The Consequences of CHEATING. What REALLY happens when you cheat on someone?

This Video shows a different perspective of Cheating. The cheater often neglects to think about how they are not only hurting their partner but also hurting THEMSELVES too! Share this with someone who has been cheated on, or someone who is currently cheating! Maybe it will change their perspective! Being a young woman in a healthy relationship for the past 8 years, i'm sharing some of the things that have helped my husband and I stay happy and healthy!
I hope this video helps someone!
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[@EverythingLydia]

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[@christopherberg8273]

I just got cheated on.

[@camalebell9826]

This went deep I needed to hear and understand this message and improve my loyal and trust and respect myself love and hurt a women

[@kevinharris1462]

No such thing as someone driving you to cheat. Bottom line is you're cheating because you're all about your own gratification. It's the ultimate act of selfishness and most importantly greed. Yep GREED. GREED IS THE DEMISE OF ALL RELATIONSHIPS. REMEMBER WE MADE OUR VOWS TO GOD BEFORE WE MADE THEM TO OUR SPOUSE. AND GOD WILL NOT BE MOCKED.

[@tneita3166]

"Good video " You know what U R talking about,,,. Have a good day,,,. Godley Love,,,,.

[@jamessutton8114]

You’re so on point!😇

[@dbetaki8846]

Anyone else in so much pain that they try to find words of comfort in videos online.

[@jayviolet7480]

Me right now

[@ttvx901barbi]

:( currently..

🙋🏾‍♀️

[@kalsoomafridi133]

Yes me too 😢😢😢

[@ashwanijha7695]

Me. We are all in :(

[@mrjjthor]

Cheaters want their cake and eat it too. That's why they hold onto their current partner while seeing someone else on the side.

[@EverythingLydia]

Yup! These are facts and that’s what it’s sooo selfish and i really have almost NO toleration for it!

[@vernonroche7067]

Right

[@beoverwait]

What's the purpose of having cake if you can't eat it? I never understood that analogy

[@mrjjthor]

@@beoverwait it basically means a person can't have it both ways. You can't retain your cake after eating it.

[@beoverwait]

@@mrjjthor I know what it means lol. But I still think it's a stupid analogy. You're not supposed to retain your cake. You're supposed to eat it which is why it's a dumb phrase I hate

[@FaithJoelle55]

I have learned that cheating says more about the cheater than it will ever say about the person who was cheated on. A cheater is a very insecure person! To anyone who has been cheated on... take those shattered pieces and create a masterpiece for yourself. The best revenge is success and true happiness. Do not revenge cheat!

[@jayviolet7480]

Ive revenge cheat a couple times before and it does NOT help alot, mental health is what matters so i agree with u right now im still suffering from heartache but im gonna try to feel better without revenge and do better for myself

[@orishaphotos481]

You cannot resolve cheating. Its a wrap over done. Finished.

[@EverythingLydia]

I totally understand this perspective. And i also respect people who feel this way. But some people do try to make it work, and that’s why i made this video.

[@orishaphotos481]

@@EverythingLydia I completely respect your intention. For me it cant be resolved for a few reasons. And most people don't understand the repercussions of sexual interactions so they think casual sex is okay. And its not. 1. DNA mixing, their body now contains DNA from whoever they cheated with forever and they can pass it to their partner. 2. Its unhygienic, nasty, disgusting. 3. Trust is broken, disrespectful. There is no point of going back, the relationship will forever be contaminated. That's why people experience shame and guilt.

[@EverythingLydia]

ORISHA PHOTOS i agree with all 3 of those! The relationship will NEVER be the same! It’s a wrap for that. Whatever you knew it to be it’s now changed. And facts, cheating isn’t only offensive it’s NASTY and unsanitary. Even knowing these things people STILL deal with it, and ALOT of people too!

[@orishaphotos481]

@@EverythingLydia Blessings to you Queen

[@EverythingLydia]

ORISHA PHOTOS thank you! Hope you Subbed! 🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@CvC3169]

My pride didn’t want me to watch this video. But I knew I needed to. You are absolutely right.

[@stephaniemarie9850]

Being un-loyal stains your entire character. Love your background song.

[@EverythingLydia]

Yes ma’am it does!!! People don’t even think about that! I love how you said this as well “stains your entire character” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and thank you!! Link to the songs used is in the description of the video!

[@paytcpaythecreator7264]

Lying, cheating, lust, and limerence has nothing to do with love and integrity. Those characteristics better define a narcissist or one with low self esteem.

