Teach your child gratitude (thankfulness) | Parenting - 109

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[@Shridharlifeschooling]

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[@minikrishnanunni2083]

Please make a video on how to make a teen interested in studies again due to online classes and schools being closed..also how can l make him understand the importance of having an aim in life and planning their routine..Your videos are good and encouraging...thank you

[@annalakshmyvaidhi3166]

Hello Shridhar, firstly thank you for making such videos on parenting. Actually I feel that at least someone is there in line with me about how to be a good parent. Means make your children or guide them to be independent. Now, when I am strict , that is for example I don't clean up their messy room but ask them to do it by themselves and just leave it as it is till evening or even a day or two..... people..... like my mom, in laws, sister etc. tell me that I am weird or going over board......or ask them to put off the light and fan when they come out of their room, ask them to get up and fetch water for themselves , or don't ever , not even a single time compromise on certain discipline that should be followed by all at home, people say that I am not being a proper mother. And not stopping with that they say that I act like a tyrant and that I'll regret it later in life .... because I will not be looked after, rather cared for properly by my sons during my old age. But I definitely differ from this kind of a conventional opinion. I know what I am doing is right and good for them. And when I am hard on them, I make it a point to talk to them and give them a proper understanding of what I mean and also I will make sure it has to be that way always...... like hospitality.... to greet our guests with a warm welcome and offer a glass of water..... respect for an individual person whoever they may be, respect for family and family time out , no lies will be tolerated, to talk the truth courageously. My sons do it , (even though they resist sometimes ) . Both my sons, ( they are 25 , 20 years old) are independent and can easily manage themselves. They are happy and proud that they are independent..., when most of their friends are not and cannot manage on their own, even little things, and worse they whine and rant about running errands and household chores. Now these relatives or friends they , instead of appreciating my sons, say that they are doing because they are forced to and they will retaliate in the future against me. They also accuse me of being a very strict and cruel mother, because my sons do their own errands and chores by themselves, when I should be doing it for them. I surely know that one cannot achieve anything by force . I believe in freedom and individuality. My sons think for themselves and do whatever they do, and I always have encouraged them in doing things their own way. They ask for help, my opinion, guidance whenever needed. Nowadays people find all this so different and weird. I feel that as a mother ( single parent) making them independent individuals is right and healthy for them. What is your opinion about this? Please reply when you find time, I would really like to know. Thank you.

[@sreejatt9806]

Your videos educate us on how to be better parents and how to get closer to children...thanks for your suggestions. It was really helpful. I do feel that “being grateful” is the MOST IMPORTANT THING in life to be happy...

[@NikhilDahima]

Sir,I heartily wish all the happiness and dreams come true in your life♥️

[@mister-Kayne]

This is wonderful advice; very sincere and I just love the way you have delivered it. Although we think we know how to be grateful for the things around us and what we have/ own we seldom thank the creator/ God/ provider for all that we have been given. When we see someone less fortunate, we take that moment to realize but the very next moment we move on with our thoughts back to being a person with no gratitude. When I was growing up, I had to earn everything I wanted from my parents. That thought me to be grateful as a person. Till a certain age I was pampered after which if I needed a new cycle or new toy I had to earn it by either taking up a responsibility at home or getting good grades at school. There were no if's or but's around this. If I failed to comply, they would just ignore my request and let me be with my tantrums. As always thank you for sharing such an informative and educative talk with us

[@KIRANKUMARI-tj9mz]

Sir ... I've been so many times 😭 hurt my mom after getting angry according to situation 😢..but after watching ur vedeo..I feel regret for my mom ..I actually don't no what the value of parents... Even they fullfill our all wishes n desire..but now I learnt something which is very important for every child they don't care for their supportive parents now a days it's very common. Because of they spend so many times wid mob.phone...like social media. N also they lots of thinking abt their personal life (love).. they have no time for parents even they always available for us.. seriously sir.. I'll definitely share ur vedeo with my friends n relative also so that they can understand what they have done n doing now.. Plz.. make more vedeos on family. And mother spclly... cause nobody so much care for her. Finally ur msg inspired me☺️.

