept 8. My 19 year old son is moving out in two weeks.This is my sign to get this done. I’ve done it small scale and I cry watching Hoarders, so I’ve got to watch this show and Just work through my House.

[@debbieretzlaff2912]

After going through this 5 times with family members that passed, I’ve vowed not to leave a mess for my kids. The more I declutter, organize & donate the better I feel. I’ve become very selective with what I will bring into my house now! Now if only my husband would do the same!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I’m working on Scott but as I type this there is a huge pile of electronics boxes in the basement he refuses to part with. So I see you!

[@Tdw60]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge I’ve began decluttering and my husband’s name is Scott too lol

[@FiveHungryTravelers]

I’m at a stage in life (with 3 little ones) where this process feels unattainable. But I think when we do seasonal deep cleaning I want to take this mindset into it. Be intentional and find freedom in letting stuff go instead of finding the process a burden. I want to be mindful of the new things I acquire for the time being (again, tough with kids!)

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It sounds trite but attitude is everything with this! You have to look at it as a blessing - that really helped me the 16 times I wanted to quit 😂

[@KathyBaird123]

Hi Jen, thank you for this video and being so real! Both of my grandmothers and also my mom who passed in 2019 were “collectors” of pretty little things. In fact, one grandmother would say “there’s a garage sale! Let’s go see what I can’t live without” 😂 Both my daughters tell me they appreciate some of these things, but they don’t want them. So I finally curated - well, mostly - what I want to keep into a small china cabinet - also given to me by one of those grandmothers. So now my granddaughter loves to play with them. They might as well get some use!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Love this! Keeping a few pieces is such a lovely way to honor the person and not have it all feel like too much.

[@JLTravels]

I appreciate you being so REAL. Yes, this is the reality of downsizing!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Two things: there's a typo in a slide (the cracks are how the light gets in I guess;), and I refer to this closet as our master closet but I wish I had called it the primary closet. That's all! Thanks for being here!

[@rhillyermiles]

Primary! I keep forgetting to use that word, I fall back on main bedroom, etc., but it doesn't sound right.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

@@rhillyermiles It's hard when you've been saying something your whole life but I'm determined to get it right

[@homesforokc]

Lol, I’m a realtor, and I STILL forget!

[@theMermaidRhonda]

It's funny how certain videos pop up just when you need to see them. I've been really working on decluttering (not very successfully) lately and this video really has me motivated to get it in gear. My favorite aunt and uncle both passed away recently and it made me realize that I would much rather have memories than stuff. They went on vacation with us every summer and I have tons of great memories of those trips with them and my cousins and I cherish them all. After I watched one video of yours, I went in my bedroom and cleared out one drawer of my dresser. I would have done another but I had to get dinner going, so I'm jumping back in after this video. When I went through that first drawer I looked at al of it and made quick decisions on if I would wear it now or not and a TON went into a bag to be taken out. I have a lot more work to do, but your videos are motivating me in the best way..:)

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Rhonda that is so wonderful to hear!! And for the record I am still not done (over a year in now) and we just took a big basket filled with stuff to charity TODAY! Definitely a marathon not a sprint!

[@catherinefreemantle3396]

Not super super boring. Actually super super helpful and insightful. I need to read this book.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh I’m so glad you enjoyed it Catherine! Thank you

[@yvettesummers1339]

I laughed when you swore. I feel your pain. I'm trying to declutter. now I have a boot full of stuff that I can't quite to commit to donating and a box full in the corner that im not sure what to do with ha ha

[@fwebster6226]

I prefer clips like this rather than the sped up version - they are more inspiring to body double with

[@ashlynneeley7302]

I wish my grandparents would have done this. After they passed away it took my Father and Aunt over a year to clean everything out and sell the house. They were hoarders and it was very stressful and emotional for my father and aunt to have to deal with all of their belongings after they both passed away. We all tried to get them to get rid of things while they were alive and they never did.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

That’s heartbreaking for everyone involved. Thank you for sharing that.

