Terror in the Family | FULL MOVIE | 1996 | Drama | Hilary Swank, Joanna Kerns

[@benjamintriplett3]

This is what cycles of abuse cause. The grandma abused the mom and aunt, the mom instead of being a parent to her daughter was extremely permissive and let her get away with anything until the daughter was running the house. The mom dulled her pain with alcohol and her son dulled his pain with alcohol too. Its really tragic.

[@CoolHandLuke1117]

The dad dulled his pain by creating busy work (woodworking)..instead of dealing with his family. It was his way of numbing his pain.

[@benjamintriplett3]

@@CoolHandLuke1117 exactly. None of them dealt with anything

[@oldtown09]

@@benjamintriplett3 and the daughter dealt with her pain by sleeping with her boyfriend

[@todayipaint4667]

@@oldtown09 The daughter dulled her pain by beating her parents and bullshitting them you mean.

[@todayipaint4667]

Exactly. The daughter got the abusive genes from the grandmother and these demons took over and ran the family.

[@izzydeadyet7336]

The daughter was too afraid to tell her mom the truth about ditching school, but not too afraid to slap the crap out of her mom and constantly disrespect her family? Senseless

[@lisawentworth6831]

I find that ironic as well...she lives a consequence free life but if afraid of consequences? Makes no sense...some kids are just bullies

[@PrincessofPower84]

​@lisawentworth6831 This! I know people fault the parents (understandably), but girly was also old enough to know right from wrong. And she nearly gave up her family and freedom just to hold onto her funny-looking loser boyfriend who didn't even love her in the end? She was pathetic and should have been disciplined ages ago, even if it was staying in jail.

[@Velvet.323]

This movie goes so much deeper than an "out of control" child. Between the mother's drinking problem, loneliness, and insatiable need for validation, she raised her daughter to be her best friend and makes her kids feel guilty when they're not enough to fill the void from her own mother. Understandably the daughter would have tons of resentment and unaddressed rage. She was raised without having to be accountable for anything she does. Father was detached until it was already too late. Son holding everyone's secrets and feels responsible for keep the family together so takes on his mother and grandmother's way of coping. If you don't address your trauma your kids will most certainly be paying for it later.

[@MsDecember1999]

You definitely broke it down ❤😊

[@chacha2321]

❤

[@joshbeard9809]

Spot on analysis. But don't forget the boyfriend was a narcissist.

[@Marsbars-iz3iv]

I disagree

[@Marsbars-iz3iv]

​@@MsDecember1999I disagree she missed something important!

[@sequanamcclary8753]

She broke her father's hand busted her mom lip plus busted her in her head and you still dont want her to face accountability. This is crazy!

[@MsMekia-dl3el]

😂😂😂😂😂.

[@idklol616]

We all have to take accountability for our actions. It sometimes takes a drastic change for us to wake up and change forvthe better.

[@sequanamcclary8753]

@@idklol616 true indeed.

[@sequanamcclary8753]

@MsMekia-dl3el now if he was playing the father character from The Wonder Years. That would've never happened. He was a stern a Kevin through his narrative of his father, he feared him but respectfully.

[@sjoelle3335]

Her parents didn’t love her! It was so sad to see. They wanted to protect their reputation as good parents, and they didn’t want to deal with conflict so they let her run wild This movies was so frustrating because so often we see evil kids like this with terrible parents. It was an entertaining 90s movie at least.

[@wendycarty6958]

It’s incredible how they keep defending her after she kept hurting them so bad.

[@ladyveevee2888]

They want to be her friend.

[@brendagray9601]

​@@ladyveevee2888Yep

[@marvelfan2697]

But the dad did actually set rules if she didn't clean her room, do her homework, or go straight from school to home. And she broke those rules and the dad grounded her and took her telephone away.

[@PastryChick]

Victims of abuse tend to do that. Especially if their attacker is someone that they love.

[@anne-mariestewart4509]

My youngest child was very violent, she hurt me many times as she got bigger. But she is my kid and I love her unconditionally, there are times I dislike her very much though. It's really hard to deal with.

[@hollyfran51317]

This is a perfect example of generational trauma going from parent to child to grandchild.

[@linalicious415]

Exactly 😢

[@asokagodawita3993]

I really agree

[@LifewithTahisha]

I agree

[@kamali_group_tv]

❤

[@3rrlia661]

growing like a snowball

[@marikiemarie7622]

At 15, I was making plans with my mom to watch movies and cook. Looking forward to it every night.

[@sunandasengupta8113]

Sweet you. I guess I m very unlucky so far being a mother to a daughter who is growing into a stranger with every passing day.

[@sonnyg98]

@@sunandasengupta8113 what did you do to her to make her that way?sure ,adolecets satrt becoming independent,want to find "themselves" etc. but "stranger" is an extreme...Find out what´s going on now.

[@AnastasiaLUVSU]

@@sunandasengupta8113 if she's a teen you still have the authority. Your child should never feel like stranger. Find out what's going on. 😭

[@sunandasengupta8113]

@@AnastasiaLUVSU Hmm. My daughter is twenty plus. And her focus is money and flashy life style. But she doesn't want to earn it. Just demands. Doesn't help around in the house hold unless pressed. Haha.. Life goes on... What to do..

[@AnastasiaLUVSU]

@@sunandasengupta8113 Oh so she's grownish. If she still lives with you, you should have a movie night. Order Pizza. Get Ice cream and popcorn and just have fun. But you should discuss how you feel. Don't give up momma. Your baby is still there. 💕

[@eeeccc3562]

When parents were more interested in being parents than their child's friend, the world was a much better place.

