The Definitive Guide to Getting Girls Who Are “Out of Your League”

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

What do you recommend for a high-quality man that has major back and hip problems? My health is improving but I’m still able to do a very little and which makes me feel very low value and I don’t want to impose on someone.

[@RobertMowatt-q8w]

You're a 10 wifey.

[@laturista1000]

The first step is a shift in mindset. No one is "out of your league". We are all humans. flesh and blood with a brain and with unique talents. Attractive women have morning breath just like men do. Attractive women have stinky poop just like men do. We are all humans with flaws.

[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

@@laturista1000 lol that’s definitely one way of expressing that lol but I appreciate what you’re saying

[@taasmr4203]

*Majority of girls, regardless of their highest educational level, race, religion, skin color, origin, marital status, pre-marital relationship status, ethnic language, are whores and sluts at my current and previous jobs, because they sleep around, they sleep men who are married with children, men who are girlfriends plus illegitimate children, men who are thugs and gangasters, men who are fascists towards dark brown Indian looking Pakistani guys, men who are fascists towards Indian and Bangladeshi guys, men who are in their (my female co-workers at my current and previous jobs) father's and grandfather's age, and guys who as young as 18.*

[@PRdude]

I once saw a woman talk about how she hates it when guys assume that she wouldn't talk to them, or that she's out of their league. She says that they make her out to be a shallow person. That's something I've never thought of before.

[@DemonSlayerRX20]

Makes sense. Unfortunately, today women need either get on the same page or stop shaming men for trying. Or both. I once had a girl tell me no because I'm not her type. I said fair enough and actually walked away feeling better.

[@LeeEverett1]

Because it's a clear sign of a man who lacks confidence in himself. We all know women are highly attracted to confidence

[@DemonSlayerRX20]

@@LeeEverett1 true

[@kc270352]

@@LeeEverett1 if you haven't got anything to be confident about in the first place, then theres no point

[@razzendahcuben]

OK, but did she actually date of these guys? If not, then its a meaningless virtue signal.

[@Calmbts]

I actually like when a girl says "no" because i dont have to wonder where i stand with the girl and it makes it easier to move on to the next.

[@sstrick500]

Yeah, this. It takes a few blows to master it, but its SO much easier in the end. Yes/No. Next.

[@onatics]

Girls dont do this because they know men can move on faster.

[@HateBear-real]

Rejection is definitely great. It's the people who accept you who will knife you in the back later.

[@Jucee18-ri2wi]

Relationships are not logical, you don't just agree to dating one another, building up chemistry, desire and lust is a skill you will never understand my friend. Stop being brainwashed by Disney and wake the fuck up. women are bad, and they expect you tp excite them. If you are dating a girl that automatically agrees to dating you then that in itself is a huge red flag on both ends. LMAO

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@thebrianchannel9890 You can force someone to like you or even love you. Not everyone will be marrying a Hot Stacy. May 26, 2024. USA

[@xxaavviieerrrrr]

That self sabatoge point is pretty important! I see both my guy and girl friends fumble their relationships because they had personal insecurities and paranoia, and instead of talking it out they assume and break up.

[@T_T.elegram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@HateBear-real]

A lot of people with paranoia were abused by other sick people who unfortunately just run rampant nowadays.

[@kevinbradshaw6127]

The more effort you put into yourself, grooming , fitness , fashion , the more you tip the scales in your favour regarding anyone being out of your league, good manners cost nothing and it goes a long way

[@gracerules2008]

Losing weight is out of the question for me. I'm not getting involved in exercising or eating healthy. That's not my value system. I'm tired of folks trying to push that narrative.

[@kevinbradshaw6127]

An uncle of mine is 56 years of age, when he was in his 20s and 30s he was regarded as a fit healthy handsome man , now hes about 5 stone overweight, he takes blood pressure tablets, he has high cholesterol , hes never out of the doctors waiting room and he gets an uber everywhere because he refuses to do any excercise , i dont want health problems like that and i genuinely dont want you to have them either, but thats your call@@gracerules2008

[@mcdreamy5004]

@@gracerules2008Who cares

[@gracerules2008]

I care about myself. That's all I know. I don't care that you took offense to my comment. I can ask you that same question. Who cares?

[@lokidarkbeard2647]

@@gracerules2008 When you realize the unhealthiness was done to you by corporations and governments, you might change your tune. It is not your natural state.

[@draapulus]

Summary 1:05 How To Get A Girl Who's Out Of Your League 2:47Be Confident In Who You Are 5:34 Don't Put Her On Pedestal 8:08 Make The First Move; 8:44 Women are more scared of rejection, than men; 9:55 Show Her A Good Time 12:47 Ask Her For What You Want 14:28 to summarize all the told here 15:34 It all starts from us (either men, or women). All credit to @Harikejn

[@david2-v7t]

or women... She is saying the man should be responsible for both his fear and her greater fear of rejection. Otherwise, she considers him a failure.

