The 9 Types Of Women Who Keep Getting Played

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@ms.j.w.4208]

Soooo TRUE....!!! 👍 🙏🏽😎🙏🏽💗💯💯💗😎🙏🏽

[@ms.j.w.4208]

Thank U Stephan....I'm working on my relationship with Christ...FIRST..So I can BE PREPARED 4WHOM GOD "IS READY 2SEND AND I'M READY TO RECEIVE WHOLEHEARTEDLY " AMEN

[@ms.j.w.4208]

U ARE RIGHT STEPHAN...U REALLY ARE...🙏🏽😎🙏🏽💯💯🙏🏽😎🙏🏽

[@elsieperez3621]

So true!! My ex husband is a Parasite!! (til now..)

[@monicamessam11]

Q1

[@queeenpeechez]

remember this when seeking relationships. You're looking for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@christinacook3508]

Thanks for all you do. I appreciate it.

[@Kamone111]

Amen!

[@Astoldbyginquita]

I definitely realized that I fell in love with my exs potential big mistake.

[@sherrysaultz8782]

yes you're right do not fall in love with potential yes and I agree to where it should be equal you want your partner to be something like you in certain areas certain ways but thanks for your advice honey preciate it

[@fosterjanine5112]

Unfortunately it's the HIGH VALUE WOMAN that gets PLAYED a lot because they kind, generous and genuine and they do ATTRACT the WRONG men not because they have an inferiority COMPLEX but because these types of men want this type of woman that is successful, independent etc because they don't want to settle for someone else just like them. ( WEAK). Be careful who you give access to your life because not everyone deserves to be close to you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@realaliciacinnamon]

THISSSSSS

[@Jujubean9795]

It’s important to avoid men that are not financially stable. High value women should not deal with men that are not established in employment.

[@taylorweesner6138]

THAT PART

[@michellebf9585]

You summed that up nicely @Janine

[@chambriayarbrough3289]

Accept him for who HE is right now! Don't jump ahead to "what his potential!"

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@INFJparadox]

This is why I wish I wasn't an empath. All I have attracted are narcissists. My mother was a narcissist as well, and I have horrible childhood trauma. This is partly the reason--you accept things from people that you shouldn't, but you also have a higher resistence because you have experienced it so much--wanting someone to love you they way they are supposed to. Always try to see the best in people, and then the real monster comes out, abusing you and destroying you in every way. So I'm done. I will be 52 soon and I'm at peace. I had zero guidance growing up, which just added to my low self-esteem, along with anxiety and depression. Completely agree with your analysis and this should be taught to every young girl. Thank you and new subscriber :)

[@thecrystalwolf4134]

I resonate with this so much. I could've wrote this entire thing myself. It's def not easy being an empath and growing up with that type of childhood. I've been there, which is why I think I have to leave my relationship now. 😕

[@TP-pq3nt]

Watch Love Dorsey, RC Blake’s videos hun… I was the same way. Not anymore

[@MarikaTheEmpress]

SAME !!!!

[@haripriya1515]

I am your young edition . Exactly same happened in my life. I am an hsp and also an empath. Well said

[@NaturallyPeachy]

Wow, I struggle with the same. Being an empath and holding on to ppl that I should have let go. I keep getting played as a genuine heart.

[@fayewearing581]

When his words dont match his actions or he's hesitant in expressing himself. Bow out gracefully and RUN! The book series The Five Love Languages in addition to Where Is My Boaz & He"s Lying Sis were key for me.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@yingvang1276]

I don't believe in this saying anymore. I believe in consistency in both.

[@Lynnsayne]

This resonates so much. Do not waste your time with potential. This happened to me with my ex. He improved and I walked away with an autoimmune disease and high blood pressure due to stress.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thanks for sharing I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@Lynnsayne]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I’m healed from that and thriving again now thanks to therapy and introspection. It’s not worth the journey though, definitely learned a lot about myself from that experience😳

[@veenela296]

@@Lynnsayne oh lord good to hear your doing better! Similar situation to me...built my ex up taught his so much ..he walked away thriving and I walked away overweight and fatigued!

[@Lynnsayne]

@@veenela296 Now you’ll build back better than before like I did. And we know better🥰

[@gladysdaniels7446]

Good to know you are doing better..chileeee

[@heathermaich8966]

I love this guy, he is describing all the mistakes I've made through my life and the times I have been played by my own fantasies!