[@irenewanjiru7346]

Eee Ccc well stated. The thing about this mum is that she is trying to become more of a friend than a parent to her daughter.

[@ritaeichler2066]

Thats because she didnt want to be like her abusive mother . No excuse. Parents arent perfect, but deserve respect & honor for bringing us to this world & doing their best to raise us.

[@pyaytmay8750]

The truth of being a parent. It's a give and take thing. Sometimes you need to a parents and sometimes you need to be a friend. But when they misbehave and disrespect you as a parent, you need to jump in to find out what going on and the type of friends they associate with...

[@aliwassuf]

we can be friends

[@Itsabeautifulday3201]

You have to be both,but be a parent first. My two teen sons once told me (when we were hanging out in the kitchen) that I was like a mean friend lol they know I love them,I had rules they had to follow I gave them life advice (faith based) and I joked and played around with them but they also had respect for for me and knew I’d knock them into next week if need be. I love my babies enough to give them direction even if I didn’t like doing it because that’s what a parent is supposed to do.

[@kasturisamanta]

A parent is a parent . A best friend is a best friend. Both roles are different.

[@ameoshathomas3719]

A parents is both

[@777Maranatha]

@@ameoshathomas3719 Yeah, if you want a mess like this 🙄☝️⤴️⤴️

[@u60SingleMum99]

OMG I'm havng a stubborn daughter too ..

[@u60SingleMum99]

​@@ameoshathomas3719OMG I'm havng a stubborn daughter too ..

[@u60SingleMum99]

​@@777MaranathaOMG I'm havng a stubborn daughter too ..

[@khaldebrahim8790]

A family is not food ; clothes and home for our kids. A family is sharing life with our kids,sharing thoughts and good moments with them .sharing a weekend on a beach or a day in a garden or sharing sports and games . This good moments will make a strong bond between family members that can't be broken by a stranger. Very good and inspiring movie

[@wondergirl367]

Unfortunately, many parents don't have the time and energy to be attentive parents. Nowadays, they each usually have a full-time job; many have part-time jobs on top of that. It's very sad.

[@raymondeppich4988]

😢😢😢😢😢❤ age and health and yess forgiveness ❤️❤️❤️ 😢

[@mrsTraveller64]

@@wondergirl367 I also had a fulltime job beeig sigle. Still I did fun things with my kids all the time, every Friday was movie or boardgame-night and every Saturday we went somewhere on our bikes(we had no car) or by train! And every summer we went abroad! My children were the best thing in my life, now they are adults and we still do a lot together! Blaming everything on beeing single or having to work full day or bad weather is just a way of getting out from "having to be" with your kids. If you want to be withthem you find the time!

[@micahfranklin4560]

@@wondergirl367It’s not that they have full time jobs it’s that they don’t make a effort to spend as much as time with they’re kids they possibly can let alone acknowledge them providing for your kids and spending with them are equally important I’m not saying it’s easy but they have to try

[@micahfranklin4560]

@@mrsTraveller64Exactly sometimes you have to make time for your kids

[@wondergirl367]

One aspect of this film horrified me - when she threatened to falsely accuse her father of attempted rape and glibly said that the authorities would believe her. She was evil. I don’t know if I could even love her anymore. I don’t care how angry she was or what the reasons were. I don’t care if her young age prompted her to say foolish things. She crossed a big line. After getting over my first shock, I would explain the consequences to her (if she would even listen). She would be taken away and placed in a foster home. She would jeopardize her father’s ability to earn a living, so there would be no more fancy clothes for her. The house would probably have to be sold if her father’s income was insufficient to pay for it. She did not have the right to blithely ruin all of their lives. This might sound cruel, but she needs to know the gravity of a vicious lie. I don’t know if I would even want her in the house when she reaches age 18 . . .

[@MarianPerera-ye8be]

Absolutely agree. I think the most intelligent response from the parents would be to explain the consequences and then offer to call the police themselves so that she can make her accusation right then and there to the authorities, and so the police can take her for rape testing, counseling, making an official statement, etc. I'll bet she would have backed down immediately. See how she acted when the police actually did show up? Not a peep out of her. She did as she was told, because ultimately she was a bully only with the people who were terrified of her. So that's what her parents should have done. Instead, they quickly started walking back the consequences of her behavior (by returning her stereo), and the seriousness of threatening to falsely accuse someone of rape never came up again.

[@beccabryant4199]

I agree I think anyone who falsely accuses someone of something like that should get some serious help or punishment for falsely accusing. I am a survivor of rape and sexual abuse and the #1 thing that really shakes me up inside is how ANYONE could lie about something like that

[@judeflynn9223]

blah blah blah...eejit..you havent a clue..

[@dominicanbutterfly8620]

I do too

[@sequanamcclary8753]

To even think about something like that of your father is sick. She should've been out of that house long time ago. She was spoiled and outta pocket.

[@peggyburns1702]

This movie was intense on so many levels. I'm certainly relieved the family received counseling.

[@kathymaske8997]

Yeah, very powerful. It was a good movie.

[@bobm7250]

@@kathymaske8997The scene @ 51:25 is proof that Deena belongs in a mental hospital. She tried to murder her parents!

[@HillyPat]

An excellent movie, dealing with a real problem which unfortunately faces more families than come out and admit it. Thank you so much for the upload 👌

[@ChickenSoupForTheSoulTV]

You're welcome, Makhosazana! Thanks for watching and commenting.

