Talk To Strangers. It Will Change Your Life.

[@Sprouht]

Let’s start a discussion - what is the best way to talk to strangers/advice for talking to strangers?

[@tyronewilson7890]

Ask them how they’re day is going or start by giving them a compliment. A compliment will put them in a good mood and probably make their day.

[@michellehawco8981]

Keep it simple, walk up to the person, introduce yourself and ask how their day is going :)

[@michellehawco8981]

For me, personally, I get a little creeped out when I receive a compliment from a stranger lol...however, I have on occasion complimented someone's hair or just recently I saw this young girl and I complimented her on her hand knit sweater, she shared with me that she made it herself.

[@SherrickDuncan]

I do it every day. I just walk right up to pretty girls or cool interesting looking guys who don't look to in a rush or busy and put My right hand out and shake their hands while making eye contact. And I say Hi My name is Sherrick. It's really nice to meet you. I wanted to make a new friend around here. And you seem cool because _____. That's it. 💁🏾‍♂️ Then I ask them a question. And then tell them My answer to the same question. Etc etc until they say f#ck off with their mouth or body language or until a convo starts.

[@Alaskaventureswithbrodie]

I am 50 and this last year I really enjoying talking to elders. They have so many insightful stories to tell. I feel like the younger generation have lost some respect for elders, and there’s so much they can learn, but a lot of young people think they already know everything. I always want to learn people stories and helps to become a wiser human. I always heard a saying, it said those that walk with the wise become wise.

[@chnalvr]

I watched my grandpa do this as a regular part of his life. No matter where we would be, at a gasoline pump, grocery store line, elevator, he would say a cheery hello and start chatting up the person nearby. He did not think anyone was a stranger. With a big, sincere, warm smile it always worked and some positive energy was generated there as a result.

[@Sprouht]

Reminds me of my grandpa. That is so wholesome and awesome

[@rturturasu8905]

@@Sprouht bro you in Toronto?

[@Helelsonofdawn]

i bet he had tough hands and owned a tackle box

[@NicoleWSimone]

My husband’s grandpa was like that

[@Helelsonofdawn]

@@NicoleWSimone he had tough hands and said things like "women yap yap yap yap yap isnt my dinner"?

[@ahmedsabbir2293]

"Rejection makes life better." -Mark Manson

[@agapon2023]

no. it doesn't 🙄

[@kushgoblin51020]

@@agapon2023 I think it does, because if you're getting rejected it means you're trying.

[@Jason80001]

It's not about whether the girl says yes or no. It's about polarizing her to see if YOU like HER and to see if you are compatible with her. -Mark Manson, Models

[@agapon2023]

@@kushgoblin51020 you just accumulate negative experience and whether you want it or not it ruins your self-esteem so with low self-esteem you get rejected more often and accumulate more negative experience. this is not a field where you get a reward for trying

[@apolloforabetterfuture4814]

​@@Jason80001very good point

[@StayingMindfulShaq]

You didnt become extroverted....you just gained confidence and converasation skills

[@urSinKhal]

people like him think that all introverts are just too shy to talk to people😂

[@joseh7612]

@@urSinKhalthat's because the vast majority are

[@Anime_View418]

But Introverts do fear Rejection more than Extroverts​@@urSinKhal

[@Bellarue2020]

Right! Being an introvert and being shy are not synonymous

[@TSPage]

You don’t gain confidence, you unlearn insecurity

[@1stJohn3.9-10]

Every Friend, Was Once a Stranger

[@kartikkkkkk72]

& now they are strangers again with some memories

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Is that really true though?

[@namesurname7332]

​@@joshuabuchanan1141sure

[@Scizor-212]

@@joshuabuchanan1141 It would be true yes, since your friends aren't family members and you had to talk to them at some point in the beginning to become friends.

[@ADanZLife]

I just had a 2.5 hour long conversation with a 70 year old man while taking a walk at a park. I learned so much about the area and history.

[@stephenaviaspace5056]

That is amazing.

[@jodekoje]

Truly great

[@cruzin54321]

Old people are lonely and can’t wait to share stories.

[@GodFearing100]

Yes I love that

[@danhannah2910]

When I moved to London, I couldn’t believe how antisocial it all seemed - everyone is busy and stressed with their work / commute and you are simply seen as an obstacle. When I noticed this I started talking to strangers everywhere - on the train/tube, while shopping, coffee shops, pubs, at traffic lights, gym, etc. Most of my friends thought I was nuts for it but it improved my life constantly, giving me new stories, friends or relationships. If you’re reading this, start now, it’s something you won’t regret.

[@pedrohalpern9064]

@Dan Hannah Im in the same situation and im capable of talking to strangers, but how do you approach a girl you like to ask for a date? (The first few words) especially on the street/park?

[@DeanFrenchFX]

Amazing, do you still do it to this day? I always go to randomly talk but freeze up

[@danhannah2910]

@@DeanFrenchFX Yes - nothing’s changed just my surroundings - I moved from London to somewhere where the people are much friendlier and life moves (a little) slower. Now the strangers talk to me and I feel less requirement to start the conversations, although I still do and love it all the same. My best advice is to not force it, you don’t want to itch to speak, rather just say your mind when it comes to you. I often notice something about an outfit, or comment on something in front of us both. Even if it’s short or met with silence, don’t be too discouraged.

[@danhannah2910]

@@pedrohalpern9064 girls are 50% of everyone - they live in the same world as all of us and will appreciate a conversation that isn’t forced or with underlying motives. Start off with people you’re not going to ask out, take the pressure off, and eventually you’ll grow it to be able to ask someone you do want to. KZbinrs seem to often front this idea of ‘an approach’ whereas I will pick people out regardless of whether I’m after anything, and through the conversation I can gauge whether I want to follow it up with something further.

[@Balloonbot]

I lived in London most of my life, and most of my interactions with strangers has been on the tube on weekend nights. Some positive...some not so positive.

[@blankets5782]

It's very interesting how society made technology and the internet to become more social only for us to end up anti-social. This is one of the perverse results that I don't seem to get. I hate that we're becoming more anti-social because we're missing out on meeting new people, having more enriching experiences, and possibly meeting the person we may marry. I hope humanity starts to value in-person communication more after experiencing social distancing and quarantine.

