The Buddha's Advice for Working With the Eight Worldly Conditions

[@DougsDharma]

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[@rafaelecattonar1506]

@Doug'sDharma can you advise me some books that explain general quotes of the Buddha. Quotes such as "The mind is everything. What you think you become", "three things cannot be hidden: the moon, the sun and the truth", "pain is certain, suffering is optional" etc. Books that give explanations about these and many other quotes attributed to him. Thank you very much

[@bernardofitzpatrick5403]

very useful advice. People seem so competitive and uptight, always wanting to be better than others. So much fear. Thank you Doug. :-)

[@DougsDharma]

You're very welcome Bernardo, yes indeed!

[@renanlira6140]

Hello my friend. Thank you a lot for this video, it was truly helpful.

[@earthy7898]

In the beginning of the video, when I haven't even watched it yet, I have already clicked like because I know it's gonna be great as always! Thank you so much for your work, Doug 🙏!

[@DougsDharma]

My pleasure!

[@Cobute]

you are a mindful person and that clearly shows how articulate you are. thank you so much sir.

[@DougsDharma]

So nice of you to say Adithya. I'm still a beginner but hope the videos are useful. 🙏

[@unclejeffmagicnsong7397]

Tq for sharing…Wise advice full of wisdom…🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

[@DougsDharma]

My pleasure, Uncle Jeff! 🙏😊

[@kseniav586]

This made me think: it's just so amazing that modern psychotherapy has become so much aligned with Buddha's teachings. Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT), which helps greatly with suicidal tendencies and self-harm, is rooted in mindfulness. In Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT) emotions and thoughts are considered arising and passing and the self is viewed as somebody who watches these conditions come and go. I remember a session where a therapist was explaining that suffering only grows if your attitude towards it is rejecting and negative. I instantly thought of the second arrow metaphor and told her about it. The therapist was genuinely surprised that such a similar concept came from Buddhism.

[@DougsDharma]

Yes! There’s also Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) that comes directly from Buddhist ideas of mindfulness practice. There is a lot of overlap, that’s for sure.

[@kseniav586]

@@DougsDharma is this the thing that Jon Kabat-Zinn came up with? If so, Marsha Linehan (the creator of DBT) probably was introduced to buddhist ideas through his work.

[@DougsDharma]

Yes MBSR is from Jon Kabat-Zinn and his work.

[@DipayanPyne94]

Hello there, Ksenia V. I totally know the answer to why you were surprised to find Buddhist ideas in the Therapy session. Doug already mentioned here in one of his replies that there are Buddhist ideas in it. This has been explored in great detail by Rajiv Malhotra. Check out his 'U Turn Theory' on KZbin. It's been one of his key areas of research over the last 25 + years.

[@kseniav586]

@@DipayanPyne94 Thanks for the tip!

[@gabrielchan4359]

❤U Doug

[@DougsDharma]

🙏😊

[@alexmunrocue7991]

Thank you for this video Doug, it's really helped me today

[@DougsDharma]

Glad to hear it Alex! You're very welcome.

[@kendallrivera8995]

@@DougsDharma what does Buddhism say about concepts like good and evil. Like for instance the struggle between good and evil like you’d see in like christianity. And there’s no such as an absolute evil in Buddhism. As far as I know Buddhism doesn’t get tied up into such things since these are fleeting. Things what we consider to be “evil” are impermanent, as with what we consider to be “good”, and that we shouldn’t get attached to these concepts. Is this what Buddhism says

[@kendallrivera8995]

@@DougsDharma and I don’t think you’ve done a video on the Dharmakaya. Do you think you can do one on that?

[@kendallrivera8995]

@@DougsDharma For some reason this comment was removed Repost: what does Buddhism say about concepts like good and evil. Like for instance the struggle between good and evil like you’d see in like christianity. And there’s no such as an absolute evil in Buddhism. As far as I know Buddhism doesn’t get tied up into such things since these are fleeting. Things what we consider to be “evil” are impermanent, as with what we consider to be “good”, and that we shouldn’t get attached to these concepts. Is this what Buddhism says

[@kendallrivera8995]

@@DougsDharma apologies for some reason my first comment kept getting removed there aren’t any vulgarities so there shouldn’t be any reason for it to get removed

[@Kevin19HDS]

I appreciate you brother , much love 🙏

[@DougsDharma]

Very kind of you Kevin, thanks!