[@sds6303]

A lot of people who cheat are the types who think they can have their cake & eat it too. They often lack empathy & have poor communication skills. Sadly, this is a personality thing that will most likely never change.

[@andrewphillips7758]

Cheaters get away with it in the end. Nobody really cares. People criticize cheating,!but the cheaters realize that they don’t really mean it. They can cheat on their spouse and it’s a bumpy ride for a short time, but then everyone kinda moves on and they get away with it.

[@marielouie3592]

They become so confident that their partner will never leave until they do. The dangers are so many stds, sti,unplanned pregnancies, financial loss,stalking,putting your partners life physically at risk by the other party even your children and to think some cheat for money or their addiction to sex.a serial cheater is extremely dangerous they have no remorse in addiction it maybe multiple women. who wants to be in a relationship where the competition is for a disloyal person? I never understood the method of cheating if you are unhappy why not just end the relationship and move on with the person you risked it all for? I believe it selfish and i f you can continue to cheat you do not truly love your partner it is intentional hurt and manipulation

[@DineshBhatia]

I hope every woman / man cheating on their spouses understand this. Great Video. 👍🏻

[@mcpuffinarts]

Cheaters can change though it is very rare, those who actively cheat and don't change those behaviours that cause them to do it in the first place however, I feel no sympathy for them and the consequences that happen because of it. And I absolutely agree with everything you're saying in this video, spot on accurate!

[@EverythingLydia]

Thank you so much for tuning in! I agree with you as well!!!

[@yungcash8800]

Idc if they change it u cheat I'm looking at u another way period for life

[@mcpuffinarts]

@@yungcash8800 Honestly understandable

[@yungcash8800]

@@mcpuffinarts 👍🏽💎😎 exactly

[@elmeryarborough3]

Thank you Lydia. This has helped me more than you can possibly imagine.

[@EverythingLydia]

You are so welcome! It’s my pleasure to help. More content like this on the way! Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it! 🖤🖤🖤

[@justblamedave]

Love the music, married for over 20 years, and am very glad to have watched this as I feel tempted to have that one moment and at times want that one moment with someone else. But one of the major things stopping me is picturing my wife crying and I don’t want to hurt her. This would devastate her. Gotta be strong. So I made the song “No Retreat, No Surrender” and my wife SINGS in it! Please listen to it. -Muddwolf out!

[@scoo9584]

Just lost my best friend/wife of 20 years to a 5 month affair. She turned her back on her kids and I! I feel so sorry for her! But, more importantly! No take backs! Cheating ass bit.

[@EverythingLydia]

That SUCKS! But you have the right outlook. That’s her loss. 5 months?! Yeah i don’t think there’s any coming back from that. That’s calculated and consistent. I wish many blessings to you and your kids from here on out!

[@JaqoBlaque]

😢💔😓

[@My09091984]

Lost my husband of 20 yrs after a 2 month affair 😕

[@makhasan9286]

Excellent and very very well said. I would like to hear your perspective on blame shifting from the cheater. Thank you so much 🙏🏼

[@EverythingLydia]

Thank you for listening! & that’s a great subject! I will def cover that! Be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss it! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@makhasan9286]

@@EverythingLydia Brilliant! Liked and subscribed already! Keep up the great work!!

[@biga6856]

I’m so lost for words 😔. You described my current situation. Thank you for this video. 🙏🏼

[@EverythingLydia]

You’re welcome!

[@Bentoto97]

@@EverythingLydia If your husband cheats on you and then becomes your ex-husband then will you always reject your ex-husband if he asks you out on a date again?

[@d-man3308]

I really like the video. It was very calm and mellow and got the points across. I am the person that got cheated on and am now seeking counseling to better myself. Thank you for the video!

[@EverythingLydia]

Thanks so much for watching! I’m so sorry that you got cheated on! But you’re on the right path by trying to better yourself while moving forward! I’m happy to help! 🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@clintongriffin2077]

I just want to add.. on the topic of Exiting the relationship. Some people believe "the only way out is in a body bag."

[@nellieaguilar9105]

This content makes so much sense. I didn’t even think of what other people would think of my ex for cheating on me with his NOW wife. I felt that way because I lost all our mutual friends and figured he kept the friends. Do people really think this though?

[@EverythingLydia]

Stand up people DEF think like this! I mean, if you can’t be loyal to the closest person to you! How can i trust you?? People don’t often SAY it but deep down they know that cheaters are slimy and can’t be trusted!