[@tanyaholt7451]

Me too! Stephan is awesome wish he was mine 😅

[@tatipro3098]

It’s easier to be single then have a relationships.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best!

[@yvettekatambwa7082]

@@innedbystephanspeaks8004 please stop trying to scam people. You’re not the real Stephan.

[@jennifergray6433]

thank you. too many damn rules and regulations...

[@amandakropen3273]

22 years after my divorce, I have no reason to remarry. I love my life just the way it is and I value my privacy. NO MORE DRAMA!

[@jenaya_laila2442]

Yes, agree!

[@woopiemiddleman8232]

Those men who play games will also tell you they don’t plan no games! Watch out for that too.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@lynnfortune4675]

Yes, they lie and then tell you it was not their intentions.

[@reddfoxx5938]

Yesss they the main ones💯💯

[@cecesjl3819]

Story of my life.

[@shutit4024]

@@lynnfortune4675 facts!!! I also watch out when they say they use to be a fuckboy/player sometimes they still are

[@jascelynbartley2841]

I always believed a man when he said he wanted me even though his actions never match.Ive learned so much since then too still stay true to what I want and to learn to really listen to the thing men tell me.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@sscott504]

And really pay attention to those actions...if his words and actions don't match...DON'T CONTINUE TO ENTERTAIN...that is him at his CORE

[@carleneburdon7688]

Dont believe what he says believe his actions

[@christinatultul9257]

Same here

[@lizzierose007]

Watch out for men who say they are looking for commitment & marriage in their dating profile. Ask them if that's what they want when you meet them. They seem to get amnesia after they get you to fall for them.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@chatsonthematwithedrence3910]

True!!

[@lizzierose007]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes, for me thats not investing too much time on future fakers. Faking they want a future with you until they get tired of you and a new shiny toy comes around. Especially in the case of narcissists. My ex was a narcissist so he knew the game, and played it well. Thank you Stephan. What you say is so true...✌🏼

[@pradeepdheer6225]

Absence true💯 So observe their actions

[@sandradjimatey]

😂😂 It’s crazy

[@shaec8498]

Got myself played for 10 whole years and a baby! Words and actions started not to match, and I rationalized it. 🤷🏾‍♀️ you know better you do better. Thank God I’m resilient

[@msdemeanour]

When a man shows you who he is, believe him

[@justinedeacon560]

Same here. 10 years but no kids though.

[@KshipsinKchups]

Duh. That's male gender for you. Teach your daughters to not get near them

[@marsishome9488]

@@justinedeacon560 lucky lady.

[@marsishome9488]

You broke a generational curse by ending the cycle of accepting less than you deserve. Good for you 💗😊

[@iesharose33]

Being a newly divorced single mom, I'm definitely NOT looking for anything right now but I'm taking notes for the future! Stephan, thank you ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@candacesmith5572]

Applaud you from one single divorced Mom to another. Not wanting anything right now maybe yes/no to a future spouse. Presently no true partners prospects, but I am too in love with God and everything. To truly make time for a significant other.

[@gladysdaniels7446]

same here Lesha...

[@iesharose33]

@Candace God, myself and two children are my only priorities. I am working on me so I can be a better version of myself for myself! I salute you Queen 👑

[@punk5402]

I’m on the path for divorce. I’m so tired to be the one loving for both of us. He started spending a lot of time on his phone…I have 3 children with this man. I pray everyday for God to give me the strength that I need to keep going.

[@amcartii1239]

My Intuition was always right but I was scared of being alone

[@Didi-fr5ic]

damn girl! deep

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Always important to listen to your intuition

[@originalgoldengoddess]

Being alone for me feels like a blessing. Because I can be myself when I'm with myself ❤❤❤ and I can do what I want... freedom 😏😏😏

[@blah581]

Same smh

[@elenaappleton2932]

Same!