[@youtuber3328]

no disrespect but we've still got BILLIONS of people worldwide and and life still VARIES ALL in ALL

[@youtuber3328]

in grade school we learned FACT vs OPINION so please tell me who's still to say and/or determine who's still out of your leagues along with the how when where and why's SERIOUSLY

[@travisbenoit5195]

I think this might be the most honest and sincere video I’ve seen on contemporary dating culture in a long time. An observation that preserves the dignity of the man and the woman in a realistic and charitable way that sets the guy up (in this situation) for a realistic situation and empowers the good intentioned guy to have confidence in who he is and peace with whatever the outcome is. I look forward to watching your other videos.

[@larsf.4756]

Looking back, I would never have been able to gauge by her looks which woman was attracted to me. Therefore I would say that strictly speaking, there is no "out of your league" based on just visual attractiveness. (There are social circles that you will have a hard time becoming a part of, but that is a different question.)

[@Danrnova]

Thank you so much for your help and advice and the amazing work you are doing to make the world a better place to be! Keep up the good work!

[@CourtneyRyan]

It’s my pleasure! Thank you so much 🥰

[@sirchadiusmaximusiii]

Just wanted to say (in a non simping way), thanks for just being classy in this classless era. It is appreciated.

[@BigGirthyJohnson]

Simp

[@davidsloan6646]

It’s sad that simply acknowledging a decent human being is now considered simping.

[@jeeplivion]

Saying thank you to a woman is not simping lmfaoooo

[@jessebakken7547]

@iamme25yago There isn't much common sense now-a-days. That's the point. You grow up.

[@sandybeach3576]

I stopped dating women out of my league and married a gal in my league. We have been married for 32 years 😊

[@MikeBEASTLEY]

I don't really know what is in my league or not. According to me, 99 percent of women are out of my league haha

[@KevvoLightswift]

Can you explain that a little more? What do you mean by “in your league”? Do you find yourself attractive? Do you find her more attractive than you? Or was it more “we really look good together”? I’m genuinely interested in your answer.

[@JACQUEZ23]

​@@KevvoLightswifti guess out your league mean u like 5 and she like 9.5

[@tommygunn6901]

I am just one of those that struggle way too much here. I will take other advice you do like fashion, but I'm pretty much done dating now...thank you for all you do!

[@lukeskyvader3217]

I don't know why are you struggling, but I think that majority of young men have too high standards and want 10/10 girl or nothing. I'm not saying that's impossible, but today attractive girls get too much attention (sometimes from good looking men, and they don't date physically less attractive men as much as they did before. 100 years ago personality and money were 99% of men's "attractiveness", but in today's world it's a different story. Women usually have their own money and enough things to make them laugh and give them a good time (TV, smartphones, books, netflix, video games social media), so they don't need men anymore to provide them these things. I am not saying that intellect and status are not important, but they are nowhere near as important as they were and physical attractiveness is probably no1 factor for attracting men and women these days.

[@tommygunn6901]

@@lukeskyvader3217 first, cool name! Second, I'm just tired of the constant talking stages. Am I shooting for 8,9,or 10? No, that's unreasonable at this point and I think Hollywood bimbos. I'm just done...

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

I cannot fathom how you came to that conclusion. Men have outrageous standards? I dated ugly, mid and hot. Gave all of them a chance. My uber successful brother married average. Other brother married older (20 years). Other brother married ugly. Sisters? One rich and average looking, one won't marry because she finds no man up to her standard, and one handsome and rich. The vast majority of men in their 20s would take women below them, period. And many in their 30s. They are deprived and ignored, never feeling warmth and empathy of a female touch. They'd date 4 and above easy. That's not debatable. The 10s won't. What you are talking about is men who climbed to the top and get to their peak at 35+. After making a fortune, working on confidence (which is a massive undertaking), and having been ignored even by ugly women, they want the finest. And deserve it. The ones who ignored them need to leave.@@lukeskyvader3217

[@iamapat]

Stop thinking about dating as this big impossible thing. It's not that big of a deal, it's a small part of life in the grand scheme of things. Adjust how you think and get out there and just talk to people. You don't need to impress them, just show you can have a normal conversation and that's half the battle. Take the advice from youtube but don't overthink it. All you need to do is get a girl to talk about herself and hold a conversation. Maybe get her number, and then don't get attached, move on to the next girl and do the same thing again. Eventually one of those girls will show enough interest and you can pursue them. If you are having trouble meeting girls, just get out of your house, go to events, athletic clubs, church, social spots, etc. and start talking people with no expectations from them. You got this

[@Artemis_A-24]

@@lukeskyvader3217Most men don't have high enough standards lmao but go on

[@x-man5056]

"Take her off the pedestal and evaluate whether or not you can really see a relationship with her." Chisel that in stone. Who you choose has greater impact on your success and happiness than any other 1 single factor. What you should be looking for is a "match" for you. Though you need to be attracted to her, "Looks" are only 1 category of a couple dozen things you consider. When you put extra priority on looks, you often (certainly not always), except character deficits, or other personality and lifestyle impediments/differences that will impede a natural and organic relationship. It doesn't mean that the average looking guy can't land a beauty queen. We know they can, we all see it regularly. It means that the average looking guy who lands the beauty queen is often not nearly as happy as the guy who chose honesty, faithfulness, SIMILAR INTERESTS, kindness, humor, etc. as priority. Looks fade. Women all age differently. If you put to high of premium on looks, you may find yourself putting your own self interests last. Look for the 'right woman'. Not the right eye candy.

