The Defective Doll (Dysfunctional Relationships) - Teal Swan

[@maria369]

This reminded me of the saying "You should never have to set yourself on fire to keep somebody warm."

[@robertjames9273]

That's a good saying. Where did it come from? Here's one from George Washington, Fire is like government. A good severant but a dangerous master. Swan has some great shows

[@maria369]

robert kokal Yes,she is the best!

[@luckieonline7845]

Oh goodness something crazy happened: I found this quote TODAY, posted it on my facebook, then came to KZbin. I've been putting off watching this particular video for a while now and today I finally decided to watch. After watching it, I scroll down and find that same quote commented. Can we say signs of the universe?!?

[@brianwkinyua]

wow

[@RitaLynn444]

🙏

[@graymayhem2410]

I’m literally named after a doll my mom had as a child. I remember being horrified when I learned the origin of my name, but couldn’t understand why. Now I know this is a core truth of my life. Thank you Teal.

[@loveconquersall7826]

Wow

[@MuseSunflower]

❤️❤️❤️

[@PedroMRDS]

What is your name btw? Curious haha

[@Rosa29]

graymayhem oh my god! :-\

[@impossibledreams6115]

graymayhem im also curious to know what your name is... I hope you find amazing happiness despite your discrepancies and pain!

[@henkverhaeren3759]

To survive the rejection, i unconsciously rejected myself. I hope many people understand Teal and protect children from this horror that makes the world into a living hell

[@e.l.lucychiron]

Henk Verhaeren I feel this. Thank you for being here. 💜

[@henkverhaeren3759]

Thanks for your good vibes Ebony!

[@johnyvanweert6967]

Me too 😔

[@camillabrito72]

Henk Verhaeren thank you sharing. If you don’t mind, could you please share how did you break out of it and if you feel like there was any way a sibling could have helped? I see this pattern on my half brother. I am 12 years older than him (he is 15 now). I want to make him feel safe to be who he is and share his thoughts and feelings with me, just so then I can try and give him the acceptance he didn’t have from our mom and his dad. I’m just lost in how to do it, cause he built himself a big wall.

[@dizayaga9850]

WAq

[@tanucreate]

Thank you for being one of the few people to say that this is actually extremely common

[@thisisit94ify]

I find more often than not, that people have children for the image. An attempt at fitting into societal standards by showing how competent you can be handling children. It's become a competition game, like investing in material objects to prove to others your self-worth. I wish people would thoroughly, consciously think before they have kids and ask themselves: Do I want kids for the sake of raising them with love and freedom to truly perpetuate humanity? or Am I simply having kids to live vicariously through them, molding and sculpting them to be what I always wanted, hindering their own free will and expansion? People need to become conscious before even having children. Should be a law.

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

thisisit94ify 👏

[@Amandahugginkizz]

Human kind would die out if everyone waited until they were concious.....even just being born is traumatic, you cant avoid trama, the entire point of life is to overcome the trauma and still manage to love.

[@thewarrior6784]

@@Amandahugginkizz it's too late for that. We millennials decided to become conscious BEFORE having kids.

[@grapeypear4558]

I think the journey is one that is ongoing. No one will be able to be the perfect parent but there are so many ways to prevent this damage. And even if they started out unconscious and had kids they can always learn the error of their ways, and always make things better if they are willing to do so. And yes in today’s culture we completely disregard the incredible sacrifice that it is to have a child. We take a prenatal vitamin that does nothing thinking it will take care of everything. We send our kids to public school without caring what they’re taught. Your comment reminds me of some of Jordan Peterson’s work, where he talks about how parents are hyper focused on keeping their kids well behaved because it makes them look good to have quiet obedient dolls. It’s incredibly damaging to boys and girls but especially boys

[@mocca2sweet]

@@Amandahugginkizz I think the point of the comment isn't to say not to have children, but to actually take into account the reason you want them before deciding to do it because you think baby outfits are cute. Having kids is a decision you can control and if you don't feel like you're ready, simply don't. There isn't actually any need for every person to have a child anyway, and if someone doesn't want them for whatever reason, that's fine.

