The Call That Uncovered a Secret: Did You Have a Baby?

[@loriar1027]

My dad was adopted as an infant and always told us girls (his daughters) that he had no desire to know who his birth parents were. He said he felt lucky that he was chosen by his parents. My grandparents were wonderful people who raised my dad to be a wonderful father.

[@RebeccaLyn1965]

My Dad is exactly the same. I now know who my grandparents are through DNA, but at 78 years old he is still not interested to know.

[@rebeccaoliver7977]

@@RebeccaLyn1965, does he know that you know? I’d be concerned that he’d feel it was an invasion of his privacy.

[@RebeccaLyn1965]

@@rebeccaoliver7977 Yes he does know that I know as he got the papers from the Denver permit office. He just handed me the envelope unopened.

[@kristinesharp6286]

@@rebeccaoliver7977 they are her grandparents. They don’t only belong to him.

[@janedoe5229]

I heard a story in our small town. A long time ago, a married couple who had a bunch of kids, they got pregnant again. The felt they could not afford another mouth to feed. They arranged with the doctor to tell everyone that the baby died, but in reality, they had it secretly adopted out. The baby boy happened to be adopted somewhat locally. When he turned 21, he ran an article in the local paper that he was adopted and looking for his real parents, and posted a photo of himself. Well, apparently, he was a dead-ringer for all his siblings, and people in town called the parents and said, "You better get the paper because your son is in paper".

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I would have loved to be a part of that story.

[@laurabarnes5283]

You mean birth parents. The people who raised him are his "real parents."

[@sunway1374]

Nah, the doctor had told others long time ago. The whole town knew all the while.

[@rebeccacorbin1590]

In the future I wouldn't discount a 12 y/o. As a Neonatal and Pediatric nurse I have cared for babies of a 10 y/o and more than one 12 y/o. It's sad but it's true. I worked at 2 different University Hospitals in Chicago and I remember each mother very well. Just keep a 12 y/o in mind if you get stuck.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you. I have also seen multiple moms at that age. It just isn't my first thought when I'm attempting to eliminate a potential birth mom.

[@libbytomlin]

@@dnangelsorg2544 Going to add, I have a friend who believes her eggs were taken from her as a young child, and she knows babies were taken as black market adoptions. She wants to connect with every single child she has.

[@veronicaroach3667]

My younger sister had a baby at 16 years old - that "baby" now has a highly successful million$ business ! However my point is to say that my sister was treated horribly by the nursing staff in the UK hospital & still tells the story to this day of the prejudice in her hour of need. My family were initially furious at my sister for putting them in the 'shame' of this baby boy, but rallied around & my mother looked after him while my sister got her life together ! She was & is an amazing mum, now has 2 other grown 'kids' & a lovely husband, her whole family are wonderfully talented !!! Moral of the story is - support that new mother for you do not know what wonders will unfold !!!

[@bevfitzsimmonds3382]

Thankyou, l thought that, too. ❤️

[@annehersey9895]

I was thinking the same thing!!! A 12;year old is much more likely to give a baby up than girls in mid or late 20’s.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

For clarification, the client had 3 full siblings and 1 additional half sibling (DNA match), a child from dads first marriage.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

The worst thing for me is have idea what my daughter was told about me (or anything). I had no idea she existed until a few years ago. She would be ~30 now.

[@afton47]

You didva great job sharing the adoption story. You came across as friendly, personable, and interesting. Good job, and interesting story! 😅

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you

[@gingerhiser7312]

She comes across as a nosy busy body who knows better than everyone else. It wasn't her secret to tell.

[@aliciarobertson4979]

At at a yearly weekend family lunch, thinking that it was a mistake and she’d need to sort it out, my friend was telling her siblings and parents that a hospital accounts department had just contacted her to pay an overdue bill. Later all three of her sisters contacted her privately at home to confess that two had been in hospital pregnant at differing times and her third other sister had had a termination also using her sister’s name. They were all single at the time. If it happened in 2024 there would have been central government medical records but back in the early 1960s it all went under the radar. I pity the two poor adopted children if they got their original birth certificates as my friend was killed as a relatively young woman and had borne and birthed her own children at times which would show that she definitely wasn’t their mother so they’ll be left wondering who their parents are. So sad.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

😢

[@nursemom101casteel7]

You are an awesome storyteller! Never doubt it. This was very juicy, too.