[@maziartour]

They say the victim of rape is the person who watches the rape. This follows the same order. You have observed a person suffering and the worst thing is that it is because of you. So this is true. If we cheat in a relationship, we are just cheating on ourselves. We will suffer more than the person we cheated to.

[@EverythingLydia]

Cmon with the word! This is SO true! The more we practice self love the less people will cheat!! I love this perspective! Thank you for sharing! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@hunter_alex101]

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[@modenavigationprivee1227]

Being the cheater weighs so much more on your own consciousness

[@tneita3166]

Maziar "I HEAR YOU " but I think its hard to say,,,.

[@gregphillips6434]

I think cheaters are weak and pure scumbags.

[@youtubefans510]

I think both the cheater and the cheated on have to agree on one thing that what they did was SELFISH

[@newbeginnings9457]

I think I love you! 😘 I’m kidding 😂 great video! Truly appreciate this!

[@EverythingLydia]

Haha thanks for tuning in! It’s always my pleasure to help!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@simpinainteasy6302]

Cheaters are the nose destructive people in existence.

[@mrtwister9002]

2 cheaters thumbed your video down. Truth hurts.

[@EverythingLydia]

Lol okay?!!! Haha. That’s a fact. Thanks for tuning in!

[@Eva-jd1im]

Thanks for the medicine, I'm healed😍😍

[@colleenrogers3536]

Cheating is cheating and is bad no matter what the circumstances. However, I hear a lot about scenarios where the cheating that is occurring is between a single person and someone that is in a committed relationship/marriage. What you don't hear a lot about, is when the two people that are cheating are also both married and are aware of each other's relationship/marriage! It's one thing to not know, if the person is in a committed relationship/marriage. Than to know, and still pursue one another. This is totally beyond wrong and even more destructive! To on purposely destroy both marriages, for their own selfishness. Another is when it's a family member/relative, or best/closest friend! No matter what it is completing wrong and detrimental to all! So why don't we hear more about those types of affairs and what to do about them, and the affects and what these types of situations have to say about the cheaters?

[@Nkihgf]

A married woman and she had a kid , she was cheating on her husband with her new boyfriend with whom she just wanted to sleep Her boyfriend killed her, her husband said she accepted that boy because she said her boyfriend is a bad boy who keeps her happy

[@Shaunteetalkstv]

Love your personality!

[@EverythingLydia]

Thank you so much! & Thanks you watching! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@disciple15]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Excellent video.

[@efrainaviles7959]

I really appreciate your comments . They are very thought precative .

[@Mitchellaaroncoleman]

I’m afraid to get in a relationship because I cheated . I feel like a dirtbag . I was happy and left a comment on a girls page calling her a cutie and my fiancé found out. I was happy . I loved her so much. Am I just a dirtbag forever ? It is such a stain on my soul .

[@nicolehernandez4778]

Wow this was so helpful

[@carrollhenry7618]

Excellent advice

[@newage5468]

This popped up on my suggestions and i cheated once recently which lead for us to separate and this distance we had ive been thinking a lot first i had deep remorse which i knew i loved her but i supported her when she asked for some alone time so she can start finding herself again and loving herself more again meanwhile i start improving myself and my negative ways which i have faith god will unite us in the future when we both are healed and improved in our insecurities and negativities i truly believe this was just to make us better off in the future but only god knows and time will tell. HAVE FAITH AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. YOU CAN CHANGE TO THE POINT WHERE YOU better yourself and DESERVE HER YOU JUST HAVE TO BE ABLE TO REALLY WANT THAT CHANGE. Don't GIVE UP HOPE.

[@jayelime6254]

Cheaters cant chance,karma is coming!!!

[@EverythingLydia]

Facts!

[@duncanmac2195]

When someone cheats they get dumped and when they want to come back, they can't. When you cheat on a guy, he will now see you as dirt.

[@MayorMeez]

I see you got that Wavy Wayne produced track in the background. Nice!!

[@EverythingLydia]

Mayor Meez he recorded and mixed it, and yes, that’s my husband! 🖤

[@MayorMeez]

Everything Lydia oh nice I'm a HUGE fan of Wavy. I'm subscribed to his channel to get major tips on engineering. As a producer myself, I solute him for being an important value to the music world. Hats off.

[@EverythingLydia]

Mayor Meez yes I’m very proud of him. He’s been recording all my music for the past 9 years. ❤️

[@niccivictorious5594]

If he cheats I cannot trust him. #donewhenuleastexpect

[@EverythingLydia]

Facts i totally agree. Can’t trust him in ANY way. BYE!!!

