The Groinal Response - What's going on 'DOWN THERE?'

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The groinal response can seem tricky to navigate through. I mean, people want to put meaning and power on what's happening "DOWN THERE". In response to sexual intrusive thoughts, it is natural to want to know what is happening. With movements, tingling, blood flow, and all of that, how can this be ignored?
Let's go through what the groinal response looks like and how to do treatment for it.
Chapters:
0:00 The Groinal Response
1:16 Who has sexual intrusive thoughts?
2:10 OCD’s reaction to a sexual intrusive thought
3:11 Why you notice the groinial response
3:57 Why we think the groinal response means something?
5:04 Why we get the groinial response?
6:13 Who gets the groinal response?
6:38 Groinal response in relationships
7:12 What types of OCD get the groinial response
7:26 Compulsions with the groinial response
9:27 Treatment for the groinial response
11:31 Online Course for OCD
11:55 Question For You!
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@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
What is the hardest OCD symptom you struggle with? 😩
@lillyanlubean4502
@lillyanlubean4502 3 жыл бұрын
Physical sensations for sure! I get the groinal for my POCD. And then very distressing sensations with what I think might be sensorimotor or perfectionism, maybe a mix of both!
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing my friend!
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate your openness! You're awesome!
@mathmattix96
@mathmattix96 3 жыл бұрын
The guilt associated with the thoughts
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
@@mathmattix96 That guilt can feel so tricky. I have video coming up on this soon! 😃
@zerozero-rw6ie
@zerozero-rw6ie 3 жыл бұрын
everything im experiencing it makes me want to scream and cry my eyes out. i feel so much for all of you who are going thru this too. i cant help but envy people with normal thought processes, they dont realize how bad this stuff is. this is torture, it’s literal hell
@Sajeed70707
@Sajeed70707 3 жыл бұрын
I completely understand and I sympathize with you because I also suffer from it. I know the agonizing pain, just be patient and never give up working on it. All the best! Prayers with you, you'll overcome it someday for sure!
@henrycharles2620
@henrycharles2620 3 жыл бұрын
How r u feeling now. Have u gotten over this ocd
@mypenisisonlyaninchbut9719
@mypenisisonlyaninchbut9719 3 жыл бұрын
it’s good to actually relate to someone. I go to therapy and nobody understands
@henrycharles2620
@henrycharles2620 3 жыл бұрын
@Ryunsuke Art how did you get over this
@henrycharles2620
@henrycharles2620 3 жыл бұрын
@@mypenisisonlyaninchbut9719 me too, just tired of thinking this way, I just want to go back to the night I had these intrusive thoughts and go out with my friends. I sometimes wonder if it wouldn’t of happened if I kept myself busy
@willecrook9544
@willecrook9544 3 жыл бұрын
Everybody who reads this you can win over ocd!
@jacquilinerapsang3754
@jacquilinerapsang3754 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@versatilehumanbeing6013
@versatilehumanbeing6013 3 жыл бұрын
Willie crook but hiw it's been almost 6 years for me with no hope
@willecrook9544
@willecrook9544 3 жыл бұрын
@@versatilehumanbeing6013 I know this is hard bu you can do it! The more you are scared/serious you are about the groinal response and dont expose yourself the longer this will take to get over. Dont label the groinal response as being real even tho you thinks so because you knoe this is ocd nothing else the ocd want you to think its real. So just say in your head when getting a groinal ´´alright there is a ocd feeling´´ Not like ´´ what if this is real now i have to do a compulsion´´ Be positive and really try to recover, Ocd is like searching for a key that dosent exist. I wish you luck!
@heatherstirling6008
@heatherstirling6008 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊
@Mary-qm2qu
@Mary-qm2qu 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@Chthonian101
@Chthonian101 2 жыл бұрын
Groinal response is not a joke and is one of the most uncomfortable and confusing things that can happen to someone, you get hit with such a certainty of truth when it happens, and ur brain won’t allow any other thoughts in until you reassure yourself that the groinal response is nothing more than severe OCD
@versatilehumanbeing6013
@versatilehumanbeing6013 2 жыл бұрын
Bro i am suffering from it whenever i look at someone hear something or exhale out thought of ejaculation comes up in my mind please help me my life is in misery my parents are not supporting me i am not even on meds😔
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
Can I ask you a few questions about this subject?
@MrSauceman09
@MrSauceman09 3 жыл бұрын
POCD sucks. In my case at least it seems to have spawned from a sexual experience I had with another family member my age as a child. Comes with a lot of shame and guilt. If you're suffering from this just know that actual pedophiles feel empowered by their attraction to children, not dis-empowered. Pedophiles actively seek out children, not avoid them.
@kyliess5480
@kyliess5480 3 жыл бұрын
Wow I had the same thing happen to me. It makes me feel so gross.
@MrSauceman09
@MrSauceman09 3 жыл бұрын
@@kyliess5480 Same here man. It’s so hard to tell yourself you’re not a monster even though on some level you know you aren’t. I wish you luck dude, always here to talk
@stephneycadwell1614
@stephneycadwell1614 2 жыл бұрын
i feel this exact way... can either of u talk to me ? i just really need some advice :(
@MrSauceman09
@MrSauceman09 2 жыл бұрын
@@stephneycadwell1614 Yeah you got some way I can reach out to you?
@abigaillll._
@abigaillll._ 2 жыл бұрын
@@stephneycadwell1614 sorry for joining in on the conversation but there’s and app called NOCD and there’s daily zoom meetings talking about ocd and it’s different themes and there’s a community in there that will understands you and support you!!
