GET READY WITH ME | Worst Dates Storytime

[@megalyssa]

Tati you dodged a bullet with guy number two. That’s the kind of man that can very easily turn violent and abusive. I’m so so glad you avoided that.

[@dreambean.]

100% agree,I was thinking the exact same thing while she was talking about it.Slamming his fists on the steering wheel is a scary reaction to have over someone he basically just met not sleeping with him,and a huge indicator of violence / abuse.If that's how he acts towards a woman he barely knows,how much worse would he be once he felt comfortable that he had a hold on you? It's frightening to think how many men like him are out there :(

[@bernadetteP9999]

Sadly, he is probably out there, somewhere, taunting some poor woman.

[@sassyfras4085]

Cannot agree more!!! Those are ALL traits of a manipulating, controlling, abusive person. And they can be extremely charming and charismatic, -Jeckle and Hyde....extremely dangerous and yes, DODGED A HUGE BULLET!! God help the poor women he is with! Been there, barely survived, seriously! Ladies beware of these types!

[@classicashley3925]

Yes! This was terrifying. So glad she found James.

[@The_Cherokee_Gypsy]

Been there, done that. Never marry if he shows signs or red flags, because it only gets worse. One ex of mine tried to kill me, so believe me, it never gets better ladies. Stay safe.

[@amandamontgomeryburke4559]

I dated a guy that constantly let out little squeaky farts in public that smelled awful. I was always in a state of emotional turmoil because I had no clue how to react. He 100% ignored that I could hear and smell it and would just keep talking/eating/watching the movie. For some reason I didn't let that end our journey after 2 weeks of dealing with mouse farts. It took him saying that I sounded uneducated when I talk because I'm from Alabama and have a deep southern accent. To which I replied, "At least I don't FART every 10 seconds and smell like a barn animal!" I then left him to sit in his own toxic cloud of gas and breathed a sigh of relief as I power walked away never to smell him again.

[@maryamtehrani7629]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 hilarious!!

[@traceyhendrix7960]

OMG 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@athraa4936]

hahhahahahahha i loved this lmaooooooo. HE had some nerve to tell you that hahahahahhaha.

[@debbie7771]

Amanda Montgomery I'm dying. This is so funny. Sorry you had to deal with that.

[@jeildo99]

amazing!! you go sister!! btw, there's nothing wrong with a southern accent! I have a thick texas accent and consider myself quite intelligent. I can tell you are too by the way you write.

[@betmariematos3888]

Damn! So glad Tati found James after all this stories. She went through enough and deserves to be happy.

[@cs8566]

Does anyone think Tati has the most soothing voice?? I could watch her videos for hours...

[@bombdottcom111]

yep

[@laureanalazarte2745]

SO TRUE!!

[@IrisFlorentinaA]

She s addictive

[@naomilifeguru]

ASMR Tati

[@addiegriffith]

agreed

[@mizzsparkle3421]

Tati - I had a similar experience to your second date. A guy that got mad at me because I wouldn't go home with him after a great date. To anyone reading this: sex is not a transaction. Do not let someone pressure you into sex because they bought you a dinner or concert ticket, etc. Sex is never something you owe. If they get mad then they're telling you that they aren't worth your time.

[@learn_more_3329]

Karen a same thing happened to me, but all he bought me was a Starbucks coffee, are you kidding me?! That was the last I️ spoke to him.

[@angelacartiglia]

YES 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@karen2095]

Preach

[@llensaveronique6617]

About the "sushi" date, an important reminder is : a woman never owe a men sexe or whatever physical interactions because he offered dinner/anything. If you are not comfortable/ready to have that kind of intimacy with a men, you don't have to It is important to reminder because girls are always told to "reward" men's gifts, but they are not told it doesn't have to be at the expense of their personal desires

[@sophiedatt8687]

Righ

[@DaCheeseblarg]

I full on sneezed a handful of snot into a guy's hand on our second date. We were in a movie and he had his arm around me, holding my left hand and I was coming down with a really bad flu (not that I knew that at the time) and I felt the sneeze coming and tried to yank my hand away to cover my nose/mouth (I'm left handed so my brain automatically waned the occupied hand) but it came too fast (that's what she said) and he didn't let go so I filled his hand with snot and slobber. Amazingly, he asked me out again even with my grossness, and he's been dealing with that grossness now for almost 19 years, 18 + of which we've been married.

[@puppibanana]

OMG I would have died of embarrassment hahahaha. Happy it worked out well anyway

[@ximenairene1836]

I need you’re autograph

[@huh3266]

Omg i need at man like that

[@soumyau2001]

That's amazing 😂💕💕💕

[@maytemendez9266]

DaCheeseblarg awwww

[@jackiestaggs2393]

My now husband took me out my first birthday dinner together to my fav restaurant, bbq. Well, I learned that day that he doesn’t take it well. After a terrifying trip back to his house he threw open the front door and screamed “Still love me!” As he ran down the hall. From the other end of the house I herd him going super sayian on that toilet. I’m an awkward person so I just sat there and tried not to make him more embarrassed, but I laughed the whole time he was in the bathroom.

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

"still love me!" 😂 Aw bless him, what a story

[@shannontimoney5901]

😂😂😂 I love this so much

[@Vapaja]

Oh dear god, I can't stop laughing. I love this story so much!!

[@mackenzieonyx7586]

he handled it like a cutie with that remark tho lol

[@teee.y]

A w

[@tuessunshine9836]

So glad you ended up with James, he’s great!

[@SingingASMRSongs]

Tues Sunshine yes!

[@svenjak5053]

hearing about guy #2 makes me so upset bc there are SO many guys like him out there. they think just bc they bought you dinner, you owe them sex and they're entitled to your body as if you were just some object. glad you got out of this situation and were okay!

