Tearing? Stitches? Postpartum Q&A

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[@drewboi107]

I’m so glad that your doctor was humble enough to redo your stitches. That’s such an admirable thing and you can just really see that she genuinely cared for you. :)

[@AC-iw5mv]

Yes really was surprised to hear this!!!

[@haleyshroll3901]

You'd think everyone would be that kind, but unfortunately not. My mom told me she was getting stitched up and the doctor left to go do something in the middle of the stitching, left her completely exposed and came back like 10 or 20 minutes later to finish 🤦‍♀️ she said he was actually pretty rude and didn't like him at all, not that I blame her.

[@MattandAbby]

TOTALLY! We really liked the doctor a lot!

[@letitbe7108]

@@MattandAbby you're blessed. To become a Doctor a massive ego is required and sadly it can cause one to be right or more important to not be wrong. Adding to the problem is the frivolous lawsuits and the result is fear of acknowledging a patients issues

[@karlarivas922]

Yess, my stitches opened up and they left my cut to heal on its own :( soo painful

[@laurynhoward7452]

I’m a postpartum nurse and I’m so glad you kept this conversation real and raw because some moms really don’t know what to expect. You all are awesome parents❤️

[@libs1843]

So happy baby griffin came healthy and happy! He’s blessed with the best possible parents anyone could want!🥳🥰

[@Not_eve894]

Ikr 🥰

[@ELSIEGLOVER-xb7jj]

@sumilangeun OMG YES SO COOL YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[@amalia.a]

Your parents after they read this: 😑 I’m just kidding pls don’t come after me guys….😂

[@ThePoutamo]

Almost, im def the best dad there is according to my kids 😍❤️🦕🦖

[@basketball4life-123]

Ditto

[@aliciaking1608]

Those contractions while your breastfeeding is your uterus going back to normal 😊 You guys are doing so awesome! Such loving parents ❤

[@kristennelson2480]

And breastfeeding makes it happen faster 🙂

[@chelseajones3640]

Yes! This is from the oxytocin released when you feed!

[@annnnnnnnnniaa]

Yep I was going to comment this, breastfeeding makes the uterus shrink back to original size faster and it feels like mild contractions or period pains.

[@justme1106]

Yup, first few days i had terrible cramping plus the baby sucking on my nipples 😭 it was the worst now i get them every now and then

[@MattandAbby]

You're the sweetest!

[@hannahmyers5267]

I am seven months pregnant right now and honestly I really appreciate how raw and detailed you guys are. This is my first baby and I’m freaking terrified of the birth. Getting a description of how thing feel and your experience helps so much with the anxiety.

[@isaMusa2023]

Yayyy i m 8 months preggy nd its mine #2nd Baby ❤❤ Best of Luck to Alllll mummmmy to be Love from Pakistan ❤

[@lizj1964]

Good luck Hannah!!!! Sending Love and Wishes!!!

[@tabi6635]

That was cute when Abby stated- "He's just learning how to exist!" You both make an adorable couple, thanks for sharing your journey with youtube.

[@glw2847]

Yayy! theyre back!!! obviously if u need to take time feel free! this time in ur life wont last forever so enjoy it!!! but its so fun for us to see you guys back and filming again:)))

[@yourmomshawty2409]

It was funny at the part we’re Abby was like “ have some more sips” lol

[@MattandAbby]

❤️❤️❤️

[@becomingthelocal]

@@MattandAbby is it for real y’all commenting for selected winners to message y’all on “nicegram” for crazy prizes like Mac book pros and iPhone 13s? Just making sure I’m not talking to a spammer lol !! PS love yallll and baby Griff!!

[@melodybennett3150]

and i also just want to say that thank u for just being genuine people and not scared to show ur true funny side on the internet u guys never fail to make me smile

[@rosemariec.5328]

I’m so proud of you Abby! Griffin is so cute 🥰 I’m also proud of you, Matt. It’s incredible how you were always there for Abby when she was in pain while in labor! Love y’all 🫶🏼

[@2957keo]

Single parenting is NOT easy. My baby girl is 8.5 months old now and I’ve been at alone since she was born but she seriously lights up my life more than I can even say!! Griffin is SO BLESSED to have both of you and your families! Love watching you guys!

[@ktco4119]

Abby is one of THE MOST inspirational People and is an amazing mum❤️

[@thedanielleallen]

it's so important for partners to check in with one another during massive changes like this & I feel like this Q&A is a great example of what that can look like, even though you're also sharing it with your audience!