[@tulikaupadhyay9212]

Really thankful to you for supporting the decent idea of being thankful for what we received and what we do for our kids.... you are really helping parents ...

[@rajanivrao5946]

Thank you so very much sir , u explains very well thanks a lot

[@Anieanns]

Excellent class.. thank you sridhar

[@shubhammittal8759]

Very useful video, Very proper counselling.

[@odaat266]

Wow...you really nailed it! TY

[@winterpark02]

Excellent. Happy to see you talking that makes sense. Hope this is shared in TV , Schools, Local meetings. Bottom line: Communication ! that lacks in our Indian families.

[@pavithrasreenivasan6508]

Exactly. Miscommunication!!!

[@hridayhurkat2347]

Hi First love your content and presentation Regarding gratitude - we do let's kids know what we grow through also reflecting our childhood challenges faced by our parents, However gratitude stays for short duration or sometime doesn't even rings bell

[@jenniferthomas8173]

Absolutely so very true sridhar

[@vineelar2148]

Thank you sir for such wonderful videos . These videos make me to check where iam as a parent and it is also helpful to think off . Do more on kids.

[@indusharma120]

Sir u r great thankz 4 guidance I m a single parent plz keep guiding like this thankz a lot

[@nali144]

Excellent job... Please make a video for collage students sometimes they face troubles at home. How they could manage schedules for study and participate house work weekly.. Thanks

[@justtelling9401]

Wow a great video that covers a 360 degree perspective... very helpful... thank you

[@utkarsh3265]

It indeed shows that it's important that we must inculcate this feeling of gratitude amongst children. I can relate the feeling that develops in my parents on my behaviour towards them. Nevertheless, it's important for parents as well to have this feeling of gratitude in them, they do so much for their children and that's undeniable but doing things merely for making a point that that are doing a favour to them is wrong. In my toughest times I had by myself taken an education loan doing a favour to my parent it was their duty to do this on their own which they didn't. Now that I have graduated and I am not in that position to pay it back, they don't talk to me. Had I bagged a decent campus placement they would have been bragging it all around that it was them who made this possible and not my hard deeds but now they don't talk to me.

[@nilaps1334]

Dealing with jealous family members without ruining relation

[@theparentingbydrseema1023]

Truly nice and much needed video

[@vishnuvardhan7642]

Sir, your doing an excellent service to our society by teaching us these important life lessons. Thank you & God bless you abundantly with all that you want in life.

[@vishnuthorat5507]

Great sir, too much important things you are sharing here. Thank you so much.

[@poojajuneja858]

Good information.... please guide my son is living in PG nd he never calls me. I nd my husband always call him ... how can we transform him???

[@kabitadas7160]

I am girl. Even my mom don't understand my feeling. Always say not good anywhere Bec I am straight forward. They think girl should not study too much. Even parents compare with other too much. Parents support more important in every Life.

[@evieg9228]

I am learning a lot from your channel. My struggle is to raise a son as a single mother. It is difficult because he holds a lot of anger against his dad and I am at work during the day.

[@theskan4644]

Watching you for the first time... Honestly just loved your thought process.. can you make the video on how to focus better on your studies ?. Thanks in advance

[@sainathchintadi9288]

Your videos are just to the point clear and practical great work today building good society. All the best thank you.

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[@Asfgxff]

Thanks, brother!

[@malabadarinath591]

From the day I was born till this day I was always under the care of some adult or in the hostel, other than my parents who are still alive . I am craving for their love but I very well know that I will not get it. 😔 I keep thanking them for all that they have done for me.. BUT WILL I GET THEIR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?? Now I am 60 yrs. I Don't know what a mother's or father's love is..........It is very painful Mr Shridhar. But I sincerely take care of their needs and when they are hospitalized............

[@ankitkumarsingh-ns5bi]

Just to add-up --> If we ask children to write what i have done for them in last 1 week. I think, we should also write for them ..what good + improvement they need /done in last 1 week. It should on going process [in retrospective manner] .

