The fear of Losing Loved Ones - Thanatophobia

[@DarrenFMagee]

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[@sumairairfan3225]

Hi Darren! Thanks for explaining it so well. I have a fear of loosing my mother and feel that I lost out of time when I could have built lovely memories with her . The time I spent being so consumed in my own financial distress , I could have used productively to build an emotional connect. Now I have anxiety and want to know how to help myself get out of it . Please help !

[@imaneimane9132]

Hello Sir. This is the first time I see your video.And i need your help.please! I'm a talented painter..i can paint beautiful landscape ...i love painting g since i was 4 years old ! But my problem is that i can't do it because i have this belelieve that if i paint i will lose someone i love!!! It's so ambarrasing to say it loud..i know its not real ...but i can't get rid of these thoughts!! Any advice please?! Thanks

[@yasminelmalah7558]

Thank you so much for explaining this. I always have these thoughts of losing my family, it makes me can't breathe but know. I have never seen anyone explain it. At least now I know what I have and I can work on helping myself

[@yasminelmalah7558]

​@@imaneimane9132I hope you started painting again

[@BlueCollarD.I.Y]

Just lost my dog on 26th..15 years single best friend..... Anything on extreme grief from losing an animal?

[@AsherTheFemboy]

I dont fear myself dying i fear losing my loved ones and it breaks my heart tbh i cant sleep i cant even think right

[@bzrd7501]

I have the worst fear of losing my grandfather who is ky best friend, it is very tough seeing him grow older and start to have some medical problems. I always wonder what I am going to do when he leaves this world because I really don't know how I am going to handle it. 😞

[@jennyferjay]

Worrying about my mum and nan dying is ruining my life. Don’t know what to do. Seen a few therapists and none have helped!

[@aditipandey8415]

So true, I can't get over this fact that time is running in 2x speed nd while I'm getting over my teen years and entering 20s it hurts thaybthey are getting older, what to do I can die, bt I can't see people dying my ones especially it's horrible

[@rohitvaishya874]

​@@jennyferjay how are you feeling now ?

[@crazystar7204]

@@aditipandey8415how did you work upon that.?

[@lesegomoncho3686]

I'm in fear everyday it scares me so much.

[@rileybergin4857]

I feel it's ridiculous that I experience such anxiety about something that hasn't happened yet. It's like grieving so far in advance...but I find it so hard to ignore...My therapist advised just trying to ground myself in the present...which was kind of my thinking too...but not really helpful... To hear it put into words exactly what I'm anxious about: losing the connection...is oddly cathartic. Thank you.

[@vishesh-13]

How are you doing now?

[@onliner3748]

As a kid I hated the thought of my parents or family dying. I remember my dad holding me, telling me he intended to see me become an adult before he died. I remember holding onto him tighter, just crying. I remember sticking close to my mom and dad, fearing they might get hurt. It feels so unreal now. My dad died early last year and he didn't get to see me be an adult. He didn't get to see me be a better person. I can't help but be even more closer to my mom. I talk to her lots and even if we're not talking I'll still sit or stand near her. I'm gonna bring it up to my therapist and hopefully it goes well🤙

[@rosie6]

I am so sorry man… hugs

[@onliner3748]

@@rosie6 Thank you :)

[@De_rekening_a.u.b.]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[@liza8136]

I feel the same 😢 I just think that before my parents die I want to die first..

[@Samystick]

I always feel the same, can you tell me what the therapist advised you to do

[@sowmyanamachivayam1392]

I can't sleep because of this.

[@jrod19437]

me rn

[@rejv2876]

Same😕

[@adrianvang4560]

@@rejv2876 does it ever get better?

[@theinevitable5905]

So I'm not alone......but here it's not just sleeping but everywhere.

[@gxt1425]

If unhave ocd

[@cookie_gacha1560]

I'm scared to lose my mom..

[@milky9618]

Me too

[@nadiananji8240]

Same

[@justawheeliebin3512]

Same

[@fatemehghorbi8460]

Me too

[@sparkely1122]

It's brutal :( not going to lie. My mom died 3.5 years ago... I completely lost myself. BUT you get through it. You live your life. It's hard tho

[@theonionqueen3519]

I feel this crushing fear of suddenly losing my mom. I have anxiety, so I’m used to sudden, intense intrusive thoughts and fears, but the fear of losing a loved one is so overpowering some times, all I can do is break down and cry.