[@tinadavis2083]

So true

[@hopeful6157]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@geminivibes8783]

While this movie deals with serious topics, the mom drunk making the pizza makes laugh every time I watch it

[@taracollins5597]

I chuckle a little myself I admit lol. But I mostly say "Damn, that pizza looks good!" I would have eaten it even if it landed on the floor! It landed sideways, so pick it up ya spoiled Deena-brat!

[@cathyhaskins3208]

😂😂😂

[@ingridsililo4650]

This movie teaches parents on how they should raise their children. Else their children will raise them. Disciplining children is the greatest love parents can exhibit to their children. Remember you'll not be there for them forever. Raise them for the future 😊

[@debbiemartin6976]

Wow this movie was amazing! So many lessons to be learned from this film! I'm truly happy that it all worked out in the end with family therapy 😊

[@talltalllady]

The dad from The Wonder Years and the mom from Growing Pains make a great combination paired as a couple in this movie.

[@stevelozano9523]

They should have called this movie "Wonder Pains". The a tors and the movie plot all in one.

[@JamaicanRain]

That’s partially because they used to date!

[@talltalllady]

@@JamaicanRain Really I didn't know that. For how long?

[@JamaicanRain]

It was way before the paparazzi really dug in and before the Internet, and a long time has passed, so all I know is it could not have been long; prob. less than a year.

[@talltalllady]

@@JamaicanRain How do you even know that they dated?

[@tiffanycurtis4794]

I miss tv movies like this my generation ❤️

[@JosephKowal-g7j]

Hi Tiffany yes love these movies..

[@shameersha2389]

😊

[@JosephKowal-g7j]

@@shameersha2389 hello my name is Joseph..

[@JosephKowal-g7j]

Yes I hear you those were great times....

[@missmaomi28]

Same here! Love how KZbin has so many of them available to watch, and for free 👏🏾

[@tebatsolatiffa9327]

This movie is very deeper than you might think... it takes maturity for one to grow... sometimes parents are the main reason etc....

[@chocolatefudge5263]

This is actually more than a problematic child. It's about an unsolved problem that goes from generation to the next.

[@ladennayoung2939]

Right. Exactly.

[@jonye7511]

​@@ladennayoung2939blah blah blah two bit shrink

[@wren8298]

I didnt think the mom drank enough with that daughter!

[@hopeful6157]

​@@wren8298💯💯💯💯‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@juliefall2892]

@@wren8298 lol

[@asokagodawita3993]

You Reap What You Sow. Nature balances everything, believe it or not. It’s the universal truth. Amazing movie, terrific cast, Thank you film team.

[@rushijayasinghe2380]

Raise your children.. don't just let them be by themselves. Raise them to be empathy and love.. ❤❤

[@stephaniebach__12-24]

Empathy and love.. the two most important values to raise your children with

[@christinaperrigo]

Train Up your children in the Ways of The Lord. ... Truth, Empathy, Justice, Love, and more are included. ... ... ... God Bless You All In Truth and Repentance. - In Christ, Christina

[@taracollins5597]

Raise them with love.....but also discipline! Its part of life. I am not talking about smacking or beating (but a smack in the face or bottom is part of life too sometimes)....but discipline actually helps the child learn boundaries. Those who neglect this end up with an evil child like Deena.....& people like Deena end up as adults in prison.

[@houstonturna]

@@taracollins5597exactly. Society won’t waste time to throw her into prison.

[@lisascott4207]

My daughter beat me so bad that I thought she broke my back. Kicked me in my face, stomped on my head, kicked me in my stomach right after I had major surgery. I can’t let that go. Watching movies like this brings back the awful memories. I love her but from far far away. I consider her a abuser, bully and someone that has a rotted out heart. I consider her lucky I didn’t press charges but she will have to live without her mother now. I leave no forwarding address.

[@danyellg3079]

Omg I’m sorry that happened to you. Being a mom I can only imagine the hurt! We are never accountable for our kids behaviors. Anyone’s for that matter. But don’t give up on her she’s obviously going through something inside. She needs some counseling. I will pray for you because only God can get your through 🙏🏽🙏🏽💔

[@darkfem869]

I’m glad for you that u let her go hope you are doing alright

[@sunbeam9222]

I'm sorry ❤

[@reneshay889]

I hope you've been able to get counseling to help you deal with all that heartbreak! You deserve a WONDERFUL life!❤

[@dakaunajohnson3390]

This movie so far is s good movie but it irked me many timee that her mom kept providing excuses and giving in. For christ sakes be stern! Hell! Glad my mother kept me in order and complacent. I have a daughter and what her to alwsys see me as her bestfriend and that someone she can come to.

[@pattyjacobson]

Alcoholism affects the whole family. This was a great movie with a happy ending. Most people don’t recognize alcoholism - denial, part of the disease.

[@jeannec8053]

The brother was right to have called the police. She needed to be shaken.

[@treseancann1261]

It would have been cool to see him go off on her. I know I would have if I were him. But, I agree.

[@rushijayasinghe2380]

I'm so happy about my daughter and I can say proudly that I raised her right with well mannered and well behaved. She too a mum today for a cute little girl and I'm seeing now she's teaching my granddaughter values of life. ❤

[@user-cy4vw1qj9m]

Well now aren't you the bragger. A lot of us reared our daughters right but had to go the teenage years to get there maybe your one of the mum's who didn't know the half of what your teen was doing Wow must be your good rearing.

