OVERLAY (What Prevents You From Having a Real Relationship) - Teal Swan

[@MD-jr4qc]

please do a video about loneliness, no friends, no relationships etc for long periods of time or even the whole adult life

[@Newcreation1114]

As with Corona virus here it would be a good time to make a loneliness video

[@lowbodycount]

😔

[@sll110]

do Little things to help yourself I saw other video

[@donstarkey9896]

Awe that is so sad, no one should be alone

[@Angelina123321]

I agree to this

[@mikeanelli4979]

Can confirm. I lived in an overlay until I was in my early 20's and when the real reality smashed me out of it, I fell into a massive depression. It took me years and years to recover.

[@Xianomega]

Teal Swan routinely posts videos about what I'm thinking right after I figure out what I'm thinking. Literally ten minutes before this video was posted, I tweeted "To love a person is simply to delight that she is who she is. It's what happens when you enjoy what's real." Something cosmically beautiful is playing itself out.

[@macoeur1122]

Ditto: These ideas were just going through my mind yesterday. "Collective Consciousness"?...."Attunement"?...

[@Xianomega]

MaCoeur I suspect God or Source or whatever values ideas that we come up with on our own more than ideas we just take on faith. Then they aren’t “tacked on” but something that’s a part of us, something alive. We know them from the inside, not just from the outside. It’s like God/Source says: “You finally figured it out! Now here’s some details!”

[@macoeur1122]

I love that! I just left a comment under your "how I see the world" video. Check it out!

[@nejczupan]

it happens to me to. i started figuring something out,and soon after she makes a video about it :) amazing woman

[@jovonzion]

It could be possibly, that teal is studying astrology just to make it seem she is coincidentally dropping into our own specific life events?

[@r.marian6277]

The concept of putting a situation on mute is genius!

[@diddlina218]

I have heard this suggestion from a life coach..put TV on mute and observe to practise

[@dallymoo7816]

this is for everyone and not just about romantic relationships

[@sushmak8855]

Agreed.

[@Danipieee]

I’ve had relationships just like this and at a certain point I really had to take personal responsibility for projecting my overlays on to other people and expecting relationships to work out. And I love what you said about paying attention to how people treat other people. I dated a guy once that treated animals, waitresses, and even his own mother like complete crap and this might sound messed up, but at the time it actually made me feel special because he was sweet to me and not others, but over time he started treating me exactly the way he treated others with disrespect and so on. Taught me a good lesson!

[@bunnyboo6295]

That kind of dose give that feeling that they love you

[@EmilyElizabethxox]

I'm dealing with this right now. I met a guy who seems perfect in every way but doesn't seem like he's really engaged in me as a person or interested in who I am. It hurts so bad to be alone. I'm 26 and scared I'll never find love and become an old maid. This video helped me realize I shouldn't waste my time...

[@dallymoo7816]

ya.. so sorry.. im focusing on me lately even the ones that say they love me betray me so its time to foucs on me finally

[@taylormizen8892]

That’s so young! Focus on the day ahead and on living authentically! That’s really the main goal of life. To be happy in the now. It’s the only thing we really have control over 💓

[@abebber2008]

Hey Emily, would you like to talk some time?

[@noreshii]

Emily Elizabeth right there with you girl. Twice last year I did this! Glad it’s being shown to me.

[@TruthQuest4700]

BINGO!

[@jlgg-mr8xh]

Thanks for describing EVERY relationship I've ever had...the last one especially. I vow & promise myself to ALWAYS pay attention to the red flags & reality of the situation.

[@brendanino6948]

The reality of relationships is scary. I have casted people in characters and than I myself act as a certain character. I am at a blank slate right now. I hate it sometimes but I am ready to meet my needs and accept people for who they are and choose consciously where I meet them

[@warden835]

I imagine dreams interacting. The more you get to know someone, the more you can pick up on their unique energy. As a humble and vulnerable human being, these connections are more valuable to me than material goods. I always appreciate your perspective, Teal.

[@joshuhwah94]

This video topic is soooo aligned with my current situation. I needed to hear this!! I did listen to my gut and stop a relationship that I was trying to mold into something that it wasn't. I do feel a bit sad but I know I am missing an imaginary version of this person.

[@Funwinxpixee]

same here. Sometimes, I wonder about the point of this person entering into my life in the first place. Maybe it was a sign or something that we'll learn with time

[@andrewkowalski3976]

I can really relate to this. We really have to find the way home to ourselves, get back in the body and discover our own mystical authority.