[@Milankov94]

Did you find some ways or anything since then? i have the same fear myself but i am looking for some solutions in this sate of mind..

[@theonionqueen3519]

@@Milankov94 honestly, the o my thing that gets me out of the spiral is by distracting myself, mostly by watching funny KZbin videos.

[@crazystar7204]

@@Milankov94Did u find the solution.?

[@crazystar7204]

@@theonionqueen3519thanks will try it

[@vishesh-13]

How u doing now?

[@mari8582]

I had a panic attack yesterday from the thought of my sister dying...took me a good 5 minutes to get off the ground

[@berenikawos1776]

I'm glad I'm the oldest sibling, I hope I die first. I think having two younger sisters might be the only thing motivating me to live once my parents die. But there is a selfish part of me that hopes I go first and never see their death.

[@badrulmashud3745]

How did you deal with it then..i really need to know.

[@yourmidwestprincess]

me with my brother

[@tamta8207]

I lost my 22 year old son and now everyone in my life is so vulnerable. I know that death is a part of every person‘s walk in this life. I am terrified of the grief I’m going to experience when I lose my parents, because losing my son ripped a hole in the core of my being. I don’t know how to get past the anxiety and stop thinking about the future that is inevitable. I tell myself I got through the loss of my son so I will get through the loss of my parents. Every time I get near them, I find myself filled with anxiety and panic and I don’t know how to make it stop. My logical mind tells me one thing but emotionally I’m responding Out of sheer anxiety. I don’t know what to do.

[@CatsArePeopleToo]

The only thing I fear about myself dying, is HOW it will happen. But the thought of losing my kids is something unthinkable to me. I don't feel I'd survive that.

[@oneandonly7585]

I feel like I have PTSD from loss. When I was younger , at 18, my first love was killed by an accidental gun shot by his cousin and I was already very traumatized by that and then 17 years later my little sister was murdered by her guy friend and since then I have an overwhelming fear of something happening to my grown children when they are far from me. When they were little I didn’t let them out of my sight and now that they are grown I feel I cannot protect them the same. My 2 sons are 24 and 19 and when they leave town or get closely involved with new people I feel very worried and at times have felt like I am or could have an anxiety attack. I searched this topic because I feel like I need to get a handle on it. I don’t want my fear to keep my kids from fulfilling their wants and destinies. My 19 year old is in to making music and has been offered an opportunity to go to California for 2 months to work on music and now that the date for him to leave is in 2 weeks, I feel like I’m spiraling. At moments I’m overcome with worry and I hate it. I dread the dread. I have an unhealthy level of worry and it’s physically draining. I put myself through the craziest thoughts and scenarios in my head. I don’t want them being hurt or meeting someone who will lead them into harm etc.. Im sorry this is so long I just need to vent and want help to deal with it .

[@aguy7848]

I lost my best friend. I will never be the same, and I'm terrified of losing more people as I get older.

[@outpost31737]

Same here. Terrible feelings.

[@simplybribrii]

I totally understand. Exactly how I feel rn

[@victoriacampbell192]

Me too and it hurts so bad.

[@kaitlyngerard7403]

Me too. It is scary!

[@OMEGANiru]

Same here.

[@fossi31415]

When I think of my wife dying before me it scares me so much. I don't want to suffer like that. I don't want to be alone. I don't want the curse of living by myself and having no one.

[@mikasaackerman8232]

That’s why I’m here except about my husband… Has yours gotten any better? My fear is still excessive

[@eshaali2109]

@@mikasaackerman8232same

[@priyavk157]

My mother passed away while she slept Since 2015 I have this fear of losing parents and loved ones By 2021 our house helper died while sleeping After that my fear level increased I couldn't sleep Even today I am checking my father whether he is breathing or not He is sleeping But still I can't handle this fear sir It kills my mental health I couldn't accept this pain 😭

[@taylorj888]

Servant?? 🤨

[@laylagabrielleee]

@@taylorj888 that’s What you got from that whole rant ??

