how to stop being jealous & comparing yourself to others and become obsessed with yourself instead.

[@tamkaur]

This was a big shift for me ❤ 18:25

[@santibala_angom]

Thanks for your advice queen 😘

[@roselandalex]

How do you always post exactly what I need to hear at the perfect! ❤ ily!! Thank you for all the gems!!

[@ShirleyArmstrong17]

I wish you were Hamza’s girl 😂

[@owethunyamakazi9636]

I realate to that so much

[@fantacouture]

dpes this work on boys,

[@uneedtherapy5937]

I read a quote that put an end to my cycle of comparing. It went like this: 'Their success is not your loss and their loss is not your success'. Everybody's paths are different and timings are different :))

[@lalalalal5304]

That’s perfection honestly

[@dihaforever18]

😍😍😍😍

[@jpx8793]

That is beautiful.

[@brightest_star_in_the_sky]

true❤

[@nitinmahajan6342]

Yes true

[@avrilpena]

"think of it as a walking Pinterest board, everyone is an inspiration so that you can level up" the best advice I have ever gotten

[@tamkaur]

🥰🥰🥰

[@atmakhalsa815]

“Please don’t ever skip on the self-care because once you get comfortable with neglecting yourself, you also get comfortable with putting people on a pedestal above you-because you have low self-esteem. You get comfortable with living every day in a low vibrational state.” PREACH GIRL PREACH

[@steffe9051]

felt this one too🥲i do it sometimes and it feels yick

[@marcokuhner2445]

This is why I love this channel

[@leanzabuela3034]

THISSSS

[@SorchaRattigan]

THIS

[@uxnne4492]

yep, this part made me cry!🥲

[@__yussra]

One quote I heard that helped me IMMENSELY with comparison and jealousy is that: “Once you compare yourself to them, you already put them above you”. Once I hear that sentence I’m immediately back to my senses

[@brightest_star_in_the_sky]

❤

[@Wind_mc213]

Really it's a great quote thank you for sharing it here ❤

[@zedaaz]

Şuan ağlıyorum yorumun beklenmedik bir şekilde bana çok dokundu teşekkürler❤

[@koshka5242]

[@roselandalex]

Ty girl ♡

[@Im_just_a_girl888]

Thanks

[@Myworld-ff2xq]

I ss ur affirmations, something i always needed 🥺❤️

[@moderntragedy9942]

LOVE THIS

[@emanlikespeachs6486]

I love you thank you

[@nivekkito]

I am a guy, but I love these videos. I've been in denial for so long and I honestly just want to heal, love myself and enjoy this journey. I find Tam and other confident women on yt more inspiring than men who claim themselves "high value" and then only care about repressing their feelings and making money as a way to escape from their own emotional needs

[@shybunnie16]

im so happy and excited for your journey

[@yuh6840]

W man. keep doing you fr.

[@ayybibi]

men like u deserve the world

[@shakira7301]

You get it bruh. I'm so happy for you.

[@KooklilacLIN]

So happy for you, hope that it will help you for your life and hopefully you’ll heal

[@rosie6]

their win isn’t my loss. I am happy for them. I will not waste my precious energy being jealous, instead I will work harder to strive for my happiness ❤

[@tamkaur]

❤️❤️❤️

[@premThekr]

It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!

[@Dark19488]

"I know I'm gonna get my cake, just vaise you're eating it first doesn't mean I'm not gonna get mine. Enjoy it!! Enjoy it!! Cause my time gonna come that's fine."

[@arisantosz]

I’ve always been insecure since my teenage years, so this group of “mean girls” were always bullying me, I spent years of my life wanting to be like them, trying to make them like me. So now as I’m 23, I recently graduated on university of london (outside my country, im originally from Brazil), and is quite a big achievement. And one of those mean girls sent me a message, I was about to be ready to fell that anxiety of getting bully all over again, but this time, the message was different. She said “congratulations!! You did better than all of us did!” I will never forget this day, and I will NEVER compare myself anymore.

