Tell Them You Love Me (trailer)

[@SkinE-Vadee-Veechee]

So she cheated on her husband, betrayed her educational authority and made an already disabled man struggle with himself. This lady isnt just mentally disturbed she is full blown disgusting. I pray the mom and Derrick find peace for the remainder of their life in this sick World.

[@jenneacubero1036]

She's Mary Letourneau 2.0.

[@NewBlooom]

Wait, she raped him??

[@trayrite4040]

Her mom as well. It's probably a learned behavior

[@computerpro123abc]

Yes an upper class white woman fell in love with an ugly profoundly disabled black man. Both his family and the police thought as well as this video MAKER that she must be a psycho!! How could an upper class ATTRACTIVE WHITE woman want to marry or take care of this BLACK disabled man!!! YES HE WAS 30 NOT 13!!! THIS VIDEO, THE BLACK FAMILY, AND THE POLICE ARE SHOWING THEIR RACISM AND BIAS TOWARD THE DISABLED. THIS BLACK MAN ATTENDED CLASSES, READ BOOKS AND HAD A LOVE AFFAIR. NOW THANKS TO HIS FAMILY HE IS AN ISOLATED ZOMBIE ON DRUGS. TO ME IT SEEMS THAT THE FAMILY SAW A QUICK BUCK IN A LAWSUIT AGAINST THE COLLEGE AND THE CHANCE TO RUIN HIS LIFE AND HER LIFE. LIKE THE MERCHANT OF VENICE THE FAMILY, POLICE AND SCHOOL GOT THEIR POUND OF FLESH. NOW WHEN HIS FAMILY DOES NOT WANT TO DEAL WITH HIM, HE WILL WIND UP IN A GROUP HOME WASTING AWAY. EVEN IF FACILITATED COMMUNICATION IS FAKE, IT BENEFITS THE PATIENT, SINCE THE FACILITATOR HAS TO BELIEVE THEY ARE HELPING THE PERSON AND SPENDING HOURS DOING IT. DO NOT TELL ME OR ANYONE THAT THE ATTN GIVEN THE DISABLED PERSON IS IN IT SELF THERAPEUTIC. SENDING JOHN(NOW 40 YR OLD) OFF TO DAY CARE DOES NOT REPLACE THE RELATIONSHIP HE HAD WITH HIS GIRL FRIEND.

[@samismith8752]

Imagine being that dude's husband. You find out your wife cheated and wants to leave you. That’s bad enough. Then you find out with whom. Hoo boy what a blow to the ol' ego.

[@Melinda-f3l]

She has convinced herself this was mutual. The way she treated his mother alerted his brother quickly. His brother was such an advocate for him that it is a shame this unscrupulous woman took advantage.

[@felixflatterer6646]

you forgot the detail that in the end bro and mom basically presented him as a vegetable to try a four million dollar moneygrab?

[@keytowomanhood506]

And she presented herself a sane person for a booty grab so what's your point?

[@brianal7143]

I gave the utmost respect for his family. They really spent their lives advocating for Dman. Their love for him is very evident in this documentary

[@xxGabriellaxx100]

She knows fine rightly what she did but perpetuates the lie because she would have to admit to the world that shes a monster.

[@t.w.8174]

What bothers me the most is how calm and matter-of-fact Anna is in reciting the events. It’s a sick attempt to normalize her behavior in the eyes of the listener. Her intermittent smiles and seemingly gentle nature are all a very skillful act. What a manipulative woman.

[@NFSDC2024]

Yes but in the beginning of the doc, it said all of the writing/typing they used was from the keyboard. So where was the typing of the words she claimed he typed? Like "kiss me and kiss me again?" Did they not show that because he never typed it? Made her look guilty af.

[@esotericenigmamelaninshe1253]

She actually believes what she was saying and actually got other people to believe it also that was kinda mind blowing to me

[@thepostaldude2217]

Yeah, thats because Anna didn't do anything wrong. The parents only didn't want her to be with him because they don't want to miss out on the disability pay checks

[@mrs.hopson9426]

It’s called a wolf in sheep clothing. She comes across very intelligent and normal but she is not.

[@mrs.hopson9426]

What got me is when the doctor at the end said she was having a conversation with herself because it wasn’t with him 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@NinjaZRosegurl]

She was in a professional relationship and breached ethics crossing over into a physical relationship. She should have lost her credentials never been allowed to work with differently able people again.

[@1mrsbry]

Or children! She should be a on the list as a predator! She sexually abused that man! The fact that she hasn’t been rehabilitated and is on the streets is wicked work!

[@aeromedical6776]

Exactly. Let’s say for the sake of argument that everything he typed out were his thoughts and words. She still had the responsibility of maintaining a professional distance from him. If she couldn’t, then she should have reposed herself from being his practitioner. Once she crossed that line, she was in the wrong.

[@jhiselebardot]

And let’s not forget she had a whole husband and kids at home. SMH she cheating on her husband while taking advantage of a disabled person. Then don’t get me started about her own mother smh. That’s lady sick too.

[@betterworld2958]

@@aeromedical6776 Sw here. This was my first thought too.

[@ryanalexander3832]

@@aeromedical6776very good point.

[@orlandoloney9017]

The level of delusion is scary. After all these years, she's still delusional.

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

White women privilege

[@gwenniewennie8325]

I knew nothing about the case, I lbelieve disable individuals are capable of love, I have multiple sclerosis, so I went into the documentary very open minded. The moment I saw Anna speak I knew she was guilty. I didnt need to see the rest of the documentary.

[@qusmable]

I do think she is delusional, but she is also a narcissist- you can tell by her lack of guilt & the way she structures everything around her. She is also lying. In prison you basically learn how to lie convincingly.

[@angelh6345]

It's creepy to see her smiling with no remorse. And the people describing her like she's a saint

[@Mayfloweralways]

@@qusmable i got that feeling, too. Everything was about how everyone else missed how smart he was and she was more brilliant than all of these professionals and could see this true genius. Never once did she show concern for anyone- not even her kids or husband. Her only concern was herself and what she wanted. Narcissists ultimately want control. She ultimately wanted to remove Derrick from the family to have that control.