[@MikeBEASTLEY]

I admit, I have a problem with not putting a woman on a pedestal. Every woman who I find attractive, no matter if she is a super model or the girl next door-type, i always go in thinking "i have no chance. she is way too good looking for me." I try to look for more the girl next door girl type who has similar core beliefs. But still, no matter what, I always go in thinking I have no chance and it is hard for me to fake having a ton of confidence going in. It is kinda demoralizing.

[@x-man5056]

@@MikeBEASTLEY Don't beat yourself up, you have lots of company. Most men have had a relationship where they found themselves in your position at least once (including me), many are serial offenders. Looking at your comment, looks like you could have self esteem issue, but it may just be who you are picking. 1st Check to see if you have preferences in your standards. Write them down helps to decipher. I have "I'm attracted to her" in my standards. Not big boobs, blonde hair, painted nails, etc. I consciously avoid judging them by the 'Porn' standard. I think "fake confidence" is fine because it can be a path to real confidence if you stick with it. (yes, you'll crash and burn a few times, it won't hurt you). You won't even have to consciously change your mindset, it will happen on it's own. Stay in there. When you are engaging this hypothetical looker (any woman you really like), FOCUS on what she is saying to you and respond appropriately. Concentrate on what she is saying, not what you are "feeling". If you are engaging her, you'll spend less time engaging you (your doubtful thinking) Know and reject that you are getting jelly legged over a "book cover", the important things about her are yet to be relieved. The substance. LOOK for the girl next door, not the painted ladies. "Who you choose" matters. Be bold, Good Luck.

[@rickyfactz]

Great video Courtney, definitely highlights that the ball is in your court for the most part in dating and in life. Hope everyone has the wherewithal to go for what they want in dating and in life as well.

[@kingjgregory]

Courtney, you are so down to earth, I love it. I like these videos because they are insightful and give me fresh relationship ideas, and you should always put effort into your relationship. My wife is way outta my league, so I must be doing something right! I try to behave as a gentleman and be respectful. Don't waste time on dead end relationships. Life is very short. My wish is that everyone can be as lucky in love as I am! Cheers!

[@cameronjd1999]

Showed this to my buddy that needed this!! Super helpful, love the content you give out! Super thankful for you.

[@citizenoz]

Another great video Courtney. Thank you! So very true about moving on quickly when wanting more than the "friend zone". Be secure enough to just move on and the faster you do the faster your life gets better... speaking from a very bitter personal experience.

[@fromearth6282]

Thank you very much. I can put this video on and your conciseness, simplicity and practicality help me retain the principles. Really appreciate it.

[@elisteele574]

Absolutely love your channel, Courtney. You're a big help, thanks for doing what you do.

[@Algo1]

It took me a full year to confess to her, right before the pandemic hit, but we picked where we left off when we finally reunited and her answer was yes, let's give this a try. Life keeps getting in the way, so we haven't been able to see each other as often as I'd like (which tbh, would be 24/7) but we have grown closer and closer through these hardships.

[@Algo1]

As many have said, the "leagues" are largely based on attractiveness. Going by that, I was way out of her league, yet here we are.

[@VideoGameRoom32]

With my experience with dating, the more the attractive woman was more easy going and less maintenance. The less attractive she was high maintenance. Let me be clear this is my experience.

[@brianjones9780]

This can be true. Girls who have low self-esteem often rely on their man to fix that for them instead of going to therapy or whatever. When you treat a pretty girl like she's just another person it's sometimes a relief for her.

[@AbnerChamate]

You got it, this is mainstream and best wishes to stay with her.

[@javiersanabria7513]

Its been my experience as well. Treat pretty women like everybody else and she'll be relieved unless shes a shallow entitled girl whose whole personality is her good looks.

[@leeg2787]

Yeah you're def not 80% of guys.

[@youtuber3328]

no disrespect but in grade school we learned FACT vs OPINION so please tell me who's to say and/or determine who's still low neutral and/or high maintenance and please tell me who's to say and/or determine who's the more and/or most attractive along with the how when where and why's SERIOUSLY

[@ajtaylor8750]

No woman is completely "out of your league." Just going off looks doesn't make that woman higher in value than you, but you do need to be realistic about who you can obtain as a partner and be the man that woman would find desirable.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Exactly! 👏🏼

[@July41776DedicatedtoTheProposi]

However, I have seen that “out of your league” thinking by the vast majority of women who together will say that to each other and sometimes to me. But then again, maybe she was out of my league in looks and personality. Who really knows?

[@coolnut99]

The problem is that while 50 percent of women are below average, 80 percent of men are also below average.

