Tank Talks Homophobia In The Black Community And Doesn't Believe There Is A Gay Agenda. Part 2

[@bnw220]

Wow! As a gay black man, I really appreciate this conversation. Today, the two most annoying things I see on Obama’s internet is homosexuality is a choice and people talking about the gay agenda. I have been gay as long as I can remember, well before the act of sex was even a thing for me. I was raised by heterosexual parents in a heterosexual culture, just like most others. I have three brothers, none of which are gay. I assure you that I did not choose to be gay, nor would I choose to be gay. Why would I, as a person from a marginalized community, choose to be potentially ostracized by my own community? When I was young, I struggled terribly with my sexuality. I too wanted to pray the gay away, which is why I attended a Christian college. I eventually came to terms with my reality. With that said, I am completely confused about the alleged gay agenda. If it exists, I never received the memo. All I do is try to live my life as peacefully and respectfully as I can, and allow others to do the same. For the most part, I just want others to stay out of my business as I stay out of their business.

[@ItsTj4showw]

It's definitely a choice the same way trans use being trans to set up "straight" men or blackmail them

[@endswithme555]

Awesome comment. Comments like these re proof that the evangelical Church don’t know ish about homosexuality and what makes someone gay

[@courtneywalter9681]

I absolutely love this comment. This is my exact story as well, as a black gay man. Only difference is I went to a art school for college lol. I would have never chosen to be gay as a young child if I had the choice, (WE DONT HAVE THE CHOICE FOLKS, our sexuality is instinctual to all of us, its how each human is wired) but I would never change me now as I have learned and still learning to love myself.

[@roger1624]

What do you mean by Obama's internet? Otherwise, great comment.

[@G-Rated]

I’ll go further and say the nerve of black people to say there’s a gay agenda while they’ve promoted *lesbianism* in rap and hip-hop culture for decades and praised the idea of threesomes between two women and a man or two men and a woman - it’s hypocrisy at its finest. It’s crazy that we even have to explain our sexuality to straight black people who can never explain when they made their “decision” to be heterosexual or at which age it went into effect. I feel these conversations will only be effective in the black community if we can respectfully call out all the bs in the midst of it.

[@jaysarc]

Only those who are afraid, threatened, or made uncomfortable with these types of conversations think these they are bad. Shout out to grown folks willing to have grown conversations.

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Thank u for the positive feedback and for tappin in. 💯💪🏾

[@jaysarc]

@@HoldinCourtPodcast you're absolutely welcome my brother. Thank you for being brave enough to tackle this delicate subject in such a respectful manner .

[@Smoothoperator89]

@@HoldinCourtPodcastplease have me on your podcast as a Educated Gay male We need to speak on DL men

[@ItsTj4showw]

@@jaysarc grown conversations Are Bout how can we make a better world for our children not well he might be gay if etc etc

[@helloxonsfan]

*Exactly! Frankly, folks are afraid to be themselves & live their lives because they're afraid of the opinion of others, which is a pointless way to live any life.*

[@MarcelTHEEexperience]

As a gay black man I’ve gotten hit on by women should I be traumatized? 😂 Tank you are the definition of a devine masculine please lead your brothers to the light. I can’t wait for the day we can move on from this subject it’s old and stale

[@carmeladaniel117]

I think straight men are traumatized by experiencing that predatory dominance that women experience all the time. Notice the first thing he (the host) said is he approached me or reacted like I was a bad bitch when talking about being hit on. Then he immediately thought omg what did I project to deserve this? Femininity deserves to be dominated but not me. I hate to break it to you but no one really wants to be dominated. Women will make do with the circumstances, but most of us just want to be left alone, loved, and protected. He just got a glimpse into what women deal with and it messed him up. My thoughts on it.

[@SiRArtsEtc]

@12:20 Just a humble thought.... I wonder if that's how women feel when "men" hit on them. Maybe they don't see the attention as flattery but uncomfortableness. 🤔 Yea... Im just saying as an adult... It's should be universally understand that "differences will be inevitable" mind, body, spirit, choices, language... Etc. #letshealnothurt❤

[@slimdude2011]

The way Tank likes to reiterate his gay sexual experiences, he's not a shame of it, which indicates that he's bi and on the down low.

[@Harold-k9c]

Yes

[@LemuelStrangeMusic]

@@SiRArtsEtc Exactly. Great response.

[@ArtifactGlobal]

It’s about time I found a intellectually mature conversation about homosexuality and homophobia from Black Straight People.What a breath of fresh air

[@mka6671]

The fact that we have to continue to have these conversations is crazy in itself. Mind your business. Period.

[@t.breeze8659]

Yes. And know that “mind your business” is a low standard. We can respectful. We can have empathy. We can allow people the space to be themselves. The extent that we buy into conspiracy theories and remain preoccupied or bothered is problematic.

[@MrPunchthru2dub]

THIS! Black men are the weakest link bro smh

[@tkm1875]

Until people stop being so obsessed with what other people like, these can conversations can stop.

