Betrayed, Traumatized, And Unhealed: WHY YOU CAN'T MOVE ON |LIVE CHAT

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Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC

Күн бұрын

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@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

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@Dobermanmomma Жыл бұрын

Your a great role model for what a safe, supportive, professional counselor should be.

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

❤Thank you so much! I'm humbled by that. Thank you.

@PS-xb9hc Жыл бұрын

People are sick! I recently got betrayed by a so called friend. Boundaries are important, very important.

@fairygurl9269 Жыл бұрын

You Feel Authentically Safe

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

❤

@Scene68 Жыл бұрын

When you've been betrayed by practically who you felt you could trust, does a lot to you mentally, on many levels. But when someone comes into your life, who you feel you can trust (based on their demeanor, and willingness to be open to you) and your instinct tells you that they are the real deal; it becomes difficult to allow yourself to receive what they are giving out, because of those past experiences and affect the current and future potential relationships. So how can one get around this, because it is not an easy feat.

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

Well said. I agree. It's a sad reality.

@blank_earth Ай бұрын

Can definitely relate, happened with my extended family.

@demetrabakas6580 3 ай бұрын

If one has repeated betrayals it might be helpful to see where you have betrayed yourself especially if you focus on others more than self.

@MzNae-sg5tz 5 ай бұрын

A cruise 🚢 ship full of betrayals.

@recoveringsoul755 Жыл бұрын

First betrayal. Most likely uyn childhood but not dealt with then. Betrayed as adult. I try to do the right thing. Police do nothing. Courts do nothing. So lawyers and judges essentially take the side of the abuser. Followed by children and family. And people start dying off. So you're isolated because anyone you trusted has died and the rest betrayed and abandoned you. I cant see a way out. Relationships need to be restored. But I'm the only one who seems to want that.

@journaling.aw.vlog.37 Жыл бұрын

Had a similar experience I understand your anger 😠 Going back to the past makes me angry I can relate.

@citizenkang2524 Жыл бұрын

I keep blowing making these livestreams for winning at being a narc-buster. The latest accomplishment: rescuing my father's urn and ashes from my hyper sociopath narcissist sister and her flying monkey brats leaving buried inside my childhood home they nearly wrecked, before I gained administrative control over it from Cook County probate court, under a pile of junk that rats attempted to nest in. And after placing it on a mantle of veneration, refusing to let that steal my joy in growing accomplishment as we approach the 60th anniversary of moving in the house and the 60th anniversary of me turning 1 year ago in it. And the offer to join our board of directors as an honorary member is still on the table.

@moniquewrites9046 Жыл бұрын

Hi Tamara, I feel like it is ironic that Kirk Franklin recently released his documentary on finding his birth father. In the documentary, we see the deception that Kirk’s biological mother put him through. . . it was really sad to watch. But as a Christian, I also saw themes of the effort to find forgiveness in the struggle for reconciliation to mirror the love of Christ, and I saw people in the comments having compassion for Kirks mom as a baby boomer, the silent generation, who often head to silence their inner trauma, and so when you look at trauma and PTSD from snapshot perspective you lose that big picture panorama, and I feel like as a black person especially we have to look at trauma not in a vacuum, or for the trauma that I personally face but what did I say as a People group? What did I face as a member of my individual family and then the black community where I grew up in and there’s so many layers to to trauma, especially with an African-American and American Blackness. So I believe that individuals within the mental health. Doing a great job of diagnosing problems I just feel like it’s now time to work on practical tools towards healing, and I feel like more people like her Franklin sharing their stories, and actually doing the work will help Generations to heal. Thank you for your time and for sharing this video.

@KellenAdair Жыл бұрын

Good luck to you, my dear. Just wanted to add that it's Bernie's and my late husband who are/ were from the Silent generation. Then, came the Boomers. Post WWII.

@Ross_Embossed 5 ай бұрын

*How come I've tried mentioning that I feel like I have **#CPTSD** to professionals, but non have begun to address it directly...???🤔🤔🤔* Feels like they're throwing spaghetti at the wall -- anxiety, depression, #adhd , prolonged grief, etc... 35:11 👏👏👏And...this video perfectly L summarizes the understanding & introspection I've been accumulating from watching great resources like your incredibly informative videos. I feel like my life experiences & circumstances fall into the grey area around #betrayal #grief and #NarcissisticAbuse ... *I feel A LOT of confusion about whether I'm looking for excuses, or have a pessimistic attitude &/or perspective or making myself the victim for some subconscious reason???*

@noodlesm8282 6 ай бұрын

Appreciating your knowledge and generosity of Spirit from Ireland 🇮🇪 Abused, controlled, slandered, shamed and betrayed by my mother, brother and sister. My much loved, cared-for and adored 40 year old daughter has joined the ranks of the betrayers so in the past two years. Clawing my way back with the help of counselling and no-contact with family. I feel like I’m from another planet and so ashamed of where I find myself. I’ll be 69 next month and feel so let down. I have 2 really excellent good friends and 4 really good ones. No one else getting past my boundaries any time soon.