[@Slw1111]

Really good story! You do you, and tell it in your own way!

[@vickiballard3587]

You’re a GREAT storyteller! ❤

[@jeneal7600]

That was a really good story. Aimee is great but you are very, very good too!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you so much!

[@eonarts]

Oh that was a good story!

[@JMelissaMc]

I am from a family of 4 adopted newborns from the mid 60's. My oldest brother was from a married couple. The story my parents were told was that they were both in college and were not ready to start a family. I found my birthmother when I was 28. She did not want anything to do with me because I was her dirty little secret. She was 19 and having an affair with a married 26-year-old who had 2 young children. She went away to an unwed mother's home through the Catholic church. Two years later she married and had 4 more children. No one besides her parents knows about me, not even her brothers and sisters. I did the DNA this Summer and was totally surprised to see that she was on it along with her youngest son. I figured that she only did it to see if I was there because she knew the son was going to do it. I came up as a 1/2 sibling to the son, but apparently, he has not checked his info lately because I have not been contacted. She is now 80 years old and still living with the fear. So, I have always had to walk the line of "respecting" her desire to stay unknown to her family. I don't like it, it has broken my heart, but I guess that is the way it is. To me, it is no big deal anymore, this is 2024 and there are lots of bastard kids nowadays.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you for sharing your story-it’s incredibly heartfelt and speaks to the complexities and challenges that so many adoptees and those with DNA surprises face. It takes courage to navigate those emotions, especially when the choices of others leave us feeling isolated or invisible. Your perspective on respecting your birthmother's wishes, even at the cost of your own emotional well-being, shows incredible strength and empathy. However, it’s heartbreaking that the stigma of past generations still has such a hold on her, even in 2024 when society has come a long way in understanding and accepting these realities. It’s true that so many people today are discovering unexpected connections through DNA, and while it can be overwhelming for some, it also opens the door to healing and building relationships. Your story highlights the deep need for openness and honesty in these situations, and I hope one day your birth family will recognize the gift of knowing you. Thank you again for sharing-your journey is a reminder of the resilience and grace that so many in this community show.

[@caroletorres1487]

Please don't call yourself a bastard. You are God's child. ❤

[@caroletorres1487]

@@JMelissaMc I have been watching a show called long lost family and the siblings are gracious. I would reach out to your brother. At the age of 13, I was introduced to my seven brothers and sisters birthed by two other women. They were gracious then and gracious now. We gather together since then.

[@jpdj2715]

You may be familiar with a TV program called "The Grand Tour". Well, that was named after the grand tours that adolescent sons of noble and wealthy or just wealthy parents would make in old Europe. While on their way, they would write letters home and some of those letters are still around. In one of such letters, the son writes that in France the women weren't chaste after marriage - married women screwed around. And so they are chaste before marriage. They needed a legal father first and once married the children had a father's name and maybe decent financial circumstances. A large house in Paris with a walled court as entry might have a formal entrance and two side entrances, one for the lover of the mistress the other for mister's lover. He proceeded to write that in the Netherlands, the women weren't chaste before marriage. Once married they didn't screw around. And they used pregnancy to get married and out of the parents' house and dominance. He then wrote, and in Great Britain the women are neither chaste before nor after marriage. Honey badger don;t care, let's have a ball. You can imagine that STD went around like mad. If you ever thought that it is posh to stick your pinky out when you hold a cup of tea or glass of wine, then you were led to believe a big lie. It originated in the salons and parties of the upper classes, yes. But it meant, "I have STD, so if you have it too, let's have a ball." Children born with an STD were no exception - well known example was Ludwig van Beethoven. Today's guesstimates about the UK are that 25% or more of the children were not fathered by the man on their birth certificate. In many cases, problematic "father" child relations originate from a man suspecting he is not the biological father. Let me add here that men screw around, tell lies, and cheat. You need two to tango. If we look in nature we see some species of animals that have no lasting relationships, others are mates for life, and then there are those that do both. If we look at fellow primates we see all those examples with our closest relatives. The general principle is that the females prefer the assholes - that's why nice boys finish last - because they spread the genes better. Today, over 32 million men have a couple genes from Genghis Kahn (1162..1227) and I would not be proud of descending from that bully, killer, rapist, and pillaging, besieging, stealing/robbing, slave-taking war machine. Which is a reminder that women may have gotten impregnated involuntarily and try to be noble in not telling their biological children, or giving them up for adoption. Rape, incest, incest-rape, but also prostitution. In old LA there are streets named after women - well these generally are the names of the women working that street in times when there were loads of men around with a handful of women. Which can be a reason to not explore a branch in one's ancestry tree. Science suggests that a woman cannot keep a secret longer than 20 minutes. Well, they can. As you found out. Men are not a lot different, I think - what's the difference between 20 minutes and 20 days on a life time - in cases when no children are involved. Because when out-of-relation children are involved, many people can carry that secret with them into their graves.

