The Era of Narcissism and Anxiety: What’s Going On In America?

[@kiag.8484]

In America, children seem to be treated as a problem. I will never understand that. Pets receive more grace, love, and understanding.

[@Joanthebrightone]

Facts

[@ashleyspiano]

It’s despicable .

[@TheHouseofContemplation]

It's amazing. I was in Thailand and children run around all over the place in big loud groups, babies are carried on the backs of mothers, and families typically live together for life. They would tell me "mothers in the West hate being mothers, and children are left alone inside all day". And that is depressingly true. I notice the Thai kids were super respectful, curious and smart. The most notable difference I can see is that American baby boomers embraced the hedonism and consumerism introduced in the "hippie" movement and became so resentful against the "perfect suburban family" image from the 50's that they literally started devaluing children and families staying together. I often wonder why anybody would go against the suburban family lifestyle when it looks idyllic compared to this idiocracy we're now dealing with

[@RebeccaKhan-fx7jf]

Sometimes spoiled and entitled children turn to be narcissistic.

[@Jonasbarbury]

Raised by parents who teach them self love and personal gratification are the most important things in life

[@LJN-jz6jy]

Too much spoiling is not letting the children to grow up

[@ashleyspiano]

Spoiled with the wrong things, yes. But you can’t spoil a baby with true love

[@meeshamarie123]

Often, children that are spoiled are neglected emotionally. The parents will use gift giving instead of quality time and other left languages.

[@elitebutdumb]

​@@meeshamarie123totally!!!

[@elizabethmonsell1847]

Insightful that she noticed mothers today don’t love children, see children as burden. I’ve noticed too, mothers simply outsource the care of her own children, over schedule their kids, do not know how to be with their own children. A lot of half time co-parents.

[@mailill]

I think modern industrialized society has ruined maternal instincts for several generations now. I think it started with the idea that children should sleep in a room alone and have to adapt to a set sleep schedule, and then came non-responsive sleep training. I just learned the following, and many things suddenly fell into place for me: "Non-responsive sleep training has somehow become the “norm”. It’s just what is expected of parents, and it is considered the gold standard in many circles. In our current culture, parents are pressured to ignore their own intuition which usually tells them to respond to their babies’ cries and keep them close. Parents are also made to believe that they are somehow harming their baby, or at the very least not setting them up for success and teaching them the skills they need to be teaching them, but responding to them and supporting them with sleep. *A child having their own crib in their own room was basically unheard of for most of human history, and is still unheard of in many cultures. And a child being left alone as they cry to “teach” them sleep? That wasn’t happening hundreds of years ago, at least not on purpose* " (...) It appears that a cultural shift began to take place in the 1800s during the Industrial Revolution that changed the way doctors and parents perceived infants’ sleep and feeding patterns. This is when the medicalization of motherhood and parenthood took off, that is- mothers began looking to the advice of “experts” (usually doctors or other self-proclaimed parenting experts) to tell them how to parent. It’s interesting to note that this is also around the same time when the medicalization of birth began, and birth began moving from the home to the hospital. It was with this shift towards medicalized childbirth that more separation-based practices between mother and baby were also occurring. It makes sense from a cultural perspective because a massive shift in the way humans lived occurred during this time. There was a shift from living intergenerationally and getting parenting wisdom passed down from their parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles- to moving to larger cities to work in factories, which essentially ended the intergenerational living for many families. Not only this, but people were often very overworked and exhausted with the introduction of shift work and women entering the workforce, so getting babies to adapt to the family’s schedules (including sleep schedules) was a welcome new idea. Some of the first literature about sleep training came about in Germany between the 1830s through the 1890s. This literature focused on helping babies get on sleep schedules and encouraging parents to not rush to comfort babies, but rather let them try to resettle on their own. However, these doctors and experts also recognized that some babies will not be able to resettle on their own and that parents should not be rigid in their approach to sleep. In the late 1800s, there was a rise in concern over germs, and parents were encouraged to not touch their babies so much to prevent transmission of infection. In 1891, Dr. Anna Fullerton wrote A Handbook of Obstetric Nursing in which she advised parents not to pick up their baby every time they cry."" From Taylor Kulik "The surprising history of sleep training" (The whole article is very interesting, I just quoted a small part)

[@annaburns2865]

Yes, as a substitute teacher, and former private school teacher, I have felt that too. It’s bad enough when a child acts out because they aren’t given the time and love they need at home. It’s even worse when parents criticize teachers for not going above and beyond for their child, when they clearly aren’t either. In fact, it’s usually the opposite, where they make their child feel bad for simply getting the parents involved in the child’s life, or academics at all. Even though the child greatly needs them to. I know that as bad as these parents have made me feel, it’s even worse at home for their children. They see their kids as burdens. And that’s putting it mildly.