[@dianedonofrio8724]

This video is so fantastic....another reality check from Teal, regarding relationships....this has been an ongoing struggle for me, with people around me, treating me as their overlay and not as myself...it almost cost me my life, in fact.........being aware of this is key to having a healthy relationship with others, and to be able to recognize when you are nothing but someone else's overlay,...truly can save you the heartache later on when they 'reveal' to you, that this is who you really are to them...I experienced that, and it devastated me.....thank you Teal for acknowledging this....and for caring about the reality of this relationship issue..

[@curtwilliams2606]

LOL. "The adult version of 2 four year olds playing house" So Sad. but so true. See it too often

[@tinavkris8394]

I feel like the twin flame dynamic fits well into this. We have to develop the discretion and the sensitivity to recognise the self-indulgent pattern in a perfect illusion of a potential future. I am still working in it

[@TheSingingVocologist]

Teal, you are so wise. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight with us. You have helped me (and I’m sure thousands of others) to heal and grow over the past two years. I’m so grateful that I “found” you. ❤️🙏

[@mie73]

This is the best explanation I have ever heard of this type of relationship, having been the completely ignorant main character in someone else’s overlay. I’d love to see a follow up on how to disentangle oneself without destroying everyone and everything in the process 🙏🏼

[@thevixenxiii]

This was me and my ex boyfriend of the last 2& 1/2 years.. we “escaped” the reality of adult life with each other in a strange sense. We partied and did drugs, a lot of sex & admiration of each other. But at the end of the day he was an avoidant attachment musician type and I the anxious type starved to fill the emotional gap my dad did not even come close to filling... this is the hardest yet most relief filled time of my life. I’m seeing my life change before my eyes now that I’m focusing on myself & filling that love gap myself

[@moongarden9667]

I'm thinking that this can be the same with overlaying our past traumatic experiences onto others. This seems to be like a ptsd response to triggers where we are "seeing" the past trauma happen over again and placing the other into the role that we recognize and respond to that overlay. This is where I get mixed up about red-flags . Noticing where the trauma overlay is happening and where reality is happening. Life's a trip, man.

[@elvia3068]

Agree....

[@souljacem]

This is a great video to watch when you’re meeting someone new and you’re not sure whether you attracted that person just because of lack or because of actual authenticity leading that relationships formation.

[@TheErika711]

I am literally sitting here in totally numbness THIS TRUTH IS MY CURRENT LIFE - you have literally WOKE ME

[@tatyanaangelitelove6076]

Exactly! In my past relationships I really believed I was in love with them but I was in love with what I wanted to be true, so much so that when one particular guy rejected me, I became so obsessed with the overlay of us that I thought my purpose on this planet was over or doomed. I didn't try to commit suicide but I imagined having failed the entirety of humanity on a cosmic level and ended up 5150 twice in the mental hospital. I eventually learned through those experiences and English 2: Critical thinking to question everything and to critique it in regards to thorough thought. Thank you Teal for this much needed insight.

[@secretattractionna]

I had a similar experience! Minus the mental hospital, it was a suicide attempt 10 years ago...

[@tatyanaangelitelove6076]

Joanna Santucci I am glad that you are still with us. Thank you for sharing. It is comforting to know that we are not alone. May all positivity come to you now.

[@auryn684]

I think I knew this back when the video was first posted, but watching it again now I’m amazed at how much this seems to be about Teal and her relationship with Ale. I’ve said several times how Teal’s old blog (where she talked about the struggles she was personally facing) helped me and gave me courage. Knowing that someone as strong, smart, and beautiful as Teal faced hardships and seeing how she applied her own teachings to heal her own heart encouraged me to try her teachings. She leads by example and I really respect that. I wish she was still as open in her blogs, but I understand why she stopped. Anyways, the insight she gained from her relationship with Ale has helped me so much as a fellow “love addict.” That’s why I’m watching this again!

[@creator8503]

Teal swan seems to be more on my side than the people in my life. Look at how she is always tipping us off to this information to use for our own good, regardless if we ever come to know her face to face. Is it like she cares so much for complete strangers? Its so ridiculous how something this nice can exist in todays world. I wanna join the community.

[@surfsailor2545]

"Overlay" would also be known as the projection Carl Yung claimed to occur so frequently in early relationships; the projection of archetypes, namely the idealized animus/a.