[@stephaniek4298]

These stories are fascinating!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I'm glad you found them fascinating! There are so many incredible stories out there to explore.

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

I actually was put up for adoption by a 21 year Old married couple where they told everyone I died of a heart defect at birth. Ancestry enlightened everyone when I was 37 years old and my mother was dead by that point of aggressive reoccurring breast cancer that metastisized to her brain in 2012.

[@irenedavo3768]

Wow! Big hug 🤗

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

@irenedavo3768 thanks

[@loriar1027]

Did you ever find out why they put you up for adoption?

[@kaythegardener]

Knowing your birth mother's cause of death, does it help you in your own medical history??

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

@kaythegardener she is my actual mother not my " birth" mother the female half of my purchasers told me despite all of my best efforts and despite everyone else in our entire neighborhood loving bme that she " always felt she had been raising another woman's child" and come to find out she even caused me so much trauma that when I looked at genetic markers for personality I should not like animals and not be musically inclined and I have two copies of extraversion. I am literally a freaking basket case all for the sake of some covert narcissists need to play doll badly with someone else's baby for four years until her husbands medical issues got fixed and they had their own babies. So no my actual mother is my own mother ( you only get one good bad missing dead or indifferent) and my mother who had the same face as me and the same voice as me died at fifty three after about a decade of failed cancer treatments that I did need to know about because an ounce of to prevention is worth a pound of cure. So I immediately stopped drinking coke zero and I started avoiding all carcinogens whenever possible and so far so good. But you don't have ANY right to question the importance of someone else's medical history or question why it's necessary for them to have it. Even if there are no genetic issues at all that adoptee deserves to know they have nothing to worry about. I really want you to start thinking about how the other person might feel before you say stuff. I mean the woman who forced her name on my birth certificate couldn't even handle her own daughter who by the way ended up living out of her car and abusing substances for a while until she got away from her "birth" mother as an adult ( see how that sounds from the perspective of your point of view coming from mine) ? Anyway let's call her J and the woman K J looked and sounded and acted just like her mother and K even told me once that she thought I was a bad child until J came along. So don't give me all of this birth mother crud it's just something everyone wants to say to try to make something incredibly unnatural and in most cases unnecessary feel better to the adults that do it and to gas light the rest of us.

[@PaulaZF]

I love that you said the secret was not yours to keep. Great way to look at it!! No secrets!! Time for grace yes.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I agree. No more secrets! Grace is always given.

[@jldenn]

Not yours to keep? Also, not yours to share imo.

[@56annieb]

When people debate whether to abort or have the baby adopted, these stories will make the case for abortion.

[@PaulaZF]

@@56annieb not necessarily.

[@rebeccaoliver7977]

@@PaulaZFnot in all cases but certainly in some. The approach here seems to be, “no worries if you don’t want to talk about it but I’ll go tell everyone else in your family and then they can confront you.” I’m struggling with the invasion and how it could impact the person who kept the secret.