[@luisacleaves9592]

Yes, true and so sad

[@alenaadamkova5322]

Tammy Peterson explained that when she as 16 years old took birth control pills, it completelly changed her personlity...it created depression. It seems theese pills lower the production of serotonin according some experts, it changes the gut microbiome.. Therefore men dont want to take "birth control" pill, because it creates gain weight, acne, and mood swings. When Tammy Peterson started to use the birth control pills again she said it completelly changed her personality, she had more risky behavior, because it changes the woman´s hormonal balance. Jordan Peterson also noticed the changes. She said that she noticed about modern women they have more risky behavior, maybe because of the pills. That the brain of the woman doesnt realize it. Maybe because of less serotonin. Maybe people should use meditation as a tool to reprogram the mind, to be more calm and happy. Meditation creates an alpha or theta state of mind which is healing. Or amybe women should do exercisea nd sport to increase the happy hormones as serotonin.

[@JezeBellaMorte333]

​@@mailill😢 Thanks for sharing.

[@mellochord]

We are encouraged to be self-absorbed, it is why most people have no close friends. The internet is the modern day reflecting pool, and many people are playing out the myth of Narcissus. They fall in love with virtual life, with their virtual self. Online they are liked, they have "friends". In the real world they are alone, lonely, and wanting anything that allows they to feel they aren't completely forgotten.

[@aMuenchGrinch]

That is a great and scary analogy.

[@Oysters176]

Yep~! Just be 'yourself' they say? Fuck you! Do not 'be yourself' be what the world needs you to be, be what your children, ancestors, future children, ecteria, need you to be.

[@mikenicks7129]

Well said

[@neveragain733]

Excellent analogy

[@Mike_Cosentino]

In my experience, the people in my life who’ve called others narcissistic are the narcissists themselves. And that’s why they burn so many bridges around them whether it be friends, family, romantic partners, business associates, neighbors, members of their community, etc. I choose the path of walking alone now because I have endured enough BS, drama, future-faking, gaslighting, outright lying, victim-blaming, invalidation for a lifetime. The narcissists will actively choose to stay around and stir the pot of drama while the real ones walk away from such bad situations. Narcissists love drama, even if they claim they don’t. They need to punish those who’ve wronged them, no matter how cruel. They need to manipulate others, no matter who they hurt. They need you at all hours of the day and year, to the detriment of yourself. You are the unpaid helper, walking apology, the trauma bond, walking wallet, ATM machine, doormat, free therapist, punching bag, sounding board- til you don’t choose to be.

[@cuzinofie6]

Wow. So good 🙌🏼

[@LoveofConnectivePhysics]

💯 % Facts my friend. 👋

[@Mike_Cosentino]

@@LoveofConnectivePhysics 💯 😌 👍

[@2008LadyLaura]

I agree with a lot of those patterns. I understand what your saying but if someone is showing traits and you say I think they are narcissist doesn’t mean your a narcissist.

[@ginalangston9428]

Experience of understanding is typically equivalent to experience of abuse. This tells me you have experienced more than your fair share. My heart goes out. You are never alone though. There are two creations on Earth. John 8:44-45 King James Version 44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it. Matthew 13:36 Context 33Another parable spake he unto them; The kingdom of heaven is like unto leaven, which a woman took, and hid in three measures of meal, till the whole was leavened. 34All these things spake Jesus unto the multitude in parables; and without a parable spake he not unto them: 35That it might be fulfilled which was spoken by the prophet, saying, I will open my mouth in parables; I will utter things which have been kept secret from the foundation of the world. 36Then Jesus sent the multitude away, and went into the house: and his disciples came unto him, saying, Declare unto us the parable of the tares of the field. 37He answered and said unto them, He that soweth the good seed is the Son of man; 38The field is the world; the good seed are the children of the kingdom; but the tares are the children of the wicked one; 39The enemy that sowed them is the devil; the harvest is the end of the world; and the reapers are the angels. We may wear the same dying flesh but our essence is not of the same Creator . Tares walk among us, hidden in the plain sight of flesh... they are here for souls. To separate us from our Father. Our shepherd is waking us, leading His pack. The Alpha. Once we wake, It is us who are wolves in sheep's clothing. Blessings, South Carolina.

[@glenliesegang233]

One persons opinion: Narcissists create whirlwinds of chaos around themselves because they are constantly running fom ttheir conscience, which is silently keeping track of every bit of damage their selfish actions have caused others. Their hell is seeing what their choices have created.

[@Sarara-mv5sx]

I was so close to my nieces when they were kids - but I lived out of town. Fast forward to the present. I hate to say it, but I don't like the young adults they've become. And yes, I blame my flaky, self-absorbed "red wine mom!" sisters.

[@nicky4114]

I’m 23 and I’ll say that when u grow up with all these social media accounts you become too aware of yourself. It’s a narcissism machine. You can’t blame them, you just have to try to teach them.

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

​@nicky4114 there is no too aware of yourself. if they're being narcissists then you're being too much towards your negative yourself only a person who truly self loves themselfs then they will not be narcissistic in that way. did you watch the video? everything is for yourself. everything you do is for yourself no matter what it is. if you're taking your kids to school to be safe, that is for you. the only difference between self love and narcissistic love is that self love is for you only and the other or other s s only and the other love is only of yourself and for yourself only and not the other or the other s s only.

[@nicky4114]

@@ichigotheg.o.a.t Yes there is such thing as being too aware of the self. We are designed to direct our attention at our environment for social and survival reasons. Social media requires you to create an avatar which makes children painfully aware of themselves. We need to teach these children how to stop thinking about themselves and start serving others, developing a skill, etc. Social media is a mental illness factory.