[@coltononline]

I used to "mind my business" too. Until, I found out these folks were in my 7 year old's classroom conflating ghay and trans with being black. And telling my 12 year old patients that aynal sacks was "safe and normal". Not on my watch.

[@jethrobodineus]

Periodt

[@thedreadedverse]

As a black man... I choose to accept ALL PEOPLE, who accept ME (y'all can miss me with the religion, I just really do NOT CARE) ... but I also accept that you can't force anybody to fuck with what you fuck with. The world didn't change to suit us as people of color, and it's not gonna change, because of your sexual orientation. The only thing we're in power of- is surrounding ourselves with those who love and understand us, to where we don't have to deal in our rejection alone... but that's just me.

[@muskegontribune]

You said you accept ALL PEOPLE, but you simultaneously dissed religious people, which constitute the majority of black people.

[@thedreadedverse]

​@@muskegontribune Black people definitely do not make up a majority of religious people. We don't even make up a majority of the world. And the reason I said 'miss me'? Is because I knew it was coming. And I'm letting YOU know ahead of time, for every scripture you got to justify your way of thinking? I got a scripture from that same book that justifies mine... 😑 (PLEASE DON'T DELETE THIS)

[@Neveenfox]

​@@thedreadedverseyes blk ppl do make up majority of the world. White ppl make up only 7 percent of the world's population. The issue is HATE. ppl look for a group of ppl to hate to feel better about themselves. LGBT ppl have been here since the beginning and it won't change. Ppl want LGBT ppl to hide but then once they hide and ppl suspect they tell them to come out stop it just stop ippl want to know so they know how to treat them.

[@thedreadedverse]

​@Neveenfox I agree with you. Damn if they do, damn if they don't. It's nobody's fucking business.

[@domotemujin7780]

Especially eff that religion bs. I REFUSE to accept white Jesus sky daddy MYTHOLOGY that was beaten into my ancestors 😭🤚🏾

[@willienixon6847]

How can someone else's sexuality bother you SO much?

[@roberttaylor5026]

Because there own sexuality is bothering them

[@Isaacthesensei]

Cause a lot of the times it be their sexuality too.

[@G-Rated]

They keep pushing the narrative that they’re protecting their [straight?] children from the LGBT+ community and agenda in America. It’s about their kids being exposed to “gay books”. 🙄

[@kelamo7067]

@@IsaacthesenseiBecause some people are unaware that they have dormant same sex attractions that aren’t awakened until triggered.

[@trooper6418]

It's called insecure with who you are in your own skin.

[@gratefulritualist]

I'm gay. When I lived in Atlanta a straight male acquaintance asked me for my opinion. He was getting hit on by gay men and wanted to know if he was giving off a gay vibe or something. I told him I thought he was gay when we first met and that he does give off a gay vibe. But that doesn't necessarily mean anything. He said he was straight and I accepted that he knows what he is. But he was still upset about whatever people were perceiving about him. I asked him if every woman he hits on ends up liking it. He said, "No." I asked, "If a women gets all upset about getting hit on, what do you call her?" He said, "A bitch!" I told him that's what he was acting like. It's no different. The light bulb went on and he got it. If someone hits on you of any gender and you're not attracted to them, say "no, thank you" and move on. If you're ruminating about it, there's something in you to work out. He also expressed that now he understood what women must feel like when a man is simply being inappropriate and sexually aggressive towards them. I admired him for his shift in awareness.

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Appreciate the insight and thanks for tappin in. 💯💪🏾

[@xeon4044]

When I was younger I hit on guys but very carefully. When a guy gave off hetero vibes I backed off and I learned the difference between flirting and just common brotha brotha acknowledgment. Today as I am older and more maturer flirting is out of the question. I keep a blank face at work or the public because we now live in a METOO world where you can find yourself called out and cancelled online. Nope.

[@hesmlurh2467]

As a gay man, living in a small town of Mandeni, South Africa, this conversation is very relevant to this day. Boys and men in my hometown are soo nosy, be all up in my business like females do, while being performative with their masculinity, its a different story after dark, they approach you, wanna have sex with you, etc. That right there is the DL culture in the small towns. It bothers me so much that the self proclaimed heterosexuals talk down and marginalize a communtiy that dont fit their standards, ughhhh.

[@LightSoldier222]

Thank you for sharing your experience in Africa.

[@stephenkeye2678]

Our community needs to talk more about all the men who have 12 kids by 10 different women w no child support.

[@shaneatkinson8933]

Yes!! This is another problem in the black community.

[@collabomanagementinc5543]

I don’t understand why heterosexual black men are so timid and easily offended by a gay man noticing their attractiveness. If someone approaches you with a compliment just take the compliment. If they proceed in trying to take it further just state your position and let them know you are not interested. It’s simple and should not be blown out of proportion. Women and men approach each other all the time and if there’s no attraction the conversation is over before it gets too far. Keep that same approach and you will be fine. However no gay person should be walking around on eggshells trying to determine if they should take a chance to get to know someone they’re attracted to. The comment from the host “ What energy am I giving off that is making you feel that it’s ok for you to approach me?” is a prime example of toxic masculinity. You don’t control another person’s attraction. The only power you have is the ability to turn the advances down. Leave it at that. ❤❤❤

[@Seven_Aint_Nine]

It's no different than trying to tell a woman she shouldn't be uncomfortable with cat calling, or telling women they s*** except men's compliment and get over it

[@KimberlynCrawford]

Thank you Tank. This is powerful!!! I feel the same way. And thank you Holding Court Podcast.