[@GregXHunterz]

The leagues thing is very heavily subjective to begin with and often are judged based on very arbitrary and superficial values. Everyone is attracted to attractive looking people. It's a biological response. But you can be attracted to many things some might find even odd, that's okay. The fact that biological responses needs to be categorized into some hierarchy is very weird to me. All that hierarchy says is that most people will just happen to find a common type of person attractive than others, but when you look at the grand scheme of things, it all comes down to a numbers game. Even most people who find conventionally good looking people attractive are still capable of being attracted to others outside of that, all they need is to feel a little bit of attraction + exposure therapy, and it'll work like wonders.

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

Someone else asked and I found it funny, though wrong to ask tbh. Is your current "beneath" you Courtney? I.e., ugly, broke and awkward? The other poster said if he is on your level then what you say is pointless virtue signaling. While I think the poster is lame, I am conflicted about his point.@@CourtneyRyan

[@Glad.Mache00]

Thanks alot Courtney. This video helped me alot and it has altered my perspective about the 'out for your league' conversation.

[@Harikejn]

Important Things: 1:05 Starting Point ÷ How To Get A Girl Who's Out Of Your League; 2:27 That is so true about that (but it would be wise not to use a word nerd, cause the meaning of that is someone who learns some things by heart without understanding. That's why) (more appropriate way of saying it would be intelligent person, either we talk about man, or a woman); 2:47 First Thing ÷ Be Confident In Who You Are; 5:34 Second Thing ÷ Don't Put Her On Pedestal; 8:08 Third Thing ÷ Make The First Move; 8:44 Women are more scared of rejection, than men; 9:55 Fourth Thing ÷ Show Her A Good Time; 12:47 Fifth Thing ÷ Ask Her For What You Want; 14:28 to summarize all the told here; 15:34 It all starts from us (either men, or women). This topic that you have analyzed Courtney, is okay. I like your wisdom. I also like the psychology, of this, so that's why I like this content that you're making. The psychology is key in every communications, either we go on a date, or we go to work, or communicate with friends, and with people. I agree that dating tips can be very helpful as well. But I like how you deeply analyzed the things, and that's why I like your psychological way of approach, and also a solution for the things in any life situations. From all the told we can summarize it to couple of things. And those are: 1. Love yourself (to see if there are red flags, leave ASAP); 2. Don't seek perfectionism, cause that's Mission Impossible; 3. Show that you care for her or him (since all of these things can apply to men, and women). When I was listening to you, I remembered one quote that I have reed long time ago (you can correct me if I'm wrong): "He She who does not love himself / herself cannot expect to be appreciated, respected and loved by other people." Thank you so much Courtney ❤💙🤍.

[@KHmixerX]

The part about confidence is so true and hits so very close to home for me. My girlfriend of 5 months (not very long, I know, but she meant the world to me) left me back in March 2024 and it absolutely wrecked me. I won’t get into the why, but before, during, and after, I was very unhappy with myself. When I was with her, I put on a facade as best I could, but I was never truly happy with myself. It’s only now that I’ve begun to shed a lot of that and start working on myself. Dressing better, shedding debt, being smart with my finances, taking care of my body, etc. Every insecurity I’ve had in my life when it comes to dating was rooted in the opinion I had of myself. I have a long way to go, but the steps I’ve already taken have done wonders for my self worth. Work on it, lads. It’ll change your entire outlook on life.

[@Absalonrascon]

I like this a lot. I think her points on “you don’t know if you don’t ask.” And making a move on the third date is something I’ve struggled on. But, it doesn’t discourage me. At least 90% of ladies I’ve talked to in the past say “no” to a first date or to dating. And I’ve realized that I just need to work on myself to make things work.

[@stevenwallace773]

One recent girl I rejected tried to ruin my reputation. She spread rumors of crazy stuff I was supposedly doing. Luckily, she only knew people from HS who I hadn't talked to in 10+ years and it essentially doesn't matter what they think bc I'm unlikely to ever see or speak to them again regardless.

[@HateBear-real]

If you had gotten with her, you would have had an almost 100% chance of winding up in jail and court, at a minimum.

[@rickhanson3293]

This topic reminded me of my biggest hang-up which is stepping out of my comfort zone. So I went ahead and made a New Year's resolution to first find a comfort zone and then step out of it. ;)

[@T_T.elegram-RealCourtneyRyan]

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[@carybaney2548]

This is a well thought out video. It is always informative and interesting to hear how women see things. Sometimes it is very surprising! Thanks Courtney!

[@dwmcsweeney]

Thanks, Courtney, for your stellar womansplaining. Us guys need it! For me it’s about finding compatibility and chemistry with a partner, regardless of “leagues”. It’s just so easy to slip into thinking you must be compatible with someone because you have chemistry together. Personally, several times in my life (I’m older), I’ve felt chemistry with women that I wouldn’t be (and haven’t been) compatible with at all in a LTR - whether it be due to the age gap, socioeconomics, or life perspectives - it just wouldn’t work. That doesn’t mean one person is better than the other. We just all come from different places with different life experiences, and sometimes the gap is too wide. I think, as guys, we focus way too much on the chemistry/physical component and not the compatibility aspect. These days, as I’m getting to know someone, I ask myself…can I picture sharing my life with this person?…living with them? Would I feel comfortable? Could I be authentic? If I can’t answer yes to those questions it’s not happening. So if you’re questioning whether you should ask a girl out, and are concerned she’s “out of your league”; instead ask yourself…do I think we could be compatible? If the answer is no (which it likely is), then move on, and look for someone you can be comfortable with. (My 2 cents).