[@herward1047]

Aww, you bring tears to my eyes listening to your honest and sometimes tough responses. Love to see the strength, honesty, and support in your relationship as husband and wife and in being active parents in your child's life. Blessings and prayers for your physical and mental health.

[@brennasimon6726]

Thank you for being honest about your birthing experience! More people need to talk about it honestly and stop pretending it’s simply the most beautiful thing on earth.

[@evakeay2843]

It's truly amazing how you guys can manage marriage, KZbin, and a new born baby! You both are so strong and baby Griffin is such a cutie! I am so happy for your family! ❤

[@kacpnut]

So happy that you’re back! Abby is so strong. You guys make great parents!

[@ChefEmma]

So happy you’re back and all are happy and healthy!! Baby Griffin is absolutely adorable(definitely baby Matt’s twin)! You are the most gorgeous new mama Abby!! Lots of love to you all during this season of new!

[@shanynrobbins1943]

I remember being offered a breastfeeding class (during my first pregnancy), and I literally laughed. I thought you just put the baby to the boob🤦‍♀️ I had NO IDEA how painful and difficult it was going to be, but I was determined to do it. I was so young but so worth it 🥰

[@AC-iw5mv]

Proud of you you did it!

[@shanynrobbins1943]

@@AC-iw5mv Aww thanks! I did it 2 more times after that 🥰

[@Barbara-hm5hz]

I found breast feeding very easy and a nice soothing bonding time! Nurses worked with me in hospital to make sure he was latching properly because that makes a big difference. However, pregnancy, oh my gosh, felt sick for 9 months.

[@danaschreiner3334]

That's wonderful to hear! I hope to breastfeed but people can be really unprepared for it!

[@JayyandAbby]

WE’VE MISSED YALL!! HOPE THE PARENT LIFE IS GOING GOOD ❤️

[@Polina_Lapteva]

It's only been a month and Abby is already pretty much back to looking perfectly fit and amazing 😱❤️

[@Marlorae]

Been waiting for the update video, so lovely to see you both. I know eventually we'll get to to see more of Griffin but of course understand you want to preserve your privacy and enjoy these first times with him when he's so tiny and delicate. So thrilled for you both!

[@vialowe]

I love that they're still the same, genuine, honest people. So happy to have you back 💕 Take time off whenever you need, we understand and support you both all the way xx

[@rekaking8829]

You two are so cute. Matt’s words of affirmations were everything. Love you guys ❤️

[@klipz9166]

It is amazing to share this journey with you and everyone. I cannot wait to be part of it as baby Griffin grows up! I love you guys so much! *Great Video!* I hope you guys have a good life and future ahead of you!

[@mochi2673]

Hi guys! I’m so happy you guys are all better and I can’t wait to see more baby content!❤️❤️❤️

[@urlocalfrog5349]

You guys are great parents! Abby looks amazing after a month of being in labor! Love you guys❤️❤️❤️

[@amyjimenez3913]

Congratulations Matt and Abby!! He’s adorable and you guys are amazing parents!!! Sends love and prayers!!

[@amynanos7756]

You guys are amazing. I come from a medical family and the information you’re sharing is so important and things people would never know unless hearing first hand from others. It’s the little, REAL thing people don’t know what to expect… you guys are brilliant

[@caseysaltzburg1063]

You can tell how much of a mama bear you have become, Abby! My firstborn just turned three months old and the mama bear instinct is crazy. So happy you are all healthy and happy 🥰

[@luv43mma]

you guys are back! congratulations on baby griffin, he is adorable! you guys are going to be the best parents ❤️ love y'all

[@itskaylee]

Y’all are such a cute family, Griffin is so lucky to have you two as parents 🥰

[@songsloth315]

You guys are so hilarious and cute! I love when Matt was like “GIMME SOME MILK” and Abby was just like “That would be creepy…”

[@eIoisecIaire]

LOVE YALL SO MUCH! Griffin is such a cute boy! Y’all are going to be great parents!! 💖

[@emacey95]

So glad your doing well and adjusting to life with ur son, I had my 1st baby at 19 I had her natural no pain relief and had stitches too and my 2nd baby at 21 natural no pain relief again and no stitches. I'm also a single mom and raised them on my own, it so nice to see you working together enjoy your time with him and don't forget your marriage too date night once a week much love and God bless you all ❤❤😘😘🙏🙏

[@JustJenn2000]

I was 19 with first and 20 with second! Same details!!