[@MuseSunflower]

This is beautiful. 😭 It's how I grew up and it was very painful. I repeated the pattern my whole 27 years of life with relationships and co workers. Treated like an object and not a person. It wasn't until I did inner work that I met a great guy who didn't treat me like that. He held space for me, I was able to open up and reveal myself and yet he didn't reject me. He loved me even more. I've never had that before and it was such an amazing connection to just be seen and accepted for who you are. I'm a little scared to have kids...I don't want them to have to grow up feeling like I did

[@nimanixo]

Fiona Monroe Do not have kids till you are fully healed pleaseeee

[@MuseSunflower]

Betty Boo thank you :) I will continue to work on myself for sure

[@thoushallbefree5387]

Fiona Monroe it’s better not to if you’re afraid

[@MuseSunflower]

Jewel's Box I will keep healing before I consider kids. I wouldn't jump into anything when I don't feel ready

[@thoushallbefree5387]

Fiona Monroe children are innocent and deserve the best upbringing. Our parents/parent just weren’t educated and conscious enough. I never want to harm my children, so I do my best to be conscious of their feelings. I’m older now so I’ve learned a lot.. I feel sorry for children today. You’re smart.👍

[@LateRaven]

These conversations to me are the purpose of life. These types of conversations and the depth of them are so important and make me feel so connected,

[@catdeluxeatday]

VeganChick same.

[@zgwylie]

we should chat

[@yeseniaorozco3463]

My baby could really care less for all the toys he has. All he wants is Mommy and Daddy to play with him. I feel like I need to do better being there with him. Phone down, baby up. This will be my new practice. My mother only wanted me when I listened to her and filled her needs never the other way around. I need to break that cycle and be there to fill my babies needs and love him for who he really is.

[@zgwylie]

thank you for trying

[@ashleysmith6626]

Amen I am breaking the cycle! I am a better parent everyday of the week and twice on Sunday. He hates it! So he is jealous and child like. I was a rebellious teenager the golden child at the time and quit school was back to scapegoat/ mascot I hated the golden child I wasn’t catering to their need vahahaha

[@freelife1121]

👏❣👍

[@Jok3risation]

"Phone down, baby up". I'm glad you were aware of this being part of the problem you identified. I hope that reflection has bode well for you over time and that things are in a better place now, however I am pessimistic that for every person like you who recognises this concept, only hundreds, if not, thousands more parents are not aware of how their phone affects interactivity with themselves and those around them. This is now only emphasized with our current global climate. Keep up the great work and spread this message amongst your parent peers. God bless and all the best

[@Escreality]

... or we are the doll that only gets taken off the shelf to be dressed up and shown off to acquaintances but only for as long as we wear what mommy likes and get straight A's

[@ChildFlowwwer]

Damn.... **takes a hit of that ganja, staring off into the distance**

[@AXharoth]

hey i watch ur channel high 5

[@whitenoise3447]

ChildFlowwwer lmfaoo

[@yeseniaorozco3463]

It's all so true

[@angel-wq6mx]

n

[@lindaanne9403]

It takes a village to raise a child. Very eye opening. Thank you Teal.

[@LateRaven]

I just want to sit in a room with you for a week straight and listen to you speak. I love your videos and the information you provide. Thank you so much.

[@funky_monk_9796]

This video (and Teal's other videos on similar subjects) should have MILLIONS of views.

[@elf3477]

My son came into my life very inconveniently. He stayed in the NICU and underwent several, several surgeries, inconveniently. I had to inconveniently care for him, as his nurse/therapist/mother for two years while he still had severe medical complications. I am so proud of him. He is the most wonderful person. I think my experience with him helped me ignite his autonomy and opened my eyes. I am fortunate to call him my son.

[@ultraultra6726]

When people tell me they love me, i have responded the same way for years... "you don't love me, you love the idea of me..." and i really believe that my response is the most true, and honest response to professed love, EVER!!!

[@veronicahaney7934]

You're just as responsible for the "idea" of you that others form as they are, unless you're showing up taking absolutely no actions whatsoever.

[@karenz1634]

This was my mother's response to her husband in their last years on earth together. She always seemed a troubled person, even from before I knew her, according to her sisters, and her own mother. Even to the day she died, I do not know what she felt she hid to the world and everyone in it. She adopted 3 children, of which I was one. I do not know why, she did not maintain relationship to us as adults.