[@youtubefans510]

you cannot trust him not to feel for others and you cannot trust that he will not act upon that feeling

[@niccivictorious5594]

@@youtubefans510 true. The sad part is if I provide loyalty and assurance I am not cheating he should do the same. However, if he can't then don't seek out women who desire a commitment.

[@jamessullivan7645]

Perfectly said

[@EverythingLydia]

Thank you for watching 🙏🏾

[@carrollhenry7618]

Great,you are correct.

[@colleenrogers3536]

Question? How many people would confront a cheater, if they knew for sure that person was cheating? How many people would info the person being cheated on, that their partner is cheating? And why do soooooo many people not confront a cheater? Truth be told, most people will not get involved. Some don't even want to be around when the truth does come out. It's sad, but true. Some avoid it like the plague.

[@heroforhire1018]

I cheated on a 5-year relationship in the last year times have been tough had to work 10 times more than I needed I wasn't getting the support that I wanted for how tired I was and I lashed out and I destroyed everything

[@allclere3]

I think you are very accurate,

[@janetharrison6994]

Spot on trust gone marriage n love gone .

[@hilahjpembleton4212]

My boyfriend cheated on me with my friend so badly 😢 and disrespected me all behind her and had sex in my housenon bed on chairs I feel so nasty and hurt disgusted betrayed I went to jail for going off on her I have never been so angry 😠 😤 hurt disappointed 😞 I cut her off and a couple of others

[@youtubefans510]

sorry to hear that you are hurt being human is hard people feel they have to hide their true feelings because let s face it people have a tendency to be very judgemental on the other hand your feelings are all over the place some opnions of other youtubers : You people are awful for shaming her. I've been in a non monogamous relationship for as long as I can remember. Guess what? I love my partner more than anything in this world. You have to know that monogamy is a construct created only by society. You people say "You've never experienced love so strong it blows those argument out of the water" but I know that is false. It actually sounds more like your personal insecurity boiling to the surface. You haven't come to terms with the fact that you don't own somebody. Monogamy is based on possession. This is why you see SOOO much relationship trauma around cheating. Because monogamy is setup for failure from the start. Its a bunch of predefined set of rules setup by society. You say its "natural" but it isn't. Monogamy is fairly recent in the grand scale of human existence. No other species on earth follows this pattern.. So no its not "natural." Once you have the emotional will power to conquer jealousy & insecurity I can tell you happiness awaits you on the other side. Both men and women cheat. And they cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because they want sexual adventure. Women cheat because they want emotional satisfaction. Its funny how we are taught that love is going to the end of the earth to make someone happy. So why do we stop at our own insecurities, but not at the end of the earth? Hypocrisy... If your scared of loosing your partner then was your partner truly the one? If your so sure they are the one then no insecurities would exist. The probability of cheating in monogamy is high. Most of the times the relationship becomes a lie and lose it's complete meaning, because of the imposed restrictions and limitations. THAT’S A REAL RELATIONSHIP!! This is why monogamy fails! Ppl are in DENIAL about this FACT! You will ALWAYS BE ATTRACTED TO OTHER PEOPLE! The only thing you cheat is YOURSELF when y’all don’t accept the fact that ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE OPEN! Procreation is such a bioloigical drive that only few people can resist the temaptation to cheat even most women People cheat on who they love all the time. Monogamy is just not a natural thing. Even if you are faithful you still have to fight the urge to cheat. this is what may be hard for people he kept a secret because he did not want to hurt you he did not suddenly say it ou loud what he did because he cares about you and did not want to hurt your feelings

[@jocosobe]

​​​​You are so deceieved. These people who are "accepting" themselves and giving into their fleshly desires are actually giving into a sinful lifestyle that causes all types of DISORDER, both personal and societal. God established the design for marriage, one man, one women. The devil has tempted and preverted Gods design so man would sin against God from the beginning because the devil HATES humanity and does not want us to be saved. Adultery opens up so many doors to further sin which future generations will suffer from: murder, unforgiveness, abuse, STDs, ​HIV, stalking, slander, children raised in 1 parent households, addictions, self-harm, witchcraft @@youtubefans510 I pray you will accept Jesus so he can open your eyes, heal you, show you what true love is and free you from all deception. Of course we humans will respond to what gives us a high, but there is also in pharmacology something known as "small terapeutic index" which means the line between an effective doseage of a medication and an fatal dose is slim (overdose). Our brain receptors can develope tolerance to a substance or activity causing our dopemine system to release dopamin and seratonin, which means we need a higher dose to respond with the same high the next time, and that's why we need a doctor with KNOWLEDGE on how much can be prescribed when we take medication (there are rules and regulations to prevent addiction or death from a substance) the same goes for us as humans. If we give into our lustful desires as we would from our own understanding (using our emotions and understanding as a compass for how we are to live) we have so much disease and disorder, all types of disorder and chaos in our society. That's why we need God who is higher in thoughts and understanding and knows what his creation need to live in a peace and in good health.