[@judeflynn9223]

raah raah

[@oldtown09]

Aw im happy for you I'm sure you were an amazing mother :)

[@FrancesZenobia_]

God bless you and your family 🔥

[@katherineirving7189]

Well, aren't you special.

[@julianablackmon7376]

This mom is actually getting on my nerves. Ugh! She is an enabler.

[@danielleschiazza6172]

Yes! Bea! Thar a$$ period! This is ridiculous.

[@brendagray9601]

😂😂😂

[@NnekaOkolonji]

The mom is extremely annoying

[@Mninoyb]

The son saying this is the 90's...and we're watching in 2024😅

[@tritosac]

I never behaved like that growing up though I did have my moments of rebellion. But that look on her mother's face when she didn't want to watch the rest of the movie with her mother made me feel bad. I think of the times my parents did make an effort to just spend time with me. In my misguided teen to early 20's rebellious stage I rejected them. Now I am 47 years old. My parents have both departed this world. I'd give anything to spend time with them watching a movie, going out to eat, shopping. Anything. You never realize what you have until it's gone. You don't have the maturity to realize who is in your life, who is in your corner & who loves you unconditionally until they are gone. Then it's too late. All you have are the memories of those kind souls looking at you with sad faces when you reject their invitations to spend time with you.

[@gloriarosario5687]

Great movie, great lesson for all parents out there!

[@aliwassuf]

Hi

[@gloriarosario5687]

@@aliwassufHello!!

[@samanthab1923]

Five minutes in & it’s easy to see what’s wrong. One: why aren’t they all sitting down to dinner. Two: blasting music Three: the state of her room four: the mom bringing food upstairs for her?!

[@rodgersallen273]

I do agree, and not to mention her skipping school also made matters worse, if parents were more responsible for their children and rasing them to be the people they need to be, then the world would be a better place for all us. I'm glad the father finally stepped in and put his foot down with the kids.

[@dinarusso3320]

​@@rodgersallen273exactly, the mother was an idiot

[@lillianlyons3395]

Why is this girl 15 running around till all the hours of the night and going out with a guy they never met and getting rewarded with new clothes. When you dont enforce rules this is what happens. And the parents apology for her bad behavor and covering up for her is unreal

[@cielie1986]

I'm a few minutes in and I was looking for this comment after her mother brought her food to the bedroom. Absolutely agree

[@Dabich48]

All very well and good until they learn a way around every discipline, respect no one and nothing and don’t give a shit about your rules.

[@johnbakasmoothhotchocolate]

It just shows that when you get lackadaisical and you don't establish rules in the house, things like what happened in this movie will happen for real. Discipline doesn't mean to reward. Discipline means to get them back on the right track to respecting their family, and themselves.

[@van3363]

I never disliked a Hillary Swank character till this movie.

[@missmaomi28]

Yes!!

[@TrishaPoeta]

She was wonderful in this movie

[@van3363]

@@TrishaPoeta yes but hate her character.

[@paulajenna]

Lol same here 😂

[@debbiemartin6976]

I love Hillary she's a great actress!

[@ScottNapolitan]

This would be a good move for any parent to watch who is merely overwhelmed by the everyday challenges. After seeing this, they'll realize they have it pretty easy compared to Todd and Cynthia here.

[@juliefall2892]

They need to watch this while their children are young.

[@ScottNapolitan]

@@juliefall2892 I agree, while it might not be fit for young children, it can help ensure that parents know in advance what could very well happen if they don’t set the necessary guidelines. Plus, the movie can overall serve as a PSA as to what permissive parenting leads to.

[@francesblabey3055]

Don't ever bring up a child to be your best friend, never. Your the parent and must show tough love and hard fast rules, otherwise, chaos follows.

[@mookie1151]

Yeah and if my best friend ever smacked me around like that they’d get it way worse. 😂😂😂😂

[@rosistenning1212]

Exactly

[@siliBbilosh]

Hilary Swank has not aged. She looks the same. Great actress too.

[@Midgy21747]

Yes but she doesn't look like a child of 15 in this movie.

[@martamariotto1181]

He.

[@AnastasiaLUVSU]

​@@martamariotto1181Hillary is a female. With strong features. Not all women have soft bone structures. Didn't she give birth 2 years ago? Lol.

[@AnastasiaLUVSU]

@@Midgy21747 That's cause she was 22. Weird they could have at least made her 17.

[@martamariotto1181]

@@AnastasiaLUVSU Yes, they all give birth 🤣 as long as Holy Wood says so

[@jbrittney33]

The way grandma threw that hook and gracefully went to her seat was classic

[@paulpowell9499]

That's what the mother should have been giving the girl a long time ago. The same as what her mother gave her.

[@mojojojo8223]

I laughed so hard at that part. Granny was about that life

[@paulpowell9499]

@@mojojojo8223 RIGHT WORD!!!! 😂

[@paulpowell9499]

@@mojojojo8223 that's what the mother should have done

[@AzariaSin]

I feel so bad laughing at this lmfaoooo. Unintentionally funny for an otherwise serious scene/issue.

[@Isabellazsda]

The whole family needed counselling. Positive discipline starts from an early age .

[@kaywallace6139]

This is the most messed up family. Everyone has major problems. The old, hateful grandmother is the root of some of her daughters’ issues. The mother wants to be a friend not a mother to her children. Bad move.😢

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

Sadly, I can relate to this quite a bit.

[@taracollins5597]

The grandmother was evil but NOT to blame for Deena's mom. I wish parents would stop blaming their parents for how they act. Once you grow to be an adult, your decisions are your OWN. The mom was a lousy parent & so was the dad. Thus they had 2 rotten brats for children.