[@ultraultra6726]

Well, if they love the idea of me that i am in part responsible for creating, then i suppose i am doing something right. I also think that it is possible that when they claim to love me, it is because they are ignoring parts of me that they do not love. Therefore, if they took into account the things about me that they didn't love, and weighed that in their assessment, they might come up with a profession of, "I kinda like you sometimes. "

[@ultraultra6726]

@@karenz1634 i imagine that there was some trauma early on in her life, which made it difficult to invest in seeking out affection from others. This isn't to say that she did not desire their affection. It's more of a passive approach, sort of self deprecating, in that she wouldn't actively pursue the connection she desired, because the vulnerability of revocation would be unbearable. To prevent the pain of someone reasserting their affection to someone else, she would just receive what she could, and then allow them to focus that attention somewhere else. Possibly to not be seen as too demanding, or high maintenance, even if she actually did want more . I'm obviously shooting in the dark with my conjecture, but it seems reasonable to me.

[@karenz1634]

@@ultraultra6726 thanks for your conjecture, I spent many years puzzling myself, but I learn more when considering other perspectives.

[@sarahtaylor6322]

This could literally be about my parents. I've actually had to separate life entirely from both because I started to become painfully aware of the impact their actions were having on both my life and also on how I parented my own children. My mother would get bored of one and favorite another, to the extent she threw me out at 12. My father taught me to think for myself but only if it was in accordance with his line of thought. Both were very emotionally dismissive. But I'm grateful- despite the self hate, despite the inner demons and inability to express 'negative' emotion too freely it has taught me a valuable lesson, exactly how NOT to parent. Children aren't just children - they are just as much individual human beings as adults. Treat them that way, be aware always of the impact a small action now can have on their future. Tell them how loved they are. Guide them. Celebrate their individuality.

[@eclecticd9953]

My perception of my parents changed once I saw them as human beings. My mother once said something pretty awful to me, and my dad resents my existence for not being the son he lost, but I accept and forgive them because it taught me to be more understanding and patient with myself.

[@arianamoxieloving919]

Thank you for speaking with such eloquence to parents and their children who so often must grow-up to heal the wounds their parents didn't know they had and so cluelessly passed on. May your relationship with your son be nurturing and kind, as the one with your parents was not.

[@RUTHLOOKING4BOAZ]

essentially a stranger in our perception is so easy to give up on being a stranger because that is what the world has taught us to perceive them as a stranger but I find strangers are in the most need of love on my path of life's journey

[@youtubeeyy5179]

This platform needs more more channels like this ... thanks Teal... thanks for your videos

[@Elkx2121]

School of Life is one of them

[@oliviakirch8732]

Nikitas Vrentzos some really profound ones that really resonate with me , particularly on the subject of codependency, narcissism, parenting and societal conditioning etc are Lisa A Romano 💙 Ross Rosenberg 💙 Richard Grannon Spartan Life Coach 💙 Find you're Freedom 💙 Check em out; you'll be most pleasantly surprised they're awesome 💯 Infinite love light peace and blessings to all☺️✌🏻✨

[@LittleLulubee]

Olivia- Thank you!

[@oliviakirch8732]

LittleLulubee you're most welcome lovee 😊✌🏻💞

[@KarinaLicursi]

This was me growing up. If I have kids, they will be allowed to be who they want and do as they want. Only thing I care about is they are safe, happy, healthy and surrounded by good friends. Kids don’t belong to anyone.

[@deedni42]

Wow wow wow I am guilty of this very behavior. I am from a massively dysfunctional home and have had to go through life as described in this video. The result was I too became dysfunctional. I have awoke to the reality of this dysfunction and will resolve this condition and all of its expressed results at once... I love my SELF, wholeness to your heart .....

[@impossibledreams6115]

Nicholas Reed lol mee too homie. But good on u for the changes right...

[@impossibledreams6115]

These videos are huge game changers. I love how teal makes these things a huge deal, i love how she perceives them as hugely abnormal, though they are too common. I love these sickly beautiful metaphors to best describe these horrific dynamics. I Know with all my heart my mother had kids for her best interest not theirs. I was born in the rubble of a fucked family. One of my greatest pain in this whole life was the feeling of "no value".

[@sekhmetofficiel7130]

Its Gonna Be Alright 👍

[@prozacchiwawa]

This was my childhood in a nutshell. The GI Joe at the tea party metaphor fits my experience of relationships so well, and it's only been in the past couple years that you and others have started to explain these things.