[@deniskasperovich8251]

Be the change you want to see my friend 😁

[@314shorts]

There was no ulterior motive to these platforms besides making money. Society didn’t make it, capitalists looking for revenue did

[@Adriano70911]

Humanity won't start anything good, we've got to erase it

[@Balloonbot]

People say this a lot, and maybe its because I grew up in a city; but i didn't see much more or less friendly social interaction before phones. The internet has changed the world for sure - but can see any bar or park now and there are plenty of people not on phones, they're often with friends - but the phone doesnt make anyone more or less likely to want to talk i dont think. Usually when i commute or waiting for someone i try not to go on my phone, and it doesnt take into account my mood, there'll be times where i just want to be with my thoughts other times i'd welcome it.

[@jacobcampos2407]

@@Balloonbot you’re mostly right but I think that it caused young ppl to choose the interaction of the phone over real people because it’s to easy for a infinite amount of dopamine hits. Ppl can sometimes be too much of a hassle or I’m too bored to talk to ppl now and always resort to my addiction. I’m growing out of it and I was always kinda shy but idk technology has been pretty much all my life and other ppl have said that like in 90’s everyone was more social groups and friendly. Now everything is for TikTok and clout and it’s just so annoying and exhausting. I hope we can go back to normal human intimacy not this artificial one

[@lhm1586]

My little brother has social anxiety, and he started randomly talking to strangers by himself in the streets. It's amazing to see how he can get sincere smiles from strange people just by asking simple questions or giving compliments, this is truly one of the best skills one can have.

[@aim-for-greatn3z947]

Yesss!!!! As a ugly person it was difficult and especially when your chasing women 🤭 overall this helps tremendously later in life especially when you want to achieve goals and dreams. Unfortunately in order to accomplish ANYTHING PEOPLE are needed to do so!

[@namesurname7332]

@@aim-for-greatn3z947 or maybe fortunately

[@onepieceguy2659]

Interesting. I do that too on regular bases. In the beginning it was scary but most people are really friendly. It's so interesting how much resistance you feel when you do that for the first time, and than it gets really easy. By the way I have social anxiety too, but mine shows in a different way. Phone calls, pictures, showing romantic interests, that all scares me a lot. But walking up to strangers and being friendly is really easy. But thanks, I don't value this a lot actually

[@AllanLimosin]

Me too. I started by simply asking people directions on streets and aisles in stores. I already had the informations but I knew my people are friendly so I decided to give it a shot. Sociability is a necessary skill for us humans, so why not improve it. I remember that time is fast so at any situation I have to speak to someone or a crowd, just take the time!

[@estherasth]

But How do u start the conversation? With a question?

[@LostinaMemory]

Saying “sorry to bother you can I ask you a question?” Introduces a sense of inconvenience, like you’re prepping them to thinking that your interaction will be a negative one. Just skip that and say “excuse me:” and just ask your question. No need to ask if you can ask since that’s redundant! You’ll come across as more confident too!

[@hishamdahud]

Underrated comment, you nailed it. 💯

[@gersonsuarez6112]

That's true sir, I heard of that before and thought of it when I saw him saying it

[@MartijnPennings]

Seriously, anytime anyone speaks to me in the street it's to ask for money or for a newspaper subscription. And they always ask "can I ask you something". So is it any wonder I'm walking with headphones all the time.

[@dangangalaxy9759]

Is this really okay? I can’t get the idea out of my head that if I don’t at least get confirmation that they’re down to have a conversation, they’ll feel trapped in the conversation. Like, what if they were enjoying personal time or have somewhere to be? Or what if they’re being polite but wondering when I’ll shut up and leave? How do you know when to end the conversation so you don’t overstay your welcome? (In case you haven’t noticed I’m quite the overthinker 😅)

[@MartijnPennings]

@@dangangalaxy9759 well, it applies to conversation starters, not just to anything. I wouldn't say "excuse me, can I have a hug" or "excuse me, what do you think of the current economic situation in Azerbeidzjan", that's more like a "excuse me, can I ask you something" situation. But like "excuse me, are you familiar here? I'm looking for a nice place to eat/drink/poop" or "excuse me, where did you get that shirt/bag/face, it's really cool".

[@vermine18]

Seeing this experiment without a cameraman and a friend would've been more of a realistic scenario.

[@piggy8761]

Exactly lmao everyone wants clout 😂

[@AdityaSingh-lu8pb]

Yeah

[@mohamedamin8019]

agreed, the camera and the friend adds a sense of security and comfort which can help you cope with eventual rejection.

[@TroyWilcox-c2p]

I wish he was doing it alone and the camera was hidden. Then that would be a realistic KZbin video

[@caydenph2741]

​@@mohamedamin8019 And it also makes people more likely to get into the conversation.

[@katien3022]

This is one of my goals in life-to just be a light to anybody. I admire people that do this with so much ease. I think I’ve definitely improved, but I want to literally be able to do it in any situation. There are so many interesting people out there, it’s just about finding something to talk about and how to naturally enter a conversation without making them uncomfortable.

[@Cooper407]

How did you improve.first of All i dont have any friends.how to befriend anyone.how can i improve my conversation skills, knowledge

[@skiress995]

@@Cooper407 Im not the original poster but I started with reading "How to win friends and influence people". To make friends is really about being genuinely interested in people story and willing to hear what they have to say without ulterior motives.

[@k3vinmckissick]

"to just be a light to anybody" -- beautifully said! Couldn't agree more.

[@mfkill5sk8]

Best way to talk to people is to simply ask “Where are you from, I’m from yadda yadda” that will open up the door to a conversation with anybody if you can be creative enough to explore questions.

[@eb_tigers0775]

m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/q4vHp2CKqc6Aock

[@yuckyhamsandwich]

One of the BEST life lessons I got was in early 2000s when I start taking the bus to school. It was the time before iPods. Old people was especially chatty and I love listening to their life stories. I don’t really have a good family support so these strangers shaped me as an adults. Without these strangers I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

[@melissadavis4981]

That's beautiful ❤

[@brunosco]

Amazing! 😀

[@thefog7067]

It's really sad when you get more support from a stranger than you do from your own family. I'm sorry they didn't support you but really glad you managed to find something else to fill the void so to speak. I hope you're doing well today

[@learninghistory4397]

I do talk to strangers, but only if I have something to say that I consider worth saying. For example, a few days ago, I saw a cashier pushing a trolley full of big trash bags, surely wasted products from the supermarket, and I told her "what you carrying there? Your boss?" It made her laugh, and it feels super nice to make strangers laugh.