[@LauraHamm-y3l]

Well said!@@nicky4114

[@roastbeef4918]

Blame yourself egotist

[@kp6537]

She completely left out children whose parents put them on pedestals and they can do no wrong that end up being full blown narcs

[@CheddarBae90]

That's called the golden child. The black sheep is the one that usually breaks free from the cycle of narcissism.

[@baboys86]

There are parents who let their child fetch whatever they want from the store or market, just because they have lots of money...they don't understand that child will grow up to be their enemy...

[@TheOriginalXultar]

Yeah it makes me wonder about the rest of the content in the video honestly.

[@southbug27]

Thomas Markle put Meghan Markle on a pedestal & never told her no. He was still paying off her student loans when she was married & when she was getting a large salary on Suits. On the other hand Doria Ragland abandoned her for over a decade of her childhood & supposedly couldn’t be bothered to pay any attention to her for the few years that she was around. It’s no wonder she turned out to be such a horrible person.

[@EmEftee]

@@CheddarBae90😅

[@SDriver1111]

Times have really changed. When I was growing up, it was much more common for an infant, toddler, young child to be in their mothers' care. Now after a few weeks or months after birth, it is very common for these infants and toddlers to be in the care of others. This may have become "normal" in the U.S., but it's certainly not the natural order of caretaking and as we are starting to clearly see, it's not healthy. You didn't hear much of parents going on girls or guys weekends or vacations. Weekends and vacations were family time.

[@x-mess]

Neglected kids makes for narcissistic/self centered/selfish people because they learned early on that ‘nobody’s going to help me so I better take care of myself!’ … not an excuse but a reason that I’ve observed!

[@satyamdheeraj]

If we search for meaning of narcissism in dictionary, it usually says "excessive" admiration for self etc etc. So basically the very definition of narcissism is an excessive or 'malignant' form of selfishness, which manifests in feelings of extreme entitlement, lack of empathy etc. When someone who is an expert in the field of psychology starts playing fast and loose with the very definition, by defining some contradiction-in-terms such as "healthy narcissism" (cells do grow but unless the growth gets uncontrolled you don't call it 'healthy cancer') it becomes hard to continue to listen. I wonder if the tendency to distort standard definitions of terms - which definitely obfuscates the meaning - without any clear benefit, other than sounding intelligent, has something to do with narcissism.

[@purpessenceentertainment9759]

I agree with you. We are all on a sliding scale of narcissism. That is why it’s important to step outside the self and become present. Only in presence can we connect. We connect with ourselves during meditative practices or flow states, we connect with others when we try to understand their point of view in life and not think about what we’re going to say or do later. Slowing down can help us see clear. We’re primitive beings in an advanced society. We don’t need anything but each other. We’ve lost spiritual practices. The spiritual journey is what makes you find yourself. Whatever that road is for you, it is the path you must follow. For me, it’s knowing that my life is futile, human existence is a blink of an eye, and that I know nothing. I am you and you are me.

[@KayRay424]

Agree…there is “healthy” self assurance or confidence. I like your cell analogy.

[@JeffreyThomas-ol6vu]

That was very well said, you seem very intelligent, I've been diagnosed with all forms of mental illness and I just don't see how, I think some "psychiatrists" are crazier than the patients.

[@satyamdheeraj]

@@JeffreyThomas-ol6vu May be it's the case of someone only having a hammer seeing everything as a nail. On a lighter note look happy - mania; look sad - depression; look afraid - neurosis; look angry - rageaholic or something. Sometimes I feel the only thing people are expected to feel in the first world is greed! Everything else is classified as a problem in DSM-5 🤦‍♂️😅

[@Solscapes.]

Narcissism is ever obscured by the narcissists.

[@Marozi1]

Social media has fuelled narcissism, nobody took photos of themselves when I was a teenager but now many people take loads every day then add filters etc and post them online for validation, girls are worse as they will always gush compliments to friends no matter what they really think whereas guys will often be jokingly critical.

[@richlisola1]

Everyone has narcissistic traits. Narcissism is a severe disorder-A person with zero empathy. That is a narcissist. Dangerous.

[@gabrielamcb9157]

It makes a lot of sense I never understood why my mum even she was orphan she is narcissist … the level of neglect she suffered made her this way. Thank you for solving this question I have had for 40 years.

[@randymiller2460]

It is interesting that she said that she became interested in psychiatry or psychological analysis while in therapy herself. I think that most people who chose psychiatry as a study path and career do so as a result of trying to figure out their own psychological problems or from exposure to someone close that they know who suffers from a psychological disorder.

[@darialo8740]

100%.

[@mailill]

"Freud said to be happy you have to have love and meaningful and purposeful work" Me: Laughing hysterically

[@danielledegeorge2129]

Freud is right! Those are the very things my narcissist stole from me: love and being able to open my own business. I'm not laughing. 😔

[@mailill]

@@danielledegeorge2129 I am sorry to hear that! I hope you will be able to repair the damages they did to you. I guess "not laughing" and "laughing hysterically" are two sides of the same coin. However I am starting to think that both "love" and "meaning" are more internal than external.

