The Autistic Meltdown Kit Guide! ✨🌿 (how to self soothe & manage meltdowns)

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This year I experienced more Autistic meltdowns than average (for me) and I got to a point where I was SICK OF IT lol My disability does in fact disable me, but I wanted to ensure that I trusted myself to take care of myself. I live alone, I work alone, I live in a city without close friends or family down the street. I needed to create tools that I could use for myself and create some independence and trust with myself.
Introducing, the comfort kit and meltdown zone! This space is a safe space for me to meet my needs and decompress when I need it.
I've been using it for a few months and it has been hugely helpful. My biggest take away? I am capable of handling my disability on my own sometimes and that's AMAZING.
What would you take from this guide?
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[@camiscreatures]

I take notes for these videos to help me. Here’s what I copied down: Tips for what to keep in designated area: - Comfortable padding for the ground - Don’t have meltdowns in bed - Having a separate space that is only for meltdowns or regulating when a meltdown is oncoming - 2 comfort items: blanket and stuffed animal - Affirmations: - You've done this before & you’ll do it again :) - You are safe! - It will be resolved, just maybe not right now. - Games: - Counting shapes or colors around me - Alphabet topic game, can be easier with someone else but go A-Z with a random topic like celebrities or food - 5-4-3-2-1 sensory game, count 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste - Basket/Bin/Box: - Spiked massage ball for squeezing to avoid harmful stims - Chewelry for jaw clenching - Some sort of gum or candy for sensory release, different flavors are good - Fidget toys like a stress ball of some sort - Calming essential oil for smelling or scented spray for a sensory change; can help with breathing - Lotion for moisturizing hands or body for different sensations Anxiety & Panic Plan: Signs of Emotion: * Sweaty hands * Tight chest * Shaking to the core * Irritable, tense, restiess * Heart palpitations * Nauseous * Fast breathing * Crying Support to Call: * Fill in the blanks with who you can contact when needing support Self Soothing: >Comfort kit- blanket, socks, gum, candy, fidgets, breathing tools, punch-mallow >Journaling - drawing 8’s, writing out feelings, writing out the narrative and then the plan >Comfort music - soothing & slow music >Counting game - name colours in the room >ABC game - pick a topic & go throug alphabet > 54321 - 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 things you can taste Box breathing- breath in and out tracing a box When to Seek Support: > Self soothing is not sufficient, have tried multiple options > Breathing is not slowing down > Passing out begins > Self-harm stimming occurs, pinching, squeezing, hitting, etc. Acceptance note: When you accept that you are disabled and you accept that you are going to have moments where that disability disables you. You might actually be able to lean into it, accept it, try to manage it and move through it, rather than against it. It’s self love to take care of yourself in any of these moments. Take back your autonomy, you can do it alone. You’re okay, you’ve got it. I thought it would be helpful to share the template I edited with the base notes from this video. I hope others can find it useful for setting up their own self care areas😊 Edit: if you can’t copy and paste, then I recommend screenshotting if you have an iPhone and then copy and pasting it to a note

[@hayley.honeyman]

This is unreal!! Thanks for sharing all your notes with us!! 💕

[@sburkie9]

I just posted something similar! Great minds think a like

[@camiscreatures]

@@hayley.honeyman If I don’t take notes then I can feel overwhelmed because I want keep the information available easily to me, so having visual aids for these types of videos is so helpful! I live in my phone notes so I often have many categorized to support myself in different areas of my life. I’ve recently moved so this type of safe space is really something that would benefit me☺️

[@eazzynbreezycx989]

I'm not somewhere I can take notes rn but I'm coming back to this comment later today. Thank you ❤

[@emmymorris7648]

I have never thought of copying and pasting into a note after doing a screenshot, and I love that idea! That would be much easier than trying to remember which screenshots I put in favorites and which I didn’t remember to do that with. Thank you for the detailed notes from this video and the idea of screenshotting and copying and pasting into the notes as those are very helpful ideas for me, and I wanted to thank you! ☀️☀️

[@josie.s.2553]

I’m late diagnosed autistic, but think I’m also ADHD. Never had external meltdowns, I internalised them instead. Only just realising I’ve made myself a safe space in the corner of my bedroom without knowing it. I’ve got a large beanbag to flomp in, an air mister with different oils, lots of soft bed socks, far too many fleece blankets, an aurora lights projector, downloaded background audio of brown noise or rain, a stack of dark chocolate, and a kettle and tea collection nearby.