[@StarryNightAngel7]

You go girl!❤️

[@Blessedbylord]

Slay queen 🩵

[@dietbubblegum]

congrats

[@GoaWay...]

@arisantosz You're so cute. You look like Michelle Rodriguez from fast and furious. 😊

[@emilka3344]

The quote that changed my mindset was "Don't compare your beginings to someone's else's middle"

[@Julia-dj7kp]

What I do instead of a grateful journal is that every day I take a picture of something I'm grateful about. This can be a sunset, a meal with friends, something cute I saw... I find it more interactive and it is always fun to watch back on the pictures 🥰

[@tamkaur]

Omg love!

[@elisethearmy]

I love this!! I don't always feel like writing, i think that's the biggest hurdle for journaling for me, so maybe I'll try this. I also started vlogging instead of writing (it takes too much storage though, so I uploaded it all to KZbin private and deleted them from my phone 😭)

[@jean4739]

1. Use them as source of inspiration - if it triggers envy, then it’s clue of what you want. Think that envy isnt really envy but guide for your future by refining goals and thinking how to improve yourself 2. Invest on yourself 3. Drop scarcity mindset 4. Manifest - affirm that what you want is on the way and visualize 5. Create an alter ego and let them step up when you feel inferior 6. Get to the root of your triggers 7. Self care 8. Gratitude journal

[@nayonikarai482]

Love !!❤

[@bbquin1]

It's so sad that comparison literally starts from childhood by others and it gets developed within us as we grow older.

[@hafsat.a.7955]

I need this because im so confident but then that one girl is around me and I suddenly feel insecure and so envious im tired of that.

[@dhruvii111]

Girl, you literally SAVED MY LIFE! You're legit my fav influencer! I've had a MAJOR shift in my overthinking mindset and my life's been sm easier than ever!!! Goddd you don't know how much my day brightens when you upload a new video and my brain gets clicked how 1more new video = 1 more step in achieving better life! Ik life's all about ups and downs but genuinely speaking, ilysm keep uploading such great videos no matter what!

[@tamkaur]

this makes me so happy 🥹

[@alejandragalvan2086]

I unfollowed a lot of celebrities and people who just felt fake to me. I agree with you when you said that you leave social media feeling refreshed and inspired. People think social media is evil but we are in charge of what we see. Now I see people who inspire me, who support my content and make me feel good.

[@happycreature3993]

i started meditation, journaling, yoga, gym, jogging and calisthenics. i also started new hobbies such as cooking and playing chess! i decided to learn new things such as dancing and learn new languages. i will be the DREAM GIRL. i promise that to myself

[@Yassi_gorl]

You are becuz I cannot play chess 😂

[@priiya_sharma_]

Thank-you tam sis for addressing this topic as I'm a teenager and i thought it's bad of me to b jealous w some one else n blah blah😶 but finally i accepted it all n tryna working on myself for myself🥺🌷

[@Sarah-sj6zd]

Tam is like a big sister we all need 💜

[@bernadine6695]

Social media thing is so true. I worked a job where I traveled my country and saw a lot of places and on social media my life looked perfect, and so did all my coworkers lives but behind the scenes we were working ourselves into the ground for a company that didn't care about us and a lot of us cried ourselves to sleep. That's not what people on the outside saw tho they just saw this perfect job with us traveling and making good money

[@aria8463]

i need more friends with this mindset! i’m gonna share the hell out of your videos cause i just want us all to heal / win 🙏🏽 doing God’s work fr

[@tamkaur]

🥹❤️

[@izzymoon7648]

I love the quote you said: "The only person tou should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday" Thank you 💙

[@khushi5827]

1. Read 2. Unfollow + mute, follow 3. Gratitude journal 4. Time you wished for what you currently have 5.list of goals+ vb 6. Commit 1hour to your goal

[@she1156]

Thank you prettyy pretttttyyy What's vb tho?? ❤

[@avasheppard8478]

