The Great Therapy(Ft. Dr. Drew): Episode 74

Jiaoying is joined by the Dr. Drew, the most loved doctor in the world. Dr. Drew give Jiaoying the greatest therapy of her life. He explains that he needs to know more about her upbringing to understand her trauma, so she opens up to the world about her dark sad secrets. Jiaoying opens up about her dad being an alcoholic, and the traumatic memories about her relationship with him growing up. She talks about much much she resented being around her father’s mistress. Dr. Drew explains to Jiaoying what is essential in all relationships. She goes on to talk about her relationship with her ex-husband and the very difficult divorce. Dr. Drew helps Jiaoying understand why she uses comedy as a coping mechanism and how her trauma has made her the hardest worker. There are ways Jiaoying can work on herself to become happier and more healthy.
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[@jahx10]

I love how truthful she is. Jiaoying is strong and is a beautiful queen

[@jadoctor]

Her talent is going to explode....such a great future ahead. Top Notch

[@Shota20003]

This made me cry. As someone whose home is east Asia, Jiaoying’s capacity to speak so openly and vulnerably, so articulately in a language and culture entirely differently is so rare. She is so beautiful inside and out.

[@ThaKenMan]

Damn this one hits hard. Drew been doing this for decades. He’s definitely good at helping people process things.

[@samij97]

When Dr Drew mentioned shame, I just started crying out. It hit a nerve for me. I appreciate this open dialogue. She is so open, strong, sweet, and way ahead of where she thinks she is! ❤

[@cynthiab.3277]

Jiaoying you remind me a lot of my immigrant mother. She thought that if she could remove all "weakness" that everything would be okay. She did not realize that the weakness she was trying to eradicate within me...is my personality. I am a sensitive person who responds to compassion not fear. She had to learn that being vulnerable and "soft" is also strength, and that sometimes it is harder to sit with discomfort then keep pushing. We tend to project and think that the things that made us miserable also make others miserable, but other people are happy just where they are. May you find the strength to be vulnerable so that you can hold that space with your family and within yourself. Compassion is not weakness

[@rciesi1]

Hearing Jiao describe useless store clerks with long nails and wanting to slap them had me rolling. Jiao worked so hard to get here, she must be like “wtf? what a dump.” 🇺🇸🗑️

[@bubbles2710]

Jiaoying is so strong and determined. And incredibly funny! Making your past into comedy is truly art. ❤❤❤

[@Chungiewungie23]

Well I sobbed my way through this episode.

[@dre4602]

How tragic for this beautiful woman to feel so ugly from her own parents. I love her honesty.

[@dot_t]

Thank you for being so vulnerable with Dr. Drew and your fans. You are so strong and beautiful... A true Warrior Queen! 👑❤️✨

[@RC-mz4jf]

Thanks for your openness and honesty. I had to shut off the podcast while at work to hold back tears. My great grandfather is from Southern China. I do and at the same time don't want to know the story of my ancestors because I have an emotionally distant father who does not have the capacity to self-reflect or have compassion. I can assume he was a spoiled, over-praised, first son of a somewhat wealthy family. The Joy Luck Club story still rings true in the Chinese culture. Good for you Jiaoying for trying to work on breaking the cycle of abuse. May you continue to heal, find love, and true companionship.

[@goforward8697]

This is a wildly beautiful soul.

[@Brolic123]

From this interview with Dr Drew it shows how smart she is. Jaoying if you read this you are beautiful and intelligent and also one of if not the best female comics I can think of. Ms. Pat is another female comic that somewhat reminds me of you because she had a traumatic upbringing and is hilarious.

[@geffcassuto]

Jiaoying, you are an amazing beautiful warrior!

[@Brenda-uf8pk]

I cried when she talked about that girl buzzing her head.... just so much humilliation and shame. heartbreaking. thank you for sharing.

[@KZA518]

I love Jaoying I wanna hug her so much 😞❤️

[@Manki-fu4ts]

Hahahahahhahahahaha

[@landonhutchens3838]

Jiaoying, thanks for being vulnerable. You are in my heart and prayers. And you are a beautiful person whether or not you want to admit it to yourself.

[@davidkyle2073]

Definitely can’t be a Narcissist if she can state, “Yes, I could be a Narcissist “ !