[@deannathomas9408]

I have always said that I feel like a doll who gets put on the shelf and only comes down when my partner feels like playing with me. Wow!

[@creativemindsonja]

Me too! I have been good Only when I agree with my parents way of thinking and when I validate their emotions (bad or good). If I needed emotional support I would never get it. Explanation had always been that something I am worried about, is not something I should be worried and my sadness or anger is without reason (especially when it was connected with them). Now I know They didn't want to take Any responsability for their mistakes and feelings.

[@icicleicicle]

I wasn't a doll.... I was an accident lol Exactly what my mother didn't want, but I've healed a lot and am making loads of progress thanks to the completion process :)

[@lesleymicuda4041]

Two words that have set me finally free....."malignant narcissist".....apparently, while still in spirit form, I signed up for this so I could "learn the lessons inherent in" being dumped into an entire pack of them while in human form....I am pretty sure I must have been high when I signed this "contract"....this life has been sooo frickin' hard, harmful and damaging from within this bag of bones and skin....Teal, you must have signed up for something similar based on the wisdom you've arrived at and are speaking of here.....for me, once it was named, "malignant narcissisim", and the subsequent discovery that I am an "adult child survivor" of it, brought me to going completely "no contact" with the pack of evils posing as my parents and family, afforded me finally understanding it all.....I've released so much and so much so, that my hair, which never grew past my neck during my entire life, in the last 8 years, is now to the middle of my back....I am 55 yrs. young and finally at peace......I'm gonna be checkin' that contract though when I kick off from here!! I think my signature was forged 'cuz no one would have knowingly signed up for so much sh-t!!

[@thelightnessofbeing-asmr6505]

Yep! I agree, freaking sh*t contracts! LOL I must have drank too much wine ...

[@themovingdoll13]

I've been crying the whole time watching. This felt lile the nail to my coffin. As a child born out of accident, with my parents forcibly married because of me, I've never found the words to explain how I feel.

[@hibaathome]

I adore the horse and figurine example.. it makes self-love and acceptance so clear and easy to grasp. Thank you so much for revealing the truth of matters in all that you share.

[@MarcoAurelio-jj4ho]

Maybe Teal has already told about the subject (or not because some people could consider arrogant), but I really think Teal is an Ascended Master (she decided to stay in Earth in order to teach us and help the planet to rise). Thank you Teal for deciding to be with us! I'm looking forward to the workshop in Sao Paulo...

[@Healingfromtheroot]

I’m so triggered but grateful for this video and that feeling! I need it apparently❤️ thank you

[@სალომეგუგავა]

I really find the "triggered"word kinda ridiculous , do you mean Angry ? Ashamed? Guilty ?

[@TheDark-jh1do]

❤️

[@suze144]

Wow, this made me realize that I am very lucky with my parents. They have always supported me as I am, even if they often don't understand any of the things I'm passionate about. 💖

[@livtheartist190]

Good for you but unfortunately this a very tone deaf response especially regarding the context she’s talking about and it shows I’m glad you had loving parents but you don’t need to project that on a video as such because some could read that which interns invalidate their own experiences don’t compare you’re perfect life to people who fought every single day just to live

[@suze144]

@livtheartist190 yes you're right, if this had been a private conversation where a friend had opened up about her painful experiences, talking about my own "perfect" (as you called it) childhood would be highly tone-deaf and inappropriate. However, this is an educational video, not a personal discussion or a therapy session. As such, it educated me. Understanding our privilege in some areas of life does in no way invalidate the painful realities that many folks go through, to the contrary.

[@Ashlee-hh6di]

@suze, I agree, you were just stating something that’s true for you. And you should be allowed to do so without backlash or criticism. You did nothing wrong, and obviously, when someone responds a certain way, it says more about THEM than anything else.

[@zgwylie]

"we dissolve in the hell of knowing we have no value to the person our life depends on" i am trash. i am discardable. i am nothing. i am a ghost.