[@pamelataylor3537]

I just subscribed to the channel. I love stories about genetics and I loved this story cos it had a happy ending. There’s nothing wrong with the way you told this story, it is fine. I’m looking forward to binge watching some of the videos on the channel just to catch up a little, when I get the chance. Im also looking forward to more from you. These are very interesting to me as my sister and I are trying to do our family tree and it’s proving to be extremely difficult. TFS and I’m really looking forward to many more videos from this channel.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you so much for subscribing and for your kind words! 🧬✨ I'm thrilled to hear you enjoyed the story and that you're excited to explore more videos on the channel. It's wonderful that you and your sister are diving into your family tree-though it can be challenging, it’s such a rewarding journey. If you ever feel stuck or need guidance, feel free to reach out; we love helping others uncover their roots. Stay tuned for more stories, and happy binge-watching! 😊📜🌳

[@mandibees]

To the point people are my favorite! Especially on youtube so thanks!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Glad you like them!

[@AgelessWaysLongerDays]

Great job!

[@caroletorres1487]

You did a very good job storytelling😊

[@joanietaylor1564]

My mother's bio mom had 2 black market adoptions! She did the same thing enter the hospital using the other woman's insurance card. The boy born in1965 in Flint, MI at Hurley Hospital will never know unless he does a DNA test. Crazy thing is that I have found his daughter because of DNA but she is also looking for her father because mom wouldn't disclose who dad was. So we are both looking for the same man but I found a half 1st cousin. The other black market baby was a girl and we found her so just hoping to find the only boy out of 5 kids that were all just given up by this woman.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Wow! Intriguing story. Let us know if you need our help with the relative looking for father.

[@firewaterbydesign]

*Oh, what tangled webs we weave when first we practice to deceive!!!* 😮🤦‍♀️

[@dnangelsorg2544]

you can say that again

[@BjdacH]

Very nice story. Thank you for sharing.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thanks for listening

[@chiaracelli]

0:10 I’m loving your videos the most. I’m to the point.

[@arfriedman4577]

I think its great what you do. Glad the family was found.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you! It’s a rewarding experience to reunite families.

[@peachygal4153]

My mom's friend 's daughters did that. One couldn't have children. The other was divorced and already had 2 kids, so she entered the hospital under her sister's name and had a baby boy whom she gave to her sister. That was circa 1970 or about then, this friend of Mom's died only a few years afterward from cancer and my mom has been gone nearly 30 years herself, so I have lost touch with them. The son would be around 50 and the 2 sisters close to 80 now, if not 80.

[@FreshGrey-pm4vw]

This was the best story yet- well told!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot to me that you enjoyed the story!

[@Margieferret-10]

I like you. That was a great story. I don’t know if I would be that calm on the phone. You make a good detective. 💕🇨🇦

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed it! It can be tough to keep cool under pressure!

[@dawnedawe5337]

Fabulous story great search angel you’ve healed someone heart if not the mums

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you!

[@Oglulubell]

My friend is the youngest of 6. Parents couldn’t afford another baby. She met them as an adult, spent the day with them and at the end of the day they said it was nice meeting her but it will be too emotionally difficult to maintain a relationship. 😢

[@dnangelsorg2544]

That's a shame!

[@rebeccaoliver7977]

So she ended up rejected a second time. That must have been devastating for her. Did she regret her search?

[@michellebwilson2610]

I had a case similar where a 19 YO and her 53 YO, twice-divorced neighbor hooked up. Over the next three years they adopted out 2 children. Then they married and had 4 more children they kept. When the husband hit 75, the wife divorced him for a younger model. And right away she has another kid who gets the new husband’s surname. DNA, however, showed that this 7th child was also the son of the 75 YO. And when got the OBC for the 2nd child adopted out the mother and father’s names / birthdates / places of birth were completely falsified. Without DNA these two adoptees would never have been able to meet their siblings.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

WOW! Mic drop time. Great work!

[@caroletorres1487]

I am 66 years old and recently was informed that I have two more siblings. We were eight siblings until now. My half-sister shared that we are 10 children from five different women that my dad sexted. I'm trying to find the brother that would be my age. The sister died as a child by drowning. My Papa Was a Rolling Stone, wherever he left his hat was his home and when he died all he left us was alone. He died at age 40. I met him when I was 13 years old. He was sweet to me and made up for the time apart. He introduced me to my then seven siblings, friends, family, bought me clothes shoes jewelry and apologized...