[@patmarek1222]

There's a lot in common traits between ADHD and autism for sure, so yes, might want to look into it!

[@fernandacapaceta]

Could it be a shutdown?

[@frostfang1]

No autism here. (Adhd side of the tracks) But I use music a *lot*. I've always had an introvert kit. (Books, sketchbook, jacket, cd player/ipod/phone) that was mobile. But now as a working adult I rely on headphones and music a lot more to regulate. When I was a teen I didn't have as much access to so much music. But I had a method (sad music or angry music to match my mood, and then when I song reminded me of another song that was less of a big negative emotion, I'd keep following that thread until I was listening to music that was less associated (at least in my mind) with sad or angry music. Recently I had a hell of a work week. The work wasn't bad, but I wasn't sleeping well, I'm dealing with coworkers who are doing less than minimum of what's needed, and everyday before work something came up with my mom that turned into an argument or disrupted me emotionally. Finally I end a night early and on a high note, I try calling my parents for a ride and they are both completely unavailable. I blink the wifi nights, nothing. I finally call my sister, she comes to get me, I arrive home an hour later than I would have originally, the latest I have all week. All my plans are smashed to pieces. I cant settle and I stay up late and get minimal sleep, and the next morning it's disturbed. I get into work, nothings the way I left it. It all bubbles up, I'm seething, I don't have the energy to self regulate or get my mind off everything that's gone wrong and keeps going wrong. That's it. I ask my boss if I can put both earbuds in for some angry music for a bit. I go down to a quiet spot where no one tends to come. I qeue up my tunes and open the faucet of my eggy self so a few angry tears can leak out (letting some of that fizzy carbon slow leak out). And then on with the angry music. Back into position, get the workload caught up, focusing only on the music. If I have a new thought, I feel it and let it pass. No circling old thoughts. And less than an hour later I could pull out one earbud, and with reluctance (due to just enjoying my music so much) the other and put them away. I was still tired, but I wasn't so eggy and I had stabilized. I also stimmed a bit with a free hand or foot (*to* the music)

[@skylart333]

this is great!! my problem is that they always happen at school, but im finding tools!

[@economadic2103]

I'm so so unbelievably thankful for you and your KZbin channel. You are fucking amazing

[@Amyjwashere]

I can have meltdowns due to noise. My folks use beeping notifications on their phones and I have to use all self control to not throw them out the window (I am 39 lol)

[@-Mim-.]

Thank you Hayley ❤️ This video is so helpful and wonderful in general ❤️🥰 Love you and all the work you do ❤️🥰

[@JaspersDream]

Absolutely loved the video! I’m going to go make myself a cozy meltdown area!

[@whispersbeautyofficial]

Thanks for sharing

[@MountainsoftheHeart]

Diagnosed ADHD at age 6… 30 years later I see ALOT of Autistic traits as well

[@AmaraIbrahimKamara]

You forgot to mention " gay frog 🐸 " 😂 Edit : you haven't forgotten its a joke

[@rendleshetheywilliamskat-r9068]

Be careful with scents/fragrances and essential oils around cats, please! They can be highly toxic to cats!

[@Pindolene]

This is such a great video. You can't always rely on others to help you through a meltdown and need ways to self-regulate that aren't so... neurotypical 😅

[@haannguyen4402]

I’d love to make one of these for college

[@haannguyen4402]

Autistic and some of my triggers for meltdowns include: noise/crowds, lack of structure, too many demands, and inadequate sleep

[@corylcreates]

On the topic of "acceptance," I really resonate with reminding myself to *accommodate* myself. It helps to frame the acceptance as something that happens in the real, physical world and not just my head. I can accept something and that process only goes on mentally, but accommodating myself means putting tools, adjustments, etc. in place in the real world to show the acceptance and support.