[@jelenaindharma6687]

where i can learn more about this?

[@KateLate____]

I don't think so. Teal had a separate video about projection.

[@xenuburger7924]

I love you = I love my idea of who you are. I needed to hear this.

[@Selflovematters4life]

"You can be sure that if what they want is the same as our vision, you will see consistent efforts without any influence on your end to reach that state because it is their vision, not your vision for them. It is a good idea to ask yourself, If I was committing to this situation or this person EXACTLY as it is today, knowing it would not ever change, could I do that?" Hard to swallow but truth. It's better to let it be and accept them as instead of hoping their change will translate what you hope will work for you.

[@triangels]

Well said.

[@arbividz]

Can someone please help me with this because I am confused. How is overlay a thing in a mirror-based universe? Because if overlay is seemingly just a layer on top of actual reality (which I would think is your reflection) then this universe isn’t entirely mirror based I would think. Edit: After watching this video and her reality video millions of times I've come to the conclusion that overlay is a cop out to facing your pain. It's an avoidance energy. Not a creation energy.

[@Joejoyoyoyo]

Mmhm, and the fact that others have you in their overlays too

[@Moonbunny55]

YOU are adorable ☺️

[@alisonnonemacher4972]

Harsh truth to swallow😣

[@anneobrien6255]

Great content. I've struggled for years wondering why my relationships never work out. Have a lot of shame about not being true to myself. Struggled on how to move forward. Found someone older who I connect with. I hope its not an overlay!

[@valentynabelofsky9374]

It helps me so much every day I see your videos. Can you discuss topics about unrequited love and rejection next?

[@tpriestess]

I really resonate with the advice about stepping into the water, step away and integrating. Step in again, if it feels right. Integrate. So on.... Too many of us are 'recovering' from desperate situations or upbringings...and it is important to engage in relationships and to do so with a great commitment to HONOUR. Also, as true friends or sisters or brothers, why are we not calling our loved ones into deeper truth about relationship, instead of uncaringly going along with supporting these lies, fantasies, illusions. The baby does not need to be thrown out with the bath water. We can get fresh bath water and clean up the baby and be true. Everyone will win. Sigh. Smile.

[@lalovelylenea]

I needed this reality check. Thanks a lot.

[@MysteryProductsLtd]

It's my authenticity that's preventing relationships.

[@juliagresco3875]

The universe has been trying to teach me this lesson these past couple months and you explained it perfectly. Thank you 🙏🏻❤️

[@pawan2647]

Teal swan has all answers to every question I ever asked in life. Much love ma'am.. may you blessed so much.

[@polinaraw]

You keep saving me over and over again. Thank you with all my heart.

[@ZackStudio]

I searched overlay for editing and this popped out

[@Joejoyoyoyo]

omg 😭😭😭 The universe called you to the Teal Tribe 😅

[@user-ur2wd8du4z]

Oh my, the "Projection" video bringed me here 2 years ago.. and here I am today really really understanding all of what you saying, not in a conceptual manner but in a deeper, realest way. Thank you T.S. in the help of the evolution and expansion of my soul.

[@MrRicluv]

Thank you Teal for your dedication and resolve to explain the most difficult emotional scenarios in a way that allows us to keep our dignity and build our desire to be more authentic. I wish you continued success, wholeness, and peace.

[@ericaflak6525]

Nothing like a slap in the face on a Monday morning 😅🙏🏻❤️

[@mariaokhapkina6971]

Lol Teal will do that to ya, won't she 😅❤

[@macoeur1122]

omg...Teal does it again...spells out another "elephant in the room (world)" Thank you, thank you, thank you! :) This is just yet another way of describing my upbringing. All of the females in the family (except me) just "went along" with the consensus "overlay".... I have not generally been susceptible to this myself because I could see it from a very early age and could see it's dysfunction, but can identify at least one time I began to slip into this pattern....after a lengthy period of literally all my focus going into my son while he was dealing with a health crisis... my usual practice of noticing these "overlays" that people use had gone un-exercised, and thus my guard was down when my son got better and I was in such a state of depletion that I unconsciously allowed myself to see certain situations as "more perfect" than they actually were....This was probably due to a combination of the period of singular focus on my son....the need to be fed with a more positive experience...and the sudden opportunity that his recovery provided for me to do so (it felt like a "slingshot" type of thing.....being held down and then "let go") Even while it was happening I was thinking to myself "I need to reign myself in here"..."slow down"....don't let your need for some joy steer you toward self deception"...etc...(saying no to water when I was dying of thirst). and THANK GOD, I was able....through what felt like a truly herculean effort....to untangle the realities from the overlays before I fell into a problematic situation. I would not have used the word "overlays" because I didn't have a word for this phenomenon, but was no stranger to the phenomenon itself. I just had to "enlarge" my focus again after having narrowed it down for so long and remind myself of what I already knew. BTW...don't you think all of our consensus reality is an "overlay" of sorts? Possibly a necessary one until such time as we (collectively) don't need it anymore? O.k...I'm digressing. My own "baseline" is to want a "real" relationship, and this means NOT pre-determining a specific picture of how it will be, but rather that mutually authentic love and attunement is the foundation from which there would be infinite potential "creative paths" that could be taken....It's only from that foundation, I believe, that true, healthy, creative, growing, dynamic relationship can occur.