[@roastbeef4918]

Lmao there isnt a meaningful existence to be had in the United States of Prostitution

[@danielledegeorge2129]

The Bible says in the end times people will be lovers of self. There it is, right from God's word!

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

not what that means but okay people have been lovers of themselves even in Roman times yet were still here I hate how people miscontrue the Bible like stuff the Bible hasn't been saying hadn't been true for the last 10000 years come on now man Jesus christ Jesus christ come on now man Jesus christ Jesus christ.

[@roastbeef4918]

Another pacifist bible thumper

[@Happycamper10]

Exactly

[@nvm7191]

We must be far from the end because realistically people have never been less happy with themselves

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

@nvm7191 Yeah, exactly people hate themselves so much. they're doing the opposite of loving than they did 10 years ago. 10 years ago when I was in high school people loved themselves way more in a selfish manner but ironically they also loved selflessly too and they wanted to love other people and they wanted to love others but it's not so ironic when you understand everything is for the self but self love is for you and others while selfishness and selfish behavior is for you only. the Bible means when we're all just for ourselves, and that definitely ain't happening right now, and it hasn't happened yet. when we love others and ourselves and we love ourselves and we're so desperately to love others but we can't or unable to that's not just loving ourselves that's unable to love others right now which is different. which is different from what the Bible is saying the Bible is saying when we love ourselves and when we only ourselves loves no one else and never no one else which is the true selfishness which is the true lover of only ourselves.

[@CesarNostradamus-wj9uq]

Our entire lives she tried to make me and my brothers out to be crazy but she never admitted she was nuts

[@mariannami8049]

Narcissism is the scourge of advanced countries where the main focus is materialism where there’s no place for love and care, selflessness. No wonder children are neglected. From my experience, I do not have 100 % time for my kid because my profession needs constant upskill, upgrade, etc. Yes, this is a ridiculous society these days.

[@Joanthebrightone]

I wonder if hunter/gather societies had narcissism? Otherwise, it’s worldwide rich or poor.

[@glenliesegang233]

For a woman to choose to work (as opposed to, "must work to provide for") when it means their children will be harmed, is a form of narcissism. Evil is whatever prevents the flourishing, the reaching of maximal potential, so this is evil. "I must be satisfied" vs, "What's best for my kids?"

[@nano7586]

No, we don't live in an era of narcissism and anxiety. We live in an era of a system that forces us to have narcissistic and anxious traits. There is a difference between a root-cause in the population itself and a root-cause in a system that is forced upon us. Our biology hasn't changed since thousands of years, roughly spekaing, but we develop these coping mechanisms because something is wrong with the world, and not ourselves. We have to stop pathologizing humans and start pathologizing systems. Seeking for the guilt outside and not inside. Psychologists and the whole "science" of psychology is so flawed. Only 39% of psychology studies are replicable. That's like playing a guessing game. And people like this psychologist feel morally entitled to call an entire population whatever they intuitively feel like, based on some criteria that other people have also intuitively set, because psychology is a pseudoscience and there are committees playing god. Personally working in a scientific field I sometimes think even the easiest experiments will generate predictable outcomes, but there are so many covariates and unknown factors that are hard to control. Now imagine trying to predict the outcome of all humans. That's just nonsense.

[@snorriivan6365]

The real outcome is our destruction as a species.

[@justachannel8600]

I agree. I really dread looking at my LinkedIn. Yet somehow it feels you have to play the bs look-at-me game or you are stuck in a job far below your qualifications.

[@Rose-vp1sn]

This lady just won a trophy 🏆

[@RayneyKayLa]

Great video ! Its like the scales fall off your eyes when you notice how institutional chikd are and education facilities are NOT designed for the best interest or development of the child ---- its simply just to outsource child rearing as early as possible. The early detachment combined with the artificial attention online is a twisted combination ---of which we are just beginning to have concrete data and time --to assess the far reaching affects. All i know is that im a SAHM intentionally to my small kids, will homeschool, and are keeping them away from an interactive screen for as long as possible.

[@visualapologetics4891]

Good choices!! I am in my 60s, and have been studying these things many years as two of my children struggled with anxiety and depression. I am seeing the main stream conversation finally start, but in the next few years, everyone will begin to understand how damaging the screens have been. I encourage you to do your best to keep your kids screen free until at least age 3, and hopefully age 5. they are disrupting the way the mind develops. Lots of new information about screens, causing true addiction patterns in the minds of children. Stick to your guns, don’t let anyone convince you to not do what you’re doing! It will pay very big dividends for you just a few years down the road.

[@RayneyKayLa]

@@visualapologetics4891 That's great ! Oh it's going to be beyond age 5. They are never getting a tablet or smart phone. Nope. A few movies on TV and all their books are what they love now and we'll keep it the same. They can have a taste when they are around other kids...but for me and my house....we don't serve the digital empire.