[@rvchharlem7643]

Hey you on twitter?

[@mralixander9]

Maybe you are confident, but your sense of humor is bad.

[@learninghistory4397]

@@mralixander9 Hey, thank you for bringing me back to this comment, it's nice to see that so many people liked it.

[@swthelostarchives]

I used to do this a lot during my lunch breaks at uni. All my friends wanted to stay inside and talk smack. I found it boring and would instead go on long walks,discovering new routes, shops, and stuff to do. I learned all the street names and best places to go. I even started talking to people in the street, helping them with directions or asking how their day was and I got so many stories to tell from it. One of the best things you can do to improve your life. I wish my friends had joined me.

[@estherasth]

But How do u start the conversation? With a question?

[@to_discover_life]

@@estherasth witha complement is often the best or a random observation...like bloody hell its cold idk

[@TheNameCannotBeFound]

I started doing this at the gym with anyone who was working in with me on a specific machine. I loved it so much, I started doing it in public as well if I ever felt a good vibe from someone. The amount of good people I met, new friends, folks that had amazing stories to share or things to teach me, it was magical. I still do it to this day, it's amazing.

[@manojunited1]

When you approach strangers with a camera, I think they most of the time respond in a friendly manner. I can only wonder how they would react when you approach the while alone and with no camera 🤔

[@UberBossPure]

Yea especially when he asked Free food/ drinks. Of course he gets for free with video.

[@su2sa1li4]

You can but the First line should be about surroundings

[@Daily_1percent]

You know thatwasepic KZbin channel

[@nestea007]

@@UberBossPure Yep, that basically was a very cheap commercial deal for them...

[@UberBossPure]

@@nestea007 yes. Iam pretty sure there is a rule for all Big Companies „if a guy (influencer) with Camera asks for food or something, just give him this shit“

[@Adam_Zielinski]

dude demonstrated more social competence in his "how not to ask" with strangers then I have in the past 18 years of my life 💀

[@unkuOlaa]

like fr😂

[@I_DAMIANO_I]

fakty XD

[@cadeng8168]

I started doing this by accident. In highschool, my dad used to tell me every morning to "make someone else's day better" and then some days he would ask what I did. It was honestly super annoying, but I did it, and the easiest way to make someone else's day better is to just plotonically compliment a stranger "i love your shirt/shoes" or whatever. Sometimes it turned into full blown conversations. I would highly recommend that as a place to start for my fellow introverts

[@alberto3641]

Nice, that's a good recommendation

[@melissadavis4981]

Once I stopped caring what people thought of me and really learned to love myself I was able to open up to the world and talk to everyone and anyone. My husband doesn't like it sometimes but I still keep on keepin on because I love it and it makes me happy to talk to strangers ❤

[@WilliamHalverd]

We are same them, this change started to happen when i moved from a small town to the big city!

[@GAMING_EYES_OFFICIAL]

That's Great 🎉

[@The-Wide-Angle]

Strangers who ask me "May I ask you a question?" are almost always people who want me to sell something. Not a good approach.

[@louislalobstah]

This is really inspiring. I just spent a day out and about on my own exploring a new city and I can’t tell you how much I wanted more social connection but was just nervous to go and talk with strangers. Eventually I ended up chatting for awhile with two ladies at a random art gallery and they opened up to me asked where I was from, about my t shirt and they recommended some things to see in town. I think what helped was being curious to learn about something specific and asking questions. I hope to get better at this skill overtime but you’ve given me a lot of motivation. Un grand merci à vous Sprouht

[@Sprouht]

Right on. As I said in the video, the best way to get over those nerves is to have a goal in mind. “Where are you from?” Or “Where can I find the best pizza?” are easy examples. You got this!!

[@FOURTEEFIVE]

Interesting comment! so it was... it was that you actually had a reason to communicate hm? so almost like the feeling of "loneliness" or desire for friendship cam both be quenched by simply going about your day WITHOUT GOOGLE.

[@FilmsByDan]

Curiosity is a great tool. If you have it naturally let that fuel your confidence. If you don't, look for another motivator. Much like the creator of this video said, enter a conversation with a goal. At the same time, don't "think too far" is an important lesson mentioned too. Like, if you see a cute girl don't go for "I'd really like to take her to dinner" but rather just start with "I like her [insert obvious compliment]". It'll either jumpstart a convo or you'll immediately know that she's not interested. And if it's a rejection, you can brush it off pretty quickly if you haven't built a bigger goal

[@justinahconsolation4850]

Hi friend I would like to know more about you if you don't mind

[@louislalobstah]

@@justinahconsolation4850 Hi! What would you like to know? :)

[@ivanetenete]

I gotta share my little story after watching this video: One year ago I moved to another city in my country (Spain), where I had no one to hang out with. One night I got home from work and I thought to myself "Fuck this, I'm gonna go for a party on my own". I did this several times during my Erasmus year back in the day, but I never had to do it in my own country. So I went to a disco-pub in the downtown and there I started dancing on my own. Few moments later, I saw a bunch of people dancing like crazy, so I approached one of them and asked him "Man, I see you are all killing it in the dancefloor, May I join you? It feels akward to dance here all alone". He agreed and that's basically how I met the awesome group of people that I can hang out with nowadays in this city and with whom I have had lots of good times. So yeah, go talk to some strangers from time to time :D

[@oluwatimilehinakinlade1782]

Really helpful comment. Our perceptions of people really exist only in our minds. It is only by putting oneself out there more that one would find out how amazing people can be!

[@bobbellendovich6825]

We do this in Texas quite often. Talking to strangers is part of leaving the house and going out in public.

[@FPLogistic]

@@aaronlc7948 Idk about the south but from what I've noticed people in cities are not as open and friendly as people from smaller towns and rural areas, they just tend to mind their own business.