[@LSPandaExpresss]

I am a man and every single one of his points resonated with me. I've always been told that I'm an empath and I've learned that I need to set boundaries and be kind to myself first. Any other men out there who can relate you're not alone. For all the women out there truly I feel you on a deep level

[@KumaBear10]

I do think all of these points are more for empaths. Because unfortunately, we do make excuses because we create a backstory, a reasoning for why they are doing the nonsense they're doing. But we forget the last point of, I'm dealing with an ADULT partner and it is not only on ME to pour into our relationship

[@SemekiIzuio]

Careful about emotional manipulation, we are highly more susceptible to it then someone who isnt an empath

[@khrisj3032]

This is exactly what happened to me 🤦🏾‍♀️. I was dealing with a guy for years who was broke and had no ambition, and used me. I was stupid and ignored the red flags because I wanted a relationship so bad. I found out to late that he was a narcissist. I was always their for him. But when he finally got the female he really wanted and started making decent money he threw me to the side like I was trash. It took him 11 years to even want to make a move to get a good job. He told me he didn't want a family with me and ended up having a baby with the next female. Then he tried to come back into my life after and thought I would accept his child and everything he did to me. I'm 33 healing myself from the years of damage. But ladies don't let this happen to you. Stephan is here to help you please take his advice

[@BornFree0731]

Why did/how did he think he could come back?

[@camellia8625]

He obviously wasn’t happy with your replacement…..or more likely she wasn’t happy with him. You are worth so much more than being a fall back plan. I am shocked at his nerve expecting you to take on the resulting child.

[@khrisj3032]

@@BornFree0731 he's a lame who thought I would deal with him because he was making more money

[@khrisj3032]

@camellia8625 thank you hun 💜💜. After what he did I don't think anything a guy does now will shock me

[@boldvictory1]

Ladies, I can agree to this from experience for point 1. Stephan, I needed this 3 years ago. 🥺🥺 I finally woke up and got out. Ladies, please look at the reality and not the potential. Friendship is okay.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@gladysdaniels7446]

I lived with that for 5 years..zero motivation, zero ambition, zero contribution, but took, took and took some more before leaving 🥺

[@borketeybelinda2456]

😭❤️

[@chinadoll534]

@@gladysdaniels7446 sorry to hear. You deserve so much more. Take care

[@gladysdaniels7446]

@@chinadoll534 Thank you so much. Cheers

[@goodgyal1802]

Whenever a man makes me feel confused, meaning his words don’t match his actions, I pull back my energy. This I learned from dealing with a “relationship” that I was always confused. I learned never again to let my fantasy lead me. Because those types of men will play on it.

[@autumnmoon8459]

99.9% of the time: Can’t get played if your not giving it out. No sex before marriage, just like God said.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@Iman-ve3il]

True, my mother drilled this in my head, but of “curiosity killed the cat”. I’m def learning still at 45

[@seebertha]

No mam,Virginia , gotmarried first. Stilled got played.

[@ChristinaLove844]

Not true. Anyone capable of getting emotionally attached can be played. Are you saying virgins don't form emotional attachments?

[@mimiarzu9740]

I have been practicing celibacy for years. The last guy I dated I didn’t even kiss but I was the most emotionally attached to him and he played me big time. It helps to stay celibate but you can still develop feelings either way. It’s like you become more sensitive when you are practicing purity

[@goddessoflight74]

We have to remain humble to better ourselves and once we do that, we can see the full picture. Establishing a firm foundation as friends first is essential. Slow and steady, it does win the race. I think people get really excited very quickly by wanting that instant gratification. Then feeling sorrow in a tower moment when it doesn’t manifest the way they intended because they wanted it so bad. Thanks for the goodies. You enjoy your day.❣

[@lanaeni2194]

Thank you ❤️

[@goddessoflight74]

@@rx4207 🥰

[@newnew-mv1uj]

So so true,Hmmmmmmm

[@omayramanns6267]

I did this with my ex husband and I tell my daughters this . To not marry potential. Because it can also go potentially wrong 😑 My mom sent me the wrong messages when I was a kid so really this is the beginning of my issues. You don’t need to apologize for telling the truth .

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate your feedback!

[@Wrightn221]

Someone posted that on Facebook. It was hilarious! They said not to date potential, because it's a set up. Been there, done that. I am 56, I wish a bum would.

[@phyfoster-Auntie_]

Truth!

[@KshipsinKchups]

Number 1 step: ignore men. Dont date anymore. Focus on making money and love yourself

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@lc4972]

I'm beginning to think this is the answer. Have been off all dating apps for awhile and trying to form another source of income.

[@arihudson480]

This is the best answer!!

[@suzanaandrade2125]

Amen!!

[@jadeacampbell5206]

They don’t like when we do this either

[@chambriayarbrough3289]

No need to apologize for "this is a lazy ass bum!" Right On! A friend told me..."don't let these guys use you; because they will!"