[@stillraven9415]

🎶this is the beginning of age of the narcissist 🎶🎶

[@pandoraaaraseth1040]

I agree with you, but we may still disagree vehemently bc: In my opinion, she is giving excuses that do not exist (bc narcissism is an offset of a sociopathic personality, someone who cannot meaningfully emote with others in my experience), as a venue for treating those people, selling books to those people, medicating or counseling those people to what would be monetary success. True narcissism cannot be cured although the facets or symptoms can be managed IF the narcissist sees value in doing so. You cannot fix their inability to have true human connection and healing. She is telling a group of people who anyone in the know condemns, that "it's not their fault", and I assure you they already whole heartedly believe they are not in the wrong (even if they admit they know they are different, they believe often that their difference is truly correct or proper and everyone else is weak or faulted), aka exactly what they want to be told, what they are already convinced of, no healing will occur. However many relationships with those people may suffer as the narcissist now has professional support that "they" are not the problem. This is sick.

[@billtomson5791]

I'm your Higher Self and I approve of this message.

[@Ihatethis1Futubeowningplay]

I love it when someone explains what they are yet doesn't know they are explaining them self.

[@stillraven9415]

@@Ihatethis1Futubeowningplay you uncovered my secret identity 😳

[@biggdogg1870]

@@Ihatethis1Futubeowningplayif you were born the 3rd child it’s impossible to be a narcissist.it depends on the parents if they gain narcissistic supply from the child.

[@LouieG7777]

I’ll tell you one thing; this generation wasn’t spanked.

[@truthnotlies]

😅🤣😂

[@wallacesrdonegan9987]

I don't know am I supposed to be ashamed of myself because I'd never spanked my son-in his entire life or hit him in any physical way ever

[@hotkeyafl]

This whole generation is based on narcissism.

[@Zxx459]

Cuz moms were not loving? Or self absorbed? Or Because they spoil their kids too much....and kids become super entitlement?

[@Gingerphile00]

and the millennials, gen x and boomers weren't?

[@roastbeef4918]

Yes you are right, boomers are extremely narcissistic

[@ianlawrie]

Of course it's not my fault. My parents are to blame for everything. How about taking responsibility for your own actions?

[@kyleschneider3147]

​@Gingerphile00 You see how your comment says "but what about everyone else!?" You don't see the issue in that?

[@alwaysyouramanda]

Happy Father’s Day, Dad! These kids are FFVCKED UP

[@foumar5217]

She’s a social worker and psychoanalist. Thats like zero credentials

[@FiremarshalM1]

Self Respect > Self Esteem and self respect is garnered by doing hard work and being successful at it.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Ty Jesus ❤❤❤

[@artgrathartgrath3451]

Don't forget the economic and political side of why people don't want to have kids

[@artgrathartgrath3451]

@@mancunianmartin558 yes definitely a good argument

[@chautran2588]

Being neglected caused my mom, my aunts turn into narcissistic. And someone else I've known for life. At least two of them were diagnosed with schizophrenia. Is there a link between narcissistic and schizophrenia? One is desperately malignant sadistic narcissistic.

[@TheOldMan1911]

You know what bothers narcissist people the most is when you ignore them and don’t acknowledge them 😂😂😂 remember just mind your business and do your job and let them destroy themselves. Believe me this works he or she eventually will start insulting you out of frustration and that’s when you voice record them and present it to HR!!! 😂😂😂

[@oralie.bordeaux]

Curious if you have lined up the fact that toxic mold creates an environment where people end up with chronic anxiety and depression.

[@barkebaat]

Dad Saves America seems to have forgotten to state, in the title or in the description, the name of the lady he's talking to. I gather she's called Erica. Bit sloppy that ...

[@amorerobinson4140]

Erica Komisar

[@MsLisa551]

"Narcissism" is over used. 🙄 We have a bunch of spoiled brats on our hands. The "I want it now generation." That's because parents like myself gave too much,, as I drove my helicopter self around to make sure she never was in danger or had enough, or more,, or needed emotional support. No spankings. We over did, far from neglect! The generation of parents that grew up in dysfunction and trauma promised to do better and they did. We created lil entitled monsters. I had a conversation with my 24 year old daughter about goals and how life is about the climb to the top of the mountain. She told me she just wants to stand at the top, not interested in climbing. Ugh Also, we rewarded our kids for everything, good grades, oh you got your period, you need a gift, oh she's a good kid let's get it for her. Now look. Self absorbed, everything is about how she feels and who is offensive and I want it now. Spoiled!

[@SriSrinivasable]

Not just in America, happens all around the world. I was born to extremely narcissistic and manipulative parents and added a blackout-drunk uncle who used to beat the living shit out of me. Ran away from that damn country, and found a good woman here in USA who helped me with therapy, as i wanted to start my own legacy and not be like my God-given family.

[@brandiwatch]

Well spoken lady!

[@rawlvee]

indeed

[@mudeye5739]

'Bad Apples, Bad Barrels and Bad Barrel-Makers' enough said.

[@tizzlekizzle]

Caring about yourself and liking yourself is not narcissism.