[@rR-yo8oj]

So very true...I'm going through this exact thing that u just spoke about...my baby mom did everything to me exactly what u said...and now I'm mother and a father to our 8 year old son...

[@sfernandez2002]

Vengeance is mine says the Lord, I will repay! God says this and I believe. It may take awhile but in time you reap what you sow. God of the bible is good even through ny trials of hardship, broekeness and much much more God is still loving you and will never leave you or forsake you. May Jesus heal all those going thru this and live for God and dont lose who you are, but if needing changes ask God to change and renew the bad in you to become the man/woman God needs us to be!😊

[@Bentoto97]

What do you believe on how to be saved and go to heaven (salvation)? Because not every person prays to God, reads the bible, and claims to be Christians have the correct belief in salvation.

[@marcussmith249]

Hard to say but you are right

[@EverythingLydia]

Sucks to be right on subjects like these!!! 💔💔💔

[@warriorofgrace7124]

I noticed your veiws have gone down guess your just to real lol I appreciate this video FR. I just found you girl. Your beautiful talented and real. Your a gem. Girls of every color have gone threw this. I needed to hear this. I gotta question tho maybe you'll answer.. Id love your insite. What is your take on woman wearing cloths that show lots of skin and their man looks at them. Is it the woman's fault or the mans? Or both? If I knew what I was wearing would take a mans eyes off his woman, I would change..sexy is for the bedroom. Maybe this could be your next video topic?

[@EverythingLydia]

Hey! Thanks for the comment! I think that when you’re in a relationship both of you need to be confident and have TRUST. It’s not good when a man starts to tell his woman what to wear and what NOT to wear. A woman dressing sexy is fine, as long as she doesn’t cross the line, how sexy is too sexy?? that’s something that SHE should know without her man having to tell her.

[@415getActive]

she won't leave she think she love me for still working and helping pay bills...she cheated

[@ease613]

Hey auntie Lydia it’s me baby gangster love u I listen to ur music on spotify

[@EverythingLydia]

Yayyyyy!!! I’m so happy you listen to my music!! And i love you too babygirl! I’ll see you next time I’m in New York! ❤️❤️

[@ease613]

Lydia Caesar I need you to say that your my aunt my friends don’t believe me lol I need proof

[@BilalAslamIsAwesome]

10:00 🤣 truth right there

[@EverythingLydia]

Mannn listen! Hahahaha. Just keeping it allll they way 💯💯💯! It’s a lot of people out here like this and they need to hear it! Lol

[@BilalAslamIsAwesome]

@@EverythingLydia sometimes I wish I could say this to my ex without coming off as an asshole. Well I think I'm being mean by calling her out, even though it's something I should be doing more often to more people.

[@EverythingLydia]

@@BilalAslamIsAwesome oooh yeah call em out! Send her the link w the time stamp. I’ll tell her for you. 😂😂😂😂

[@JaqoBlaque]

🏆🏆🏆

[@December-qp5fj]

Almost forgot drs and nurses will cover for you especially if you are a travel nurse

[@StefTechSurfer]

What if she's gone travelling a lot?

[@jurodanticlay2580]

I cheated on my girlfriend of a year an two months now it’s jus going bad can’t txt or none like I’m a scum bag help me I want her back please

[@December-qp5fj]

Ummm that's not how it works I know a person who cheated on her husband, divorced him jumped from d to d, and then got a whole new relationship

[@jayviolet7480]

What if im in an abusive relationship and i have no where to go if i do succeed to leave? Cuz i dont suspect shes cheating anymore i know it and im trying to leave ive havent confronted bc of how abusive she gets, shes an ex boxer and is 100x more stonger than i am whos never been in a fight before her

[@Mental_Alchemist]

4:00 u right but you have a pure heart.... it's hard for ppl like us to understand that SOME ppl don't have it......DOGS BARK.... COWS MOO.... PPL like that do what they do😢😅 U can't hold certain ppl to the same standard imo..... Love them, but sometimes you have to let go of the idea that we are all the same. Sometimes you have to look at people as if they are not quite developed yet. Even though they fooled you in the past. Just let it go. If they knew better they would do better. It is almost like being angry with a kid with a mental disability and holding him accountable for his actions. Sure they hurt us... but in reality they don't know any better. Something is missing. We have it but they don't. Leave them alone and let it go and find someone like us.