[@AshleyReneeVlog]

Visual stimming is so important for me in a meltdown or nearing one. A gently flickering candle in a quiet darkened room is soooo regulating. And I need the space to be visually comforting, so minimal visual chaos, comforting colors/tones/lighting etc. thank you for this video!

[@roxannireland]

It is amazing to me that meltdown are not part of the DSM criteria for autism. Oh, but it is part of the criteria for borderline, which probably means some autistic people (women particularly) get routed to a BPD diagnosis instead.

[@allisarcadia2319]

I don't know if you experience them as well, but I have an anxiety and panic disorder in addition to autism. It took me a while to understand the difference between a meltdown and a panic attack [in myself], and I think they get mixed up by people [both going through them and watching/learning about them] A LOT, so it'd be interesting to hear your experiences if you've had both.

[@emschlef]

I only have meltdowns alone, otherwise I shutdown. My meltdowns come on quickly and I rarely have time to regulate before I start engaging in self injurious behavior. When I do have that time I use non-verbal stimulation. I'm hyperverbal usually, and I can talk myself even further into a meltdown with self-defeating language. Ice and sour candy especially help shift me back into a more grounded state. I forget about smell often, but your eucalyptus suggestion reminded me of how much I love citrus oils! I'm definitely adding some orange and lemon oils to my sensory kits.

[@rosaliac.386]

Omg the acceptance one is so true! More accepting than I've ever been but it's still incredibly difficult. Really need to find a therapist that is autistic informed cuz I'm struggling😭 Thank you for sharing what you've learned! Will be implementing some things to beef up my own meltdown kit 💚

[@IzzyInkpen]

As someone who has just lost my entire social support system (including my cat 😥), this is so useful. I've been asking my therapist for help on how to manage my emotions/meltdowns/crisis moments for *months* and all she ever says is to go and ask for help from other people! Which kind? Of? Worked for a bit, but now they're all gone, *this* is the kind of idea that I just desperately need right now. So thank you Hayley

[@adougald]

Thank you for sharing this!! Definitely going to have to make my own kit sometime soon and help establish more supports for when my meltdowns happen. Greatly appreciate your tips on this! Never would've thought to stimulate all 5 senses, but so thankful to have the tools and ideas now!

[@haannguyen4402]

I wanna make a portable version for college

[@siennaprice1351]

I have septo-optic dysplasia, Which caused me to be born, totally blind, and it also caused me to be on the autism spectrum. And I also have complex PTSD. I don’t have really big meltdowns that much. I have more of what I would consider outbursts, than meltdowns. Sometimes my meltdowns are caused by symptoms of childhood trauma. Flashbacks, others, expectations, and restrictions that people have put on me. And many other things. Some of the outbursts are caused by unexpected change. I would get mad, or I would cry, or I would do self injurious behaviors. I was shamed, punished, mocked, and laughed at by my caregiver for having these meltdowns or for crying. It almost felt like they were telling me that I was oversensitive or overdramatic. But the funny thing is, I wasn’t even allowed to hold my feelings in and not expressed them to that same caregiver without being shamed for not telling her what was wrong. I’ve built up some amazing coping skills to help. Music, whether it would be listening to my favorite song, playing musical instruments, or singing. My favorite sensory items, which include my sensory brushes, Koosh balls, my favorite stones or crystals, and many other sensory items. My weighted blanket is also a very good essential. My sensory pea, pod chair, or anything that has compression or a rocking sensation.

[@PrettyBoots]

I haven't been diagnosed with autism, but I have PTSD, and some of these suggestions really help me.

[@cisumsevolbor]

I am a bit stunned. You say you are blind, but I just read your comment. I can’t even imagine how you interact with KZbin. I mean, did you orate what you said or did you type it in? I feel incredibly incompetent right now, so please forgive me if I am being rude. I simply have no idea. Nevertheless, I am in a state of awe and admiration. I hope to hear from you soon!