[@bristolcorvid8894]

Ah, yes! Another “expert” dragged out of her box to string together one exhausted cliche with another…”Good narcissism”… the myth of narcissus… Then they sit with smug self-assurance but haven’t added anything to the conversation - and they lost a good opportunity to provide practical guidance. Small wonder the disciplines of psychiatry and psychology spin round and round & get nowhere…

[@truthnotlies]

Lol. Here’s an average person’s take for those obsessed with themselves but also unhappy: delete the social media apps and go out and do something for the real people in your lives. A self-sacrificial attitude in helping others around you never fails to bring joy into your life. Also, the real connections with people will draw your attention off yourself and onto so much more….. but we are the psychologists 🤪

[@truthnotlies]

*aren’t

[@bristolcorvid8894]

@@truthnotlies Well said, Truth!🌟

[@MichaelSOlan]

Made me think of the possibility that it’s a lot easier to treat a phobia, in theory, than a general sense of anxiety. The specificity alone anchors us to an object that allows for a discernment of a course of action. Whereas a general sense of anxiety forces us to identify feared stimuli that are approximate (so we think) to the actual concern at hand. Not that a phobia can’t be an approximation, but the fact that the feared stimuli can be readily identified is certainly helpful!

[@a-ja-j1696]

I think we got the narcissistic inflammation around the world specially in politics 🤔🧐

[@jamesgill6213]

wrong wrong wrong

[@janedolores79]

Huh?

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Phones and games

[@theonewhomjesusloves7360]

its all ASD , and no one is looking into WHY????

[@MrChelcy1]

That doesn’t make you evil which so many narcs are.

[@visualapologetics4891]

Agreed. Not a word, said about nutrition, or the addictive qualities of the screens. All the experts are so compartmentalized.

[@Jonasbarbury]

Erica is somewhat resposible for the mess we're in now

[@Joanthebrightone]

Nothing new under the sun.

[@user-cjs9jp3fj2q]

Thank you thank you so much for your research and your time and your sacrifice Im it's only symptoms of narssitium

[@johnmurray6636]

This is a fantastic interview Intelligent on air for a welcome change

[@paxwallace8324]

Her sympathetic opening analysis of the source of Narcissism is ironic given that the most identifying salient characteristic of Narcissism is a dimminished capacity for empathy.

[@annaynely]

The system wants problems the more the better so the so called professionals have "work".

[@Joanthebrightone]

Family breakdown = $$$

[@cuzinofie6]

Wow wow wow wow wow. 🙌🏼 😱 makes sO much sense

[@otisdriftwood1697]

This showed just below a video honoring Marie Barone not a coincidense ??? 😳

[@aMuenchGrinch]

Everybody Loves Raymond

[@ChristopherRaymond-zs6wv]

But ms... Plato taught self-knowledge, know thyself... self reflect...no one... including ones parents can only help self knowledge to a point and must kick the fledgling out of the nest as a late teenager at the latest...any later is too late and it shows today in our lost adults of 20-40 year olds...

[@CesarNostradamus-wj9uq]

I was the youngest of three boys and my mom wanted a girl I was the last chance. I always make the joke I have been a disappointment ever since. I forgive her I just wish I had basic respect and what was my money that was taken that’s all. I can forgive her own mistakes. She really struck a cord with me ever since I was a kid in the 80’s I felt so much stress and yelling and screaming at home I never understood this world. I never understood why their was so much screaming.

[@rhyfeddu]

When did basic self esteem become "healthy narcissism" though?

[@ElRayDelRio]

Whoah is me 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@tubezzztube]

100!! She absolutely strikes me as someone who "Saw the Light!!" in 'Therapy' and now thinks she has ALL the answers to everyone else's problems 🙄🤮 Typical 80s Me-Generation product, got old, and gone wrong. Used to work at Calvin Klein as some "writer" and now she has the answers because she had an Awakening in her Therapists Office? Oiy Vey.

[@wmgodfrey1770]

This stuff she's talking about is Dr. Gabor Maté content adjacent.

[@russbischoff9735]