[@TheCerealluvr]

exactly

[@nicolebarrientos2169]

That profile picture😍

[@jaimiepolsz7838]

Lol Okay, Tati. I really hope you see this... I’m 27 now. When I was a senior in college, I started dating a guy who I had been friends with for about three years. I met him as the boyfriend of a friend of mine, and never really thought of him that way until we had both been single for some time and it ended up just kind of happening on its own. We dated for probably three weeks before we finally had sex at my apartment. He gets up afterward and heads into the bathroom, and I’m laying there thinking, “Wow, he’s a really NICE guy!” and I’m like imagining where this is gonna go next, when he starts farting... SO loud. Loud, long, echoing, one right after the other type of farts. And I’m laying there like, not breathing, having no idea what to say or how to feel... and he starts maniacally laughing. So I started maniacally laughing. He comes out, and we are both just laughing way too hard to even acknowledge what just happened. He finally got back into bed with me and he goes, “Dude... I hope you know I held that in for you the entire time.” I married him three years later. He’s sleeping next to me now, another three years later. I’m eight months pregnant with our baby girl. Farts don’t always ruin everything. 😂😂

[@annieswitt]

Jaimie Polsz Aww!

[@leahrunyan7111]

That's awesome.

[@maitesoto1953]

If this isn't goals, then I don't know what goals is

[@CozyKaila]

I love this story. 😭

[@MakeUpMagnetism]

Best story ever ❤️

[@yasminsaavedra8852]

Lol the first story reminded me of when my boyfriend at the time left me alone on my birthday. No phone call, no text, I got one text from him that day telling me he's coming so I got ready and waited on my couch. He never came. It was the most depressing birthday I've ever had. I just had a baby(my daughter is NOT his child), my family lived 3 hours away and had no money to come see me, I remember I cried like a baby mainly because I was going through post partum depression and to be left alone like that was a nightmare for me. turns out he was married and I was just a side chick but I had no clue. Needless to say we are not together. I'm so happy I eventually married a wonderful man :)

[@myja100]

So happy that you are happy now! Sending all the luck, love, and best positive wishes! Hoping you have many more happy years together! Xxx

[@carolannegauvin1151]

Yasmin Ramirez Aww I’m so happy for your happy ending ! 🤗

[@jadepietrangelo1981]

Your second story is one of those dudes that says he’s a “nice guy” and “doesn’t understand” why girls don’t like him. It’s scary when someone gets actually mad because they think you owe them something. Gives me the creeps.

[@PrincezzofDarknezz]

Jade Pietrangelo It is creepy because that kind of "nice guys" are treating us like a sexual object, its creepy and horrible. I understand you

[@annikasterner9251]

Yeah, those are the ones you need to avoid because they can get violent. A really creepy story!

[@kuro.hitsuji]

I'm so glad you didn't invite that so-called gentlemen up to your apartment. I can't stand those kinds of guys who think that you/ your body is worth a dinner or a drink. Good for you. I'm glad you found your soulmate in James!

[@haylied1265]

That's why I've heard advice saying to not let a guy pay for your food on the first few dates, because they'll see it as them being entitled to something afterward

[@selinaaddison1705]

She really dodged a bullet with that guy! That kind of reaction to not being invited up is scary!

[@xattix]

Tati , regarding the second story, you shouldn't have felt confused. The guy was a jerk and you didn't owe him anything, no matter how much he spent on you! Glad it ended there and that you met James!

[@summerdais325]

xattix I was glad that didn't end worse.

[@shareorshelve]

Omg I've had too many experiences with men like Mr. Jekyll and Hyde who think that just because they bought us a nice dinner or put in a little bit of effort that it automatically entitles them to intimacy. And that if we don't give them what they want we're ungrateful. Because god forbid he treat us with respect and kindness without there being some kind of reward for him after.

[@pepperpaige203]

Exactly. And look how that made her react. Tati began to question her own first instinct, which was throwing out some red flags. I really hope I can raise my boys better than some of these guys we (collectively) have dated.

[@princesse0920]

Michelle my mom told me that if I dated someone don't let them push me into things I don't agree or feel comfortable to.

[@alexsxsxs1817]

ikr i mean they should just talk about their intentions in the first place from both sides. nowadays younger people tend to be more straightforward with their intentions so we can avoid an awkward situation like that.

[@gabrielaguillen3485]

Best relationship moments with James!! Whether it be dates or just a nice memory. I feel like you guys don't try and sugar coat your relationship so it'd be really relatable to know real moments you guys have had together

[@rachelwright4960]

I once had a guy show up at my house for a date with champagne, play-doh, and board games. I thought I was for sure in for a lame night with some loser. Been married to that guy for 5 years now 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@brittanymann2713]

Rachel Wright - He is a keeper!

[@malloryholy4882]

That sounds like an amazing date.

[@shelbygarcia2350]

That's awesome 😂

[@oliviagretchen4496]

Rachel Wright awwww ❤️

[@ilyGabby20]

Rachel Wright so cute!!

[@juliacastro7702]

I got out of an abusive, year and a half long relationship during my senior year. My best friend of two years told me he wanted more. I was so terrified I almost bailed; three years later, I'm treated like a princess. He showers me with roses and affection and comfort

[@thienthanhlavoie1021]

Julia Castro this happened to me also! We are married now.

[@Swizzles89]

Why is it that some guys think of dating as classy prostitution? I just bought you a really nice dinner... that's my prepayment for sleeping with you...

[@monanana-04]

SnowWhite84 yessss! 100%

[@Lisbett_Again]

Mothers didn’t teach them better they think if they are nice to you they are entitled to it .

[@sarasklarcikova7959]

Exactly! Omg hate that.