[@Bentoto97]

Do cheaters usually face more rejection than for people who don't cheat in relationship?

[@CentralVAProductions]

Cheating marks you for Hell. The Rage Demon Askra marks you for Hell instantly after Infidelity. There is no redemption after this.

[@kdbfi1989]

You should probably read the bible

[@langweros891]

God forgives and heals

[@youtubefans510]

tell that to an atheist falling on death ears

[@jurodanticlay2580]

I need help I cheated on my girlfriend I love her an miss her like please I’ve learned my lesson I been crying none stop an not sleeping

[@jurodanticlay2580]

Can someone help me please

[@M9Diry]

I’ve not married but I’ve been cheating with the last 2 girlfriends I’ve had, and now everything has gone to shit because the one I was cheating with, whom I really liked for sex... is pregnant. The one who I really love is not. She is sensitive and it will break her heart. I’m now trying to analyse what drives me to do this awful shit that’s caused me huge anxiety and sleepless nights, tears and pain all for what? So I can feel love from different women. I attribute it my own insecurities. I have a fear of being unattractive... a fear of being left. Like my one true love did to me. Childhood abandonment issues, single Mum and absent father ... no siblings... I felt alone and lonely as a child and my Mum was ok but busy and I often felt unimportant in her life. I wonder if all cheaters are just trying to fill a void caused my past trauma somewhere.

[@EverythingLydia]

I always say this. The person who is being cheated on often feels like it’s about them when it’s not. It has nothing to do w them. Like you said, people cheat because of THEIR OWN issues that they haven’t dealt with. Since you have identified your issues within, it’s now your job to deal with them so you don’t continue hurting the ones you love. Your situation is unfortunate! I wish you the best going forward. Please deal w those issues personally it will help you be a better person in the end. 🙏🏾

[@calboboo6304]

I agree I absolutely believe cheating is a result of trying to fill a void. I believe cheating is a reflection of inner issues. I feel bad about your situation 😔 Are you going to tell your girlfriend and what does the lady that is pregnant expect from you? A relationship or was she aware that you were involved with someone else? Do you think this situation will affect your relationship with the child?🙏🏽

[@M9Diry]

@@calboboo6304 Time has passed and I, after weeks of agony at how I would break it, told my girlfriend. She is devestated and now believes our entire relationship was a lie ( which is not the case ). Her intitial reaction was calm sadness but since it's had time to sink in, it is more and more anger, more questions and dispair. She said she could come to terms with the cheating as I had often expressed that I wasn't ready to settle yet but what she cannot get over, and I don't blame her, is not using protection. I don't know how we are going to get past it and she is convinced that if I want to be in the child's life, I will get together with the Mother ... and even if I don't, the child will be a constant reminder of my infidelity. The Mother wants to keep the child 'no matter what' and is putting me under pressure to say now if I want in or out. If I want out she will take me off the birth certificate she said, and never hear from her again. If I want in we can be freinds and attempt co-parenting scenario. None of the options seems good right now.

[@calboboo6304]

@@M9Diry I am so sorry this is not a good turn out at all. I can understand how your girlfriend feels it’s going to be very hard to repair and I don’t know if she will ever trust you again. Do you believe the other young lady that she will absolve you of parental responsibility? Do you think that you will regret not being in the child’s life? Please pray for discernment and I will pray also.

[@M9Diry]

@@calboboo6304 MY instinct is to be involved in the child's life yes. I just feel a lot of pressure to make it up to my deeper connected girlfriend than the Mother of the child, whom was more of a holiday romance fling. But I care for her too and her situation. But she has admitted and agreed that the decision to keep the child in this circumstance is her decision and hers only. Therefore she can not force me to move over to be near her or anything, and claims to accept that I would stay where I am but she wants that if I am to be involved I should be attending the 3 month scan next month and probably be there for birth etc all of which will be a nightmare for the dear girlfriend here. I want to have a family with her really now. Oh what a mess... all because I didn't use protection, and beleived the chance was so slim that shed get pregnant... at age 40 etc.