If we don't wake up soon, we'll all be singing, "Bye Bye Miss American Pie" - Welcome to the United States of America, owned and operated by Communist China with easy access to all from our Mexican border. 🇺🇲 Bringing manufacturing back home to the USA and protecting own southern border is going to end up being not only a key to restoring our economy, but to maintaining our national security as well 🇺🇲 🇨🇳 SUPPLY CHAIN ISSUES MATTER 🇨🇳 CHINESE TRADE WAR VIRUS MATTERS 🇨🇳 🇺🇲 MADE IN THE USA by US CITIZENS MATTERS 🇺🇸 We need tariffs that are proportionate to the inequities in wages, regulations, subsides, taxes and tariffs in the country where the goods were actually produced and or where we’re importing them from - Including country of origin, even when imported from another 3rd party country - We could then use the money raised by these tariffs to help companies build state of the art manufacturing plants here in the USA, which would create more jobs here at home for US citizens, which would then in turn increase our income tax revenue. Humm - Let me guess - Oh, here comes the Old Tariffs = Socialism / Trade war BS - Sorry, they're right removing them has worked out so well for the American People and the Real American Economy. Oh yeah right - Here they come with the old Smoot-Hawley myth. Smoot-Hawley is a notorious deliberately fabricated classic FreeTraitor excuse, based on an act from way back in 1929 no less. Hello it's 2024 - Why not base your economic thoughts on the Fred Flintstone era? We should not allow this mythical excuse to paralyze our policy making in the present day modern era. Nothing less than an actual tariff or the equivalent is ever going to get Beijing to stop gaming the international trading system to America's disadvantage. What about the tariffs and VAT that other countries use on our products? - Not to mention the foreign industries that are subsidized by their governments, including communist China. No matter how the globalist-free-marketeers and FreeTraitors try to spin it - Our huge trade deficits and indebtedness to foreign countries like communist China are obviously not in the best interest of our country or the American people. It's Not Rocket Science - Since the FreeTraitors have had their way of it, our largest export has been American jobs and money. Wake up America - China is where way too many of our food products, medicines and supplements are being processed and manufactured. Bringing manufacturing back home to the USA and protecting own southern border is going to end up being not only a key to restoring our economy, but to maintaining our national security as well. The people with all of the excuses as to why we can't, shouldn't or aren't willing to manufacture products here in the US are the same people who have provided us with the very same shortsighted thinking that's gotten us into this mess in the first place. If more people would have listened to Ross Perot back in 1992, America wouldn't be in this mess - Turns out he was right. We don't need homes full of cheap foreign products, but we do need jobs that will allow us to keep up with the mortgage, healthcare costs, higher education loans, etc..... - If it wasn't for all the outsourcing and insourcing taking away income-tax-paying American's jobs and driving down wages, we would have bank accounts cluttered with cash, instead of homes cluttered with cheap foreign products and buried in debt. Wake up America - We've become a consumer driven debt ridden society. Wanting trade and immigration policies that will put the best interests of our own US CITIZENS first and foremost, especially our veterans is not racist, fascist, or socialist - It's common sense, if you're an American of any race, creed, or gender. Let's face it, China fought a trade war using a biological weapon, the corrupt manipulative NWO backed US media and US puppet politicians. If we don't wake up soon, we'll all be singing, "Bye Bye Miss American Pie" - Welcome to the United States of America, owned and operated by Communist China with easy access to all from our Mexican border. 🇺🇲 We finally had a president that was doing something about our traitorous trade and immigration policies - But the corrupt manipulative media, establishment puppet politicians and their masters blatantly fought the American People tooth and nail every step of the way. 🇨🇳 Joe Biden is not just totally corrupt, but incompetent as well - It's about time that America starts holding globalist establishment puppet politicians and the corrupt manipulative media accountable. If we don't have the funds to build the wall along our own southern border - Then let's stop sending American tax-payer funded financial aid to foreign countries, stop financial aid to illegal aliens, stop importing cheap labor, stop allowing and enabling US jobs and industries to be outsourced to foreign countries and do not import foreign fuel, steel nor electronics used in our military weapons, national defense systems and power grids - Build the wall and guard the border using our drone and satellite surveillance systems to find and turn back unauthorized intruders - Also, hire our veterans and former law enforcement officers to monitor and minimize visa over stays. NEWS FLASH MEDIA PROPAGANDISTS and GLOBALIST ESTABLISHMENT POLITICIANS - Our leaders are supposed to be elected by the citizens of the United States of America to represent the interests of those citizens and the country itself - They are not supposed to be representing Wall Street, lobbyist, international corporations, the globalist-free-marketeers (WTO, NAFTA, TPP, KORUS, NWO), foreign citizens, foreign interests or illegal aliens - And it’s about time that all of our so called leaders start honoring that fact. One thing that became obvious during and after the last two presidential elections, is that establishment puppet politicians, the corrupt manipulative media and their globalist masters just consider the American people to be collateral damage in their game of globalization and cheap wages. It's about time that America starts holding globalist establishment puppet politicians and the corrupt manipulative media accountable. SPEAKING OF SCIENCE DENIERS 🇨🇳 COVID-19 PLANDEMIC 🇨🇳 WHAT A COINCIDENCE 🇨🇳 🇨🇳 Yes media propagandists and puppet politicians, we should all just close our eyes and accept the results of a blatantly obvious fraudulent presidential election, after listening to four years of Russia, Russia, Russia, false racism, media race monger and paid agitator inspired riots, the blatant cover-up of the Biden family's corruption, and then the false narrative and optics of a fake insurrection, just so the NWO Elites can keep making everything in China 🇨🇳 🇺🇲 ENOUGH IS ENOUGH ALREADY 🇺🇲 TRUMP WON and WE ALL KNOW IT 🇺🇸 Even most actual Biden voters with even an ounce of common sense. The corrupt politicians and media propagandists that covered up Biden's corruption and the blatantly obvious stolen presidential election are just as bad as Biden himself.

[@newjerseylion4804]

Who is she? I saw her on Lila Rose show

[@MoonBurn13]

Not bad.

[@annaburns2865]

This woman is way off base. I have lived with neglect for basically my whole life. But nothing could make me become an evil narcissist.

[@JuneKovac]

These psychoanalysts are FOS having to justify the fact of their relevance. It boils down to good or bad parenting, and we all know the ‘joys’ of having children, right?

[@ScallywagArtist]

1.) There's no such thing as healthy narcissism, thats just called self esteem 2.) Narcissism isn't just a response to neglect, its also a response to abuse, trauma, and it can also be genetic, as personality disorders often are.

[@marthaolmsted4029]

You are only reporting on half of the story. The neglected person needs to be given a resentment based solution to their pain for them to become a narcissist.