@susanfronk6632 10 ай бұрын

My brother died last February. Sadly, he suffered from several traumatic brain injuries and was a victim of physical abuse. Because he developed an addiction to speed and an addiction to alcohol later in his life, he could not tolerate even the mention of our names by his children. Consequently, we lost contact with his children. The good news is that I reconnected with my estranged niece and nephew when I hosted my brother’s celebration of life in the community room of the apartment building where I live. 😊

@janethomas78 Жыл бұрын

remembering and sharing what traumatized you and CRY. People who can CRY are REAL. Learning who you can count on. Often I have given people the benefit of myself ONLY.

@faithtsadik5777 5 ай бұрын

Jesus Christ was betrayed many times including with His disciples, one of them betrayed Him with a kiss and send Him to the cross and He’s the God of the universe, so you’re right, we have to expect betrayal as part of life. I personally experience betrayal constantly by people I love and trust and still standing wiser and stronger. I'm new and love your channel and learning a lot. Thank you!!!! ❤

@Shiningbrilliantly2024 5 ай бұрын

You feel and know something is not right emotionally! But did not know the terminology of the words to express your emotions and thoughts on it. Awareness is the key! We don’t realize the severity of destruction it causes! It does a job on your psyche!

@MrsEd-fh2gs 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for acknowledging that the way an institution (mental health, school system) treated you in the past can be a cause of trauma. Unfortunately because they are an institution they are afforded legal protections and many witnesses that can team up an invalidate your claims of mistreatment. Even if you had the resources for a private investigator or qualified legal counsel it seems the odds are stacked against the victim of institutional trauma.

@imalwaysme4332 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for these videos! I can not afford therapy and often listen to you for some guidance/help!

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

🤗 You're welcome! So glad to hear this. That's exactly one of the reasons why I love this channel. So many need support but either cannot afford it or find the right professional. Thank God for KZbin!

@Shiningbrilliantly2024 5 ай бұрын

I have had countless episodes of betrayals from my mate for years! It’s finally Over as of 2016. What a toxic relationship I had to endure! Never Ever again in this lifetime! You have awakened my consciousness to the techniques of a narcissistic person! Thank you! Its levels and depths of these people’

@H-youtube7 10 ай бұрын

Such a good educator, the explanation of dissociation and detachment was really good.

@TherapistTamaraHill 10 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@slimdusty6328 Жыл бұрын

Thanks, i now understand better how I'm likely dealing with a boat load of betrayal. And the health system betrayed us too. Which "inadvertently happened" due to their own serious lack of knowledge of trauma based mental health problems. Which they then also prefer to deny. As if denying would be productive for hope of a better future for all. And i have codependency. Which i suppose causes these problems to snowball. I'm currently working hard on that particular problem i have. It's one problem i have what i still find so hard to overcome. I can fear to upset others. I genuinely don't wish to or intend to either. I'm ok to be alone, now, but i'm not necessarily a loner at all though, but i've found i can use the "alone time" to allow myself think more deeply about this kind stuff what psychologists share online. And other things too. And i've learned to realize that i'm not even ready (healed completely enough) to be in a close relationship. Also, ive "not known" to trust my own intuition in the past either. And i suspect this relates back to the way how people in our whole family including our cousins and relations had all been constantly warned against doing it, since the time of our birth. And that particular teaching had even been like it was "an intergenerational" type of teaching among our families for a number of generations. People who'd dare to ever try to use their own intuition would end up to be completely ostracized and be shunned as if they might have died and been buried. I relate to so much what you've shared with us here in this video. Love your sense of humor Tamara. And your mum sounds similar to our own mum. Made me chuckle, thanks. I'm here when you go live sometimes as well, like i was today, but i like to leave plenty of room for others. So i'm there, in the spirit of it, in the background. Just saying

@janethomas78 Жыл бұрын

betrayers betray so they can be themselves...

@Classybrown27 5 ай бұрын

Yes you absolutely feel blindsided by the callus shift of coldness pretty shocking so unwarranted and yes it makes it hard to trust… but I’m trying… everyone isn’t bad but I pay attention to actions heavily now not just words

@BBFCCO733 Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this. I have found that not being in my light and not living life as I want play into being vulnerable from other people. Along with issues connecting with others from the trauma.

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

Very good point to add here.