[@Mayfloweralways]

I watched this and the person who was completely objective showed that Derrick could not even identify a spoon. I think she wanted to be a savior so much that she did actually believe he typed things, not her. So she actually fell in love with herself.

[@SueSewManic]

Bingo

[@christiname27]

Spot on!

[@mariposaguey7657]

She built her “perfect man”

[@sophiepomerleau708]

And the fact that he knew how to write so much word !!!

[@PYrellalove]

Her ex-husband said she is a pathological liar and narcissist!

[@Madenthewest]

One of the craziest things in this doc was when big brother and mom notices the red bruises on his back. He said that she was putting so much force on him! 🤯 Can you imagine what went on behind closed doors! The deviant things she did to him!

[@CHANNEL__ZER0]

That part was absolutely heartbreaking. This poor excuse for a woman is absolute trash.

[@BENJAMINTARVER-k7e]

she was riding him? i could tell right away she was crazy. i bet she has good ….though.

[@niwe3631]

Sick

[@gabrielle916]

Right! Then the mom said he couldn't control not mbating after she did this to him. Smh

[@misssjustice3791]

​@@gabrielle916It's so sad because children can display that same behavior after abuse.

[@Cleverlady282]

I feel bad for Derricks mother and brother. Derrick’s brother was exceptionally devoted to his brother and I could feel his pain coming thru the screen!!!

[@Mimi89_7]

Yes very sick and sad the brother looks a lot like Michael Jai White

[@brianal7143]

@@Mimi89_7he does! I thought the same thing 😅

[@thepostaldude2217]

His mother and brother are full of shit. They just didn't want to let him go so they could keep the disability pay checks

[@NinjaZRosegurl]

This woman thought she was so much smarter than everyone else. On top of all that she never got his name right. He asked her to call him D-Man not D'Man there is a difference if she was actually listening to him and his family and not her own inner fantasies. Wow!

[@Mayfloweralways]

The name thing was so annoying to me. It’s not that hard to say D-man. But she just would not. It’s like she thought D’man sounded more sophisticated. It annoyed me to no end.

[@AriFzProudBW-90sbby]

every time she said his name I kept saying she doesnt give a fuck but said it right only once when repeating the mother DISGUSTING VILE YT WOMAN

[@sibutler9497]

Thank you

[@Madenthewest]

Omg! It was so annoying!

[@everydayfefe]

GIRL!!! I was yelling at the screen…it’s D-Man!!!!

[@1mrsbry]

This was insane! The fact she says he does one thing but he doesn’t do any of it where he spends most of his time, with his family and at school!

[@AndreinaJ]

She's the definition of distorted reality. She is absolutely delusional .Even if he got better at communicating with the device , there was no way this was a real relationship. She needs to be locked up.

[@dshanea1024]

That was all in her head

[@AndreinaJ]

@@dshanea1024 I just can't believe she's out 🙄

[@Mr.woman_lover]

Well he did ask her to strip and spread her legs. So how is really at fault here?

[@JessBeautyJunkie]

Saying she's delusional takes her off the hook b/c that means she's disconnected from reality in some way. She isn't. Rather, she's a predator and a malignant narcissist. She needs to be removed from society, locked in a prison cell and have the key thrown away. Signed, a mental health therapist with 14 yrs experience in private practice.

[@simoneh8464]

This woman is insane

[@qusmable]

Quite literally.

[@Mr.woman_lover]

Not as insane as all those people taking african american studies courses

[@thepostaldude2217]

Is is not. Not in the slightest. The mother and brother definitely are

[@coffeeeloverfree7309]

Please lock her up!!!! I am so upset that she’s not under the jail for doing what she did. I teach children and we must protect them from abuse!

[@esotericenigmamelaninshe1253]

Yup this is exactly what white privilege looks like

[@rcai3262]

In the beginning I thought he could really communicate. She was married, with kids. Narcissist schizophrenic, she was writing to herself. I wonder if she was a man abusing a disabled girl, he could’ve be in jail for life.

[@streetracer1o124]

I thought that too that’s why omg soooo shocked esp after they showed the girl like him used same keyboard went to college did communicate😱like what did I just watch😱

[@Kenny-jz9dh]

If she was a man? 100% going to prison for life! At the very least, +25 yrs 💯💯💯

[@armandoacevedo6978]

K-A-R-E-N

[@Afmedic85]

The pussy pass is real, I'm a woman and can admit that. I've seen it first hand

[@misssjustice3791]

That girl was autistic and I don't know a lot about them but they are some very intelligent ones and some who aren't. This man was severely intellectually disabled not just slow.

[@princesadedios5690]

That’s a sick woman. I am so glad Derrick has such a wonderful and amazing, loving mother and brother that care and advocate for him. Unfortunately that is not the case for many disabled persons. Anyone so innocent and vulnerable deserves our respect and care not to be abused and taken advantage of. That woman is a very sick individual. Still is apparently.

[@Aniyunwiya-NC]

The way she smiled throughout the entire documentary was nauseating. It made her come across as what she did was no big deal and that she was privileged. She tried to remove him from his home so he could get his own place, knowing full well that he wasn't the one really communicating, but it was her communicating her own thoughts. She shouldn't even be walking around here free with her crazy af arse

[@thepostaldude2217]

Well, shes in the right so why wouldn't she? The family are totally full of shit. They just don't want to lose the disability payments

[@lynnkayee1015]

She reminds me of Mary Kay Letourneau. The smiling, the savior complex, taking advantage of being a teacher and of someone who is (practically) a child.

[@mylesthered3614]

When she said he seduced me too it reminded me a lot of Mary Kay Letourneau who had a relationship with a 12 yr old when she was 34. Classic case of manipulation

[@3ama4life]

A non-verbal man who just recently learned how to communicate SEDUCED her??? Wow!!!!

[@kuselwa6715]

I couldn't finish it... I've seen some things but this one did a number on me. I'm speechless actually. Wow!