[@suganyahari1569]

My 19years daughter fully occupied with mobile chatting from morning till night so she is not bothered about any difficulties at home. She is always peroccupied in her thoughts about the mobile chats. Studies getting totally affected. Please help to bring her out of mobile addiction and be with gratitude. Thank you so much for posting valuable videos 👍

[@meetamahadeo4036]

Love all videos, excellent.

[@shreyam2146]

Excellent speech

[@marisawalsh9964]

wow thanks for making more than 100 parents narcissists, that will definitely help their children love them.

[@ツツ-e5s]

I mean, that's the way it was beginning to seem like. . . But he made it a point to mention the DELIVERY. . .and TONE OF VOICE. . . etc

[@charlesg7926]

He’s completely right, and you sound like a miserable person that has an angry cat face for your profile picture. You’re pretty much the embodiment of the entitlement, misery and laziness that successful guys like this tell us to avoid becoming

[@charlesg7926]

Your lack of morals, and also lack of intelligence, doesn’t seem to grasp that this isn’t for the benefit of the parent, it’s for the benefit of the child. Without gratitude, it’s impossible to be happy. That might be your problem. You live in the best technological and safest generation of human history, yet, you whine and complain

[@anuradhabhawsar1274]

Its really great video thanks shridhar

[@sreedeviharidas6625]

Good message.. Ingratitude 🙏😇

[@divyagodara]

Superb.i am a student but I like your video sir

[@vidyakamalanathan4370]

Thumbs up man!! You are doing a great job!!

[@Momnection]

I filled my problem in your form n waiting for your video Plz make it, i really need a help

[@kanchinaik8315]

Awesome Shridhar ....so well spoken ...God bless u

[@meenuchaurasia7998]

Lots of love

[@swatiraut984]

Excellent videos.. Great piece of advice to today's generation parents n kids... Please keep making such videos.

[@gunjanpandey428]

Can u plz make hindi videos? I like ur suggestions.

[@pratyashabaruah6873]

Great content! Thanks for making these insightful ideas so clear and practical.

[@Shridharlifeschooling]

I hope these ideas help you with your children :)

[@Momndaughter_2023]

I cried a lot on yesterday for the same. Issue which you discussed in this video. Thx a lot for this video... I will try to follow as per you said.

[@kamini2553]

Superb tips in so easy words... tnx But one request Try to make your videos I. HINDI as well... so that every Indian can listen & understand you "dil se" & child parent relationship flourish ✨️ 👏 in each & every house...

[@akshathan751]

This is great sir. I'm a single parent. It would be great if u give some inputs on raising a child without the feeling of being left out . She's also a problem child. I Want to help her out to stand up for herself very confident yet not rough or angry in terms of her reactions if she hears on her defaults.( Shes just 2 yrs now and Is not much aware of what's different about her ). I'd be grateful if there's a video about single-parenting as well. Thank u sir.

[@sunnieenglishmedium7082]

Very nice video, u make great videos which are really useful for a family and a society on the whole. Keep up the good work may God bless u. My daughter doesn't make friends at school, plz tell me what to do,I have told her number of times but to no value, she is 11 years old.

[@paariztd8878]

Awesome video. I have practiced everything apart from never told my children that what we went through to raise them. Now my elder son who is on higher post don't wanna even know us. Said its normal every parent raise their children good or bad and even worse he said that we both parents have lost our titles to him as we didn't accept him doing adultery openly without marriage with he girl friend.

[@pallavipathak2996]

Hello sir Thank you so much for the video.My son is 12 years old ,he is very intelligent but nowadays he is lazy towards studying if we quide him about etiquette, study habits ,he gets very angry on us. We encourage him and appreciate it a lot but it's not working. Please guide

[@calico27]

I have seen this very often. In our culture we have a huge issue with gratitude and narcissism. Issue and confusion. Gratitude is not the same as narcissism. Similarly, I have seen many people get very uncomfortable with apologies - the general attitude seems to be "if we have a close relationship, then we shouldn't express gratitude or apology to each other". Which is so unhealthy! No wonder there are so many comments about gratitude turning parents into narcissists, in this section!