[@godkingceaser7594]

I had a girl whom I was seeing to cut a guy off and tell him we are dating. She promised me to break it off & then she texted him and was seeing him. I caught her and I wasn’t hurt 🤣 but I said once a cheater always a cheater, I knew that she will ruin her own life and relationship 🤣🤣🤣

[@sameernelson9684]

Tell these sisters what time it is.

[@peterscholes5864]

My exes girlfriend cheated on me twice I saw her with the two men she was with

[@dylanstanden2255]

I COULD REALLY USE SOME ADIVE !

[@EverythingLydia]

What’s up??

[@FortniteReportz]

Two things for new video. 1) What about being falsely accused of cheating, I am a loyal person 2) Can I get my exgf back

[@OUTDOORCRIB]

exactly

[@Bentoto97]

Are cheaters usually the ones who face more rejections than for those who who never cheat in relationship?

[@cmack3795]

Most times it is the man fault their spouse is cheating. Broken promises , not appreciating her , not strong enough (mentally , emotionally or physically) , weak minded , boring , can't make kids , can't keep a job due to their past criminal history , verbally abusive, one sided , controlling etc . Blame the bad men

[@JaqoBlaque]

06:13 🏆🏆🏆

[@EverythingLydia]

Above all else!! You are a horrible my selfish person!! And ain’t no body got time for that!!! 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️

[@jawaunjohnson748]

I am lost 😔

[@EverythingLydia]

I’m so sorry to hear this! What happened?

[@weirdmariobros_]

Women cheat too

[@EverythingLydia]

Of course they do. I never said anything about women nor cheating lol

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

This is prolly a woman's channel, coming in as a 'wall flower', Just wanna make a comment, ive sadly never had a girl in my life who didnt cheat on me (emotionally or otherwise), or entertain the idea of guys the entire time she was with me...granted i wasnt perfect, i was willing to grow and had awareness of my baggage, but really, im not too eager to ever get myself back out there. Much healing to do.

[@robforeign]

My last relationship was 3 almost 4 years with her found out she was cheating yeah she told me 🙃🙃 and I kind of suspected something wasn’t right but since I had my love googles on I couldn’t see it and even though it’s been 3 years ago this happened it still kind of hurts aha and honestly I didn’t react the right way but 6 months later she hits me up telling me she wants to get back and I told her to fuck off and I don’t want nun with her I let my emotions control me nah I ain’t proud how I spoke to her but I just let pain and disappointment and anger just come in and take control and yeah I still can’t believe although it’s been 3 years I can still kinda feel that pain have I forgiven her yes I believe I did but I still feel a bit of pain which sucks

[@rosasemaka9352]

Your music is annoying behind you - I want to hear what you say but I’m turning off.

[@EverythingLydia]

Understood. My newer videos i don’t use music. But it’s all good. You can tune out if you don’t like it. 👍🏾 to each their own! 🙌🏾

[@DK-dh1vv]

Are there any women that have these traits anymore?

[@justcallmep1294]

I just wanna know how to stop cheating🤦🏽.

[@jamescastillo2405]

Your music is super distracting.

[@EverythingLydia]

Thanks for the feedback!!

[@lawandabrown1595]

I'll never trust nobody. Worked in a barbershop for 10 years. Been driving trucks for 14. All I see is cheating. Hell I'm a side chick baby rejected by siblings

[@EverythingLydia]

Ooh gosh! That’s horrible. Sucks how that experience has shaped your way of thinking but i totally get it! There are def good people out here. Hard to find tho!

[@youtubefans510]

opinions of other youtubers : You people are awful for shaming her. I've been in a non monogamous relationship for as long as I can remember. Guess what? I love my partner more than anything in this world. You have to know that monogamy is a construct created only by society. You people say "You've never experienced love so strong it blows those argument out of the water" but I know that is false. It actually sounds more like your personal insecurity boiling to the surface. You haven't come to terms with the fact that you don't own somebody. Monogamy is based on possession. This is why you see SOOO much relationship trauma around cheating. Because monogamy is setup for failure from the start. Its a bunch of predefined set of rules setup by society. You say its "natural" but it isn't. Monogamy is fairly recent in the grand scale of human existence. No other species on earth follows this pattern.. So no its not "natural." Once you have the emotional will power to conquer jealousy & insecurity I can tell you happiness awaits you on the other side. Both men and women cheat. And they cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because they want sexual adventure. Women cheat because they want emotional satisfaction. Its funny how we are taught that love is going to the end of the earth to make someone happy. So why do we stop at our own insecurities, but not at the end of the earth? Hypocrisy... If your scared of loosing your partner then was your partner truly the one? If your so sure they are the one then no insecurities would exist. The probability of cheating in monogamy is high. Most of the times the relationship becomes a lie and lose it's complete meaning, because of the imposed restrictions and limitations. THAT’S A REAL RELATIONSHIP!! This is why monogamy fails! Ppl are in DENIAL about this FACT! You will ALWAYS BE ATTRACTED TO OTHER PEOPLE! The only thing you cheat is YOURSELF when y’all don’t accept the fact that ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE OPEN! Procreation is such a bioloigical drive that only few people can resist the temaptation to cheat even most women People cheat on who they love all the time. Monogamy is just not a natural thing. Even if you are faithful you still have to fight the urge to cheat.