[@lidya5882]

he sounds like the typical Nice Guys

[@chelseag2124]

Yeah this is totally unfair

[@ObiWanAnole]

These stories have really shown me that I'm not alone on going to terrible dates. I've had three different guys do similar things in regards to expecting sex because they "spent money/time" on me. It's so scary that men are actually like that. So glad you found James, coincidentally I'm dating someone named James too and he's so awesome :) I loved this video!

[@LM-pb9un]

dont let strangers pay for your food! most people dont give without expecting something back!

[@ObiWanAnole]

Lizeth Manzano I always assume I pay for myself, but if someone insists, I let them. Their intentions with spending money on me doesn't excuse the behavior where they make me feel like I "owe" them. I don't ever assume the worst in people like your statement suggests to do.

[@joey_5060]

I had that happen years ago. I was at a club, and I was sitting in a group and all of a sudden this guy sat with me and started buying my drinks. I kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't, and since I was young and stupid....I didn't think much about it. Until he wanted to go home with me at the end of the night. He got REALLY upset because he had bought me 2 or 3 drinks. It was kind of scary. Sorry dude....but 3 drinks the first time I meet you does not = sex. Ugh.

[@lydiaisamazing1]

Yeah girl, I started buying my own dinners on the first few dates, and most of the time the guys stopped calling!

[@LM-pb9un]

yes of course it doesnt justify the bad intentions, and its not assuming the worst of people its being realistic. we live in a world where guys buy you drinks with drugs in them. personally i always set my rules and talk clearly before the date, like "i will pay for my own meal so respect that please", or "I dont do one night stands" or anything like that, it really helps to see how the guy reacts to that. I think its really necessary to do that now days.

[@kellyobrien1503]

Second date is like prime red flags for an abusive partner. I'm so glad you held your ground. I'm studying to be a therapist/psychiatrist and I'm incredibly sensitive to small group communications and relationship communications. I'm so glad you didn't cave into the intimidation he was trying to put out.

[@ajaku]

This is exactly what I thought too. Tati you dodged a bullet for sure!

[@VintageAqua]

As she was telling the story, I was thinking the same exact thing. Sounds like he might have been a narcissist as well.

[@BatyBug]

ajaku that’s exactly what I said!

[@123hannahgeo]

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months who didn’t care 99% of the time, but I kept clinging on to the 1% I got and made so many excuses for him. Then I watched this video, and I can’t thank you enough Tati. I know my worth, and it’s like you made this for me💗

[@gaminggirls8230]

hannah Georgina awww I feel what you've through iv been there before

[@miakaori5306]

hannah Georgina good for u honey

[@123hannahgeo]

thank you so so much you guys, turns out my instinct was right and he was a cheat all along. Now happily sitting on my uni offer for medicine and feeling very very content with myself :) xx

[@oatmealcoloured9950]

Men who think they can buy sex with you by being nice/ paying for dinner can go choke. I'd rather pay for my own dinner and not be pressured into anything. Don't let anyone ever guilt-trip you into doing something youre not comfortable with!

[@shawnajoann4781]

My own husband of four years never acknowledged Valentine's Day or my Birthday, or even our Anniversary. Never got a card, flowers or a gift. The one and only time he got me anything for Valentine's Day, he actually went and bought the day after while everything was on sale... it was a card..... I gave birth to his child and he never even treated me like I was worth anything. Finally walked away a year ago.. best thing I ever did for myself!

[@ashleytrice4465]

Shawna Hunziker good for you for getting rid of such a horrible husband.

[@msbluesky]

You deserved better 💙

[@jasminem812]

good for you!!! :)

[@briannav5827]

Good for you, girl !!!

[@alexnikki515]

Shawna Hunziker good for you girl, you deserve more than that! 👏🏼

[@honours-p1651]

These guys are just douches that couldn't handle someone as amazing as Tati. I'm so glad you found James, you two help me to believe that there is someone for everyone. xx

[@jessical6719]

Onie s-p so agree!

[@somritadutta1787]

Whenever she was going off topic talking about her make up, I was like "TATI! TELL ME THE STORIES!" P.S.- Love your make up today! With lashes and the extra highlighter on, it looked darn good!

[@deniselisboa1]

Lol same

[@monanana-04]

😂😂😂

[@meg-sk4qv]

Once on a first date at a nice restaurant the guy somehow got on the subject of how white his legs were. I tried to be polite and said I’m sure they aren’t too pale and he goes “wanna bet????” He then popped his shoe and whole leg up on the table and pulled up the leg of his pants to reveal his scrawny calves for the whole restaurant to see. They were indeed very pale and he didn’t get a second date

[@nata_g_liia]

Megan OMG this is crazy )))))

[@mmxxmxm]

Omg wild

[@dirtylargo8815]

😂😂😂

[@lindachen1623]

this is wayyyy too funny!!!!

[@colemccullough5732]

I really enjoyed this. Pls do more of these

[@Kaylakatanik]

Kai Rey she gives little life lessons and ahhh it makes me so happy. she's like a mom to me

[@crustyhailey]

Yes I love this too!

[@tiffany4059]

Kai Rey in nuh 22n2n

[@aquacoral]

I just really enjoy listening to her, so more talking is better if you ask me. I love these, and just generally finding out more about Tati. Like I watch her pretty much every single day, I feel like it makes sense that I know more about her. In conclusion YES MORE PLEASE!

[@ashleyh1075]

I love when she does these videos...also I think her eye makeup looks great but whenever I do cool tones or dark/Smokey I have a weird dissociation with the mirror and think it looks too harsh even if it looks okay to everyone else

[@milenarodriguez704]

JUST BECAUSE MEN BUY US DINNER AND ARE NICE, DOESN'T MEAN WE OWE THEM SEX. OR ANYTHING. THEY CHOSE TO BE NICE.