[@lynettefinnigan9540]

I discovered I had a heap of those gift sets (moisturiser, body wash, perfume, shampoo conditioner, etc) so I broke up all the sets, put the perfume in my perfume draw to be used, the shampoos and conditioner in the bathrooms to be used, and the moisturising lotions on the vanity where we use it on dry skin! Its all getting used at last, keeping it in cute little sets just doesn't work. I also went through my make-up and had a declutter...and I'm doing a second declutter on my clothes (I did one a few yrs ago, got rid of heaps that I never wore and bough stuff I did, now I've retired, and its time to have some changes again!!) You are inspiring me to keep going. ❤❤

[@Auden73]

That is exactly what minimalism is... intentional and mindful living

[@inkyfingeredcat]

Jen you are a joy to watch … you’ve got my kind of sense of humour too … your voice over to your b roll of you reading made me proper laugh out loud

[@IndyAmi]

Perfect timing! I had watched a few videos on this topic and already ordered and received the book when I saw your video pop up! Good news! Supposedly you don’t need to start it till 65 so we’re ahead of the game! I’ve found that if you take a drawer, cupboard or closet one at a time and take the stuff to Goodwill after each area it doesn’t get as overwhelming… remember decluttering is a lifetime project… I am also being choosy about what I purchase! 😄

[@joanneunderhill7420]

About your travel bag, I learned that many children in foster care, which is often a temporary arrangement, carry their clothes/possessions from one home to the next in trash or grocery bags. They could really use a wheelie or other small/medium sized luggage. Also they have very few durable or school appropriate clothes. Perhaps you could inquire with your city's child protection office for their wards' needs.

[@litasanford7595]

Jen, I really loved this. I’m working up to this project. I’ve regretted getting rid of a few things when I powered through a major purge. I like the idea of a gentle approach.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Also the last time I did a big purge I wasn't thinking about the next generation - I should have been! This approach feels much more long term to me. Good luck!

[@cynthiajohnston424]

Love this - the honesty , the reality , the dry humor , & viewing a YT video that is relatable - a mature woman in a ball cap 'n tank top getting help fr. her yellow Lab ! 🐾🐾 💙 " Gentle & methodical ... peaceful & balanced " " We're gonna get there . "

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Hurray! I love all of that! thanks so much.

[@SH-vc4cl]

Thanks!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you so much!

[@amethystrocks6433]

I have trouble with all the little odds & ends, too. Drives me bonkers!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It bogs you down! So hard.

[@SH-vc4cl]

Honestly? Sometimes watching you is like hearing my own internal voice. Cracks me up! Luv ya, Jen Lefforge! Thanks

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I’m honored!😂❤️😍

[@oreneishii]

All the yesses! I just went through this process last month, and it took me about a week as well. I knew it needed done, and just kept putting it off. Finally on a Sunday evening at 6:00, I got a wild hair and took every single thing out of my closet and piled it in my bedroom. (I work a 40 hour week, mind you, and had to be up at 5:30 the next morning.) My husband thought I had lost my mind. 😅 I ended up working 4 hours that first night and made a ton of progress. It was nice to completely empty the space, give it a deep clean, then only put things back that I truly wanted, and in an organized fashion. I donated a LOT, sold some things locally, and some things went straight to the trash/recycle bin. You’re right. It feels so good walking in and knowing what I have are things that I really want, the clothes all fit, the items are all useable, and I no longer have to sift through things to find what I’m looking for. About a week later, I found my husband going through the same process for his closet. Mine completely inspired him…I didn’t even have to say a word! I have vowed to stay mindful of what goes in because I never want to have to do that again!! Totally worth it though. Thanks for making this video. ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yes that's such a great point and I wish I'd made it! You can't nag somebody else into doing this but you can INSPIRE them! Well done!