[@priyavk157]

@@taylorj888 my grandma's helper died while sleeping

[@priyavk157]

@@Sara97_ 😑

[@priyavk157]

@@taylorj888 I didn't mean in that way We never treat anyone like that Hope u misunderstood the main pain behind her loss

[@clairex31]

I have been having panic attacks for a while now but my latest one changed my everyday life. I sudden had the fear of dying and my family dying. I haven't slept properly. I wake up thinking about it and I go to sleep thinking about it, and it worsens my anxiety too. Videos would be recommended to me where people and children share their journeys and finding out about their diagnoses. I end up breaking down everytime. The physical effects of anxiety has gotten worse and I tend to attribute everything sensation I feel to cancer, etc. I'm mentally and physically exhausted. I used to think about death and never fazed me because it is unavoidable for me and everyone else. But seriously.. This is all too sudden and overwhelming for me. I'm tired. I've been intermittent fasting since the start of the year. I've lost weight but I overthink that maybe I am losing weight due to some unknown illness I may have. This is the weirdest thing,I look at myself in the mirror instead of feeling proud of myself, I feel dread.

[@badrulmashud3745]

I relate to you very deeply im suffering a lot from the fear of myself and my family dying. I wasn't like this before but it happened to me because i just lost my father and it was a great shock to me something i didn't expected. Now i always think about death i can't deal with it anymore whenever one of my family member gets sick i started to panic..my death fear started to hunt me. I can't even do anything because i always feel like "Oh shit what if something bad happens" like seriously this is killing me! I really donno how to fight with it. Its painfull💔

[@vishesh-13]

How u doing now??

[@josmk17]

My family has no serious health problems, I should be thankful. But I still feel the fear of losing them, especially my mother

[@bangtansgirl_x]

Samee

[@raybenedictcabanes1173]

Me too, specially my mom, dad, and my grandparents who live with us😢

[@crazystar7204]

@@raybenedictcabanes1173how did u deal with this

[@outpost31737]

I am suffering with this type of fear right now, I look after my Mother who lives alone, I already lost my Dad to suicide when I was just a baby. Growing up I was terrified of losing Mum and would ring Mum every morning when I got to work, I don't think Mum understood but never once criticised me. Here I am today petrified of life without my dear Mum. She says I am to stop worrying and that she has many more years ahead of her.

[@treescape]

I am exactly like this with my partner who is 87

[@whitsashlee7910]

Thank you for bringing clarity to what I thought was just me, and what I am currently going through. And thank you for providing solutions!

[@DarrenFMagee]

You're welcome I'm glad you found the video helpful.

[@Samstar369]

I’m so afraid of losing my grandma. I try to prepare myself but each time she does a cough or hear her get more and more anxious, it makes me anxious as well. She does annoy me but I have my faults and I don’t want to lose her regardless of how she acts. My grandma as of now has been a wonderful woman who gave a lot to her friends, family, and to her community. I see her as a saint, always praying and always providing wisdom and care to us family members and to strangers too. I don’t want her to go, despite her being 94. I feel selfish and a jerk for ignoring her tedious cries for adjusting something or whenever I am asleep and she wakes me up by calling because she gets anxious of moving. She’s sacrificed a lot and I respect her but I didn’t feel like I could respect her as much as she deserves it. I pray for her well-being, both in mind and body. I hope for the best and typing my feelings out helped me appreciate my grandmother. She’s a strong woman and I wish she would not be in pain, but enjoying her age. I don’t always fear losing loved ones but it becomes an intrusive thought. I cannot feel comfort in loss of family, these are people that I see daily and the imbalance of a person can hurt me a lot. I wish for the best.

[@treescape]

At least ur honest.

[@sunshine-ci8nb]

I feel you have made a really interesting link between thanatophobia and codependency that I had previously not considered. Loving your videos...your accent and delivery really helps. Thank you.

[@Crystal-r5s]

I lost my dad at 9 and I am now 35. My mom had schizophrenia growing up undiagnosed and I developed a codependent relationship with her. Now that I'm almost a year sober, working on my self love etc. I watch my mom get older and I almost lost her in the summer due to copd now she quit smoking and is trying to be healthier which is amazing. I seem to have this anxiety fear and images of finding her passed away when I go visit, seeing scenarios of needing to kick her door in and the intense feeling I would have it's so terrible. I feel so guilty for even having these thoughts. In the moment it's so crippling 😢 I was diagnosed with cptsd so I don't know If that is triggering it or just the fear of me not being able to control my mom's health. It's just do difficult. Thank you for making this video.