[@x-mess]

What do u mean? Can you elaborate or give an example? I’d love to learn more!

[@46magno]

Talking about narcissism,could you bring on other show about Ann Ryan apersonarse so loved by those who want to become millionaires using aRyann’ s theory the individualism under the principle that individuality like you don’t need everybody to be successful ,in opposition to the working in group. Was Ann Ryan a sick narcissist?

[@DadSavesAmerica]

I recommend you spend more time with Ayn Rand with an open mind. Her core philosophy is about earning your success through creating value for other people. That’s how she (and I) understand the free enterprise system to properly work. You’re not wrong that her basic focus on “selfishness” does start with the premise the one must love one’s self and no undermine your own self worth in the name of other people. Taken to an extreme, that can be toxic narcissism. But we all recognize the need to value and love yourself to some degree. You can have a narcissism score that’s too low. Empathy and compassion can easily become smothering, toxic and destructive too. Erica says as much. So did dr. Drew. Two things can be true at the same time. We are all individuals with desires and potential and unique dignity that should never be used as an instrument for someone else’s designs and whims… AND we are a social creature who finds meaning in voluntary service to others starting with our own families. We crave community. But we are individuals, not the Borg. The Borg was a villain in Star Trek for a reason.

[@Tenebarum]

​@@DadSavesAmericaWasn't Ayn Rand an atheist?

[@RichardCThurston]

“Was Ayn Rand a sick narcissist”? Absolutely. And creator of some of the worst prose ever written.

[@DadSavesAmerica]

@@Tenebarum she was, for sure. Nobody's perfect.

[@haniaboufadel309]

There's no such thing as healthy narcissism. I disagree with that

[@HeathStephens-l2o]

👍

[@Videopokergal-ux3gf]

Good grief, people obviously make the decision to have children!🙄

[@bansheesioux5569]

Who is she?

[@RealNyeTheScienceGuy]

She gets it… where do we find woman like this?

[@nemurerumaboroshi]

Most psychologists unfortunately don't understand narcissism, including Erica.

[@niibarnorsaba]

Explain please?

[@nemurerumaboroshi]

@@niibarnorsaba narcissism is a basic social instinct that makes us care about what other members of our tribe think of us. All healthy people are narcissists. There is no such thing as good narcissism or bad narcissism. In fact people with narcissism not working are sociopaths. Sociopaths do not care what other members of their tribe think about them. What Erica is telling us is outdated speculation about how human mind works. Basically psychoanalysis was shown to be unscientific long ago and that's why they don't train at universities. However, this nonsense still circulates in society and often repeated by scientists and clinicians probably because they have nothing better to say.

[@darlabeeson3174]

❤ AMERICANS HAVE UNITED ♥️ AMERICA STANDS WITH TRUMP ❤ UNA FAMILIA AMERICA ♥️ ONE FAMILY ❤

[@J3llybeanAray]

AVP 👽 ...../ Yeah it is / just checking on you

[@MainHouse-kf3tb]

😮

[@kendalldawson162]

Some called daydreamer/~jng, realistic practicality is good. Anxiety we have all inalienable rights and parents are against them though they been through it, and why? What is gratuitous violence against on own children called?

[@roastbeef4918]

Learn some grammar

[@kendalldawson162]

Abuse, and if parents have then they're in prison, and happens in prison...

[@janettesmith369]

Hummmm

[@bryansmith2479]

Shes not the best at the subject but at least its being discussed

[@Deanna-o2b]

Was into this until she quotes Frued😭

[@FiremarshalM1]

Lots and lots of generalizations. Do we have statistics on the degree this impacts people? Sounds more like a "father wound" than narcissism???

[@SD-iy3sp]

Not impressed with her definitions and expmanations, not impressed at all.

[@CesarNostradamus-wj9uq]

That’s why the boomers where labeled the microwave generation. Me me me now now now

[@themeat5053]

Try Church, doctor.

[@WorstNightmare420]

Trump.

[@JohnMcmillin-br8tk]

Well that explains trump.

[@visualapologetics4891]

Yeah. Well. It takes a bit of narcissism to walk into the pit of vipers our government has become and effect change.

[@serious_philosopheegeez2294]

Gorgeous woman

[@connieinman2467]

She is ridiculous! I had four children and never saw them as a burden!!! Wow! She must not be talking about staying at her mom’s! She must be talking about herself! I was totally in love with my children. I still am. I bonded with my babies. She needs to clarify what she is saying because if I’m mother doesn’t bond with her babies, maybe they would feel that they are a burden. Yikes!!!

[@johnsainz3056]

Wrong answer. Another screaming Liberal

[@narcissone8165]

Narcissism is pure thinking. Life is free from corruption and compromise. Narcissistic people are genuine, authentic, kind, and compassionate people to be the most beautiful.

[@unclecreepy8343]

❤ I lost the old hag at Narcissist 😂❤

[@Mark-v8u8k]

Safetyism

[@J3llybeanAray]

AVP 👽 Right / im sure it is / i get that/ hhhm 🤔/ I'll try to come back

[@Gingerphile00]

what a meaningless framing. EVERY age is the age of narcissism and anxiety. thats human nature.