@ritadoran5039 Жыл бұрын

Hello everyone happy Friday

@imalwaysme4332 Жыл бұрын

I can relate to several deep betrayals😢.

@kidzrevil 4 ай бұрын

You are amazing. I’ve been sharing your videos like the gospel because they speak so deeply to what ive experienced. Keep it up you are saving lives

@TherapistTamaraHill 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate that🤗So glad this is helping you! Thank you!!

@waqarsaleem1412ah Жыл бұрын

Hey, thank you and you are welcome Dr Tamara.

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

Welcome!!

@chilloften Жыл бұрын

Interesting conversation. Grateful the awareness, raising human consciousness. Always so adorable Tamara, you are gorgeous. BTW-I’ve been admiring those frames. They are so perfect on you.

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!🤗❤ These are bluelight glasses that I have to werar for my concussion and I've had at least 200 compliments. LOL

@SoniaProteau-cj6tk 2 ай бұрын

My situation could not of been different, I lacked awareness

@freedoml1129 5 ай бұрын

Everyone may not agree with me, but I have turned to Jesus, the source of my healing! I don't know what I would do without Him!❤🙏

@pippinpenn 3 ай бұрын

Wow I just have to thank you & thank God for you! You are changing lives 🎉

@TherapistTamaraHill 3 ай бұрын

😊🙏thank you! I'm so glad this was helpful. God bless you too!

@cliffpolley3942 4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ thank you beautiful soul 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@TherapistTamaraHill 4 ай бұрын

Thank you!! You're welcome❤😊

@dramafan08 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for doing these. Listening to the replays goes by so fast. 💨 ❤

@TherapistTamaraHill 5 ай бұрын

My pleasure! Very glad these chats are helpful.☺

@Rosie82333 4 ай бұрын

I feel so understood. Thank you. ❤

@TherapistTamaraHill 4 ай бұрын

🤗You're welcome That's good to hear!

@MzNae-sg5tz 5 ай бұрын

Great examples and great information ⭐⭐

@TherapistTamaraHill 5 ай бұрын

Thanks so much!

@ritadoran5039 Жыл бұрын

Hi Tamara Glad you are feeling better take care of yourself ❤

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much! You too 🤗

@gregoryritchie7852 Жыл бұрын

This video IS me - especially like the DETAILS and EXAMPLES to illustrate concepts. Thank you.

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

You're welcome! And I'm sorry to hear this. Never easy to deal with.

@r.ferguson486 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! This discussion has been sorely needed for a long time; it is a great comfort to have for such a caring person of expertise not only give a name to my difficulties, but to normalise it -- not in the sense of minimising it, but in the sense that a lot of people share my experiences. I have some questions that overlap with this issue, which are somewhat niche, not widely addressed (I have found almost nothing about it) and, yet, undoubtedly affect many people. I ask because one of the things I love most about your channel is this amazing knack you have for finding glaring holes in sphere of mental health discusson, topics that are rather specific, yet broadly applicable and crucial to the conversation. I wonder if you take requests for discussion topics and, for that matter, if other people might find my questions of interest. On that note, another thing I love about your channel is your community, the people here have such a warm vibe! Thank you for making such wonderful videos and creating such a healing space X

@fairygurl9269 Жыл бұрын

💯🥰🤌

@Access2rome_Denied 6 ай бұрын

Betrayals are sad! Ppl better stop playing other folks feeling and resources!

@gaurs230 11 ай бұрын

This is exactly what had happened with me, I felt exactly this way!

@hadiza1 Жыл бұрын

Oooh can't wait for this! 💜

@Iamjeremiarenee 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, your channel has brought a lot of clarity. ❤

@TherapistTamaraHill 3 ай бұрын

You are so welcome! Very glad to hear that. And thank you!

@loveandwisdom9995 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Love your show! ❤️🙏

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!☺ You're welcome. Glad this was helpful.

@btlfilmmedia9514 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your helpful advice you articulate end explain things so clearly

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

You're very welcome! And thank you ❤

@blizzthewiz604 Жыл бұрын

hi @Therapist Tamara Hill thank you eye opening

@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Thanks for watching.

@Cwesade Жыл бұрын

👏🏽

@nanabanana1983 Жыл бұрын

What if I’ve been traumatized by who I thought was God? I am in severe physical and mental illness and I had trusted God before all this started and I got really really sick and unsure how to get out of it, it is all very bizarre and none of my body is working correctly and I’m stuck in severe trauma unable to do anything and nobody can understand what is going on inside of my body. The structures and all functions aren’t working. My rectum, colon, intestines, stomach, neurological systems, neuroendocrine peptides, brain, skin, teeth, bones etc all need to be healed. I have lost everything over this and I cannot figure out how to get any healing.