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@lealea6020]

I still feel so naive and I'm 35. I always thought men wanted love/or loved me when having sex with me (like I did) only to get disappointed. I feel like from a completely different planet, I don't understand how guys can have sex without feelings....

[@tanyaholt7451]

Men Dnt nd feelings they jus want any empty hole

[@claysiecross4952]

Girl sorry but you have to wake up to the times we are living

[@loriellajames6978]

Wow you and I are alike. I am the same age but not naïve though. Everyone always leaves after they get what they want, smh.

[@terra.amherst_7321]

Men are the most insensitive creature in this planet. Sometimes they pretend to have feelings on you so they can play without emotional attachment. I'm 35 too and it also happened to me i got my lessons learned.

[@SemekiIzuio]

Men are wired and physically built different. I suggest you do your research and find studies on how women fall in love emotionally, men fall in love with sex. But when it comes to sex the fact that we are living in times where women give sex so easily means men can move around and get it from anyone with very little effort, sex begins to loose meaning for what the concept even means. Women caused this problem in which there are less and less quality men. The same can be said for the issues with todays women who are completely delusional.

[@phoenixrising8007]

Discern between the best one yet or good enough versus the one who truly meets you where you’re at ~ never settle

[@bridgetchilele1078]

There are genuine men out there with good intentions. They are just hard to find. Pathetic men find pleasure in manipulating women to get what they want, which is rather sad.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be doing what is truly best 🙏

[@shamamasaeed]

A single newly divorced mother here. Never really dated and only had an arranged marriage. I listened to the 7 ways men manipulate women and I relate to most of those, wish I knew those years ago. Have a lot of healing to do. But I can firmly say this is all new to me and I'm actually making notes with each video! Definitely a huge eye opener :)

[@ES-db5yb]

Realizing I'm all of these types... Ugh, I need to do better for myself! My mom has spent decades with a man who hardly ever made her feel loved or helped to get things off her plate. Once I started to grow up and realize things I felt sorry for her, and I promised myself I did not want a partner like that. Yet, that is the example I grew up with and willing or not it got under my skin. Breaking a generational cycle is not easy at all, but as Stephan said one must focus on healing. Ignoring the intuition is a big one. I think it's very hard to dissociate from the fantasy of love. I always fell for the idea of love and the idea of the man, and ended up always being played.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@jennifermorency4835]

Thank you for being so honest with us. My late husband was the best man in my life! I hope one day I meet someone similar to him. 🥰

[@queeenpeechez]

Sadly I doubt that you will.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@Iman-ve3il]

Sorry for your loss...I lost my husband too, 17 yrs ago...and it’s absolutely terrifying seeing how things are in the dating field after... I’ve taken my all I knew how to be is a wife into a failed relationship that got me played, and a few others after. Those of us who are naturally submissive really need to be cautious out here....

[@sharonbraselton4302]

have q brung hime vack

[@obailey973]

Woooooooooow I'm really impressed!!! It feels really amazing to know I've managed to stay off this list, not that being on the list is a bad thing, but just because life happens, maybe I was one of them but I'm NOT 🙏🏽. My greatest joy was conquering #9. I LOVE MY CREATOR and I go to HIM for everything!!! I am in a very happy, safe and secure marriage with my best friend and just sending encouraging words, that you will someday (hopefully soon) be in one too!!!💯🙏🏽❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

[@FutureWife2013]

Thank you for these steps. I've gone through most of them in my 20's and early 30's. I'm in my late 30's now soon to be 40 in May. I have learned so much about myself and what I need in a future life partner. I still try to follow this encouraging advise my mother give me when I was 16 years old. Be friends with a man first when getting to know him that way you'll save yourself and himself from unnecessary heartache.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@FutureWife2013]

You're welcome ☺ I have been watching most of your videos for about a month now and each one has just encouraged me to keep going on the path God has for me when it comes to my dating/courting life. I've been comfortably single now for 3 years. I tried a dating app in 2020 and that was an awful experience. 😥

[@msdemeanour]

If he's a covert narcissist, he will still screw you over, regardless of how long you were friends

[@FutureWife2013]

@@msdemeanour I agree with you. I had an ex that is a narcissist and when I broke up with him for the 3rd time in 2016. He called me twice on a yearly basis and I put a stop to that in 2018 when he called for that last time. He didn't want closure or forgiveness because he was still very bitter that I broke up with him by ghosting him (that was way before ghosting was even a thing). He wanted to see if i missed him which I didn't. I told him to leave me alone or I will inform his new gf about his controlling, narcissistic ways. His new gf was a woman (he had dated before me but she cheated on him) he tried to make me jealous by putting her on a three way call with me. It didn't work.