[@kellydalstok8900]

After losing my son I was afraid of losing my daughter as well, but it wore off a little over time. My own death doesn’t frighten me at all.

[@bliss_tigress]

I’m sorry about the loss of your son. May he rest in peace ❤

[@REAL10K]

I'm so scared of losing my grandpa. He is in perfect health, but he's also 74 years old. I fear that something happens to him, especially since I have always been with him since I was a newborn baby. I am really scared.

[@plantanoid2849]

I’m praying for you, may he live a 120 year long life.

[@raybenedictcabanes1173]

Me too, my grandma is 85 and and my grandpa is 84, I don't want to lose them because they've been always by my side since I was a baby, same to my parents😢

[@M_K_M_K_M_K]

Thank you so much! I have been dealing with this in regards to my parents ever since I was a child. I think it goes further and also involves fears I have about any kind of discomfort, judgement or pain they might experience. I feel overprotective of my own parents, and it really is exhausting me. My therapist mentioned it is like I still have an attachment to my parents like a child has... Which is probably true, but it is hard for me to fully understand that concept... Could you ever make a video about what this means, and maybe what we can do about it?

[@DarrenFMagee]

Thank you for sharing and for your suggestion

[@rajfreestylo2735]

How you coped?

[@nadiananji8240]

This would be helpful for me to please or do you have any other recommendations to cope with this? Books or anything? When you talk about brain chemistry, is there anything to do or take?

[@Elif.-7]

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM PLEASE TELL ME DID ANYTHING HELP? 😢

[@M_K_M_K_M_K]

Two years later I see my comment, and I would like to add: what has helped me is really focus on accepting that I CANNOT and will not ever be able to prevent my loved ones, nor my parents, from experiencing pain, life and death. No matter what I do. And I am not supposed to. The reality also is that hurting myself with all the worry is just hurting my parents indirectly, because they will then worry about me :-). Honestly, life had to get so hard, that I reached the point of fully HAVING to surrender to life. I sobbed like a baby, understanding that I was not only incapable of reaching this dream I had always had of making everything good, but that I was also incapable of making everything better. I am simply not God. I am not the one to decide that people won’t have pain if I do all the right things. I did all the “right things”, and pain was still there, and even increasing. Life has to happen, and it is NOT your job to stop it from happening. I reached the “bottom” to realize acceptance was my only freedom from the pain, not trying to fight the pain. That is just more pain. It takes a while, but I promise you acceptance means you can still be there for the people you love, without being so afraid all the time. I am still working on this, but I do feel a shift has happened in the right direction. The sooner you can start working on acceptance, and stopping resistance, the sooner you will feel an inner calm.

[@luisfernandodurancarrillo9760]

I'm scared of losing someone I love knowing I could've saved them. The world is full of cruelty, and I don't want any bad people to murder them or hurt them. That's my fear.

[@Fretfloyds]

When ever I have the fear of losing anyone of my family I break down cry. There’s no way I can stop it from happening, nobody lives forever. I have the fear of my family losing me! I never want to put my family in the pain of sorrow of leaving them. I’m still young and so are they but SHIT HAPPENS things you don’t expect, time rolls too fast.

[@crazystar7204]

How did u worked upon that.?

[@noonespecial1178]

My father died when I was 8 this fear has haunted me all my life and shaped it ever since .

[@rsxasia]

my dad is 55 and my mom is 40 something. im just ten, but i cant sleep. i feel hopeless and like such a burden. i talk to my dad about it and it helps for awhile, but i cant help but feel like im making evryone around me feel depressed. sometimes i even feel suicidal (update: i talked w my dad again for hours and im happy again, i really hope you have a good night or day, i know what youre dealing with is tough and it might feel like itll be like that forever, but trust me, everything will get better, maybe not today, not tomorrow or not even that week. but when you realise theres alot more to be excited about in life than to be scared of, nothing can stop you❤❤)

[@cathyblevins2533]

I've lost my parents, four siblings, two husbands, and my two oldest children. I'm in a beautiful relationship again but I'm afraid I will lose him.

