Taking my time: Why I refuse to date in my 20s | Honestly Speaking...EP 3

[@ThatDocBrown]

Consider this a snapshot of your future: at 29 I was super successful and miserable in an abusive relationship. At 30 I was single, free, thriving and so content in my singledom. I was my most self-actualized and in a moment of complete awareness, I knew I was ready to move on. And just like that, I met the man who would be my husband. Without trying. I knew he was it 2 weeks after we met. I’m now 35, we’ve been married 2 years and together 5 and it has never ever felt like I had to sacrifice my contentment. Manifest the One who adds to your life,and makes you happier than you already are :)

[@TwinkleStanly]

💖💖💖💖

[@TheAngelAashna]

this video literally found me at the perfect time, i was in my ideal relationship for two years but due to our lives heading in separate directions we had to make a really hard decision to go our own way. and it sort of shattered the entire vision i had for our future, and it's been so hard but i realise i'm turning 26 soon and this is just an opportunity from the universe to focus all my energy on myself. this time is never going to come back, and even though the grief is real and i will have to put in effort to move on, i still am hopeful because singlehood is also so special. and this video is just exactly what i needed to hear.

[@TwinkleStanly]

omg the BEST IS YET TO COME. I’m SO excited for you!!!!

[@fatmafaizal07]

I can feel the genuineness bursting through the video

[@TwinkleStanly]

❤️

[@s_h_61000]

I can totally resonate with you. 'Stabilized' is what I feel as well, worked so hard to feel this way, as someone who was pessimistic. Sending love babe.

[@TwinkleStanly]

Yessss, feeling stabilized is THE BEST! 🙌

[@nikhitavenkatesan968]

"Sharing my life... which I don't want to do" - I absolutely loved that segment of this video. Also, thank you for speaking up on behalf of us 20/30-somethings who feel exactly the same. You hit the nail on the head with so much of what you said, like "get a lot of my basic needs from them...". Hard relate with you, and I just want 2025 to be the year where I embrace it so fully that far less people come at me with the "get married" vibes.

[@TwinkleStanly]

💖💖💖

[@vibeswithanjali]

You're amazing girl, ❤❤you express yourself so well, and I totally get what you're saying. It's not just you who likes being single in your 20s - there are so many girls out there who feel the same. We love our freedom so much and aren't ready to give it up on easily. We're so invested in relationships and such kind people, so it’s tough to find someone who’s even half as good as we are.

[@Bgetsfit.24]

You know I used to feel lonely and depressed especially now since it’s the “wedding season” I can’t even go on social media cause literally everyone is getting married and I’m at that “age” as well. But honestly speaking, I don’t feel at peace with myself or my life.. I genuinely want to LOVE my life and be really really happy with myself! Only when I treat myself with such value and grace I can have high standards and only choose a man that will fit in my life the right way. Yes, it is really hard being single as you grow older and your friends are either in a relationship or getting married but what’s the point of having a unfulfilling relationship ? I’d rather be alone for a year just work on myself fall in love with myself create a life that I love and then I can think about sharing all that I love with someone when the time is right. You can only manifest when you have that clarity of what you want and that is so important. If anything this video gave me a lot of clarity of what I need to work on. So Thank you Twinkle 💕

[@TwinkleStanly]

100000%.

[@soniabagada2467]

Your mind is SO sorted, honestly look up to you

[@cherrygrande]

i absolutely love ur channel and this podcast !!

[@TwinkleStanly]

Wow, thank you!💖

[@Thgd462]

Believe or not but us guys don’t realise these. You’re absolutely gorgeous. And perfect the way you are

[@hex__x0x]

Honestly, the people who are saying "u need love..etc" are not wrong BUT they need to understand that you're NOT wrong either. Being single can be hard, and same for relationship. We just need to choose what matters more to us knowing that we might sacrifice some good parts. A single person might sometimes want love and connection, just like a person in relationship thinks of all the freedom and possibilities if they were single. So it's all about priorities. And this is coming from a person who went through three relationships, the last one being very healthy but ended after 4 years. and now I really don't wanna do it again. bcz why would i give away so much of my time and effort only for it to be thrown away? I did everything right and got her out of misery and was there for her: financially, emotionally, sexually. She even confessed to that herself. But all of that didn't matter? Now after a while, I got clarity of no more sacrificing resources on a partner. like ever again. Maybe after i'm 40 or 50. So I get it twinkle stanly. The clearer our priorities are, the more sure and comfortable with our decisions, especially knowing that there's no situation that is 100% perfect.

[@TwinkleStanly]

❤️❤️❤️

[@kritigandotra3622]

yayyyyy you are back !!! I love to hear and watch you talk

[@TwinkleStanly]

Yayyyy 💓💓💓

[@Quinn222]

Very articulate and flowing video. Thank you 😊

[@TwinkleStanly]

Thank you so much!

[@zn7zn7zn7]

Twinkle look for someone who is a male version of your best friend, who respects who you are and your space like your bestfriend. Date a guy who naturally become your friend first. You will feel comfortable going on a date with someone whom you have already established a friendship and comfort level than a stranger.