[@JesseMuka]

Your content and your delivery thereof, is honest and helpful. Thank you sharing your perspective and insights. Your top accentuates the colour of your eyes.

[@debbiegilmour6171]

Nobody should ever think anyone is somehow out of anyone else's league.

[@SilverDreamer62]

I fully agree with that, and am getting ready to settle down with an out of my league girl at a new housing development on planet Mars! Just have confidence, guys! It will disguise the fact that you look like shrek!

[@jesusariasjr.7946]

Great advice Courtney! You are absolutely right that in order to attract love you must first love yourself!

[@joegarcia9057]

Courtney this was an awesome presentation. Keep up the good work. I hope your social life is going well also.

[@MissionRidgeRoad]

Well Done Courtney. You are very genuine, not easy to find these days. Bravo to you.

[@bobross1829]

1. You have to have confidence and think you are the catch. If you don't, even if you are in a temporarily bad place, this can be deadly. If you are feeling low or something happened that makes you feel less than the girl, you need to work on yourself and take a break from dating. At least until that situation that is making your confidence suffer improves. (Like getting a new job or getting a new place) This goes for dating girls younger than you too, you have to think your experience and where you are makes you a catch. She is not better than you because she is younger or hot. 2. Men are terrible at rating other guys. As this video says, guys often think some girl is way out of her BF's league, when in reality, they really are not. Slim, decent build, good job, kind of funny? That guy is probably right in her league. You are putting her on a pedestal. 3. You have to act your age and show you have your own values and not kiss her butt. Most times I blew it with good women was I tried too hard to act like I "THOUGHT" she wanted me to act, due to her being younger or hot. If you want to go home and she wants to party? Go home. That is why she has girlfriends. If she says something you don't like, say so. If she calls or texts when it is late, don't feel like you have to text her til 3 AM. Say you are tired and talk to her tomorrow. She wants something or for you to do something and you don't want to? Say so. Girls respect that and it is confident.

[@nickskywalker2568]

No Courtney, I didn't clicked on this video because I want to date girl that are "out of my league" or "better than me", I clicked because I follow you I enjoy watching your content.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Appreciate you my friend! 🤍🤍

[@nsalt7]

Friend zoned. Move on Nick 😅

[@NKHSP]

bro friend zoned already🤣🤣@@nsalt7 "put women on pedestal and they friendzone you"

[@JimCastleberry]

Simp-o-meter just pegged.

[@pocok5000]

Wow everyone should watch this. Powerful stuff

[@red5wormy165]

Wish I knew this in 2019, I asked a coworker out she rejected me and reported me. I was most definitely intimidated by her looks she literally looked like the girl of my dreams, taller than me and in better shape. I sometimes think about her to this day and I try so hard to forget her because my life was pretty much ruined after she reported me. Funny thing is there were a few other girls that were showing clear signs of interest in me but I still went for the one that I barely spoke to. I put her on a pedestal and I self sabotaged. I have been afraid of rejection and women for that matter, It has gotten to the point where I completely ignore women, I cant even face them. I just feel like today you can catch a case very easily and it may get a whole lot worse judging by all the censorship in the entertainment industry.

[@robertwilkinson8421]

Really Great Topic, lots of important things to consider and think about here.

[@AbnerChamate]

Enlighting concepts Courtney. There are no excuses to make yourself a decent person in your own terms before looking for someone you can share your life. This is not about a perfect stereotype but a good human being and it always starts within yourself. We are delusional in many ways, and common sense needs are essential to compensate for that. We are not aware of our limitations, we need reality check all the time, and confidence to believe and fight for goals. Learning never stops. Failure is a lesson for better not for worst. Be kind. God bless you.

[@oceanmike8516]

6:57 but I mean if she lives on Post Road in Toronto and I’m from Maple Street in Oshawa. I might as well be in the Vanarama National league whilst she is in the champions league.

[@tjl5419]

Women play too many games. A guy does not want to approach a woman who looks cold and unfriendly. She needs to give off the right body language and at least smile.

[@Mr._Martinez]

BINGO... Most women do not look approachable.

[@guntergd3260]

Look for signs , choose the one that chooses you

[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

I know I’m an awesome person. This is coming for myself and the people that know me well enough. For me it’s not so much a confidence issue. It’s just that the more beautiful she is the more nervous she makes me I think my hormones shorts circuit my brain. And in some ways, I feel exposed because it’s obvious that I’m attracted to her.

[@fabian7463]

Same with me! Especially if I am actually trying to talk to them haha.