[@stephenaviaspace5056]

@@FPLogistic in urbanized cities people are busier and more stressed

[@Brandon-n1w7w]

Anyone who reads this: I give Sprouht props for overcoming his anxiety to take action. From starting his channel to talking to random strangers, I commend him for all of it

[@MuhammadUsman-f3y]

I think the most hardest thing is to talk to those people whom once we shared our time and now they are strangers.

[@nightfangs2910]

Context and representation is everything, your a handsome guy with a cameraman, this premise allows people especially women to drop their guard dramatically and speak with you which is great what's difficult is trying to get people to honestly open up about anything personal for good reason their on camera, then the camera premise works against you

[@nightfangs2910]

@John Sampson exactly, none of this is a true representation of what would happen if you're not good looking and say a hidden camera from a distance, then watch what happens, most likely you'll be ignored at best, or have the police called on you at worst 🤣🤣🤣

[@larixon8863]

No, my grandpa does this on a daily basis and he's chill, no camera needed

[@nightfangs2910]

@@larixon8863 because he's a grandpa, no thought of a threat to women, most women will sympathize with an elderly man

[@larixon8863]

@@nightfangs2910 he's 55

[@nightfangs2910]

@@larixon8863 he's obviously not very intimidating looking then otherwise women would be hesitant naturally

[@storispinner]

I think it's a fundamental misunderstanding that all introverts are shy, don't know how to talk to people, etc.! Being able to talk to others has nothing to do with introversion or extroversion. There are shy, unable-to-talk-to-strangers extroverts who long for the company of others, and socially capable, not shy at all introverts who still love hanging out by themselves.

[@denong2263]

someone don't talk to girls ,because he shame on talking with girls. it is not a good thing.but if you want ,you will talk to girls. so it depends on yourself.

[@Helelsonofdawn]

@@denong2263 its a good thing, most are horrible minus the korean ones and ones from mexico and black ones in the hood that arent from a set

[@nuraortoma1820]

Damn so I guess I'm shy a extrovert! I like having others around! Just I'm too fucking shy to talk to people. I wish I could just approach anyone lol 😔

[@Helelsonofdawn]

@@nuraortoma1820 walk up and be like you down with that bia bia sell out crime bills bernie ppanders or you a real man a real vato and support cruz essay?

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

@@nuraortoma1820 same ong

[@michellehawco8981]

I will talk to anybody, it's in my nature :) (i'm from Newfoundland) especially since covid I miss human interaction. To my surprise, back in dec last year, I was sitting in my little corner of the parking lot having my coffee at McDonalds, this guy pulled up in a truck, next to my van and started talking to me. We had such a good conversation. Just yesterday I approached a guy who I've seen many many times around town but never ever spoke to. Again, another great conversation.

[@Sprouht]

I LOVE THAT. We need more of those in the world.

[@christianoneill4878]

Whaddya at b'y!

[@TimXMan1000]

I have a lot of friends from Newfoundland where ya at der by 🤣

[@estherasth]

But How do u start the conversation? With a question?

[@michellehawco8981]

It doesn't have to be a question. Could start with a compliment.

[@carlosvenegas2120]

There is a HUGE difference approaching with a camera than without one

[@viktor2338]

What is it

[@TheNoobyNoob1]

The asking about cool things to do is genuinely such good advice. I moved to Albuquerque about 6 months ago on my own and that’s simply the easiest way to start a convo. I’ve done it so many times, and even if it’s a weird formality thing I robotically do, it shows you cool stuff to do and you meet some really cool people.

[@Sam-nn3en]

KZbin needs more videos like these....thank you so much for making one and sharing! Really helps me to open up to other people and not feel that social awkwardness. Loved the quote - A stranger is just a friend that you haven't met yet! Thank you so so much.

[@elizabethdumas4147]

Young girls grow up being told NOT to talk to strangers. I'm an introvert and read that book as well. It validated who i was. I do like to talk one to one with people and can talk to people quite easily. It's just that large groups of people and socializing can tire me out and i need to withdraw to recharge my batteries. I talk to people at the grocery store or standing in line places. Younger people are so glued to their phones today that i don't even attempt talking to them. Should I?

[@JuanmaUG]

Try ma girl

[@Cheerleader644860]

I dont c y not 2

[@JuanmaUG]

@@aaronlc7948 facts

[@elizabethdumas4147]

@@aaronlc7948 I agree.

[@AY-qy4jn]

No hot girl start a talk anyway like some sort of royalty.

[@lytnin88]

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. You can get more comfortable talking to strangers and still be an introvert. Introverts--and I am one of them--do not need to be in the company of other all the time, as extroverts. Trying to change from an introvert to an extrovert would be like changing the color of your eyes from blue to green.

[@notnotandrew]

Extroverts don’t need to be in others’ company all the time… that’s like saying that introverts need to be alone all the time.

[@mridhulml3269]

what if the whole introvert thing is a madeup fad for people to use as an excuse to not learn to talk to people and feel better about themselves cause they're "introverted" not lacking social skills.. its just a thought, I'm an "introvert" too

[@lytnin88]

@@mridhulml3269 You can be an introvert and still learn to talk to people. Introverts do not avoid social interaction 24/7. THere's a difference between "introvert" and "hermit."

[@C_98.]

@@lytnin88 you right, I am a introvert, but I love have some real connections with other peoples in my days 😁

[@morsaw10000]

@@notnotandrew he’s just one of those people that think they’re introverted because they have social anxiety. He just needs to get off porn/alcohol/junk food and he’ll feel ambivert like 99% of people

[@digambershah8727]

never forget that friend who is with you in a hard time.

[@copycatlyn]

i live like this, really think the world would be happier if we just talked more. communication is the resolution to everything.

[@MCab]

The perfect "How not to talk to a stranger" example is the last 15 seconds of the video where no empathy was shown to someone who was about to fall. I think that was the perfect moment to actually make an honest interaction with someone who feels vulnerable but your buddy made it uncomfortable lol Other than that, great topic to discuss!

[@jaytheasianman]

Agreed. Rule 1 of how to talk to a stranger, be kind to everyone.