[@siennaprice1351]

@@cisumsevolbor so, when writing out these comments, I use an accessible feature on my phone called VoiceOver. It basically reads everything out loud to me on the screen. That’s how I type on social media as a blind person.

[@siennaprice1351]

@@cisumsevolbor I feel happy that you admire me. There are so many people with disabilities, who doubt themselves. Thinking they can’t do anything. Thinking that they’re hopeless, they’re helpless, and they’re not worthy of anything, nor are they capable of anything. But that’s not true! People with disabilities are capable of doing anything they put their mind to. I have a couple disabilities as well as a mental illness. Right now, I feel more strong than anything. Your comment did not offend me at all

[@cisumsevolbor]

@@siennaprice1351 hello, I just tried to send a really long reply. I wanted to review it, and noticed it’s gone. I guess it has been automatically removed by KZbin? So, now I’m wondering if you got it, but maybe it has been made invisible to myself somehow? I just don’t want to believe that I spent that whole time composing that reply, just for it to be negated. In that reply, I offered my email in a polite, but reluctant proposal to perhaps get more acquainted. I thought this would solve a problem not having a personal conversation over KZbin comments.

[@thekatieshaw]

Great video Hayley, I’m going to share with people in my life to help them better understand me too ❤

[@josie.s.2553]

Not gonna lie…I want a gay frog 😂❤ HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!

[@sburkie9]

Hey friends! I took some notes -Have a designated place for meltdowns. You wouldn't want to associate your bed with bad memories. - Account for the possibility of having the meltdown alone. If you can't hug a person a stuffed animal will do! - Put up affirmations that you find comforting. (Hayleys are on her mirror) For example: "You've done this before you can do it again" "You are safe" etc -Grounding games to play. Example: list every blue item you can see in your room -Anxiety/panic attack plan with instructions. People and resources you can call. List of steps to calm yourself down. -Create a Comfort Kit. Figets and tools that target every sense: smell, touch, safe alternatives for pain, deep pressure (weighted blanket) - Accept that you are disabled, which makes space for these accommodations and self love. Don't pretend you won't have bad days. Have a plan for when they do happen

[@kishybee]

This was helpful, thank you!

[@tree1568]

I have a neurological disorder and meltdowns end up causing things like locked in syndrome and seizures. A psychologist I saw once recommended I carry something for every sense. So in my bag I have my earplugs and headphones, sunglasses, eucalyptus balm, a sugary snack and cbd sublingual oil, a mindfulness colouring book and a fidget. Saved me so many times

[@patmarek1222]

Also struggling heavily with accepting what's in fact a disability. But it really is. When meltdowns happen, and oh boy they happen a lot, denying that they take place is extremely hurting.

[@patmarek1222]

sidenote: a eucalyptus spray is the most amazing idea for me!

[@rainbowconnected]

No one should ever deny another person's experience, including their own. I'm sorry if someone has denied what's real for you. Accepting it's a disability is tough for sure. Something that really helped me accept it for myself was hearing it framed that we're being disabled by an environment that wasn't built for us and a lack of support, not something that's inherently wrong with us. It's still really hard, but that took the self judgement out of it for me so I could be kinder to myself. Hope you find what helps you!

[@haannguyen4402]

Speaking of fidgets my friend gave me a set of poppers for Xmas

[@lil.ikuraa]

Hi Hayley! Thank you for sharing! I would love to see a version of this that is portable as my greatest fears come from being dysregulated outside of home. I’ve found it difficult to make decisions around applying, interviewing, and accepting job offers since I don’t know how to deal with being triggered at work. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I’m also fed up with letting these moments ruin my life constantly. 🙃

[@grckl]

Hey, that's definitely doable like, if you bring a backpack out and about and have a pouch with a bunch of this stuff. You can have cards with the exercises/affirmations and stuff, and also an information card for anyone around who might not know about meltdowns or what to do; sensory stuff won't take up a lot of space, and for anything in Hayley's kit that is bigger you can get portable versions, like you can get a roller or a smaller spray (I have these mini perfume atomisers and you can use them with just whatever spray type thing), and portable hand cream and stuff.

[@crowkraehenfrau2604]

Thanks...myself thinking about a travel kit as well.