I think also being jealous/envious is us automatically thinking we should have the blessings that others have - when it's kind of bold of us to assume that. I love the idea that each path is beautiful for a reason - I have especially struggled with comparing myself to girls that have boyfriends or got a lot of attention from guys. I always wondered, why them and not me? Now looking back I see that this was always meant to happen - finding love for myself before finding love from a guy - which is in so many ways a much better gift that the universe has given me. I think often the universe gives us what we need and not what we want - In my case, what I wanted was a boyfriend, but what I really needed was love in my life, from myself, so that I could feel that everyday, relationship or not. There's this quote from business owner Alex Hormozi that goes something like this - he says "If you were to create a human - what would you put them through in order to make them a humble, strong, resilient person? Every good trait - humor, confidence, warmth - has a price and a journey to acquire that trait." So look at your life - what are you being put through that is going to give you a trait you are proud of? Looking at it that way has definitely helped me. I now look at that period of loneliness as me acquiring the trait of patience and motivation to create a life I'm proud of regardless of attention from men. Self love is something that is lifelong once you begin it, and I couldn't be more grateful for that. P.S. Now I'm noticing that because I'm grateful, I'm attracting guys of a higher caliber into my life. This stuff really works! Thank you so much Tam for spreading this advice. ❤

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Why is it bold to assume I deserve good things? Would it be virtuous if I assumed I deserve bad things?

[@gtanz1]

envy can be best described as _ "you have something I don't have, now not only do I want to have that, I don't want YOU to have that.

[@tzuyufancies6217]

Watching this video and reading these comments is really therapeutic. I'm a senior in college and almost EVERYONE I know is studying abroad, having success, etc. It's been really difficult for me to control my envy and I really needed to hear this.

[@tina_about]

Looking at the wealth and successful success in social networks, do not become envious, despite the fact that they often show only positive moments, skipping to show the work that needs to be done

[@esspanaj]

The only thing that made me stop being jealous and comparing myself to others was the realization that these two things will give you wrinkles. Comparing/ jealously = stress = wrinkles = depressed

[@GoaWay...]

I don't see how you could ever be jealous of anyone. You look way too pretty.☺️

[@cogaichamchi674]

1:02 the causes 3:12 envying success 11:28 jealousy of others 21:36 no more fomo 25:09 affirms 25:54 homework

[@moonzzz845]

Thanks mate!

[@lovs_helo6713]

Dude, this video was one of the only ones that REALLY helped me! I was having a terrible day, comparing myself and being jealous of everything, now I'm much better!! Thank you!

[@isiomaononye]

"Affirm that what you want is on its way to you and you are capable of achieving it." This is such great advice! The truth is that envy is a normal emotion. We all experience it and it does not make us bad people. It is what you do with that envy that matters. Channel that envy into a positive direction by working hard for the things you want. Even if you don't have what you want, I understand. Be patient and compassionate with yourself when you feel behind in your dreams but continue to remind yourself that you can have what you want.

[@MariaStocker]

How do I have what I want

[@emilyrubyg5188]

Almost cried ur saying everything I need to hear thank you

[@Knownieee_lwal]

She's a person who can literally change you in a week or somethin tysmm for this Tam 💗

[@umasachdeva6099]

You are wise beyond your years . Abundance mindset and learning to be your own “it” girl is amazing advice

[@shurupchikchan]

I have a story I always wanted to become a singer In my country there is a moderately successful band, I envied their singer so much, you can’t imagine! But now I’ve changed my mindset and in the next two weeks she will be tutoring me! This is what happens, when you allow other people be successful, in one moment they might share it with you, but you have to be ready to accept it!

[@Camila-cs5fx]

As someone who finally ending her freshman year.Thank you so much for posting this.Each video make me motivated to improve myself.This summer I'm definitely going to make summer my summer thank to your guidance!!