[@stephanieallard9430]

Thank you so much for this message Teal. My mother won't talk to me anymore because I won't pretend anymore. My brothers have verbally, physically and sexually abused me. Once I got help and started talking about it, I became the bad guy. I had to walk and talk like her and she shunned me for being my own person. This kills me because I need a mother

[@corsicanlulu]

this whole video is a validation if how i have always felt and u have expressed it so eloquently and clearly. i have always felt that most or many parents do not truly love their children but its a great societal meme perpetuated throughout the world, and it makes people feel good about themselves. a lot of parents have children for the hidden selfish reasons but they will and can never admit to it. that child grows up abused and traumatized and will only do the same to their child. videos like these are whats needed to prevent more unwanted children being born

[@mv1991]

I will never have kids and that makes me happy.

[@impossibledreams6115]

Matthieu Vonlanthen , me also.

[@AXharoth]

as if that makes anything better

[@oliviakirch8732]

#relatable

[@Amandahugginkizz]

Makes me happy too, nobody should have a kid they don't want 🙄

[@AXharoth]

@Sodham G'morris i dont remember what i meant

[@sfa223]

Sometimes not easy to watch Teal’s videos.. usually are exactly stories of how my parents ruined me

[@jacksonnexhip]

god damn what a strong opening

[@LittleLulubee]

Eman- So are strong men

[@thoushallbefree5387]

She had anger showing in her face poor girl.

[@illillyillyo]

Thank you for this video. This is a very, very important video and I hate that humanity is not collectively watching it, but I will share it. I want to show this to my parents who desperately want me to have kids “for my own good” while I desperately don’t.

[@you-vi2tm]

"We need to break free from our single family households. The destruction of the child rests upon our continual separation from the group." AHOOO!!! Communal living!!

[@dramendiana373]

Painful as hell... Thanks Teal.

[@stellarwulf]

This particular video made me feel my core life purpose come up which is feeling alive. It was kinda strong and it surprised me. I think I really need to work on this still. Wasn't expecting this to speak to me so much.

[@Cv_224]

As I always say, if Im going to go to that place of healing and growth; I must get comfortable with being very uncomfortable. I must face the things that will end up waking me up and possibly freaking me out. This is so true and so based in psychology! I love your video! I learn so so so much.

[@Drachentraenen]

You are forever appreciated Teal. Thank you.

[@TruthQuest4700]

You read me like a book Teal!!! Childhood, "romantic" relationships etc. Too personal to go into detail here, though I have much to say and have had many "ah-ha" moments connecting my childhood experiences to the whole of what is my life! Thank you, Teal, for being on the planet doing what you do!

[@PandorasPalette]

Such an in-depth analysis of our current family dynamics 😳✨😯💪👍 I am def a “doll” - a doll that listens or else it will get punished or shuffled into a box 😞 but I found ME and I will not let anyone treat me like a doll again :) I am gonna operate according to my own “instruction manual” :) Thanks Teal 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✨✨✨

[@sekhmetofficiel7130]

Pandora's Palette 👍

[@blair2993]

You posted this on my birthday three years ago and I’m seeing it on my birthday this year and it’s the most relevant thing Of the moment.

[@jeffreysherman8224]

I wish I could work with you to refine, amplify, and multiply these sentiments. I love this authenticity. It is a massive healing to humanity. Thank you so much for this. Have a good week. ❤❤❤

[@mihai8784]

At 5:45 I just started crying, she described this better than anyone ever could

[@GuadalupeAli-l9o]

This is like an explanation of how “people pleasing” is created. Also it seems like a really good combination for creating a narcisistic personality or the opposite which is a person with terrible self steem and a wish for validation and love. Like you end up being vulnerable to this kind of dynamics. This has all happened to me. Thankfully I’m learning from my experiences and consuming this information is healing to me. I have always hated myself and felt disgusting and never knew why or where did all those feelings came from.. thankyou Teal for sharing this perspective is clarifying.

[@SamiiSah]

I am very grateful for your videos Teal Swan. I listened to you for the first time several years ago but have never commented before. I felt compelled to officially thank you right now and wish you peace.

[@TheStarPriestessTarot]

Thank You 🌟 I have just seen the short video on Instagram. Amazed, that right now, I’m passing through this experience, being aware of all of this since my childhood 💓 Thank you for Guiding All of Us 🌻 We Love You 🦢

[@nailajackson1958]

I had a child when I was feeling suicidal, I was gonna end everything that day , it felt like i had no point to live that's when I decided I'll have a child and live for them , but now I have other stuff i want to do but i can't because of the child

[@rebecca_stone]

Oh my goodness this talk is incredibly profound. Incredibly devastating too. It's put words to the crux of my life's terror and heartbreaks. What she's describing is the cause of BPD, which nearly killed me, more than once. I'm in full remission, but have so much to still tackle. If you really listen to this talk, it explains what's at the heart of most hurts and fears in our relationships. It has really blown my mind.