[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

@@fabian7463 A female friend of mine recommended exposure therapy in regards to this subject. During my party days I had no problem doing so, but I also wasn’t sober and these days it’s been so long I’ve forgotten how / not used to it.

[@daniellehotsky1776]

Yup, that's the problem we all have. :) Most women don't care if you're nervous. A lot of women find it even cute. You just have to "survive" first 10-15-20 minutes and talk and talk. Slowly and confidently, think about what you are going to say, make little pauses, it seems that you are intelligent thinker, not the wannabe romeo who wants to play some stupid pick up games (which for nervous shy guys always come out really awkward, haha). The nervousness fall off eventualy and if she's intrested she would stick with you. The pretty girls are bombarded with men all the time and maybe it will be you who stay out from that herd of wannabe romeos and she finnaly find somebody who is normal conversation partner.

[@Peaceful_Zen_Life]

@@daniellehotsky1776 thanks that is good information

[@AbnerChamate]

Dont worry about beauty outside is only a trick in your mind. Beauty is inside the person, to be awesome is never enough. Confidence is more important and is not related to be awesome. So, there are many concepts and each one has a different meaning for each person. We are not always awesome, it is a specific moment of sucess for me, then constant confidence and kindness is more important, for me.

[@RickDavalos]

I really appreciate your videos! You always provide genuine information that men need to hear. Thank you!

[@BKbucknut93]

This woman is intelligent, realistic, helpful, and encouraging. Great video.

[@jahanzebali589]

MUCH NEEDED. THANK YOU.

[@emZee1994]

I think this was excellent advice. She is a prize sure, but so are you. Dont be delusional (improvement is necessary) but don't self sabotage too. Knowing your worth is the definition of confidence

[@JohnADuerk]

Thoughtful content, as always. Thank you for the work that you put in!

[@bdontech5984]

Thanks for the insight, keep up the good work. Much love from Van City

[@andreaswilcox9158]

Great video. I already feel more confident

[@michaelrinaldi3829]

I work in Hollywood. There are actresses, models, singers, and celebrities who truly want a guy who's simply kind and genuine. Many of my male and female friends don't believe it because they're brainwashed by romanticized media and glamor. In other words, attractive people are just people and we have many of the same basic wants.

[@TowerHand11B]

Had the same mentality when I was in the Army. Alot of guys would be afraid to approach and talk to senior leaders. Ultimately they're just people and even though they were superior in rank they're just a person.

[@cjciszewski809]

The #1 Best Seller of all Time ever is "The Walk Through for Having a Long Term Marriage" . Copyright and Publish date is in the "Year of Delusion". Thanks though for doing videos of general life principles people should have learned from their parents and in school, I mean it with sincerity. It's just sad that most people in any capacity that gives "advice" on this conveniently forgets to mention that every individual person will have to make this work for them without help. I'm glad Courtney you at least in all your videos I watch tell your audience to take care of themselves first before going into delusional thinking that life just works for them instantly. One of the wisest people told me" You have to take care of yourself first and foremost before you can take care of anyone or anything else". I love that your videos seem to always mention this kind of thinking in general, keep doing that for those who didn't have support systems to teach them as a child common sense. You're a better person than I in doing so.

[@konbonwa]

I am a guy that talks to people eye to eye and this has helped me date and have romantic relationships with different women that all of my friends thought were "above my class". When I meet such a woman and she's interesting to me I simply talk to her as a person. I don't objectify the woman and I don't get wrapped up in bad self talk like "she's so wonderful, how can I possibly compare to her?" If our talk goes well I will follow through and ask the woman if she would like to meet again, which is critical. Finally, if the wonderful woman I am talking to does not want to date I accept that and move on and I try not to take that personally.

[@vernefits1953]

Excellent content!

[@nicob89]

Im dating someone incredible thanks for Courtney’s advices! CR is one of the best and life-changing experts

[@rickyricardom]

Thank you Courtney. Doing gods work.

[@jakecooley7603]

That sponsor transition haha. Your videos are helping me! Thank you.

[@Cloxxki]

I once got out of an 8 year friendzone from hell. How did I do it? I changed my mindset. From "out of my league" to "we fit well together". Seeing her imperfections, acknowegding those in balance to my own. Within weeks she was all over me, and I invited myself to her place and we got to do what should have happened on our first date...when I was in awe of her. When I changed my mind, something cosmic shifted. As if she was on a water slide going only one way, to me.

[@michaelbarrett9107]

Ummmm so you must have changed something else too. I’m not sure how simply changing a mindset would get someone all over you.

[@abel4776]

Was she celibate for those 8 years?

[@g.o.9513]

Know the end game. This concept has helped me make decisions very early in the relationship. Sometimes I'll just take a moment and reflect after the first impression and ask myself some questions about the end game. Sometimes the answers are hilarious and embarrassing, but communicating them has saved me so much time.

[@mixedmattaphors]

One of your best videos! Thanks.

[@ximonwhhatt3796]

Holy moly that part where you talked about them mirroring you was 🤯 I'm so oblivious!

[@Ezilla82]

This was helpful for sure and might make me ask myself those hard questions and etc.