[@Nuatida]

Your every sentences nail the fears in me. But how to fix it? Please please 🙏 make more videos on how to get rid of this specific phobia. Thanks!

[@Milankov94]

any progress 2 years later?

[@cindy1274]

This is informative thank you. My son has feared death since he was a child. He's 36 and still fears death daily about himself and also family. It's hard for him. This video helped me understand the reasons behind this.

[@storyteller0633]

I find it hard to find stable sources of joy or meaning in life, but my love for my family is what helps calm those nerves, but I feel consumed with *EXTREME* fear for losing my brothers, sisters, mother, they are the candles keeping me out of the dark, but I feel like once 1 goes out, they’ll all go out… I’m that person that rather have no relationships, loved ones, at all than have a relationship just so I won’t have to face the price of loving someone, I just am so paranoid of when I’m going to have to pay that price, I won’t be able to afford it

[@georginarandolphgirl66]

This fear got triggered 9 years ago when I had a full hysterectomy and now at 55 it's still there to the point of developing an anxiety disorder and major depression. I am on new medication and in EMDR for past trauma so I pray that it helps.

[@fatimazr5089]

I lost my cousin 2 weeks ago suddenly and now I'm really tired of thinking.. thinking that one day i will lose my family suddenly I can't sleep eat or work like normal all my thoughts with them i just i can't remove the bad ideas from my mind

[@Olivia-bs5wj]

I’m so worried all the time. My boyfriend doesn’t feel well and I’m not with him cause he wants to be alone, right now he doesn’t answer me. I’m so scared all the time, try not to show it but I’m freaking out when he doesn’t answer cause I’m sure he’s dead…. I just want him to be healthy and alive for as long as I live ❤️ please pray he’s okay now and that we will stay together 🙏🏼

[@Altorac]

Thank you so much for publishing this video

[@leideningrid]

Thank you for the video. I’m currently waiting to see somebody about this. COVID lockdown has made it impossible to see anybody in person. What you mentioned Is what I’m feeling. Pretty ridiculous when you think about it. 32 year old woman, an only child of two wonderful people. Time is vicious. If only one can live in the present.

[@victoriacampbell192]

I am terrified of my husband passing away. He is sick. I lost my Dad 10 years ago. I lost my Best friend 3 years ago. I thought that I coped with their deaths but now I have this horrible anxiety . I should have went to grief counseling for the loss of my Dad and then the loss of my best friend. It changed me more than I could ever imagine that it would.

[@flyhigh9713]

Is your husband ok?? I have same fear I'm worried

[@bliss_tigress]

I lost my sister two years ago, after losing my dog and one of best friends. Now I’ve been recently experiencing fear around losing my partner. It doesn’t help that he does risky outdoorsy things so I always worry when he leaves.

[@Memelord-md5hs]

All my life I have feared losing my loved ones. losing my abuela was one of the hardest moments of my life And even now I cant help but worry every time my mom goes to work, or one of my sisters goes out somewhere. Even when i see one of my older tias, I don't know what to say to them I've known them all my life and I feel like I take for granted the time when their around. It doesnt help there is a language barrier as well. But the idea of never seeing any of them again destroys me. Even during some of my most depressed episodes When I felt like I wanted to sleep and never wake up. The Idea of losing my family and hurting them always kept me from ever spiraling further I love them and the idea of any of them going before me destroys my soul deep down. I know this anxiety is part of the Intrusive thoughts I have and normally I'm fine but at night or at random moments the thought comes into my head and it takes me down sometimes for a bit

[@ZawPhoneMyint]

I lost my dad in 2013 because of the accident , that pain, suffering and guilt were too worse to me and I got trauma. After that I am most afraid of losing my mom. my mom got heart problem and 1st time when she got heart attack, I was on the express way to go to the town where she lives, I cried and desperate along the way… 2nd time was in our home and i drove myself her to hospital. Those moments, both fear and anxiety were the worst I ever had , can’t control my emotions. And then don’t want to love any one including my partner and even i don’t want to have a kid. If someone didn’t born, they don’t want to feel the pain, my point of view. This can be my mental issue. I don’t want to lose anyone i love again and I just don't want those who love me to feel like me. Sometime I think that I want to end my life alone (no strings attached). I don’t know how to cope with it.