[@sudeshyadav5366]

Very effective message

[@janakivenu5877]

Very nice ...how to make children use mobile less ...pls sir make video

[@ansuyasenghani8632]

Thanx for this video it help me soo much😇

[@kanikabhatia1399]

really its a good habit for kids and parents as well.... I have some query... can u plz guide how to deal with the kids doing all work.. study, eating food, nd other activities very slow.. need to speak plz do it fast.. but then also not done.. how to deal with them

[@aliceloctl230]

It feels like you are teaching parents to become narcissistic. Unconditional love does not work like this. A parent shouldn't expect gratitude from their child. I have little to be grateful for with my parents because they believed everything they did was perfect and that I should be grateful for whatever I got from them. I should be grateful for the emotional, verbal, and physical abuse I received. Love your child. Teach them to be grateful in general, not about how amazing you are. If they are raised well and with the right kind of love, unconditional love, they will have gratitude.

[@pedronabais1456]

Ye tbh i believe he didnt said those rly to suport narcs (it doesnt excuse him but kinda underatandable) he rly forget some parents just cant be good like usually if ur kid cant say one good thing about his dad prob the problem aint the child and forcing them to try it will juat make a loop of anger

[@charlesg7926]

Your lack of intellect and wisdom is causing you to not realize that unconditionally spoiling your child won’t help your child, it will HURT them. You SHOULD set conditions on your approval of your child. Unconditional love does NOT equal unconditional approval

[@charlesg7926]

If your child is starting to do drugs… If your child is is wanting to fail out of school… If your child is wanting to get pregnant at age 15… These are all terrible, horrendous, harmful things that you need to take a stand against, and voice your disapproval of

[@GoodVibesWithAmritaa]

Thanks for such a beautiful video... Pls make video on teenage behaviour changes....and how can we deal with it lovingly

[@manjarishukla8787]

Thank you Shridhar 😇

[@munirakachwala9212]

Thank you so much for explaining us in so much of detailing, wish you reach heights of prosperity,lots of best wishes to you.. Thank you once again...

[@binak7838]

Thank you so much.....dot on

[@vidyamasanapalli7597]

Thankyou sir. Very helpful vedio for me. expecting more from you. Do vedio on sibling rivals. Thankyou.

[@Enthubandi]

You are fabulous Thank you

[@livebeforeyoudie2412]

Excellent 👍👍👍👍👍

[@sonalabansal3937]

Please guide if child is using abusive language and if child is facing problem to adjust with people

[@positivevibes2018]

1)How to deal with toxic parents especially mothers when they do interfere in our lives and manipulate everything and play the victims?!! 2) How to deal with mother/ father who are social media addicts and play victims in front of their grown up children? 3) What to do when mothers are too busy on Whatsapp groups even when her children and grandchildren visit her on Summer vacations? Please make videos on these topics as well 🙏🏻

[@bharathyk5578]

Hi Shridhar, I am from Chennai. My son who is four and half is starting to shutter. As a perent we are very worried. How do I handle his issue. Any leads who to consult

[@aminabibiyacoobmunnee2664]

Today's video 100% useful Thank you

[@shobhareddy5035]

Very good video

[@ansuyasenghani8632]

My younger child is of 10yrs,he is very active n hyper in doing things, very emotional also. Now a days when we talk with him he shout n giv answers. Y he is behaving lik this I didn't understand. He get angry very soon.

[@Sai-el4ed]

Even my son hurt me which makes bleeding also he say it's just a small wound and say it might have already a scare and giggles at me

[@upmasharma5126]

Omg !! I was in need of ur vedio .and it just appeared from some where on my screen .its amazing . I am a mom of 21 yr old girl .i was facing many challanges .but now i think .i can do better . One thing i would like u to pls pls pls tel me .if being mom i .know some thing is wrong for her .but she is not changing at any cost .for eg .sleeping in north direction is bad for her health and bed postion in her room is north .and she is not ready to keep the pillow on other side towards south and sleep .how to make her understand abiut my worried nesd

[@AnkSeng]

Beautiful video...I am one of your recent follower... Please help me know how to manage anger in 3-4 year olds.. thanks

[@poojanair5167]

Excellent

[@divyamohan661]

Hi pls make a Video for parents who hurt their child verbally or physically like hitting slapping etc.how to spare the rod. And on sibling rivalry.Actually I’m hurting my 5 year old daughter a lot n I think I need help.