[@bikwah90]

6:55 You hit the nail on the head with an issue I've been having. Dating with an inferiority complex - which I'm getting help with - definitely is a problem.

[@ryanadams1100]

What’s helping? I’ve also got an inferiority complex that just won’t quit.

[@bikwah90]

@@ryanadams1100 I'm seeing a therapist

[@DarioKurtev]

Thanks. I avoid asking women out that are out of my league, but at the same time, it's what I should do.

[@LEDPENNY]

Never been down with the whole "out of your league" mentality. Show lack of confidence and self respect. It's all about finding who your compatible with. This video nails it!

[@matthewcormier8744]

I've always enjoy learning from you this is so Good

[@svtben]

It's all about mindset and how women feel about you. Confidence is paramount and you can attract any women with this trait.

[@kevinb8881]

Courtney, I already came the realization that some fishes are not worth seasoning and some chickens are not worth adoboling, season's greetings and happy holidays to you, young lady!!!🎄🎁😃👍💯

[@slayerd357]

I believe this is your opinion (obviously) but you are VERY sweet and encouraging. I would wager a LOT of women aren't. God Bless You!

[@BALHAM69]

Happy Sunday Courtney. 💜 Thank you for the two videos this weekend Hopefully this week goes well :) i keep seeing the same girl last two Wednesday’s now 😮 i have no idea if i should talk to her or not. 😅 Doesn’t help this being at nighttime. i am happy my team Liverpool won today. ❤

[@OscarBikes]

Good video, but confidence doesn’t grow overnight. I’m trying to build mine back up after marriage of 20 years then wife wanted a divorce is tough. Your videos are very insightful and helpful. Thanks

[@ChrisLyon567]

I've pretty much given up trying to find a girl to date. I"ve been single 30 years encounting. I have never once had a girlfriend, I can't even score a simple date with a woman. why? every single woman I've ever tried asking out would reject me say no because they'd say it's because i'm ugly and not attractive enough to date them. So I'm convinced I'll never experience dating/ relationships etc.

[@autoclearanceuk7191]

Pattaya

[@MikeyP109]

Not buying someone straight up called you ugly.

[@ChrisLyon567]

@@MikeyP109 it is in fact true. I don't care if you believe I say that. you don't know me. but I know what i've dealt with when it comes to women.

[@DineshkumarS-eb1dk]

​@@autoclearanceuk7191It's better to be single and unhappy rather get STDs

[@jugulartara4388]

There is truth to what you said but a lot has to do with being able to find a woman who is looking for a partner. If she is not open to finding someone, it doesn’t matter how well you present yourself. If she has a type and you aren’t it - same result.

[@rogeliogutierrez8757]

The best comedy plays on the truth. Thanks for the laughs. Comedians can make a really good routine from this content.

[@Courtney-Alice-Gargani]

I can’t believe it’s December the year is pretty much over. Have you started your Christmas shopping question

[@davidabarak]

Although it may not be right for everyone, for me it's no problem being friends with women I'd dated and had real interest in. One of my closest friends, and the mother of my "nieces," is someone I dated a few times and had some real interest in. It's the same with a woman who I'd recently dated and was _very_ interested in. It won't work in that sense, but as friends I think we'll be just fine. It's not always an easy transition to "just friends," but it's possible.

[@gracerules2008]

As long as the friendship does not hinder you from moving on to new romantic connections.

[@davidabarak]

@@gracerules2008 Exactly. In my case, although I'd love to have a relationship with this woman, I know it probably won't happen so I've begun dating other women.

[@adventuresofayoungentrepre8683]

I agree. I have female friends who I initially met because I had tried to flirt with them at a bar. These are girls that I would see regularly and while I never got the vibe that they saw me in a romantic or sexual way, we'd be happy to see each other and eventually became friends. I think that platonic female friendships, even you had initially tried to pursue them as more than a friend, are totally fine as long as you know where you stand with them and you don't try to pretend to be "just friends" in order to get in their pants.

[@jasonlui]

I use to struggle with the idea of beauty if someone who looks hot and absolutely drop dead gorgeous then I don't bother talking too or trying to convince i m a good catch. Now being older and wiser i learnt not to be obsessed with beauty and ask myself some questions what flaws does she have, what does she offer besides her beauty. Is she funny caring , loyal , have good family values instilled into her. So now i look pass the beauty and look at the mentality of what that woman is. Is she a good match or fit for me based how her personality is .

[@LeeEverett1]

IMO the whole "she's out of my league" mentality is a prime example of simp behavior. You're already putting her up on a pedastal from the get go due to her looks without knowing a thing about her. I've changed my mindset of "she's out of my league" to "yeah she's attractive but will I even like her?".

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

When did it become popular to confidence-shame men? I mean we encourage obese women to be okay with themselves, but men we call simps? Confidence (for those naturally lacking it) is nothing to be shamed and degraded over. They don't deserve humiliation.