[@jhiselebardot]

For real! I had to see it to the end cuz wow! It’s crazy how the brother contacted her to just see if she could see if he could communicate with them to her enrolling him in colllege courses, going on outings together, being alone together, to her having her way with him. SMH like if my sibling was diagnosed with SEVERE MENTAL RETARDATION I’m gonna step in and dead her taking him to college and anything else that he wouldn’t really benefit from due to his diagnosis. She was there to help him communicate not become a damn scholar. They allowed her to do a lot honestly

[@t.w.8174]

I had trouble sleeping after watching it

[@angelh6345]

This is a hard watch I agree 😢

[@esotericenigmamelaninshe1253]

What’s getting to me is the amount of her own people who are actually defending this mess

[@brianal7143]

@@esotericenigmamelaninshe1253they never want the blame on them when the victim is a POC. She was and still is sick in the head.

[@amandamaree]

She said she’s fascinated by disability. It sounded like a fetish. As someone with a physical disability I learned people have specific fetishes for physical and intellectual disability like anything else. Grosses me out but I met my husband before I became disabled so I never had to deal with it but most people don’t know it’s a thing.

[@mrs.hopson9426]

Girl it’s so many sick fetishes that I’m constantly hearing about! At this point it’s just sick.

[@Parahount]

They are kid, hardly 5-10 age imagine they can’t express themselves and someone doing stuff to them ewws 🤮🤮 that is crazy

[@traveltm]

I don’t assume stupid if non verbal. What does seem obvious to me is how on earth able to start using key board to communicate when never taught to use one or even to read or write?

[@crayCray420]

and then all of a sudden they can take college level classes. she is a full predator

[@xoxoxoxoxii]

Exactly did anyone ever teach him the alphabet?

[@solomoon3083]

Fkn hell. Each comment I read just makes me shiver even more.

[@dimelachae3463]

This is the real question because they go to school or a version of school and I understand they are being taught things esp communication but not to an extent of writing college level reading and writing books. The only part I’m stumped is the other person who did the facilitation with him for his papers and her saying all she did was hold his hand and she knew nothing about the assignments beforehand..

[@solomoon3083]

@@dimelachae3463 I think that it is theorized that she was in cohorts. But yes, that one point is rather important.

[@algiethomas6905]

This Is One Of The Wildest & Sickest Documentaries I Have Ever Seen In My Life

[@awaiting5078]

IDK what is wrong with me but I watched a good 45 minutes of this like OMG she opened up his world she is amazing and then....

[@MinnieY502]

Same!! 😂😂😂😂

[@MiggieJean]

😂

[@mscoco7119]

Me too 😮

[@LeahJames616]

There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re probably just an optimist and wanted to believe. Just like Derricks family

[@CindyPineda-sl2ol]

It’s called production. That’s how it was supposed to go..

[@cathysams8949]

I just watched this show, and if I could reach through the screen; she would be DONE!! She took advantage of him, and a t.v. show paints her as a savior. She should have spent all 24 years in jail. This world is sick

yesssssssss

[@bhikkhu]

"and a t.v. show paints her as a savior." Really?! I'm not sure we watched the same show.

[@SkinE-Vadee-Veechee]

A savior? No she reached out to Netflix so she had the show biased. They minimized the severity of it all but it wasn't hard to see past her BS if you paid any attention. What she did completely explains who she truly is.

[@Analymous]

I did not think the documentary painted her as a savior at all. Did you watch it in its entirety?

[@AnaDiaz-wz4cf]

Even 24 years would not have been enough!! She should've stayed locked up, at least in a psych ward.

[@Groovy_Bruce]

Watching this mess right now. What a horror show. After telling the family about their “relationship,” the brother walks away because he is “anger and rage filled.” Of course man, that’s your kid brother and she is sexually assaulting him. This situation is horrifying I don’t know what else to say about it.

[@calvthomas6153]

This is insane! If this were turned into a movie, I could see Anne Hathaway playing this woman. She kind of looks like her with a short haircut.

[@AriFzProudBW-90sbby]

@@riojordan3659 why would you want this disgusting shiiiit turned into another movie with nonchalant non gaf yt people? do you understand the shit this family went true! Yall are just as sick to think like this! They wanted their story told not mocked by pretenders in entertainment ! SICKKK God Bless & do better

[@user-ok5ez1ls1k]

Anne wouldn’t want those demons taking over her body

[@lexizahra]

Agreed but I don’t think Anne would even want to play that role.

[@Mehki227]

Yes the entire time I was looking at her I was unconsciously thinking Anne Hathaway!

[@therealestatetrapqueen8888]

Anne Hathway and Jamie fox! Lol

[@ginastar5991]

She on that shit

[@rosalynnartis2404]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀

[@alicianichole2507]

Gotta be 😂😂😂😂

[@vickie1999]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@mak5167]

My Goodness, this documentary f*cked me up....

[@HolyProphetJC]

😂

[@eveheart2876]

😂 😂 I was like “what in the world ?”

[@eveheart2876]

Especially when she talked about , they got intimate smh 🤦

[@sophiepomerleau708]

For me it’s when John talk about the mark on his brother’s back …

[@sandirainwater6258]

You should watch the movie Pumpkin

[@beautifulbest8139]

When that bih said he’s the most important person in my life and I’m the most important person in his,I lost it. Because she has children and his mom is his world.

[@CHANNEL__ZER0]

Just watched this on Netflix last night. This woman is an ABSOLUTE loon! I’m surprised this case hasn’t been covered more

[@joyslove3858]

Lol

[@kbr1064]

I just finished watching the movie oh my God was that ever sick. She really was in La La Land. There is no way he gave consent for that. She should have stayed in jail longer. I’m shocked she got out after two years.

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

White woman privilege at its finest

[@kendraphic]

Of course she only did 2 years years, she’s a Yt woman

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

@@kendraphic the author keep taking down my comment, its all facts! I worked for DOC and white women get a slap on their wrist for killing not one but two or three husbands SMH get parole and the whole nine

[@MH-hy2ot]

White woman privilege

[@heathab...._-_]

​@@kendraphicexactly

[@agricolaregs]

Here’s the twist. Dman can communicate and understand complex thought. After their liaison, he wanted to break up but couldn’t. So he tanks the independent evaluation on purpose to have her sent to prison. That’s kind of the ending I want. Just for the way she pronounces his name.