[@lloydirving6209]

if someone rode their bike into me while I am literally standing still, the last thing on my mind would be making sure I am nice and polite to them

[@Ctrl_Alt_Elite]

@A.J. I don't think so, she leaned back and said hey to camera 😂 I swear people be reachin sometimes.

[@jaytheasianman]

@@lloydirving6209 That’s fine, if that’s how you want to interact with the world. I think you can treat anyone with kindness no matter the situation. Especially in this case when it was obviously an honest mistake, she didn’t intend to ram her bike into him. Kindness never costs you anything but the impact you leave on someone else matters more than you think.

[@fatygalonenuno9315]

that was not uncomfortable at all lol

[@Fromaddicttoentrepreneur]

Thank you so much for this video! I was so so so shy all throughout grade school. I just thought i was the biggest ugliest loser because i wasnt "popular" according to the standards of the people that i went to school with. What really helped me to get out of my shell and start talking to people more is when i became a waitress at a restaurant. The first couple of weeks at Chili's i cried every night when i got home because i was so scared. But after 13 years of waitressing, i feel like going up to people and talking to random people is so so much easier. Now I'm a lyft driver and its a really awesome job to have in this time of my life. I would say one tip to anyone who's an introvert is to just throw yourself into a job where you absolutely have to talk to people. That helps so much to get out of your shell. Another thing that helped is that i met my now husband of 12 years who is an extrovert. He really got me out of my shell and I'm so thankful that I'm with him. He's my opposite and that's what attracts me to him so much! Good luck everyone. Have a beautiful, blessed life. Don't ever be afraid to get rejected. It's just part of the human experience and its nothing personal.

[@stelladee325]

Good strategy. I read Susan’s book too. Covid’s thrown a wrench into social networks; I’d say hang in there! I learned a lot raising one introvert and one extrovert (happy young adults now). The extravert, no shock, loved joining clubs/classes as a kid. The more the merrier. After a club night she followed up, connected, built up lunch meetings /adventures/ friendships from there. My introvert joined fewer clubs in college but on graduation was kinda at a loss. We learned post college: he was happier in groups that met regularly (say a seasonal team/ band practice twice a week ) & went out socially after….because he didn’t have to call, plan, or set things up!! His connections were built in, “automatic” as it were. Plenty of new faces flow in and out as members change or as sibs/ roommates/ cousins join the social mix after. You are an extraverted introvert, I think, and like a bit of both. I think McGill should hire you to teach new students how to interact. Because those kids lost 3 high school years learning how to socialize. Cheers!

[@Sprouht]

For the last part to your comment - I am currently in talks with them! Hopefully this happens.

[@stelladee325]

@@Sprouht Good!

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@Sprouht We need to ban cel phones or dating never change

[@mayracarreno4123]

I did it and I was robbed lmao

[@NeedAhHundo]

😂😂😂

[@sg5sd]

😅 Oh man.

[@cleverprogrammer4330]

😂

[@duas9468]

"The worst they can say is no"

[@MarieWilliams-t9w]

Me too it's best to not talk to people we do not know

[@sunbird4391]

It takes lots of courage but the benefits can be so productive to your own life

[@johannamartinez5463]

Talk with strangers is not that easy here. It was a cultural shock for me. In Colombia you talk with all the people. Here people in the office even don't talk.

[@TimXMan1000]

In Latin America everyone is social in the USA and Canada everyone

[@anishsurendran8761]

so sad

[@yellowRose806]

Thanks for recommending the book! I needed it! I'll order it now.. As I'm now in my early 30s, I am tired of people overlooking me just because I'm and quiet. I'm beginning to cry and I really am trying to improve.

[@marys8801]

When I was trying to meet people, I found that it was good to go to the same activity several times in a row. E.g. the same zumba class, and to go early when people may be chatting. They say that if you have to pay for a class, people are more likely to come more often.

[@lekolega]

Cool video. Very positive energy. I do find myself talking to random people more since I moved away from my hometown and sometimes you get surprised to very quickly find a common interest or topic. It's pretty awesome. Kinda goes in favor of this concept that is mentioned: Strangers are just friends you haven't met yet.

[@IeltswithSaid01]

Yesterday i have talked to a Egyptian tourist in my country And it has been a great conversation i can say

[@Domino10112]

Talking to strangers does make a difference. Thanks for telling us how not to talk to strangers as well.

[@marsius7909]

I think I don't talk to strangers not because I'm afraid of rejection, but because I find it hard to believe people would want to talk to strangers. Of course, I know on a logical level that there will be some who won't mind, but on the level of feelings I feel that I will be just bothering the other person.

[@bosshogg6]

Yeah, I find myself feeling the same way, but actually, a surprising number of people ARE interested in talking. Maybe even the majority of people.

[@justinahconsolation4850]

@@bosshogg6 hi friend I would like to know more about you

[@MarceloArzubialdeRodriguez]

you have to see it this way: it's our nature, it's in our DNA, we are a social specie. Most importantly, it's evolution. We have not survived because of strength, nor because our individual intelligence, nor because our individual capacity. We are just like ants. All significant things achieved by human kind has been done by team work. Of course if you don't feel that connection, or even necessity, you can't understand this. In opposite, I find it hard to believe someone who doesn't want to socialize, who doesn't feel a nice reward after meeting someone, exchanging ideas, knowledge, emotions, dreams, EMPATHY. It's just fucking awesome, the feeling that you can understand everybody, that everybody are the same. Of course, you discover and understand (or don't) new perspectives, types of people, good things and bad things. Maybe you are too young, or you just haven't experienced much things yet. maybe you have got used to be isolated from everyone and have forgotten what it is like. Maybe you have experienced bad situations and you've made a bad idea of the people. Anyways, you should try it and discover how does it feel like on your own. And always be aware of the fact that, as long as you don't cause a negative impact over the other person, as a human, you are likely to contribute in many ways to others. Think about love, it appears from nothing. Sexual attraction it's actually not required, it's just an unmanageable, unpredictable thing, evolution making its job. The same way, the truth is that there is love to others. (we can't get along with everyone, you get along with the people you understand, and they understand you. There are people that just have different ideas that you will never be able to understand. Just accept that. Always do your effort to understand the other person, but remember that it just won't always work, sometimes it's your fault, sometimes they just have different ways to perceive people, maybe antisocial ideas, have prejudices, biases, etc. It's ok. , Just move along and don't take it personal. Appreciate your ones).