[@alexandraalbertz1442]

Date night once a week with children at home is an illusion

[@serenity__elise]

11:28 “babies can heal themselves super fast.” Almost like they are designed that way❤️

[@sydneymartell7744]

Baby Griffin is so perfect and I love how Abby just goes like straight to the point she’s not scared to say it

[@ESE33]

I'm going through a tough spot on the relationship front right now and dealing with heartbreak. Seeing you two and how happy and in love you are makes me feel happy because I know some day I'll get to have that, too. It's a great comfort to me right now, when not much else is

[@the0ghost069]

Hang in there. It will get better for you. God bless you.

[@lindseydaly3966]

You got this

[@shivanibindu8311]

Remember this shall paas too.. You are very strong

[@T7d534]

So sorry, hope u feel better soon. Wish u the best💗

[@Kavita_826]

The way Matt was during labour was amazing, what a great husband you have. Congratulations on the birth of your baby 👶💖

[@karinafifita24]

So happy you all are healthy and happy! You guys are amazing!! Griffin is so blessed to Have you both!! Love you MATT&ABBY❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jeng1731]

i am not a parent but i really recommend looking into teaching your baby some sign language !! I know griffin is still young but introducing him early is never bad and it’s so incredible how kids can communicate w sign before they can even speak !!

[@raynethetrain185]

Abby you look absolutely gorgeous! You have such a cute baby boy! I can’t wait to see him grow up so loved!

[@ivygold923]

You do realise Matt and Abby are making money off their child by posting his videos all over the internet! They are brain-dead to come up with original content! Do you think this is right????

[@makaylanorell2502]

@@ivygold923 Gurl. Stop being that one hater, they didn't have a baby for youtube its a new addition to their lives.

[@robertdelaria3512]

@@ivygold923 my we sound petty!! You must have a miserable life if you have to bring NEGATIVE energy into life! Is your name KAREN??😂

[@ivygold923]

@@robertdelaria3512 if you were that child, would you be comfortable with your videos all over the internet without even your consent? Just so that your father didn't have to work for a living!

[@joycedominguez1828]

@@ivygold923 but yet you're here

[@_commenter]

It was great to hear from y’all!!! Glad everything is going well and your always in my prayers! Love y’all💗💗💗

[@angelmurillo5007]

You felt contractions while breast feeding because breastfeeding helps shrink your uterus back to pre-pregnancy size faster ! It also brings you back to pre-pregnancy weight quicker too! Just learned this in nursing school:)

[@mamatae1113]

YAY!!!!! Welcome back you guys! Parenthood suites you so well and I’m so happy for your little family ❤️

[@Rhiles44]

That’s so true about how being parents is a young man’s game. My husband and I had our first at 28 and 30 and we were so exhausted. I also totally tuned my husband out completely during delivery. He literally sounded like the Charlie Brown teacher to me. I also literally felt nothing when I was pushing. It felt like I was pushing nothing out and just pushing into the void. Newborns are the best. They sleep so good. At 9 months to a year though ish gets real. I suffered so much from body image after pregnancy tbh. Even a year later I’m still suffering from body image and still can’t fit into all my clothes. I really wish I could say it gets easier from here but it doesn’t lol. My daughter is 13 months and she needs constant supervision! Just strap in you guys cuz it gets bumpy.

[@kendradoty]

Double Fisting 😂 I love how innocent Abby is. So happy you guys are back and everything seems to be going pretty well.

[@christaltilley8342]

Matt's immediate reaction to almost spit out the smoothie too!!😂😂😂 like did you really?!

[@billiebuffalo]

Double fisting is both clean and extremely vulgar depending on context. Holding a drink in each hand is called double fisting. On the other hand, sticking two hands into...

[@ellabouwman]

@@billiebuffalo wait what is double fishing😂😭😭i’m innocent

[@emilylandry1380]

Thank you for all that you share! I was pregnant with twins due around the same time as you. your channel has been an amazing support for me, it feels a little less lonely knowing that the experience and emotions that you’re both feeling are similar to ours.

[@neeka8080]

I am a single mom and I was blessed during and after my pregnancy. My parents had me to move in with them and helped me from beginning to the end and I was extremely grateful for that.

[@emmacarroll8105]

you guys are such awesome parents! griffin is so cute! love your cute little family!❤️❤️

[@melaniepeters4744]

Everything you share is helping someone else. Your openness & honesty is great. You guys are awesome parents.