@kstar1489
@kstar1489 2 жыл бұрын
hardest part: accepting uncertainty. thinking it could remotely be true makes me want to unalive myself
@issacwubbena2616
@issacwubbena2616 Жыл бұрын
Fr accepting the uncertainty or that it may be true is terrifying. It’s like hell😭
@justaguy7590
@justaguy7590 7 ай бұрын
Exactly
@lumi55315
@lumi55315 2 ай бұрын
Same
@bdxdoop
@bdxdoop Ай бұрын
I hope I get over this at some point this is such a scary way to live
@kimberlymorrison4880
@kimberlymorrison4880 3 жыл бұрын
I GUESSED that my husband was having these thoughts about our daughter and he had a panic attack. I looked at him and said, "I KNOW you, its what you DONT want". He cried and hadn't wanted to tell me for a very long time. He said he felt like he'd seperated himself from me. My god, to live with this and not tell ANYONE before. No wonder drugs, alcohol in his past. I'm a logical thinker. Too much sometimes. It was not easy to hear BUT it gave me insight to get him some help. Thanks for bringing this to the forefront
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. I'm sorry for what he's going through. You may look at this video too as they are greatly connected. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bJeWmauhmadnrqM
@KuroTenshi29
@KuroTenshi29 3 жыл бұрын
Just tell him he is not alone. I have myself overcome such intrusive thoughts. God bless you and your family. I have cried and there was no one to help me. My own brother said was a pervert. But i had faith in myself. I named that thing (those intrusive thoughts) as Gabriel (nicknamed) the evil trickster😁and i overcomed it. I used to say to my thoughts- whatever Gabriel i know i dont want that and something like IDC. These had nothing to do with me being evil or good. But the choice that i made defeated it. Just tell him that he is not alone and we all are with him. BTW HUGEE SPN FAN HERE.
@EliEli-vf4yy
@EliEli-vf4yy 3 жыл бұрын
I'm still young but this exact situation makes me wanna be child free my entire life. I can't imagine the pain he was going through. I really hope he feels better and is a proud amazing father
@clarkkent52
@clarkkent52 3 жыл бұрын
God bless you so much Kimberly, i don't know you I am the oldest in my family all my life I've had to be responsible when i started getting intrusive thoughts and desires i was so ashamed. I couldn't tell anyone ontop of this i am a black guy so definitely a bug taboo in our culture. Ive just learned to live with it because the thought of telling someone was terrifying, drugs drinks etc...i feel so much for your husband he is a good man. Thank you of being so supportive God bless you some much. You don't know how good it feels to see someone who responded with love compassion and understanding because it is not easy. If i didn't have my faith and a strong mind i fear i would have done something stupid just to get rid of it or satitiate it so at least it was true so i could get closure weird right? but anyway thank you
@sneaky2311
@sneaky2311 2 жыл бұрын
How is he now? If anything he should have some ocd therapy (I heard the therapy helps a lot!) I hope he gets better and lives happily with you. :) good luck to you and your husband!
@alliegator321
@alliegator321 3 жыл бұрын
Sex Educator/author Emily Nagoski talks about something called sexual non concordance. Sometimes our bodies respond to sexually relevant stimuli. Doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with wanting/desire. Great video!
@christianprouse6602
@christianprouse6602 3 жыл бұрын
Reading this comment helped me big time thank you
@jessepinkmansimp6090
@jessepinkmansimp6090 2 жыл бұрын
was watching house md and there was this one episode where this little girl pleasured herself during class and it was mistaken for epilepsy. i felt aroused down there but felt extreme anxiety because i knew thats what i didnt want. this makes sense, thank you!
@ari-my2zl
@ari-my2zl 2 жыл бұрын
@@jessepinkmansimp6090 did this happen before or after u had ocd? sorry if i’m being nosy but i’m just curious bevause i wanna know if you can have groinal responses before having ocd
@jessepinkmansimp6090
@jessepinkmansimp6090 2 жыл бұрын
@@ari-my2zl yeah it did
@jessepinkmansimp6090
@jessepinkmansimp6090 2 жыл бұрын
@@ari-my2zl don't worry about being nosy! i know how you feel! :)
@dotrain4561
@dotrain4561 2 жыл бұрын
I have sexual harm OCD and it's awful, the groinal response can be genuinely horrifying, much love to people also dealing with this.
@aqebrax
@aqebrax 2 жыл бұрын
Is it normal that it happens after body contact
@Karma-wg5he
@Karma-wg5he 2 жыл бұрын
@@aqebrax Yes it’s the anxiety that stimulates arousal. A mere picture or even awful random thoughts that involve POCD or any sexual OCD for me spark physical arousal sensations yet I’m terrified and not aroused at all. I find pedophelia sickening so I really can’t be one. Especially since I actually don’t like children.
@mari55587
@mari55587 Жыл бұрын
@@nityaverma713 It's a lie and your brain just throws random toughts at you I think remembering who you are might help with ocd, stress worsens my ocd and staying up too late, praying for you 🙏🏼
@versatilehumanbeing6013
@versatilehumanbeing6013 10 ай бұрын
@@nityaverma713 can u suggest me some techniques or any meds which were helpful in alleviating the symptoms in ur case
@srinumadugula5656
@srinumadugula5656 4 ай бұрын
Same happened
@clarkharrell2227
@clarkharrell2227 3 жыл бұрын
You're like if Steve from Blue's Clues had a psychology degree, and I fully support it
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Haha. I haven't heard this one. I love it!
@joshralston5222
@joshralston5222 3 жыл бұрын
Factual
@willecrook9544
@willecrook9544 3 жыл бұрын
Having this when having pocd is a living hell, It makes you not able to be with family members in my case it’s horrific, I have tools for this accepting and so on but it so hard to get rid of :( I will hopefully some day get over this...
@GreatWhite151
@GreatWhite151 3 жыл бұрын
you just have to keep remembering that this is NOT you. this is your brain telling you all these thoughts. “what if” “do I?” “oh my god i do?!”. these thoughts and sensations are NOT you. it is almost like a alter personality of you if you will. ocd is a bitch and i hope you overcome it brother. you are NOT a pedophile and stay strong. i struggle with the same thing along with many other forms of OCD✊🏻✊🏻
@willecrook9544
@willecrook9544 3 жыл бұрын
Red Oiler Thanks man! Yepp ocd is a bitch i just have to work with the tools i have and accept the toughts/feelings instead of hiding from them.
@scalzilee7332
@scalzilee7332 3 жыл бұрын
heyi think i need help and im so scared this was not an intrusive thought and i thought of a r*pe scene in my head just randomly in math tutor im very scared i feel like such a bad person because i think i went through groinal response without an intrusive thought and now im so scared because i would never think of r*pe as a bad thing i think extremely that it’s a terrible thing and i would never like it and i think it’s terrible i feel like this wasn’t groinal response what if it was real? what if i was a messed up person who got aroused by r*pe? im so scared and im so sorry and i think it may not be groinal response and just me being aroused by r*pe because it wasn’t an intrusive thought. I have ocd, sometimes intrusive but this thought just came up because I was like hey i remember this scene and it just showed it in my head and i may have gotten groinal response and im so scared and i really feel bad because what if I actually was aroused?