[@rchhcsupernova]

in resume they are not nice, they are just trying to get something

[@dawndelosmuertos4025]

After a very active dating life before I met Mr. Right, I can say yeah, they do expect it. They buy you dinner, they expect sex. If they just buy you coffee or a drink, then it's a little slap and tickle, maybe sex if you like them enough. I"ve been married for 33 years now, OMG, am I glad I don't have to deal with all the dating crap now.

[@Kellibeanss]

literally in my room crying my eyes out my boyfriend has ignored me for 5 days... we have been togeather for 2 years.. our anniversary is on sunday.. balling needing comfort i thought of tati.. and your right.. i do desserve better.. thank you. love you. Edit: thank you so so so much for all of your guys support.. it's help alot.. Love all of you 💕💕

[@chriswest7639]

It's Kelli dont text him.

[@future.cadaver]

It's Kelli What a douchebag. Never wait for people to tell you how they feel, they will always show you much sooner. Time to walk away.

[@Kellibeanss]

Jessica Ingenbrandt Thanks 💕

[@blairemadsen6920]

Is he the kind of man that invents transgressions or fights before any holiday, anniversary or event? If so get out, he is just being lazy and inventing reasons not to celebrate anything including you! You deserve way better and to be acknowledged and celebrated!

[@Kellibeanss]

Blaire Madsen not until recently.. he worked on Halloween when we told me he was going to be with me..

[@blackrainbowg6]

One more story with farts. :D I hope you will enjoy as much as I did enjoy your stories :) So, we were dating for about 5-6 weeks, and we had a really great time. Laying in his dorm room, talking in the middle of the night, really romantic. Then he said "I love you", after just a couple of weeks of dating. I was kind of shocked, because I really liked him, but did not love him yet, so I immediately asked back "What? What did you say?". And than he replied with a poker face: "Nothing. I just farted". I started laughing so hard, I was literally crying... :D Two years later now, living together, loving him :)

[@TheCerealluvr]

that's fantastic

[@Antariksha]

I would love to know about ur youtube stories when you were just starting out.. how was it like? Hardships u faced, friends u made, ur first brand recognition, ur first event.. how was it getting ur first 100 or 1000 subscribers.. 😊

[@baylay1062]

That speech after your first story....... PREACH 🙌🏼

[@as.dexter]

Am I the only one who thinks Tati's voice is super relaxing to hear?!?!!! No right?

[@as.dexter]

😂😂😂

[@ShaRaeBurr]

Dexter Slays soothing, calming, relaxing voice for sure, love it.

[@FResili]

ppl comment something like this on all her videos.

[@agelianaioannidou2913]

Dexter Slays no I agree.. sometimes I click on previous videos I have already watched and it helps me falling asleep😂😂

[@as.dexter]

warnakat well I don't know and I just want to let my thought out! 😂

[@courtneymauro5241]

I’m 36 and still internet dating. I wish I was done already. I’m ready to give up. Don’t take that man of yours for granted for one tiny second. I know u don’t. ⭐️

[@eveywub]

Ugh same, James seems so fantastic... Where's my James 😭😂

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

Something a family friend told me after finally escaping a terrible relationship was that she regretted settling for this guy who clearly didn't treat her right because she was 38 when they met and thought "well it's now or never." She said compared to what she experienced, never seemed like the better option in hindsight. I'm trying to keep that in mind for my life and hopefully just feel comfortable enough by myself that if I meet someone, great, if I don't, that's okay too.

[@genericegirl0]

The first one what she said after it, its helping me get the courage to finally break up with my boyfriend that defiantly doesn't treat me right. I've told him he didn't and he didn't try to fix it he just made excuses, thank you Tati!

[@genericfirstname]

I waited until my awful exboyfriend broke up with me, well over a year after I should have ended it with him. If he's not willing to treat you right he's not showing you love. My current boyfriend reminds me so much of James, he's kind and reasonable and tells me I'm beautiful every day. You deserve it!

[@aliciagarcia455]

I absolutely LOVE how you conversate with us as if we were having lunch and catching up on life or something 😊💕I feel the connection when you speak to us and I think that is why I love you and your channel so much😘 you are just awesome 😊

[@nickrachjames]

Alicia Garcia totally agree with you. Tati's my favorite.

[@kathyjackson3751]

Alicia Garcia I agree. So fun. She always seems genuine and kind.

[@RaashiDewan]

So true, it's like talking to your best friend.

[@bombdottcom111]

conversate isn't a word. ;) you mean converse, but that isn't the right word either because she is not having a back and forth chit chat. ;P

[@cynthiaromero8666]

You went through many frogs to finally find your prince! James is a great catch and hes lucky as well

[@adorevevomusic]

I guess it includes frogs with Diarrhea as well :)

[@jillianlundie8256]

I loved this. I just got cheated on, and you talking about giving someone every chance, even when they treat you poorly, really resounds with me. Thank you for sharing.

[@mademoisellekaya1438]

*STORYTIME IDEA* How did Puka came into your life, and other pet/pets storytelling from the both of your pasts maybe?

[@maitesoto1953]

Puka was James' mother's dog, they adopted him after she passed

[@Lyndzy112]

I feel like that could turn to tears fast but I like the idea

[@MagentaKristen]

Oh! Puka is my fave! :) Yes please!!

[@SerpicoVendemion]

C. C. Notting Photographie that’s lame

[@LaurenJeanDavis96]

#2 is a narcassist. They do things to get your love and affection, and then when he didn't get what he felt was owed to him (in your pants) he turned on you trying to make you feel like you owed him something in return for his date. I fell in love with one, and now here I am...in misery. So glad you finally met James. Love ya Tati, I hope one day to get the hell out of here.

[@margotdenise5091]

lauren jean96 girl please leave

[@haylied1265]

Get a plan with people who love you to support you, get out of there, block them on all social media and erase all pictures. Get them out of your mind and out of your life and you'll be surprised how happy you can be ❤️ wish you the best

[@genericfirstname]

It's not love if he's not giving you love, the occasional bit of affection amongst the misery isn't love. I'm so sorry you're in the situation, I've been there too and it only ended when he Legally Blonde style dumped me. My current partner is much more like James in how he treats me and I deserve it, so do you.

[@jasminemurfin538]

Margot Denise Art I thought you were shouting at her for your comment, I was about to go for your throat😂 anyways your right, ain't nobody got a right to treat you like that, it may take a while but I promise the guy who's gonna treat you like the princess you are is out there waiting

[@cmhannah3]

Tati is basically my KZbin Mom. She gives great life advice, great beauty advice, and is such a humble person. ❤️

[@crystalroy4334]

Okay those stories were heartbreaking but nice being able to get to know you. You made a very good point after the 1st story. Ladies, girls, boys, whoever...please please I beg you, if you're not in a loving relationship where love is from both sides; leave! Once you start letting things slide it just gets worse b/c they know you'll tolerate it & wont leave so they start treating you like a doormat. You're so much better than that & deserve so much more. Never just settle b/c you think you can't do any better. Oh & if they ever lay a finger on you PLEASE leave right then & there & don't EVER look back!! I've been through it all, learned a lot & finally found the perfect person for me. He loves me w/ all my flaws, never tries to change me & still does sweet things for me everyday. It's been 10yrs now & I couldn't be happier!

[@sabrinar229]

YOUR NAILS ACTUALLY LOOK STUNNING 👏🏼

[@Tati]

Thank you! xo's

[@dianatheninjaaa]

I felt so bad when you were talking about him going out and giving you LEFTOVER Mexican food. This only makes me happy because I know you are so happy with your husband as you deserve!!!

[@aida885]

You're so right about ending relationships where there's no respect... Ended with my ex this year after a 4 year engagement and forgiving the most unforgivable things.... now, I'm with someone who treats me like a princess and I can't believe how lucky I am. Everything happens for a reason. Love these videos, Tati, it's great seeing you do your makeup and getting to know more about you. Please do more! :)

[@annelisestauersboll7837]

My ex broke up with me for serving food to homeless people lol . . . So as we all know, regardless of what side you were on, the end of 2016 was ROUGH. I’m extremely liberal and my ex was very conservative, but we tried to make it work. Anyways, every year for Thanksgiving my family and I serve food at a homeless shelter. He saw on Snapchat that I was serving homeless people and broke things off the next day. He called me an “enabler” and told me that he’d rather tell a homeless person to go to hell than ever do anything for them. Boy bye ✌🏻 I don’t need that kind of negativity. I honestly laugh about it all the time now.

[@ThimbleFox350]

Gotta love them right wing Christian morals

[@lindseydoyle7020]

Thimble Fox, You do realize that you just judged an entire group of people that you don't know in the exact same way that her ex judged an entire group of people that he didn't know....hm.

[@martasue1905]

Thimble Fox that was a bit harsh I am a Christian and conservative but I am a big advocate for helping the homeless or anyone who needs help so don’t judge a whole group of people by one hypocrite cuz not everyone is like that

[@meanbean6011]

"You have empathy for other human beings??? How dare you and go to hell!!!"

[@martasue1905]

mean bean lol 😂

[@SuperKewl12]

That glitch literally made me think my phone was possessed

[@emilydavidson4003]

Haley B omg me too!!! I was home alone as well

[@hazellaar]

Same!!

[@jmcmontanheiro]

RIGHT

[@patatasorigins9383]

I know right 😂 I was in the bathroom washing my face then the lights here started flickering the same time with the video looool

[@jadeervin7449]

Haley B I was about to throw a fit. I literally just bought the iPhone X yesterday and I was like you’ve got to be kidding me 😂😂

[@genesisorozco2872]

Tati you should do a GRWM the James and Tati love story 💕 it would be great especially because the love seems so genuine ☺

[@TammyD123]

Genesis Orozco there is actually a video where James proposes on he does tell a lot of the story. He said to her on their first date “what if this is it” or something like that. It’s very sweet!

[@sammistrade]

Genesis Orozco PLEASE DO THIS

[@autumnbray8790]

She's done plenty videos where she talks about their love story

[@genesisorozco2872]

oh ok thanks guys I will try to find those videos

[@goodvibesgray3821]

Do story time more often, it’s working for me lol!

[@joey_5060]

Me too! Loved it! 😊

[@psychedelicfeline6164]

Took me over seven years for me to decide I wouldn't be a doormat.

[@bombdottcom111]

good 4 u hun :)

[@cherrybomb3098]

never too late. you have a whole new life waiting for you. stick to that decision girl, proud of you!

[@Bekarose]

PLEASE DO MORE OF THESE! Your voice is so relaxing, also that first story! 😳 Especially on your birthday, that's awful oh my god! So glad you went on that date with James because look at you guys now. 😻🙌🏼 Perfect couple, love you Tati!

[@sarahrao3880]

No one should ever expect sex as a payment for anything including an experience such as a date. No one owes their body to anyone. Don’t let anyone guilt trip you into thinking that you owe them sex for treating you well.

[@victoriavsworld]

I LOVE THIS TYPE OF VIDEO!!! It feels like you're chatting to us like we're your girlfriends and we're getting ready for a night out and I absolutely adore this style of video! Love your beautiful makeup and your amazing and hilarious personality girl! Xx 💋

[@carlymcdermott2132]

Ahhhhh the second one gives me chills, which I've had a similar not as bad experience! After speaking for a while/going on dates me and this guy started making out, he tried to make a move and I said no I'm not ready, I didnt know him enough for me to be comfortable for that kind of thing. This led to an awkward few moments to which I had to go home because it got too uncomfortable with him looking at me like I'd offended all his ancestors, aaaaaand he never spoke to me again 😑 But then a month or so later I met the love of my life and we are now engaged 6 years later! Everything happens for a reason ❤

[@brandilynnmitchell1053]

I went out with this guy that was friends with my best guy friend so I thought he'd be nice but he ended up being the most pretentious guy I've ever met. We went to a fancy steak restaurant where he ordered an expensive bottle of red wine but when it came to the table for him to taste he told the waiter that it wasn't chilled enough and asked for an ice bucket...for red wine!!!! I was mortified. Then before we were even through the salads he flat out said so since I'm buying this expensive dinner are we going to your place or mine!! I got up threw a $100 bill on the table, told him a nice red wine isn't supposed to be chilled and had the hostess call me a cab to go home. Needless to say I never saw him again!

[@virginiavillalobos5519]

Good for you, that is exactly how guys like that should be handled. You obviously know your worth.

[@sherlieks1]

Yassss!!!🙌🙌

[@puppibanana]

Omg what a jerk!

[@YourPainting1]

ew the guy who expected sex after the second date just because he bought you dinner. I hate that! it's so embarrassing when a guy thinks a nice date guarantees him sex. love you for getting out of that situation and not looking back!

[@ashleyross4503]

Christine I hate when guys do that because not all girls have sex on the first or the second date it would take a while before you have sex but most guys don’t see it that way at all they expect to get it that night. Witch is nasty and I don’t like guys like that. Before me and my husband got married when it was it the dating stage getting to know each other and what not he was so nice he didn’t care that I’m in a wheelchair he didn’t want to have sex if I wasn’t ready he waited for me to be ready.

[@piplupbond7654]

I would love to hear stories about bad Sephora or ULTA experiences or PR packages experiences!

[@sagepup6782]

This is the first makeup video I've ever watched (I don't have girl friends... like at all) and I legit felt my inner feminine gal just going "GUURRL!" I'm making hand motions, SOMETHING I NEVER DO, flipping my hair, snapping my fingers. Geez this is the most girly I've probably ever felt. Thanks Tati for giving me some girl talk, it was actually... really nice 😊

[@LoverOfRomans]

Omg, I do the same way!! Lol.

[@amberallen9287]

Idk what it is! But I always find myself slightly shaking my head up and down to signal that I understand what ur saying. Like ur sitting here with me and u can see me. 😂 Ur the only KZbinr I find myself doing this to. ❤

[@IloveHobbits1995]

lol i do this thing where i hum in agreement but i do it at my screen all the time too

[@jolu955]

Lol same

[@ameliaherman3211]

Omg I️ did the same and i thought i was being weird hahaha

[@KKP7557]

About the guy who got so angry when you wouldn't invite him in after the second date, I think you dodged a bullet. Listening to the story I heard some red flags being raised.

[@sarahcamidge9214]

Karen Pierce I thought the same thing. Sounds like he would be abusive

[@pollitobonito129]

Sounds like the typical lemme just spend a lot of money on you so that it can automatically get me laid. Ummmm......go to the club and find yourself an easy bimbo buddy. Tati is way to sophisticated and classy for a guy like that!

[@michaelamangrum4351]

madambourjois AMENNN

[@Luxx24]

Totally agree. I felt angry just hearing that story... what a total jerk.

[@FashionChaletNET]

Those stories though!!!! Looks like James saved you. Bless his sweet soul! 😁🤗😇 Xx

[@jennnnnnn13]

I like to think she saved herself and James came right as she started to really own herself and be the Tati we all love 💚

[@lisalee1878]

fashion chalet That's exactly what I was thinking!!

[@steflondon88]

yep

[@thatonedog819]

I was driving to a date with this guy. First date. I was about half an hour away and had to get gas first which I told him when I left. It was also dark and raining out. I have cataracts which makes those conditions difficult for me to drive in so I also took it kind of slow. I don't answer my phone while driving for obvious reasons. So I get there, look at my phone and he's cussing me out about how I stood him up and if I didn't want to come I should have said so how I was ignoring him ect... Messaged him back saying there is no way in hell I'm going in because I didn't feel safe. He freaked out more. Turned around and went straight back home. Still don't regret that decision. It's clear he wasn't a very nice guy.

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

Oh my goodness I'm so glad you dodged that one, what a psycho! You definitely made the right call.

[@shatabdideb5038]

Im actually feeling sad that the video ended... i loved the video😍

[@genrose3829]

That story about your friend leaving for a guy and then you standing in the rain makes me so sad

[@sassyfras4085]

Gen Rose Awe, that is so sweet and kind of you! I love positive comments when people show compassion, we need more of that in this world! Good for you to even taking the time to comment that!!

[@sassyfras4085]

Gen Rose Gen Rose Awe, that is so sweet and kind of you! I love positive comments when people show compassion, we need more of that in this world! Good for you to even taking the time to comment that!!

[@lilag5679]

I would never leave a friend alone for a dude.. And I don't girls like that.. Making a man so important :/ They are not!

[@madisonl3401]

OMG I love this video! Please do more Storytime videos Tati, we want to hear about your life. 💋♥️💋♥️

[@DarkKoffee]

Totally agreed! :D

[@Tati]

So glad you enjoyed it Madison! xo's

[@HolyGround777]

Madison L yeeees!!!! 😀😀😀

[@madisonl3401]

Tati Please make a storytime video on any paranormal experiences you've had in your life! Those are always such interesting stories 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ayradona]

Tati, I am so happy you made this video. I just broke off contact with my ex of 2 1/2 years after it being a back and forth for 8 months. I really needed this because I just thought that there's literally no hope. Don't get me wrong, I feel sorry that all that stuff happened to a woman as beautiful as you but it makes me feel better that you eventually found the perfect guy.

[@lydiaisamazing1]

I met my husband online, and I too had those really bad online dates... the bathroom story 😂😂😂 i think everyone has one. But my worst date was actually this guy I met at my friend’s church in college. He picked me up and we went to the dollar store first, he told me I could pick out anything I wanted (I’m laughing typing this) I told him it was okay, I was just looking forward to the movie. So we go to pick up the tickets and he has two free movie passes. It’s okay, he’s not a big spender, whatever. Well during the previews he starts having this conversation with me. I was polite but once the movie started and he didn’t stop talking it got really uncomfortable. The people behind us kept shushing but he was totally clueless. When he dropped me off he told me he had such a fun time and he felt like we really connected and wanted to take me out again. It was such an uncomfortable experience for me, but I had no idea how to express that without coming off as shallow. I guess if you want to get to know a girl, but are balling on a budget, take her for a beautiful walk, or take a tour of your city...

[@sunshinegirl6854]

more please! I feel like the lack of respect and being taken advantage of/intensely manipulated seriously destroys your soul and harms your ego. And just being naive. I agree. be around those who respect you. PLEASE MORE TALKS LIKE THESE. IT IS HELPFUL.

[@lainabanks6334]

It’s hard to date and let others treat you well, when some guys feel like you owe them after they did something nice. Always pay and drive yourself on a date just in case 👏🏻

[@mfrog38]

Laina Banks that's sad how some guys think that way.. I would say..no one forced you to take me out on a date buddy! I don't owe you jack!

[@lainabanks6334]

Mollie Rollman Haha seriously! Apparently being a decent person for some is just about getting a reward at the end of the day..

[@BatyBug]

That story was scary! So glad it just ended with a tantrum, and nothing worse, thank god. F that disrespectful shite.

[@alainaatk.6210]

I don’t agree with the paying...I think a decent guy will do that. The driving though is a good idea if you don’t know the person yet.

[@Aishaa_aa]

I could literally sit here and listen to Tati talk for 10 hours lol something in her voice is just so calming

[@samantha6991]

I spent two years with a guy because I kept thinking he would chnage. It never happened. He almost didn’t make it to my birthdays those two years and we didn’t do anything on valentines because he thought it was stupid to do something fun. Luckily I finally called that quits and now I’m with someone who is so amazing. He is respectful, honest, kind, always there for me. And I’m 3 weeks I will be living with him and I am so excited.

[@gretchnjoyer]

Please do a video talking about your weirdest/funniest/worst experiences working at a beauty counter

[@arubakhatoon4271]

Ik this is a year late but I would love to see that

[@tippib2222]

One time a guy took me out on a blind date and asked me to help him pick out a bracelet for the girl who set us up...because he had a crush on her.

[@lisathomson3057]

Tippi B no!

[@monanana-04]

Wooooooow. I can’t. I can’t even fathom how stupid that was of him

[@hereforvids2523]

My favorite video ever, I’m in a situation like your one story and you saying “don’t wait around for someone to change leave” and after 3 years of really hard times it’s crazy how much that has stuck with me and made me feel like I can get out of it.

[@LizPlantLady]

Who else thinks the first guy was having a date with other girl and brought Tati some left overs?

[@cinthyarivas1381]

a year after your comment just saw this video and yup! that was the first thing that came to my mind!

[@divnolid9613]

Mee too 😓

[@christinapal2064]

Definitely. If he was having dinner with "friends" why was his phone off? She dodged a bullet, he cheated not only on Valentine's day but on her bday. How disrespectful can you be?

[@fallchiild399]

Me toooo

[@mirayo7876]

Yeeess, I'm triggered 🔥

[@skaarup33]

I like this type of video. After all those bad dates and not so great boyfriend's, you found James. He is a super guy and the perfect husband. You are so lucky and so is he. I am not saying that mine isn't, but James is extra special and he LOVE you so much. You can see it when he looks at you! I wish the best for you two! You are the perfect couple! I would like to her about your teen years in high school and college.

[@AnimalsGirlful]

that story about the guy expecting sex for buying you dinner is horrible and genuinely upset me, I have had that happen when they are so nice and then they get so angry and belittle you. Unfortunately because I was so embarrassed and ashamed for saying no at first I gave in so he wouldnt hate me and I never even done that yet at the time and I really hate him for getting in my head and disrespecting me and I was actually depressed after that, sometimes people dont understand how severely their actions hurt.

[@kristalund6446]

LaLaish I’m so sorry that happened. Ive also in the past consented when I️ didn’t really want to. It’s an awful feeling. If a guy feels like he is owed sex he isn’t worth having around.

[@NS-tz8iv]

I feel for you Tati, and I would love to tell you my birthday story from probably about 4 years ago. I was living with several roommates and my boyfriend of the time. He was military, so it wasn't like he couldn't afford to go out. The day of my birthday I'm off, I thought maybe he would have something planned or would want to do something special with me, but the day was horrible. I wake up, make lunch for the both of us. He doesn't say happy birthday. He's on his computer gaming. So I decided to do my own thing. I'm so sad at this point. I thought maybe he would want to invest some time of his with me. But then he decides he wants to go shopping with one of my roommates as the local computer store. We get there and he asks me to pick out my own gift. Like, why can't you just surprise me? do something different? why does technology have to be the option and why do I have to choose it? so I try to pick my gift, he tells me what im picking is not the right thing. We argue in the middle of the store. He pretty much at that point makes me feel stupid and uneducated about computer accessories (a mouse and headphones were the choice). So I'm more upset than before, we head back home, and it turns out I was right and he was wrong. We start arguing again and I start to cry. He makes me feel worse that I'm crying, takes me back to the store and we exchange it for the one I originally had wanted. We go back home and hes right back to his computer. Maybe about an hour later, my roommate and his girlfriend invite us to go out to dinner. Still no plans from the boyfriend. He decides that he wants to go and doesn't even ask me what I would like to do. I just agree and try to suck it up. We finally get in his car, we're halfway to a place, and my roommates finally clue in that its my birthday and decided to have me choose the place. so we go to my place of work for dinner. I end up paying for my meal and my boyfriends. My roommates say we should go and get a cake and they feel sorry for not knowing sooner. My boyfriend ignores their suggestion, we go home and I end up crying in my bedroom while he sits on his computer for the rest of the night. I would say that was one of the worst interations we had when we were together, but We ended up splitting and months later I had to have the cops involved. He was super abusive and I wish I could have seen it... But like you said, you give every chance for a person you love to fix their mistakes. It takes experiences like that to know your own value and worth! If you or I hadn't have experienced those moments, we wouldnt be the people we are today, nor would you have found the one.

[@laurenmccluskey3859]

natalie skinner Jesus what a dick! So glad you’re not with him now!

[@KC.Annn2]

Im a VALENTINES baby as well!!! Born in ‘83 ❤️❤️❤️ my WORST birthday was my 21st. My boyfriend at the time went to a strip club with his buddies instead of being with me. Having all those crappy men/dates in our past, makes us appreciate the man we have today XO 😚

[@WitteArtistry]

Oh my gosh I can't even believe some of this happened 🤣💚love you Tati!

[@Tati]

I can't either! 😩😩 xo's

[@WitteArtistry]

Tati oh man! Especially the bus story 🤣sorry you had to go through that!

[@JessicaHauserman]

Side note, but I just wanna say... there are too many men, or just people in general, that shame women for being too "picky" or "high maintenance" because they expect certain things. I have never allowed this to stop me from getting what I want and deserve out of a relationship. I have dated guys that have done stupid stuff like this, and you know what I did? I called it out then and there. Some got second chances, but most of the time I ended up breaking up with them because I knew there's no way they could recover from what happened. If at any point in time you feel like you think you deserved to be treated better by your man, do not let it become a repeat thing. If he's regularly making you feel that way, GET RID OF HIM. Because he is not the man for you. When you find a man that loves you and treats you the way you should be treated, you'll know it. Don't stay with someone because you don't think you'll find anyone better. Trust me, you will.

[@kirstenmarie.makeup8411]

I love the advice you’ve given to all of us girls, and guys, too. I’m so happy you found your other half. James is so awesome and sweet. I love the love y’all have for each other. Fairytale love.

[@Ammkov]

I got dumped by a date yesterday and have been feeling miserable the last 24 hours, so this was just what I needed. We’ve all been there so it’s nice to share stories to make you feel less alone/stupid/embarrased/whatever. Thank you, Tati! Gorgeous look btw :)

[@VasilikisBeautyTips]

I am sure that, now that you are with James, your birthdays are wonderful!!! The third guy thought that the toilet was soundproof!! ahahhaha omg I would laugh too if I had the same experience!

[@mindyferr4557]

Omg Tati, of course you're a Valentine's baby. That fits so perfectly.

[@Mparmpara]

You are everyone's mum we Love you and your advices

[@robertascholten8173]

Tati; I'm a gramma and my heart is literally BREAKING listening to you - in the rain, on your birthday, sad. Young ladies are subjected to so much DANGER in our time. Dear young ladies out there - BE CAREFUL!! Thank the Lord you have James, who clearly loves you dearly.

[@denniserandolph6244]

roberta scholten I want you as a grandma 💕

[@jennifersarabia126]

Omg I honestly didn’t even notice those 20 minutes fly by! Once you started wrapping the video up I was like no Tati tell me more stories lol, I love this type of video please do more!!!

[@samig7313]

tati oh my god if my boyfriend didnt talk to me on my birthday AND valentines day and then brought me LEFTOVERS?????? I WOULD GO ON A RAMPAGE i cannot understand how amazing girls like you can get taken advantage of and just not even realize it! but thank god you finally did realize lmao PS them brows yes girl yes

[@combustedseasalt3442]

That second dude is why we have r/niceguys 😂😂😂😂

[@jmbb9665]

I went on a blind date once (lesson learned). I went up to the guy who was my date and properly introduced myself. 10 minutes into our date, his parents showed up to join us. His mom proceeded to tell me that she likes to accompany him on dates...so she can see who will make the prettiest grand babies.

[@heatherfinn7581]

JMB B oh my god! I’ve had some bad dates but nothing like this, wow!

[@gaminggirls8230]

8

[@sadcloud8514]

That made me lol so hard 😂

[@BatyBug]

So, what’s the problem? She’s just making sure! (I could barely type that without giggling. Wow, what a nut.)

[@lochmoor2119]

I think that Tatis stories are my new favorite things EVER

[@nickrachjames]

I love this style of video and you're really good at it. Couple times I found myself wanting to ask a question like we were in the same room. I learn so much about makeup application just by watching you doing your makeup. I would really like to see how you do your eyebrows. They always look amazing and that is something I struggle with. Thanks for another great video. You're my fav KZbinr.

[@saffywihoite5965]

"--when i get uncomfortable, i laugh, i can't help it" hahahahaha me too

[@chineadward5710]

This was the best thing ever! Loved all your stories, the more serious ones really hit home and the bathroom one literally got me laughing out loud like a comedy movie, you're a really good story teller! Please do more of these, I think this was one of the most meaningful/funniest youtube video I've seen in a long time and it felt like I was hanging out with a girlfriend. Lots of love from South Africa xx

[@HorsesofthePiano]

I traveled around South Africa with a guy for 5 months and the insulation in the walls there doesn't exist so we both heard each other destroy the bathroom. I think you just have to have a good sense of humor about it, it's something that everyone does, so there's no reason to freak out too much. We had a great time and laughed about every sound.

[@tawnymichelle7304]

Topic : embarrassing things that happened while filming! 😊😂

[@Makeuphuney]

Tawny Michelle omg yes

[@kcrabtree7]

DO MORE OF THESE!!! Fun 50/50 of makeup and chit chatting and hearing funny stories