The Cookie Monster KILLER: Harrison Frank Graham | Mystery & Makeup | Bailey Sarian

[@BrookHarrr-su6tu]

NOOOO BECAUSE WHEN HE ASKED THE JUDGE FOR HIS COOKIE MONSTER DOLL BACK THAT ACTUALLY BROKE MY HEART

[@jb1996]

the idea of marty happily playing with the neighbourhood kids made me cry. it’s hard not to feel bad for him.

[@TheDivineFemedianTarot]

I agree. Nobody cared about him as a person and just let him slip into darkness. I feel bad for the victims too. Nobody wins here

[@lillianstimpson6610]

@@TheDivineFemedianTarotabsolutely nobody wins. It’s such a sad story 😢

[@FarmerClaireHoneyclaw]

Nah.

[@AnarchyKurtz]

@@FarmerClaireHoneyclaw what do you mean

[@PretendBlonde-li2ky]

@@AnarchyKurtz like it’s not hard to feel bad, they don’t care

[@MeganMorgan]

ONE HOUR LONG VIDEO…? This is a dream come true ✨

[@ginacheselka6086]

YASSSS

[@carmen.wakiliwakili3702]

Fr ❤❤

[@saraschneider6781]

Most of MM&M are close to an hour as are Dark History.

[@kimgordonstudio]

Seriously! Love her. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@jenniferserena8462]

@@ginacheselka6086 I’m so happy

[@kayduncan2904]

I am really really glad that the judge let him have his Cookie Monster doll- that was the one thing in this story that restored my faith in humanity a little bit

[@melindasnyder5974]

This one was so sad on so many levels. The fact that nobody looked for the missing victims is heartbreaking, but so is Marty’s situation. Many folks in this story needed help at some point in their lives that they definitely never got 😢

[@sybildisobedience9969]

It’s usually an addict who gets cut off from the family and their situation gets worse from there. I’m not a big fan of tough love because I think we exile our family members too often when we should keep those lines of communication open for them to at least check in. But I get it, it’s hard to constantly deal with them, in and out of rehabs, often stealing from their families, and watching someone you care about turn into a shell, and if you have kids do you let your kids be exposed to that? I don’t know the answer. I’m just commiserating 😢

[@tegueggu]

@@sybildisobedience9969as someone who’s dealt with that exact situation, no contact is sometimes the best for both parties. Their behavior can be toxic or dangerous(or both)and keeping that around children often scares them.

[@m.daniels]

✨️✨️SPOILER✨️✨️ The fact that Bailey COULD have edited out falling out of the chair, but DIDN'T. I love her sm 💜

[@75JayLady]

honestly, I needed that moment.

[@allyolson2991]

We love a clumsy queen 👸🏼

[@Solènelamigonnelicorne]

​​@@75JayLady tatie bailey elle fait des recherches sur internet pour nous permettre de visionner ces vidéos de plus en plus instruites et envoûtantes a chaque fois c'est une nouvelle découverte très enrichissante en plus elle explique bien l'histoire elle transmet le savoir d'une manière commode et surtout légère 😊😊🦄

[@JartinVartinJlackwood]

I love lilys little reply in the corner too😂 it’s so cute to see an editors interaction

[@dustin628]

Ikr I love how she can't pronounce words it's so sweet and I hope they don't ever edit those out either

[@bec7080]

Isn't it crazy how many of the people who hurt other people could have potentially been normal people if we had actual support systems in this country.

[@crusher8789]

Too many systems fail too many children.

[@zydrat3.anat0my]

It's disgusting how many people are failed because there is no support for them.

[@daudujosie315]

was literally just thinking this

[@karissavanrensburg5732]

@@zydrat3.anat0my Oi. I I Oi I. H I I. H i h i I I I

[@KatieDeGo]

Even Jeffrey Dahmer said if someone would've reached out to him at some point it may have been different. For the victims first especially and also him ofc

[@mackenaredlum1878]

In terms of “faking a disorder”, a friend of mine put this into perspective. If someone is faking a disorder then obviously there is something else wrong so either way, they are mentally ill and need attention and support

[@danielakyriakou1]

Well said Respect for your words👌🔥

[@itsumemario044]

Exactly!!

[@oPeRa1923]

😊

[@Fifenfurter]

I feel like it's not as cut and dry as that. There are people who have serious disorders who are trying to get help. We are already fighting tooth and nail to get people to care/believe us and to afford it. Then there are the people who lie and deceive others throughout this process. Speaking from experience, it usually comes with other nasty behaviors. These people need help too but I hope people remember that just because someone has a problem doesn't mean they have any right under the sun to be actively abusive to someone who cares. There's a difference between people who want to help themselves and people who don't and I feel like that is where one of the big lines needs to be drawn.

[@desm0nd_tmb444]

@@Fifenfurter Very real. Yes the people who mimic disorders for attention need help and/or have issues, but there genuinely are people who crave attention in a way where they feel they need to appear unwell for that feeling of support and lack of accountability for their actions, and not because they are severely unwell.

[@CMehltretter]

I’m so glad you kept the chair thing in there. I’m giving a donation just for that!

[@vicentesolis7315]

@21:28

[@jessicam5226]

The hazardous chair? 😂

[@ina2691]

It breaks my heart that these women went missing and no one even noticed. They deserved to be cared for and loved 🥺

[@Ajcarter95]

@BarbieBizarreelike lego.

[@aneishaward7875]

I could not imagine being born and dying by someones hand and not a single soul on earth knowing or caring about my existence/disappearance. That is so heartwrenching. RIP, Robin 🕊

[@quirkyquips9915]

This is my greatest fear at this point in my life...even if I just die.

[@Seamonkey555]

It happens far too often. We must do better.

[@kathernandez6682]

Very very sad and happens a lot I’m sure 😢

[@bieberfever793ha7]

RIP to all victims. They all seemed to meet similar tragic fates.