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Appreciate the positive feedback! 💯💪🏾

[@moffatmokgale1715]

I just feel like the conversation didn’t quite hit the note! As a gay black man, I find most straight black men dismissive and disrespectful towards gay black men…and often the reaction is that just because I’m gay, I’m always hitting on straight black men! Like most humans I also have standards… but the world, especially black folk try to make us feel desperate at every turn!!

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Be patient with us as we are all works in progress. Thanks for tappin in.

[@roberttaylor5026]

Dudes that think they are attractive to every gay man because that's what they look for

[@Youttubi]

I think because straight men hit on women a lot so they assume gay men will treat them the same way.

[@mzyannibby]

He spoke no lies

[@melvinkelly1604]

Are you serious being gay is not a choice . I was 14 before that I was straight . You don’t make the rules homosexual culture has been around for thousands of years. Talk about religion the Bible was written by man inspired by god, well I can tell you god changed his mind and made being gay acceptable. A angel told me in a dream♊️🇺🇸🌈🌈❤️🌎😊

[@ralphangel561]

Only thing about God. God does not and will not accept homosexuality into His kingdom. It is indeed a sin and God never changes his mind about it. We humans just have to come to terms with it 🤷🤷

[@mskjersey]

Good conversation. I agree with Tank, sexuality is not contagious or a calculated decision. Also, removing gender and sexuality from the situation entirely, when a random person approaches you they are simply doing so based on attraction. They do not know whether sexuality, personality, etc. is compatible. They are just expressing interest. This is true for a woman being approached by a man in a bar or a man being approached by a man on a sidewalk.

[@everretchancellor2243]

Thank you Tank, for this conversation. Because this is the conversation that needed to be had ,much respect to these men for the honesty. People today won’t be real about just having this discussion especially in the Blk community. They’re filled with so much hate and disregard all while trying to know the ins and outs, and they have a true distain, when we are their brothers, sisters, uncles , aunties, cousins, friends, co workers.

[@corneliusharris2955]

This conversation is what all men need. Please be open to talking about it men.

[@CarlJohnson-uk4fe]

Why,not like it's important. ?

[@brandonbrown1916]

If ur shooting movies, and have this many 'feelings' about a gay man having eyes and possibly finding you attractive, the same way you've found women attractive who weren't interested in you, then go away from every film set now. Or, you could get a clue like Tank and recognize that if you think ur attractive, so will other ppl who find men attractive. Is this real life?

[@roberttaylor5026]

Exactly I agree with that

[@CA-pp5nx]

Exactly he sound like some country bumpkin….and I rolled my eyes at Atlanta…thats their go-to…gay men are everywhere and in every town and city….

[@mferguson5215]

Very well said. So true.

[@DavidCruz-hi6si]

Funny how both guys were talking how they were traumatized by the looks and the getting hit on by other men, but the girl nor the guys talked about the fact that, that’s how woman have been feeling for decades if not millennia when comes to men harassing women. Woman are probably saying welcome to the club because now men are getting a taste of what they have experiencing since the beginning of time.

[@everretchancellor2243]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@rodeezus]

Tank and I are both from Milwaukee! When I moved to LA I loved it cause no one literally gives af what and who you are! Everyone is free straight dudes can hang with bi or gay people and not feel insecure or they may be looked as “Gay” cause they hang with a gay dude or even jokingly converse!

[@wc6442]

You are so right and same about age, race as well, it's so freeing and sometimes make one forget there are many places that don't.

[@Keonny77]

But we were wearing cut off shirts and high and tight shorts in the 80s. Lol

[@raczgreen6053]

Clothes doesn't define sexuality....in 20 years (2040's) folks are going to look back say sagging pants and timbs boots look homo af...it goes generations but clothes doesn't define sexuality though 😂

[@C-Lyfe85]

That was a different time, cut off shorts meant something different. Just like the word "g@y" meant something different. Just like the rainbow represented something different. All these things were hijacked by a demographic.

[@shyphyre]

We were also wearing them in the 70's too.

[@DaxtonKnight]

And gays did it best . It's cool to try to relate to someone but it's all different.

[@raczgreen6053]

@@Keonny77 clothes doesn't define sexuality though...20 years from now the young people are going to say the same thing about clothes in this time..🙄🥃🍾lol

[@simeonstephens7411]

We should judge ppl based on character PERIODT

[@HaliSue2009]

Very mature dialogue. Love it. It’s real, and it happens. If you have lived a little, and tried to find yourself…you can relate to the conversation.