[@karelhoogendoorn]

You touch on so many of my own psychological dynamics in a way that makes it so clear... wow! I realize that your videos only show up, because something in me is ready to see and hear them and is inviting them in. But having said this, a big thnx again for your presence, your wisdom and your infectious funny giggle when you're laughing about these sometimes stubborn patterns. I get where it's coming from and it adds a big part to the insights I get. Warm regards from The Netherlands ❤️

[@barbpence8784]

Teal Swan and angel sent you to me thank you sister 💕❤️😇

[@CelticRaE19]

Wow Teal great timing ! Just had a situation I got out of with a relationship built on deceit. You always have the right things to say to help me out.

[@lylangel]

I pulled the overlay card twice from your blindsight deck. This video was exactly what I needed!♡ Thank you for the wake up call

[@miloradtrandafilovic6466]

Seening this video for the fisrt time today is q MAJOR wake up call for me Teal. Interesting how I find information at a time when I truly need it, that was made quite awhile ago but wasn't in the 'mental space' to find it. Thank you. All the videos of yours I've seen so far have hit my vore being and continue to do so. ❤

[@Tinasmithwolfsirens]

This video should be compulsory viewing for all. I can't tell you how much I love this !! We all know people who fit this bill. Omg. Love u

[@timoverdier5577]

You, continue to amaze me; are an incredible woman, doing so much to facilitate a greater and better humanity!! And I know you have paid a price to do so. Thank you Teal!

[@NyxiiPyxii]

That was so deep. And kinda hurt to accept. But it was exactly what I needed to hear. And might possibly change my life. Thank you Teal🖤

[@jamic8074]

Teal is so powerful i feel massive energy flowing threw me when ive watched some of her videos. It was amazeing how good it felt that i want it all the time now! ! !

[@constantine5767]

I like all your content. Have been a long time subscriber. Your videos always make me look deeper into myself. I only have one note for you: get a mic. I'm sending you warm energy from New York.

[@annastusser9181]

Thank you Teal, this was great. I’d been drugged by overlay my entire life! Time to go to rehab, baby!

[@caveymoley]

My priestess! I just love how you "one, two punch" and "curb stomp finish" me EVERY TIME I watch you... Thank you soo much for posting this. I can sense I will be adding it to my ever growing list of must watch again videos.

[@abundancevortex]

One of the best videos ever created ever.

[@veenelson2317]

One of the best videos I’ve ever watched on you tube in my life.. I thank you for your knowledge

[@cer_eal]

This channel is like the Rosetta stone for my life experiences. Thank you so much for making these videos.

[@acornsoundsquirrel]

This video is one of my favorites of yours. So easy to understand, and an absolute home-run explanation of what I've been trying to figure out for a long time. Thank you.

[@ShannenH7]

Brilliant! Teal Swan, please keep doing what you're doing. Your work is so insightful, candid and truly inspired!❤

[@agnese2215]

Shannen Hendricks yes i like a lot her videos🤍

[@tonykeane7524]

I really appreciate you because you are present as in present in the moment you found how to let go and be present that deserve a massive respect. I only know because I'm present

[@MikkoMurmeli]

You know Teal, chinese astrology Bazi has a concept about this, pretty central one too. If you have a too strong Day Master (unlucky element is too strong one), you will usually be more lonely, and are bound to have self-esteem issues and ego issues. I've found this to be very true in my life, never seen a chart with a stronger day master than mine, probably because those people are usually more lonely and dont draw others into their lives, unless they do more about it than your average person. I found this improved for me when I worked on my chi flow through five elements system, applied more of those weaker elements to my life. And I think I'm starting to connect a few dots here. Teal has already done that and so have probably many of you who follow her, so let me just confirm things. The idea that we are one, through the divine or "original" or universal or source in us, that idea is connected to how you treat other people. Teal said once that to really love is to love everybody, and it's been said that the society is only as good as its worst-off citizens, like inmates or the poor sick unemployed people. You can apply that societal thing to yourself, you being the society and all who you interact with, your citizens. So your true love is only as good as how you treat those who you dislike the most and have the least respect for. Because true love is from the source, and there's some of the source in all of us.