[@maeviss-6823]

Or maybe your just 2Too2 blonde, Karen🫰

[@vanessamarie5956]

This is such a tragic story. Marty’s tragic life turned into him making tragedy for others. The whole situation is heartbreaking for everyone. Marty needed help and these women deserved better 💔

[@mimiradin5764]

And it all started with a pregnant teen!

[@mimiradin5764]

This is what happens when a teen age kid gets pregnant with no resources and out of wedlock without any regard for how human life is conceived and with no concept of what life truly entails. Soo sad

[@haileydalton6117]

@@mimiradin5764 which is exactly why women’s health care is important and things like birth control and access to abortions shouldn’t be taken away! I don’t think it has anything to do with being born out of wedlock and i don’t blame the mother for having a kid young. We need to build a better system to help support these kids. foster care and cps rarely provide the help the kids need and it is very unfortunate.

[@carolgeorgeson9632]

​@@haileydalton6117in den nächsten Wochen 😮😮😮😮😮

[@hales_bells]

I literally wanna be bailey’s bestie. The way she has full convos with herself and asks us legit questions through KZbin as if she can hear us answer 😂

[@vijayata1]

I can’t count the number of times I nay nay to her questions 😂

[@I.Grow.Multiples]

😂 me too

[@loopieboothy13]

Me too 😁 💜

[@crisspyg.9742]

Wait, she can’t hear me?? 😢 lol I totally agree! She’s taught me so much over the last couple years!

[@tmarie023]

Lol she probably can hear us❤

[@NicoleMcGuey]

You literally falling off the chair telling us about $90/month rent had me dying laughing lol ❤

[@Judahtisdale]

I cried so much after that i had to stop the video

[@aprilwiggins81]

I started yelling at her

[@Lovescoffeeandbooks]

Same here, she is so awesome 🤣💕

[@kimmilu8057]

I'm dying😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@baileycreswell]

COULD YOU IMAGINE?!? 😂

[@Cove_Blue]

I genuinely feel so bad for everyone in this case.

[@emcohnway]

DID is developed in early childhood, and that's why DID systems usually have non-human alters or very powerful personalities because a child's mind is like "I would have an easier time if I was XYZ" Yes, you can develop alters later, or only learn that you have DID later, but the core disorder is developed in childhood.

[@jamiefloyd5711]

Exactly! Not to mention Introjects. I wonder what would have happened if there had more information on DID in the 70s and 80s.

[@penelopeanne79]

Also, the "observer" , in this case Marty, where the person with DID is able to see, but not control, what the other personalities are doing, which can be horrific.

[@AllyAsphyxia]

Thank you all for this info! So many people don’t understand how this disorder works.

[@Murdermagictricks]

Yeah and manifests in teen or early adulthood

[@Togdurtha]

As a diagnosed and extensively studied DID System, I appreciate you not only making an an effort to shed light on it. But also for having your information spot on as well! So many people just be out here bullshitting as hard as they can. Which in turn causes harm both big and small. So thank you!

[@caralove93]

Bailey’s uploads are the only thing that really make Monday somewhat tolerable

[@modupebabatope-samuel9587]

I agree ❤❤

[@jennahamaliuk6071]

Right? When she takes her Monday off every 3 weeks it kills me but I know she needs the break from it 😭

[@AsmrAshley-f5f]

I agree! Mondays are always my worst days but she makes them better!

[@libbyelwick8814]

Amen ❤

[@Diamonds100]

Facts💯

[@ronnie9456]

Bailey is the only person that can tell a story in such an engaging way that I could literally listen to her for hours on end (and I do🤣). Really happy for how well she’s doing and how far she’s come! We love you girl, thank you for another episode! ❤️

[@Cobra_al]

Exactly, she’s sooo charismatic and funny, this is really a talent

[@fcisco3568]

I agreeee! I've come across other ones but Bailey is definitely...the OG!haha Love her!

[@Lottaria555]

Absolutely! And she does it in a way that’s not disrespectful towards the victims :)

[@Ashtonsmom]

I agree!! It's how I clean my house!

[@SarahLangford-xe3lf]

Hey guys

[@lizzykayOT7]

The descriptions of Marty's childhood and the conditions in which he grew up and lived is just really sad. It's sometimes hard to imagine what humans can live through.

[@valentineowens1284]

I love true crimes where the person telling the story humanize the person while telling the story of what happened because human beings are more complex than just the thing they did

[@lisan1819]

I think this is one of the most heart breaking stories. It gave me chills.

[@hallievanoutryve3109]

Yes, just all around, most of all for the victims, of course, but also for Marty. Bc he not only had intellectual disabilities,he had legit mentally illness. He likely wouldn’t have killed if he had access to treatment and didn’t face homophobia in his religion and in his everyday life .

[@Mi-gs7xg]

​@@hallievanoutryve3109 word

[@lady_k5588]

I love how Bailey has conversations with herself. Bailey: "Don't cry, it's only makeup it washes off" Also Bailey: "I know, but like come on!!" I do the exact same thing ALL. THE. TIME. Love ya girl! ❤💕

[@kathernandez6682]

Me too lol

[@Tru3BratsLife]

Right when I read this she started saying it😂 Perfect timing!!!!

[@jaydinelee7181]

It really made me feel normal lol

[@sunnyadams5842]

I do the same. If I didn't coach myself, I'd fall off the rails.! Who needs a therapist when I and me can work it out together?! Ooops!! She fell off her chair right there!!!! Too much!! Love you, Bailey❤

[@emilie9237]

I'm sad for everyone in this story: for marty cause he's been abused as a child and forseken by society, for his mom who had the strength to turn him to the police and, of course, for every single woman killed by him and not searched by anyone 😞

[@monicareed2602]

Yesssssss. All of this probably could have been avoided if evil people would not have taken advantage of and abused him horribly as a kid. All the people who did him wrong as a kid and messed him up mentally needs to be in prison as well.

[@annalinneajohansson]

Well said Emilie.