[@leyla2210]

Felt the same since my dad died, a daily consuming fear f my mum dying

[@geoc1005]

End of 2022 and so many people are dropping like flies, i.e. dying suddenly. I am so worried about my loved ones. 😣

[@parthakhanparthography]

I always had a fear and anxiety about losing my one n only loving mom and I was always extremely protective about her. Today, that fear is a reality! My dearest loving mom left for her heavenly abode this year, leaving me miserably alone in this physical world. I hope she still sees how lonely and loveless I am now without her.....

[@gabrielacamacho228]

Thank you for this video! It helped me put my fears into words and now I can understand them a bit better.

[@h.ailey.3889]

I’m so anxious to loose my parents, brothers and my dog…. When I think about I wanna constantly cry

[@TheAndyVegan]

I wish this video wasn’t just centered around fear of losing a human only

[@jedimaster3048]

Good description of a specific kind of anxiety

[@DarrenFMagee]

Thank you

[@abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxy577]

I live in another city away from my family for work. It was a hard decision to make as I have this fear what if something were to happen to any of my loved ones and I would not be able to help them or just be there in that time of need. I have come to this new city but this fear constantly keeps me stressed. I guess it comes from my wish to be with my family and past experience of losing a loved one at a young age. After my friend's death, I fear for my other loved ones and feel triggered when they get sick.

[@tsunamis82]

I have lung cancer and my son told me he would loose the plot if I died. I don’t know how to handle this. We all die eventually. Just don’t know what to say.

[@kjbrocky]

Freud was wrong. I'm not afraid of dying, just of my family and friends dying. I have lost so many people since I was a kid, and it never gets easier. It's paralyzing.

[@jennifermcc879]

That was an interesting topic thanks for sharing

[@DarrenFMagee]

You’re welcome glad you found it interesting

[@yami1389]

I think my depression medication messed me up, the doctor suggested too high a dose and I'm having severe panic states daily now, the anxiety is so high that I can't function at all. I really hope that coming off those pills will help me but I haven't felt this way ever. I am so terrified my parents are going to die that I can't do anything but cry and hyperventilate. I'm not scared of my own death, only scared I'm going to leave my parents and make them hurt but I'm so tired and so scared all the time now that I feel about unaliving myself daily. I sleep way too much and it just makes me more tired. I can't function like this. I barely even eat and drink anymore. I have pills that help me get rid of emotions for a while but then when they stop working all the emotions come back at once and it hurts too much so I stopped using them. I'm terrified my parents are going to pass away suddenly. I don't want to grieve them, I'm scared of grieving, but i think I'm going thru it right now, without any death having happened at all. I'm scared. I don't want to be. I need so much help.

[@raybenedictcabanes1173]

I'm also very scared to lose someone specially my family. My family is my source of strength and I want them to stay by my side. I really love them so much, my mother, father, grandpa, grandma, my siblings, and my nieces and nephews. I can't imagine myself crying everyday when I lose someone from my family, I don't want to get separated by them and not be able to see them ever again. Everytime I see my parents and grandparents, I always sit by their side and talk to them a lot because I don't want them to lose😢😢😢😭

[@joshuatimbuleng8387]

my dog died at 17 years old in end of February ... and that shock me for a week make me anxious every night thinking "death is unavoidable" my mother left me when I was 4 and my grandma had been my mother figure since, she always taking care of me and be with me everytime, I afraid that I would lose her too in the future

[@kaitlyngerard7403]

I’m so sorry

[@pikathemimikyu6655]

Everytime I am not around my dad, mom and espessially my little brother I'm terrified they won't come back.

[@Marie_co_]

I am terrified of loosing a member of my familly

[@Marie_co_]

But when i say terified i mean the fact of think 1 sec of it i can’t stop crying right now and i can’t move on it i feel guilty wanting to not worry abt that

[@thereseflynn7615]

I fear losing my son who has hallucinations paranoia autism and sucidial ideation and is addicted to drugs and alcohol. He has now lost contact with me. I've no phone for him.