[@munchey99508]

I think that cheaters are selfish pigs! I know because I’m married to one.

[@EverythingLydia]

Awww man I’m sorry to hear that! They are selfish pigs and you deserve better!

[@Bentoto97]

You are a woman right? If your married husband cheats on you and then becomes your ex-husband then are you always gonna reject your ex-husband if he asks you out on a date again?

[@hilahjpembleton4212]

Cheating is never good but when u going through things it just happens because the person u loved hurt u 💔 so bad and suddenly u found someone better than the person that hurt you

[@MayorMeez]

It's crazy because in my bachelor years I've always been nieve to the fact that women cheat worse than men do but 100% better at it. When I re-connected with some school friends and we was a group of "players", lol we start really hanging tough and traveling a lot. Let me tell you......the women we hooked up with in these vacation spots were 99% of the time, married or in a long term relationship but on a "girls trip." I can remember one time my good friend who was a female had me drop her off to this dude house the DAY before she got married. I actually was really good friends with her fiance at the time so you can imagine what was going on in my head at the wedding while saying congrats to them. Like, if he only knew that his newly wed wife had another man balls deep in her just last night. Crazy smh. Now I'm older and married with a beautiful wife, it haunts me sometimes when she take her "girls trips" with her friends. I trust her 100% and she trust me as well. We have a very healthy and growing marriage. But boy I tell ya......sometimes your past experiences come back to haunt you especially if you KNOW what women are capable of.

[@orishaphotos481]

Wtf. You're a terrible human.

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

@@orishaphotos481 that's what I said. I hope she leaves and finds better too

[@youtubefans510]

you cannnot change the past let it go it was the old you men and women cheat for casual sex even when they love you opinions of other youtubers : You people are awful for shaming her. I've been in a non monogamous relationship for as long as I can remember. Guess what? I love my partner more than anything in this world. You have to know that monogamy is a construct created only by society. You people say "You've never experienced love so strong it blows those argument out of the water" but I know that is false. It actually sounds more like your personal insecurity boiling to the surface. You haven't come to terms with the fact that you don't own somebody. Monogamy is based on possession. This is why you see SOOO much relationship trauma around cheating. Because monogamy is setup for failure from the start. Its a bunch of predefined set of rules setup by society. You say its "natural" but it isn't. Monogamy is fairly recent in the grand scale of human existence. No other species on earth follows this pattern.. So no its not "natural." Once you have the emotional will power to conquer jealousy & insecurity I can tell you happiness awaits you on the other side. Both men and women cheat. And they cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because they want sexual adventure. Women cheat because they want emotional satisfaction. Its funny how we are taught that love is going to the end of the earth to make someone happy. So why do we stop at our own insecurities, but not at the end of the earth? Hypocrisy... If your scared of loosing your partner then was your partner truly the one? If your so sure they are the one then no insecurities would exist. The probability of cheating in monogamy is high. Most of the times the relationship becomes a lie and lose it's complete meaning, because of the imposed restrictions and limitations. THAT’S A REAL RELATIONSHIP!! This is why monogamy fails! Ppl are in DENIAL about this FACT! You will ALWAYS BE ATTRACTED TO OTHER PEOPLE! The only thing you cheat is YOURSELF when y’all don’t accept the fact that ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE OPEN! Procreation is such a bioloigical drive that only few people can resist the temaptation to cheat even most women People cheat on who they love all the time. Monogamy is just not a natural thing. Even if you are faithful you still have to fight the urge to cheat.

[@sukida2010]

I really thought that this was about cheating in school-

[@EverythingLydia]

Hahahahaha. Not Quite!

[@sukida2010]

@@EverythingLydia true, but nice video always!