[@angelang222]

Absolutely agree!

[@dorothydodson9266]

As a person with diagnosed DID, I can tell you that it is possible to like see what your alter is doing but not be able to do anything about it. This has happened to me several times. DID is still very misunderstood.

[@vykepp5709]

Sorry if this comes across as rude but when that happens is it just like spectating your alters actions from the inside? Like do you see it the same way physically but you and your alter are mentally comprehending very different things? Sorry if this doesn't make sense I'm bad with words.

[@emmacaldwell6276]

@@vykepp5709there is actually a KZbinr called dissociaDID who explains is very great detail, I think they said it was like co piloting. One alter is upfront and the other is on the side and can even talk to the alter. I’m pretty sure they can harm each-other too

[@chloestarr7768]

same ❤ I paused the video just to see if anyone else was diagnosed with it. hope you are well friend

[@PyroWolfofEarth]

​@vykepp5709 Think of it as one person driving and the other person is the passenger. The driver is in control of the body, and the passenger can interact with the driver, but not do anything else.

[@raqueystrange791]

Asking because I’m torn but I don’t think I have much of a say if I don’t know what it’s like

[@graiernyfreelan169]

WHOS BEEN HERE FOR OVER 2 YEARS?❤

[@aprilpotter3054]

👋❤ Bailey

[@danicegewiss862]

Me!🖐️

[@toriebenefiel2247]

🖐

[@Scorpioprincess99]

Since 2019! 🩷🩷🩷

[@amysergenson482]

✋🏻

[@bamaQT99]

I love it when Bailey says “I just want to be pretty!” GIRL! You are beautiful! Without and with makeup!

[@elliedaniels665]

The fact that one of the things he runs away with is his Cookie Monster doll break my heart 😢❤ the man clearly had a lot of issues before, product of his environment maybe 🤔 kinda gives me an essence of Lenny from of mice and men :(

[@vicxxo_]

Yess I was thinking that too! It’s sad honestly.

[@tacobell1299]

This! This story definitely reminds me of Mice and Men!

[@justkiddin84]

But we must remember they both killed people.

[@rachelhollobaugh962]

Dude I was definitely thinking the same thing 🥺

[@gachaluna2708]

I've always said the way you're raised and what you go through does affect you permanently. Luckily most of us eventually drag ourselves up and figure it out. Sadly many can't.

[@tracysteagall8500]

This is exactly the place he should be because he takes his meds daily and he is living a positive life with no danger to people.

[@ashlynnbarber5433]

But imagine if he had received that care much earlier on. That's what is tragic. Less people would be dead.

[@mogwai247]

So on the part where he said he blacked out but still had some memories of defiling the corpses- there’s this thing called co-fronting where two personalities are at the front together. Like one is in control of the body and the other is basically looking over their shoulder. So he could have had no control over what was happening with Frank but still been able to be close to the front as Marty.

[@mariatheis209]

I can confirm this is true. I called it sharing the eyes. It would have been a way to traumatize Marty at the same time. Or it could be Frank is not able to keep the others at bay. I doubt the second one though, likely wanted to traumatize everyone

[@socialmediamanagement1859]

Can you point me where i can find more reliable info on this subject? Thank you!

[@keirasiobhan]

@@socialmediamanagement1859 there's a channel called dissociaDID with videos explaining all about DID

[@gavin0308]

@@keirasiobhan are they still a reliable channel to run to for information? there's quite a bit of controversy there, character-wise, i believe

[@keirasiobhan]

@@gavin0308 I don't watch their channel regularly so I don't really know of the controversy going on around them. From the videos I have watched they seem to be informative. They can and do only talk about their own experiences but just that helped me understand this disorder better

[@emmaleebad4455]

“I guess Marty was short for Harrison” 😭😭😭😭 iconic

[@Kryptongurl84]

Hearing about Robin made me sad; nobody seemed to care that she was missing or dead.

[@dawnnromero7289]

I agree. Poor Robin.☹

[@wonderland4515]

No one seemed to care for ANY of the victims which is not at all surprising considering it was the 70s and all the victims were women of colour and using substances.

[@AnotherTaco.YesPlease]

This was a worry when I moved to NYC for work. No family there, great acquaintances that are long times friends now. I remember thinking if I died at home no one would know or come looking for me. Mummified and icky.

[@michellehull5240]

Even for like. Any race. (Not saying it isn't worse for minorities because I know it is) I used to talk to my brother everyday, he went missing 6 years ago, ended up on the streets, and then just gone, and they won't even put out a missing person's report. So it's literally just me going off of leads, and after 2020, no one has scene him at all, and I am very much the only one that cares. This country just doesn't care about its people and its so sad.

[@AnotherTaco.YesPlease]

@@michellehull5240 So sorry darling. It is the way it is. Horrible.

[@a.evelyn5498]

When Marty got his own place & he was playing with the neighborhood kids, he would only have been 17 or 18 (as you said in 1971 he was 12). He wasn’t that much older, & he had developmental issues, so he indeed would have more closely related to younger children. It’s not all ways creepy. I wish the story also ended there happily.

[@pixi3gee]

And Bailey's chair drama continues, but now the chair is fighting back 🤣

[@KelseyDrummer]

Haha it's true!

[@mizzpicklezz]

Chair: 1 Bailey: 0

[@jan-oh3zb]

Isn't it chair 2 Bailey 0 😂😂😂😂

[@zoeyds]

Bailey falling out of the chair has legit made my day 😅 21:34

[@kittymama6317]

That was so funny!

[@leslymcdevitt7230]

I was laughing out loud and had to watch it twice.😂

[@Stephanie_Ella]

🤣

[@kittymama6317]

Thank you for putting a timestamp so I can rewatch it lol.