[@joannewilliams41]

Oh my word this is amazing thank you 🥰 when I lost my dad very suddenly 16 years ago, my sister and I had to sort out/empty our family home and it was a total emotional nightmare. My dad had lived in our family home for 32 years when he passed away (mum passed away when we were quite young) and didn’t clear out anything at all. It was so so painful to do it after losing him and actually we ended up rushing it and now I regret not keeping certain things. This has made me think about my own daughter and I don’t want her to have to go through the same thing. Like you I am in my middle years 😃but it’s great to think ahead and as you say, clear out things that we don’t use/need. Husband will take some convincing but as you say, I can’t force him. Thank you again Jen, you are the best 🥰🥰xxxx

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I’m so sorry that you had to go through all that but your story is so motivating! Thank you for watching and for your kind words!

[@joannewilliams41]

@@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge just love ya 🥰🥰

[@cathyberetski1472]

Your video is very relatable. Thank you. It's nice to know that there are many, many other people in the same situations. In my case, "It's out of sight but not out of mind!". I, too, have travel items, etc., in bins or bags. Although I am very organized, I get overwhelmed and exhausted for lack of time, energy, and busy schedules. Once I get things in their place, I take photos, stand back, and admire my work. It creates peace in my mind. I keep a daily to-do list by priority and geographic travel on errands, and rearrange it, as needed. After our Mom died six years ago (at nearly 90 years old), 😢 it took our family a very long time to sort and separate items and keepsakes in our childhood home (built by our Dad and his father and brothers/brothers-in-law) before we put it up for sale. Mom was organized, too, and a collector of things. Grieving and going thru the process created tears, anger, and laughter, along with many memories. We pulled together and accomplished it. I did take many photos of the process before and after, as well as photos of items we were donating, selling, or discarding. I don't want my family to have to go thru the same detailed process when either I am unable to do it myself or after I die. This morning was a high-energy day for me. Therefore, I began by walking and caring for our dog, eating breakfast, sorting and reorganizing items under the kitchen sink, prepared a full-course meal (head start), and started on other household chores. I'll need a nap this afternoon. 😊 I look forward to your future videos. Cathy

[@epcatcenter]

Whoever finds my Dr. Teeth loungefly is going to be LUCKY. Love this, Jen. It’s a friggin life long process.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Lol and YES IT IS. Good to hear from you, Liz!

[@amymccarthy7157]

Loving your videos on this topic! I struggle with over shopping too, and easily get influenced to buy things from social media. I'm trying to tell myself that every purchase is a commitment. Do I really want to manage one more (fill in the blank). I also shop online a lot and end up with things that are not quite perfect, but it's a pain to return via mail. Sometimes having extra disposable income is not a good thing!

[@lorenafrigault]

I'm in California and found our waste company has a fabric recycling. They shred and make new cloth

[@de7095]

Great video, I hope people take this to heart. My mother recently moved on with me, thank heavens I had recently given away/thrown away most of my stuff because she brought a mountain of stuff with her. It's a mess ill have to go through when she passes away and in the meantime the house looks like a rummage sale.

[@jayshahwan525]

What an inspiration. As I look around me, I am faced with so much stuff and so little energy. But! Your video encouraged me to push forward. The most important thing I had not grasped before I watched your video is that I'm only responsible for "my" stuff. I'm living with 3 adults who suffer with adhd (or so they'd have me believe), and I've been so frustrated with their lack of follow-through on ANYTHING! So now I will just begin the task of paring down my own stuff. Ahhhh, that just put some sanity back into my life. So glad I woke up to your video this morning. I feel less alone in this process -- and can stop beating myself up for not having the perfect house that's orderly and contained. Off I go with my new perspective -- thanks to you!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you for your kind comment. I am SO GLAD I was able to provide some encouragement. This is such a journey but so worthwhile and yes, we can only control ourselves. Keep going!! I am STILL not done and probably won't be for maybe years but this has completely shifted how I accumulate and manage all the stuff.