[@fionastevenson6019]

Jeez! What an absolute disrespectful, wicked brat! Could not imagine ever treating my mum like that!

[@aliciacruz5957]

Never ever

[@lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241]

I would never treat my mom like that either! She’s my idol and hero

[@Why28829]

Everybody saying "the daughter needed to get smacked" dont realize thats exactly what started this awful cycle. The grandmother was physically and emotionally abusive. So the mom tried to over compensate by being her daughters friend or bestie instead of a mother. This cycle continues when you cant deal with your trauma and do better when you know better. This cycle was started by the grandmother or someone before her and continued by the mother and then Deena herself. The whole family is an absolute mess and needs alot of therapy and time to be decent at best. Alcoholism will destroy the best people as well. Addiction is a bandaid to the deepest of pain.

[@taracollins5597]

I have to disagree....and agree with you. Smacking someone is very different than deliberate, constant physical abuse. I was very seldom smacked or spanked as a child, yet when it occurred I remembered what I did wrong! Deena was never disciplined, physically or non. Thus this is what happens. .Alcoholism was somewhat of a factor, but far from all of it. The dad didn't want to be a parent either & is also responsible. To top it off....even when Deena really got abusive, they STILL made it worse by defending her! She needed to be accountable for her deliberate actions.

[@Why28829]

@@taracollins5597 I'm here to tell you they could've communicated with you and gotten the same result. You didn't deserve to be smacked around by adults. Do we smack adults when they do something wrong? Are we allowed to slap our coworkers when they do something wrong or our bosses? No. So why are we allowed to lay our hands on defenseless children? The adult should be emotionally regulated and be able to problem solve better than the child. Hitting will teach them to hit others this is psychological there are thousands of studies, research, and proof as well of this.

[@crackernumber2]

Your the reason kids got no respect

[@frauleinmona]

@@Why28829 "So, why are we allowed to lay our hands on defenseless children?". Deena wasn't a defenseless child. She was strong enough to break her father's hand and bust her mother's lip open so that it was bleeding. Her parents never hit her. She was out of control and needed to be physically disciplined. This is what they're going to be taught: "You hit me, your parent. That's wrong. So you're going to be punished physically so you know what you did to *me* . Don't make *me* feel that again and I won't make *you* feel that again. ".

[@HEAVENBOUND267]

​lease spare us that bullshit. She needed her ass whooped

[@lovearttherapyalways]

Thanks for this excellent movie dealing with real issues. Unfortunately many do not want to be accountable and do their part ... hence families falling apart. .

[@ChickenSoupForTheSoulTV]

You're welcome. Thanks for watching.

[@lollipopsnsugarsmiles4176]

Im so thankful my 16 year old daughter is nothing like this! No matter how mad shes gotten at me she has never hit me or tried to. She knows better and has respect for me even though i can be mean in her eyes lol. Back when i was growing up i never hit my mom no matter how pissed i got at her. I knew exactly what would happen to me if i dared raised a hand to her

[@kathconserv]

This is what happens when you decide to parent when the child is 15. Stop spoiling and start parenting when they’re born.

[@yuw777]

Someone must have told you. Once they are 13 can only guide them as they don't listen.

[@ashleyingram2620]

I miss these classics airing on lifetime…

[@hopeful6157]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@Josh-fp2qn]

Even as a man I found this lifetime movies highly entertaining.

[@Catherine-l1s]

Well acted all of them, and thank you for sharing.

[@tishmason5078]

I love watching movies from the 80’s and 90’s. I’m grateful I never experienced any of this. Probably because I am a mother…NOT a Friend…My Daughter now 25 and a RN..she knew not to try me. I feel bad for the kids.

[@maryelizabeth1443]

I DID experience this, but I'm grateful for it because it taught me how I didn't want to be or treat others in my own life. This movie was and is reality for many, unfortunately. The important thing is understanding how to end the cycle of dysfunction and abuse, and turn it around.

[@tishmason5078]

@@maryelizabeth1443 I agree. Someone has to break the cycle

[@deadcandance280]

Poor parents. Her mother was so kind and sweet. They honestly didnt deserve any of that 😢

[@mazymonroe8749]

Her mother was a drunk and dependent on her daughter for friendship!

[@brazil87ful]

She was a hysterical drunker

[@juliefall2892]

The mother wasn't being a mother and setting the daughter boundaries or a good example . She suffocated her With sick pandering. The father absent while being there.

[@deadcandance280]

@@juliefall2892 still doesn’t deserve to be abused

[@juliefall2892]

@@deadcandance280 no absolutely shouldn't be abused. The movie was well done as the story unfolded.

[@dianaprince9311]

No boundaries or discipline for this child when she was younger and the way she acts reflects this. The grandmother was a toxic mother herself and that impacted the aunt. The drinking made everything worse. There is no way I was dating at 15 nor putting my hands on my parents. My parents didn’t play period wasn’t trying to be a friend, but parents.

[@Disneyfan82]

Sometimes I wish they made Deena make the grandmother pay for what she did.

[@Disneyfan82]

@@madelainemadelaine2934 Now it's too late to give the daughter a spanking. She would just scream abuse at them to look like a victim.