[@madebymvgenta]

"just because she has things that i don't have doesn't make her better than me and just because i have things that she doesn't have doesn't make me better than her" love this sm

[@oresspace]

I'm so proud of Tamana She manifested basically everything she said in chapter two and she got it Go girl The sky is your starting point🥰

[@ittiebittiedance]

Someone once told me its all in our heads just because we see the perfecions online doesn't mean they have fails

[@073sameenfatima8]

Tam you just literally influenced such an enormous part of my life... The kind of content you come up with is really authentic and needs to be addressed which is top-tier!! Couldn't be more grateful❤ Wayy to go✨

[@sheneverliedlol256]

ughh you’re such a beautiful person, and that’s putting even your physical qualities aside.

[@sheneverliedlol256]

@Rh-bk8puthank you ❤

[@sohinidhar5612]

This is such a great topic. Since childhood it has been inculcated by our society to become jealous seeing other’s success rather being motivated.. I love how genuinely you share your experiences and try to teach us become better humans 🤍🤍always look forward for your videos 😊

[@irenerebecca9706]

Tam i cannot stress enough on how much you've helped me. There's something so positive about you. You're truly a light to this world. You make people feel so safe and you're always cheering people. Keep up the good work ❤

[@hoemsereyroth9086]

I felt horrible today because of envy.your video help me ease my mind a lot.thank you tam for being on this platform ! Love you❤

[@tamkaur]

You got this!❤️

[@Kimpyyyyyy]

Girl, you're gorgeous, your energy, actions, thoughts..!!🌸 I'm happy that I found your channel and I'm grateful for meeting you in my life! 🌸

[@MEIDEN333]

24:09 i agree! and also its not the screen time we should be reducing, but th content we are consuming. There is a difference between scrolling mindlessly for 5 hours and watching educational videos and courses for 5 hours!

[@ayybibi]

18:42 i really relate to this as someone who also doesn’t have their dad in their life, i still hurt when i see dad’s who have such a beautiful relationship with their daughters which is what i once had. it’s definitely the hardest thing I’ve had to heal i think.

[@Ririkoii]

20:00 OMG GURL. U put this thing I used to feel insecure about jshshjs (ive overcomed this as well!!) and honestly I REALLYREALLY LOVE my body as it is and really love how i am (Since i i live with family, they always say bad stuff about my body and how im too slim and not big enough and stuff. I never had this insecurity theyre the ones who built it up inside of me) and now im finally put of it I dont let them get through my head and i always tell them i love the way i am and i look beautiful

[@KinzaAmber-x9r]

All I can say is thankyou . thankyou for saving my day from ruining with jealousy

[@godilelooooo9278]

I could actually listen to her for 1739273 hours straight! Purely positive energy

[@pokerfacedphae]

I've been feeling like this for some time now and I'm glad this video popped up

[@Kuromi_Bunni_XX]

I love how you provided homework at the end! instead of just giving words of encouragement, you give real tips. I appreciate it!

[@ElonaLeggett-k2m]

I listen to tam kaur everyday ehile grtting ready in the morning and my days are looking so much better and im so happy with where i am

[@asmamohammed5659]

i’ve noticed that when i stop focusing on my health care self care is start to easily become jealous of other girls now i know i need to fully focus on myself make myself better

[@mladyrose1886]

she's like princess jasmine! thank you!!

[@kristinaveverka2540]

i’m barely 14 and i already fed all of these things, you’re videos have really changed my way of viewing my life and others. Thank you so so much for sharing these videos you have no idea how much you help young girls❤️

[@vaishnaviraj-u3z]

I cannot express as to how relevant this video has been to me literally every single thing that you provided a solution for I have been fighting myself and beating myself down with so much inferiority , I am super grateful for this and thankyou so much. I promise myself to get better cause she deserves to feel amazing. I can see the efforts you put in making these videos it takes for a person to be it before you preach it and girl you are killing it i mean so much of wisdom oof thankyouuu.

[@Jen.NewYork]

Thank you, was feeling wildly jealous lately and needed to hear this

[@alessiazanni2279]

u r a genious girlie, this is the first video of urs I've watched and I loved It. Exactly what I needed, thanks.