[@FutureWife2013]

Thanks for your recommendation but I don't want or need my ex back at all! He's a very toxic person and he's dating that same woman I had mentioned. He's not worth it.

[@deniserandall4397]

The best way to stop getting played is to know your worth and stop looking for validation in someone else.

[@ericajanellelifecoaching]

This is such a needed message. I definitely learned these steps over the years. It’s so important to make sure you pay attention and keep it real with yourself. As always thanks for what you do!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@debbieyeadon3516]

I dated a guy that professed his love to me all the time. He was always there and always ready to do for me; however, I felt and I learned that even though he was all of above, he was a real liar and had too many secrets. I kept trying to ignore "red flags" but in my mind I didn't trust him. Trust is important to me no matter what he does for me. I eventually really trusted my intuition and how my spirit was not agreeing with him in my presence. I got out of that situation.

[@kareenrobinson6162]

​@@MeetStephanSpeaksall facts. Jus got played myself and those were the reasons y.

[@Afterthehealing]

I'm living proof of being HEALED, celibate and now focusing on God's will for my life. Very happy and comfortable with being single until God sends the right one. I love your teaching and I know it's 💯 because you touched on the old unhealed me a couple times 🤣🤣🤣 Glory to God for healing and wholeness 🙌🏾💯💪🏾🔥❤️

[@evelyndiaz4562]

Amen! You’re so correct. I ignored the flags, thinking it would work. 14 years later, I left not to teach him a lesson, I learned my lesson. And of course with the grace of God who never fails us. All things done through God, will prosper. I’m now at peace and happy.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@sangeetanair3643]

Very true sex can never brings love...not all women wants sex in relationship to draw men ...They want more conversations ..They want to hear to be heard and to be understood

[@lovedbeyond6422]

Fear can look like desperation and that can be disguised as intuition. That's when "intuition" goes wrong. Stop analyzing and quality listening to my inner being helped me the most

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@BajunSocaholic]

Stephan, you’re so real, raw and uncut and I absolutely love it! Thank you!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@jenaya_laila2442]

Have been with a narcissist for 21 years. Took me so long to realise because I didn't know it existed. Am in the middle of a divorce now and got playing by the next guy eventhough he knew what I was going through! Talk about being kicked when you are already down..

[@naturalbrwnhunnie]

A lot of what you're saying are exactly some of the reasons, why I got played. It's the hard reality and I'm willing to accept it. Now I'm accepting men for what and who they say they are. Thank you for the awareness. No more ignoring the red flags!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@annekajordan6952]

Excellent video! I agree, women do feel it, even when it is blatantly obvious that it is not right she will convince herself that he is the right one because of various factors like feeling like she’s running out of time, loneliness, the fantasy of being in love. These things for e.g increase the likelihood of her getting played because even though she knows otherwise, she has convinced herself that he is the right one regardless. It’s an easy mistake to make but settling is not worth it.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@quietstormmime1215]

This is me! I’m such a hopeless romantic and it got me played

[@annekajordan6952]

@Quiet Storm Mime it’s an easy mistake to make isn’t it, because we so much want that real romance that intuition can get ignored, but at least you are aware of it moving forward 🙏❤️

[@mootsiee]

Told the guy I’m going to wait till marriage and he said he can’t do the same and called off dating. Use it as a guard to get rid of shit men. But it still hurts. Never got a chance to know me other than that. Dodged a bullet

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but you need to focus on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@mimiarzu9740]

That has happened to me several times. Even if I do not tell them that I am practicing celibacy they can tell by my pattern of saying no when they ask me to go to spend the night at their house, ask me to go to the beach at night, have a few drinks with them etc. that’s when they pick up on me being a serious woman wanting a serious relationship and they bounce

[@NathalieLazo]

The more we work on our own selves, the better we attract, in this case, a better partner and a phenomenal relationship. There’s no such thing as the “right person” (to an extend) we have to become the right person first! You got this, I believe in you and invest into YOU! Best investment you can ever do is in yourself for your family, others, future and lives overall! 💯% back guarantee return on your investment! Have a great day! 🚀🎉❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@NathalieLazo]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank YOU Stephan! 😃👏🏼

[@janayewill3883]

Investment is in yourself and your bank account 🙌🏿

[@cynthiajones842]

Yes working on myself!!!