[@KeithBryantOfficial]

Same😂

[@anniesaylor4446]

Can you do a story on Mary Ann Cotton? She poisoned 11 out of 13 of her children, all her husbands, a friend, most of her lovers, and her mother! She had a few affairs in there as well. She was prego when she was finally arrested, so after she had the baby, they executed her! I would LOVE to hear your take on her story 😊

[@sanyuuri1510]

I need to know this story now

[@shantayajones5988]

Yes this is interesting Bailey please cover this 🙏🏾

[@ericascarberry4951]

Please

[@DestinyGPlus3]

Bailey cover this one!

[@alexktm699]

that's wild

[@atrilahera7268]

Ive actually read a lot on DID during nursing school and know that sometimes people with this disorder can have multiple personalities"present" at one time so it does make sense if he has some memories of the events.

[@Togdurtha]

Yep! Co-Conscious: multiple alters being aware or "awake", but only 1 alter being in charge at a time. Or in less often happenings, multiples observing, while the body is on autopilot And Co-Fronting: Multiple alters being aware or "awake" at 1 time and each taking turns and/or collaborating when it comes to operating the body

[@tinashort9098]

My granny was diagnosed with DID after she shot herself between the eyes. She told my Mom that she killed "her" and she wouldn't be coming back to bother anybody. She spent the next 2 years in an asylum until the bullet that couldn't be removed worked it's way through her brain and reached the part that controlled her heart and she died. Completely normal. In her mind, she had killed her evil personality.

[@KPbouj]

I’m not a hugger but I want to hug you for sharing that. I hope you can find some comfort and strength to carry on from something like that.

[@christenm3200]

This is so sad. I'm sorry. I hope she's found peace now.

[@gachaluna2708]

That's terrible 😢

[@sarachristman6014]

This is so sad! But yet, I'm not surprised by it at all... Your poor granny. I feel awful for those that deal with this.

[@leetalley1963]

I'm terribly sorry to hear that. I hope more people can get help before it's too late.

[@vijayata1]

Bailey doesn’t lie - She was literally shooketh by the 90$/month rent 😂😂😂

[@katsneed7623]

😂😂😂

[@rachaelhume1818]

Exactly! Shooketh off of the chair!

[@nicolewalker6894]

My $2200/month could never. 😂 I would also fall off my chair if someone told me rent was that cheap, lol!

[@gracealonso275]

I paid $90 a month rent in 1984-86. It was in rural Illinois

[@sueplummer6669]

I'm paying the smallest rent I've ever paid. I'm 70 and living in senior housing. Rent is $212.00/month. I'm loving my life.

[@symbatine]

As someone who was diagnosed DID in the past several years, this one hit me hard. Thank you for taking the time to explain what DID is. Not everyone takes the time to learn more, so from the bottom of my hearts: thank you Bailey.

[@jazzyjs]

Thank you for being open about it. I pray that you have the positive support system you need at all times. 🙏🏽❤️

[@ArwenNMyrtlesMom]

You didn't ask for this, sweetie. I truly hope that you are in a safe place now.

[@bbyghoulcy]

i got diagnosed lately after i turned 18 so kinda recently i dont rlly talk ab it but i appreciated it too but tbh im not quite sure if he specifically had did , it was kinda far back maybe another dissociate disorder like one of the osdd idk much ab them but she mentioned how he stated he was finally "just marty" but earler she also explained it cant go away but u can go to therapy.

[@rozaliaimp]

@@bbyghoulcy DID isn't real. If you got diagnosed with it please get second opinion. Watch memory wars by matt orchard.

[@claire42778]

"If someone's hurting, why don't you believe them?" danggg that hit deep

[@BeccaLynn98]

I can’t imagine how he got all these people to willingly hang out/get freaky in his apartment that had literal 💩 everywhere… 😭

[@brittanywhite334]

Addiction is cunning and will get people into unthinkable situations just to get their fix🤷🏻‍♀️

[@switzer_no_switzing]

​@@brittanywhite334 So true 😢

[@HoneyBee-br6hi]

People have done worse to get their fix unfortunately!

[@AirQuotes]

Noo I haven't gotten to this part yet, and I'm eating lunch, which seems to have been a mistake

[@kirstinhinton2646]

😮 I didn’t even think about it that way 🤢

[@saracollette-iu3ei]

I can see as a mom, whose child went into psychosis in first grade, it is like pulling teeth to try to get help. When I would bring him to the hospital when he was in psychosis, the doctors didn’t believe me, even though my son was saying that he could read his thoughts. And they just told me he’s an eccentric child. When my son was drawing pictures with a knife up against his throat, it wasn’t a big deal. It got to the point where I had to bring the social worker from his school to the hospital with me to make the doctors listen. I wasn’t bringing my son to the hospital for care because I was going to be bored for the next 12 hours. Thank goodness in the end we got the help but I feel for any parent that goes through it. It is a minefield. My advice do what I did when you can’t get in the front door kick in the back because your kid needs help and there is no shame in it!

[@Catglittercrafts]

that must’ve been hard. How’s he doing now?

[@saracollette-iu3ei]

@@Catglittercrafts he’s doing fantastic! He graduated from high school. He has a therapist that he speaks to on the regular and he got his dream job and he’s only 19.

[@KathyMpamugo]

🫶🥰🇨🇦😘😍❤️♥️💕 much love to you

[@harleykostanesky860]

much love to you momma!

[@jennajune2101]

@@saracollette-iu3ei that’s amazing & wonderful to hear!

[@gemmaspalding276]

Stories like this really make me want to become a foster parent. I'm a little scared to start as I don't wanna let anyone down or fail them 😔

[@jazcc]

I too have been thinking about it. We have a son but we also said that we could adopt or foster. The system makes things so difficult sometimes.

[@stargatis]

There’s a huge need for foster parents. People who care about kids are rare❤

[@VeeMarieS]

I worked with at risk youth my entire professional career. I’d say to read a lot of books to prepare and educate yourself on some of the traumatic experiences some of these kids go through so you know how to handle it. It’s great if you decide to foster. They always need kind hearted support from great parents that are willing to be there for them.