[@TCTCTCTCTC]

Thank you, I’ve found this comforting to hear. I’d found this by searching ‘Co Dependency’, a term I’ve only recently heard/learnt, that helps give some insight into my deep fear of my parents dying (regularly crying myself to sleep when I was very very young thinking of it, to still having that tremendous fear even now, in my late 30’s). Thanks for your time, will enjoy checking out your other videos.

[@butterflys6642]

i lived with my grandma since i was 1 now that im 20 and shes 77 i fear of her passing away so much that my stomch and chest tighten

[@CAP-rw7ib]

Sometimes it is not that much scary once the terrified thing happened but sometimes it really is.

[@I.did.it.for_fun.123]

I am so scared to lose my family, especially my parents. I love them more than anything. My parents had never loved each other, but they do love me. I just have all this anger towards them, because they didn't consider divorce even when the abuse got physical. But I just know that they love me, and are always there for me. I am scared as a daughter. Whenever I lie down these days, I always get the thoughts of what I would have to do if they die. And everytime I just come to the conclusion that if that happens, I will just end myself.

[@مصباحبنتتسنیم]

Please don't ever end your life.

[@milomazli]

Dear Darren, thank you so so much for making this video!! I just stumbled upon your chanel as not a lot of people make videos on this. I appreciate this information you shared, and would ask if you are interested in providing an addition video to this? One aspect I could think of is: how can one have trust in life? I am so deeply impacted by this fear of losing my loved ones, and I feel this would be one of the keys to disarm my phobia, so I wonder if you are interested in making a video about this subject? Sending greetings from the middle of Europe!

[@DarrenFMagee]

Thank you for your feedback and your suggestion

[@MiVidaJugosaMVJ]

Thank you for this video. 🥰

[@stoicstrawberries]

been experiencing this INTENSELY recently… I’m just so tired of changes I can’t control…

[@vision3213]

My brother overdosed and died and now I’m scared of other loved ones dying

[@snizzletheshooter9877]

My dad is a smoker and my grandpa died of a sudden heart attack. I am so scared of him dying all the time I get so worried

[@aamishazeem3770]

Can we have a webinar where we can interact w u? I need help and i have no one….plz help someone

[@DarrenFMagee]

Thank you for your question. I have been considering doing a live stream at some point but if I do it would be for information purposes if you'd find it helpful

[@guraseeskaur6676]

I have a doubt. I thought Thanatophobia is only about the fear of dying. (one's own death) . After seeing this video, I am confused if this phobia involves fear of death of others?

[@DarrenFMagee]

Hi there I’d been asked to talk about the fear of loved ones dying. Thanatophobia is the dear of death, ourselves or someone else. Sorry if I hadn’t made that clear in the video

[@Steven-qr2gn]

I lost my mom and since that happened im scared of losing everyone i loved, i once had a nightmare of it... And 5 weeks passed by i was still grieving but not as much as before. I felt like my big brother and big sister were like my mom, i plan to go to high school at their country after i pass 9th grade. (Yes im young sorry about that) But my family said "2 of the grandmas here is known for their hard behavior" but i was confused. Ill think of it when i finish 9th grade first. What do you all think i should probably do?

[@jamesmcpeake1515]

I'm guessing that's where they get the name Thanos from in the Avengers movies

[@DarrenFMagee]

You could well be right

[@rajfreestylo2735]

Nice short introduction. I would like to have much information or any book specifically to that topic i will be very grateful to you. Thanks

[@DarrenFMagee]

I’ll go more in-depth in a future video if you like

[@eyyen8233]

I'm scared of losing knowledgeable ppl I know it is weird

[@stickboy8219]

my dad killed himself when I was 21 I'm now 37 and ever since I've had death anxiety that my mums going to die and its crippling

[@brianlanedesigns]

As a child, I always had an overwhelming fear of losing my mother. Then I met my husband. We became partners in 1990. I was just 18 years old. He is 8 years older than me. I feel, well I KNOW I am co-dependent on him. I cannot imagine my life without him. I have such high anxiety at the thought of losing him. When he gets sick, my anxiety goes to really high levels. I have so many times felt so much sadness at the thought of knowing that we will eventually be separated by death. It's overtaking my life. I need help so badly. I have to get this under control. I don't know what to do. I am a 51-year-old male by the way. My husband is 59. What should I do? I seriously need help. I have been diagnosed with GAD when I was 21. I am medicated for it, but it doesn't help with this fear of losing my husband. If I lost him to just him leaving me, I could deal with that. But the thought of losing him to death, I can't deal with that. I need help.

