WHY YOU FEEL DECEIVED BY PEOPLE WITH PERSONALITY DISORDERS |LIVE CHAT

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Personality disorders can be difficult to understand. Here is a video I did years ago about the road to sociopathy: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e4Gam2pmq92HesU

[@jynclr]

Just because someone is empathetic doesn't mean they're not evil.

[@truth4utoda]

Amen to that

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Agree 100% jynclr

[@nicolecarnevale3226]

They sure can be evils projection screen…,

[@AdamantlyAdams]

Thank you Tamara! ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are so welcome!

[@AdamantlyAdams]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I was babysitting for a friend, Dr. Bita. Her son, Phoenix is 10 months old, and 💙 We got a bromance! This was the reason I missed the live show. Everyone who sees him falls in love 🥰. Lol! And I miss him after his mommy picks him up. He's a star in, and I'm happy to be a part of the village.

[@ecohumanism]

Yes, it's not a good idea to diagnose oneself. I avoid a lot of things and topics because I am afraid to annoy others, but I can connect with people and like to entertain them. Also I am dependant or codependant, hesitant, no-move-on-er, like to hear opinions on hard choices, but I make a lot of decisions myself and have my own head. If something, I am inclined to cluster C) probably it's not just me who would feel afraid and deceived when a perceived friend goes against their own words and declared values. "Let's all agree to be normal" - me

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Sounds to me that you are like most people! That's a good thing. You can be versatile and flexible when needed. Sometimes, however, this can be a trap such as in the case of dependent and independent. But with life experience and healthy boundaries, this can be managed.

[@ecohumanism]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you. Discovering these low-narcissistic communities really helped me to feel like I am somewhat normal again, improved my confidence and goals.

[@darrylharris756]

💙✨✨✨❤

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Dark Empath- do they gravitate towards the helping professions?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, sometimes including jobs in law enforcement. It's likely a power trip that they experience, a sense of admiration from patients or clients, and other "benefits." They are narcissistic so they will search for an important role to be in.

[@alberts4541]

Your description of antisocial personality disorder describes someone who behaves asocial. Asocial behavior is living without society while antisocial is behavior against society. Living alone in a basement is completely different from committing crimes and manipulating people. Antisocial personality disorder itself doesn't include asocial behavior in it's diagnostic criteria which makes your description misleading.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I let your comment come through because I think it's important to offer education to this audience at all times on clinical definitions that may be confused by incorrect information found online and even here on Youbue. --------------- Those with ASPD have a wide range of behaviors that laypeople may not understand, which is why I talk about it on this chnanel. Someome with ASPD does not always look like "criminal behavior" or the extreme behaviors of sociopathy. Asocial behaviors is most often a pre-requisit for ASPD -- which is important for me to highlight for you and others on this channel. There is often a disruption of social norms first -- primarily in adolescence or childhood -- which may develop into sociopathy or ASPD later in development. My definition here, in this video, highlights the asocial behavior that often occurs first and then later may develop into something much worse that causes the manipulation, selfishness, superficial charm, etc. ---------------------------------- *You may find this definition helpful to clarifying what you may think is ASPD: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6CqgXlmmtB8hKs&pp=ygU1YW50aXNvY2lhbCBwZXJzb25hbGl0eSBkaXNvcmRlciBhdCB3YXIgd2l0aCB0aGUgd29ybGQ%3D AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/bWTNd2egqNmjq6M&pp=ygUfYW50aXNvY2lhbCBwZXJzb25hbGl0eSBkaXNvcmRlcg%3D%3D AND *Here is my previous video on this disorder which begins in childhood: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e4Gam2pmq92HesU Hope this helps!

[@alberts4541]

​@@TherapistTamaraHillA avoidant person could as well have no friends and life in a basement alone without outwardly appearing unhappy, how to tell the difference? People who aren't trained might not be able to tell the difference and falsely assume that every avoidant person is dangerous. A person could appear asocial for many reasons, at least that's what i observed.

[@slimdusty6328]

Some people may purposely decide to go to live in a cave, all on their own, too. Not necessarily due to them being antisocial though. It can actually be an ideal environment for depth of contemplation and introspection and all that sort of thing. If i were needy, perhaps i'd possibly not be around by now. Basically, because ive been required to make my own way all throughout life anyway. Our family in general is like people who'd be hyper anti connection. I noted how you'd talked about how your mum was around for you, to bounce ideas off of, and to support when times were tough. There was absolutely nobody ever like that for me who i could rely on for anything at all like that. But yet i suspect that perhaps most of my family may see me as needy. Even although some of them had situation far more like how you've described it's been for you, with your mum. More recently i've begun to really move on from it all. I'm kind of lucky in that i don't necessarily feel that id need to have others around me. I think i've seen it described as going from someone prone to feeling lonely, to finally becoming someone feeling quite ok to be alone

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

I’m a loner myself and I do prefer it. There was lots of abuse and bullying so I learned being out of the way kept me safe and it seems to hold true as an adult. Grateful to be a happy loner.