@nurarihion
@nurarihion 3 жыл бұрын
I struggle with POCD as well, I fear hurting my nieces and nephews so much I've avoided contact with my family for the last year. The tingling and groin response is a nightmare. I loved the HP films and books and now I cannot watch them nor any classic of my childhood, I constantly feel like a monster.
@treescape
@treescape 3 жыл бұрын
@@scalzilee7332 you can get aroused by fantasy. That's it just a fantasy.
@flambojr.4235
@flambojr.4235 3 жыл бұрын
It's just a physical response; anxiety. Anxiety over something you hate and dislike. Don't overthink things people. Just observe yourself, your reactions. The what if questions will always show up, ignore them, they are false alerts. 👍
@Abdullah11010
@Abdullah11010 3 жыл бұрын
Can it happened without anxiety? I don’t feel anxiety when I get false arousal I just don’t care but sometimes I feel a little anxious and get compulsions
@flambojr.4235
@flambojr.4235 3 жыл бұрын
@@Abdullah11010 what you call false arousal is just anxiety. That's what it is, you just don't notice it. You paying attention to the "false arousal" is what makes labels it important in your mind, when it really isn't. When triggered, observe yourself to see what I mean. Label it anxiety and let it go, it always fades later.
@anonymous4244
@anonymous4244 3 жыл бұрын
Do you know if it's possible to have groinal responses to family members immediately at the thought of or interaction with them? Because for me i have it immediately when it comes to people i have obsessed excessively about before... I dont know if its actual arousal or just my ocd again
@Abdullah11010
@Abdullah11010 3 жыл бұрын
@@anonymous4244 if you have never had it before OCD then yeah it’s groinal response, btw does it come to you without anxiety and feels like literally arousal?
@Abdullah11010
@Abdullah11010 3 жыл бұрын
@@anonymous4244 you can talk here if you want
@jonathans.219
@jonathans.219 3 жыл бұрын
God literally allowed me to find this video, after doing lots of research, I found this, but I took a break and wasn’t so worried about this problem, then I had a panic attack, looked on KZbin, and the moment I got on KZbin, I saw this! Praise God! 😃
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad this was able to help you. I literally just posted it as you can tell. I hope you can find some relief in what you’re experiencing! 😉
@bekkahboodles
@bekkahboodles 3 жыл бұрын
Praise our Lord Yeshua forever and always!!! He brought me here as well, God bless you!
@rachelbrown3766
@rachelbrown3766 3 жыл бұрын
Pray for me please. These thoughts are super scary... and rob me of peace as I feel like I'm a sick disgusting person at times..
@jonathans.219
@jonathans.219 3 жыл бұрын
@@rachelbrown3766 will do! Jesus loves you!
@rachelbrown3766
@rachelbrown3766 3 жыл бұрын
@@jonathans.219 thank you so much!🙏🏾 God bless you🧡
@andrewcollins5911
@andrewcollins5911 3 жыл бұрын
but i feel like it's just me being in denial! 😭
@nealpatel4629
@nealpatel4629 3 жыл бұрын
It’s not you are no your intrusive thoughts
@nealpatel4629
@nealpatel4629 3 жыл бұрын
Not*
@rhiannawanna
@rhiannawanna 3 жыл бұрын
ME TOO
@clumsyme179
@clumsyme179 3 жыл бұрын
@STAR W I can’t even imagine kissing a girl and still I think I am in denial cause those weirs images keeps popping up
@Sscorpio-dp7qp
@Sscorpio-dp7qp 3 жыл бұрын
Same like I’m not facing that facts or something
@migueltamayo9093
@migueltamayo9093 3 жыл бұрын
I've never felt this type of pain, my mind if my worse enemy. I feel every day like I'm on fire. I'm so scared and so alone and I just want to hug my mom and promise her I'd never disappoint her. I've never felt like this in my life, I wonder so often if it's worth it. My mind tried to convince me every day I'm a terrible human being, sometimes I believe it and sometimes I win over. Is this how my entire life will be?
@graciejacobs
@graciejacobs 3 жыл бұрын
you’re not alone in how you feel. You are stronger than the ocd even will it tell you you’re not! The community is here for you❤️
@heatherstirling6008
@heatherstirling6008 3 жыл бұрын
You have to be kind to yourself let yourself feel the guilt and live with uncertainty, you can talk to your family(mum) and just say I’m struggling with OCD and let her type it up and say it’s pure O but don’t talk to her if it’s reassurance. Watch Ali Greymond or Chrissie Hodges your going through the hardest time of your life it is ocd it doesn’t go away on it’s own it takes discomfort uncertainty pain suffering but it is pushing through those times sometimes it’s hard and that’s ok take time to yourself you are doing so well also your being very hard on yourself when your in so much pain be selfish and take time even a couple of days to do things for yourself trust me I was where you were with hating myself, feeling disgusting but now even if I feel like that I let my self have a few days to re kindle 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻you can do it it will take a long time so don’t beat yourself up if it’s not gone best week or a months time or a year I’m still struggling 2/3 years later but that’s my story good luck 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
@beckysberries4441
@beckysberries4441 3 жыл бұрын
I know exactly how you feel
@karlmarcelo1000
@karlmarcelo1000 2 жыл бұрын
Hi watch Anxious Like You with Micheline and Nadia. It helped me a bit. I am going thru what ur going thru. God bless you. Shalom. 🙏
@versatilehumanbeing6013
@versatilehumanbeing6013 2 жыл бұрын
@Void are meds helpful in recovery ?
@gwynethrees1215
@gwynethrees1215 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been struggling with OCD for a while now and I have such a hard time trying to figure things out. It almost brings me to tears at times. But these videos help me so much. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in these feelings .
@willecrook9544
@willecrook9544 3 жыл бұрын
Gwyneth Rees Dont try to figure your ocd out, It only fuels the ocd cycle, Let the feelings be and accept them, Its hard i know.