[@transformedics7104]

I'm curious if you are going to do a purge of holiday decorations. We have 2 Christmas trees a Disney one, and a family tree for the living room. I'm now 36 and I've been collecting for my Disney tree since I was 15. It's become a little overwhelming and I think I'm getting past the Disney phase in my life. I know it's going to be difficult to part with these items, and I hope I can. Thank you for the motivation.❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I have one closet for my holiday decorations and I purge and edit every year when I put things up. Great idea for a video! And good luck because yes that can feel very overwhelming ❤️

[@transformedics7104]

Thank you for the advice, I know for sure I have a few ornaments with pieces missing, and the pieces are in a zip loc baggie, and every year I say "I'm going to repair these" but never get around to it. If you can I would love to see a video about decluttering you're holiday decor! Love all your videos Jen! Thank you again. - Taylor

[@michellelee5402]

I love your honesty about the process. I too get bogged down with the small “bits” . I love the picture of you in your pjs on the floor among the items from your nightstand!😂 Great job powering through to the finish!

[@bronniepaterson4694]

I try and de clutter every now and then…it’s just so soul destroying! I’m great at collecting junk but not good at getting rid of it…I hoard stupid things…leaflets from trips,cinema tickets,cruise labels,napkins from special events…. That’s my problem the emotional things…over the years you gather memories ( junk) but it’s hard to loose…Bags n boxes are my downfall too….bits n bobs….ughhh Well done you for sticking with it… I take it hubby was away whilst the mess was everywhere…love the furry supervisors..❤️🐾

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It’s been going on for weeks and nope he’s been gone home some. And they aren’t stupid things! They mean something to you or you wouldn’t keep them. You’ll let them go when you’re ready!

[@dancingpeacock123]

The Quiet Man is a wonderful movie. Absolutely adore Maureen O'Hara. Thank you for helping me to understand what the concept of Swedish Death Cleaning. I actually began thinking about this 3 years ago when I had Covid. I decided that I didn't want my children/family to have to go through the cluttery stuff.

[@Lee-de2wl]

Yes I’ve watched the quiet man a few times over the years…a wonderful movie for Maureen O’Hara fans and John Wayne fans. Thanks for reminding me, I think I’ll watch it again.

[@finchfamilyfun1739]

So I’m just finding your channel. It is really resonating with me as my Mom passed away and I alone am in the middle of the daunting task of clearing her home. My parents grew up during the depression and were basically hoarding antiques. I have a slew of siblings. Double digits. Only one has helped and only twice. My life has been on hold now for 9 months while I try to deal with the aftermath of their lives. I have lost precious moments with my own immediate family. (Spouse and child) I have not been able to grieve properly and am overwhelmed but also angry and resentful and just incredibly sad. I do not want to leave this to my child for certain. So after I deal with their things I need to tackle mine. I am worried the toll on my own health these past months. I don’t feel well at all so I feel some urgency to handle my own affairs. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and very depressed. A challenge I face is they lived rurally. We had an estate sale and made a pittance. Their lovely antiques selling for a small percentage of their worth. I feel like a failure now at everything. And because there was so much the house is still full and I have no idea what to do with all those contents. We have already filled 4 dumpsters. And when I think of my own home do we just donate and throw away all these things? I feel like a spinning top and it is making me sick. What do I do with all this stuff?

[@joanneunderhill7420]

I am so sorry for your loss and for the magnitude of the burden that you are carrying alone. Caring Transitions is a franchise company that specializes in decluttering and disposing of belongings, for estates and those trying to declutter their homes before putting them up for sale. The franchisor sponsors online auctions of things that collectors and antique shops want to buy. There are one or two other companies that do the same thing. They earn a percentage of what they get for you.