[@SPIRITWILDCHILD28]

I wish my story had such a positive outcome. My fathers family wouldn't even tell me which brother was my father. He was likely dead, they didn't want anything to do with me.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I'm really sorry to hear that. Family dynamics can be incredibly complicated, and it's tough when you don't get the answers you’re looking for. Remember, you are not alone in this journey.

[@rebeccaoliver7977]

I’m so sorry. This must be very painful 😢

[@Jan-xp8yi]

Yes, a sister can have a baby by the husband. Knew someone that had a baby with a man that her sister ended up marrying. There was no relationship between them when it happened. It all came out years later, it still didn’t go over very well when it all came out. The child had been adopted

[@KatMa664]

I’m glad it ended so nicely for your client. I don’t know how someone could spend the rest of their life, knowing their child is looking for them and deny them. When all it took for her to cop to the whole thing was the fact that the pressure was on because her kids all knew now. Other than that, she would’ve spent the rest of her life denying this child. That kind of sucks. I’m glad her daughter gave her. I still think she’s horrible.

[@ricardoroarke]

Great story! And a happy ending

[@ricardoroarke]

I meant beginning, not ending

[@curryhumphreys5037]

Wonderful story and you appear to be very thoughtful and generous.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you! I'm always happy to help people find their lost family.

[@gingerhiser7312]

It wasn't her secret to tell. Not thoughtful at all.

[@BeckyInCa]

Nice story 😊

[@mindymorgan8479]

Girl I need you to tell my story. It's sorted and bad. Ends up bad too. Lol. But I'm still here and want to know the truth. Several murders and suicides in the family. So not easy to track. Several aliases. My grandfather was sold to a family. I need help on what my true DNA says. Help!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Reach out to DNAngels.org one word, one A "Request a search angel" Ask for Laura Olmsted to work your case.

[@hermithank9514]

Impressive!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you for watching

[@Malmo117]

What about parental privacy rights?

[@kurtvanluven9351]

I have a daughter I never met. Her mom never told me and she passed in 2011. From what I gather, she was adopted eith within the family or to a friend. I took a DNA test, but nothing except relatives I know. Now I'm stumpted.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I am so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, if she didn't take a DNA test as well you would be able to identify her. Either herself or one of her children/grandchild. Are you able to ask the state to unseal adoption records?

[@kurtvanluven9351]

@@dnangelsorg2544 I am not sure. The mom sent me a letter with a photo, my brother tossed it out.

[@francesbernard2445]

I gave birth to my youngest child Jack when I was age 41.

[@jennifercheney4353]

Imagine thinking it couldn't be the 12 year old. Of course it could have.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

You are right, but its not our go-to consideration.

[@DLynne222]

You said the "siblings were entitled." Can you give me more information about where to look to verify that? I'm just starting to learn about this. My ex was adopted, and he has passed but we had a child who might be interested in finding out if he had siblings.

[@barbarakloise6790]

Genetics is amazing really.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Absolutely! Genetics plays such a crucial role in shaping who we are and understanding it can unlock so many mysteries of life.

[@Getchell32]

I was unwanted a second time. It kills.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I'm sorry.

[@goatmasterflash]

In the early 1990s, before genealogy DNA kits were available to the public, a woman a few years older than my father contacted my dad because she was adopted and the adoption records she accessed indicated that my dad's mother might be her biological mother. When my dad asked his mother about it, she earnestly and convincingly swore that this lady was mistaken because she had only two pregnancies - my dad and my uncle. Two decades later, after both the adopted lady and my grandmother had passed away, my dad's niece did one of those genealogy DNA tests and the adopted lady's daughter (who did a genealogy DNA test through the same company) was DNA matched as a biological relative to my dad's niece. We will never know the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy and adoption, but it's undeniable now that my grandmother was biologically tied to this lady, and presumably her birth mother.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Wow, what an incredible story! It’s fascinating how DNA can uncover hidden family connections and secrets. It must have been quite a journey for your family to piece everything together!