[@WorkGalaxy47]

I know what you mean. I’m trying to be rid of my social anxiety, and go back to being the talkative, active guy I used to be when I was a kid, but it’s proving to be easier said than done. Like, I think of what to talk about to someone, but then a thought pops up saying “You’re just gonna weird them out. They don’t know you, why would they want to talk to you?”. It really annoys me, especially since I would like to get a girlfriend one day, but my social anxiety, and what I know about everything going on between men and women nowadays, prevents me from trying. I have made some progress on being rid of it though, so hopefully one day I’ll actually be able to go up to a stranger, and try to make conversation. I’d rather not spend the rest of my life alone, doing nothing but looking at a screen.

[@Kadir-lq5rz]

​@@WorkGalaxy47Remember, your ideas are not real. It's just the scenarios you have in your head. The next time you come up with such "scenarios that have nothing to do with reality", say "let's see if this is real or not" and do it.

[@TheSaltydog07]

I talked to a stranger at a theater rehearsal and found out we were cousins. Our kids were in the play. :)

[@Powell2023]

When I go backpacking I usually spend most of my time on my own cause I'm too anxious to talk to people. Keep up the good work

[@Sprouht]

Time to change it my friend!

[@Helelsonofdawn]

i dress hoboey so people buy me mcdonalds and give me rides

[@jasonlampa]

I was a super shy kid and the truth is, I still am. When I'm in hostels and there's a big group conversation happening I get pretty anxious and don't know how or don't really want to join in. But my first ever solo trip I forced myself to talk to some people and it literally changed my life - like I would be an entirely different person if I had never gone up to the first 'locals' I've ever met on my travels. It's tough but I highly recommend giving it a go, you never know what might happen. Enjoy your trips!

[@1slowmugen]

Every rejection is a redirection that’s how I live! Don’t be scared and talk to new people 😊

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Um no, rejection trauma is a very real thing🙄😡

[@1slowmugen]

@@joshuabuchanan1141 for the weak!

[@glasshalffo0l]

This video is so helpful! I’ve started interviewing friends in public but I’m working on overcoming rejection by speaking to strangers. Thanks for creating this. I’m always proud to see your growth always.

[@MrJking065]

I was a professional salesman. 1. Never crowd anyone. Keep a little distance between you and the person you want to speak to. 2. Talk about the weather. Or sports. Look for clues. You may see someone wearing a Jersey of a team you like also. Look at their car. People love talking about their car, even if it is a sh!tbox. People like talking about themselves. Never take over the conservation and not let the other person speak. Quite taking if the person you are talking to their eyes glaze over with boredom. It NEVER talk Politics or Religion. I was a extrovert until I had several strokes. I am now an introvert. But if I am feeling good on a certain day, I can talk with almost anyone.

[@jewelleryaddict]

Was a fear of public speaking or in talking in school for me, voice cracked face red . High school took a speaking class helped little. Then college took another. Helped a lot. Ended up with a job public speaking to crowded rooms for near 25 years. Love it. Best is still one on one tho. So glad forced myself to conquer it. Met so many wonderful people. If I can do it, anyone can believe me.

[@AY-qy4jn]

Sounds like hitlers backstory

[@jewelleryaddict]

@@AY-qy4jn don't know about Hitler but it does feel good to conquer fear. My second thing was to learn to ride a motorcycle and I did at 35. Husband and brothers in law all had one and riding on back is no fun. So I got my own and can see why guys enjoy it. Have a good one, did Hitler ride to?

[@Radiomojave22]

U are the best

[@filiprangus5826]

"You should say yes more, you'll have more stories", very well said man

[@braidy4450]

I’m going to be really honest with you man. Old me would be a hypocrite, judge you, and think that you doing this is cringe. But I know deep down this is me, and that I was being a huge hypocrite also I have massive envy issues. Because we have very similar interest. I am a friendly person & want to let go and have the friendships you’re having. Thank you for providing value on things to get convo started. Really appreciate you man! & I hope the best for you, to meet lots of cool people. We all grow together :)

[@Raditz555]

Just learned about the surgeon general’s report on the loneliness epidemic. Talking to strangers is a great way to socialize and fight that feeling of loneliness. Something I’ll try to do more often, despite how nerve racking it is

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Hate to break it to you but the reality is that there's no such thing as a loneliness epidemic, people have been lonely for decades it's nothing new, the loneliness epidemic is a lie and it's misinformation

[@spideyvirus]

As an introvert I enjoy having my own space because talking to strangers is exhausting. I don't approach women often because I am from LA and they are not always friendly or think you are a weirdo, but I do talk to many strangers and no longer take rejection personal. Great video!!

[@tomrowe7534]

I drive my older cars a lot and it’s amazing how many great people I have met because they had questions or a story to share about the car.

[@souledout3239]

Very cool. Cars and music have a way of connecting people on a different level.

[@daveyt4802]

People with similar interests are the easiest to talk to IMO.

[@trustyenriquez]

Love this bro! I used to be introverted too but realized everything I want in life is through others. So I started to put myself out there more 🙏

[@randomnumbers84269]

Wrong definition of introverted. You can't change from introvert to extrovert. You can become more sociable, more outgoing, less antisocial, less shy. These are all habits and skills you learn. Introversion and extroversion are simply how your brain is wired to work since birth.

[@mack3009]

i like how in this public coment section we all talk to each other, but if we all have watched this in a giant screen irl no one would talk to each other

[@SSRaskar]

I dont wonna interview people but to begin a new friendship or just a random individual who'd join a conversation and atleast someone like the lady in the end.

[@tessiabrown1]

Great video. I am new to Montreal and I am on this journey too, so I love watching your videos. I trying to find things I love to do whether in free settings or not to meet people with simular interests. I would say asking people questions really opens up a conversation and help make others feel important and valadated. Also the way people answer a question tells you a lot about them. So an opening question is my favourite method.