[@gabrielacamacho228]

Hey, I totally get this. I have lost 2 people that meant the world for me and that shaped every important connection to other people in my life. I'm about to get married to my boyfriend who's 15 years older than me and my first (and only) REAL relationship. It's hard, but what has helped me (at least a bit) is having a therapist and knowing I can tell him everything, although it wouldn't make sense for someone else. Being honest about things with a professional and putting them into words helps a LOT. I hope you find a way of coping with your fears, get the help you need and are able to enjoy your life with your husband.

[@brianlanedesigns]

@@gabrielacamacho228 THank you so much for your reply. I'm so sorry you have lost the two people in your life that you loved dearly. I am looking into getting a therapist. I hope your therapist is helping you and helping you live your life to the fullest. Sometimes I wonder if experiencing love is worth the price we pay. Best of luck to you and your new marriage.

[@rickm6232]

Hello kind sir. I lost my mom to suicide in 2019. Just recently I've been thinking 'what am I gonna do if I lose my dad?' Will I have a mental breakdown? Get severely depressed? Where will I live? It just came ups on me. I already suffer from anxiety. It's so hard :(

[@DarrenFMagee]

Maybe consider reaching out to a counsellor in your vicinity to talk through your anxiety and your grief with. Kindest wishes, Darren

[@FINNZZZII]

im just a 15 year old boy guys i dont deserve this🙁 i get really panickey when my family leaves the house..adults, is it forever?

[@FINNZZZII]

what will happen to my dog if i have to go somewhere else

[@FINNZZZII]

what will happen if i dont have anywhere to go

[@FINNZZZII]

sigh

[@FINNZZZII]

im just a kid

[@creativelife2585]

Current research shows the death rate sits at one per person

[@deetheman3508]

:D

[@jedimaster3048]

LOL!!!

[@betterlife6142]

Hahaha

[@startnewtherapy9918]

LOL

[@Tigeeeee9]

I have fear or losing my parents and my grandpa, I can't get rid of it.

[@christinanguyen9106]

I have a fear of losing my mom can’t go to sleep at night

[@tanjazavecz6281]

Explicitly explained, though not helpful what to do in order to get over this

[@_N0_0ne]

Thank you kindly

[@HandsomeBoyGarion]

I’m scared to lose my momma

[@Superhero-i4w]

I feel the same way, but let’s remember that Jesus is with us and will give us strength to handle whatever comes in our lifes brother. God bless 🙏🏽

[@HandsomeBoyGarion]

@@Superhero-i4w thank you my friend god bless you

[@imaneimane9132]

Hello Sir. This is the first time I see your video.And i need your help.please! I'm a talented painter..i can paint beautiful landscape ...i love painting g since i was 4 years old ! But my problem is that i can't do it because i have this belelieve that if i paint i will lose someone i love!!! It's so ambarrasing to say it loud..i know its not real ...but i can't get rid of these thoughts!! Any advice please?! Thanks

[@REAL10K]

My advice is to try to relate the paintings to something good instead of bad. Start with short and easy paintings, and you'll see how nothing is happening to the people, therefore you can continue with no problem.

[@ashiandrasamaraghandi615]

How can i overcome this doc??.please tell me, I can't handle this anymore

[@chiradeeproydakua3164]

I am also every scared, it's 1 O'clock night and I am suddenly getting anxiety of losing my mother ... My mind is torturing me

[@user-pearlanimations]

I am scared to lose someone who is close to me...

[@ninakarimy]

Thank you!!!

[@babycherry9972]

I live in fear of losing my dearest gramdmother

[@Ivettepm]

I fear loosing my father 😞

[@ilikemusic8632]

Thank you

[@pinhead3122]

Im scared to lose my dad :(

[@royaabdian943]

Thanks

[@hajustuggmun858]

I wanna die but im afraid😢

[@Useefnfmrmrl]

Cannot hear clearly .volume of the video is very low

[@gereltgerelt]

can’t hear

[@dexteremrit3130]

you really offered little, if anything :)