[@turquoiseangel1764]

I disagree with bypassing the birth mothers wishes

[@kathystahl4690]

Wow sounds like my adoption bio mom told me she had grown children and. didn't want to be involved so I hunted and met. My brother n sister my mom was 33 when pg with me was legally married she re married had 1 girl

[@PatriciaRidley-gy1mj]

I understood the story. No need for the clarification. You are a storyteller.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I’m glad you found the story engaging!

[@tanyabrown9839]

I know someone in Australia who did a black market secret adoption (if one can even call it an adoption when there is no paper work at all to show this). The mother has MS and wanted money to try an experimental treatment (she was loosing her sight and the MS was getting worst) so she came up with an idea to have a baby which she would sell for the money for her treatment, she decided to be a surrogate mother as she liked the thought of helping a non infertile couple. Note.. surrogacy is illegal in Australia. So she found a desperate couple who live in Tasmania and the father flew over to Sth Australia, Adelaide impregnant her (he did the deed into a cup and she used a syringe to put the semen into herself). Anyway it was a success, she got pregnant, she had the baby and then had this baby delivered over to that couple which they paid for. I often wonder what that child will think, if ever DNA tested when that child would find out that mother is really not birth mother.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

That is terrible!

[@mary-ellendurkin163]

Beautiful story

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you

[@karendouglass9796]

That was not your secret to share, either.

[@barbarakosloski9260]

Unless you are an adoptee, you have no clue what it feels like not knowing; all sorts of thoughts go through your mind. Sometimes the truth may not be pleasant to learn, but it is their story and they have a right to know their ethnicity and any possible inherited medical conditions. The birth parent has a right not to have a relationship, if they so choose. They do not have a right to demand that their children' not have a relationship with their other sibling. I speak from experience.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s true that the journey of uncovering one’s roots can be complex and emotional. Every story is unique, and it’s important to honor everyone’s feelings in these situations.

[@kathrynwitte3398]

I’m confused, is this woman looking for HER parents? She keeps talking about “Mom and Dad” but that doesn’t really make sense.

[@lauriedmills7581]

The people you should have called was the police. Easy for me to say but the way you handled it was awesome. I’m glad you were so assertive with her.

[@lynnedean713]

I love all these finding parents/relative type of videos. I am in England and absolutely no offence is meant but I do notice in America, phoning up the long lost mother after she has had her child adopted, it seems everyone rushes to the phone. I do not know if there are laws governing each of our countries but over here, we are told to either get a liaison person, such as yourself, to write a letter first. Or, to write the letter yourself. To break the ice. To steel yourself against rejection. To give that person time to absorb what she is being told. It must be very shocking to a birth mother to get a phone call out of the blue to say the child they gave away now wants contact. I think the initial reaction would be panic then denial. I am old, 75, and back in the 60s we were told that adoption was binding, there would never be any contact and if it sounds if I am talking from personal experience, I am but that's another story. No such thing as an open adoption like nowadays. You recite in a great manner, very calm and concise and it was easy to follow the story. Now to watch a few more videos!

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's fascinating to hear about the differences in adoption practices between countries. Every story is unique, and it's important to approach these situations with understanding and sensitivity.

[@averildaniels7479]

Yay!!!!!

[@mysweettlife]

how much does this cost?

[@dnangelsorg2544]

There is no cost to identify a biological parent, donations are encouraged and appreciated. Visit DNAngels.org

[@kabbystevens5167]

Sounds like the birth mother could have been revealed by the adopted mother…since birth mom used adopted moms insurance.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

She could have, but they were all keeping secrets!

[@veronicaroach3667]

While I totally understand people wanting to know the facts of who they are I think it's very unfair for 'investigators' to pry into people's private lives & expose things they prefer to keep under wraps. The people doing the uncovering are just 'working' for money and/or fame, and people's lives get overturned for suspect reasons. Who has the greater right - the child who was given up or the mother who had to do the unthinkable & who needs her privacy ? I hope in the end everybody is happier for knowing the facts, but it could be the opposite - so it's not other people's business in the first place ! Tread very carefully in other people's lives I say !!!!