[@tenorei]

I repressed my personality for almost 18 years!!! because I was trying to adjust to what my mother wanted from me. and, as she often said, she "wanted a child. but not like me". I was often told that children are great only until a certain age. Great to hear that from your own mother. I wish she died sooner sometimes. Entire youth lost.

[@BroganPaigee]

This is very true and it is a shame that the majority do not understand this dynamic. My sister is going through this dynamic; she openly states that she NEEDS a baby and now she is pregnant. It is blatantly obvious to me that it isn't a child she wants, it is purpose, validation, and a sense of comfort. I am passionate about changing the way we treat children, so it is very hard for me to sit back and watch this. Any advice?

[@lextor4712]

Any progress in your efforts to change the way we treat children? It has been 2 years.

[@mephisto-blackknife-5231]

I'm not a mother, but based on what I learnt from this video; One of the best things you could do is be there for said child once it is born, even if you're not their parent, the child having more options and resources to go to when they are in need will surely help

[@caressegarcia]

My mother must've been in her perfect center. I was raised with unconditional love, affection and attention by her.

[@teriward2589]

WOW!.... This was painful it so hit home with me it's how I grew up but what's even more painful this is what I did to my son I had him for all the wrong reasons I had him to make me feel good feel loved but when he was born he felt like a burden he was born with health issues I could take care of me emotionally much less take care of the needs of a sick child as a result of this dynamic my son is now 34 and wants nothing to do with me it it's very painful to see how this has played out in his life I have so much regret I wish I could go back and do a do over I'm trying to forgive myself but watching this video just reminds me how much healing I still need to do I also have a very hard time in relationships is that any surprise thank you Teal for this video ❤️

[@diannedell8405]

I can relate.....it can be heartbreaking. My first daughter had Adhd and the second one had health issues......and I separated from their father. My eldest daughter has a lot of resentment toward me now as an adult, and we struggle to relate. I have much shame and regret. I have joined co-dependants anonymous and am working toward Step 9........making amends to those we may have harmed, so hopefully that might salvage things. I feel for you and wish you all the best.

[@Sugabullets]

You got one piece of the puzzle. Most people have children for the same reason they follow a certain religion/culture/belief/etc. because they want to fit into their family. Social pressure and validation is a powerful combination for the concoction of brain chemistry to create a temporary motivation long enough to create a invested attachment to it.

[@LisaCaseyComedy]

You are going to change the world Teal

[@christineg3798]

Serendipitous timing- watching this video and dealing with this very prevalent issue in my life.... dysfunctional relationships with my parents.

[@daliaelkabli4709]

This shook me core out

[@AmericanMuscleMiami]

One of the best videos you’ve ever done Teal , wow thank you for pulling yourself out and up and having the courage to share your journey

[@barbaraoeltjen2984]

Thank you Teal for helping understand and heal my relationships🙏

[@andreperry3301]

Great video, much needed information. You're definitely a pioneer, dragging the world into consciousness. Most people will really have to face themselves when they hear this.

[@mercyshalom1463]

this video feels like a complete narration of my life"s story;tks for the light Teal

[@benji4114]

Thank you, thank you 🙏🏼 You’re an incredible leader, thank you for talking with me.

[@TruthLoveInABody]

Thank you Teal Swan ~for BEing ALL that you are. Your messages have helped us so very much.

[@indegruv]

Beautiful medicine

[@Sophie-P]

This is such a fantastically articulated concept, reminds me heavily of the anxious avoidant attachment styles but offers a in depth analogy that blew my mind. Bring this up in therapy

[@JessiTheBestiGaming]

And then in adult relationships, the cycle perpetuates...

[@dianaboughner7977]

💖 Thank you Teal. I don't know if I could've understood this as a younger person but I sure do now. Always interesting, full of great details, educational, reasons to want to heal, and how to get there. All of this delivered by your beautiful, unique, and authentic self. My oldest grandson suggested I check out your videos. He loves his gramma very much 😁💞

[@sarahmcnicol.lifecoach]

You are so important in the world Teal. Thank you for articulating hidden, complex, nuanced relationship dynamics and ways of being. So powerful 🙏🙏🙏💚💚💚

[@e5013]

My parents spent 13 years physically fighting with each other and I felt that me and my sister were just an audience that they needed. It wouldn't be "fun" with we were not there to watch.