[@lamnero]

Thank you. From Iran ❤

[@DougsDharma]

You're very welcome Kaveh! Be well! 🙏

[@tormunnvii3317]

A nice follow up to your previous upload, I agree that there is a striking similarity here between this notion of the Eight Worldly conditions with Stoic philosophy. Now ignore my praise before fortune takes it's toll. ;)

[@DougsDharma]

😄Yes I'll avert my eyes. Thanks Tormunn.

[@JesseJames.91]

Very wise advice.

[@DougsDharma]

Yes I agree! Thanks Raza.

[@robbiegraham5271]

Thank you

[@DougsDharma]

You're welcome Robbie!

[@xiaomaozen]

Thank you for your splendid video. That's a very important topic. And to my surprise I had to discover that even among Buddhists this mode of thinking is very widespread. "My jhāna/insight/wisdom/teaching/kindness etc. is deeper/better/more comprehensive/more understandable/more all-embracing etc. than yours!" Once, among some of his fanboys, I called Ajahn Brahm a Buddhist show-off in the above sense. Fortunately, I had the best run-for-your-life-abilities! 🤪🤣

[@DougsDharma]

😄 Yes, there is ego and conceit even in Buddhist circles, who'd have thunk it! 😄

[@hwwatch]

May I know the title from pali canon/ commentary for this talk for reference. Thanks in advance.

[@DougsDharma]

All the suttas are linked in the show notes.

[@luenanda4432]

I’m confused. Should I not try to achieve anything in life? I feel guilty now trying to go after goals and pleasures, but I feel I am not looking at it the right way. Please help, this has been a big thing for me getting into buddhism. Thank you!!

[@DougsDharma]

Thanks for the question Red Shadow. I have an earlier video on Buddhism and ambition that may be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eneXo5eHbKuFfLs

[@luenanda4432]

@@DougsDharma Thank you! Love your channel, new sub. -Luis

[@fgsnanhua]

Keep your goal and work towards it. Enjoy your gain and fame, but just keep in mind they are not there forever. As long as you don't grasp at them, you can live happily. kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqjLc4Sqdtp9mtE

[@blackhunk2265]

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[@aidanharrison3888]

Excellent . Just try to explain this to someone who has recently fallen in love .

[@DougsDharma]

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[@blackhunk2265]

What Buddha (as per Theravada, please) says about marriage and husband and wife?

[@DougsDharma]

In early Buddhism there isn't much said about marriage; marriage for the Buddha was a secular ceremony that he didn't involve himself in. That said, it was sexual misconduct to break marriage vows. I don't know that there is any mention of such things as divorce, though I imagine it wouldn't have been a concern of his.

[@vivekiar]

You can read Anguttara Nikaya 4:53 (Different kinds of marriages) Anguttara Nikaya 4:55 (How to be united in future lives) Anguttara Nikaya 7:63 (Kinds of wives)

[@donpitts8425]

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[@realdaybreaker8013]

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[@DougsDharma]

Yes. Personally, I pay for KZbin premium so I don't see ads. You can also click through them ...

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[@donpitts8425]

@@DougsDharma Four ads in 6 minutes was too many.

[@nnnn65490]

Could you do one on violence? / self defense?

[@DougsDharma]

Well I have done a couple on related topics, such as when words won't work: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aZK7m6V7mdV8oLs and the Buddha had his limits: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKbKfZKEjrZoicU. Let me know if those serve. The Buddha didn't discuss self defense very much.

[@realdaybreaker8013]

Tenets that are close to Buddha's teachings #1 Work more than others Learn more than others Expect less than others #2 If a problem has a solution, why bother about it? If a problem doesnt have a solution, why bother about it? #3 (from the movie Heat 1994) Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner. #4 Time heals almost everything, even your pain. #5 He who values his life the most, dies a dog's death #6 (Friedrich Nietzsche) He who cannot obey himself will be commanded

[@DougsDharma]

Interesting, thanks RDB!

[@moniniekmet6]

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[@DougsDharma]

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