[@kimwoodhouse7891]

Interesting question because “rights” often conflict. It’s a good question for an ethics class. In this case, I was feeling like the birth mother was getting cornered.

[@rachelm2041]

I agree that these situations need to be handled in a private and discreet manner. Sometimes, the conception of the child may have been from a rape by a family member or stranger. I have a friend who has done extensive genealogy research on her family. She was the only child of her parents. Her husband had suggested a DNA kit to explore other possible family members. Her parents at the time were already deceased. The results came back, revealing close DNA match with her mother. She discovered that her mother had a baby girl out of wedlock and gave the baby up for adoption. This occurred three years before she met and married my friends father. My friend was in a state of shock from this discovery. But, she was able to communicate and visit with this new sister. I have known this family for over 40 years. I understand the embarrassment and humiliation that these women had to endure over 60 years ago. Many families have had these discoveries. I truly believe everyone deserves to know the truth of who they are and where they came from.

[@zuzuspetals9281]

I agree. The mother has a right to secrecy if that’s what was agreed to when she decided on the adoption. The one who gave up the child should always be able to keep their secret, and no family members should expose her without her permission. Finding out the truth isn’t always the sweet story you hope it will be

[@hermithank9514]

The child has a right to know! A paid investigator knows how to obtain information.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

You must not know who we are then. we do not charge to identify biological parents. The child has the greater right to know. They don't have a right to a relationship and we counsel our clients on that fact. With knowledge of our biological origins comes healing.

[@wickedbird1538]

😮😮Moms can give it up. DNA will out them eventually.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

100%

[@RebeccaLyn1965]

NO the client is NOT entitled to meet with their siblings. The client is only entitled to the dna. If they could put the names with their parents, great. Otherwise they are not entitled to anything.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

They are entitled to their truth! No one said they are entitled to a relationship.

[@xyz12345457]

I am SO confused. It sounds like she gave up 4 children for adoption. It also sounds like the Mom raised her full siblings. How many children did this woman have? And you refer to her full siblings and half siblings interchangeably as if they are the same people. Can someone please explain?

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I'm happy to explain. Mom had four children. She placed children numbers 2 and 3 for adoption. Before Mom and Dad were married, Dad had a daughter with another woman. That is the half-sister.

[@xyz12345457]

@@dnangelsorg2544 Thank you! Love your stories.

[@annehersey9895]

BUT WHAT ABOUT DAD???

[@kristinesharp6286]

12 year olds have babies all the time.

[@carmenortiz5294]

Talk about invasive!

[@mtnman3MTA3]

The birth mother and the adoptive mother and possibly the adoptive father committed insurance fraud by using the adoptive mother’s insurance policy to pay for the birth. That’s the only interesting part of your little story. One or more of the adults should be charged if possible unless too much time has passed. Do you currently have access to a telephone?

[@countrylivers]

You said to the mother “Your story is not ours to keep”……I don’t understand that AT ALL! Who are YOU to be the gatekeeper, to throw open all the doors, to people’s private lives?? I love hearing reunion stories, but again, that is for CONSENTING adults. You go behind her back and tell ALL her family members? Is this a Power Trip you’re living?? Maybe I just don’t understand the genre of all this🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ How would YOU like it if another person called all your family and friends and told them your most secret of secrets?? Just absolutely mind boggling to me. But I guess you do you

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Remember, she denied the claim. I had no choice but to call her sister and ask more questions. Try to put yourself in the shoes of the victim here, the client. Does that client need to sit in the corner and watch from the sidelines all of their life because of someone else's secrets? Not in this day and age!