[@ujalahanif5857]

Hi Twinkle I totally agree on stabilize part, I do feel i will be successful only when i feel contentment that i truly never felt, so 💯💯

[@novamaju7356]

Girl, I like you soo muchhh omg, I could just listen to here you talk forever.

[@TwinkleStanly]

😭😭😭

[@Raindrops2188]

Love your honesty!

[@TwinkleStanly]

Thank you! 💖

[@Reshma_Nair_10]

Oh my god. I relate to this SO MUCH. I know what you mean. I completely agree with you. ❤

[@mikhayaelishwa]

I Resonate with you so much. You put the standards what I had in my mind, Into words. I’m going to rewatch this episode again & again ❤

[@Klim73]

Why is it so hard to believe that woman is happy being single and without kids?! Have you seen married people? It’s not for everyone! Especially men trying to insist single women are unhappy because it threatens their patriarchal world views. Women are conditioned by society that their lives truly begins when they get married. Which is absurd! Just imagine how much you can contribute to the world when you are not occupy with cleaning after grown man?! You go girl! Stay happy!

[@hazeenajoshi]

You are wise beyond your years 😊

[@vanshikadhakan968]

I feel you, and I’m with you

[@_unfilteredanduncut_]

Loved this episode, Twinkle! I am kind of in my lonely era right now but it is a conscious choice because people around me have dissapointed me. Just like you said, you are surrounded by people who are there for you so comparing is not really fair. But i could relate to the other things you said. It is hard i would say to be alone, but I guess i am going through it one day at a time.

[@4amoats]

Couldn't agree more, it is a conscious choice to be alone. But that also kind of makes an impression that there's just two options. For me, it's like a spectrum, and in my spectrum there isn't a "dating" or a "partner" part, it's just a spectrum of hating myself to being comfortable in my own skin. Not because I don't want to think of it, but because it just isn't a necessity of life, like breathing is. If the paths align with someone, that would be a realization for the future, and that's what would make me think of dating, that friend would be the reason. I think one of the most essential things I could do for myself right now, is to find comfort in my own skin. It is a constant work in progress, and for me, it's easier to be alone than anything else. I just need to learn to enjoy it.

[@sudhamukhia9860]

20s are the golden era of a woman’s life.. don’t get married and enjoy your life to the fullest! You are not missing out on anything, I got married at 19 and my life was not mine anymore !

[@emaanmazhar6998]

Do more of these. I love your content.

[@TwinkleStanly]

Cominggggg 😍

[@rayanshah-c4j]

10000000000% agreeeeeeedddd Can’t agree muchhh ❤❤❤❤❤

[@meeraram3937]

Hey twinkle, You have a good mindset on approaching things... But one thing I tell myself when I look at great couples talk about togetherness and the sense of growing up together both in their relationship n in their careers... One day I would get there and I would enjoy this sense of happiness... I would tell you that same thing... N I observe you have had enough tough relationships, but when you said you are all into it, I felt you should be mindful of being detached too... That balances out on our extreme emotions.... Start by building a good friendship n then take it to a relationship if you feel like .... by that time you know how to get on with that person. Also I feel when we are ready mentally n we send signals to the universe to bring that person, but sometimes right place at right times gets misplaced... So I would say be open to things .... But keep it light n take it up further in a slow pace gradually. Have a great time at the end of the year.

[@TwinkleStanly]

I love this approach! I think it's so important to be mindful and create a solid foundation first. 🥰

[@kavyakalyani9255]

I am single and happy but my family is pressurising me so much to get married . I am 29 and they are constantly telling me to see guys through arrange marriage metups and decide to get married because i am running out of options

[@mariamjameelah260]

I relate with you, been through this,

[@Reshma_Nair_10]

Please post more of similar content. Thanks !

[@TwinkleStanly]

Okay you got it! 💖

[@Bhavana_nijalingappa]

Love love love ❤

[@singhgotnochill..805]

The anxiety is real, $he is hitting the wall in 4K 😂 !

[@2484moon]

Twinkle! You are an inspiring lady who is confident and successfull, I hate to sound like an old lady, but I am really an old lady😂I am sorry if ai sound disencouraging but if gave those guys a chance and think really well ahead like after 40, 40-50 years, guys now are more conservative and sadly they dont seriously consider any lady above 30. This the effect of the Redpill movement happening among these days and so many men just listen to it. I still want to support you in your endevours, but really give more time and attention to the guys who approach you if you found one who is promissing and match your goals and standards in life, I say this with all the love that I might feel for a sister and sorry for this unsolisted advice but I have to say it,take care

[@TwinkleStanly]

I’ll 1000% consider someone who fits my life in the perfect way. 💓

[@cypresse1620]

How much Invisalign in Dubai please?

[@Sreelakshmi-kn2ec]

❤❤

[@yadavritika6900]

You look like janhvi kapoor

[@Artisticsigma-z3y]

Earning is good but being independent till life wont work at all, get married have a family work for them, try to find good life partner ., you cannot share everything with parent and friends . i am saying for both men and woman

[@sbishi9527]

Hy twinkle u dont need surgery for ur underarms, u can just eat foods with high fat content (good fats) like beef,eggs,raw milk etc