[@kimberlybegonia2869]

It will feel So Good when I disassemble the bed and get rid of the mattress I’m no longer able to sleep in that room is dubbed the pain room!😮 RIP Harley my handsome husband

[@disneymamallama]

Your honesty is EVERYTHING. I heard you drop the swears and thought ohhhhh you're like legiiiiiit doing this, not just for the KZbins!! Love all of this and gosh, it's so inspiring to do this in my current season and not put it off. I've never been a minimalist, but this could definitely help me be more mindful about what I choose to bring into my life.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Just came back from Goodwill (for the FIFTH time in two weeks) and it makes me never want to shop again! So it's also good for my wallet LOL

[@annapower9799]

I love this video and the concepts you’ve shared. So many you tubers are doing minimalism videos and I applaud them for pairing down to one pan and one purse, but I think you’ve captured the essence here - what we keep is different for everyone. But what we keep must be useful and having meaning for us - if not, let it go! You’re the best Jenn!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you so much, Anna!! Yes minimalism would feel very austere and not me.

[@Cat-ik1wo]

I know you are my twin. The way you expressed this process and do the work, is like me. But its a necessary job. We put ourselves thru it, we have to do the work to get ourselves out of it. Yes, see it thru. You can do it. I did.

[@paddleduck5328]

Hah I love how genuine you are. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@nicolesmith4307]

I loved this video so much. You inspired me to start decluttering my own house. I love how real you are in all your videos so glad I found you ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you so much!

[@chrystaltuckness5298]

Foster Care! Suitcases and totes may be used by local foster care organizations! These kids are often relocated with their things dumped into a garbage bag. Something in good condition would be such a blessing!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

So many great organizations! I always make sure my things go to the best possible homes and this is a great option.

[@annblachly8068]

Dana K White teaches how to declutter without making a bigger mess, but only progress. If you get distracted you don't have a pile remaining.

[@magicgemmaster7055]

I'm taking care of my 90 year old mother; and I am unburdening myself of so many of her things. I do not want someone else's memories., Tupperware, appliances, blankets, sheets etc.

[@jeanreppy3426]

I think we all have to realize this is a project...and to block time for it...I have started to and I've found I'm also buying less...win win...I think after I'm all done...going to be putting this on my quarterly schedule 😊

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yes. It is absolutely time consuming work!

[@donnabaardsen5372]

Very interesting video, Jen. Yes, I lived in Atlanta, and know all about the heat. Watching your dog joining in while you were sorting, and asking for kisses just melted my heart. As always, such original, helpful information. My home is ready should I die. So my adult child has zero to worry about👍

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you so much, Donna! He's a sweet pea for sure!

[@chrystaltuckness5298]

LOL good timing. Our cheap closet racks fell down, we installed more robust ones, and I took a break from evaluating every.single.item, to watch this video! Passing the donation bin and garbage bag with each trip!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Love it!!!

[@juliehanson1175]

I "broke" a couple of closets myself. It was great motivation! It has taken a couple of weeks or so of decluttering and sorting, but I have gotten over the hurdles finally.

[@marleneschick4768]

I read this book prior to finding this video...but I have watched this video of yours more than once. I find it extremely inspirational, the REALNESS of it! Thank you for sharing this experience of your life.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

What a kind comment!! Thank You!!

[@Chelle99]

Love it! Just randomly- local foster agencies love luggage donations bc otherwise, kids in foster care move their stuff in trash bags.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Yup!! Great idea!!

[@suec440]

Thank you for taking us on the journey with you. I appreciate your honesty. You didn't make it look like a quick, fun process like others have done. Hearing you say it was worth it makes me want to give it a go.

[@amanda7638]

Loved the show and just ordered the book. Thank you for sharing your journey! Ever since having my kids I always try to keep up with the clutter because I don’t want it to get in the way of our relationships or leave it to when I’m older and it’s more built up!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

YES this exact thing. Beautifully stated.