[@baejay798]

ADHD, I made a shoebox full of items like this that help with sensory overwhelm and anxiety. I don't think I have meltdowns entirely but I do have panic attacks so this helps a LOT. Lotion, nice smelling oils and soap, fuzzy socks, gum, sour candy, affirmation cards, chewables, fidgets, etc. Warheads sour candy has helped the most with panic attacks because it stimulates that vagus nerve.

[@oil-ql9gi]

Thank you so much! This was really helpful and I even got a pop-up tent for this and it helps a lot. It's space themed and has stars on it, and the whole tent glows from outside light. It's really calming and I would recommend it to anyone else who is struggling with melt downs.But really thank you, I would've never thought of this on my own even though it's so simple.

[@rainbowconnected]

This is brilliant! That sounds like it would be really soothing to have that sense of being ensconced in a little bubble of safety. My house is very open and I've been struggling to make a tucked in spot, so this strategy is inspiring! Thank you for sharing!

[@katzenbekloppt_mf]

Just putting together a "feel-better" or "regulate BEFORE meltdown/shutdown" set for myself, nice to see Yours. Same with that hedgehog-ball, but also want something "scratchier". Not to really hurt myself of cause, but to fullfill the need better. Maybe something ment for body-peeling in dry? Also have scent, but smaller with other scents that comfort me more. One is the "PRIMAVERA Aromatherapy roll-on Gute Laune". It's a well known Bio-company that sells native ethereal oils, and those little to-go roll on in the scent-mix "good mood" is an all-time favourite, smells like fruity citrus. You can roll it on Your skin and smell it. Another is with menth for headaches for example. I don't know if they are sold in the US (Germany here), but You can easily make Your own mix with good quality pure ethereal oils and put them into those small roll-on glasses or whatever You like. For me they are surprisingly helpful. Then of cause something to squeeze and my vegan cow-candy. Those small candies make me instantly feel hugged like a kid. And they are so sweet that they fullfill a need for someone sweet really long with a small amount of food (I have a tendency to calm myself with food and then sometimes get nauseous if I eat to much in a short time and with those always just one is enough. Always have one next to my place and really EVERYTIME one and I am fine. I could easily eat a complete vegan Ben&Jerries, so trust me😂 And not to forget tissues if I had to cry and then want to dry my face and clean nose to feel better.

[@binesart]

For the more scratchy experience, there are spike balls made from metal. Squeezing really prickles, but they are not sharp enough to pierce anything…. With normal use I mean 😅 Hope this helps.

[@leaf2309]

i have self harm in public sometimes and the shame i feel after is so difficult to manage

[@gigahorse1475]

I understand that. I’ve done that many times and even at work. It’s tough. ❤️

[@lithmire]

I got this Thai herb smelling thing for nausea that is INCREDIBLE for early meltdowns. Just enough ifa sensory jolt to interrupt the cycle

[@HiYaXO69]

Can you share the name of this incredible smelling product? ❤

[@lithmire]

@@HiYaXO69 HongThai compound herb inhaler!

[@7heSunsDaughter]

Late diagnosis & I’ve never felt more seen. Found you whilst looking for help with rsd. Thank you for this channel. 💕

[@Eddington451]

Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here

[@aquamar1003]

I don’t think I’m autistic but this sounds perfect for my nervous breakdowns too ! I think I’ll just pack myself a few things in my bedroom! A few sensory toys are needed. Thank you for inspiring me !

[@bubsyrae5737]

For the notes you have in the space, I think it would be quite nice if you asked some close friends to give you something they might say to help you in those moments and make those the notes you have so it's "almost" like someone being there to help you when they can't actually be there

[@ashleyvance9400]

Hayley did you ever get the vape looking breathing device in that you spoke about on the pod (Struggling to Accept Autism & What I’m Doing About It)? Could we get a review?!