[@SpicyNuggs562]

Lol! Nice.

[@joyslove3858]

ROFL nice 👍

[@cameltoast]

"Dhman"

[@jeffreyemilz]

This is amazing

[@daboyd228x]

roles reverse, a guy and a disabled girl...... that dude isn't getting out in 2 fucking years. how disgusting. she should still be locked up.

[@K.D-Gaia]

True

[@dshanea1024]

Yes, so sick

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

💯 also white women privileged

[@Baltaemore]

🎯 Yup!!! What you said !!! That is crazy to me

[@dshanea1024]

Or if races were reversed. The justice system is failing

[@davidpayakovich631]

She literally used that dude like a Ouija Board.

[@Carl55_jc]

Exactly. The whole thing is phony.

[@thepostaldude2217]

No, she did not

[@flowerchild9815]

At the end of the doc they described how he had bruises on his back from her assaulting him. She rap*d him on her office floor so aggressively that he had literal BRUISES on his back 😐

[@steroe7965]

Surely he has to be aroused for her to do that to him. I know full well I'd not be able to get it up if I was being forced and didn't feel aroused

[@johngeraldbernard5813]

😢

[@Neis757]

yikes

[@jeffreyemilz]

Awful

[@MyAccountForCommenting]

"Strawberries." It doesn't take much rubbing your back against a rubber mat to have that effect.

[@Cleverlady282]

A Big Red Flag for me was when Derrick’s brother said that she turned off the gospel music when they were riding in the car and switched to classical music. Guilty conscious!!!

[@agricolaregs]

That’s just her uppitness.

[@marr6878]

Right and I'm not religious but I said naw she over doing it now

[@TotallyTammyXOXO]

Shows how controlling and manipulative she is…she abused him! She is disgusting!

[@jupiterlight7610]

i hated that part. i can't imagine changing the music in someone else's car without asking.

[@kais7485]

Right !!! She has an evil spirit in her to do what she did and the gospel music disrupted that for her… she still thinks she did nothing wrong !!! Its evil and demonic- its deeper than a physical aspect when dealing with ppl like her

[@Knizzle28]

That lady is absolutely sick. She victimized him and left him forever changed. All because she wanted to enact control over someone’s life.

[@LeahJames616]

That’s what stuck with me too. What his mom said about having to put him on medication because he was basically violently masturbating made me sad. He has the mentality of a baby. It’s like she infected him with her dirty sexual nature.

[@huskylover8167]

he cant even conceptualize and learn to cope with the change because of how much he struggles with delays. She forever hurt him and he will probably never fully recover.

[@Juniper122]

As the niece of a vulnerable adult who is surrounded by love, just like Derek was surrounded by love of his brother and his mom, this movie made me want to throw chairs. Anna is such an absolute malignant narcissist with absolutely no remorse for raping a person. Unbelievably crazy movie.

[@thepostaldude2217]

Nah, the family in this case are full of shit. They just don't want to lose the disability pay checks

[@clannad87]

@@thepostaldude2217you must be related to Anna Stubblefield 😵‍💫

[@thepostaldude2217]

i am not. I'm just based and correct in this particular instance💀

[@Discovery.2100]

Anna was talking to her self basically she put a face and a body to her thoughts

[@davidrele]

I watched it, this woman is clearly very ill mentally possibly combined with some kind of dark personalty.

[@elohim660]

SHE'S EVIL

[@eveheart2876]

I’m glad u said it. I’m almost done watching the documentary.

[@eveheart2876]

Is crazy when she talked about the MaT and how make love smh 🤦

[@Madenthewest]

It wasn’t that serious. I think if he was happy with her so what, she didn’t mean any harm to him. Edit: Nevermind! Just made it thru the full documentary!

[@Bob-kk2vg]

@@Madenthewest Does that mean a human having receptive intercourse with an animal is ok because the animal is “happy” satisfying a primal urge even though the animal doesn’t have to ability to understand or consent? (I hate to use this analogy because Derrick isn’t an animal, he’s a human being it’s just any other analogy would be even more grotesque).

[@lgslgs4074]

I just watched it she clearly took advantage of him for the question of him going to college it was paid on the program based on his assistant statements

[@purusnela]

I just watched this! Jesus Christ!

[@DonnaMartini]

Just finished watching. What I cannot figure out is how he is diagnosed as severely “mentally impaired “ but they enroll him in college. Who paid for that? Was it the family or government? Someone thought he was able to read and respond so they shelled out thousands of dollars for his tuition and the aids, but suddenly he is severely handicapped and unable to say he was abused? He can go to college but he cannot consent to sex. I don’t think there is a clear case here. Way too many questions unanswered for me.

[@lovelyyolie2793]

Anyone can sit in on classes. I’ve sat in on classes a few times a semester when I was only in high school. (There’s usually a limit) but also they have programs that allow people who are “special needs” to attend classes to help with behavioral things and adjusting to society, group settings, etc. it was probably an exercise she introduced to the family. Also most community colleges don’t require entrance exam or anything but registering and paying for classes (for getting financial aid)

[@DonnaMartini]

Did u watch it? He had multiple aids. Someone paid for that. And why college if they believe he had no capacity to learn? Nonsensical. U can’t appt to college and get in without an IQ

[@meagansanders904]

​@@lovelyyolie2793 not to mention she worked for the college as a professor and she claimed she introduced him to the African American class and she claimed that is the one he was interested in. So she likely had enough pull in the college to get him into classes on top of being an activist for disabled people's rights.

[@heatherfrank7433]

I think they were hopeful that Derrick was able to do all these things they didn’t think he was capable of. Red flags started popping up when the things “he” (Anna) was saying didn’t seem to line up with his personality and preferences he had his whole life. It really clicked once the family saw that the FC only worked for Anna but not for them, even with performance under guidance and instruction. The amount of consent and willing participation you need for education vs sexual activity is VERY different. I don’t think it’s odd that they drew the line at sex when his mental capacity to consent had even a fragment of uncertainty. When the abuser is the one “helping” the victim communicate the consent, it’s even more questionable.