[@HarsimranMaan-ei2sx]

I am just 17 and want to be a mother i love childrensssssss❤😂

[@reahoop]

Missed you guys so much! But so so happy y’all are getting to fully enjoy this next chapter in y’all’s lives. 💛💛💛

[@proofofmyexistence7870]

I hope you guys don’t rush back into working, I hope you’re enjoying the ups and the downs, and appreciating how little Griffin is, and continue to love and support another. Proud of you both. We love you guys.

[@annamorris5064]

women are so strong! congrats on the baby, griffin is adorable!! 🎉

[@taylorsolomon917]

So incredibly excited for you guys. Little man is so cute!

[@christangillespie641]

I can’t tell you how excited I get to see you post. You both bring such real, raw, positive energy into the world. It gets easier. You won’t be tired forever!

[@FrankeeJ20]

So glad to see you guys back 💙 your honesty about the ‘real and raw’ topics is really refreshing! Please don’t rush to come back, we will still be here :) x

[@stephanierincon5799]

Clicked on the video as soon as I got the notification! Glad you guys are back and baby is doing well!💗

[@rando2695]

I’m so so happy that y’all are back and can’t wait for the baby vlogs!!! Y’all are the best! So is Griffin 😊

[@jackg122slay]

I love this! The fact that you pushed for 23 MINUETS LIKE THATS ALONG TIME It good to hear from you guys! You guys are such great parents!

[@tequilabarber9810]

I'm a single mom to my now 11 year old son who has autism. It is tough some days but rewarding everyday. I'm so glad yall ha e a happy, healthy strong marriage and are able to raise your boy together. They grow so fast so cherish every single moment.

[@rachelparkinson173]

Stool softeners are a KEY part of after birth! I'm a 3x c-section mama and With each one I've learned more and more tricks to help me recover faster. The top one being to keep taking them as if they are you important vitamins, antibiotics or pain meds! I tried to convince my SIL to do this and she didn't listen and she ended up back in the hospital. Sorry rant over lol hope this helps someone :)

[@diyagandhi5650]

I’m so happy that you guys are doing well!! Griffen is the happiest baby with the best parents he could ever wish for. ❤️

[@carleymoore2932]

It's an encouragement to see a more petite woman have a baby naturally. I've always been afraid of carrying a baby and trying to deliver because I am on the smaller side. You're a beast Abby!

[@armandmarx2004]

Glad to see you guys are back we missed you guys

[@RainyRoth]

Griffin presented with a shoulder dystocia….one of the scariest complications in childbirth. Many babies die from getting stuck. When I watched the birth video, I knew exactly what was happening and held by breath and prayed. I’m a doula and I’ve seen it before.

[@lynettehiivala4676]

i’m so glad you have you back!!❤️❤️ congratulations!! so happy for you guys 🥰🥰

[@thefantastic4979]

Love you guys so much even just seeing the notification of an upload it makes me so happy!❤️❤️❤️ you guys are amazing parents!❤️❤️❤️ Griff is the cutest baby ever!❤️❤️❤️

[@arwynedwards1451]

I’m so glad y’all are back to regular scheduled programming lol. I love you guys and I’m so glad everyone’s health and happy! ❤️

[@isabellalacy9901]

Loves this so much and I love this content so much! Thank y'all for always being such an inspiration! I hope you, Abby, and Griffin are doing well! Ilysm

[@haleyknipfel7113]

I love how after Abby said "Double Fisting" Matt just breaks out laughing! Your family is so cute. One of your guys biggest fans

[@emmatacc_]

you guys are doing so well! Abby is indeed strong and did incredible during her birth, Matt you are so encouraging and motivating to her🥹❤️

[@RynnaSadie]

I love the breastfeeding question. I will say as a momma of two, I’ve never experienced contractions from breastfeeding oddly enough. Maybe I did and didn’t realize it. So glad you’re doing so good!

[@kathleenclark815]

Being young parents is awesome! My husband and I were 18 and 20 when my daughter was born. By the time I was 26 we had 3 kids. Then we had one 9 years after that too! But now I'm only 49 with 2 grandbabies and two more on the way! So you get to be a young grandparent! 💜

[@the0ghost069]

Aww congratulations on the grand babies. That's what I'm waiting on now. One day soon I hope. God bless you all.

[@camryl13]

I would have want to have a baby at a younger age but I didn't meet my husband until I was 26 and did not get pregnant until I was 30 and the 2nd one at 35. The energy level is so much different that I decided to not have one anymore.

