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[@NovasYouTubeName]

❤❤❤ love this amazing work

[@shecamt]

Thank you for the examples of doing things the right and wrong. How would you respond if a child asked for 10 more minutes and once the time was up they kept asking for 10 more minutes over and over again? I have about 30 nieces and nephews and half of them are adults now. They weren't bad kids but if or when they asked for more time to do something it never ended with the first request. Most things aren't this neat and simple.

[@AlxElizabeth]

Beautiful video

[@Jennifr1966]

How can I learn to teach these methods?

[@visionater]

Excellent

[@melissagodwinjustmathinaro5548]

Also, the child i know NEVER follows thru with his end of the "deal" when a deal is made

[@gsgidney]

Interesting. There still needs to be positions of authority. A child also needs to do what they are told, and there are reasons. Recognizing authority and safety, to name a couple. Quick responses, and compliance are needed for them to understand important situations. Granted, there should always be a session of explanation, but there also needs to be that understanding, and at times, the trigger for them to NOT do something. It's a difference between the thought process of: "I reefer having a conversation with my dad about not running into the street, and he handled it well, so I won't run into the street...i dont want to make daddy sad" Vs. "I got a whoopin' last time, it hurt, not gonna do it" One registers quickly the other doesn't. A quick swat on the but vs a lengthy conversation about safety would be my mode. They need to equate the pain of safety to a lengthy boring conversation. Just a thought.

[@NovasYouTubeName]

Things are different for kids who have experienced extreme trauma and whose brains have not had a chance to develop properly yet.

[@melissagodwinjustmathinaro5548]

This is baloney to me. It is disrespectful when a child tries to make a deal with me.

[@karynpurvisinstituteofchil8864]

Hi Melissa, thanks for your comment. Making compromises is a key component of building trust-based relationships as it helps children and youth negotiate their needs, learn their voice matters, and connect with the adults in their life. We invite you to learn more by checking out the resources on our website, child.tcu.edu.

[@lyndsieannette957]

I work at a homeless shelter with rough and rowdy teens. Tbri works if adults are willing to give up a little power for the sake of building a relationship.

[@AlxElizabeth]

You’re teaching them how to function as adults. Are you telling me you never compromise in your adult relationships or in the workplace?

[@Icarus_Dee]

@@AlxElizabeth A lot of adults have this attitude of, “I’m the adult. I’m the Bose. I’m the authority. Do as I say, no questions ask.” Parenting is a power trip for them. They’re goal isn’t raising a well-adjusted adult, their goal is maintaining control over another person. These parents tend to have negative, if not harmful or toxic, relationships with their children and you’ll see that play out in other personal and professional relationships with adults as well.