[@waynemoon8839]

Lol definitely not possible no not me 😂

[@honeydumpling1863]

r u a doctor?? Lol narcissism comes in so many forms even alcholic losers lol like are narcissistic. ? no?? so step down

[@dyhidrogenmonoxide]

That’s not how that works. Narcissists don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a narcissist, nor does being one prevent you from being self aware. The only question is if saying you are gives you an advantage or disadvantage. For example if people believe anybody who says they are a narcissist is not one. (I make no claim as to wether she is or not)

[@j3llyb1sh]

​@@dyhidrogenmonoxideThe reason that was said in the first place is because most narcissists won't admit they are narcissists. I liked how Dr Drew followed up with some questions about empathy, because most narcissists have a lack of empathy. They can't put themselves in other people's shoes. However, all of us have some type of narcissistic traits. Especially now days when it comes to social media and whatnot.

[@Shortstacksandticktacks]

I have definitely recognized some narcissistic qualities in myself, especially when I was younger. I think this is only true with severe narcissism. For example, I get upset if I don't get invited to things, feeling excluded, even if I don't know the person that well, or sometimes it's ok if not everyone likes you.

[@stephanienikole9831]

When I look at her, I see a beautiful petite, smart, brave woman❤

[@KennethFord-y7c]

Drew is so calming.

[@imfloridano5448]

I adore this woman with her openness and her raw comedy. I wish she finds the true internal peace. She has shrugged off her past physical and mental events and is actually helping out others with similar experiences. To her she gets a part of my ❤️. 🌹🌹🌹 Oh yeah she is fine as wine mmm yeah👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🤜🏾🤛🏾

[@beetosan2910]

You're beautiful Jiaoying inside and out, don't let anyone tell you different. You are one of my new favorite comedians and I'm always wishing the best for you. Much love from NYC. Keep doing your thing Queen.

[@neitsytmaria6401]

I LOVE this lady. And the gentleman is great too

[@SylBear]

JiaoYing, I really hope you see this. My mom’s mother sent her to Hong Kong for a “better life” but she said she would have preferred to starve in China if it meant being together. Your kids need you for more than the material comfort you can provide. Be a human being- and balance out the doing part or they will never feel enough themselves.

[@recuerdos2457]

Agreed! That s probably one of her problems , she still wanted her mom to be proud of her, she still wanted attention from other people, success=rich … she doesn’t know how to live her life for the wellbeing of herself and her kids. She s smart, she will figure it and hopefully it won’t take her too long.

[@perlll-ms2gs]

You don't have to compare yourself to others, you are already great just the way you are ❤

[@efugee]

I love this. It is so common to become a great at comedy when you are fucked up from child abuse. It is how you learn to thrive and process the chaos in order to make it make sense. You can either turn to rage, shutting down, or comedy. Comedy is definitely the healthiest.

[@dougcamp3466]

You are so beautiful, smart and talented. It is amazing how much you have overcome. Thanks for sharing so much of your story. Your strength is an inspiration. I love your comedy. ❤

[@angelj4ne]

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is true strength. much love to you jiaoying ❤️

[@Manki-fu4ts]

Hahahahahahaha

[@angelj4ne]

@@Manki-fu4ts what’s funny?

[@jojoco120]

I am so angry at the Mistress! I don't understand how someone can be that cruel! I know that she must have been so broken herself but I just can't wrap my head around people who laugh at people's pain.

[@StephenIsaacson]

Thank you for the courage and the brute honesty in this discussion between you two. It is very relatable. Dr. Drew is wonderful. From my experience, can I suggest learning a little bit about attachment theory to help you cope with your emotional triggers. It is an easy but helpful concept. But also think about the fact that those threats no longer exist in your life. It is in the past and is not real anymore so they (the people and situations) should not have any more power to control our choices in life.

[@ineedafernbackhere]

Ya…I got anxiety reading this.

[@alekdaniels]

Not me having a secondhand therapy session with Jiaoying. 😂

[@j3llyb1sh]

I feel that way every time I see Dr Drew have a one on one with someone 😅

[@evry1loveronica]

Awwww jiaoying 😢 thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. You’re literally so beautiful and talented and such a treasure! 永远爱你❤

[@sandradmendez]

Dang, when you spoke about your dad, my heart hurt 🥺 Thats so crazy how relatable your story is 🥺🥺❤️

[@sabrinafolland382]

I laughed, I cried, i felt the pain and i enjoyed going to therapy with you❤ it has given me more appreciation towards your comedy and heart filled with hope🎉 congratulations to you Jiayoin for accomplishment the most difficult thing you will ever face! God bless you and may your cup run over and peace persue you all the days of your life😊.