@hopelee9724
@hopelee9724 2 жыл бұрын
Ur not alone i suffer too. I think it stems from trauma
@gretalatham-demant5132
@gretalatham-demant5132 6 ай бұрын
I know this comment was three years ago but I believe in you girl!! ❤ much love
@andreapaolini9849
@andreapaolini9849 3 жыл бұрын
Well, i was really scared about this. This movement has given me nightmares, doubts and more. I love the way you talk about it. Thank you for all the stuff you do
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I appreciate you being open about what you experience. This is super common in people need to talk about it.✌️
@stevej.7926
@stevej.7926 3 жыл бұрын
“Even thoughts that they do believe, but are contradictory to who they are as a person...” is very *thought*-provoking
@skatertrader
@skatertrader 2 жыл бұрын
The ability to see thoughts as a separation from ones character is powerful
@jillianr.2505
@jillianr.2505 2 жыл бұрын
That was a big one for me
@peachyvegangoddess190
@peachyvegangoddess190 3 жыл бұрын
The groinal response is actually something called "Arousal non-concordance/Arousal discordance".
@andrewcollins5911
@andrewcollins5911 3 жыл бұрын
how does it go away?
@brooke4608
@brooke4608 3 жыл бұрын
John Ledford for me I am a heterosexual female with homosexual intrusive thoughts and groinal responses. I thought I was bi for a bit because of it but turns out it’s just ocd and I’m not attracted to women.
@EliEli-vf4yy
@EliEli-vf4yy 3 жыл бұрын
@John Ledford i usually to like put my hands in my pockets because I'm afraid it's just gonna do it's own thing without any control. OCD is an awful thing but we can get through this together
@schecterc1platinum32
@schecterc1platinum32 3 жыл бұрын
I've been having it since I was 16 scared I was attracted to my friends since I started ignoring the thoughts I felt my attraction for females return but its a daily war in my thought process
@brooke4608
@brooke4608 3 жыл бұрын
@Solar well my fear was not being bi in itself, but was turning completely gay and losing attraction to men. So my brain thought of women as a threat because the threat was turning gay so whenever I saw one I was like “oh no am I attracted I don’t want to be bi cuz that means I could turn completely gay” (which is not true lol. If you are attracted to men before you can’t turn gay that’s not how sexuality works) and it worked the opposite way too. Whenever I saw a man My brain would be like “am I attracted? Oh no I’m losing attraction”. It all felt very real, but it was alll anxiety. It’s like this girl who had relationship ocd. Whenever her boyfriend would say something that made her laugh she would think “did I really find that funny?” And boom, the genuine feeling is gone cuz ur worrying about it and questioning it. So when I saw a guy, instead of just having my natural attraction or feeling, I questioned and worried so ofc I’m not gonna feel genuine feelings. How did I get over this? Well once I figured out that sexuality doesn’t change like that, that I’m not going to turn gay, this made me not fear being bi or having attraction to girls because I knew I’d always have regular attraction to guys. This meant when I saw girls, I wasn’t going “am I attracted? Ahhh” nope I didn’t have to write about that anymore, I just let natural feelings happen. Turns out I wasn’t even attracted lol it was anxiety. And the same happened for the other way, I stopped questioning like if I was attracted to men or if I was losing the attraction or whatever, and once I just stopped worrying and let the natural feelings happen, boom my regular attraction to men came right back. Now I’m still figuring out if I’m a little bit bisexual or not, but I’m not worried anymore because I know I like guys. So I’d say to get over it, stop worrying. Because worry and anxiety clouds reality and confuses you. You’ll be able to think better with a clear head. You’re not gonna get over this by reassurance, aka trying to prove to yourself you aren’t gay, because ocd will find any tiny sort of evidence against that. You’ll get over this by biting ocd in the ass and saying “if I have attraction to women as well, i don’t care. I’ll like who I like.” the fuel for OCD is fear, that’s what they run on. Now if you take the fear away from them they got nothing to keep them going, and they die out.
@eladie717
@eladie717 2 жыл бұрын
Bruh I just started recently having this and I didn’t know what it was for 3 weeks and I thought I was turning into some kind of sicko😭 now I’m just trying to brush it off without trying to dig too deep in the feelings.. It has caused me a MAJOR deal of brain fog tho from stressing so much. The thoughts are sitting in the back of my mind like a parasite and it’s driving me nuts😭
@dawnateervlogs1112
@dawnateervlogs1112 Жыл бұрын
Literally crying at this, coming to the realisation i have OCD and this has bothered me recently REALLY badly, when your body and mind are working against you it feels like youre a monster even though i've had one intrusive thought after another this week. Thank you for making this video
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
Can I ask you a few questions about this subject?
@aichapenrith2681
@aichapenrith2681 2 жыл бұрын
This is a brilliant and really informative video for people struggling with this taboo side of ocd. Thank you 💗
@legostarwarsmainia12
@legostarwarsmainia12 3 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much this has been burning my soul for a while.
@bubbashuman1111
@bubbashuman1111 2 жыл бұрын
This video just saved my life. Literally, this has caused me so much distress and made me suicidal for a long time. Thank you🙏🏻 I’m in therapy...I hope I can overcome this because it’s so distressing and confusing. And it gives me identity issues too
@emwasfound5840
@emwasfound5840 2 жыл бұрын
I NEVER knew there was a name for this. I'm absolutely stunned and simultaneously relieved. This has been around since I was 5.
@mehshaanhumayoun7499
@mehshaanhumayoun7499 3 жыл бұрын
Omg thank you so so much i feel relaxed now after finding this i am so happy i get fucked up after so blood flow and get horrible anxiety just thank you so much
@bekkahboodles
@bekkahboodles 3 жыл бұрын
Wow...your channel has educated me SO MUCH. Thank you!! God has told me for MONTHS in prayer that the response in my groin to intrusive thoughts means nothing. I've been trusting Him but it's hard without education. Praise God for leading me to your channel and this video!! I get tingling a lot when I have intrusive thoughts about my sexual assault so that's how I knew it couldn't be true, but this just puts everything into perspective and provides a lot of clarity for me. THANK YOU!!!!
@Liv-tq8qt
@Liv-tq8qt 3 жыл бұрын
does anyone else experience groinal reactions to non sexual intrusive thoughts? it makes me terrified that i’m somehow getting off on my other thoughts that would make me a bad person, that i’m just a sicko like that
@whatisthis1958
@whatisthis1958 2 жыл бұрын
Anxiety can actually lead to arousal, it's incredibly common. I can't remember the exact reason why but understand experiencing symptoms of arousal is actually incredibly common when anxious. I used to get it all the time back when I was struggling with severe social anxiety, which then intermingled with my intrusive thoughts in the absolute worst way.