[@alyssabell3002]

Girl the fact that you care about failing them means that you would probably be a wonderful one. So so many kids need someone to love them!!!

[@GiornoIsYourDaddy]

Me too! I have a medically complex kiddo & it’s really made me want to foster kiddos with medical complexities or diagnoses that require experience with things like g-tubes, oxygen, etc etc. I know sometimes kiddos with a lot of medical problems need specialized loving care too and I would love to be able to provide that safe place for those kiddos. It’s just something so important to me & advocating for the best and right care for my own children and I’d do it happily for any other kiddo. 💕 I know I need to wait until my children are older and my sons medical needs have gotten less, but I really want to look into it later in the future.

[@teiganm5346]

That $90 a month rent got Bailey on the floor 😂😂

[@littlbodybigtears]

like literally..on the floor.

[@elizabethwoodruff9640]

I actually snorted 😅😂

[@shannon8461]

DID caused by severe trauma, usually in childhood, is a really sad thing to watch a person go through. The personalities usually will include a “scared child” and “abuser”. Also can have personalities that could handle different parts of life. The problem being no control over which will come out at any given time, and if it’s the one that can cope in the current situation. And the fallout on those around the DID person is tragic as well. Constantly on edge, never knowing who they are dealing with one moment to the next. Just deeply sad all the way around.

[@maryeckel9682]

I can't see that Marty had an effective protector, either. Poor guy.

[@maryeckel9682]

​@Mrs_BaileySarian..she ain't married, bot

[@Roziereds]

It seems like they take the roles in the "victim triangle", Persecuter, Victim, Hero

[@kieistiny9862]

I wouldn’t say it’s tragic too be around someone with DID? I’ve been diagnosed with it for almost two years now, and it’s not tragic for anyone around me who knows I have DID, as long as they actually educate themselves on it and get too know the other alters in my system. Also, alters don’t usually include and “Abuser”. What your referring too would be a prosecutor, who by the way are more often than not deeply misunderstood, and often hold large amounts of the childhood trauma and just don’t know how to cope with it as they where never taught. (I hope this doesn’t come off as rude, honestly just trying to explain my side of it)

[@stitchedfreedom]

​@@kieistiny9862that's insightful, thank you for sharing

[@marissapadilla8161]

This one left me really sad tho 😢! He could have been saved if he had the right treatment and in turn, the women as well! Also thank you Bailey for showing us how human you are and leaving in the chair fall 😂🫶!

[@jenniferharper5920]

“I just want to be pretty and I can’t get this to blend”…I felt that in my soul. There is nothing more aggravating than when you can’t get your makeup to blend.😭

[@maryeckel9682]

A lot of makeup doesn't seem to be tested on real people with skin and pores.

[@flowersofantimony]

@@maryeckel9682 I've found that THAT kind of makeup works if you put down like...putty style primer. But it ends up cakey and gross anyway so. Yeah, it's so bad.

[@samanthaminaya7410]

Deadass, all the effort and sometimes it's just not doing the thing. Doesn't give what it needs to give. I will say tho, elf primer and OneSizes blurring beauty balm works magic for my dry skin.

[@sadiyasaleh233]

@jenniferharper5920 Right! really discussing makeup in a video where real people are killed.

[@laurelkramm5400]

People can say what they want about baileys videos but because of these I’m so much more aware of my surroundings and red flags in people. Shout out to you Bailey! I’ve avoided so many bad situations because of the knowledge I’ve gained from your videos!

[@seleciaa]

This is tragic. He was failed by society and became a menace because of it.

[@foreverwild9298]

It happens more than we realize

[@Lenka18s]

Stories like these are the hardest because your heart breaks for the murderer's child/abused part but it also breaks for the victims. True true villain is the system in such cases.

[@MsKellychick]

Falling out of the chair is my new favorite Bailey moment 😂

[@kristin5708]

When did this happen? I'm hoping I didn't miss it 😂

[@MsKellychick]

@@kristin5708 21:34

[@maryeckel9682]

"Bailey Sarian Greatest Moments" top three! The swearing made it even better.

[@nateortiz4467]

Same

[@sailorcheri]

It’s the giggle that got me 😝❤

[@monicauribe5236]

Thanks for giving me the mom break that I need by posting this Bailey !! We love you ❤

[@monicauribe5236]

By the way the part you fall out of the chair ! Made my day lol 😆 you’re so funny

[@Ashtonsmom]

Yes mama! My mom break too!!

[@kierranichole683]

Mine too! I look forward to my mom break with Bailey every Monday ☺️

[@aherrera5196]

And it’s 1 whole hour

[@monicauribe5236]

@@aherrera5196 I know for a mom it gets divided into 4 episodes lol

[@nicolinaosullivan6712]

I ADORE the way you communicate these types of stories. Laying down the groundwork to empathize the unimaginable. Its truly a gift. Being able to relay these horrific stories with resecpt & understanding that noone & nothing is just black & white. ❤

[@ToyboxTrash]

We totally need Merch with “$90 rent?!” And a mini cartoon Bailey falling off a chair 😂😂😂

[@gwendolynjordan1846]

I need this in my life.

[@sheikhalfihri]

TAKE. MY. MONEY!!!!!

[@ashnorton4465]

“$90 rent‽”

[@DelsssChannel]

Dude I’m sooo with it!!!💀

[@courtneyhernandez7268]

Yesssssssssss

[@kerricoakley1788]

THANK YOU for leaving the falling off the chair part in. I’ve been going through a really rough patch and have been crying all the time. Seeing that made me laugh for the first time in a while. I love you Bailey!

[@KelseyDrummer]

I just went through a similar patch. It slowly gets better. Slowly! Hang in there friend.❤

[@kerricoakley1788]

Thank you for that ❤️

[@I.Grow.Multiples]

You're not alone ❤

[@sbuttonblossom9286]

It will pass my sweet. It feels like it won’t but it will. Hang in there x

[@heatherhiggins2002]

I'm so sorry for whatever you are going through. Just try to keep moving forward one step at a time. Some days will be better than others, but I hope it gets better soon.