[@FreeOfCharg3]

FairPlay, there was some damn good points in this video 🔥thank you

[@shawnfallahi5616]

I think a first date for coffee is okay. Provided the coffee shop has a steamy shower that I can step out of as I approach her, with a towel tied around my waist and a necklace around my neck😊

[@mattchaserr]

Happy New Year C.C.R ❤🖤

[@T_T.elegram-RealCourtneyRyan]

L̳E̳T̳ D̳I̳S̳C̳U̳S̳S̳ A̳B̳O̳V̳E̳🛐🤷‍♀️🤦‍♂️

[@normancook965]

There is so much talk about beautiful women wanting only extreme type A "chads", and yet my daughter who is considered to be absolutely gorgeous and has a heart of gold wants a nice and gentle guy who cares about her and respects her, and her choices clearly indicate this truth. More often than not, it's guys who put women out of their league and NOT the women they desire. Be yourself and be kind.

[@lawrence31415]

Happy Sunday, Courtney and Fellow Viewers! Hope everyone's December is off to a good start!

[@LatimusChadimus]

About to do a squat double PR

[@lawrence31415]

​@drip369 have a good workout bro!

[@CourtneyRyan]

You too my friend!

[@heraldo623]

I always find for a balance. I require what I can offer. Relationship is exchange. When comparing looks consider woman without her makeup.

[@gajananjoshi404]

The video was indeed helpful, Courtney Ryan ... 👍.

[@badhatharry4323]

had my first date in 3 years last tuesday. no fancy tips nothing helped me get there. she just randomly asked me whether i (dude) would like to date her after we went to see a movie together. said yes, shwoop dating

[@anthonydavis8853]

I have a lot of trauma to overcome from when I was a child. I have never had a girlfriend and I'm 39. I have tried so many times. I hate it when people say to be confident, as if I'm not. I do my best. I'm not afraid to try, like I said I have tried many times. It just hurts and it's sort of like the cycle of eating because you're unhappy and being unhappy because you eat. It's like I can't get a woman because I'm unhappy and I'm unhappy because I can't get a woman. I don't think men are the whole problem though either. I think that women these days put themselves on a pedestal more often than not. But I know that I as the man have to make up for both mine and her shortcomings. It's just very difficult to figure it all out. And now I'm getting older so that doesn't help.

[@MrBlue3rd]

Women are not more scared of rejection than men. When you have all the power of that interaction with a man you dont face the rejection at all.

[@bertog1217]

Wheat Waffles and Rich Copper both say never taking dating advice from a woman. How do you respond to that?

[@simontmn]

Ryan said: "Don't ask a fish how to catch a fish? A fish doesn't want to be caught."

[@rhadiem]

Listen to both if they provide value, this can expose you to female mindset and confirm in your mind what guys teach by with a female example. Not all guys are worth listening to. Having a broad base of knowledge helps you determine what works for you. But I agree don't only listen to women "experts", because they don't have the life perspective of a man. But they are good at saying what they like and don't like, if you can translate womanese, which often is not clear.

[@aelfredrex8354]

There are no leagues. Checkout girl at the local shop or celeb runway models, it's all the same. She'll either give you the eyes or she don't, and that's influenced by how well you would pet her. The progression always starts with Lust. Find it in her eyes and fan the flames. The pretty ones are always offered bad love. They're hungry for the good stuff.

[@carza355]

Really good video but the inherent problem is if you are guy and lack confidence due to constant rejection, very quickly I realized that with no confidence everyone is out of a persons league barring other people with zero confidence.

[@almosthelpless9374]

I've been doing a lot of weightlifting the past 6 months. I figure if I'm in good shape and confident I'll improve my odds.

[@matanyaholmes3964]

Most people base the league on looks. But take that away and what does the person need to have? Values. I always like to imagine. If I married someone but one day I couldn't see anymore. Would that person be the right one to be with?

[@T_T.elegram-RealCourtneyRyan]

L̳E̳T̳ D̳I̳S̳C̳U̳S̳S̳ A̳B̳O̳V̳E̳🛐🤷‍♀️🤦‍♂️

[@chrisquedenbaum3972]

You always have great messages

[@josejr.garcia2228]

Main ones are be confident and don’t put her on a pedestal. Most guys are nervous, and she may find it flattering but the thing that will make you stand out is that you’re not nervous at all. And as long as you don’t put her on a pedestal, you won’t be nervous. There are some women that do want you to put them on a pedestal and think you’re beneath them. Stay away from them. You’ll never do enough.

[@MeneerHerculePoirot]

"Take a pass on a looker once in a while. Let's them know they're human. Don't worry, there'll be another one in due time." - My Dad "Attractive women have no coping mechanism for rejection." - My Dad

[@GaminHasard]

Smart dad. Also. Attractive women are hardly approached by anyone. Go say hello.

[@gortys3929]

The guidelines in this article can be adopted in trying to date any women. This "out of your leauge" thing doesn't matter.

[@MikeyP109]

Agreed, it's complete nonsense.

[@LivinginCentralNewJersey-ep4bq]

I believe that is true; make yourself a better person to find the best person

[@billpiccolo4245]

Excellent video!