[@nellie6657]

Great video! Thank you 🙏🏽 unfortunately I have done a few of these things and yes I do end up paying for it in the end. I’m learning and growing though and I’m so grateful for that ✨

[@kristyhigh7431]

As a newly divorced woman in the dating world I realize I have a lot of work to do!! I identify with 5 of the 9 EEK!!! Thank you for this. I have had 3 failed attempts so far so I really need to take some time to evaluate.

[@blah581]

Girl same 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@kristyhigh7431]

@@blah581 We can do this!!!

[@blah581]

@@kristyhigh7431 yes sister we got this♥️🙌🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@brendacook5103]

Women who are “people pleasers” are most in danger of being victimized. They mistakenly believe the more they give the better he’ll treat them. Wrong!! Also, women make the mistake of being his “messiah” and trying to save him or lift him up.

[@janellholmes3904]

When you have a daughter, if you dont already, she is going to be set. This is awesome advice as usual. Thank you so much.

[@mayureshpublicity7364]

Very grateful to stphan for Guiding us... I was doing the same mistake...Lack of healing I came in relationship with the wrong man...Now i realised i still need deep healing....I m working on myself... Healing myself...❤❤❤

[@sophiaf.]

Yup 👍🏾 , You said it Stephan. “Pray 🙏🏾 about it !!!” Luke 18:1

[@sophiaf.]

Luke 1:18

[@theelements7189]

A woman intuition is her biggest blessings... She must never second guess it, as you received process and deliver....

[@mlml8820]

Uh oh!!! I have been most of these examples in my lifetime. My problem is I think the best in people, and I don’t regret a thing, I can’t live backwards..it will put me in a negative state of mind! But.. even after all that I am still looking for love! I love love… and I will get there!

[@honeybun7890]

I thank God for using you and speaking through you. I broke up with my ex because I felt like he wasn’t walking in his true potential and he had no desire to do so. I started to question my decision and everyone that I would ask for advice, and I mean EVERYONE, would give me the exact same answer “you can motivate and change him.” And it really made me think that I made a mistake because these are women who I trust would never steer me wrong and I value their advice.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@suebrown4040]

LADIES KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED UNTIL Y'ALL GET MARRIED AMEN

[@sharonbraselton4302]

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[@Its_From_Beyond]

Stephan I really do respect your channel. I am learning so much here. Ty for being a beacon of light dor many people.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy my content has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@JAkk0428]

I am learning so much from you, and will have my 14 year old listen to your wisdom as well. We couldn’t be any more different, yet everything you say resonates and makes complete sense to me. ❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@sharonbraselton4302]

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[@teedee643]

also if a guy is going through a rough patch, looking for a job etc., if he is a good man, he WONT be trying to date a woman. He will be working on himself and getting himself together. He may be looking for company or sex, but will also be honest if that is what he is seeking. Always listen.

[@greyonyx08]

I fall into 4 or so of these categories. Working on myself and self esteem and self love everyday so that one day I'll stop getting played. I'm so tired of my time being wasted and everybody being a learning lesson. I want better. I need better.

[@msdemeanour]

If he's a broke @ss, a pathological liar, has a bunch of kids & an angry demented ex, run for the hills ladies! Nobody is worth this drama & you don't need any more wrinkles.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@abigail-yr8ym]

to be honest, i think the most important thing for ladies to understand is that you must keep your heart open and stay vulnerable no matter how many times you got your heart broken. be safe and aware, but not too guarded that you don’t let anyone in.

[@jeannew4957]

I got played when I first came out the gate after 20 years of marriage. I had expected men of my age to act like grown ups. I mean, I thought by my age they would be able to monitor themselves, not lie and be done with looking for ways to manipulate and look for short cuts. Boy, was I wrong! Now, it's 3 years in and guys my age better come prepared.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@emerald_city3681]

Yes ma’am I thought the same thing. Nope still playing games. 😂smh be a whole circus 🤡

[@freeme3853]

Me too I got played by the first guy for sex only and again by a man I had dated 20 years before he just wanted my money. I’m so done

[@shutit4024]

I’m 22 dating a 42 year old and he is playing games with me it’s not safe out here sadly, I tried guys my age but they’re just as bad as the older ones now smh

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

I agree. These types of women do get played a lot - the ones that don’t pay attention to see if a man’s words line up with his actions. Because he could be a smooth talker, and talks a great game - but actually never delivers, meaning he doesn’t do what he talks about - he does completely the opposite of what he talks about! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks No problem! My pleasure.