[@rainbowconnected]

Thank you so much for this! This was life changing for me. I watched this thinking it would be helpful for my CPTSD flashbacks, which it totally is. Hearing you describe meltdowns resonated so much that I got curious and took some online screening tests only to find all of them point strongly to me being autistic. Suddenly so many confusing, difficult things in my life make sense with this realization. I have been able to be so much more compassionate with myself and manage way better with this new found understanding of myself and the tools you suggested here. You're brilliant and I am so grateful for you sharing these tools to make it easier to be ourselves! 💚

[@ladyamalthea85]

Our "guest" room has a bed which is covered in plushies. Naps in the plushie pile just hit harder. I didn't realise it was a way of regulating. It's best when I'm buried alive in plushies.

[@Ummuri2000]

I always have Tiger Balm or the green oil (iykyk) nearby to help with sensory needs. They give a steady tactile buzz and the odor is strong without being overwhelming (for me)

[@ElfieBrown-i6s]

I love you highlighting the importance of restoring autonomy through your comfort kit. Thanks for the inspiration, Hayley! ❤

[@HomemakerDaze]

The needoh needs a warning not to use for more than 2 hours a day, the second day after i bought it i could barely write with a pencil because my hand hurt lol better buy a weaker one..

[@Mazygolucky]

This is a wonderful idea. I need to learn to accept my meltdowns as a part of my disability as well. One of my issues is that I tend to lean on my partner but they have their own mental health issues that are triggered by my behaviors (head hitting in particular) during meltdowns, so when they need a moment away to process is usually when I feel like I need someone there to hold me and tell me it will be okay. I want to be able to self regulate like this. One big thing that I definitely need to learn how to deal with is when they come on when I’m out of the house, particularly if I’m driving, if you have any tips for those.

[@shwaaaa362]

How does one tell the difference between an anxiety attack and a meltdown? I have severe generalized anxiety in addition to ASD and both conditions cause my nervous system to freak out

[@ranto1]

I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 and Borderline personality disorder around 5 years ago, and just a month ago I was discovered I'm also autistic.. It has been super helpful to see content like yours and understand myself better.. and yea I totally understand my life through a whole new point of view! I have to accept and embrace myself all over again just like my last diagnosis, and that's never easy.. but content like this really helps. Thanks for sharing!

[@AllochiiGingertea]

One of my favorite self-soothing tools is crinkly dog toys! The sound and feeling of the crinkle paper is really helpful for me and even gives me a little bit of the head tinglies. I recommend trying it out since I noticed you didn't have any sound sensory items in your kit.

[@binesart]

Lets find pet shops for fidget toys, great idea 😂🎉

[@haannguyen4402]

I’m autistic and really struggle with self regulation

[@HomemakerDaze]

That mirror thing was scary and now i have to listen but not watch lol

[@blu_heron]

Thank you gay frog for the part you played in this video.

[@lynnboartsdye1943]

Thank you so much for this I’ve had meltdowns as long as I can remember and due to some life events they’ve been happening more frequently. More often then not when they happen they happen at home thankfully but regardless I still feel like I’m a child, like an imposter adult when they happen cuz we’re fed this narrative that adults are tough and don’t cry. I’m going to make one of these plans for myself, thank you so much. Does anyone have any advice for those times where you’ve soothed yourself to be calm but it’s an eggshell calm that can be easily broken again? For those times when you think you’re in the clear but something re-triggers the meltdown.

[@nayimarie]

hahaha oh my God the intro with the mirror scared me out heheh

[@Airhaert]

How to you create this space in a job?

[@mrfiddle7578]

Tip from me : binaurel beats , isotropic tones , helps me a bunch, when having mealtdown .

[@donnellallan]

This was great! Thank you. 💜

[@12KittyKat88]

This was so useful. Thank you

[@binesart]

This becomes critical when you have kids and want to break the trauma cycle 😢

[@taupetwo]

There are so many helpful ideas here, thank you!

[@Mspigwidgeon13]

Me when my disability (autism) disables me 😲

[@siennaprice1351]

Being that, I can’t see nor smell due to having septo-optic dysplasia, how can I do the 54321 count? Because I absolutely love this. But the only problem is, I can’t see, nor can I smell.

