The Avoidant’s Silent Cry for Connection: What They Won’t Tell You - A Gentleman's Perspective

[@larissasmirnoff3325]

So you are saying the non-avoidant partner should accept emotional breadcrumbs? We are all broken, we’ve all had things in past relationships that have hurt us, but you do the hard work to heal. Avoidants who don’t want to do the work are just selfish users. It’s cruel what they do.

[@MultiRandman]

Love this one. Very helpful. You express the avoidant's feelings so well. I know one and have some avoidant tendencies myself.

[@erikaschutz2947]

thank you, I thought he did not care and told him I could not continue like this. It's was a year of him opening up and then closing up again. He retreated now for good, I think, blocked me and since then I have learned so much and still love him. If only I had known. Tried to reach out to him, to explain... but he gives me no sign, since Nov '24. How do I know if he is still there? What do I do, I feel him in my energy, but is it me imagining ??? How to know if he did not give up for good...

[@gregthapeg]

Good to hear from the real thing

[@CoachAJ2024]

Their actions say otherwise

[@juliawong7023]

Honestly they should be alone

[@linamarie84]

Wow. How about having compassion and understanding that it's a way of coping and not a personality? You have a way of coping too just like we all do. The baseline of who we are dictates how we carry that. If it doesn't work they aren't for us or we aren't for them. Simple as that. We can walk away.

[@juliawong7023]

@ yes but to have compassion after they spoil and waste the time of the pity anxious attachments who think the world of them? Not really. They should know their actions will not always be rewarded. And yes they indeed should be alone and fix or cope within themselves before getting into relationship with someone who just genuinely wanted to be with them. Some people dont have time to waste for lessons. Maybe you should start understanding that firstly.