[@Desterbad]

Jiaoying's intelligence is definitely my favourite trait about her. Her ability to honest and open while still learning every day of her life. More people in the world need to be like her

[@roscoestark6589]

how did I just discover this podcast!! You are a Dime Jiaoying!

[@partypartida]

Very strong episode. Lots of healing and growing to do. Thank you for sharing Jiaoing

[@rubenshirk5685]

Jiaoying is so beautiful, smart, and I love her personality 🔥🔥🔥😍😍👏

[@DouglasBurton]

Thanks so much to Jiaoying for being so open. She's so beautiful and clever, I hope she heals and starts to enjoy how amazing she is.

[@HelloCoco888]

Jiaoying I connect so much with what you shared in this conversation with Dr Drew. From growing up with a cruel parent, being fiercely independent, being a single Mom now, to the same passionate intolerance of weakness/incompetence. I have an 8 year old daughter who’s upbringing could not be more different to mine, we’re back in NZ now unfortunately stuck here since Covid began, but shortly after she was born until almost 4 we lived in Tianjin and during that time I was also able to take her to several of the surrounding countries. I don’t tolerate any kind of BS but she is a girl who is confident in how she looks, her ability to achieve anything she wants in life, trust because I’ve never broken a promise to her and that she is loved. Jiaoying, you’re fkn awesome and you deserve every success! I don’t go out much at all but I’ve started a habit of getting front row seats everytime a comedian who can genuinely make me laugh plays here in Auckland which is maybe twice a year if I’m lucky. So far I’ve seen Chappelle, Bert Kreischer (sadly I missed out on Tom Segura when he was here) and most recently Theo Von. If you come down, I no doubt have to come see you. Sending love and best wishes from down here in Auckland. 🙌🏻♥️🙏🏻♥️🙌🏻

[@RichardYu1983]

Your story sounds like my experiences with my Chinese ex-wife. She's a moderately successful actress in China and she had loads and loads of trauma that contributed to our divorce.

[@JulieGraceImmink]

Love watching Dr. Drew use his magic powers

[@reikisponge]

Thank you for this video, Jiaoyin! This helps me in some way.❤🥰🙏 For Chinese descendants who have varying degrees of trauma of abusive or indirectly abusive (neglect, etc) parents, bad childhood/school experience could benefit from this talk. Mental health is important. Some Chinese people don't like to spend money on mental health 😅 Thank you for sharing your stories.

[@davidpackett4613]

You are a very strong woman. I'm sorry for what you have been through. Keep talking to Dr. Drew, he can help heal you.

[@anais333_]

Thank you for being open mama!! This was amazing ❤ sending healing to you

[@rpmcmurphy5482]

💪🤩 This is AWESOME! Embrace the journey. 🤗 We love you. 🥰

[@jaspberry522]

Mother. 💅 Seeing her this vulnerable made me love her even more. I'm so porud that she was able to talk about these very heavy topics and then after feel better about it. Can't wait for the next episode. Love you‼❤

[@Manki-fu4ts]

Hahahahahahhahahah

[@amandalynnh]

Thank you so much for this! You are beautiful and hilarious! Your fans love you for YOU! Keep up the great work in therapy and applying it to life! Great episode!! Love Dr. Drew since Loveline! Thank you Drew for your insight!! We love you too!!!! ❤❤

[@marcossolis9654]

I admire how she's so up forward with her life and in her comedy.shes amazing! A woman of all women. Thank you for the smiles you put on my face. Wish you the best of all thats deserved in your life. Muahhhh keep up the amazing work.

[@christine-vl3vh]

Thank you for this bringing Dr. Drew. healing you healing others.

[@TheMason189]

So this is the first video that I have ever seen of her, and it made me subscribe immediately! As a person that has survived all different kinds of abuse in my family and my spouse, its nice to see someone really talking about childhood trauma and how you feel as a kid goning thru everything all at once along with trama.

[@kellyinCT09]

This was so cathartic. I appreciate you so much, Jiaoying❤

[@garymartinez1460]

I love that this interview turn in to a therapy session. Love both. I also agree that this one hit me hard.🙏🏽🌎🇪🇨🎭 🇨🇳

[@huldaadriyannah1633]

This is nr1 podcast episode I've ever listened to. Thank you for the vulnerability and rawness! All the love

[@idaalavioon]

I felt this, so inspiring! Keep going Jiaoying!! Keep peeling the onion.