[@PrettybuoyJones1992]

I love this conversation,it needs to continue to be had.❤❤😊

[@enriquelicona1]

To what you said in the beginning about the double standard of women being able to get away same sex interactions and not have their straight identity questioned, I would like to add that part of that reason has to do with how we sexualize women. I also think that since “traditional” masculinity is rooted in male whiteness (supremacy), some black men may feel a need to be overly masculine to avoid like you said, having their character assassinated.

[@EJBradAndKai]

We appreciate you having the conversation and open minded enough to state your opinions. Just remember that when someone flirts with you it’s because they think you’re attractive plain and simple. How you carry yourself as a man. Attraction is universal.

[@brandobeewell]

Big fan of Tank for this conversation. Hope it does well for people going forward. No one’s forcing anything on anyone, there’s just more than one way to be human.

[@Brandon-se4pb]

I love how you worded that bro I'm a black gay man and I feel vindicated with your words, thank you

[@brandobeewell]

@ me too bro and I appreciate you.

[@Brandon-se4pb]

@@brandobeewell ♥️😁🤟🏾

[@G-Rated]

@@brandobeewell Nice choice of words, not only nice but you simply told the truth. It’s appreciated! 💪🏾

[@jimmyBeann]

Enjoyed this intellectual conversation.

[@Abonphire]

As a straight guy I usually take it as a compliment when gay person compliments me lol they got good taste usually don’t know how it’s traumatizing that’s a drag to me 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@Youttubi]

To be fair, some lesbians act like it's traumatizing when a straight man hit on them.

[@aliceboyblue]

Thats because youre secure in self. The alleged trauma comes from men who arent complete in themselves. 90% of male who share those ideals were taught that foolishness from a hypermasculine hegemonic society. The ones that tote, real men dont cry, real men dont do xyz and other 🐂💩. Dated talking points and ideals as such are whats ingrained into a lot of males. So they internalize that, which in its self becomes conflicting. Because no creature on this planet is gung ho one or the other. The balance of yin and yang. Masculinity isnt real and never could be metered to be tested. Too much emphasis on one format of masculinity is never beneficial.

[@Chrizmooo]

Respect to Tank for his openness and spiritual evolution. Having said that, the male host has a lot to work through still, im sensing homophobia and toxic masculinity in him. A) getting offended by a gay man hitting on him, when someone finding you attractive is a compliment. It triggered some level of insecurity in him. B) referring to gay people as homosexuals is so 1950's - good on Tank for calling him out on it

[@rogerbear5455]

As a man who identifies as same gender loving , masculinity is what is attractive. The more masculine the more attractive he is “per se” , it’s nothing to due with anything the he’s giving off , it’s a compliment nothing more.

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Thank u for clarifying. Salute. 💯💪🏾

[@roberttaylor5026]

Exactly I totally agree with you

[@eddiehendrixx]

I think sometimes the black community can share similar traits to racist when it comes to this topic. Racist see blacks as criminals etc. We know as a community, this is not true and there are so many layers to us as black people, and we deserve to be represented as a vibrant multifaceted culture. At time it feels like gays (men for the most part) get stereotyped similarly. I am not tone deaf to where I don’t understand how these stereotypes came about. I would be interested to see how this conversation could have been navigated with a gay voice involved.

[@helloxonsfan]

*Folks are afraid to be themselves & live their lives because they're afraid of the opinion of others, which is a pointless way to live any life.*

[@forthdimension686]

They not ready to have this conversation in good faith. They'd rather be hypocrites

[@ELP1125]

He said he was traumatize that another man hit on him. 🙄 talk about drama queen.

[@JayYoung-sz4lo]

He spends way too much time in ATL to keep saying “I’m not exposed”🙄…ATL has been ATLing since the 90s and probably before

[@CA-pp5nx]

Exactly…all these mythical ATL Lenox stories….Okay then….

[@jacobTheeCreole]

Straight women hit on gay men a lot as well sometimes unknowingly SOMETIMES !!! lol it goes both ways . Great conversation

[@shaneatkinson8933]

Lol this is true!!

[@jdhunter4695]

Tank I totally agree...I often tell some of my friends, whether they're female or male, that when you're attractive and a s% x symbol, it can be difficult to navigate. Especially when one don't realize they're easy on the eye. Chop it up and just accept that It comes with the territory. Throughout life, I had to set boundaries, whether it be woman, man, dogs, cat, and even a friend's pet monkey once. Recognize flattery. Take it as a compliment and keep it moving.

[@kamrynrivera6689]

Exactly!

[@MrJeff20109]

Great conversation we need more of this type of discussions

[@MrRon3278]

Unless if you were abused at some point in your life by a male then why would it be considered "traumatizing" 🤔. I call "cap"! I believe it's conditioning to think homosexuality is wrong. If you aren't attract to that then just say, "sorry dude! I'm not gay" and keep it moving. Why want to beat a person up for giving a compliment? 🤔.

[@the_shadow_healer]

he's probably speaking about something that happened to him as a child by a man in his family or a friend...

[@bleepbloop101010101]

There's a pretty strong link between homophobia and misogyny in society, when you are taught that women are inferior any femininity expressed by men is seen to devalue them (dressing/acting/being feminine). Being hit on by a man (only women are 'supposed' to be hit on by men) is internalized as an attack on the subject's masculinity and an attempt to devalue them. In addition gay men as a demographic can be seen as a threat to masculinity as a whole for the same reasons.