[@ardehel]

Thank you for this video. I am regularly going through stuff and wonder what is wrong with me. Now I understand that being emotional wreck is natural part of the process.

[@papaya8634]

13:10 The way you define the goal of Swedish Death Cleaning, to me it is a word by word definition of minimalism too. It is about getting rid of burdening stuff and keeping/getting stuff that makes you happy. Maybe you have only met depictions of extreme and strict minimalism. I consider myself a (normal, moderate) minimalist and I love and resonate with your Swedish Death Cleaning videos, just as I like videos about minimalism. :)

[@robindaniels2987]

I just finished clearing out my late parents house. They were very organized. I’m not, so I’m trying to pare down and declutter so my kids won’t have to later😔💕

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

You got this!

[@cassieb1860]

I have been going through personal experience with the death of my mother-in-law and my father within a month of each other. My father, who lived with us, didn't own property, a car, and very little personal things. Basically, my parents extremed downsized when moving in with us. My MIL is a totally different story. Her house is filled with collections from her things to HER parents things. Everything is split between my husband and his brother per her will. The money and investments are clear and easy. Dealing with the contents of the house has become an emotional nightmare! I can not believe the arguments over "STUFF". I am now firm believer of getting your house in order and to have the knowledge that other people probably won't want 95% of our beloved belongings.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

This is such a powerful comment and I’m so sorry for all of the loss.

[@cassielmeng780]

love your video style !!!!!

[@kimberlybegonia2869]

Thank you for reminding me how gratifying the end of this process really is. Death of my husband has motivated me!! I’m aware and staying that way

[@TammySkipperTV]

First, I love you ❤ Seriously, the authenticity and shared experience is what were all here for 👏 We helped an extended side of our family go through the final possessions of a family member who passed this year, so I've recently experienced that. Also, I spent many childhood years in a home where we routinely bought things we needed because there was so much stuff (never organized) that we knew we wouldn't find something missing. The adults were the worst offenders, not the kids. The peace I want when it comes to possessions is to truly know what is in a space as you described at the end. I can't wait to see the rest of this journey!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you Tammy!! Yeah the next stop is the kitchen. Prayers and pixie dust appreciated.😬🥰

[@lynnleipold2617]

That’s us! We sometimes buy a tool that we already have!

[@abbyzinger]

Jen!!! I have loved and followed your channel for a long time, and I was SO excited to see this video because I worked on the Peacock show The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning!!!! I'm a reality TV producer - Sue's episode was my magnum opus. I'm so glad it helped you so much, and I'm so happy to see you talking about it. The show changed my life to work on, and I hope it can help others like you to be more mindful about how much stuff we have!!! I was so happy to see you quoting Ella and our death cleaners methods. This video made my day

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

ABBY!!! I love this so much! The show was FIRE (and I mean that the way the kids use it;). I SOBBED through every episode but not in a depressing way in a hopeful way. THANK YOU for your work on the show. What a lovely few hours of joy you all put out into the world. Just amazing. I am grateful.

[@jodyrightnow]

how cool! I loved the series! thank you for doing it. I hope there will be a season 2!!

[@kirakrall4145]

"honey wake up, Jen just uploaded!!"

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I love this so much!!😂❤️

[@barbarakhan5275]

I am a bit like you. I like things to look nice and also stick the shit in drawers and bins rather than dealing with it. I truly love your channel. Everything speaks to me. So genuine!!

[@trishsp3160]

After both of my parents were gone, it was incredibly difficult for me to " get rid of" things of theirs that meant something to them, even if the item did not mean the same to me. Unfortunately, due to circumstances outside of my control, I had to make difficult and permanent decisions very quickly, and I still regret some of the decisions that I had to rush through. I hope that I will not leave my daughter in the same situation.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Trish that must have been really hard. And yet so motivating for me because same - I want them to be able to grieve my passing without the burden of having to sort through my things!