[@brandyg6966]

Just found this. My favorite comedian! Immediately subscribed

[@carolinevinke5000]

Jiaoying you are a warrior QUEEN!!! Someone who has also had a rough childhood with chinese cultural expectations that I’m still going through it as well. It’s always in the back of your head but know you have been through so much and GROWN from that trauma. You are incredibly strong and honest with your situations. Such a refreshing and inspiring perspective. Can’t wait to see what else you do ❤❤❤

[@Mrgasman1978]

He is really good. He made Jiaoying finding herself just by letting her talk. He knew she was smart so she'd figure it out with just few questions.

[@jenyaCh]

Your story is like a movie Jiaoying thank you for sharing. Perhaps a producing your own movie is your next big chapter to come. Your vulnerability is greatly appreciated , my heart is touched and I cried few times already. Love and light 🪷🪷🪷🪷🪷💖💖💖💖💖

[@jlee5490]

Thank you for sharing your story Jiaoying. Funny, pretty, and an open book ❤

[@rotcaka]

I hope I can meet this woman one day and tell her how much she means to the world! ❤️ Queen 💕 Thank You

[@Vbkingsova]

I had a very similar childhood experience. This was amazing human interaction.

[@kevinjamessharrett1128]

Much Gratitude for Sharing. You are a beautiful soul. Much Love

[@jzen1455]

I have a Chinese mom, and I totally relate to dealing with their way of being super blunt with little regard for your feelings.

[@TwoGayToFunctionnn]

Holy shit. She is so brave and resilient and I think it’s so courageous and beautiful how she’s showing the world her vulnerability💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@acmb6763]

This was incredible 😢 thank you SO MUCH for opening up to us ❤❤❤ i hope you heal❤❤

[@quartneypretorius5536]

I really appreciate you doing this video, I learnt so much about myself while listening! Thank you :) if you did a whole series on each in person session with Dr.drew I'd watch every single one and not miss any! Very valuable thank you both! ❤

[@harmonylovelace3765]

You are everything your mom said you were not! You’re amazing. Processing childhood shit is hard, keep talking to Drew. You got this!

[@rickyku3903]

You are a queen !!!! Thank you for being so honest and sharing your story !!!!!! You are one strong and beautiful woman !!!! I applaud you !!!!!!!❤

[@willvr4]

I've been in love with Jiaoying since her first appearance on Tigerbelly. She's so brutally honest and gorgeous. Not to mention so quick witted and HILARIOUS. Some of the shit that comes out of her mouth makes me spit out whatever I'm taking a sip of at the time. Idk if it was written or not, but my favorite joke of hers was when she was talking about beauty pageants, and she said, "I'd be Miss...pronunciation." That's a fucking smart ass joke!!

[@graceandjalia]

Thank you for this video. You allow us to see a very vulnerable side of you. And we also learn from Dr Drew ❤

[@asmallbitchybanana]

You know Jiaoying, i think the immigrant experience while at the same time navigating thru the challenges in married life while readjusting to a new life in America makes all immigrants ruthless and harsh at some point. There is that need in you to prove yourself, grow yourself, advance yourself, and then prove how americanized you have become in order to gain acceptance from society . Its a lot to take in, especially for someone like you who’s in the limelight and has to keep a brave public face while carrying immense childhood trauma and survivor skills. Be easy on yourself and let yourself weep for everything that was , it will be a lifetime of healing. Have grace for your experiences and grace even for those that were abusive towards you. Only in giving others grace, will our healing take place. From one immigrant to another who’s had a lot to prove. You are wonderful, beautiful, and kind. And by golly, youre making millions of us laugh. Thats extraordinary in and of itself.

[@kelseydeboer1136]

I understand that it's about jaoying's trauma and what her parents did to her, making her see others struggles and judging them for not doing something they may not be capable of and also her desire to not want to be the victim, but Dr Drew should know better. Being a victim is not weak...people are overworked, underpaid, traumatized, overwhelmed and constantly anxious and/or depressed. And absolutely everyone processes that trauma and that pain differently. Not everyone can throw themselves into their work and succeed as a coping mechanism. I speak from experience. I have fairly severe ADHD and when I started physics in high school I failed for the first time in my life. So I spent all my time outside of school studying for it...did I get better grades? Marginally, but they were still failing in the end. I understand being frustrated with other people. But they are not weak because they can't do what you do. They are different than you and they deserve empathy, kindness and patience.