[@apemayaxx]

😰

[@ceasarcobblerd5311]

Right on Teal, my life is almost in sync with your video uploads. Interestingly enough, I was also talking about Toy Story amongst coworks earlier this week ha!

[@impossibledreams6115]

I always get so excited when she made a new video.

[@fromwithagainstbehind7380]

THISS!! I have felt this since childhood, still do to this day. Those who never wanted children, or worry they arent ready, are usually the best patents, for the simple fact that they actually consider the child a SEPERATE BEING, and not a mini me.

[@sanny-nk9re]

Many adults need to see this!!!!

[@KS-jb5og]

thank you teal for teaching us all of this... what you are doing is priceless!

[@ParadoxxFoxx]

thank you Teal

[@goodintentions1302]

I haven't finished the video yet. I'm old enough to be a great grandma. My experience has been most people have children because nothing was done to stop from having children. Far more people are here as an "Oops!" than as the result of a plan.

[@vaia-tarot1107]

These videos are so healing, thank you!

[@carolannshepherd2189]

Thankyou Teal 🙏🦢love from Australia

[@vatop1304]

Damn teal you been savage more than usual! I love it!

[@nocminer9029]

Thank you so much or this wisdom, you made a huge impact on my life today. Appreciate the time and effort, the world desperately needs more like you.

[@ayanouchiha4146]

I love this. Why don't people watch these videos ? Like come on you all need to see this.

[@smoomook]

I recently saw this on your Instagram page and realized that I not only didn't know why my parents had me as I am 9 of 12 kids from my mother, 8 of my father and I also realized I don't know why I had my own kids (I'm a mother of 2 boys) because I realize in relationships with both their fathers (they have two different dads) had a kid with me out of their own reasons more so than I did my own two boys. It hurts to say this as a mother because I love both of my children. I, myself, as did my kids from toxic parental households on both sides. It opened my eyes to a lot about my parents, my kids' dads parents and now us both as their parents. I have a lot of work to do to get to my authentic self and it's hard.

[@dempsquay]

Loved hearing about this at the Chicago workshop!

[@rosaperez4641]

Whoa this is spot on to what I experienced as a child.

[@whitenoise3447]

You're not even a spiritual teacher you're just a super kind and thorough infj

[@ericasebald1981]

This is me. I was a doll. I wasn't what they wanted. Thankfully I wasn't able to have children. My pain over not having kids is nothing compared to the pain I would have caused.

[@PKlimek9]

Thank you for sharing !

[@Zari-m7n]

Her perspective is so true.

[@amyc1022]

Great insight, thank you. This helped me understand how my mother might've felt based on what I know about her childhood experiences.

[@MrKeysWorld]

Awesome topic can’t wait to listen 👂🏽 Thanks for sharing this very much needed 😃

[@sekhmetofficiel7130]

POSITIVE VIBES 👍

[@Emma-Laya]

Wish the Teal tribe was still there so we could connect and practice this attunement and authenticity.. it feels like so many people we are all around everywhere, is just going further and further away from connecting and seeing each other for real beings, and deeper into their early destructive programming, while trying to escape anything that could make them feel the deeper core issues.... sending light that all of us will soon meet people who are also on the path to awakening to them selves and their surroundings ❤

[@junecw920]

It was so easy for my parents to love me as a baby but not so much when I'm old enough to have my own thoughts.

[@GladiolaSunfresh]

Very amazing and very true and important thinking, healing this energy would be a great way to heal the energetic reasons for infertility. I like the expression that when you have a child is like taking a mystery seed, you don't know what plant or flower the seed will be you just water it and find out as it grows! Also, I live in the midwest and have a hard time finding an intentional community or tribe. I wish there was a better way to come together

[@morganalexis6147]

Omg when you said about the single family household I felt it so so much! Having a single parent meant one person validated or not and that's all you have! It's a painful place to grow! 💞

[@mariosmichael5116]

I really agree with all of this, you have really explained so well! Great keep going :)

[@pepperoni.]

i have never been so cut open like this, i feel exposed🫠