[@Sprouht]

I love it

[@walmir34]

It easier because of camera, people tend to be nice...but if you are alone its more complicated and suspicious

[@amanmagar2117]

social anxiety and fear of rejection are leading cause that prevent an individual to open up and be more social so this vedio is worth watching .thank u bro

[@blakemcmahan3960]

I’ve started doing this the last two years it’s freeing and it’s awesome to see and hear about others lives! Over time I feel confident enough to talk to anyone

[@BMFSloth]

This is how I have always naturally been. Super social with no agenda other than spread my happiness and positivity. I would love to make someone else the center of attention and make people laugh. I'm 30 now, and I have noticed that for the past 5 years or so, I have started going the introvert way.... it's been SO weird, but I felt I was obligated to change because it seemed nobody was open to talking or bother paying attention to others... I felt like my positive energy was being mistaken and misconstrued as "creepy" or "weird"... like what?! I have always been described as kind and approachable. Yet those traits are now deemed negative. What the actual duck? Idk. I'm just living it out and trying to go back to human basics. Edited for spelling*

[@mflo713]

dude i’ve been through something similar! it’s not personal. its just that many don’t know how to talk to people due to social media making them more anti social. sadly its becoming more prevalent but DO NOT DIM YOUR FLAME! it’s going to be hard at first but you’ll eventually find your tribe and plenty of others who would love to talk. there are others who feel the same as you but will never find out because they won’t make the first approach. someone has to start it so why not be you? the worst that can happen is they’ll tell you no. if so then on to the next one.

[@GabrielXDrums]

@@mflo713 the problem is even looking for anyone to begin with, as they tell me, an introverted extrovert, “don’t go looking”. That simple.

[@SinghSahab6652]

​@@spacecoffeemood7298 What kind of conversation introvert person l8ke most can u tell me 😅

[@SinghSahab6652]

@@spacecoffeemood7298 right bro

[@THENIGHTMAREYT21]

As an Introvert, I don't like talking to strangers 😐

[@dm_tardi]

Thank you for this video, man. Very inspiring 🙌 I realized that I really can’t remember the last time I initiated a conversation with a stranger for no obvious reason. But this is really an amazing part of a journey, definitely worth any risks of rejection :) thank you for this reminder 🙏

[@sebeek00]

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who does this! I love to talk to "strangers" and I always try to make their day better.. because you, people, deserve it!

[@ParkerRealtorJax]

My worries are people being unsafe whether it’s crime, drugs, negative energy, etc. it’s hard to make friends and meet new people in a world full of evil and also not knowing who someone really is

[@ansjeliek]

I got the same fear! people could be super friendly or the total opposite, you never know

[@TuBui2]

A good life tip that's helped me: Always believe that someone has something interesting to teach you.

[@arcticm5634]

Great content, great video, so inspiring. Just a few hours ago, I had two completely unexpected conversations at the gym with two total strangers. As an introver, this kind of things have always scared me a bit, but the two chats today whit these two people, have really made my day better. That feeling of getting to know someone you were afraid of talking to is so fulfilling, it can make your confidence grow in no time. I hope I can get better and better at this!

[@muzammilsher3323]

For an introvert .... Two chats with strangers ... in a single day ... Social battery 🔋 finished 😅

[@medro04]

Bro I don't think that's introversion. That's just social anxiety really. You think you're an introvert because you feel uncomfortable and drained after social interactions, but I'll bet it's the anxiety that's wearing you down. At least, that's how it was for me. After I got myself out there, that exhaustion went away (mostly). Anyway, it's been a couple months now, surely you're already nailed it and are now a boss, right? How's it going?

[@dean8147]

I used to be just like this when i was 23, just graduated and working abroad where i did not speak the local language. Despite this, i'd talk to as many people as i could. Now, almost 29, I've completed reverted into my shell. I can't even hold eye contact which I've been called out on, twice.. recently. Weird how its all changed but I blame covid and my lack of effort getting out these last few years and focusing far too much on progressing at work. I think I need to start a new chapter.

[@hobojungle1]

It happens. You’re not alone.

[@miriamschober]

same with me!

[@geraldobrien7323]

If you read that book, you would realize that your issue was not that you were an introvert. It was that you were shy. There’s a difference between the two.

[@roge5901]

im sorry i just have to say it, your cameraman is fking GIGANTIC MAN GAWD DAMN

[@ramkumarananthapalli7151]

This is the best video I have seen in recent days. You made my day bro. Couldn’t agree more on your advice, talking to people totally changes the life.

[@daveyt4802]

You can't make friends if you are not friendly. Most people think you are trying to get something or rip you off.

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

​@johnsampson6387same here, it's annoying and unnecessary as fuck, they're not even interesting in talking to you about other stuff, all they do is ask for cigarettes and money🙄😡

[@joetabbah6825]

Such a great video! Really enjoyed shooting it with you 🙏🏻

[@Sprouht]

Thanks for joining bro!

[@Celestials1aurora]

I feel like stranger danger is what makes it harder. You dont know the person . A stranger is a stranger..

[@marycallan1937]

I’ve done this my whole adult life and my young daughter thought I was strange, now that she’s older, she makes small talk too. I enjoy lighting up someone’s face with a sincere compliment!👍🏼😁

[@anishsurendran8761]

No don't try.

[@MarvFitBikesKicks]

Experiencing social anxiety, anti social behavior and being introverted is the worst struggle in my life. I wish I was never born every single day. I don’t even know where to begin to overcome this obstacle

[@dig3023]

hey dude, sorry to hear that... I don't know you, but I beleve you can overcome it and get the life you deserve :)

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Exactly, I can't start a conversation with anyone without feeling rapid heartbeats every time, I wish I could talk to random strangers without feeling rapid heartbeats, I'm going to tell that to the psychiatrist at my appointment next month

[@margaretapersson7022]

Having travelled a lot in the US my experience is that americans are much easier to initiate a conversation with than europeans. Also I noticed in Hollywood movies a character is often approaching a person directly with a question or any type of sentence without saying excuse me or sorry to bother you. I learned this and now I am doing the same - I look directly at a person and just ask a quick question, it works well.

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

That’s so true ❤

[@daniel_361]

Yeah talking to strangers differs vastly on the local culture. In my country Germany there are areas such as the Rhine valley where you start talking to a stranger and you get their entire life story within ten minutes AND are invited to some social event directly. In my home region Swabia, on the other hand, if you talk to strangers they will mostly look at you as if you had just insulted them gravely.