[@vanessaodua2815]

You are such an incredible person. Thank you so much for your advice. You have no idea just how much your video has helped me. Bless you so much. I wish you get everything you desire in life.❤❤❤❤

[@echoesofopulence]

THIS COMES AT THE RIGHT TIME OMG tysmmmmm

[@prabhleenkaur9299]

I wrote down all her affirmations in my journal 💋

[@violexfeyri]

Thank you, I was searching on this topic for a while. Being a content creator makes impossible to not look at others achivements. My favorite tip from this video is "being your own it girl". If I think about it, I really love my mind and all the skills that I gained.

[@angiemontalvo5825]

I watch your videos every single morning while I get ready to help me become my better version at the very start of the day. You've helped me understand a lot of phases in my life and even why my 10 y/o friendship finished, which I didn't understand and couldn't get over it!

[@okays297]

Triggers are our biggest teachers! Thankyou ❤

[@Datgurlvanilla]

Turn jealousy into inspiration is a genius idea i loved it 🤩

[@kalenslife]

This is the perfect video I need right now. Thank you so much for this. You don't know how much it helped me.

[@thisakyaabeykoon7294]

Thank you so much for always being that friend who aggressively tells us to pull ourselves back together and 'go get it, girlllll!'😂... I've been watching your videos for a while now and it has literally helped me out of a rut I found myself in cz I felt stuck. Thank you for being an amazing person and for consistently reminding us that not everything we see out there is real and that everyone goes through their own "pretty packages of stress" and crap. Thank you for your content. It really helps so much🥰. Hope you have an amazing week

[@yumikoyuzuru]

i’m so glad i discovered this channel

[@jes4040]

I really needed this. It’s so crazy everytime I’m going through something you make a video about what I’m going through. Thank you

[@honeypieex]

Thank you so much for this video! I've been struggling with jealousy recently since I felt like I wasn't doing good enough, but now I'm gonna focus on showing gratitude to the blessings I have 💚

[@__seraaah_]

Normalising getting jealous from sb else is litteraly the first thing to do in order to get over it, bcs simply feeling bad for having that thoughts is killing us deeply especially when u're comparing urself to ur peers (close friends...) . But that's very normal and always know that the same person u're comparing urself too is comparing herself to u in an onther way. Then, I think that self confidence and self esteem is the biggest objectif we all need to achieve, then the tips given by her are really suffisant , shift y'all guys ur focus to urself,ur own qualities, ur own confidence, not other's life.Just know that u're only able to control ur own thoughts, not other's ones . So stop being afraid from other ppl's comparisons, judgements...

[@BrianaVaguirre]

This video couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I had a jealous moment yesterday and I felt very icky about it thank you so much i really needed this ❤️ you are so beautiful btw!

[@sowmyap8763]

Your energy is contagious healthy and vibrant

[@dorixyz]

i just know u r going to get me out of my loop of negative feelings everytime i have them , so grateful to have your existence and you on this platform

[@sandradukes3819]

Exactly! Don’t demonstrate or act out or on those toxic behaviors that can surface when dealing with envy/jealousy. If you’re comparing yourself, don’t go to the dark side --use it as a basis to step up your game or leveling up! Just as she stated, use these feelings to catapult you to becoming the best version of yourself. Don’t be a hater! Be about positivity. That makes a huge difference 👌💯 To the facilitator- excellent video-message well spoken & good insight Thank you!