@thec2359
@thec2359 2 жыл бұрын
@@whatisthis1958 Ah okay, I remember I had a random thought of my sad and then i stressed out and became anxious. That explains why my genitals became a bit erect, I have been crying for the past month about this
@doraps4764
@doraps4764 Жыл бұрын
I get groinal responses to pretty much everything I enjoy in terms of tv show scenes, which made me really uncomfortable to watch those that have minors in them
@vivianrodriguez480
@vivianrodriguez480 Жыл бұрын
You made me laugh and feel less worried. I’m still in my head. But you put a smile on my face. You made me feel understood, thank you.
@sophie1564
@sophie1564 3 жыл бұрын
This was such an informative video. It was so helpful when you discussed 'accepting uncertainty'. When I was experiencing groinal response in regards to children and women, I kept reminding myself that it was just OCD which was helpful at first but then just became another compulsion. It was so comforting to hear you say that "This sensation may mean something or it may not. It's not your job to figure that out". Thank you :)
@Sundith01
@Sundith01 2 жыл бұрын
I found out that I often was more "aware" of groinal response whenever I was close to my menstrual cycle. That is also when the intrusive thoughts kicked in full time when it first started 2 years ago
@proxythinkeraccountnumberone
@proxythinkeraccountnumberone 2 жыл бұрын
Oh man!!! Same here. I read on the internet, hormone level fluctuations around the time of menstruation can aggravate OCD.
@vivianrodriguez480
@vivianrodriguez480 Жыл бұрын
How are you doing now?
@Sundith01
@Sundith01 Жыл бұрын
@@vivianrodriguez480 it's better now tbh, but it's still there in social situations or sometimes when I watch movies or series
@labeautebrisee8911
@labeautebrisee8911 Жыл бұрын
@@Sundith01 I suffer with groin response ocd too. Do you mind sharing what you did to lessen them?
@Sundith01
@Sundith01 Жыл бұрын
@@labeautebrisee8911 just don't akt uppon the compulsion you feel like doing. For me it was checking if I was turned on. It's easier to do this on the "good" days then doing it when you feel bad or the thoughts are at its worst. Yes you might get a bad day but it's worth it if it means that you can get better faster I would say it's worth it. Also don't be afraid to challenge your thoughts! No one is going to hear you think "what if I am (the thing your obsessing over)" and just because YOU think it doesn't mean it's true, even if it feel HORRIBLE! And also challenging your fear. It feels so good when you feel like getting more control. You might still have the thoughts, but just the adrenalin in your body makes you kinda forget it
@giannis6552
@giannis6552 11 ай бұрын
Your treatment suggestions are always so great and this is greatly due to the humor you add in them.
@Mary-qm2qu
@Mary-qm2qu 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy to see this video, I thought if i was feeling this I was some kind off a monster...
@jennapriest8930
@jennapriest8930 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so so so much for your content. I never knew all of this and I have been very conflicted about my self image.
@caffeinatedshawty
@caffeinatedshawty 3 жыл бұрын
u have no idea how refreshing and comforting this is. thank u so much. ur amazing man.
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoy it!
@mahoganysmith3698
@mahoganysmith3698 Жыл бұрын
How are you holding up ?
@gabbym333
@gabbym333 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness I did not know this was a thing. I have really bad OCD and this sometimes happens to me, which makes me feel more ashamed, which triggers my anxiety, which triggers my obsessive thinking...it's just a whole nasty circle.
@joshmasimore
@joshmasimore 3 жыл бұрын
This was exceptionally helpful and informative. Thank you. Would love to see more content and awareness around this. Have a good day. You made mine.
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks my friend!
@sykwx2347
@sykwx2347 3 жыл бұрын
This gave me a lot of help, really appreciate it. I've been struggling with HOCD for awhile now and this really helps.
@Karma-wg5he
@Karma-wg5he 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been struggling with POCD for a month so far and this video also helps 🖤
@paigecombs6005
@paigecombs6005 2 ай бұрын
you have literally saved my life. and i’m SURE others.
@stevenciesiel777
@stevenciesiel777 2 ай бұрын
I have ocd and get intrusive thoughts I inherited it from my mother who was diagnosed with ocd. I have gotten every single intrusive thought that you have went over on this channel! I’m glad I found this channel it helps when I get intrusive thoughts it reinforces the reasons of why I get intrusive thoughts and I know how to handle it better.
@Kaiju99
@Kaiju99 3 жыл бұрын
Bro you are an angel sent from the heavens
@JackSonOfJohn
@JackSonOfJohn 6 ай бұрын
Struggled with this for 20+ years. Made life so hard. I've gotten married and had kids. But inteusive thoughts have made career and learning so hard. This is probanly the most hope I've felt in years though.... The hardest part is getting past the shame to get help.
@theleader5439
@theleader5439 Жыл бұрын
You just saved my life. Thank you for this.
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
Can I ask you a few questions about this subject?
@rioforforeigners
@rioforforeigners 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks, man, excellent information and funny!
@georgios4891
@georgios4891 2 жыл бұрын
Definitely HOCD groinal response back in 2012 started a downward depression spiral for me and reinforced other areas of fear as well
@Vacy-Scrip
@Vacy-Scrip 5 ай бұрын
Updates? Is it curable?
@keithphillips1234
@keithphillips1234 2 жыл бұрын
Gotta admit. This guy says it all in this video. And makes a ton of sense!!
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad that it resonated with you!
@zakirhusenraja8589
@zakirhusenraja8589 3 жыл бұрын
Nicely concluded that loves to Lives your life if it happen than happen if it doesn't happen than doesn't don't think so much Lovely speech and very practical I was faced and I confirmed that yours treatment are very true Love you Bro❤
@porask5987
@porask5987 3 жыл бұрын
You're such a pleasant person. Thanks alot
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@james63853
@james63853 3 жыл бұрын
3 years ago I got this OCD LITERALLY over night and went through hell that lasted for 3 years because of it, I got terrified even with the idea of figuring it out and had never heard of this "diagnosis". If I had had the courage to search for information about what the f*### was happening, I would have been spared from going through that 3 year hell. I was a perfect textbook example of a person with sexual orientation OCD. For THREE YEARS. I am sure there are people reading this who know exactly what kind of a black hell it is (that can actually lead to suicide), and it would´ve been prevented if I had seen for example this video back then. Imagine how many people there are right now out there struggling with this thing and haven´t ever even heard the word "OCD".