[@thecleaningteacher638]

Great video…and I loved your little helper. 🐶💗 So thankful that I found your channel.

[@irisandu2]

OMG...how did you know this is what I decided to do today. I borrowed the book from the library and was about to read and do. I'm in my 70's...lol so I better get on it. Thank you for sharing the mess. I also have a Goodwill pile. The Quiet Man is one of my top ten favorites. I also want MY things about me. I love watching the cuteness of the cottage her and John Wayne make for themselves. Thanks for that memory provoking smile.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I need to rewatch the movie I love it so much!

[@kimberlyferguson4460]

Haha😂 Same here, Jen! I had multiple blankets..so I decided to donate them. You've been an absolute inspiration to want me to do more decluttering.

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

So glad to hear it!

[@soSEW-COB]

Thank you. thank you. thank you for these videos and the book recommendation. (I’m buying today) I’ve been thinking about DOING this buuUUUuuuut u know there’s always tomorrow .. and tomorrow lol I’m DOING this for my kids … they don’t need this stuff now they won’t when I’m gone either ! Chris 64yo, Ont Canada 😃 👋🏻

[@katelizh]

Such a great help...thank you for making this video

[@middlebunny]

I love this. Thank you for this honest video!

[@laureng4024]

Yessss it’s the little things that add up. A spool of thread and a sharpener aren’t a lot but I constantly put things like that in drawers will eventually become clutter. Thanks for the great video Jen!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I mean we all do it, right? We're in a hurry and we just put some random thing (like a pen that doesn't work!) in a drawer to get it off a counter. UGH! Glad it's not just me!

[@maryellenstark9383]

I have so much to do and this video has inspired me to get started. Thank you for your honesty. I too hide stuff in baskets and bins because someday I might need it. I never want my things to be a burden for my children so it’s time to stop thinking about it and start doing. Great video!

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

I love this! Happy to help!!

[@svetlanak7804]

You are so fun to listen to ❤

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Thank you!

[@carimccormack9931]

Loved your video!!! I felt the same way! I went through this process awhile back…..and to kinda keep it going on to really hone on things that I use and love (that I think I might love it, but not sure) I turned all the hangars backwards and when I do wear a piece, it goes back in the closet on the hangar forward on the rod. It’s been about 3 weeks, and it’s illuminating on how little I truly wear and love! If after 6 months I haven’t worn it and it’s not seasonal, in the donation pile it goes! Also a great exercise- I’m already learning more about myself and use of my things! Of course, I adjust the timeframe to one season for seasonal items…

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

It is SUCH an enlightening process isn't it? And honestly I feel like it's a lifelong mindset (which I didn't understand when I started). Thanks for watching!!

[@Patty747]

I started shredding and my shredding machine quit on me, lol!

[@dani37912]

Hi Jen, I recently found your channels and I’m so happy I did. I also want to get rid of things I don’t need and buy things intentionally to last that are of good quality. I’ve been decluttering the past with (also with Diet Coke breaks 😊) and it’s so freeing. Thanks for making great, relatable, enjoyable content ❤

[@Mimi-ni3il]

I am curious how this all played out. I never ended up selling anything - just way too overwhelming- I donated or threw away. Most of us don’t have time for selling and the return is crazy small

[@SharonAllan]

Just watched this video and loved it! This is exactly what I’m planning to do in my home and I’m going to read that book first. Thank you Jen, I love your video😊

[@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge]

Oh I'm so glad! Yes, the book is a lovely and short read but there's a lot of depth there. I hope you enjoy the book and the process!

[@amycarr7045]

I’ve moved multiple times and try to do the cleaning out with each move. It is the stuff with memories attached that is the hardest. I also miss some of the things I’ve donated so thank you for saying that! Also rolling suitcases are perfect for moving books or other very heavy objects. I packed my daughter’s iron cookware in one rolling bag and it was great to roll into the truck and then out into the new kitchen. Thanks for being so real!