[@lokiji108]

Great mature conversation, thank you, TANK

[@paulomilan515]

This conversation needed an intelligent gay dude for perspective like Q. However, Tank did a phenomenal job with this.

[@G-Rated]

Agreed. the host was being homophobic and pretending he didn’t even know what homophobia looks or sounds like. His story about not knowing why men in public would be looking at him (I wonder how he dresses in public) or even attracted to him AT ALL - or enough to approach him in public just blew my mind. That is absolutely WILD to me. He couldn’t possibly think gay men who wanted feminine guys would approach him unless he’s portraying femininity in public. I feel it’s totally disingenuous to pretend there’s no logical reason a man would be attracted to him out in public as if he’s only found attractive by women because that’s where his interest are as a married man lies. I mean it just makes absolutely zero sense. Gay men aren’t going to allow crap like that to sneak by though, everything said needs to be addressed in these types of conversations because these conversations must be had in good faith in order to make progress.

[@aliceboyblue]

​@@G-Rated Exactly. That part was very questionable. Proper context and details arent being given out.

[@pellapaigeaah7579]

I enjoyed The thoughtful sharing of ideas and dialogue on this particular topic. It needs to be had much much more in the black community

[@dej7021]

Someone put this episode on National TV, in the theaters or mainstream streaming services! My respect for Tank has moved from his music to his intelligence and perception as a human being!!

[@moffatmokgale1715]

What was the intention of having this conversation? For me if you claim not to be homophobic but still make an effort to belittle because you were hit on by some black gay men while out with your wife and you make that an issue, then defeats the whole INTENTION of having decided to have this conversation! If you want to really deal with these uncomfortable issues, how about getting gay men on your podcast and give them a voice! Having 2 straight men talk about a world that they are not a part of is like having 2 white people try to have an intelligent conversation about what it’s really like being black in America/ the world! If you want to talk about homophobia but don’t include homosexual people, it’s still homophobia in a very subdued form if you ask me! If you choose to exclude gay black men in this conversation, then why have the conversation and decide to EXCLUDE THEM? Makes no sense to me!!

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Great point, and thank you for your honest and respectful insight. I will have to consider that. Thanks for tappin in. 💯💪🏾

[@Biserbalkanski]

I'd never do an interview 😂nope! but i hear u .

[@Biserbalkanski]

Last thing: young white gay guy here and I've been around a lot of black gay men and I know their stories better than their own families. yup...fs..and I'm a power top but a nice respectful one . since everyone talks about us...I'm that guy. except like I said i look like I could have auditioned for Disney 😂 but my voice sounds 350 pounds 😊but that's me. yup I get it maaan

[@everretchancellor2243]

@@moffatmokgale1715 it was great like it was , cause it gives you a perspective that we don’t hear from. When have you ever heard blk str8 men give their view on gay things unless it was bashing. Like im sure these men will catch hell on all sides from being so transparent but I appreciate the honest. It was a grown man conversation ( with the female non bias host) . Very grown very demure 😂😂😂

[@zazlar4228]

I think you're over thinking it and trying to put everything into a box. If two straight men entertain this conversation, it's an angle that is needed. How often do you see mature self assured straight black men have this conversation and express their open mindedness ? take it as a a blessing and not from an angle of fear and rejection

[@armonwiggins2798]

Finally addressing the cancer of homophobia in the Black community. The homophobia comes from both Black men and women.... Which is incredibly dumb considering so many Black men and women are in fact gay and part of our loved ones.

[@theofficialvontae]

God bless Tanks for being real and speaking on this. I agree with everything he said. As a R&B artist myself, I definitely understand the scrutiny as well. Regardless, I'm doing me. Opinions never mattered.

[@kymlove2006]

I don't like how they are painting men like they will just R@pe you. The only part of this conversation I don't vibe with

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Definitely wasn't the intention. Please pardon my ignorance as it is all foreign to me. No disrespect intended. 💪🏾💯

[@Biserbalkanski]

😂like c'mon maan! scaring everyone with " Omar" ...omg 😂😂😂😂! I know because I'm gay and I'm stupid strong...I'm a good person. and you wouldn't guess either thing. I look like lil " Dennis The Menace " 😂😂😂white kid

[@Biserbalkanski]

I don't take offense 😂I'm used to it ...I overhear people at the gym i use the sauna at all the time . I bite my tongue because I'm trying to be a good guy and don't need to do that. I use humor really ​@HoldinCourtPodcast

[@cacobapt]

​@@HoldinCourtPodcastbe responsable and hold yourself accountable for the content that you put out on the internet, how come you try to "change culture" with a talk like that and only perpetuate shit on a community that you don't know shit

[@rhondacook9803]

Thank you Tank ..I am just so sick of the double standards....

[@justchillin787]

Wow, this was a great conversation!

[@SeanWarren]

Excellent conversation.