@artbyitalo1582
@artbyitalo1582 2 жыл бұрын
It’s so bad that at one point I was clinging on to a chair being scared for my life crying screaming
@createwithme5458
@createwithme5458 Жыл бұрын
Same, I suffered this throughout my teenage years & well into my 20’s having zero knowledge that these types of OCDs existed, I’ve definitely suffered a majority of them and it severely crippled my sense of self worth I’m now recovering and ironically am now finding all of these videos in this after I’ve dealt with it for so long I was “over” it I think I would’ve been terrified to look anything up about it even if I had the wherewithal to do so when I was a teenager, and wouldn’t have read/watched it, but I so wish that I had!! Oddly, I think the fear involved with “testing” yourself through groinal response leads to even more depraved desperate feelings & behaviors It’s a very strange phenomena & experience
@foreverjessica23
@foreverjessica23 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you sooooo much for speaking up about this
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Jessica. I appreciate your support!🙏
@yvesmathieu7226
@yvesmathieu7226 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. It helped me a lot.
@joshposner9395
@joshposner9395 3 жыл бұрын
Man thank you so much your a life saver
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 3 жыл бұрын
Happy to help
@nurarihion
@nurarihion 3 жыл бұрын
I tend to retreat to the bathroom whenever I have these responses to check my genitalia, In the worst days I can get up the table from 5 to 6 times. When my family starts questioning me I just say I'm not feeling right. :(
@anahita663
@anahita663 Жыл бұрын
These videos and comments are making me realise I’m not alone and I feel like crying of happiness 😭
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
Can I ask you a few questions about this subject?
@emilyjane6578
@emilyjane6578 2 жыл бұрын
i LOVE your videos. you deserve more attention to your videos.
@lerlmibea4792
@lerlmibea4792 6 ай бұрын
You are an awesome person, thank you
@scitastic720
@scitastic720 2 жыл бұрын
Im so glad I found this .....ocd is driving me crazyyyyy
@eddiearcher7018
@eddiearcher7018 3 жыл бұрын
Anybody watching you will overcome and u will get ur life back!
@versatilehumanbeing6013
@versatilehumanbeing6013 2 жыл бұрын
How bro please suggeste something
@JoelJoker-sk7zd
@JoelJoker-sk7zd 11 ай бұрын
Thank you, for me change has been like killing my old self and a new me is born all of a sudden
@hannahross8616
@hannahross8616 2 жыл бұрын
The lives this video has probably saved 🥰🥰🥰
@footballfan3216
@footballfan3216 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. It's been about a month now since I've had the thought I was gay. Never had a gay thought in my life up until that point. Everything I thought I knew about myself is falling apart. I keep having compulsions to think about gay stuff and see if I get aroused. It has really overtaken my life and even made me suicidal. I did feel relief after telling my parents and going to the doctors. I have yet to get an OCD therapist, but I'm praying that will help me return to my normal self. This shit sucks.
@normapeterson4861
@normapeterson4861 Жыл бұрын
It’s a horrible feeling when you get a strange response after an intrusive thought while holding your kid. Feel like you acted on it. Guilt is horrible
@right..5651
@right..5651 Жыл бұрын
You are precious 💛
@sarthakdabral1556
@sarthakdabral1556 3 жыл бұрын
My story goes back from like age 11-12. I am 18 now . Primarily i have had crushes on girls.But i had this problems with being called weak and emotional which made me think that are men supposed to be like this. I saw my same gender friend all sweaty when i first got this thought and the thought or idk urge that do i want to kiss him. I cried in front of my parents and they told me you are normal it is okay to be attracted to friends and all you are straight. But i used to have this thought and a heavy feeling in chest and more anxiety and feeling bad when i had such encounters at times. But i used to not pay attention. Since start i used to avoid transgender and gay things as i feared them i dont know why. Now i started liking girls even felt that awesome feeling when a girl kissed me. I never fantasized about boys only girls since the start. But i felt triggered whenever i find myself i perceive feminine and be particular of that. One think was that such thoughts irritated only when i thought about them as in when i had free time. Not normally. Since then it was okay till last year i saw alex strangelove which triggered me and gave me so much anxiety i could not study for my exams I confronted my parents again and they said u are really fine and if there was something we would have told at early stage only. I love checking out women with my friends and somehow hocd triggers have given me groinals and ROCD and diminished attraction to opposite gender like before please tell if this is hocd
@aksarat4669
@aksarat4669 Жыл бұрын
Thanks you, i had that problem, and i thought i was a horrible person, but now i understand it's just another Consequence of the intrusive thought, i'm still going to go to the Psychologist but this makes me feel relieved
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
Can I ask you a few questions about this subject?
@clarkkent52
@clarkkent52 3 жыл бұрын
God bless you so much, i don't know you I am the oldest in my family all my life I've had to be responsible when i started getting intrusive thoughts and desires i was so ashamed. I couldn't tell anyone ontop of this i am a black guy so definitely a big taboo in our culture. Ive just learned to live with it because the thought of telling someone was terrifying, drugs drinks etc i got into..thank you of being so supportive God bless you some much. You don't know how good it feels to see someone who responded with love compassion and understanding because it is not easy. If i didn't have my faith and a strong mind i fear i would have done something stupid just to get rid of it or satiate it so at least it was true so i could get closure weird right? but anyway thank you
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
arzular derken?
@wumbothewombat1280
@wumbothewombat1280 2 жыл бұрын
I have this issue and it’s hell. I’m also asexual, and having sexual OCD while being asexual and having groinal responses just makes it doubly distressing.
@rocklobster3956
@rocklobster3956 Жыл бұрын
Same I'm demisexual so experiencing this OCD response is very similarly distressing. Regardless though I hope you're having a good day though😊
@wumbothewombat1280
@wumbothewombat1280 Жыл бұрын
@@rocklobster3956 It’s nice to hear that someone else experiences the same problem
@peterwirth5662
@peterwirth5662 Жыл бұрын
Fellow Ace here. WHY DOES THE FUCKINKG HAPPEN? EVEN TO US! I want to cry.