[@allie_xoxo7910]

This is one of those stories where someone is truly a victim and ends up the perpetrator. You can't help but feel heartbroken because you just know that things could have turned out better for them if someone really and properly loved and cared for them. DID is a horrible illness. Remember that this story does not mean that alters are deadly and dangerous - but if a system doesn't have proper help and support, things can get really out of hand and implode/explode.

[@gracehayden8264]

this comment!!

[@chloestarr7768]

I’m diagnosed with DID and plenty of other disorders (my dad is the same just undiagnosed). I’m very similar to him but I’m not violent or mean at all, just out of sorts and don’t remember some days when I’m not there. I can usually tell when things are about to about to change and will call someone close to me to help. DID isn’t fun but it doesn’t mean you’re horrible and it’s not a death sentence.

[@ThirrinDiamond]

Did is not a horrible illness, it's just that in every group, a small minority of people will be horrible people, just like in fully "normal" people there are still horrible people among them

[@chrisbee8443]

Thank you for covering this. My aunt was Cynthia… my mother never got over it, she has 2 daughters she left behind

[@ferisera]

"Life was not setting Marty up for success." Oof. What a sad series of stacking failures that ended up hurting so many lives!

[@kimmccracken5519]

As I watch some of these I feel my heart breaking for the person. They do horrible things but my heart breaks for the children they were. So many had absolutely horrible childhoods. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying it’s ok what they did but I can’t imagine how messed up their brains would be.

[@meowmachine9147]

Absolutely. We can feel for the child but still not condone their actions as adults.

[@kimmccracken5519]

@@meowmachine9147 thank you! I’m so glad I’m not the only one that feels that way.

[@kristinatodorovic2398]

@@kimmccracken5519 not at all, I feel the same way

[@HealingWithShannaJ]

"$90.00 for rent!?Could you imagine" (Bailey falls from her chair.) 😂 I love her so much.

[@AllyAsphyxia]

As someone with DID, thank you so much for explaining it without the whole “media scariness” of it. It’s how we survived awful childhood trauma. It’s not as scary as movies have portrayed us. Thank you ❤❤

[@Togdurtha]

As a fellow system myself, I too really appreciated her approach to describing it🙌🏻

[@symbatine]

Fellow system here. We were very happy at how she explained it. It is a very difficult thing to comprehend, and she did so well! Media gives us all a bad rap, it stinks.

[@shiro-vo9ip]

Bailey is my bedtime story teller. I sleep listening to her every night.

[@I.Grow.Multiples]

U guys are so lucky for that!

[@SharonSturnfield]

Saaaaame

[@cathdl]

Same

[@lizshaynapunimbee7632]

Same

[@mayaleyva9467]

Literally same. It started during the pandemic and I still sleep to her almost every night

[@jasminesoulard1133]

I was in the foster care system.. i can confirm this. Me and my sister were severly abused and neglected and starved, we ended up getting an emergency move (after a year), and she was banned for life for fostering or caring for kids amd the vulnerable.

[@auroramorris9741]

She shouldn't just be band! People like her should thrown in jail for 25+ yrs!!🤬🤬🤬. My dad's ex-wife was the foster parent for many many years. She was one of the best. Even after these kids are grown adults in their 40s with kids of their own. They still call her mom. All of them. But sadly, from every other person I’ve ever known to be in foster care has nothing but horror stories to tell me. And to treat children anything but positive should be taken off the streets

[@jermidahgreenfield1608]

😢

[@thedepthsofrepair]

May you succeed on your journey beyond such horror. No one should have that as part of their story.

[@brandiruble2987]

@@thedepthsofrepair I agree with you and love the kindness shared here.

[@brandiruble2987]

thank you for sharing your story wiht us. Please know you did not do anything wrong as child ot be treated like that.

[@mahelaniarektbb]

Bailey shook right out her chair. And I love you for having the editor keep it in.

[@ghostofpolaris]

As a DID System, we really appreciate you for the information and solidarity and yearning to clear up old information that needed updating. It is so so reassuring!

[@TR3X.444]

My grandmother lived around the corner from this guy, he was friends with my great uncle and sat in their living room. At first I was a little skeptical because I never saw anything about him before but now im even more cautious in a neighborhood that I grew up in all my life. This is a wake up call be careful out here guys

[@staceykucan3686]

Many who disassociate just lose time. They are not driving the bus. They are not sitting in the back of the bus seeing what’s going on. They are just sleeping through the whole trip. This is different than DID.

[@janehand1682]

Yay!! Bailey; always making Mondays a better place 🖤

[@Person-jn8pf]

Yes!!! I almost forgot and I saw my notification and it always makes me so happy 🥹😭😂♥️

[@GothicUndone]

Bailey falling off her chair, and her awesome reaction😂 was definitely ICONIC 😂❤

[@QueenAnarchy401]

Thank you for bringing awareness to the fact that some people really do think people with DID are faking it. I was diagnosed a few years ago, and my mom thought I was faking it for attention. You're right, Bailey. If people are hurting, why don't people believe them. Because sometimes it's the ones who caused the pain that don't bother trying to understand.

[@hbradley1996]

WAIT! At the age of 66 does Marty still have his Cookie Monster plushie? I know that may not matter or seem silly, but the fact that helped him through the years for so long has me wonder. That tugged on my heart a little 😕

[@Layra9329]

Hopefully not

[@pickasam1]

I was wondering the same and if he kept it I bet it smelled like rotting bodies

[@juliannylantigua3891]

I’m sure he probably couldn’t keep it in jail .. not sure if they would’ve held it for him in that time

[@calilnalan]

Given he's in a special needs unit, he might have a cookie monster plushie but maybe not the original one

[@janetwhite7786]

That's what i was wondering.