[@BlushingRoseDiaries]

You’re the big brother I never had. Although I’m now married I could’ve saved myself so many headaches had I saw this in my 20s.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@nettiemarie2556]

My Pastor friend said this once:. If you aren't living and breathing Jesus, you're really not ready for anything else, (relationship-wise). That hit me hard. 💗💝💯🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@cammyTalksLife]

That first point hit so hard but it’s the truth. You’re right Sir . Healing and waiting on God is the answer. Trying to this by yourself, not gonna work .

[@zeenatkhan646]

Have seen many speakers and coaches talk about love life and relationship on KZbin. But your content makes a lot of sense to me almost every time. Keep up the good work. Thank you for your guidance Stephan. Keep up the good work. 😊🙏👍

[@renee167]

Thanks Stephan for providing clarity on this topic! Number one describes me to the T! I definitely try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and I’m the type of woman that will stand by my man and encourage him to reach his full potential. However, as you mentioned I must also consider reality and this is something that I will definitely consider going forward.

[@kachetphilip6177]

My present situation Darling. I'm so ending it when I get back to my base.

[@renee167]

@@kachetphilip6177 Good for you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@jessicavillavert1261]

I also share the same sentiments as you.

[@jayviensam]

I'm 22 and still finding myself especially what i wanna do and build myself, exercise etc. My past dating taught me to do self care and love and they gave me that. I would love a relationship yes but god knows it's not the time right now for me. I know my worth. I'm not gonna settle for anything less than when you know your worth you attract the right people and things.

[@joannehightower4242]

God Bless You! Stephan..."You Must Forgive" Every relationship is a mirrored reflection of who we are. Forgiveness is not only for others; but especially for ourselves. All experiences are lessons to be learned. Inclusive of present life-day, but also generational (DNA behavioural) Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that and may God bless you as well 🙏 ❤️

[@RL-ml5uq]

Best advice ever !!!!! You re the best Stephan !!!

[@dr.sammypryor]

Yes, I helped my ex get his degree and then he became abusive. So, find a man who has his stuff together. Stephan is correct this sets you up as a target for a narcissist.

[@nmorto2013]

I'll tell u who don't get played, the single ones. Ima stay in that number bc hell nawl, not again. Omg I gotta tell my good guy story Issa mess. I know I'm critical but I love your channel bc u r very genuine. Real recognize real.

[@BrieLani]

Thank you so much for this . It feels amazing to know that I have healed properly and overcome all of these phases in my life . I truly look back realizing the issues at hand an so proud of myself for choosing a better life for myself and it has allowed me to experience a fulfilling and healthy relationship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@geraldinehusband4325]

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[@joanagain007]

Yeah in my younger years I fell on the #1 reason, I just didn't know but thank God for knowledge and experience, I'm much more mature now...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@Godspokebangithappen]

That is true many of us cross that line .we would love to get married but we don't know if that's the right one.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@KathleenMilliken]

I wish I saw this 2 years ago. I’m 55 and got myself into a situationship, his love bombing and breadcrumbing was intense. And when I finally put up boundaries, it was too late. He still moved far away and even via long distance, kept trying to pull me in. So he dumped me and moved on. It was devastating for me as I truly felt embarrassed I should have known better. I made all the mistakes. Boundaries are your friend and it’s ok if he doesn’t like them.

[@jaslyn69380]

Smh wow, this video spoke to my soul, so insightful and definitely showed me ways in myself I need to work on. Thank you for this, your content has taught me a lot🙏🏽❤️

[@beccybec7372]

Your videos are prizeless. High quality! Wish more people would be open, but I’m glad I’m learning so I can share with others💖🌸💖🌸

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@beccybec7372]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🫶🫶🫶

[@JustJnaee]

Ouch! I related to way too many of these but I appreciate it.. it’s helping me learn the correct way to approach love and accepting the part I play in it.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@boss_littycity]

All my relationships Ive been building Men, Because I believed in true love and not material things, and I didnt want to judge. looking at their personalities not their pockets and knowing I could of made them the 'Boss Man' but I was deeply taken for granted. Now listening carefully on what Stephen is saying Ive wasted lots of years from being truly loved and appreciated 🌻

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@Iman-ve3il]

Me tooo

[@briharmonysmith5591]