[@slimdusty6328]

@@thirstonhowellthebird for myself it was driven mostly due to toxic religious based problems beyond my control. However, i now can see how it's turned out to be highly beneficial. In the long run, it's certainly helped me with my intuition. I'm now able to read between the lines. Even so far that i can now more or less tell exactly what's been going on behind the scenes, even in relation to what i "sense" ive noted happening in secret, here online. I sense that i know what's been going on in secret behind my back, and who it would most likely be who's been involved as well too. I very quickly sense it, without me even needing to be told anything about it, by anyone else, at all. Sometimes i'm not even quite sure what to make of that particular "strong sense" that i feel has seemed to have developed within me. Mostly i choose to see it as "only being" a particular sense what likely exists within all human beings. But it's just that it's also a type of extra sense what generally many people are not so often being forced to "feel" they have any great need to attempt to exercise

[@alberts4541]

You seem to have asocial and antisocial mixed up. Because living alone in a cave would be asocial and could be avoid personality disorder. Antisocial would be actively behaving against society like stealing, violence or manipulation.

[@amarieg5]

Tamera was using the term anti social in the context of non social ability & mentioned it as a trauma response which is neither a mental illness or personality disorder. Antisocial actually means against societal norms as breaking rules etc…I caught the video at 36:23 & had to rewatch it several times to catch just what she was saying because I too thought at first she meant “antisocial “ but she was referring to “anti social” which is different (see the space between the two terms anti social vs antisocial) I had to re watch this part over a few times because I’ll be dammed if I’m following not knowing their stuff & proclaiming to! But during that remark I could totally relate, once I got what she was saying, she does tend to talk a little fast & I am also clinically deaf so I have to rely on the wonderful auto generated English captions located up there in the video setting. I too have been called antisocial because I was being anti sociable because of my PTSD from narcissistic felony abuse. Most people that don’t know the psychology around antisocial behaviors think not being a social person means antisocial lol it’s a terrible term. No a not so social person probably has ptsd but it could also be a personality disorder too or BOTH.

[@VannaE]

Learned a lot, as always. I may have missed a video you’ve already done but just in case, I was wondering are all of these cluster disorders a combination of who brought us up /our environment and genetically passed down or are some of these clusters disorders just one or the other? I hope you had a wonderful introverted weekend lol! I related to that because everybody insists I’m an extravert because I communicate fairly well most of the time, however I’m not an extrovert. I found out. I am an ambivert and I treasure my time alone quietly. Thanks again, Tamára!

[@Classybrown27]

Yes it’s like talking to a brick wall very distorted reality & it’s very destructive being around these kinda people thanks for clarifying and educating us as usual 🥰

[@libertycan6959]

Truly it is. Well said.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!! ☺

[@thebeboshow4421]

Your videos are so dam informative and easy to listen to! (And your decor is lovely and very suited to you!)

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much!☺ I'm very glad to hear my videos are helpful. That's the goal every single video.

[@kristonbeeman8653]

Can exposure to these type of people turn you yourself into a datk empath?

[@ecohumanism]

I am in no case a specialist, and I think that sometimes it can, but only a prolonged traumatizing exposure and if you are young or predisposed.. and, maybe, not permanently? If manipulating others is something unnatural to you, then I suppose "hardly ever"

[@Mara_143]

Great video, Tamara🌞

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks for watching! 🤗 Hope this was helpful.

[@dontmeidgaf2888]

❤🔥🔥🔥

[@pippinpenn]

This is disturbing, shocking, empowering, healing, liberating, concerning, fascinating, intriguing, and such a blessing all at the same tiiime. Better to know about these things than not. My mind is on tilt learning all this!

[@sioxz8435]

this would have been a good video for me. but it was to late for me to watch it live.

[@CherrysJubileeJoyfully]

Sorry I missed this I haven't been feeling well. @TammyMiller like my Tammy Miller? Histrionic is Amber Heard... among other things. Omg were more alike than I ever imagined. Lol

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Feel better and rest up CherrysJubilee. I'm there too. Cannot kick these viruses.

[@CherrysJubileeJoyfully]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I had night sweats and night terrors so bad last night that I woke up wondering if I wet the bed. (Not impossible on Xyrem) but nope I sweat my butt off. And had vivid nightmares... on gabapentin for pain depression/ anxiety and dream suppression. So I don't keep acting out my violent dreams on my poor partner. There was a dream where I was defending him from someone who had threatened my life and stole thousands of dollars, and meaningful items from me. (Not to mention bank fraud, 2x). That's the night I woke myself up "strangling" his bicep screaming "I SWARE TO GOD 🤬 I WILL 🤬🤬 (unalive) YOUR 🤬🤬🤬 IF YOU LAY ONE 🤬🤬 FINGER ON HIM YOU 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬‼️"

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry. It truly sounds like you were in fight or flight mode in your sleep. OR it could be a reaction to the meds -- side effects? Either way, I'm sorry to hear this.

[@CherrysJubileeJoyfully]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I have narcolepsy 1, night terrors, periodically limb movement syndrome, and ....I forget the other one that makes my sleep messy. I have over 9 rare conditions... I stopped looking them up. But looks like all are likely caused by Williams syndrome.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

😔😔 hang in there. I know it's rough.