[@kioflife]

Father is weak. Never stepped in as the man of the house and just being so passive. He kept making it the mother’s fault but he is just as guilty. Kids putting the paws on parents is crazy. Granny woulda set her ass straight 😂

[@missmaomi28]

Jack Arnold would NEVER

[@dinarusso3320]

​@@missmaomi28😂😂 exactly

[@missmaomi28]

@@dinarusso3320 😆

[@nyla298]

They should make her go live with granny 😅

[@juliefall2892]

@@nyla298 hahaha yes

[@judyledbetter3915]

😢 You Don't Hit Your Parents, EVER. God Bless 💗🙌

[@debrashort7061]

They should have called the cops.

[@margielandrum9977]

Such a great movie!!! I’ve watched it at least 3 times!! It’s awesome.

[@jasonervoes1326]

Great movie. Dan Lauria, JoAnna Kéarns, and Hilary Swank were great together.

[@ChickenSoupForTheSoulTV]

Thanks for the nice comments!

[@kwangleason3222]

There is no way in hell you let a child disrespect you like this.

[@judyledbetter3915]

Word!!!😢 💔 God Bless 💗🙌

[@lkav1313]

Exactly. This movie is infuriating!

[@judyledbetter3915]

@@lkav1313 Amen. God Bless 💗🙌

[@divawendy]

facts , i dont care if its my own kid ,she would be out on the streets

[@christinemoore6911]

Agree she’s an evil brat

[@RosinahKotane]

Beautiful movie indeed if only there were friends like this in real life,the world would be a better place indeed

[@karmayt8956]

My mom never cleaned my room and she would have knocked me into tomorrow and put me out on the streets if I acted like that. Moms are not supposed to be friends with their kids.

[@jackchop1576]

My mom "cleaned" my room to be nosey and spy on me a couple times but not to actually clean it.

[@susansmolen9741]

What terrific acting that was delivered by this cast. I love Joanna Kerns. The ensemble was great as well. A very good and thoughtful story line. I highly recommend every family to watch this movie. I’ll guarantee that at least one of the characters or more, would be familiar to someone in every family that we know.

[@ChickenSoupForTheSoulTV]

Thanks for the thoughtful comments, Susan.

[@Crimson2036]

The best message of this movie is that things can go bad, but you still thinks it's alright.

[@danielleschiazza6172]

What??

[@yuw777]

@@danielleschiazza6172 Place a pan of hot water on the stove. Turn on low. As it warms up the item inside the pot thinks it is okay. Little by little the situation heats up and before you know it the item is cooked. That is how things develop. Think seduction as is the same. Open the door a crack and before you know it a full blown problem.

[@jacquelinecruz5800]

A father works well for his children. The children should appreciate their parents and love them and respect them.

[@lisawentworth6831]

but these don't...the daughter is out of control and the father was completely detached

[@agoogleuseragoogleuser9349]

Yay! No commercials!

[@debidriscoll8108]

Fantastic right?

[@jeffcampbell2710]

Dad is a big part of the problem. Making excuses instead of taking vontrol of the situation.

[@livingintongues]

Then he would be called a toxic male.. Poor dad's can't win for losing

[@AS-wj1du]

Whacked dad, smashed dad, they tried to force her to do homework, ground her and ban her from seeing her boyfriend then she retaliates that he hurt her. They needed to call the police, they'd quickly see it was a lie because it's not fair to her younger brother. Where will it end?

[@siegridthomas9674]

I LOVE Joanna Kerns movies.....

[@GeminiladyJackson-xq6hc]

Joanna kerns was terrific as the mom in the TV sitcom, growing pains.

[@marilynmccormick3731]

I think most parents are the best parents they are able to be----full of their own shortcomings & insecurities, and at the same time trying to understand the complexities of their growing children going through changing growth phases. It's a tough job being a parent as well as being a teenager. If councilling is needed, then that's what you do so you all learn better skills; providing families a way to cope, love each other and become everlasting friends. It's a road of obsticles, disappointments, heartache and achievements. And someday your grown kids may have children of their own to raise.....................

[@oopsiedaisy1320]

Very well said and thoughtful

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

"Most parents" yes. Then, there are messed up parents that really don't want the best for their children... because they are jealous.

[@brandysmith-n3g]

Great Movie. I'm glad this family got the help that they needed.

[@lisaodendaal629]

I am only a half hour in...We all have problems but there is no excuse for the daughter's behaviour, she needs serious discipline!

[@LeeLee19901]

Damn right

[@arethasampson2953]

Damn right

[@isabelaguzei8745]

She needs a psichiatrist

[@dayleraynor463]

What do you suggest?

[@dayleraynor463]

I think a good place to start is going to church together. And prayer to our Heavenly Father.

[@lukejack9551]

A very interesting tv movie. Great acting, prompts to Hillary Swank and the actress playing the mother🎉

[@jackiemurria3966]

Great performance from all the Casts... Great Movie! And No One Would tell along with many others My faves to this day

[@michelegreshan1539]

These parents today act like they’re afraid of their children. Insane

[@sugaray7435]

Oh wow! I remember this movie! Crazy hindsight is 20/20 this movie was crazy, 15 and practically moving like your 18!

[@SerenDipity64711]

Such a great film about unresolved abuse handed down through the generations. Brilliant and realistic acting from everyone here. Joanna Kerns and Hilary Swank were exceptional.

[@woodchuck3466]

I miss these old movies that use to pass on lifetime.

[@Sheryl.B.]

The way he takes pictures of his bowls got me 😂😂😂😂 And grandma hit her daughter with such grace 😂😂😂😂 and went to watch TV like nothing happened.

[@hollyfran51317]

The moment she threatened to accuse my husband of rape, she would’ve been sent out of my house to rehab or a group home. Period.