[@Vaaniiz]

I was too hard on myself and saying negative shit to myself because i was getting envious. Thanks for making me feel normal ❤

[@Son-ty6ev]

I really have to tell you that the way your videos and literally just the way you talk feels so wholesome and warm and gives off such a positive vibe is beautiful. The way you tell us everything you know shows HOW MUCH you actually want other people to do better in their lives as well. I'm sure you're a very warm and kind hearted person and I really wish that all your beautiful dreams come true. 💗✨✨💗

[@tamkaur]

ILY🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️

[@morwenna9732]

This video and all your videos are so amazing and have helped me start to gain confidence I never thought I would, thank you so much, forever grateful ❤

[@bhavikakumar8709]

I started watching your videos 2 weeks from now and trust me my mindset has changed so much. I was in a situationship for 2 effing years constantly wanting to end it but couldn't. Even though my friends and family constantly said he isn't going to date you. Like ever. Everything has changed now. I have let go of that person because I have finally accepted he was not for me and never will be. I can already see everything is happening in my favour. All thanks to you

[@int3rnetbrat]

u literally are a breath of fresh air! thank you for making amazing informative videos

[@goldenhourss]

my grandma passed away recently and my mom along with all my aunties had to fly to another country to attend her funeral and go on with inheritance practice. which leaves me having to become the new mom of the house and taking care of everything + balancing university exams. the jealousy i felt towards those girls who are constantly on vacation multiplied and i felt so bad that i had to delete instagram. working on myself rn.

[@melliemu123]

You are for real one of my favorite creators!!! The way you explain things is just so compassionate yet so well-thought out and researched. I leave every single one of your videos feeling inspired, uplifted, and lighter than before I watched it. Thank you for all that you do!!!! And I LOVE using jealousy as a "clue" to what is next for you in your own life. Genius!! Thank you thank you again ❤

[@baeyuh]

i love your mindset so muchh

[@sunidhisonker5-yeariddelec881]

You are officially my fav youtuber from now

[@edgartheman3862]

i am a man and finding your videos has been the most helpful thing in my healing journey from my first break up thank you so much for your wisdom best wishes!

[@varsha2199]

Omg!!! Needed this as I was finding myself comparing my life to others and feeling like I was not doing enough as them. Loved this ❤️❤️

[@rowlinggrowling]

You are literally princess Jasmine! I know you've heard this a lot, but the color of your outfit in this video really reminds me of her! You are PRINCESS TAM!

[@allysagalesamaco]

One of the people who really knows how to boost my self-esteem. I learn a lot just watching this vlog and now I am also enlightened that being jealous over someone can be a positive thing. I also started my vlog recently and I only have 26 followers as of now (which I find funny) but someday I know that I succeed in this field. Anyone else watching in 2024?

[@lolowcals]

i legitimately scrolled down to like and subscribe not even 10 mins into the video. you're absolutely amazing, and you've helped me in so many ways thank you so much

[@Michelle042598]

youtube algorithm is really helping me .... your videos are actually make it fun to work on ourselves

[@darshana4708]

I’ve been doing 1 of my goals since February of this year and I really see a difference your advice helped me sm

[@eduardaaraujo9039]

i think the best way to overcome comparison is focusing and working on yourself so hard that you won't even have time or energy left to think about whether someone else is doing better. focus on your own journey!

[@CareBlair222]

And who cares if they are doing better or look better. Doesn't make a difference. Life goes on 😊

[@tragicallycynical9329]

I personally compare myself with my best friends a lot and that leaves me feeling guilty and unhappy when I see their accomplishments that i too envision to myself. I really want to let this go and build my self esteem soon. Watching this video helped me make a step❤️

[@sydneypadgett4606]

Tam is literally helping me improve my life so much, I can not describe how much she has! Thank you thank you so much 💕

[@ratraceratrace4196]

Thank you soooooooo much for the advice ❤❤❤❤

[@blehbleh9460]

why do I feel this way gratitude journal being focused and thankful for the things you have you can't be bothered about all that you don't have have an alter ego accept yourself right now

[@blehbleh9460]

write about a time when you wished for what you currently have

[@pratiksha5748]

I never thought I'll come back here to listen to Tam speaking on jealousy. I'm a woman of positive aura and that's the reason I know my bf loves me but recently idk idk I just dk why I became so damn f jealous when I know that guy loves for who I'm. Now that I'm quite cool down, listen to Tam I can't stop laughing on how immature I can be sometimes. Anyway thanks a lot Tam ❤