[@Kalisis07]

I like the open conversation however we have got to stop perpetuating the stereotype that gay men want to r@pe a straight man just because he finds him attractive. Like Tank said, if you're attractive, you're going to be attractive to many different types of people. That doesn't mean that they wanna just take you. Take the compliment and respectfully decline. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@TyCChronicles]

This is the type of black straight men I want to be around. I feel safe and seen! Black women need to be dating these type of men because they’re secure with their sexuality and aren’t threaten by people like me. If they’re that is a red flag! Ask them how they feel about gay people and if it’s with hate and ignorance……. RUN!!!

[@Youttubi]

To be fair, just because someone does not want to be hit on does not mean they are not secure with their sexuality. For example, lesbians might not want a straight man hitting on them, but that does not mean they are not secure with their sexuality. It just means they don't want men hitting on them.

[@doshpits]

lol bw are just as homophobic as bm, what are you talking about

[@G-Rated]

@@Youttubi when do you ever hear about lesbians getting upset because they had to turn down someone? Never. Black men literally will disrespect you just because you hit on them as if gay men all look the same and you’re supposed to know they aren’t interested vs. simply letting someone know you respectfully decline which is totally different. Stop pretending y’all don’t see the difference. Homophobia is not the same as “not wanting to be hit on”. As a gay black man I’m hit on by females every single day I go out in public, I’m never rude to women no matter how many times I have to turn a new one down. It’s called maturity and grace, you have to care and strive to treat folks with love & respect in order to relate. It’s very simple though.

[@victoriastanley2995]

​@@Youttubithere is a difference between not wanting to be hit on and being an ignorant bigot..I for one as a gay man wants no woman hitting on me but I don't go around hating on heterosexual women..hope this helps

[@Godwill161]

@@YouttubiExactly!!! That’s a man myth that men who have a disdain for homosexuality is not secure with themselves. I am woman and I will debunk that anyway.

[@djGAMEboi]

Thanks Tank Mature Black men understand that by knowing YOURSELF 1st nothing else around you can influence or leave an impression on you unless you allow it to 💯

[@tavaresstevenson4112]

Have so much respect for him!!!! But ultimately, people need to mind their own damn business!!!! In this day and time people focus SO MUCH on what’s going on in the lives and bedrooms of other people that have ZERO effect on your own life! MIND YOUR BUSINESS!

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

💯💯💯💪🏾

[@jayrober4834]

Look black people would be running America if we did that…lol When you mind your business you focus on you land your family if you have one. If we could mind our business and stop having children out of wed lock we would have a higher quality of life😊

[@Biserbalkanski]

but since everyone talks about what goes on in our bedrooms...I can talk about it 😂! why not? straight people do...I work concrete...I know so. but yeah the good thing gays in my generation have is people have actually gotten to know us. we still are at a disadvantage but I make up for it.

[@randychampion184]

The only thing about that is that sexuality doesn't only exist in the bedroom, it also has a public fcae. If you you choose to live your life as a homosexual in a very covert way that's fine, but the relaity is that for many in the commu ity, they want to live their olives on the same terms and int he same way as traight peopel: with all the front facing aspects of sexuality ( PDA etc.). without recrimination.That's ok too!!

[@G-Rated]

@@randychampion184 how tall are you?

[@kctaylorsings]

I am here for this conversation. . . Educating instead of Offending the community.

[@KraziVokalz]

It's crazy these convos exist however, this conversation and listening to Tank speak is dope. I don't care to elaborate because everyone has an opinion but listen to his words... This is maturity and low key if u don't think like this maybe u aren't learning anything... Too much matters when nothing should matter if you aren't being hurt directly ..

[@jonsil001]

"Being attractive doesn't have limitations" - that sums up the video.

[@staffordbrent971]

I'm so glad to see and hear an open conversation on this Subject..Tank is great example of growth and understanding the complexities of Ones Life...and yet We are ALL breathing the same Air..👌🏾✊🏾🫶🏿🙏🏿💪🏾

[@carlishatv9458]

It’s fascinating to see them discuss how inclusivity has now allowed queer people to move around more boldly, and the position of now we see them could also be reframed in how white people feel about Black people in public spaces😂😂

[@linwoodcasey3217]

That last sentence just destroyed the entire conversation. Didn't you hear what everyone said ?

[@BrandonCiCi]

“I serve the God of all things, not one thing.” ❤

[@Trucknfit87]

THIS ‼️‼️‼️‼️ I appreciate this convo!

[@TrevonJ22]

This conversation needed to be had to bridge the gap. It’s all about setting boundaries.

[@rachetredd4876]

lol this was a good conversation. As a black gay male this was on point even funny at points. Never seen this channel before but I appreciate this discussion. I can’t speak for every black gay person but there isn’t a gay agenda. For the most part people just want to live and mind their own business. I appreciate this convo

[@troyhstewart]

Great content keep it coming!

[@Ded-Ede]

Tank is so enlighten.

[@everretchancellor2243]

Yes he is

[@josephwarfield1484]

What was the point of this conversation. I'm a grown man and as a man, 9 out of ten times, you know what you're dealing with. Black folks, change the narrative. It's old.