[@kathconserv]

These actions didn’t come from out of nowhere. 😊

[@kimjones2056]

@@kathconservreally so women don’t lie

[@dinarusso3320]

Or a foster home

[@musicandtheatregirl]

My mom never read my diaries or invaded my space. Years later, when I was in college, I asked her why that was - because on TV and in movies, the mothers always did that stuff. She told me that the daughters in those movies/shows did things to make them untrustworthy. My mom then said that since I never gave her a reason to distrust me, she returned that by not invading my privacy. She followed that up by telling me if I ever did make her uneasy, she would 100% be in my stuff, 24/7.

[@SJJewel-fl2jl]

Joanna kerns such a good actress..miss her movies and her dimples!❤😅

[@ChickenSoupForTheSoulTV]

Joanna Kerns works mostly as a director now. She hasn't had a mainstream acting credit in over 15 years, but in the past 5 years or so she has numerous directing credits, including The Good Doctor, A Million Little Things, FBI, Tiny Pretty Things, Why Women Kill, and the reboots of Night Court, Mad About You and Dynasty, among others. Keep your eye peeled for her credits!

[@katwilsey1250]

OMG 😲 only halfway in and this, by far, feels way more like a Thriller, Drama instead of a Drama Romance....

[@sallyrose9507]

It’s not easy being a parent!❤i feel the parents pain.

[@annmoore8696]

They need to be a Parent Not a Friend! 😢

[@ladennayoung2939]

I feel the children's pain more, and I'm a mother myself.

[@margaretgray4170]

I've seen this movie several times. It is a cautionary tale of parents have to parent and not be friends until that child is adult! These parents had their own issues that weren't dealt with until the daughter was out of control and hurting them. The son was drinking to cope with home issues he had no control over! Both parents have kind of checked out as a means to cope! Finally the authorities stepped in to bring reality to these parents!

[@Marsbars-iz3iv]

Well said! I think the part where the mom brings pizza to the daughter and says can't you say thank you? That right there is so relatable to almost everyone's lives. The mom was complete opposite of her mom and yet here is her daughter who has been treated beyond well and can't comprehend the pain and neglect her mom had!!😢 It's a masterpiece, I am trying to get off drinking myself but I come to this movie from time to time My dad was a cop and though I had a dad in my life I feel like I don't know him much. I give my kid the opposite of what I had especially that night when I drove my dad home because he was too drunk and I worked 2 shifts that day and he said I'm a horrible son, he never loved me, I said I needed you my superman my daddy, he looked at me and said you idiot, got out the car and slammed the door on me leaving me there. Anyway, when people say Jesus Christ isn't real, I say he's the only one that keeps me going!! I love my life, my family and I have an incredible testimony to share!

[@tessajones9393]

This was a really good movie! Parenting is so complex.

[@dominiquedevon6879]

The dinner in the beginning looked so sad.

[@nicolemonrue]

Her mother slapped the hell out of her and then casually went and sat down and watched television 😂😂😂

[@cjeezy__uncheezy86]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@todayipaint4667]

...Because she did not expect her daughter to react to her abuse. Her daughter should go where the mother was sitting, slap her back, and smash the TV - not necessarily in that order. I think this might have broken the pattern, once and for all.

[@stevelozano9523]

​@@todayipaint4667then that would have been no difference from what Deana did to her mother.

[@talltalllady]

@@todayipaint4667 Honestly if my mother slapped my face I wouldn't slap her face. She carried me for 9 months and gave birth to me. Not the other way around. We are not equals. Not to say that her mother is not dead room for slapping her face.

[@heirofdisa]

Yeah, that's some 80's parenting right there. Fuck a kid up and go finish Oprah

[@attraversiamo6059]

A prime example of severe family dysfunction caused by Mother Hunger. Alcohol is not to blame here - both the grandmother, mother, and son uses alcohol merely as coping mechanisms to deal with their pain and to suppress negative emotions. Deena's coping mechanism becomes the boyfriend and sex. The father/husband's coping mechanism becomes his work in the basement. Deena's acting out, aggression, skipping school and lying are a very loud scream for help and love from a healthy mother - not an alcoholic mother who thinks of her as a best friend - which is a clear example of unhealthy enmeshment often seen between dysfunctional mothers and wounded daughters. The original wound (trauma) is Mother Hunger, which then branches into dysfunction, dissociation, enmeshment, and addiction. No one is to blame here because they are simply remodeling the behaviour which was modeled to them. Gabor Mate states that we cannot blame people for simply wanting their pain to go away. However, everyone has a responsibility to heal themselves and will be held accountable for their choices. People don't know what they don't know. If we don't heal what hurt us, we'll bleed on people who didn't cut us - something which is expressed in this movie through three generations of unhealed trauma.

[@FreeSpirit973]

True

[@northernbettygirl]

Where did you get your degree in Psychology and Sociology? I made it half way through this movie, and I am appalled and sickened. The mother and son needs help with alcoholism, the father with avoidance issues. That Deena girl is way beyond out of control. She's violent, beligerant, irresponsible and manic. And that boyfriend only throws fuel on the fire. He needs the heave ho! There's programs and medication that can help rehabilitate her, but if she refuses, there are other, less hospitable places that will incarcerate her and keep her from hurting anyone else. Face it, some people just can't be helped, no matter what you do, and they get worse as they get older. No one should be subjected to physical and emotional abuse on any level. Period. Glad to see in the end they all got the help they need as a family.