[@Susu-lx2uu]

What amazed me was when his mother was mentioning about his masturbating, you don’t have to be molested to start masturbating.

[@caitlinpeterson968]

My question is: If Dman can communicate that he loves her, why can't he say/type it to anyone else? Hmmmmmm

[@MyAccountForCommenting]

Did they ever give him a chance to?

[@anitadyakala1886]

​@@MyAccountForCommentingexactly my question

[@yellowish3yellow]

@@MyAccountForCommentingis this you anna?

[@PcfulSol]

She needs to be put back in jail…

[@evanosek562]

You need to go scrub your toilet! Lol

[@PcfulSol]

@@evanosek562 Oh ok

[@memee9049]

I dont know how to feel about this. My daughter has cerebral palsy. She is verbal, it affects her physically more than mentally but still.

[@Lola-rn2jj]

He doesn't only have cerebral palsy. He has a severe intellectual disability.

[@BlueSky-fh8fz]

Tumps up Is anyone here to read reviews after watching this on Netflix

[@ItsDanny91]

Her mother was also crazy.

[@Mehki227]

How so? Because she didn't like someone telling her what was best for someone she's been taking care of for the last 30 years? Criticizing her and telling her what her son needed and didn't need and liked and didn't like? Somehow that makes mom crazy?

[@Kyoutube121]

@@Mehki227 they meant Anna's mom not Dman's mom

[@elishabacon2299]

She reminds me of Ted Bundy mother

[@misssjustice3791]

​@@elishabacon2299OMG😂😂I just commented on the fact that she has the same haircut I saw on Ted Bundy's mother in an old video! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@isitoveryet9525]

Allowing her to plead guilty to lesser charges was a complete miscarriage of justice smh

[@LSS091]

So this all comes down to the question "was Derrick really communicating?" and the answer to that lies in the facilitated communication being guided by another person's hand. Couldn't this all be solved by the invention of a device that suspends the arm ? Need a shark tank for this idea. Investors hmu

[@Jenna1394]

Well yes that would be obvious, but too many people were making too much money off of this bullshit to ask real questions. The method was debunked over a hundred times.

[@FrayTV]

Exactly what I thought 😂

[@lauriec7435]

Yes! I was thinking this too. Also, didn't Stephen Hawking communicate by moving his cheek or eyebrows or something like that? It seems like if Derrick could do the things Anna said he could that they would try other things to prove it to everyone!

[@karaqueenart]

I was also thinking they could've done the same double blind experiment with the images in this case. It could've helped confirm if she was guiding his answers or not.

[@MrSoby7]

@@karaqueenart I was thinking the exact same thing!! Why did they not do the double blind experiment when that could have easily concluded if she was bullshitting or not

[@andrear6381]

But what about Sheronda Jones? She also assisted him, and he was able to type about what he had learned in class and she had not read the books. I think Derrick should've been evaluated by more professionals and Anna should've been evaluated by a criminal psychologist to check if she had criminal behavior or build a profile on her.

[@bmack6180]

He typed to the brother he wanted red wine. Was Anna there when he supposively typed that comment?

[@AriFzProudBW-90sbby]

@@bmack6180 yessssssssss because she kept the typer with her smh

[@MS-mq8xj]

Yeah see this is oart i struggle with. The student assistant didnt take the class. So how would she know what to write about? Also if people want to deem Anna as delusional and a perpatrator, well then was Sheronda one too? What was her motive then? I struggled when i heard her testimony about working with him and writing papers. And she said the papers were similar to other students in the class.

[@Venusleaf]

Sheronda Jones was obviously lying

[@Bob-kk2vg]

The documentary kinda sucked because it left me with way more questions than answers.

[@alicianichole2507]

I couldnt believe it ! Very interesting but in conclusion she was dead wrong.

[@rickabeauxx7420]

Anna over stepped sooo many boundaries. It was clear she had no life although she had a husband and kids she seemed to take no interest in. She fetishized Derrick and took advantage. Seeing his family hurt was heartbreaking, especially his brother. He probably felt like why did I bring this woman into our lives 😞

[@amrootz4133]

I also believe they should have allowed the FC writings into the court while also doing an FC with him using another person to see what they yielded. That is where they would see the truth. The end of the movie alleges he wrote something that Anna was denying his advances so that is why I say someone else needed to do that facilitated communication. It worked in Anna’s favor that they excluded it. It is possible she would have been sentenced for longer when her results didn’t match anyone else’s FC. The judge throwing it out in the end helped her get released. Anna raised the family’s eyebrows once she said he doesn’t like gospel and he wants to live on his own. Right away they started to see she was trying to disconnect him from them and of course the concern would be for his welfare. Was Anna really planning to marry him and change his diapers for the rest of her life?🤔😒🥴 My answer is no.

[@alicianichole2507]

I have to say I think otherwise she kinda looks like she was I obsessed with the guy . 2 years in jail and you're still excited to talk about him😂

[@DR-cr3zo]

@@alicianichole2507 I agree . she did love his soul. she is on another spiritual plain than they all are

[@jhiselebardot]

The fact that the last guy who conducted his own evaluation on Derrick and said he had the IQ of a 6-12 month old, tells me all that I needed to know. Plus he watched cartoons 🙄 not the history channel or programs on the subjects she claimed he liked. SMH this lady crazy

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

@@DR-cr3zo she loved herself. Cheating on the husband your going home and getting in bed with, with children none the less, even if this WASNT predatory, is far from “a spiritual” anything, it’s a maladaptive harmful and predatory behavior, and a pattern of them at that, along with refusing to accept responsibility for those she has harmed along the way, and for breaking a code of ethics by engaging into a “sexual relationship” as she calls it with someone she was SUPPORTING, who was stil diagnosed with severe IDD. Even IF he was typing all of that, which he was not, and she did actually fall in love with him, and not her own subconscious thoughts projected onto him which is what all the research in this method shows, he would need to be reevaluated by professionals to confirm competence and confirm legitimacy, and her leave her position (and maybe divorce her hubby) prior to anything not being predatory- Instead she avoided evaluations, and tried to isolate him from his support system, exactly as an abuser and groomer does. Hiding the reality rather than bringing more trained eyes to “prove” the reality as one would do if it was REAL

[@MyAccountForCommenting]

@@jhiselebardotThat guy made a documentary debunking FC. He was biased. Also, no one ever claimed Derrick could do the things the evaluator tested. They said he was proficient at FC. So, why didn't the evaluator test Derrick's FC skills?

[@AM-zp2vv]

When the savior complex goes far far off the rails!

[@mollynash2597]

Exactly.

[@TempleofYou]

How on earth does someone who has never beed taught to read or write suddenly pick out letters and start typing sentences? This alone was unbelievable. I believe that this woman absolutely thinks she is being honest and truthful. To me she is having a very convincing conversation with herself. She still caused harm though. From a documentary film standpoint, I felt they did a good job of presenting both sides to help the the viewer have critical thinking and examine things like race, disability and the question of what intelligence is.

[@BENJAMINTARVER-k7e]

i know right. why didn’t his brother or mother realize that was impossible?

[@3ama4life]

@@BENJAMINTARVER-k7ethey also wanted to believe

[@joyl3321]

You have to ask yourself Why the court released her on appeal after 2 yrs serving a 12 year sentence. Many dismiss, ignore, stereotype the disabled (as having no inner voice) (note he was absent from the 1st trial) - she simply looked beyond his physical limitations! The APA rejected her communication method while others didn't - but then "There's no $$ in the cure"!

[@noahjames1985]

I just finished watching this and the documentary is actually pretty good. I don't really know how to feel about it either because at first it seemed reasonable and she's very convincing in the interviews. By the end, it didn't seem logical that Derrick would be so intelligent without a formal education. So I think she honestly believes that it was consensual. After a little research, I believe she suffers from paraphilia and was subconsciously building a consensual relationship. Very Interesting...

[@DonnaMartini]

Definitely deeper than it appears. Not clear cut at all

[@eveheart2876]

Nah. If the story was the other way around. People who flip. She took advantage of of him

[@DimpledNatural]

@@DonnaMartinishe took advantage of that man, point blank. It was debunked, she was making it seem like he was smarter than he was, when in reality he knew nothing. She took advantage for her own pleasure!

[@gjimenez1293]

@noahjames1985 -just finished watching it myself... in re to your theory of her suffering from paraphilia, if you recall, early in the doc she describes growing up amongst many ppl w/ disabilities as her mother worked with them (I forgot what her profession was but anyway...) and moreover, how she would often pretend, or "play" being disabled herself. I bet there's a lot of dark skeletons in her closet. While what she did is awful on many levels, completely inexcusable, I nonetheless feel sorry for her too... I suspect she was probably a victim of child abuse herself. Anyway, just my 2 cents. I do hope someone will look into her personal life and history (did you hear the "Impact" letter from her ex hubby/father of her children, jeeeez) and does a documentary soon. I was hoping to find one now and how I found this video and message threat.

[@crystallatta8770]

​@gjimenez1293 I get what you're saying, but she could've said she pretended to be disabled to feel like she had some connection with them. I believe it could be something going on mentally because she thinks she knows how they feel, and making up stories may have always played such a major part of her life. I'm not in any way saying that she's right... I'm saying she's sick and needs help. Innoppropiate behaviors will not stop with Derrick if she is ever around any disabled people. If she would go this far, who knows what she's capable of! It's scary. Edit: oh wait! I just read your comment again, I think I read it wrong, no shade. I realized that we actually felt the same way 🤣🤦🏾‍♀️

[@denisemichelle2160]

Enthralling movie and really sad at same time. Anna is not a good person to say the least.

[@AndreinaJ]

She's delusional and wants to convince this was real. This is absolutely atrocious

[@alexjohnson5411]

This movie was really interesting because it makes you think I was left with so many questions if the FC didn’t work how did she know to call him D-man? The mom said it was a nickname that his old teacher called him and sure she could have guessed to just call him that but it’s still weird. Also how was he able to go to a college class and write “essays” with the other girl on books she stated she didn’t read but her roommate did and the essays matched the same topic? How was he able to do that with a fellow student but not with his parent or brother. I feel that red flags should have gone off sooner how was Derrick able to pick certain cards and letters with Anna but not with the detective. I feel like his family wanted so bad for him to be able to talk and be “normal” that they overlooked the fact that none of this stuff was adding up how can he talk at lectures and be in college but he couldn’t/wouldn’t talk to them? Also it’s interesting that her ex husband called her a pathological liar and a narcissist. It’s such a confusing case because he is disabled and you can see in the documentary how he can’t really do anything for himself but his family physically went with him to lectures that he “spoke” at and the girl physically saw and helped him type about books she never read. It’s hard to say he wasn’t able to consent when he was doing things like that but we will also never know because we weren’t there. This movie really makes you think. The fact that his family thought he was more than his disability and that he was able to do these things but the second it was mentioned that he possibly wanted to move out and be with Anna (we don’t know if this is true and what he wanted it was stated at the end that he couldn’t move into an assisted living program because he was too disabled and that he would need more help) the family jumped to “oh no he’s disabled he can’t do this he can’t do that” it was also mentioned that he would pleasure himself after everything happened.

[@MS-mq8xj]

VERY MUCH AGREE with you! I couldnt shake the fact that the student assistant used FC to write essays for him but she never read the books or took the class. You bring up another HUGE piece to this and thats the name D Man. How would Anna know this? Very interesting and complex case.

[@agricolaregs]

I would have loved to see a test with another independent examiner.

[@stephaniedenson5956]

I totally agree. It is always unfortunate because on one hand the family wanted to believe he was capable, but not capable enough to have a romantic relationship. He’s 40 and his mom is upset he pleases himself. The brother is upset he had a sexual relationship…. But they have both had those relationships. I really do believe they just can not understand why a “normal “ and intelligent person would want a handicapped person. I’m honestly torn on this documentary.

[@justinejulien117]

​@@stephaniedenson5956people who are caretakers of disabled people really can not believe someone would be interested in them because they see them as not normal. IRL people who have disabilities still have hormones, just like old people still have sex after their prime ages. If God gave you the ability to have sex it shall be had. I'm not saying what she did was right I'm just saying the family should've looked for other professionals opinions instead of two radical sides of the situation. Also, there is a such thing as switching personalities. You act one way with your family and another way with your lover. A different response renders a different result. I really wished they would've tested the FC in court FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE, and not his ability to "move" essentially with the guy. Because he had cerebral palsy, with no assistance HE CAN'T/ its difficult for him to move. Also, if she wanted to be with him, she could've just said that. From the moment "he" asked her to kiss him, I would've sat down with the mom and brother and explained to the mom, "He's a grown man, and he wants to explore a relationship, how do you feel about that?" Nobody fact checked anything they just "believed" in everything but the guidance of the Holy Spirit and went with it. Also, I think it's kinda weird that you won't let a 40 yr old pleasure himself. It's ridiculous and you do not need med's for that. It's giving 1950s psych ward punishment. It's giving a little of munchausen syndrome with a real disability... I'm sorry I had to say it

[@laurainglis7485]

This is cringy. If the roles were reversed the perpetrator would have received 10 years or more for SA. Anna is a nut case with a fetish for Black -.

[@Maratrushka]

Ok yes guys Im with ya'll, but...How she guess about DMAN name? She couldnt of known that he was called like that by his elementary teacher.😮

[@ninidanatural]

That would have been easy to access if he had an iep etc. Plus someone else may have called him Dman I feel like she read it in a record because she couldn’t even pronounce it correctly.

[@BENJAMINTARVER-k7e]

maybe his mom mentioned it to her

[@angelh6345]

This lady was unnerving fr. She lives in a fantasy world

[@juliofrank83]

Yesterday I finished watching this documentary. Reminiscent of the saying, _You can't teach an old dog new tricks._ At first, it felt like she was helping him progress, but eventually takes a left turn when Derrick texts his brother back that he prefers wine as opposed to beer. I used to see people with Cerebral Palsy back when I was in kindergarten. I have ADD, yet have been taking medication since 2012.

[@prosperitee3767]

If was a Black woman and the boy was white this would’ve played out sooo differently. Smh justice should’ve been served.

[@queenbee9874]

So basically this woman fell in love with herself

[@mrfake675]

She already was. She just projected it onto someone else to mix things up

[@lisale9896]

Just the way she holds his arm. 🙄 it just gives you the ick

[@TonyPay-f4v]

Bonkers and her parents both psychologists I believe warped her mind into thinking she had like super mind powers !

[@NFSDC2024]

The way she pretended to be disabled, her parents enabled an obsession with the disabled. She could have done a lot of good but yeah her mind is warped and her and her mom give me the creeps from the beginning.

[@gibbscosta681]

Maybe i missed something completely here as I was very tired and kept having to go back after dosing off ( had nothing to do with filming. It was very engaging). With the typing, he didnt type independently?? Did he interpret literature and write essays?? Was his family holding him back? Could he be interviewed by someone and get his input?? Otherwise this is INSANE!!!!!

[@ndeshihafelashiponeni1890]

Passing on this one

[@erin24101]

This is hard to watch 😬

[@MoriahTreadwellRiah1125]

the fact that she still roams as opposed to being locked up alarms me...

[@UnpopularAdvisor]

She is sickening! A Lack of discretion, integrity, boundaries, professionalism, the list goes on!

[@abbieprice3430]

This is an unbelievable and shocking story that you don’t see or hear about every day!

[@christinamrk]

As a person who works with adults and children with disabilities, this women makes me sick.

[@DaphneyDeVaughn]

I just watched this documentary today. And one thing I've noticed from personal experience is people (not all) who work in the mental health community tend to display some level of it themselves. Anna was exposed at a young age due to her mother's work. Even asking for crutches and learning braille. She was exposed and went deep. My Mom retired from education after 30 plus years. She always talked about how the special ed teachers seemed to be a bit "quirky" and displayed some of their student's behaviors after a while. I also had a family member who worked at the state mental health hospital as a nurse. She, too, started to exhibit "quirky" behaviors after several years. This lady (Anna) was in too deep. So much so she created a fantasy around a defenseless nonverbal man with cerebral palsy. I feel that she should have done her time, but I also realized there are separate justice systems for "them" and "us" in America. Heck, the courts might have realized Anna wasn't playing with a full deck. In the end, I'm glad his family recognized it and stood up for Derrick. 🥰

[@djdavidphillips]

Yeah the crutches and blindfold thing was super weird. This is not a plaything it’s how some people have to live.

[@lexizahra]

I’m still confused about something. He was working with a classmate on one of his courses, right? Didn’t she say he was able to type sentences for his assignments?

[@letoyajackson9310]

Thank you!!! People only wanting to hear what they want to!!

[@cajunscorpion]

Idk how to verbalize what I’m feeling…I’m stuck and in shock. This is so messed up!

[@annydaysullysay]

i remember reading a great article about this case many years ago. possibly new yorker? can anyone clarify?

[@gnlilu6972]

I so have to watch this!

[@johnwayne9828]

A man doing this to a disabled female would be in jail......a woman doing it gets a netflix special.

[@jacobm8tysek]

Where can i watxh this is Australia so frustrated i cant find

[@josiegrimaldo661]

I had a sister with the same disabilities as Derrick sadly my sister died from her disabilities. So this hit home for me to think about what she might have done with her life and where she would be today. I often think maybe she could have had somewhat of a normal life. To think ppl with disabilities can’t have physical relationships isn’t true we all know that however her being his teacher and being able to control his communication and trying to have a physical relationship with him is very dark. There are a lot of aspects to take into in this case. I can’t help but think if Derrick was a white girl and Anna a black man I’m sure, no positive he would be locked up and thrown away the key. I feel Anna had worked with ppl with disabilities her whole life even her mother did so that gave her a sense of belonging, safety. Seeing as Derrick was disabled and a black man and I think she was more attracted to black men (who isn’t). I think those factors played a part in her desire to make him into a person she fell in love with as she sees it. We see it as her victim and when you hear his brother John talk about the mat in her office and the scars on his back there is no other way to see it. It’s scary because this woman could have helped him instead of fulfilling her own personal needs. Now his family will be scared with the consequences she imposed on them. She is definitely sick in the head and made this whole romantic relationship thing in her head and can’t even see it.

[@lifesyphon1]

To me the point is not his diagnosis. His ability to have an intimate relationship isn’t in question. The problem is she had an ethical and professional duty and set of codes she is required to abide by and she didn’t. It’s the same reason professors can’t have affairs with their adult students. It’s not about age or cognitive function, it’s about doing the right thing.

[@Discovery.2100]

See how the police first talked to her and let her go.If that was a man of wait a black man.That woulded be 20 guns 49 police cars some crazy.

[@LuvsAutumn8467]

What she did was so unbelievably inappropriate and then for her to be smiling saying we were in love. I mean wow first of all she she was married with kids second of all she was his teacher third of all he was nonverbal and disabled I mean for her to think she didn't do anything wrong is just bizarre. Then she was trying to get between him and his family trying to tell his mother how to care for him that he didn't like this or that anymore like she knew him better than his own family what a nutcase. I was so mad watching that she is just really not playing with a full deck.

[@keyagraham9604]

As a caregiver for people exactly like Derrick, this lady is insane and needs to be locked up fr...WTF😮

[@MARINELSANTOS]

She abused a disabled man. Period. And she's free. Disgusting

[@girlgamingbadly2083]

Say what you want. Defend her like some of you are doing. Blame the parents. Like some of you are doing. But she had recourse to ensure his level of intelligence and his capability of consenting was tested, and legally changed, and she did not.

[@lisa5228]

How were you able to veiw this movie?

[@ReelAbilitiesFest]

The film is part of the ReelAbilities Film Festival: New York. Check screening times and locations here - reelabilities.org/newyork/film/tell-them-you-love-me/

[@UCMICU]

M4ufree

[@lovelyyolie2793]

Netflix

[@jadetolbert1320]

This woman sickens me to my core!! Two years instead of 24 to life, really? You can't trust anyone! Smdh

[@crystalace22]

She was willing to leave her husband and kids for him

[@JourneywithCC23]

Your point?

[@solomoon3083]

Which is insane! He did not have the mental capacity to consent. Period.

[@lakeishajackson3021]

She actually wanted to replace the reality of a real husband & children with a fake world that she created.

[@jamesst.patrick7084]

They strike again

[@MinnieY502]

You can tell who the people are that didn’t watch the documentary in its entirety lol. Because there is NO WAY that any person of, even, average intelligence, should be grasping at straws to justify Anna’s behavior in any capacity. Not morally, ethically, or logically. You have to be sick to believe that was okay. The question I continue to see is how does one know it wasn’t his communications. The documentary addresses that. FC has been debunked & Derrick has been evaluated by reputable doctors. It would have been great for the family had it been found that he was able to communicate but the opposite was concluded. And that’s okay. It also made it clear, if you think about it, that she likely had to remove his diaper to have sex with him. If THAT doesn’t clarify the depths of her depravity, nothing will. I was one who initially thought she seemed quite awesome lol but then I finished the entire documentary. Edit: Also I’m seeing comments that the brother may have been jealous. Ummm of what exactly?! 😂That man is not one who will have problems dating lol. Also, the knowledge of “D-Man” seems to be an understandable question. I think, like many things, Anna lives in her own mind. It was probably discussed.

[@jadetolbert1320]

Only person Anna was discussing it with was the voices in her head. Other than that, I totally agree with everything you said.

[@marr6878]

Thank you because they forget all about the investigator who took time with Derrick

[@marr6878]

💯

[@MinnieY502]

@@jadetolbert1320 you’re right! lol

[@Parahount]

We as student nurses worked in psychiatric ward, we were making nursing case studies. There was one men so handsome and a girl in our class fell in love with him. My teacher find out, she had a full big meeting with us all, that these patients are 2-5 year old kids. Don’t involve with them that you gona further damage them and these poor souls already suffering. As a nurse we can feel empathy but don’t name it love just because person is beautiful. She got scolded and removed from men psych ward. Even though our pts, always try to attached to us for food, chocolates or any kind of things but we should be firm to say NO

[@makaylaeberly4949]

Where did everyone watch

[@shannonvaughn3557]

Netflix

[@makaylaeberly4949]

@@shannonvaughn3557 the us Netflix ?

[@traveltm]

She may have part of her that did want to help but she makes too many assumptions. She had not been working with D that long and she states he write something but as articulate as she knew he could write. What? She is delusional. That is just crazy. Such an assumption and huge leap. Doing exactly what not to do with research or education.

[@caribcutie6131]

Very sick woman!!

[@traveltm]

D sitting in on a class and brother Jim is to oh he can get a BA. He loves his brother so much and this woman telling him facts not proven. She won’t even call him D-man. Although she heard the mom say it. She has to try, in her mind, to make it fancy and say D’man.

[@thetreasuregarden.creates]

She's in love with the idea of being a savior. Even the way she pronounced D-Man showed her disconnection to Derrick as a person. It's sad that she is so out of touch with reality, with the importance of family, the power dynamic between her & Derrick, the impropriety of her actions, her lack of healthy boundaries.....Very sad that she still doesn't see her wrong.

[@Baltaemore]

I agree 100% . I had to rewind back to see if I missed something because I was like wait, They called him D-Man not Deemon 🤔. And the fact that Anna’s mother didn’t see anything wrong with what she did 🫤!

[@laurainglis7485]

Agreed. Hide your infants from Anna.

[@millicentcunningham1863]

She epitomizes white savior complex and the nerve of her to touch his mama's car radio 🤬 White supremacy at its finest.

[@solomoon3083]

She used him to fill her whims and as a sex toy. Horrible horrible.

[@kind2423]

White savior complex

[@agricolaregs]

It’s like a ouija board.

[@ninidanatural]

I thought the same exact thing .

[@Sarah-dq1fm]

Just as demonic too

[@Biggygram]

I always go into these Documentaries with the benefit of the doubt … the moment she said “he seduced me” that was it! No accountability!!!!