@wumbothewombat1280
@wumbothewombat1280 Жыл бұрын
@@peterwirth5662 IKR. It’s so fucking irritating at best, devastating at worst. I can say after months of treatment (and getting off Abilify, that med should NOT have been prescribed to me, it made my OCD and anxiety so much worse) that, while it may never go away completely, it DOES get better, though. So hang in there
@Ayan_7778
@Ayan_7778 11 ай бұрын
​@@wumbothewombat1280do you recovered?
@nurarihion
@nurarihion 3 жыл бұрын
You just described my nightmare of 2020
@aqebrax
@aqebrax 2 жыл бұрын
My 2022, 2020 was paradise for me
@zzzcocopepe
@zzzcocopepe Жыл бұрын
This one is the worst because i have these paranoid delusions so it seems like there's always someone WATCHING me when I'm trying to resolve this one. It's a trap that I've been caught in for awhile now. I have a delusion, so i start to address it (or non address it) but then when i start to succeed, i have a groinal response, which the delusion then responds to.
@nandinigola
@nandinigola 2 жыл бұрын
I feel so light thanks a lots
@xcutioner5537
@xcutioner5537 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for this
@meeeeeere6020
@meeeeeere6020 3 жыл бұрын
I have HOCD, and when I first heard of it I never did the groinial response compulsion. But then one day I was watching a video and I remembered seeing the thumbnail of this video. I said to myself "Don't check for groinial response" and ever since then I couldn't stop having groinial response to women and I really hate it. I don't mind it THAT much, but it makes me feel as if I'm in denial 😔. It doesn't bother me because it's not really me and I knew different things could cause, but I still can't help but give meaning to it sometimes. I find that I'm always shocked seeing girls, and whenever I get shocked it would automatically become a groinial response.
@maddierose8123
@maddierose8123 2 жыл бұрын
ME TOO!! how are you?
@sarthakdabral1556
@sarthakdabral1556 3 жыл бұрын
Sir i was triggered again to hocd after like 3 years when i didnt know i had hocd. I saw this movie Alex Strangelove whihc triggered me and after that i went really 😥 anxious and worried. I realised after watching videos i have had OCD since childhood like 10-11 yrs ago ig. Now I finally got to know why
@michaelgarfinkel9784
@michaelgarfinkel9784 2 жыл бұрын
Great Video! Awesome job :)
@ocdandanxiety
@ocdandanxiety 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much!
@shubhamgain4190
@shubhamgain4190 3 жыл бұрын
Ok so even if we are not attracted to anything but if we think that we could get arroused by it then actually we may get arroused by the situation.
@anamariagarcia6590
@anamariagarcia6590 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you I almost killed myself because I thought I was turning gay and gonna leave my family that I love so much. You saved me. I’m in therapy now.
@andrewcollins5911
@andrewcollins5911 3 жыл бұрын
can i ask you how you overcame it? i need help im asking for a friend
@anamariagarcia6590
@anamariagarcia6590 3 жыл бұрын
I seek help with a psychiatrist and I’m doing counseling. When you think to yourself man why did I even think that that’s when you know it’s not real. I also remind myself my name where I was bored and my family and it eases my panic attacks and I feel like I can breathe again.
@andrewcollins5911
@andrewcollins5911 3 жыл бұрын
@@anamariagarcia6590 thank you
@brooke4608
@brooke4608 3 жыл бұрын
I thought I was turning gay too! After realizing I wasn’t, it then moved on to a fear that I was turning into a pedophile. Ocd sucks and it’s all lies!
@BearyBoo-tv4vx
@BearyBoo-tv4vx 2 жыл бұрын
@@brooke4608 HELP IM SCARED
@justmadeit2
@justmadeit2 3 ай бұрын
My advice, be careful when reading forums looking for reassurance or information, I read someone’s post yesterday on a certain topic and it triggered me and my anxiety and depression has gone through the roof and I feel agitated today. Be careful what you read
@kiwitea4179
@kiwitea4179 2 жыл бұрын
I think the toughest part of my pocd was today. Been doing the exposure therapy and it has started to decrease my anxiety. But then I had a moment of sexual arousal which literally came out of nowhere and I'm assuming is the groinal response but without as much guilt and anxiety (as I been doing the exposure therapy and explained in your liking ocd thoughts video) and that triggered me. This video helped explain it cus I never really had a groinal response before and was wondering what the hell and went into a world of panic. It's very hard to do the exposure therapy as it goes against my morals to agree with the thoughts. But i will keep trying, and keep trying even when there is a groinal response. It's very scary and emotionally draining. Thank you for your videos.
@saummyatelange4432
@saummyatelange4432 Жыл бұрын
how are u right now?
@gretalatham-demant5132
@gretalatham-demant5132 6 ай бұрын
This is such an awesome step and I have work today, haven’t slept due to my awful intrusive thoughts and paranoia. But I know I have to do exposure work to get myself better. You’ve inspired me :)
@clarkkent52
@clarkkent52 3 жыл бұрын
Than you so much I've been struggling with this for years..I am a strong person but after a while it was starting to bother me
@jillianr.2505
@jillianr.2505 2 жыл бұрын
I had been avoiding eye contact or contact with men and man friends, trying to shrink myself when I felt pretty or attractive, etc. I didn’t know this was an actual thing. I’d lock eyes with someone and feel a response or get a flighty feeling and feel terrible like I was cheating on my husband. So much terror. Working with my therapist and watching these videos! Can anyone relate to any of the above??
@createwithme5458
@createwithme5458 Жыл бұрын
I experience this in and out of relationships, it’s almost like the person KNOWS and you know and then you both know 😬 I become extremely embarrassed and can barely talk with people because of this It’s especially with men, but I have to say I have experienced this in several occasions and it is very unsettling with women I feel much “safer” of course because the groinal response is minimal, unrelated to the experience or nonexistent
@createwithme5458
@createwithme5458 Жыл бұрын
I’m starting to realize that men don’t “know” if I’m having that response and the way I’m thinking about it (in an OCD way) is what triggers my anxiety and embarrassment
@lucas8929
@lucas8929 3 жыл бұрын
My religious OCD tells me that I'll commit a sin if I laugh at something I shouldn't laugh at, so I strongly try not to laugh. But even if I do it, there is always a internal laughter (it's like a desire to laugh without my consent). Sometimes I catch myself smiling without any reason. Do you think that is similar to Groinal Response?