[@celark]

If anyone has played the game Persona 5 ....this sounds alot like the distortions in the metaverse and palaces that appear as a result. Great video as always and exactly what I needed to learn.

[@veganfire4218]

Teal, you're so amazing, I'm rooting for you!!! Your AskTeals and interviews gave me so much guidance that hardly any other teacher out there could give me (well, except my father). You are literally the reason I can get up in the morning and face the day. Were it not for you, I would be a mess. I have yet to find a human who is as authentic as you with so much spiritual insight at the same time. Thank you for putting yourself out there! I'm so grateful you're around! I'm indescribably grateful to you for opening up to me that a part within myself might actually be right about life and myself! It's so relieving having a bit of real self-trust finally. I want you to keep on going with anything you want to do and put out there. Epic stream of love sent your way! Alright, I hope that positive rant helped in a supportive way. No worries if it didn't : )

[@lisaschooler9992]

Anyone know if any of Teal’s other uploads address relationships that vacillate between reality and overlay until eventually one collapses? Do you think a relationship can shift toward reality, or is that unlikely once overlays are firmly rooted?

[@DC502_]

You look pretty in the flowery dress Teal and thanks for the talk about overlays.

[@macoeur1122]

and NEXT.....I'd love to hear you untangle the differences between "pretending" and "transcending" I believe they can be confused, both by onlookers when observing the behavior of others and by ourselves (when spiritually bypassing) You may have done this in some previous video...If so, does anyone know which video? I suspect the difference is in fully acknowledging the realities at the human level, and "even though it may be true" that at another level these realities are not true Realities...it doesn't mean they aren't "real" at THIS level and thus must be acknowledged for what they are, rather than "pretend" that they don't really matter....or pretending that we are "immune" to them at this level.

[@nelacizkova1940]

What is the difference between an overlay and a visualization, imagining what we want etc. - I mean if the people are able to think so intensely that they literally live their imagination, they should be emitting and thus attracting the vibrations of it and actually create that very thing , don't they?

[@Moonbunny55]

Great question!

[@apollofateh324]

I have been wondering the same thing... :(

[@Bubbles-ug3vr]

To manifest you need to fully accept your current circumstances first. The person who has an overlay does not.

[@janinweinkauf5900]

Hi @Nela, when you are manifesting truly you are Not pretending, but you are truly being this Version you are wanting to manifest. That is also why manifestation often does not work because people just pretend, but Not listen to the truth in their heart and heal whats going on a feeling state and what attracts the unwanted Situation in the First place. Overlaying is more a mental Game then a truly healed and integrated Feeling state. Lets say we are desperate and we are trying to visualize how our Partner brings us flowers, spends time with us and appreciates us for what we truly are, but then he comes home brings no flowers, pays no attention and we are actually trying to supress the believe we have towards him or men in General that they disappoint, dont understand and everything is Always more Important to them then their Partners by continuing to Hope IT will Happen tomorrow and telling ourselves that He will Bring IT tomorrow without actually believing IT, because what we actually belive IS that He does Not Care about us. Overlaying as Teal says is telling yourself i am Not afraid, while you are, saying you are free, while you are Not ( Like in the prison scenario) . Manifestation comes First of all from a realization where you are right now f.e. Not free , Not appreciated. When you realize you are the creator you dont have to mentally Run away from what you have created. You will Look closly what got you here and Change what you want to be different. Somebody who tries to flee reality and who wants to hold on to the pretend Version is Not empowered and actually feels trapped in the Situation, Like a mother who pretends her husband is Not raping their daughter every night, because she does Not Know how to financially survive without him. That is an overlay, she is Not honest and her pretending mentally that it does Not Happen and that they are a Happy Family does Not change the fact that it is Happening. Manifestation is a highly empowered state, IT IS the realization to Know that we are creating our reality. If we feel rich, think rich, act rich, abundance has to come, but IT will only Work If IT IS Our truth on all levels. I am conviced a prisoner can through Integration and manifestion feel so free that physical reality will Aline. IT has to. IT IS a law, but IT Happens, when He IS Not pretending anymore, but he IS free on an emotional and mental Level. When you are rich, you are Not Desperate for Money anymore, so you do Not Care If it comes, because you have it already. To mentally and emotionally practise the states we want to be in is fantastic, but only then to truly live them. If we are only pretending to be free, because we Know we are not we entrappe ourselves even more and feel highly powerless, we are fleeing reality instead of creating a New one. How would a free Person ACT,feel, think? He would live IT/Be it and Not only pretend. You can be anything! There is No Limits, but are we truly Happy or are we Just making up a Story that we are so we do Not have to face the truth. If we are Happy or truly ready to manifest Something we will Go for it and IT will come to as Well, we dont have to pretend that Out Partner will Care, He actually does. Overlaying is playing mental movies because you do Not believe that it could actually be your reality. Its denying of how you truly feel. I Hope IT makes sense :) all the Love, Janin