[@Isabelle24]

I remember coming home with my little girl and my husband had to go back to work. He walked out the door and I looked down at her in her swing and thought, "Holy moly I am soley responsible for keeping this little one alive and healthy." 🤣 Definitely quite the experience being a new parent. So glad to see you two are doing good! God bless!

[@michelles.7804]

Awwww it’s so good to hear the update. So glad y’all are both recovering well and baby Griffin is doing so well! Thanks for answering all of the questions. It is so great to hear these things as I prepare to be a mother one day

[@madelynrowe]

So happy to see you guys back, and congrats on baby griffin 💕 There’s going to be good and bad days as being parents, but everyday will bring new blessings. I’ve been a single parent to my twin boys for 4 years now.

[@coolcat6708]

Hii I love your channel I’m so glad you’re back! And so glad everybody is doing well ❤️

[@aligazaway6284]

So so happy y’all are back

[@kimberleyhanlon1492]

I’m sure you’ve helped so many people having children Honesty and then your own experience Thanks for sharing your journey ! You guys are the best

[@fgabrielle3399]

I took care of my son for the first month alone. It was hard. I never thought I’d want another baby but now i do. Just graduated as a registered nurse and i love watching you guys grow! ❤️

[@Volleyball_nora]

It’s nice to see you guys back at vloging! 😊

[@Iheartbooks4321]

I can’t wait for more vlogs about griffin! He’s adorable!

[@soniarojo4252]

And yes I definitely agree that he’ll be a sweet baby. I’m a cancer myself and that’s one huge thing about us, is we’re sweet and kind people!

[@bayleenitafan2013]

I love how much you both love each other and just enjoy each other’s company!!

[@macynolte4661]

so proud of you two ❤️ congrats on you’re new little one!

[@Meauka]

Thank you Abby for talking about your stitches and the tearing... I gave birth to my first child in december 2022 and I had an episiotomy, which was something I was really scared of... I also felt almost everything when the doctor did the stitches. Then I kinda had an allergic reaction to the stitches and it made the healing process really long and painful. The first week / 10 days postpartum, I cried almost every day because of the pain, I couldn't barely walk or sit. And I felt so alone, because nobody talk about this... Now thankfully I recovered and I feel way better :)

[@sophiegoodwin264]

You are both such amazing parents. I love how open you are with the subjects that you talk about

[@Victoriav99]

I’m 22 due with my baby girl on Christmas Eve and I can’t wait to meet her. I’m terrified of the epidural and was thinking about going natural for lots of reasons but this Q&A helped with a couple questions I had. Congratulations on your baby boy Griffin!!

[@random.editxz]

Omg, I'm so sorry I'm late! I love you guys so much and I know that griffin is going to have a great future! Love you guys :)

[@isabellasmith7715]

Congrats, I loved watching you guys through your journey

[@justanotherlawstudent17]

This was soooo informative … the whole body issue talk bit to me was so important to hear I’m 15 weeks pregnant and feel like I needed to hear that as my body changes

[@Girlxballerxicebox]

God bless this beautiful family. I pray that all goes well with the new dude! I admire how strong Abby is and how encouraging Matt is! Much love! ❤️😊

[@pagespayd5812]

I love how real and raw you guys are!! So amazing that you could share your experience with us! 💞

[@lilackey]

Honest dudes, Q&A straight to the point, just Abby & Matt as we always knew them PLUS Griffin changing/enriching/challenging everything around. Classics of every parents' daily life 👶🍼 Lots of strenght & Love to the young parents!!!!

[@twistedhearts96]

WELCOME BACK I MISSED YOU GUYS SO MUCH ! 🫶🏼 ❤️💙💙

[@Can_I_Help_You]

I’m so happy u guys have this son he is so cute I hope ur super happy Abby has went through so much pain to have this amazing child Matt I hope u and Abby love griffin more then anything

[@caleighpowell2989]

I’m so excited for y’all and how far y’all have came in this I can’t wait to watch y’all’s baby grow older and older

[@pamthompson3812]

Good having you back. It's hard but as you've seen, it changes by the minute.

[@amandacontreras5467]

So glad you guys are having such great experiences as parents 💕 and I’m not sure if anyone told you yet but Abby that pain is your uterus going back to normal, when the baby breastfeeds it actually stimulates this to happen, I remember that feeling 😬 I was like “wait, I already pushed this baby out! What’s this new pain?!?!” 🤣

[@ManuelaMontemayor]

Awww I’m truly so happy for you guys!! ❤️ you guys! Can’t wait to see sweet baby griffin