[@stephaniebach__12-24]

That girl hasn’t suffered trauma.. she’s just an entitled and disobedient brat

[@chocolatefudge5263]

You message brought tears to my eyes. "If we don't heal what hurt us, we'll bleed on people who didn't cut us" so beautifully said. My family has been going through this for at least 3 generations.

[@theirmom4723]

@@northernbettygirl You do realize this #1 is a movie and #2 this movie was made in 1996. All those medications and treatments you speak of...#3 did not exist.

[@tonyakrebs4137]

This movie hits a little deep for me. I was a troubled teen. I didn't skip school and I never hit my parents but I had so much anger and rage and was a terror to my absolutely wonderful parents. I was even a bit wild in my twenties after I got out of the Army and even got arrested a couple times. I'm so glad that I grew up once I was in my late twenties.

[@NunyaBizness2.0]

Have you apologized to your folks or tried to make it up to them? You’re lucky to have them.

[@tonyakrebs4137]

@@NunyaBizness2.0 Oh yes, many times. We still have an amazing relationship. They're my best companions and we even live in the same neighborhood. In fact, lol, I called my mom and apologized to her again right after watching this the other night. She loved hearing it again, as always. I try to let her know as often as I can how much they are appreciated in mine and my son's life. Now, I might be a little biased here, but I think that they are the best parents in the whole wide world and I make sure to treat my mom like royalty anytime she's around

[@ChickenSoupForTheSoulTV]

Thanks for sharing your personal story, Tonya.

[@NunyaBizness2.0]

@@tonyakrebs4137 That’s great

[@cindyprimm190]

I can relate. I'm 63 and still fucking up.

[@TeresaDebusk]

I can not say enough about this movie!! The rights!! About spouse abuse going on still!! And to stand up for the right against abuse!! Great movie!!

[@chocolatefudge5263]

The rivalry between the 2 sisters has an effect on the whole family. The grandmother might have had the same relationship with a sister of hers.

[@RandomComment6]

Fast forward many years later, Swank has two academy awards now. Great movie, I’ve watched it several times. Ps- Dying To Belong was a good one too.

[@vivianaestremera5381]

Thnx I’m watch that next lol

[@LonelyRider87]

If I acted like this girl when I was a teen I would've been beaten & thrown out.

[@philipjohnkaye8890]

Any children who would happily lie and accuse someone of rape, isn't a child but a monster in development, end of.

[@GlassOnion602]

The spawn of Satan...

[@MsMekia-dl3el]

She's not passing as a 15 year old!

[@martamariotto1181]

Not even as a GIRL.

[@LifeAskmarie]

The ending was good at least the 15 year old went back home she has a second chance at building a relationship with her Parents also changing her life around for the better

[@SB-pj8ku]

I am so glad she didn't let him ruin her life; long term. Hillary is such an amazing actress.

[@MsJonessss]

Exactly, You see at the end how the boyfriend acted. I get Denna family had issues but at least she has a family who loves her. The boyfriend unfortunately has a toxic family situation and he could get help too, but instead acts out.

[@iamcarolline]

OMG the emotions this movie gave me!!! I wanted to get through the screen and do something

[@yvonnefernando6504]

A very good movie,thanks for uploading.

[@janecallaghan2316]

I have an 18 and 19 year old and never have they even raised their voices let alone hit me. She’s 15 and allowed to come and go as she pleases no boundaries. Respect there is none. To let her have a boyfriend and go out and about whenever she likes and they have never met him. Can’t help but think there have never been boundaries in that house. These Parents don’t work as a team and that’s always going to end badly. Right in the beginning father said he was going somewhere on the weekend and thought he would take the son. Mother gets in the car and says your father is going away this weekend why don’t you and I do something! Kid has tantrum shoves mother breaks stuff and doesn’t apologise her mother does then buys her a ton of clothes she trying to buy her she should have taken those clothes back. They are pathetic. Reaping what they have sown. The mother is pathetic

[@sachornabrissett2098]

I completely agree

[@clmhK5]

Basically the father is just taking up space and paying the bills. Never stood up for the the mother of his kids. He was just as bad as the mom. Mom was all on her own dealing with it.

[@jaky411]

The dad seemed to just not care enough to speak up or try to find a solution when both mother and daughter get into disputes like he’s still a parent and part of both of their lives.. if no solution or closure ever seem to come out of their arguments, another parent should try to step in as a last resort…

[@trinafirey1175]

These issues don’t work out this easily.

[@tatjana5207]

There seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel for this family. They are lucky to have a good father and husband who has chosen to help to save his family ❤❤❤

[@annafattore1273]

This family is beyond dysfunctional. The whole family needs help.

[@annikatan378]

... Very much agreed.

[@annikatan378]

Individual and then family therapy comes to mind

[@treseancann1261]

I blame the grandmother.

[@rushijayasinghe2380]

I hate this kind of parents .. this isn't love.. This kind of love destroyes children's future 😢

[@christinaperrigo]

According to the Living God, these parents hate their children.

[@helie4279]

Excellent movie, thank you!

[@nikitatrisha1616]

See now she couldn't have pulled those stunts if she was born into a Caribbean household.

[@susandorcean4555]

Thank you!! My mom is Jamaican and my dad is Haitian. They would have buried me deep if I would have hit my mom in her face like that.

[@narlywaves2371]

Lol. And everyone is now talking about their dysfunctional parents and the men!! 😏😭😭😂 Look how that turned out.

[@Samantha-us1hc]

Lol she would ah get ah rass lick

[@luvbeinghiswife1148]

Or an Irish Catholic one 😂

[@chikochiringa7247]

Or Africa 😂