[@nelacizkova1940]

@@janinweinkauf5900 So overlay is more related to the present and fully (not) accepting that and visualization is working with the future. Thanks for the clarification, I think I get it now.

[@JohnFrancoNH]

Excellent video Teal. I love the chuckles after the delivery of a profound truth!

[@JohnFrancoNH]

Im sensing the opposite. Teal is so passionate about what she is sharing with us. That by the end of the delivery, she cant hold back the overwhelming chuckles of joy.

[@jamesgrashorn1997]

Sounds good to me, I just wasn’t sure. I’ve seen her do that many times. Just curious what others thought. Thanks

[@curiosity_saved_the_cat]

John Franco Could it be she's laughing because of the silliness of our collective ignorance? With every insight in the truth it becomes ever more obvious how silly ignorance really is. Like when growing up, you probably laugh at the fantasies you had as a child to make yourself feel big/safe.

[@JohnFrancoNH]

Very good point and analogy, it is also very possible. Maybe Teal can chime someday on this topic.

[@Rosa29]

Probably my favourite and most important Ask Teal ever. This so much described me (and some present sinchronicities) and therefore my last relationship, so much. This actually just came in perfect divine timing for me :-)

[@divinedeanna]

Thanks for teaching me how to read peoples energy! You are so spot on with every video; it's like those cartoons where the characters jaw drops to the floor and rolls across the room. xoxo

[@elyflutteringpheonix4633]

This is like an antidote to having a favourite person (BPD)

[@CH-rs7cm]

This a ridiculously well timed upload for me. A person is thinking about something deeply and, a few days later, they look on their phone and browse through the You Tube notifications: I love it when that happens ;)

[@Zulyma111]

Thank you Teal for your help! Not just with this video but all of them! They have been extremely helpful and this one really hit home for me, I am doing my best to do my part in this life and I am deeply grateful for yours!!! ❤️💯

[@NoOne-oo5lh]

Healing. I have to have healing before i can get into another relationship.

[@ashokkurian6884]

The best and the probably the only perfect relationship you can have in this world is the relationship with yourself !!!

[@TiphonBafometo]

We’re gonna have to take risks in life, sometimes you’re gonna have to move forward with your fear; but sometimes moving forward despite your fear is just happening because we’re ignoring reality and it is us being dumb instead of brave.

[@fernandogonzalez7621]

Excellent wake up call.

[@rafaellablinker9440]

This reminds me of the phrase The truth will set you free.

[@karavelour2300]

Teal, I hope you see this and have the time to reply (I completely understand if you don’t or can’t)❤️ What if we create a negative overlay on a positive relationship? I used to do exactly what you described in the video but in recent years have seemed to flip it over to negative, paranoid thought patterns. I’ve been obsessively creating a narrative that my boyfriend is cheating on me which makes me feel like I shouldn’t trust him->which makes me have to manage bouts of clingy behaviour obviously doesn’t help). While I can reason with myself 70% of the time and bring myself back to reality the other 30% feels so heavy and horrible and all-consuming that I’m rash to react in out of character ways. I’ve been doing a similar thing with close friends and it’s been negatively impacting my relationships. Is this a type of overlay? Or am I completely missing the mark with it and it’s a different issue? In advance, thank you so much for your insight ❤️

[@michaelmalcolm2100]

Addiction to Overlay!!! Such a Pisces trait

[@tannaz3920]

Omg! This is exactly what I’m experiencing at the moment, only to become aware of it and understand it now.