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

@@daniel_361 that’s super interesting

[@FIATLUKE]

​@@daniel_361 yeah I get this in cities too. People in MPLS/st.paul don't even want to look at you. Go out to the outer burbs and that's all they do is stare and gab.

[@rbasket8]

We europeans aren't homogenous. Not even in my country this thing is homogenous (Spain).

[@NesheimPhotography]

Hey man - loved the video! I went to McGill for my undergrad, so nice seeing the city again:) but the point I wanted to say was that I understand the struggle of being an introvert. I understand the desire to listen and not talk, or how people often presume your silence implies negative emotions towards them - I'm happy to see your willingness to go beyond what you've been told and taught, it's motivating:) putting yourself out there will get you far. I've had to place myself in the spotlight throughout my time now at Harvard, and the uncomfortability is immense alongside the imposter syndrome, but it shows that we're not what we're used to - our capabilities go beyond what we know and are. This video reminded me of that sentiment. Well done, I can't wait to see what else you produce.

[@jimc336]

I do this every day. Everywhere I go. It’s awesome!

[@khatereh4831]

As an introverted person in high school i saw my friends having fun talking about life's dailies with my teachers or borrowing each others notes to study for exams. For me, i was never able to do these but since it made me somehow jealous of their good social status, i promissed myself i'm gonna practice being more social. cause if you think logically, you'll come to figure out that people will be always there for you and help you while being an introvert, you prefer doing things alone and not asking for help

[@Madrassgutten]

My biggest problem is that im really bad at keeping a convo with known and strange people, but my closest relations are easier to talk to

[@jesuschristuslebt3523]

I get you 😊

[@iriu2403]

I used to be terrified of everybody. Even my own family. Few years later, I talk to random people all the time. Not in a weird way, though. 😅 It has definitely helped me with dealing with embarrassing situations. I am able to move through them without hiding. I am able to grow stronger. I am able to do hard things.

[@charlie5thumbs351]

I'm glad I came across this video, because it happened right after I started thinking about my current mindset that I really need to change. This content is different and I really like and appreciate how this isn't all about picking up girls or getting laid. Although I am looking for a relationship, if feel like I've been wanting it too much, and it affects how I see women. I'm also trying to quit porn because of the effect it has on how I view the opposite sex in general. I want to see women as human beings that I can genuinely connect with and not just something that will inflate my ego, so thank you so much for posting this!

[@GabrielXDrums]

Yeah all that IS a problem and you have to cut it entirely and STOP looking, because then you’ll fall into depression like I did, as my friend tells me “get rid of the idea of even wanting a relationship because it’s not normal”, sure others have it, but that’s them, you’re YOU, is basically what they say, don’t even go looking. At all. Stop scanning, cause I know you do it too.

[@davidedoer1722]

sx just makes you be out of harmony with life aggressive mindset money material thing as a people to them starts to seem more needy to have them, without sx you starting not to need these material things, thats why its legal sx and promote sx becouse its easer to pick money from people it weakens them, sx makes them more gold diggers, to forget whats important inside people(knowledge) also correct if i wrote it wrong

[@starsthedog]

Ask Jesus for help, about the porn thing. He will answer, if you pray for it sincerely

[@openlyspoken]

The people agreeing to hug strangers are my favorite ❤

[@klx15]

This is so normal in Brazil. Most Brazilians initiate conversations with strangers. I think Brazilians are sociable and always willing to make friends.

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Is that actually true? I've never been to Brazil before

[@kingfrancis6121]

0:42 damn, my whole personality flashed in front of my eyes in 40 seconds

[@lytnin88]

I (an introvert) do this while I'm sitting in the sauna. Most people in there are busy playing with their phones, but if you talk to them--most will be friendly and respond. Even if you're interrupting whatever they were doing with their phone.

[@Helelsonofdawn]

if you talked to me in a sona youd better be asking me if i know a good korean parlor

[@lytnin88]

@@Helelsonofdawn How do I identify you if I see you in the sauna, Bernie? Was your reply an attempt at humor?

[@Helelsonofdawn]

@@lytnin88 im not bernie,,,,,berie sanders is bernie, you identify me by if im asking you for that info, but if you have no tattoos and arent a white guy or cholo im not talking at all, ill keep my composure like those asian gentlemen who just ball out no towel leaving sillohuettes

[@TRAMP-oline]

@@Helelsonofdawn wrong side of history. what a shameful thing you are

[@daveyt4802]

No way in #$*& I'd bring my phone into the sauna with me.

[@D33Lux]

11:00 This man has great wisdom, he's right!

[@HuugyBearInc]

I am not necessarily an introvert, but I don’t approach people as much as I should… gonna try this out… this goal is to meet 3 new people every week

[@LingoLewi-27]

I wouldn't have learned my languages if I didn't approach anyone! Every language I speak has been to the kindness from strangers throughout the past 8 years! Now I make KZbin videos speaking their languages on the streets! Great work brother, I'm sharing this far and wide. From one introvert to another here down under!

[@rml4289]

What language

[@pangulusaat691]

I am Indonesian that resided in New York when I was 6 and returned when I reached 8. On the first day we arrived, my mom kept reminding us (my sister and I) not to talk to strangers here. I suppose it was because we both were toddlers that really concerned my mom. Nevertheless, though I am a full grown up, I would suggest practice these in moderation, especially if your residing in big cities such as New York or Jakarta, for that matter.

[@jansleyreal]

I feel like the universe keeps sending me signals that I need to start doing this more. I’m so burnt out from the online dating scene, and have been wanting to just start up conversations with random people hanging out in parks and whatnot. I’m not sure what the tipping point will be for me to pull the trigger and do it, but I would like to try this within 15 days.

[@neelfirst]

30 days later how you doing

[@estherasth]

Tell us. How do you start the conversations

[@Xmlott]

The asking for a hug part was definitely how TO talk to strangers

[@Leto85]

I'm not even gonna joke here: that you do this without feeling bad or ashamed after I find very brave.

[@razzmatazz123]

9:10 cannot think of this in our country