[@theflightschoolacademy4279]

Dope interview

[@dav87libradall]

There is no gay agenda all you have is gay people trying to live their lives just like everyone else. And that makes some people very uncomfortable because of situations going on with them personally, a few examples are they might have been sexually assaulted by the same sex or they themselves are struggling with their own sexuality and because they might be so religious they hate themselves and hate others that live in their own truth because they don't have the courage to do the same without being outcast by family, friends or possibly murdered by someone they know. It's a lot of scenarios and possibilities that I didn't mention but hopefully you get some semblance of the picture. However there is an agenda to paint black people in a negative light no matter if their gay or straight just think back to how the black community was painted on television when we got our first acting jobs, we were the jokes and when we started to do horror movies we were the first to die or presented as the worst stereotypes in comedy movies. You turn on your news who do you see committing crimes? Black people aren't the only ones but we are the face of everything negative and that not an accident but by design not just in America but world wide. But you want to hate a group of people that simply want to see themselves represented with dignity and respect just like the black community which the gay community has a piece of every every community.

[@FATMANSCOOP88]

“The #1 job of ppl who have sold their soul is to pretend it didn’t happen” Katt Williams

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

I know Katt in real life. If you believe that I have a bridge to sell u. 🤦🏾😂

[@justgojustdoit3363]

What a stupid comment to attach to this conversation. This is half the problem, this LEVEL of nignorance.

[@ameryka730]

@@HoldinCourtPodcastya ok

[@Biserbalkanski]

yup. agreed 😊. i uploaded close ups of my hands ✋️ always beat everyone in mercy and was the smallest kid for a minute. matter of fact I'm no bigger than my friend..the kid who does the backflip 😂just longer and crazier . he did gymnastics..the rings. yeah our group gets hate...c'mon the crowd is just as crazy if not crazier than UFC crowd. we're not even from here. similar to like...where Khabib is from if you want a famous example. we're humble and people get everything twisted 😂but we're good people's. that's how i deal with hate...I don't hate back because that's what they want. 😂

[@blvckmoon5844]

Do you even know what sells your soul even mean HoldinCourt ?

[@nenelatrice7972]

Aye yall had me cracking up 🤣 But this was definitely a conversation that was needed keep doing great things court 💪🏾🔥

[@TiyePetersen1977]

This conversation is getting so old.

[@timothylawson3262]

How?

[@CONNECTIONB4DIRECTION]

Tank “ Complements ” song is still on repeat!

[@Biserbalkanski]

😂

[@Yinka5o]

Appreciate the honesty, but still think some of you on the panel have a bit more work to do regarding your homophobia. Being approached by a gay man is not genuinely traumatizing, neither is there much of a link between getting gay male sexual attention and being hummed by a stray dog. This conversation is necessary& I hope the next generation of black men can recognise homosexual attraction as nothing to be frightened over.

[@Raqd7]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 so tired of the homophobia and ignorance when it comes to sexuality and gender in the black/brown community.

[@Nimonjeua-Ndiangang]

You're tired of the so called phobia but not tired of the N-word in every song, every movie, swirl culture in every TV series, and or gay black men in every movie etc. Knock it off! Selective outrage

[@TonyRay-b7k]

I may thank you guys for having this conversation and it needs to be more talks and the open down there to these type of conversations on social media and on network television and we really need to have these type of conversations in the black community when it comes to dealing with black people and black men and especially

[@lamontbenjamin8458]

I was a fan of his music now im a fan of his mind! Bravo Tank!❤

[@jasonp5438]

It takes a certain level of intellectual capability to have and comprehend this conversation.

[@CA-pp5nx]

It really doesn’t lol…

[@desledgister5015]

This is refreshing. Thank you ❤

[@truthlifepath33]

Finally a smart black man, with a higher consciousness. That’s very rare , fortunately my husband is one of these few black men with substance and emotional intelligence as well. Kudos to Tank

[@doshpits]

one of the few? so is there only a few bw of substance too? or do you only pathologise bm?

[@youlovedovey]

“Well what is it about me?” This how i feel when broke men approach me. I feel you. Just say you’re not interested because you just buried your [insert family member that bed dead]. Or tell them you want them to pay your rent. It works! They go away.

[@patrickthornton2575]

Great topic and I really respected the honesty of Big Court at the end! We can be both respectful and honest at the same time. You will not control my honest opinion or my thoughts. Most men who are ultra sensetive to the "gay" issue need to do some soul searching. A hetro man could generally speaking careless who you getting down with, cause he's to busy trying to get his. What a man preaches sometimes can be far left of a mans actions and practices.