[@glambaby21]

My mother has DID, its an incredibly complex disease, and theres been times she would not come back to her normal self and her “personalities” would take her over completely. Its heartbreaking

[@rose13red]

I’m so sorry, that sounds rough 😢

[@ziggyvonmars]

Not all personalities are bad or crazy. Their purpose is to be protective. It would be sad not to have your mother's personality around all the time of course- I definitely 100% agree with you but understanding that they were formed to protect her from incredibly traumatic abuse might make them easier to bear. I hope she has a fantastic treatment team helping you and the family handle life. There's nothing like trying to support someone who has DID. Heartbreaking indeed.

[@glambaby21]

@@ziggyvonmars why are you acting like i dont support her? This has been going on for 20 years I am fully aware of why and how it happened and how to support and handle her.

[@rozaliaimp]

@@ziggyvonmars DID ISNT REAL

[@opalreed8643]

you realize everyone adores you for all you are. You make us feel like we're friends. thank you

[@pittsburghsarah7008]

You falling off the chair is officially my favorite Bailey moment. I really did watch it like 10 times.

[@hannahlikestoread]

i was in foster care when i was a baby until i was about 2 1/2. luckily, i had the best foster parents. i now have been adopted by my parents (not biological) for the past 16 years. i love my parents and i’m incredible thankful for the judge who said my birth mom wasn’t fit to be my mother.

[@mahailiabrown3972]

I was also adopted and though I did had tough parents I understand why they were the way they were and the struggles it is to have your children and another child that has been through things they shouldn't even know about I'm glad I had them and not people who would have continued to put me in danger

[@lockedegirl]

ugh bailey, you were and still are the only one getting me through my rough years. ❤ i love you sm

[@redraven7948]

SAME!! 💜💜💜

[@craigm2484]

Things will improve I dont know how I legit just scroll down and landed here but you and my daughter share the same name different spelling I find this very Cool and Keep pushing onward & upwards you got this . 🙏🏻

[@brandiruble2987]

i relate with you Bailey is great

[@pjsmommason5783]

Unfortunately, people do try to fake DID. But I feel people who do try to fake it are still suffering in one way or another.

[@kristinatodorovic2398]

absolutely, some kind of possible personality disorder maybe borderline (not to get too technical or do a deep dive into psych lol)

[@pjsmommason5783]

@@kristinatodorovic2398 totally agree

[@nikkiisdone]

My ex used it as a way to abuse me. I tried to be supportive for almost two years before I had to call it. He may not have had DID, but he definitely had to be mentally ill to do that to a person.

[@kristinatodorovic2398]

@@nikkiisdone I am so sorry you had to go through that, but I am glad you finally got away, no one deserves to be abused.

[@nikkiisdone]

@@kristinatodorovic2398 Thank you. I never public came out about the root of the control he used, because honestly, being fooled by that was embarrassing. At the very least I feel like I can use that experience to warn others that people will use anything to manipulate you, so don't believe them at your own expense.

[@quirkyblackgirlshow]

This is so heartbreaking. I have a lot of respect for his Mom for doing the right thing.

[@graceabdalla469]

This is one of those stories where I really don’t know how to feel. DID is so real, and he was definitely traumatized, but at the same time he k!lled people. Like how do you reconcile the two?

[@ThirrinDiamond]

You reconcile it by fixing the child care* system so that it can't happen again. What happened should not have happened and would not have happened if we actually took care of every child

[@bethpemberton7980]

Bailey is so entertaining. She tells a story like your best girlfriend giving you the tea. I'm a fan.

[@simplymedieval]

Me too. She is the best!

[@Camomile_]

Not gonna lie, I really needed this today. I haven't slept in over 24 hours because my cat had a medical emergency (she's fine y'all, no worries!) and your videos always lull me into some of the greatest sleeps. Thank you so much Bailey 🙌

[@Sunflowersarepretty]

I hope your cat is doing alright now ❤❤❤. Get some sleep cz your body needs it. I go a day without it and feel horrible. My brain shuts down and it feels like the end of the world for me. I may sound dramatic now but yeah its bad for me. 😊

[@Camomile_]

@@Sunflowersarepretty I managed to get a decent amount of rest! And my cat is doing fine. She's home from the vet now and is resting with me as we speak. Thank you for the kind words and wishes!

[@dianabandicoot]

@@Camomile_happy to hear your cat is okay and you got some rest ❤

[@maryeckel9682]

Paw prayers that kitty is all better.

[@switzer_no_switzing]

So happy your cat is doing ok!

[@nh-wq6sw]

DID is so interesting to me. Truly shows the power of the human mind and nature of reality. The personalities don’t just switch off when they aren’t fronting. They exist within their own pocket realities, sometimes isolated, sometimes shared, and often times prefer to stay there.

[@symbatine]

We have a sort of long hallway with doors, and each door is a room for each part, and common rooms, and a debriefing room. I really think that once we all learn to work together that we'll learn the "mind palace" tricks. 😂

[@brennacastor2990]

Bailey on the struggle bus with eyeshadow that still looks 1000xs better than mine on any given day.

[@starryadventure8922]

I think my worst moment in my career was watching a 12-year-old give birth while her 20-year-old boyfriend was there. I just couldn't comprehend how this world was going backward to this being ok with the parents.

[@TH-wh8ew]

That is disgustingly sick and wrong in every sense of the words... 12 years old is a child !

[@starryadventure8922]

@TH-wh8ew your telling me I couldn't believe the parents they were chilling like nothing was wrong in the situation. I was so excited about labor and delivery I really wanted to be my specialty for nursing. I couldn't do it after this incident. I was so mad I had to walk away a couple of times. How in the world was this ok to anyone. Especially her parents

[@alfonzo7822]

Surely that's not a common thing 😔

[@starryadventure8922]

@@alfonzo7822 you'd be surprised how much younger they're getting

[@sarahr2373]

You reported that to authorities I hope

[@moshroomba]

bailey, i just wanna say how much youve added to my life! im hoping to go into forensic pyschology or chemistry and youve helped me find a love for true crime ❤

[@average_mouse]

16:04 I’d like to make a small correction/clarification: DID can only form during childhood, and the window is pretty narrow (like 6-9 years old), BUT continued trauma into adulthood can exasperate the disorder by creating more alters.