I feel the same way! Smh I'm living & learning.. making better choices day by day

[@mamancooper942]

This is what happened to me. I didn’t want my parents too know too much about him because in my mind based on the things he said, I felt he’s a black man who hasn’t had fair chances though that’s not true. We got married last April and I left and filed for a divorce in October 2021. I came back to the marriage as a Christian because I was committed to make it work and God hates divorce. Today, I’m sitting waiting for a court hearing as I refiled for divorce a few weeks ago. I’m grateful to not have lost too much time but it deeply pains me that being a kind hearted and genuine person got me here. But I know it’s not being a kind hearted person that got me here; it’s my poor boundaries and selection process. I knew he didn’t bring anything to the table but for me, I knew I had so much to offer him and that was my focus, him.

[@valariepigletpeairs888]

I've been there

[@vanpe873]

I had beautiful relationship with man. He got scared after a year. And pulled back. I ended this because I was scared by his retractions. Now he says he need to get healed first, to give it another try. We was still in contact, but Without any physical contact. I have no idea what to do. We are both still in love. He said he knows aswell that i can’t wait „forever „ but he have to fix first problems. He was 10 years single before I met him. He told me I’m the perfect woman for him. We always spoke openly about everything, we had a big trust in each other. I have the the feeling he is not playing around with me, we have a high respect for each other. Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

[@lubnan08]

Always Solid advice. It's important to hear these things so we are accountable and not just blaming men.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

[@BusyBeekakes]

I agree We are accountable as well

[@lynneheath1896]

You are so amazing! I'm a attractive lady, I'm never without a man being interested! My issue is healthy long lasting! I put myself on a plan that works for us both! Seriously,they run! Patients and loving myself is key! Might be single my entire life but better than be taken for granted! Thank you so much!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@rhispence]

😭😭 I can relate to being all these types of women.. Thank you Stephan for opening my eyes

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@cikuciku4345]

Having done self discovery and self development for 12 years now and practicing celibacy in the process and also knowing my purpose in life and also practicing how to be alone and not afraid to walk alone and studying men in the process through different environment that av been plus through relationship coaches like stephane, am quick to read early red flags and act immediately like move on without self pity... There's more to life than just wasting time with some men who aren't serious in this life. Your fan and follower from East Africa

[@sea6426]

Your videos are very informative and on point. Thank you ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@suzyben1984]

It is amazing how you don't make it all about a bad guy or a good guy ,instead it is about how his personality works for you.

[@mekblackice6748]

Thanks Stephan 💜 I agree that this process is multifaceted and being i tune with self and seeing what has been presented versus what is being said if the two don't coincide.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@kingdomwarrior1651]

I appreciate how well explained and balance your videos are. You cover so much ground and aspects most people don't mention i.e " woman with no support system" it's so true it has happened to me. God bless u

[@HealinAllOfMe]

Thank you for putting out what God pour into you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@SheriL1]

I like all of his teachings. High-5 to you Stephan. Keep speaking.

[@Grateful4Lyfe1]

A must needed message right now. Taking notes for the future to help navigate to not get played. Thank you so much @StephanSpeaks for enlightening and clarifying the highlights in depth to us all and have an awesome day ahead❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and may you have an awesome day as well 🙏

[@Grateful4Lyfe1]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you greatly ❤️

[@Treasuredkaleidoscope]

Stephan, you make me laugh every time you crack yourself up in your videos. I appreciate the realness even when you callin out all the bums out there. 😆

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@rachelmurphy9679]

This video should be pinned! Excellent video. A lot of info here that most women need to hear before they enter any relationship. Thanks Stephan.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@nmorto2013]

True trust your intuition above everything.

[@oshun2866]

If you prefer oranges over apples, do not get an apple and try to turn it into an orange. Being a Barbara the Builder will leave you pissed off with an empty tool box. 🤣

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@jajoseph23]

Congruence between words and actions - absolutely important. "Consistently inconsistent"

[@anitaaugust305]

This man is so in tune with how people think

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@indyd9322]

So much truth in this video!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯 yes!

[@Mamijae__]

This video is a great one! It truly made me realize that I need to focus 4 out of 9 things but I still want to work on it all tbh. Because of your videos and God .. I have a different way of thinking and what to do now, then when I was a 2-3 yrs back. Again keep up the great work! Nothing but love ❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

[@MisseverythingNewNew]

Tell me why I played this video 3x in a row! He is PREACHING!!!