[@thewefixclothesshow]

I love this interview. I absolutely love Tank for bringing this forth. It's so very interesting to hear from the host about "being traumatized" after getting "hit on" - versus seeing himself as an attractive man that women and gay men JUST HAPPEN to see. His response of "what it is about me that made you feel that I'm that way" - while you're sitting there looking physically fit, great skin, great smile, tight shirt on, muscles... and you're like "what is it about me"?? 😂😂😂😂😂 YOU FINE DUDE. But it does NOT mean that a gay man is going to grab you. There a very masculine men who are gay!!! And I think that's what f*cks straight men up when another guy hollas at them: they instantly feel "feminized" bcs they feel like what a woman feels like when men catcall or get stepped to. It's so simple: just tell the person you're straight/they got the wrong impression and MOVE ON. It has nothing to do with "they trying to get me". Mannnn... I am so happy this platform is actually doing this topic justice. New subscriber here. Keep up the good work. 🔥🔥🔥👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@HoldinCourtPodcast]

Lmao! Aye I'm finding my footing with everything so thank u for being patient with me. And seeing my words typed out is hilarious!! But thanks for tappin in and for the insight and positive feedback. 💯💪🏾

[@CA-pp5nx]

He ain’t all that actually…it’s these thirsty gay dudes that give these mediocre straight men the big head…

[@cecegiles7753]

No Tank, for a black man the worse thing to be called is a prisoner

[@kip2shy]

I disagree. Being called gay or soft is a huge insult. Being called a prisoner is hard or being thought of as a tough guy

[@guydrake8606]

Tanks takes on this were pretty awesome. Felt validating as a queer person.

[@nickmoon4933]

Grace and Love will detour double standards.

[@billdelgrosso4564]

Tank is a thoughtful, talented human and a leader of people. Much respect, sir.

[@jalilchandler1270]

I am so glad this was exposed and it’s needs to be talked about

[@DanaSNB]

Not finding Timothy lol!!!

[@danielcliftoncolvin5313]

We greatly appreciate your wise insights and alliance.

[@charlierobinson3410]

I'm Tired of it being a THING"" Mind you Bizness and I'll do the same! Do you ...

[@IdeologyPill]

Groundbreaking Hetero stuff here ,,, Brilliant, keep it up

[@jabbarhudson6569]

Brothers and sisters at the end of the day no matter gay or straight you are still a man and a woman if you're gay you're still a man 👞 I have been out for 34 years going on 35 years in August since the age of 13 I do not have to go inside of the closet feel bad about myself the homophobic gestures that people make and call names about I am black and I am proud 🦚

[@RoyceHuggard]

"My calling is being than the structure of said religion", say that ish, Tank!

[@muskegontribune]

Notice they named all entertainers from the late 70s and early 80s from back in the day: Prince, Rick James, Cameo. However, they replaced the image of Jim Brown, Fred Williamson, Isaac Hayes. Run DMC and others came along and dismantled that girly look.

[@doloki5131]

When you’ve been conditioned to believe that sexuality and desires should be seen in one way, it’s easy to fight hard for what you believe to be true and I think we can all attest to that with many other things in life. However, I believe that people just need to break away from thinking that their sexuality, preferences, and desires is the sun, the moon, and the stars. Folks need to wake up and understand that fluid sexuality has been around since the beginning of time and just because you do one thing, does not me that those who do not are wrong or canceled out.

[@oeleveoleve.7562]

like holdin very much.

[@So.avant.garde1]

1:04 Common sense isn’t common. Everyone should understand that everyone is different. Look in the mirror, then look at the person next to you. We’re all different in multiple ways. And folks need to get over their hang ups and move on to life issues that actually matter. ✊🏽

[@koolaid1982]

I LOVE HOW TANK SAYS NO DISRESPECT TO HOMOSEXUALS BECAUSE HES PREFORMED AT BLACK GAY PRIDE EVENTS 🫡🏳️‍🌈🙏🏾✊🏾🎤💪🏾🥰I’M A PROUD BLACK GAY MAN ✊🏾🥳🏳️‍🌈AND ALWAYS HAVE BEEN SINCE I CAN REMEMBER DISCOVERING MY SEXUALITY IN 1996 AND AT 42 YEARS OLD I FEEL NO DIFFERENT THAN I DID THAN 🤷🏾‍♂️ .A LOT OF STEREOTYPES OF WHO IS GAY BASED OFF IMAGES DIED. 🤔 I WANNA SAY BY THE LATE 90s THESE DAYS YOU GOT BLACK GAY MEN WITH THROW BACK JERSEYS TIMBERLAND BOOTS 🥾 AND SNAP CAPS 🧢 AND CAN HOLD A GREAT CONVERSATION WITH A HETEROSEXUAL MAN IN THE BARBERSHOP 💈 ✂️WITH OUT THE OTHER KNOWING OR EVEN KNOWING WHAT HE DOES 🤷🏾‍♂️ SEE BET 📺 SHOWS LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 MEN OF COLOR IN LIGHTS WE ASSUME IS WHAT EVERYONE IN THE COMMUNITY CARRIES THEIR SELF LIKE BUT NAH THATS ONE ☝🏾 OF MANY LOOKS NOT EVERYONE IS A SAUSY SANTANA OR A LIL NAS X AND I DON’T MENTION THEM IN A DISRESPECT WAY HOMOPHOBIA IS DEFINITELY REAL AND I STAND STRONG 💪🏾 IN ISOLATING MY SELF FROM IT BECAUSE I LOVE ❤️ WHO I AM AND HAD TO LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY