Tati you dodged a bullet with guy number two. That’s the kind of man that can very easily turn violent and abusive. I’m so so glad you avoided that.
@dreambean.6 жыл бұрын
100% agree,I was thinking the exact same thing while she was talking about it.Slamming his fists on the steering wheel is a scary reaction to have over someone he basically just met not sleeping with him,and a huge indicator of violence / abuse.If that's how he acts towards a woman he barely knows,how much worse would he be once he felt comfortable that he had a hold on you? It's frightening to think how many men like him are out there :(
@bernadetteP99996 жыл бұрын
Sadly, he is probably out there, somewhere, taunting some poor woman.
@sassyfras40856 жыл бұрын
Cannot agree more!!! Those are ALL traits of a manipulating, controlling, abusive person. And they can be extremely charming and charismatic, -Jeckle and Hyde....extremely dangerous and yes, DODGED A HUGE BULLET!! God help the poor women he is with! Been there, barely survived, seriously! Ladies beware of these types!
@classicashley39256 жыл бұрын
Yes! This was terrifying. So glad she found James.
@The_Cherokee_Gypsy6 жыл бұрын
Been there, done that. Never marry if he shows signs or red flags, because it only gets worse. One ex of mine tried to kill me, so believe me, it never gets better ladies. Stay safe.
@amandamontgomeryburke45596 жыл бұрын
I dated a guy that constantly let out little squeaky farts in public that smelled awful. I was always in a state of emotional turmoil because I had no clue how to react. He 100% ignored that I could hear and smell it and would just keep talking/eating/watching the movie. For some reason I didn't let that end our journey after 2 weeks of dealing with mouse farts. It took him saying that I sounded uneducated when I talk because I'm from Alabama and have a deep southern accent. To which I replied, "At least I don't FART every 10 seconds and smell like a barn animal!" I then left him to sit in his own toxic cloud of gas and breathed a sigh of relief as I power walked away never to smell him again.
@maryamtehrani76296 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 hilarious!!
@traceyhendrix79606 жыл бұрын
OMG 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@athraa49366 жыл бұрын
hahhahahahahha i loved this lmaooooooo. HE had some nerve to tell you that hahahahahhaha.
@debbie77716 жыл бұрын
Amanda Montgomery I'm dying. This is so funny. Sorry you had to deal with that.
@jeildo996 жыл бұрын
amazing!! you go sister!! btw, there's nothing wrong with a southern accent! I have a thick texas accent and consider myself quite intelligent. I can tell you are too by the way you write.
@betmariematos38886 жыл бұрын
Damn! So glad Tati found James after all this stories. She went through enough and deserves to be happy.
@cs85666 жыл бұрын
Does anyone think Tati has the most soothing voice?? I could watch her videos for hours...
@bombdottcom1116 жыл бұрын
yep
@laureanalazarte27456 жыл бұрын
SO TRUE!!
@IrisFlorentinaA5 жыл бұрын
She s addictive
@naomilifeguru5 жыл бұрын
ASMR Tati
@addiegriffith5 жыл бұрын
agreed
@mizzsparkle34216 жыл бұрын
Tati - I had a similar experience to your second date. A guy that got mad at me because I wouldn't go home with him after a great date. To anyone reading this: sex is not a transaction. Do not let someone pressure you into sex because they bought you a dinner or concert ticket, etc. Sex is never something you owe. If they get mad then they're telling you that they aren't worth your time.
@learn_more_33296 жыл бұрын
Karen a same thing happened to me, but all he bought me was a Starbucks coffee, are you kidding me?! That was the last I️ spoke to him.
@angelacartiglia6 жыл бұрын
YES 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@karen20955 жыл бұрын
Preach
@llensaveronique66176 жыл бұрын
About the "sushi" date, an important reminder is : a woman never owe a men sexe or whatever physical interactions because he offered dinner/anything. If you are not comfortable/ready to have that kind of intimacy with a men, you don't have to It is important to reminder because girls are always told to "reward" men's gifts, but they are not told it doesn't have to be at the expense of their personal desires
@sophiedatt86876 жыл бұрын
Righ
@DaCheeseblarg6 жыл бұрын
I full on sneezed a handful of snot into a guy's hand on our second date. We were in a movie and he had his arm around me, holding my left hand and I was coming down with a really bad flu (not that I knew that at the time) and I felt the sneeze coming and tried to yank my hand away to cover my nose/mouth (I'm left handed so my brain automatically waned the occupied hand) but it came too fast (that's what she said) and he didn't let go so I filled his hand with snot and slobber. Amazingly, he asked me out again even with my grossness, and he's been dealing with that grossness now for almost 19 years, 18 + of which we've been married.
@puppibanana6 жыл бұрын
OMG I would have died of embarrassment hahahaha. Happy it worked out well anyway
@ximenairene18366 жыл бұрын
I need you’re autograph
@huh32666 жыл бұрын
Omg i need at man like that
@soumyau20016 жыл бұрын
That's amazing 😂💕💕💕
@maytemendez92666 жыл бұрын
DaCheeseblarg awwww
@jackiestaggs23936 жыл бұрын
My now husband took me out my first birthday dinner together to my fav restaurant, bbq. Well, I learned that day that he doesn’t take it well. After a terrifying trip back to his house he threw open the front door and screamed “Still love me!” As he ran down the hall. From the other end of the house I herd him going super sayian on that toilet. I’m an awkward person so I just sat there and tried not to make him more embarrassed, but I laughed the whole time he was in the bathroom.
@RealElongatedMuskrat5 жыл бұрын
"still love me!" 😂 Aw bless him, what a story
@shannontimoney59015 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 I love this so much
@Vapaja5 жыл бұрын
Oh dear god, I can't stop laughing. I love this story so much!!
@mackenzieonyx75865 жыл бұрын
he handled it like a cutie with that remark tho lol
@teee.y5 жыл бұрын
A w
@tuessunshine98366 жыл бұрын
So glad you ended up with James, he’s great!
@SingingASMRSongs6 жыл бұрын
Tues Sunshine yes!
@svenjak50536 жыл бұрын
hearing about guy #2 makes me so upset bc there are SO many guys like him out there. they think just bc they bought you dinner, you owe them sex and they're entitled to your body as if you were just some object. glad you got out of this situation and were okay!
@TheCerealluvr5 жыл бұрын
exactly
@nicolebarrientos21695 жыл бұрын
That profile picture😍
@jaimiepolsz78386 жыл бұрын
Lol Okay, Tati. I really hope you see this... I’m 27 now. When I was a senior in college, I started dating a guy who I had been friends with for about three years. I met him as the boyfriend of a friend of mine, and never really thought of him that way until we had both been single for some time and it ended up just kind of happening on its own. We dated for probably three weeks before we finally had sex at my apartment. He gets up afterward and heads into the bathroom, and I’m laying there thinking, “Wow, he’s a really NICE guy!” and I’m like imagining where this is gonna go next, when he starts farting... SO loud. Loud, long, echoing, one right after the other type of farts. And I’m laying there like, not breathing, having no idea what to say or how to feel... and he starts maniacally laughing. So I started maniacally laughing. He comes out, and we are both just laughing way too hard to even acknowledge what just happened. He finally got back into bed with me and he goes, “Dude... I hope you know I held that in for you the entire time.” I married him three years later. He’s sleeping next to me now, another three years later. I’m eight months pregnant with our baby girl. Farts don’t always ruin everything. 😂😂
@annieswitt6 жыл бұрын
Jaimie Polsz Aww!
@leahrunyan71116 жыл бұрын
That's awesome.
@maitesoto19536 жыл бұрын
If this isn't goals, then I don't know what goals is
@CozyKaila6 жыл бұрын
I love this story. 😭
@MakeUpMagnetism6 жыл бұрын
Best story ever ❤️
@yasminsaavedra88526 жыл бұрын
Lol the first story reminded me of when my boyfriend at the time left me alone on my birthday. No phone call, no text, I got one text from him that day telling me he's coming so I got ready and waited on my couch. He never came. It was the most depressing birthday I've ever had. I just had a baby(my daughter is NOT his child), my family lived 3 hours away and had no money to come see me, I remember I cried like a baby mainly because I was going through post partum depression and to be left alone like that was a nightmare for me. turns out he was married and I was just a side chick but I had no clue. Needless to say we are not together. I'm so happy I eventually married a wonderful man :)
@myja1005 жыл бұрын
So happy that you are happy now! Sending all the luck, love, and best positive wishes! Hoping you have many more happy years together! Xxx
@carolannegauvin11515 жыл бұрын
Yasmin Ramirez Aww I’m so happy for your happy ending ! 🤗
@jadepietrangelo19816 жыл бұрын
Your second story is one of those dudes that says he’s a “nice guy” and “doesn’t understand” why girls don’t like him. It’s scary when someone gets actually mad because they think you owe them something. Gives me the creeps.
@PrincezzofDarknezz6 жыл бұрын
Jade Pietrangelo It is creepy because that kind of "nice guys" are treating us like a sexual object, its creepy and horrible. I understand you
@annikasterner92516 жыл бұрын
Yeah, those are the ones you need to avoid because they can get violent. A really creepy story!
@kuro.hitsuji6 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you didn't invite that so-called gentlemen up to your apartment. I can't stand those kinds of guys who think that you/ your body is worth a dinner or a drink. Good for you. I'm glad you found your soulmate in James!
@haylied12656 жыл бұрын
That's why I've heard advice saying to not let a guy pay for your food on the first few dates, because they'll see it as them being entitled to something afterward
@selinaaddison17056 жыл бұрын
She really dodged a bullet with that guy! That kind of reaction to not being invited up is scary!
@xattix6 жыл бұрын
Tati , regarding the second story, you shouldn't have felt confused. The guy was a jerk and you didn't owe him anything, no matter how much he spent on you! Glad it ended there and that you met James!
@summerdais3256 жыл бұрын
xattix I was glad that didn't end worse.
@shareorshelve6 жыл бұрын
Omg I've had too many experiences with men like Mr. Jekyll and Hyde who think that just because they bought us a nice dinner or put in a little bit of effort that it automatically entitles them to intimacy. And that if we don't give them what they want we're ungrateful. Because god forbid he treat us with respect and kindness without there being some kind of reward for him after.
@pepperpaige2036 жыл бұрын
Exactly. And look how that made her react. Tati began to question her own first instinct, which was throwing out some red flags. I really hope I can raise my boys better than some of these guys we (collectively) have dated.
@princesse09205 жыл бұрын
Michelle my mom told me that if I dated someone don't let them push me into things I don't agree or feel comfortable to.
@alexsxsxs18175 жыл бұрын
ikr i mean they should just talk about their intentions in the first place from both sides. nowadays younger people tend to be more straightforward with their intentions so we can avoid an awkward situation like that.
@gabrielaguillen34856 жыл бұрын
Best relationship moments with James!! Whether it be dates or just a nice memory. I feel like you guys don't try and sugar coat your relationship so it'd be really relatable to know real moments you guys have had together
@rachelwright49606 жыл бұрын
I once had a guy show up at my house for a date with champagne, play-doh, and board games. I thought I was for sure in for a lame night with some loser. Been married to that guy for 5 years now 🤷🏻♀️
@brittanymann27136 жыл бұрын
Rachel Wright - He is a keeper!
@malloryholy48826 жыл бұрын
That sounds like an amazing date.
@shelbygarcia23506 жыл бұрын
That's awesome 😂
@oliviagretchen44966 жыл бұрын
Rachel Wright awwww ❤️
@ilyGabby206 жыл бұрын
Rachel Wright so cute!!
@juliacastro77026 жыл бұрын
I got out of an abusive, year and a half long relationship during my senior year. My best friend of two years told me he wanted more. I was so terrified I almost bailed; three years later, I'm treated like a princess. He showers me with roses and affection and comfort
@thienthanhlavoie10215 жыл бұрын
Julia Castro this happened to me also! We are married now.
@Swizzles896 жыл бұрын
Why is it that some guys think of dating as classy prostitution? I just bought you a really nice dinner... that's my prepayment for sleeping with you...
@monanana-046 жыл бұрын
SnowWhite84 yessss! 100%
@Lisbett_Again6 жыл бұрын
Mothers didn’t teach them better they think if they are nice to you they are entitled to it .
@sarasklarcikova79596 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Omg hate that.
@lidya58825 жыл бұрын
he sounds like the typical Nice Guys
@chelseag21245 жыл бұрын
Yeah this is totally unfair
@ObiWanAnole6 жыл бұрын
These stories have really shown me that I'm not alone on going to terrible dates. I've had three different guys do similar things in regards to expecting sex because they "spent money/time" on me. It's so scary that men are actually like that. So glad you found James, coincidentally I'm dating someone named James too and he's so awesome :) I loved this video!
@LM-pb9un6 жыл бұрын
dont let strangers pay for your food! most people dont give without expecting something back!
@ObiWanAnole6 жыл бұрын
Lizeth Manzano I always assume I pay for myself, but if someone insists, I let them. Their intentions with spending money on me doesn't excuse the behavior where they make me feel like I "owe" them. I don't ever assume the worst in people like your statement suggests to do.
@joey_50606 жыл бұрын
I had that happen years ago. I was at a club, and I was sitting in a group and all of a sudden this guy sat with me and started buying my drinks. I kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't, and since I was young and stupid....I didn't think much about it. Until he wanted to go home with me at the end of the night. He got REALLY upset because he had bought me 2 or 3 drinks. It was kind of scary. Sorry dude....but 3 drinks the first time I meet you does not = sex. Ugh.
@lydiaisamazing16 жыл бұрын
Yeah girl, I started buying my own dinners on the first few dates, and most of the time the guys stopped calling!
@LM-pb9un6 жыл бұрын
yes of course it doesnt justify the bad intentions, and its not assuming the worst of people its being realistic. we live in a world where guys buy you drinks with drugs in them. personally i always set my rules and talk clearly before the date, like "i will pay for my own meal so respect that please", or "I dont do one night stands" or anything like that, it really helps to see how the guy reacts to that. I think its really necessary to do that now days.
@kellyobrien15036 жыл бұрын
Second date is like prime red flags for an abusive partner. I'm so glad you held your ground. I'm studying to be a therapist/psychiatrist and I'm incredibly sensitive to small group communications and relationship communications. I'm so glad you didn't cave into the intimidation he was trying to put out.
@ajaku6 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I thought too. Tati you dodged a bullet for sure!
@VintageAqua6 жыл бұрын
As she was telling the story, I was thinking the same exact thing. Sounds like he might have been a narcissist as well.
@BatyBug6 жыл бұрын
ajaku that’s exactly what I said!
@123hannahgeo6 жыл бұрын
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months who didn’t care 99% of the time, but I kept clinging on to the 1% I got and made so many excuses for him. Then I watched this video, and I can’t thank you enough Tati. I know my worth, and it’s like you made this for me💗
@gaminggirls82306 жыл бұрын
hannah Georgina awww I feel what you've through iv been there before
@miakaori53066 жыл бұрын
hannah Georgina good for u honey
@123hannahgeo6 жыл бұрын
thank you so so much you guys, turns out my instinct was right and he was a cheat all along. Now happily sitting on my uni offer for medicine and feeling very very content with myself :) xx
@oatmealcoloured99506 жыл бұрын
Men who think they can buy sex with you by being nice/ paying for dinner can go choke. I'd rather pay for my own dinner and not be pressured into anything. Don't let anyone ever guilt-trip you into doing something youre not comfortable with!
@shawnajoann47816 жыл бұрын
My own husband of four years never acknowledged Valentine's Day or my Birthday, or even our Anniversary. Never got a card, flowers or a gift. The one and only time he got me anything for Valentine's Day, he actually went and bought the day after while everything was on sale... it was a card..... I gave birth to his child and he never even treated me like I was worth anything. Finally walked away a year ago.. best thing I ever did for myself!
@ashleytrice44656 жыл бұрын
Shawna Hunziker good for you for getting rid of such a horrible husband.
@msbluesky6 жыл бұрын
You deserved better 💙
@jasminem8126 жыл бұрын
good for you!!! :)
@briannav58276 жыл бұрын
Good for you, girl !!!
@alexnikki5156 жыл бұрын
Shawna Hunziker good for you girl, you deserve more than that! 👏🏼
@honours-p16516 жыл бұрын
These guys are just douches that couldn't handle someone as amazing as Tati. I'm so glad you found James, you two help me to believe that there is someone for everyone. xx
@jessical67196 жыл бұрын
Onie s-p so agree!
@somritadutta17876 жыл бұрын
Whenever she was going off topic talking about her make up, I was like "TATI! TELL ME THE STORIES!" P.S.- Love your make up today! With lashes and the extra highlighter on, it looked darn good!
@deniselisboa16 жыл бұрын
Lol same
@monanana-046 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@meg-sk4qv6 жыл бұрын
Once on a first date at a nice restaurant the guy somehow got on the subject of how white his legs were. I tried to be polite and said I’m sure they aren’t too pale and he goes “wanna bet????” He then popped his shoe and whole leg up on the table and pulled up the leg of his pants to reveal his scrawny calves for the whole restaurant to see. They were indeed very pale and he didn’t get a second date
@nata_g_liia6 жыл бұрын
Megan OMG this is crazy )))))
@mmxxmxm5 жыл бұрын
Omg wild
@dirtylargo88155 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@lindachen16235 жыл бұрын
this is wayyyy too funny!!!!
@colemccullough57326 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this. Pls do more of these
@Kaylakatanik6 жыл бұрын
Kai Rey she gives little life lessons and ahhh it makes me so happy. she's like a mom to me
@crustyhailey6 жыл бұрын
Yes I love this too!
@tiffany40596 жыл бұрын
Kai Rey in nuh 22n2n
@aquacoral6 жыл бұрын
I just really enjoy listening to her, so more talking is better if you ask me. I love these, and just generally finding out more about Tati. Like I watch her pretty much every single day, I feel like it makes sense that I know more about her. In conclusion YES MORE PLEASE!
@ashleyh10756 жыл бұрын
I love when she does these videos...also I think her eye makeup looks great but whenever I do cool tones or dark/Smokey I have a weird dissociation with the mirror and think it looks too harsh even if it looks okay to everyone else
@milenarodriguez7046 жыл бұрын
JUST BECAUSE MEN BUY US DINNER AND ARE NICE, DOESN'T MEAN WE OWE THEM SEX. OR ANYTHING. THEY CHOSE TO BE NICE.
@rchhcsupernova6 жыл бұрын
in resume they are not nice, they are just trying to get something
@dawndelosmuertos40256 жыл бұрын
After a very active dating life before I met Mr. Right, I can say yeah, they do expect it. They buy you dinner, they expect sex. If they just buy you coffee or a drink, then it's a little slap and tickle, maybe sex if you like them enough. I"ve been married for 33 years now, OMG, am I glad I don't have to deal with all the dating crap now.
@Kellibeanss6 жыл бұрын
literally in my room crying my eyes out my boyfriend has ignored me for 5 days... we have been togeather for 2 years.. our anniversary is on sunday.. balling needing comfort i thought of tati.. and your right.. i do desserve better.. thank you. love you. Edit: thank you so so so much for all of your guys support.. it's help alot.. Love all of you 💕💕
@chriswest76396 жыл бұрын
It's Kelli dont text him.
@future.cadaver6 жыл бұрын
It's Kelli What a douchebag. Never wait for people to tell you how they feel, they will always show you much sooner. Time to walk away.
@Kellibeanss6 жыл бұрын
Jessica Ingenbrandt Thanks 💕
@blairemadsen69206 жыл бұрын
Is he the kind of man that invents transgressions or fights before any holiday, anniversary or event? If so get out, he is just being lazy and inventing reasons not to celebrate anything including you! You deserve way better and to be acknowledged and celebrated!
@Kellibeanss6 жыл бұрын
Blaire Madsen not until recently.. he worked on Halloween when we told me he was going to be with me..
@blackrainbowg66 жыл бұрын
One more story with farts. :D I hope you will enjoy as much as I did enjoy your stories :) So, we were dating for about 5-6 weeks, and we had a really great time. Laying in his dorm room, talking in the middle of the night, really romantic. Then he said "I love you", after just a couple of weeks of dating. I was kind of shocked, because I really liked him, but did not love him yet, so I immediately asked back "What? What did you say?". And than he replied with a poker face: "Nothing. I just farted". I started laughing so hard, I was literally crying... :D Two years later now, living together, loving him :)
@TheCerealluvr5 жыл бұрын
that's fantastic
@Antariksha6 жыл бұрын
I would love to know about ur youtube stories when you were just starting out.. how was it like? Hardships u faced, friends u made, ur first brand recognition, ur first event.. how was it getting ur first 100 or 1000 subscribers.. 😊
@baylay10626 жыл бұрын
That speech after your first story....... PREACH 🙌🏼
@as.dexter6 жыл бұрын
Am I the only one who thinks Tati's voice is super relaxing to hear?!?!!! No right?
@as.dexter6 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@ShaRaeBurr6 жыл бұрын
Dexter Slays soothing, calming, relaxing voice for sure, love it.
@FResili6 жыл бұрын
ppl comment something like this on all her videos.
@agelianaioannidou29136 жыл бұрын
Dexter Slays no I agree.. sometimes I click on previous videos I have already watched and it helps me falling asleep😂😂
@as.dexter6 жыл бұрын
warnakat well I don't know and I just want to let my thought out! 😂
@courtneymauro52416 жыл бұрын
I’m 36 and still internet dating. I wish I was done already. I’m ready to give up. Don’t take that man of yours for granted for one tiny second. I know u don’t. ⭐️
@eveywub6 жыл бұрын
Ugh same, James seems so fantastic... Where's my James 😭😂
@RealElongatedMuskrat5 жыл бұрын
Something a family friend told me after finally escaping a terrible relationship was that she regretted settling for this guy who clearly didn't treat her right because she was 38 when they met and thought "well it's now or never." She said compared to what she experienced, never seemed like the better option in hindsight. I'm trying to keep that in mind for my life and hopefully just feel comfortable enough by myself that if I meet someone, great, if I don't, that's okay too.
@genericegirl06 жыл бұрын
The first one what she said after it, its helping me get the courage to finally break up with my boyfriend that defiantly doesn't treat me right. I've told him he didn't and he didn't try to fix it he just made excuses, thank you Tati!
@genericfirstname6 жыл бұрын
I waited until my awful exboyfriend broke up with me, well over a year after I should have ended it with him. If he's not willing to treat you right he's not showing you love. My current boyfriend reminds me so much of James, he's kind and reasonable and tells me I'm beautiful every day. You deserve it!
@aliciagarcia4556 жыл бұрын
I absolutely LOVE how you conversate with us as if we were having lunch and catching up on life or something 😊💕I feel the connection when you speak to us and I think that is why I love you and your channel so much😘 you are just awesome 😊
@nickrachjames6 жыл бұрын
Alicia Garcia totally agree with you. Tati's my favorite.
@kathyjackson37516 жыл бұрын
Alicia Garcia I agree. So fun. She always seems genuine and kind.
@RaashiDewan6 жыл бұрын
So true, it's like talking to your best friend.
@bombdottcom1116 жыл бұрын
conversate isn't a word. ;) you mean converse, but that isn't the right word either because she is not having a back and forth chit chat. ;P
@cynthiaromero86666 жыл бұрын
You went through many frogs to finally find your prince! James is a great catch and hes lucky as well
@adorevevomusic5 жыл бұрын
I guess it includes frogs with Diarrhea as well :)
@jillianlundie82566 жыл бұрын
I loved this. I just got cheated on, and you talking about giving someone every chance, even when they treat you poorly, really resounds with me. Thank you for sharing.
@mademoisellekaya14386 жыл бұрын
*STORYTIME IDEA* How did Puka came into your life, and other pet/pets storytelling from the both of your pasts maybe?
@maitesoto19536 жыл бұрын
Puka was James' mother's dog, they adopted him after she passed
@Lyndzy1126 жыл бұрын
I feel like that could turn to tears fast but I like the idea
@MagentaKristen6 жыл бұрын
Oh! Puka is my fave! :) Yes please!!
@SerpicoVendemion6 жыл бұрын
C. C. Notting Photographie that’s lame
@LaurenJeanDavis966 жыл бұрын
#2 is a narcassist. They do things to get your love and affection, and then when he didn't get what he felt was owed to him (in your pants) he turned on you trying to make you feel like you owed him something in return for his date. I fell in love with one, and now here I am...in misery. So glad you finally met James. Love ya Tati, I hope one day to get the hell out of here.
@margotdenise50916 жыл бұрын
lauren jean96 girl please leave
@haylied12656 жыл бұрын
Get a plan with people who love you to support you, get out of there, block them on all social media and erase all pictures. Get them out of your mind and out of your life and you'll be surprised how happy you can be ❤️ wish you the best
@genericfirstname6 жыл бұрын
It's not love if he's not giving you love, the occasional bit of affection amongst the misery isn't love. I'm so sorry you're in the situation, I've been there too and it only ended when he Legally Blonde style dumped me. My current partner is much more like James in how he treats me and I deserve it, so do you.
@jasminemurfin5386 жыл бұрын
Margot Denise Art I thought you were shouting at her for your comment, I was about to go for your throat😂 anyways your right, ain't nobody got a right to treat you like that, it may take a while but I promise the guy who's gonna treat you like the princess you are is out there waiting
@cmhannah36 жыл бұрын
Tati is basically my KZbin Mom. She gives great life advice, great beauty advice, and is such a humble person. ❤️
@crystalroy43346 жыл бұрын
Okay those stories were heartbreaking but nice being able to get to know you. You made a very good point after the 1st story. Ladies, girls, boys, whoever...please please I beg you, if you're not in a loving relationship where love is from both sides; leave! Once you start letting things slide it just gets worse b/c they know you'll tolerate it & wont leave so they start treating you like a doormat. You're so much better than that & deserve so much more. Never just settle b/c you think you can't do any better. Oh & if they ever lay a finger on you PLEASE leave right then & there & don't EVER look back!! I've been through it all, learned a lot & finally found the perfect person for me. He loves me w/ all my flaws, never tries to change me & still does sweet things for me everyday. It's been 10yrs now & I couldn't be happier!
@sabrinar2296 жыл бұрын
YOUR NAILS ACTUALLY LOOK STUNNING 👏🏼
@Tati6 жыл бұрын
Thank you! xo's
@dianatheninjaaa6 жыл бұрын
I felt so bad when you were talking about him going out and giving you LEFTOVER Mexican food. This only makes me happy because I know you are so happy with your husband as you deserve!!!
@aida8856 жыл бұрын
You're so right about ending relationships where there's no respect... Ended with my ex this year after a 4 year engagement and forgiving the most unforgivable things.... now, I'm with someone who treats me like a princess and I can't believe how lucky I am. Everything happens for a reason. Love these videos, Tati, it's great seeing you do your makeup and getting to know more about you. Please do more! :)
@annelisestauersboll78376 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me for serving food to homeless people lol . . . So as we all know, regardless of what side you were on, the end of 2016 was ROUGH. I’m extremely liberal and my ex was very conservative, but we tried to make it work. Anyways, every year for Thanksgiving my family and I serve food at a homeless shelter. He saw on Snapchat that I was serving homeless people and broke things off the next day. He called me an “enabler” and told me that he’d rather tell a homeless person to go to hell than ever do anything for them. Boy bye ✌🏻 I don’t need that kind of negativity. I honestly laugh about it all the time now.
@ThimbleFox3506 жыл бұрын
Gotta love them right wing Christian morals
@lindseydoyle70206 жыл бұрын
Thimble Fox, You do realize that you just judged an entire group of people that you don't know in the exact same way that her ex judged an entire group of people that he didn't know....hm.
@martasue19056 жыл бұрын
Thimble Fox that was a bit harsh I am a Christian and conservative but I am a big advocate for helping the homeless or anyone who needs help so don’t judge a whole group of people by one hypocrite cuz not everyone is like that
@meanbean60116 жыл бұрын
"You have empathy for other human beings??? How dare you and go to hell!!!"
@martasue19056 жыл бұрын
mean bean lol 😂
@SuperKewl126 жыл бұрын
That glitch literally made me think my phone was possessed
@emilydavidson40036 жыл бұрын
Haley B omg me too!!! I was home alone as well
@hazellaar6 жыл бұрын
Same!!
@jmcmontanheiro6 жыл бұрын
RIGHT
@patatasorigins93836 жыл бұрын
I know right 😂 I was in the bathroom washing my face then the lights here started flickering the same time with the video looool
@jadeervin74496 жыл бұрын
Haley B I was about to throw a fit. I literally just bought the iPhone X yesterday and I was like you’ve got to be kidding me 😂😂
@genesisorozco28726 жыл бұрын
Tati you should do a GRWM the James and Tati love story 💕 it would be great especially because the love seems so genuine ☺
@TammyD1236 жыл бұрын
Genesis Orozco there is actually a video where James proposes on he does tell a lot of the story. He said to her on their first date “what if this is it” or something like that. It’s very sweet!
@sammistrade6 жыл бұрын
Genesis Orozco PLEASE DO THIS
@autumnbray87906 жыл бұрын
She's done plenty videos where she talks about their love story
@genesisorozco28726 жыл бұрын
oh ok thanks guys I will try to find those videos
@goodvibesgray38216 жыл бұрын
Do story time more often, it’s working for me lol!
@joey_50606 жыл бұрын
Me too! Loved it! 😊
@psychedelicfeline61646 жыл бұрын
Took me over seven years for me to decide I wouldn't be a doormat.
@bombdottcom1116 жыл бұрын
good 4 u hun :)
@cherrybomb30985 жыл бұрын
never too late. you have a whole new life waiting for you. stick to that decision girl, proud of you!
@Bekarose6 жыл бұрын
PLEASE DO MORE OF THESE! Your voice is so relaxing, also that first story! 😳 Especially on your birthday, that's awful oh my god! So glad you went on that date with James because look at you guys now. 😻🙌🏼 Perfect couple, love you Tati!
@sarahrao38806 жыл бұрын
No one should ever expect sex as a payment for anything including an experience such as a date. No one owes their body to anyone. Don’t let anyone guilt trip you into thinking that you owe them sex for treating you well.
@victoriavsworld6 жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS TYPE OF VIDEO!!! It feels like you're chatting to us like we're your girlfriends and we're getting ready for a night out and I absolutely adore this style of video! Love your beautiful makeup and your amazing and hilarious personality girl! Xx 💋
@carlymcdermott21326 жыл бұрын
Ahhhhh the second one gives me chills, which I've had a similar not as bad experience! After speaking for a while/going on dates me and this guy started making out, he tried to make a move and I said no I'm not ready, I didnt know him enough for me to be comfortable for that kind of thing. This led to an awkward few moments to which I had to go home because it got too uncomfortable with him looking at me like I'd offended all his ancestors, aaaaaand he never spoke to me again 😑 But then a month or so later I met the love of my life and we are now engaged 6 years later! Everything happens for a reason ❤
@brandilynnmitchell10536 жыл бұрын
I went out with this guy that was friends with my best guy friend so I thought he'd be nice but he ended up being the most pretentious guy I've ever met. We went to a fancy steak restaurant where he ordered an expensive bottle of red wine but when it came to the table for him to taste he told the waiter that it wasn't chilled enough and asked for an ice bucket...for red wine!!!! I was mortified. Then before we were even through the salads he flat out said so since I'm buying this expensive dinner are we going to your place or mine!! I got up threw a $100 bill on the table, told him a nice red wine isn't supposed to be chilled and had the hostess call me a cab to go home. Needless to say I never saw him again!
@virginiavillalobos55196 жыл бұрын
Good for you, that is exactly how guys like that should be handled. You obviously know your worth.
@sherlieks16 жыл бұрын
Yassss!!!🙌🙌
@puppibanana6 жыл бұрын
Omg what a jerk!
@YourPainting16 жыл бұрын
ew the guy who expected sex after the second date just because he bought you dinner. I hate that! it's so embarrassing when a guy thinks a nice date guarantees him sex. love you for getting out of that situation and not looking back!
@ashleyross45036 жыл бұрын
Christine I hate when guys do that because not all girls have sex on the first or the second date it would take a while before you have sex but most guys don’t see it that way at all they expect to get it that night. Witch is nasty and I don’t like guys like that. Before me and my husband got married when it was it the dating stage getting to know each other and what not he was so nice he didn’t care that I’m in a wheelchair he didn’t want to have sex if I wasn’t ready he waited for me to be ready.
@piplupbond76546 жыл бұрын
I would love to hear stories about bad Sephora or ULTA experiences or PR packages experiences!
@sagepup67825 жыл бұрын
This is the first makeup video I've ever watched (I don't have girl friends... like at all) and I legit felt my inner feminine gal just going "GUURRL!" I'm making hand motions, SOMETHING I NEVER DO, flipping my hair, snapping my fingers. Geez this is the most girly I've probably ever felt. Thanks Tati for giving me some girl talk, it was actually... really nice 😊
@LoverOfRomans5 жыл бұрын
Omg, I do the same way!! Lol.
@amberallen92876 жыл бұрын
Idk what it is! But I always find myself slightly shaking my head up and down to signal that I understand what ur saying. Like ur sitting here with me and u can see me. 😂 Ur the only KZbinr I find myself doing this to. ❤
@IloveHobbits19956 жыл бұрын
lol i do this thing where i hum in agreement but i do it at my screen all the time too
@jolu9556 жыл бұрын
Lol same
@ameliaherman32116 жыл бұрын
Omg I️ did the same and i thought i was being weird hahaha
@KKP75576 жыл бұрын
About the guy who got so angry when you wouldn't invite him in after the second date, I think you dodged a bullet. Listening to the story I heard some red flags being raised.
@sarahcamidge92146 жыл бұрын
Karen Pierce I thought the same thing. Sounds like he would be abusive
@pollitobonito1296 жыл бұрын
Sounds like the typical lemme just spend a lot of money on you so that it can automatically get me laid. Ummmm......go to the club and find yourself an easy bimbo buddy. Tati is way to sophisticated and classy for a guy like that!
@michaelamangrum43516 жыл бұрын
madambourjois AMENNN
@Luxx246 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. I felt angry just hearing that story... what a total jerk.
@FashionChaletNET6 жыл бұрын
Those stories though!!!! Looks like James saved you. Bless his sweet soul! 😁🤗😇 Xx
@jennnnnnn136 жыл бұрын
I like to think she saved herself and James came right as she started to really own herself and be the Tati we all love 💚
@lisalee18786 жыл бұрын
fashion chalet That's exactly what I was thinking!!
@steflondon886 жыл бұрын
yep
@thatonedog8196 жыл бұрын
I was driving to a date with this guy. First date. I was about half an hour away and had to get gas first which I told him when I left. It was also dark and raining out. I have cataracts which makes those conditions difficult for me to drive in so I also took it kind of slow. I don't answer my phone while driving for obvious reasons. So I get there, look at my phone and he's cussing me out about how I stood him up and if I didn't want to come I should have said so how I was ignoring him ect... Messaged him back saying there is no way in hell I'm going in because I didn't feel safe. He freaked out more. Turned around and went straight back home. Still don't regret that decision. It's clear he wasn't a very nice guy.
@RealElongatedMuskrat5 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness I'm so glad you dodged that one, what a psycho! You definitely made the right call.
@shatabdideb50386 жыл бұрын
Im actually feeling sad that the video ended... i loved the video😍
@genrose38296 жыл бұрын
That story about your friend leaving for a guy and then you standing in the rain makes me so sad
@sassyfras40856 жыл бұрын
Gen Rose Awe, that is so sweet and kind of you! I love positive comments when people show compassion, we need more of that in this world! Good for you to even taking the time to comment that!!
@sassyfras40856 жыл бұрын
Gen Rose Gen Rose Awe, that is so sweet and kind of you! I love positive comments when people show compassion, we need more of that in this world! Good for you to even taking the time to comment that!!
@lilag56795 жыл бұрын
I would never leave a friend alone for a dude.. And I don't girls like that.. Making a man so important :/ They are not!
@madisonl34016 жыл бұрын
OMG I love this video! Please do more Storytime videos Tati, we want to hear about your life. 💋♥️💋♥️
@DarkKoffee6 жыл бұрын
Totally agreed! :D
@Tati6 жыл бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it Madison! xo's
@HolyGround7776 жыл бұрын
Madison L yeeees!!!! 😀😀😀
@madisonl34016 жыл бұрын
Tati Please make a storytime video on any paranormal experiences you've had in your life! Those are always such interesting stories 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@ayradona6 жыл бұрын
Tati, I am so happy you made this video. I just broke off contact with my ex of 2 1/2 years after it being a back and forth for 8 months. I really needed this because I just thought that there's literally no hope. Don't get me wrong, I feel sorry that all that stuff happened to a woman as beautiful as you but it makes me feel better that you eventually found the perfect guy.
@lydiaisamazing16 жыл бұрын
I met my husband online, and I too had those really bad online dates... the bathroom story 😂😂😂 i think everyone has one. But my worst date was actually this guy I met at my friend’s church in college. He picked me up and we went to the dollar store first, he told me I could pick out anything I wanted (I’m laughing typing this) I told him it was okay, I was just looking forward to the movie. So we go to pick up the tickets and he has two free movie passes. It’s okay, he’s not a big spender, whatever. Well during the previews he starts having this conversation with me. I was polite but once the movie started and he didn’t stop talking it got really uncomfortable. The people behind us kept shushing but he was totally clueless. When he dropped me off he told me he had such a fun time and he felt like we really connected and wanted to take me out again. It was such an uncomfortable experience for me, but I had no idea how to express that without coming off as shallow. I guess if you want to get to know a girl, but are balling on a budget, take her for a beautiful walk, or take a tour of your city...
@sunshinegirl68546 жыл бұрын
more please! I feel like the lack of respect and being taken advantage of/intensely manipulated seriously destroys your soul and harms your ego. And just being naive. I agree. be around those who respect you. PLEASE MORE TALKS LIKE THESE. IT IS HELPFUL.
@lainabanks63346 жыл бұрын
It’s hard to date and let others treat you well, when some guys feel like you owe them after they did something nice. Always pay and drive yourself on a date just in case 👏🏻
@mfrog386 жыл бұрын
Laina Banks that's sad how some guys think that way.. I would say..no one forced you to take me out on a date buddy! I don't owe you jack!
@lainabanks63346 жыл бұрын
Mollie Rollman Haha seriously! Apparently being a decent person for some is just about getting a reward at the end of the day..
@BatyBug6 жыл бұрын
That story was scary! So glad it just ended with a tantrum, and nothing worse, thank god. F that disrespectful shite.
@alainaatk.62106 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree with the paying...I think a decent guy will do that. The driving though is a good idea if you don’t know the person yet.
@Aishaa_aa5 жыл бұрын
I could literally sit here and listen to Tati talk for 10 hours lol something in her voice is just so calming
@samantha69916 жыл бұрын
I spent two years with a guy because I kept thinking he would chnage. It never happened. He almost didn’t make it to my birthdays those two years and we didn’t do anything on valentines because he thought it was stupid to do something fun. Luckily I finally called that quits and now I’m with someone who is so amazing. He is respectful, honest, kind, always there for me. And I’m 3 weeks I will be living with him and I am so excited.
@gretchnjoyer6 жыл бұрын
Please do a video talking about your weirdest/funniest/worst experiences working at a beauty counter
@arubakhatoon42715 жыл бұрын
Ik this is a year late but I would love to see that
@tippib22226 жыл бұрын
One time a guy took me out on a blind date and asked me to help him pick out a bracelet for the girl who set us up...because he had a crush on her.
@lisathomson30576 жыл бұрын
Tippi B no!
@monanana-046 жыл бұрын
Wooooooow. I can’t. I can’t even fathom how stupid that was of him
@hereforvids25235 жыл бұрын
My favorite video ever, I’m in a situation like your one story and you saying “don’t wait around for someone to change leave” and after 3 years of really hard times it’s crazy how much that has stuck with me and made me feel like I can get out of it.
@LizPlantLady6 жыл бұрын
Who else thinks the first guy was having a date with other girl and brought Tati some left overs?
@cinthyarivas13815 жыл бұрын
a year after your comment just saw this video and yup! that was the first thing that came to my mind!
@divnolid96135 жыл бұрын
Mee too 😓
@christinapal20645 жыл бұрын
Definitely. If he was having dinner with "friends" why was his phone off? She dodged a bullet, he cheated not only on Valentine's day but on her bday. How disrespectful can you be?
@fallchiild3995 жыл бұрын
Me toooo
@mirayo78765 жыл бұрын
Yeeess, I'm triggered 🔥
@skaarup336 жыл бұрын
I like this type of video. After all those bad dates and not so great boyfriend's, you found James. He is a super guy and the perfect husband. You are so lucky and so is he. I am not saying that mine isn't, but James is extra special and he LOVE you so much. You can see it when he looks at you! I wish the best for you two! You are the perfect couple! I would like to her about your teen years in high school and college.
@AnimalsGirlful6 жыл бұрын
that story about the guy expecting sex for buying you dinner is horrible and genuinely upset me, I have had that happen when they are so nice and then they get so angry and belittle you. Unfortunately because I was so embarrassed and ashamed for saying no at first I gave in so he wouldnt hate me and I never even done that yet at the time and I really hate him for getting in my head and disrespecting me and I was actually depressed after that, sometimes people dont understand how severely their actions hurt.
@kristalund64466 жыл бұрын
LaLaish I’m so sorry that happened. Ive also in the past consented when I️ didn’t really want to. It’s an awful feeling. If a guy feels like he is owed sex he isn’t worth having around.
@NS-tz8iv6 жыл бұрын
I feel for you Tati, and I would love to tell you my birthday story from probably about 4 years ago. I was living with several roommates and my boyfriend of the time. He was military, so it wasn't like he couldn't afford to go out. The day of my birthday I'm off, I thought maybe he would have something planned or would want to do something special with me, but the day was horrible. I wake up, make lunch for the both of us. He doesn't say happy birthday. He's on his computer gaming. So I decided to do my own thing. I'm so sad at this point. I thought maybe he would want to invest some time of his with me. But then he decides he wants to go shopping with one of my roommates as the local computer store. We get there and he asks me to pick out my own gift. Like, why can't you just surprise me? do something different? why does technology have to be the option and why do I have to choose it? so I try to pick my gift, he tells me what im picking is not the right thing. We argue in the middle of the store. He pretty much at that point makes me feel stupid and uneducated about computer accessories (a mouse and headphones were the choice). So I'm more upset than before, we head back home, and it turns out I was right and he was wrong. We start arguing again and I start to cry. He makes me feel worse that I'm crying, takes me back to the store and we exchange it for the one I originally had wanted. We go back home and hes right back to his computer. Maybe about an hour later, my roommate and his girlfriend invite us to go out to dinner. Still no plans from the boyfriend. He decides that he wants to go and doesn't even ask me what I would like to do. I just agree and try to suck it up. We finally get in his car, we're halfway to a place, and my roommates finally clue in that its my birthday and decided to have me choose the place. so we go to my place of work for dinner. I end up paying for my meal and my boyfriends. My roommates say we should go and get a cake and they feel sorry for not knowing sooner. My boyfriend ignores their suggestion, we go home and I end up crying in my bedroom while he sits on his computer for the rest of the night. I would say that was one of the worst interations we had when we were together, but We ended up splitting and months later I had to have the cops involved. He was super abusive and I wish I could have seen it... But like you said, you give every chance for a person you love to fix their mistakes. It takes experiences like that to know your own value and worth! If you or I hadn't have experienced those moments, we wouldnt be the people we are today, nor would you have found the one.
@laurenmccluskey38595 жыл бұрын
natalie skinner Jesus what a dick! So glad you’re not with him now!
@KC.Annn26 жыл бұрын
Im a VALENTINES baby as well!!! Born in ‘83 ❤️❤️❤️ my WORST birthday was my 21st. My boyfriend at the time went to a strip club with his buddies instead of being with me. Having all those crappy men/dates in our past, makes us appreciate the man we have today XO 😚
@WitteArtistry6 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh I can't even believe some of this happened 🤣💚love you Tati!
@Tati6 жыл бұрын
I can't either! 😩😩 xo's
@WitteArtistry6 жыл бұрын
Tati oh man! Especially the bus story 🤣sorry you had to go through that!
@JessicaHauserman6 жыл бұрын
Side note, but I just wanna say... there are too many men, or just people in general, that shame women for being too "picky" or "high maintenance" because they expect certain things. I have never allowed this to stop me from getting what I want and deserve out of a relationship. I have dated guys that have done stupid stuff like this, and you know what I did? I called it out then and there. Some got second chances, but most of the time I ended up breaking up with them because I knew there's no way they could recover from what happened. If at any point in time you feel like you think you deserved to be treated better by your man, do not let it become a repeat thing. If he's regularly making you feel that way, GET RID OF HIM. Because he is not the man for you. When you find a man that loves you and treats you the way you should be treated, you'll know it. Don't stay with someone because you don't think you'll find anyone better. Trust me, you will.
@kirstenmarie.makeup84116 жыл бұрын
I love the advice you’ve given to all of us girls, and guys, too. I’m so happy you found your other half. James is so awesome and sweet. I love the love y’all have for each other. Fairytale love.
@Ammkov6 жыл бұрын
I got dumped by a date yesterday and have been feeling miserable the last 24 hours, so this was just what I needed. We’ve all been there so it’s nice to share stories to make you feel less alone/stupid/embarrased/whatever. Thank you, Tati! Gorgeous look btw :)
@VasilikisBeautyTips6 жыл бұрын
I am sure that, now that you are with James, your birthdays are wonderful!!! The third guy thought that the toilet was soundproof!! ahahhaha omg I would laugh too if I had the same experience!
@mindyferr45576 жыл бұрын
Omg Tati, of course you're a Valentine's baby. That fits so perfectly.
@Mparmpara5 жыл бұрын
You are everyone's mum we Love you and your advices
@robertascholten81736 жыл бұрын
Tati; I'm a gramma and my heart is literally BREAKING listening to you - in the rain, on your birthday, sad. Young ladies are subjected to so much DANGER in our time. Dear young ladies out there - BE CAREFUL!! Thank the Lord you have James, who clearly loves you dearly.
@denniserandolph62446 жыл бұрын
roberta scholten I want you as a grandma 💕
@jennifersarabia1266 жыл бұрын
Omg I honestly didn’t even notice those 20 minutes fly by! Once you started wrapping the video up I was like no Tati tell me more stories lol, I love this type of video please do more!!!
@samig73136 жыл бұрын
tati oh my god if my boyfriend didnt talk to me on my birthday AND valentines day and then brought me LEFTOVERS?????? I WOULD GO ON A RAMPAGE i cannot understand how amazing girls like you can get taken advantage of and just not even realize it! but thank god you finally did realize lmao PS them brows yes girl yes
@combustedseasalt34425 жыл бұрын
That second dude is why we have r/niceguys 😂😂😂😂
@jmbb96656 жыл бұрын
I went on a blind date once (lesson learned). I went up to the guy who was my date and properly introduced myself. 10 minutes into our date, his parents showed up to join us. His mom proceeded to tell me that she likes to accompany him on dates...so she can see who will make the prettiest grand babies.
@heatherfinn75816 жыл бұрын
JMB B oh my god! I’ve had some bad dates but nothing like this, wow!
@gaminggirls82306 жыл бұрын
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@sadcloud85146 жыл бұрын
That made me lol so hard 😂
@BatyBug6 жыл бұрын
So, what’s the problem? She’s just making sure! (I could barely type that without giggling. Wow, what a nut.)
@lochmoor21196 жыл бұрын
I think that Tatis stories are my new favorite things EVER
@nickrachjames6 жыл бұрын
I love this style of video and you're really good at it. Couple times I found myself wanting to ask a question like we were in the same room. I learn so much about makeup application just by watching you doing your makeup. I would really like to see how you do your eyebrows. They always look amazing and that is something I struggle with. Thanks for another great video. You're my fav KZbinr.
@saffywihoite59655 жыл бұрын
"--when i get uncomfortable, i laugh, i can't help it" hahahahaha me too
@chineadward57106 жыл бұрын
This was the best thing ever! Loved all your stories, the more serious ones really hit home and the bathroom one literally got me laughing out loud like a comedy movie, you're a really good story teller! Please do more of these, I think this was one of the most meaningful/funniest youtube video I've seen in a long time and it felt like I was hanging out with a girlfriend. Lots of love from South Africa xx
@HorsesofthePiano6 жыл бұрын
I traveled around South Africa with a guy for 5 months and the insulation in the walls there doesn't exist so we both heard each other destroy the bathroom. I think you just have to have a good sense of humor about it, it's something that everyone does, so there's no reason to freak out too much. We had a great time and laughed about every sound.
@tawnymichelle73046 жыл бұрын
Topic : embarrassing things that happened while filming! 😊😂
@Makeuphuney6 жыл бұрын
Tawny Michelle omg yes
@kcrabtree75 жыл бұрын
DO MORE OF THESE!!! Fun 50/50 of makeup and chit chatting and hearing funny stories