[@nainachawla2424]

Thanks Bhaiya

[@lakshmitejaswi2823]

my daughter says I look ugly and doesn't even get ready like other mom's. am not so good at cooking, so all my time gets killed up thr and my office. I hardly see my face in mirror. whenever she says, u always cleans vessels and look ugly I feel so bad but Jst gives a smile, saying Wat to do and ends the topic

[@anureddy9368]

I live with my in laws, they love my kids immensely and thats the great thing, bt they interrupt in evry thing even i scold them they scold me in firnt of them when i tell him to say sry they just grab them and tell there was no need of sry there, i cant live them and i dnt wont to do that, i tried lot of times to make them understand in a sensible way bt there reactions are unexpected and my husband dont understand this situation and he never spend with my kids and never stand to take there responsibilty i really dnt understand how to handle this situation either to leave my old in laws or loose my kids disciplane

[@Razrai-bn8vf]

try to explain things to your in-laws, and your husband clearly, explain how stressful you are being in that situation. Some can understand and some cant, i know you were worried about them but you have to take a decision ultimately. May be try to live separately for sometime, to make them realise the gravity of the situation.

[@piyalichakraborty9762]

I have 2 kids ... Older is 4and younger is 10months.... Sometimes I can't control over my anger and beat him (older) badly..... Later I feel s very disappointed... Now a days I realized he is revolting...he is not crying any more these incidents.... How to control all these poor moments... I feel this is my fault... How can I make a good bonding with my child...

[@indranisengupta4244]

Thank you

[@indianpatriot722]

Great insightful thoughts. I love all your videos

[@hariman7727]

This is actual awful advice and encourages parents to be selfish.

[@RoshinKoshy]

Can u make a video on teenage peer pressures......how to deal with it....

[@bincyprakasham]

Very helpful

[@jayati11]

Very helpful. I already do this but sometimes when children show thanklessness is it very disappointing.

[@Indian-kh7zp]

Wow 😲

[@ramitathapa5634]

Nice video

[@tsgeeta]

You are amazing and you actually speak most of the common mans language and have amazing solutions. I guess same strategies can help in other areas of life like relationships between spouses as wel. Do you think that yes this would work ?

[@saisaradha8280]

Hi my son 17 age he studied 10 th he joined poyecnic he in intrest bikes .his behaviour change he not listening my words ad he not in our hands he is robbring gold from house it's siver suchian so plz tell that how to be control to him .he ran way from house plz how to correct him

[@nehamihirprashant]

What if it is vice versa... A father always busy in his world of work and trying to escape all the responsibilities as a father to his son when the son looks upon him for help and guidance. But the father is busy in mending up his all the time work trouble. All the help the son gets is only from the mother which is limited. What will you say in such scenario? And in this case the son is the most humble and down to earth human being.

[@amutharavi4017]

Thank you sir your videos are really helpful.

[@sujiths6925]

Thank u..

[@KrishnaChalla]

You might have shared ur experiences.. we need to start looking at ur child as a asset not a liability. I know u mentioned but this way we are not being natural. Things u have done is just reflection

[@grudgestogratitude140]

asking for donations all the time

[@manojkausal1]

Clear, simple and straight guidance, thanks sir

[@jyotsnajha8767]

This was very nice Shridhar! Good to see you grow 😊

[@rekha56789]

My daughter is 23 now , she is working from home , she has to log in by 9:30 , she gets up at 9 and directly sits with her laptop , inspite of telling her so many times to get up little early she doesn’t do , i feel depressed taking care of everything all alone without having anybody to discuss to .. can you help me

[@hbestinternetwatch]

It'll "sync" in...

[@shabanahameed80]

u are truly on time and thanku...I always think of this..how do u teach gratitude??? thanku...

[@syedq8]

thankx alot will try . and more videos onthis topic

[@JKarthik777]

Please give suggestion on socialising.