[@IsntThatPrecious420]

Been feeling like checking out for past few days and battling the intrusive thoughts and trying to reach out to my tiny circle but not many people realize how bad it can get because they don't feel it. You have saved me from feeling not alone by sharing your truth. Thank you for bringing attention to the subject and my heart and soul go out to those suffering and those watching the suffering of the ones they love.

[@amelieg246]

It's really hard to explain to someone who's never been in a dark place what it's like. I hope you find peace somehow

[@elizabethgreer27]

I hope you’re doing ok today. You matter and I want you to stay al!ve. ❤

[@ShastaAnn]

@allisongrimes8037: Please do whatever it takes to NOT be alone during these times. Get out, take a walk, go visit a friend, go grocery shopping, find somebody who does understand who you can talk to, ANYTHING to get out of that head space at that moment in time. It's hard, I know, and I wish you all the best in life.

[@SarahNico710]

Can we just talk about how insanely beautiful Bailey is!! Your eye color looks incredible with that makeup ❤❤ Thank you for making mondays special for so many people. Mondays use to be my least favorite day of the week, but for the last 3 years you have made me look foward to them 😊

[@marijas.8712]

I just imagine, how he would lived a normal happy life, with lost of loving people around him if he would have not experienced the abuse as child. It's so extremely sad, I just feel it in my bones. 😔😔😔

[@snackbarqueen]

Bailey falling out of her chair and owning it is why I love her lol 😂 she reminds me so much of myself, I’m such a klutz 😅 thank you for being you Queen B ! p.s. love love love the pretty pink look 🩷

[@katinamanz9094]

With ppl who have D.I.D it's quite common for them to initially blackout when the personality swaps from his base as Marty then to another sometimes they remember everything but in like this dream like memory. Some remember only certain aspects of their time as a different personality and others don't have no recollection of anything done by other personalities. It's quite fascinating to me how the brain can fracture like this.

[@dolleyes1]

Thank you for explaining that.

[@SlothDaan]

​​@LovelyLadyLockswhen did you become an expert on DID. Everyone is different. But also every with DID and their persona's are different. While hearing voice COULD be a sign of schizofrenia, it also could be a psychosis, insomnia, stress, ghosts. Besides this man didn't HEAR voices, he BECAME someone else. That is for certain DID. If you want to be superciliously about something, I would recommend doing more research than watching a single criminal minds episode (wich is also entertainment, they do not depict things accurately). Also him dismembering only Robin, would have nothing to do with DID. It could be that he vagely dreamstate-ish remembered. But also don't forget he was an addict, had an extreme low IQ, and he was a black man. So police would automaticly assume it was him and he knew it. The rest he did not even remotely try to hide.

[@rozaliaimp]

@@SlothDaan DID isnt real

[@AsralNyamdeleg]

Bailey: I wanna cry Also Bailey: Don’t cry! Love you Bailey 💜 I’ve been binge watching your videos for the last 2 years, but this is my first comment I have ever left. 🫶🏻 from Mongolia

[@maryeckel9682]

Hey Mongolia! Beautiful land

[@AsralNyamdeleg]

@@maryeckel9682 Thank you!

[@laurenleroux4161]

Bailey falling off her chair as if it's the most natural thing to happen just shows the human element of this exceptional soul that we all love and care so much about ❤

[@seanedwards1447]

7 year foster care system survivor here. It really is as terrible as people say it is 💔

[@bettyspaghetti1944]

😂😂 Lily, thank you for leaving that part in! I love you Bailey. Keep being you girl!! 🧡

[@julieholcombe7422]

I totally watched Bailey falling out of her chair and giggling 4 times 😂😂😂 She's the cutest! I love when she laughs at inappropriate times...and knows it.😂

[@juliannylantigua3891]

She could’ve edited that out but she’s real and amazing love her

[@sarahmain8734]

Been some heavy content recently, I hope you have been taking the necessary measures to protect your energy and well-being Bailey 🖤

[@taranehahmadi-parker1412]

Thanks

[@221BBakerStreet]

There are so many coincidences in this story for me, it's almost creepy. I'm only a third of the way through and I've learned that Marty and I were born exactly one month apart in the same year (I was born 8th August 1959) both our mothers were named Lillian, both our mothers had five children and my name is Robyn, the same as his girlfriend. Can't wait to see if there are any other similarities.

[@theemiamarie9148]

Wow this is really interesting. Did you find anymore similarities? (I'm so invested now lol)

[@emilynelson9174]

That's spooky!

[@thehappyrecluse]

Interesting coincidences but you should delete this comment since you disclose a lot of information about yourself.

[@eden20111]

@@thehappyreclusewhy would she delete this comment? She’s telling her story and I would have never heard about this intriguing case if it weren’t for her comment.

[@thehappyrecluse]

@eden20111 because you never know who is reading these comments online, and there are people out there who could read her comment with bad intentions. They could use all the information she gave, like her first name, full birthday, number of siblings, and her mother's first name against her. Identity theft and scams are no joke, and though her comment is interesting , it really isn't safe or in her best interests to keep it up.

[@the1nexus164]

Thanks! I wish I could give more, cause you’re program is worth much more than I can afford.

[@kp50065]

I fostered special needs kiddos for 16 yrs and it broke my heart to see the homes they came from, the foster system is so sad. As always excellent content. I had to come back and edit lol I love love that u left in the falling out of a chair 😂. I hope u know how educational ur content has been for me, I love the compassion u bring to each story. Thank u.

[@brittb4195]

I’d LOVE to see Bailey’s search history lol!!!