[@gill426]

It is relevant though to mention that overlay can also be a good thing as you see the potential in a person or in a relationship. That can be motivational or eye-opening for people in a positive way. You just have to be kind to yourself and the part that focuses on the potential to actually acknowledge that it is just that, potential. Something entirely free, which only ever develops in freedom and peaceful hearts. You can't force potential. Now I know that life forces us to develop our own potential often but you can only develop your stuff, not somebody else's stuff.

[@angryangel3335]

I'm so grateful that I found you!! Been following Infinite Waters for a few months and it lead me to you! Only my 3rd video of you, and I'm infinitely grateful!! ☮💜😊♾

[@clairmoreau2553]

Oh my gosh, this is scarily accurate!!!!! And a real bummer!!!!!!!!!

[@nicholecooperonline]

Before watching this actual video.. just off the title, it came to me, still being broken from my failed marriage is it, resentment and bitterness, confusion.. dissresolvement without closure and kids still involved. In short being hurt has hindered the total ability to love again healthily for me.

[@mikeytobago]

people come in our lives daily , some stay for a short time , some stay for a long time, its all in our life's path

[@pepita3467]

I like watching your videos because it's like you are intently describing these simple ideas so clearly it's nice to hear someone talking about this side of things

[@HOLYGRAILSTONE]

Thanks for that excellent timing! !!!

[@sharankinakin2264]

What Teal presents in this is soooo true

[@Lsoty]

Your videos upload at the best time for me 🙏🏽 thank you for all your help during my journey through life

[@clairmoreau8254]

BEST TEAL SWAN VIDEO EVER!!!!!!! THANK YOU TEAL- THIS IS LIFE SAVING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@sukran96]

I think our main problem is how low we are willing to settle down for our expectations which we set up during our childhood. The less love we had to settle down with our caregivers the less we settle down during our adulthood. My solution (for now) to raise my love bar is to keep whispering myself ‘I love myself’ This mantra changes my observation of the situation in daily life even with my physician instantly.

[@namamoon3416]

Wow it like you were talking to me all 4 of my marriage I had red flags thank you for your light you have helped guide me out of the darkness 🐛💚🦋

[@Apollyon.King.of.the.Locusts]

This concept actually describes quite accurately my broken up marriage. We were both living in an overlay reality, me and my ex. Fortunately, after the divorce we have been able to get into relatively good terms, so life is currently okay for me and I don't hate women. :)

[@cherryoctopi]

But what if you get off on being kitty and you're addicted. Comparability. You speak to my heart from one lost character in my youth. You connect with such fierceness. I know I learned some tough lessons out of our role playing and ignored my core. It turned out bruising me more than anything in my entire life. You just can't ignore the truth.

[@rachelwalcott]

Eventually could come sooner for me. I want clarity before it all falls apart. I am lonely. I don't have my vision yet. I want to see reality.

[@nathalie5238]

I needed this!Just wandering.... when and how can you assess when you are in the overlay or not? Just met someone! It is so intense! We both see our differences, we are so opposite to each other, still also drawn to each other. Discussing our differences, knowing with the head it is an impossible match, feeling we are just 1... Should we leave it here? Are we just drawn to the illusion we create?

[@starburst114411]

OK Next step: Tips on how to get the courage to start getting out of the overlay that you are aware you are currently living in. I've slowly been tip toeing out of my "overlay" but I'm not quite sure how to take the last steps out, and am definitely holding myself back from going there. Any advice on helping myself open up and build the confidence to take the plunge?

[@Diana-fz3gq]

so difficult to balance between red flags and thinking not everybody’s perfect. it’s so hard to discern these days good and bad people when everyone’s playing games just avoiding getting hurt. I wish I could trust when i feel great chemistry with others but i’ve been told that’s misleading too. just want to be my kind self and not have to hold back from people just to study them.

[@sandyshorewalker5364]

Teal you bring up some good points. I sometimes tend to be idealistic when choosing. I can see the potential for Overlay and its true self awareness can correct that too. Good video. Dear old Dad was a Overt Narcissist. He had some very enduring qualities I liked however much acceptance was needed in the relationship. My HEAVENLY Father is so different.

[@RachelHarvest]

you're my spirit animal! thank you teal