[@gigahorse1475]

I have some ideas. If you wear a bead bracelet (a silicone bracelet with bumps or a texture on it) you can count the bumps on the bracelet while feeling them. Or if you love textures, you can keep something with you that has a texture you like, and stroke it while counting. I can see but I am a big fan of textures especially silicone, so I try to calm myself that way sometimes.

[@spacebar9733]

You can just omit them.

[@siennaprice1351]

@@gigahorse1475 I’m not a huge fan of silicone jewelry. I don’t like the texture of silicone rings or bracelits. I do have a lot of crystal bracelits and metal bracelits that I love so much.

[@neurodivergentlily]

3:26 omg you just solved my entire life's problem i must email my therapist immediately, the answer is ai, always has been, MIND BLOWN /lighthearted

[@eemiaa10]

WHERE DID YOU GET APPA??

[@oO_Cass_Oo]

i have no safe space. this house is moldy and not safe. I also, cant leave though...

[@crystald3655]

A house being moldy doesn't make it unsafe. I would look at the real reason why you feel unsafe in the house and be honesty with yourself about that. An air purifier helps with air quality.

[@oO_Cass_Oo]

​@@crystald3655 its moldy, the toilets don't work, (makes me really scared about the sewage) the structure floods, the roof leaks, my disabled husband cant access the kitchen ( we are waiting for the government to do something) and no matter how much i work we cant progress into leaving. so yes the reason goes beyond "Mold" and really revolves around the "cant leave" part ya skipped. but because that's one of the ones i thought about, its the one im going to say before over explaining like above.

[@oddluck4216]

Thank you for sharing this with us! And thank you so much for mentioning your SIBs (even if you had to bleep it). Those are something i have struggled with for as long as I can remember, long before my autism was recognized.

[@wilM26]

Hi Hayley, I would love you to do a longer video where you go into detail about growing up and your teen years, showing how your ADHD affected you on a day to day level eg. Communication difficulties; processing difficulties; feeling misunderstood. Perhaps an interview by someone. I feel these type of videos really show a complete picture much better to people who don't have ADHD but are trying to understand it and support loved ones. I have autism and my son has ADHD and sometimes it really feels like we are talking two completely different languages! ❤

[@notgettinganysleep]

I talked to my therapest about how i think im autistic and he agreed with me, started listing reasons why he also thinks i am. also have recent diagnosed adhd so its been a hot mess so i really need this (yesterday i had a meltdown before i left the house trying to find a stim toy oh my gosh i was running around like crazy i looked insane and my dad was just staring at me like i was insane 👍)

[@leelacey1059]

Hayley, you may not see this, but I'd just like to say how great your videos have made my life. I'm Autistic, my cousin is ADHD. We are seen by the family as the outsiders, the oddities and not really understood. Your videos have helped us help each other and we are literally the best friends you can ever imagine. We support each other and understand each other in a way that I can't explain. She was mentally abused as a child by her father and she has just moved in with her boyfriend- what a transformation. You are simply amazing...keep it up... Oversharing but I don't care!

[@birdcritic]

when i saw your short form video about your meltdown kit, i instantly put together a mini kit of my own. it’s mainly stim toys and scent sprays, but just knowing that i have a place where things that help me are, has helped me a lot. i’ve been very excited to see if you were gonna make a long form video about it and am so happy you did! thank you, haley! you have helped me a lot with your videos

[@User-qn1gs1ig4q62]

I also live alone and ive got a weighted vest to help feel like hugs but if ive gone past rational thinking altogether i can't go get it and put it on but i also have a chew to help and a squishmallow toy i got in a happy meal as a stress ball or to throw since it cant break anything and a star shaped pop fidget which can also be good to put in my mouth

[@MusicSparkleStar09]

I love the idea of a sensory recovery room/large closet/corner

[@meganmindcreates]

APPA! YIP YIP

[@kate_rae_porteous]

Love this kit

[@ShawnWalker-wk8es]

Hello HayleY I.

[@Mel-y4l]

Thank you 🌹

[@chloeanne1237]

Who was the other person in the video?

[@hayley.honeyman]

That’s my brother Ethan who is my videographer and editor! ✨