[@countrylivers]

@ Why would you “have no choice”???? Have your client talk to her and if her bio mom says she doesn’t want anything to do with her…..freaking RESPECT that!!! Why on earth would a person demand someone else, all all their friends and family, to acknowledge them?! I don’t want to be somewhere where I am NOT wanted!!! How are they going to perceive this new incoming person, who they have ZERO base or bond with, coming in blazing and ignoring everyone wishes and DEMANDING to be acknowledged by everyone??! How is that going to go over in the LONG run??! All she will do is cause huge upset and waves and then TOTALLY WALK AWAY, and not give them another thought and live her life while they are all in Shambles and upset with each other. Absolutely ZERO respect for you causing ALL of this!!! You can totally delete my comment if you want, but I think you have some kind of God like power trip. You have NOTHING else in your own life to fulfill you and so you cause issues with people who have no defense against you. SO SAD

[@evil1by1]

Wow this is disgusting. You spy on people and stalk them and disrespect their wishes and then blow up their family all because some entitled see you auntie is curious? Shes got a family to crawl home to, where are these folks supposed to go? No means no, id get a restraining order if you went behind my moms back to stir shit

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I understand that emotions can run high with stories like this, so I want to take a moment to clarify and address your concerns. First and foremost, I want to emphasize that no one was spied on or stalked, and no disrespect was intended or given. The client in this case had every right to seek information about their biological family, and I acted as a professional to assist them in navigating a sensitive and often overwhelming process. When the mother expressed her wishes not to be contacted further, her boundaries were respected-I did not reach out to her again. However, her wishes do not extend to controlling other family members’ right to know and connect with the client if they choose. Every outreach is handled with care, professionalism, and respect for all involved parties. This work is not about stirring conflict but rather providing individuals with the opportunity to understand their heritage and forge meaningful connections where possible. It’s important to note that many families welcome these reunions and build positive relationships as a result. I encourage you to consider the broader context and the client’s right to answers and connection. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

[@maureengreen4008]

Somehow I find this story a little bit odd…you work for the client and you called the mother. She has said she doesn’t want you calling her again but you go behind her back and call our family members. Somehow I feel that there is an ethical situation you have crossed. The client could have received all the information and done the rest on her own - calling the other family members by herself. And then you got on YT to notify everyone about your searching and finding missing family members. Not sure this is allowed in the bigger scheme of things…🤷🏻‍♀️ I realise the adopted daughter has asked for help but when the mother said not to call again…I would have passed all the information over to her and let her sort it all out and deal with the meeting of her new family.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

Thank you for your comment. I understand your concerns, and I’d like to clarify a few points. My client has a right to know about their biological family, and I acted in their best interest while respecting the mother's wishes not to be contacted further. I did not call the mother again after she expressed her desire not to speak, honoring her request. However, the mother does not have the authority to act as a gatekeeper to the rest of the family. As part of my professional and ethical obligation to the client, I facilitated connections where the potential for meaningful and positive relationships existed. No ethical lines were crossed in this process, as my actions were fully aligned with the client's expressed desires. It’s important to remember that the client sought support precisely because navigating these situations independently can be daunting, and they deserve guidance in such deeply personal matters. Additionally, sharing this story publicly (with appropriate anonymization) serves to highlight the transformative power of DNA testing and the possibilities of reuniting families. The goal is to inspire others in similar situations while respecting the privacy and boundaries of those involved. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and I hope this provides some clarity.

[@CL31181]

I’m sorry, and I am sorry for those that have been adopted and don’t have relationships with their biological parents and want one, but I really don’t think that anyone can claim that they have a ‘right’ to know, or a ‘right’ to anyone. You said in you vid, that you were pretty sure that the woman who was bugging out was the mother. Ok, you confirmed that by calling the Aunt. Why would you go any further than that? No one has a right to be in contact with me. Ever. But then you contact a sibling who then embarrasses and humiliates the mother, after the mother said ‘no more’ and after you confirmed who the mother was. You had already done your job. You found both the mother and father of your client. The end. Pass the information on, knowing that ‘Mum’ said no contact. I know that you don’t agree but this really feels like privacy was invaded and lines were crossed. I normally enjoy watching these vids a lot. This one really didn’t feel right. This felt like the ‘mother’ was forced to ‘own up’ because you had already told everyone already, further than what was required to identify the mother. No one has the right to be on contact with anyone else, no matter if there is blood or no.

[@dnangelsorg2544]

I appreciate your perspective on this sensitive topic. It’s important to recognize the complexities involved in these situations and to respect everyone’s boundaries. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

[@margaretforbutt5651]

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[@francesbernard2445]

I gave birth to my youngest child Jack when I was age 41.