[@rebh2602]

She is an amazing woman, she should make a movie of her life … so fascinating everything she has over come 😮😢

[@jparker9911]

I'm glad to be a part of your fan base. You are not just a beacon of light, you epitomize every redeeming value there is to being human. Much love & Godspeed 🎉

[@roki8589]

You are anything but weak, you are beautiful and you are strong sis and you’ve just inspired me actually you have made it through so much, I haven’t gone through what you have and makes me feel like I can get through my own shot AND be successful 🥹 You are an inspiration, and it may be hard to tell yourself that because you are your own worst critique, but if you’re strong enough to survive all you’ve been through, you strong enough to break the cycle. Choose to love yourself, be kind and gentle, you are strong enough to do so ❤

[@REGAL-uf1nz]

Watching this pod right after watching your comedy feels like a shock. You’re just amazing on so many levels

[@Voodoofoxx]

She is so beautiful. I hope she will come to see that. ❤

[@SarahB4Me]

Thanks Jiaoying for your raw honesty, the emotional neglect you experienced as a child really resonates with me. You are a very smart person and dont be so hard on yourself when you describe yourself, I dont think you're a heartless narcissistic piece of shit or a hawk, I think you learned to survive in conditions through no fault of your own and you're unpacking now, I also have no tolerance for people that choose convenience, or weakness. Western society has fucked up a lot of shit. We dont have famine or war and people still kill themselves intentionally or unintentionally, what a contradiction. Like Dr Drew said, you have a lot to teach us about struggle and survival, human beings are resilient, but sadly farmaceutical companies push medication too much that it numbs people therefore they cant find the strength within themselves to push forward, btw i dont talk abt the severe cases here. Im sending a big hug to you!

[@davidkyle2073]

Thank you for sharing this. Raw but beautiful ❤

[@GardenGangster85]

Sweet precious little thing, ❤God bless her - beautiful inside and out, - this was good talk !

[@luishc1979]

she got to have what every teenager in the 90s wanted from him... A hug ! Man I have to listen to Loveline again

[@DK-210]

You are so strong for allowing to be vulnerable in public, I respect you a lot.

[@HUX8075]

Love you Jiaoying ❤

[@squigglywiggles18]

I'm only half way through and I wanted to say thank you for being so vulnerable. this was amazing.

[@CCCTTT3737]

Sending love 💞 great ep jiaoying

[@Jamedia66]

Awe, the first time hearing you tell your story in serious fashion. 😢 Love you Jiaoying! I’m here if you ever need a fiend… or a new hubby 😊

[@bradrogers1040]

Great podcast! Love to hear the human side.

[@Irenefloridia]

This is so relatable. Thank you for sharing, Jiaoying ❤‍🩹

[@VinceSimard-gi1sy]

I absolutely loved hearing this, I am very grateful to have you share this part of your life. This makes me feel a bit more normal about my life as well. ❤

[@adamgutierrez6823]

Love you jiaoying ! Your so beautiful and a amazing woman!! Keep inspiring! You have been blessed!! Love your self!! And thank God for your talent!! A side from your hard work!! Il Mary you even if you weren't a successful comic!! You have a great heart and spirit and that's what is most important!! ❤

[@aliigatorwine]

This is amazing! So moving!

[@iuri6902]

I love you jiaoying...you're an amazing woman ❤

[@thechip2727]

good talk, very relatable story.

[@sharaymecrumble2235]

I’m a new fan of yours and I just want to say you are amazing. So glad I found you

[@deg3363]

😕 When I saw Dr. Drew sitting there... immediate click. Wow, so PROUD of Jiaoying for sharing this. She's stronger from this. 🥲 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@H3H3HEE]

I am SO proud of you. ❤️🫰🏼

[@garth1905]

I didn't think I could like the tiger milf more. But I do now. Thank you for sharing. And come to Australia for a tour or holiday soon. You'll love it.

[@rebh2602]

Omg I really liked this lady before watching this …. After this I feel so happy to have listened we have a somewhat similar childhood and now I know why I lacked empathy as a child and teen … and still can turn off and on as needed … also sorry she went through that with the mistress… the dad even asked her not to make the mistress uncomfortable 😣 giving more care to the feelings of the mistress than her… my mom was the one having an affair … my dad was her mom, disconnected and avoidant Thank you for sharing I could watch her and Dr. for hours …they are very interesting people 😮

[@Jxnbug]

Thank you for being so open and the conversation is so inspiring and healing.