@RyanMiller-zk6br
@RyanMiller-zk6br 3 жыл бұрын
It’s called Spiritual warfare brother the enemy will do anything to affect you for what you stand for there’s reasons the Bible has scripture about anxiety and worry, you got this meditate and face your fears God bless!
@wilhelm9619
@wilhelm9619 2 жыл бұрын
I have had pocd now for 2 years and I have been dealing extremely much with groinal responses and I practice erp and ignore the toughts. I have been at a therapist and I try to ignore the groinal responses and let them be but they are still there. I start to get a bit desperate to get the ocd to go away. What can I do? I try to let the ocd be and don’t do compulsions. Groinal responses are the most difficult part and I know what I have to do but they won’t go away…
@tiredofyall8661
@tiredofyall8661 2 жыл бұрын
i have been suffering from this since the start of 2021, my past gives me anxiety attacks ever since then, i feel horrible, like shit and i felt very disgusting. i was full of shame and guilt and i deeply regret everything that ive done in my past. it scared me so much to admit my mistakes. and tried to reach out. ever since the guilt and shame took over me, i started to have intrusive thoughts, it's so hard to convince myself that it was not me. it was hard telling myself over and over to stop having those dirty thoughts, i feel disgusted and only my boyfriend knows about all the things ive been going through and i feel really embarrassed because i often question myself if im normal or not, im confused of what he thinks of me and im very afraid of judgements but he says he understand but i still feel like a fucking weirdo. i just wanted to be normal. i regret my mistakes from my past so much and it should have ended there but then it was hard to forgive myself and i blamed myself for it every single day. it was so hard to convice myself that i am a changed person now, it was so hard to feel normal again. it fucked me up and those thoughts were going deeper every single time. it gets worse the longer it takes. ive experienced every comments ive read in here about being gay, being a pedophile, or doing incest, having random thoughts of other people. or even thought of rape and you know it's just not you but it still hurts. i really felt horrible i just wanted someone to understand me but it always felt like my feelings are being invalidated. and it hurts so much to see people feeling the same way as i do. it hurts so much because i understand them as i read all these comments i cried so much. i thought at first it was just me because i just found out about this yesterday. now it kind of gave some relief and ill try hard to fight these thoughts. i just wanna feel like me again. i have been suffering from this since january i dont think i can carry on living like this forever, i am drained out of life and this pandemic made it worse for me. i suddenly feel like ive come up to my senses again. im afraid ill start thinking again at a very random time but ill try my best to be aware of it without judging it anymore. thank you so much for making this video. im hoping i can move forward.. thank you
@sleepystation4087
@sleepystation4087 2 жыл бұрын
Hey I know this comment is a bit old but I just want to let you know we all understand what you’re going through and you’re not a bad person, you are not your intrusive thoughts :)
@danielocsai36
@danielocsai36 2 жыл бұрын
I have past mistakes from long ago too. I want to think i'm a different person now, but OCD just tries to prove me the opposite. I KNOW I am not really a sick person, but OCD telling me I am the worst person on this planet and I will be forever. Whish I could be a normal man and just say, 'hey, I did stupid things but all of us did so who cares'.
@kibbyproductions8835
@kibbyproductions8835 7 ай бұрын
It’s so hard to accept uncertainty because if I was that person and it’s true then doesn’t that make me a horrible person
@wack3105
@wack3105 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t have pocd or hocd but just ocd and I get this ALL the time.. but I never have sexual based thoughts? I get this after I feel like I completed a compulsion wrong, is this common?
@aramastorian2667
@aramastorian2667 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much really help full
@AudreyHThederpqueen
@AudreyHThederpqueen 2 жыл бұрын
these videos bring me so much validation and, in a good way, does trigger my OCD! (SA TRIGGER WARNING!!!!) my mom and i (as far as i know, it was respectively.) were sexualized by my father when i was younger, and exposed me to a lot of sexual stimuli. i am plagued by so many thoughts of incestuous OCD, POCD, and just taboo OCD too, and i get the frontal response. i hate it. my stomach drops, my head starts hurting, and i disassociate. it happens with teachers, friends, etc too, same response. anyone else experiencing this: you may “like” the thought, you may not. trust yourself. (but between you and me: the fact that these thoughts cause you discomfort and guilt proves that you are NOT that particular thought. i promise!)
@luisantoniozuniga4657
@luisantoniozuniga4657 3 жыл бұрын
All the humans experiment groinal response? although don’t have ocd?
@imdann2966
@imdann2966 3 жыл бұрын
I subscribed to you man I’m struggling with POCD I got it working at a daycare and it’s ruining my life, I’m also in therapy and it’s helping but I’m still not convinced I always was sexual attracted to woman not children. I got these groinel symptons at my work and I feel disguisted and it’s killing me but since I had therapy it’s going better and better but I still have this awfull feeling inside 😭 my therapist says it will go away threw time.
@nurarihion
@nurarihion 3 жыл бұрын
I understand, I feel like living in an nightmare, the groin responses make me feel like a monster, it is horrible to mix up sexual arousal and desire with dread and anguish in your head. Every time I feel the compulsion of doing confirmation rituals I feel like I'm in hell. Lockdown hasn't help this either. I'm starting therapy soon, wish me luck please.
@emilyjane6578
@emilyjane6578 2 жыл бұрын
@@nurarihion good luck!!
@emilyjane6578
@emilyjane6578 2 жыл бұрын
also that’s the same with me. i’ve always been attracted to men and i still am but recently i’ve been going through this and it makes me question whether i am a pedophile or not because oh how convincing the ocd is and i’m terrified of becoming a pedophile. the groinal response is normal, i have that quite bad. i think it’s because you obsess over how you feel down there because you don’t want to be aroused by it.
@ncncndjdhndncnsjxj1438
@ncncndjdhndncnsjxj1438 2 жыл бұрын
how do i get help for this? i’m afraid to tell a doctor because i’m afraid they will not understand ocd and they will think i am the real thing.
@emilyjane6578
@emilyjane6578 2 жыл бұрын
@@ncncndjdhndncnsjxj1438 speak to a specialized doctor. i did and he was so supportive
@liloserababilonia6428
@liloserababilonia6428 2 жыл бұрын
I Was diagnosed OCD by my therapist and this is been tough time for me to overcome it....I have been through several themes of OCD such as harm OCD,Pedophile OCD, And now I got Homosexual OCD.......basically ocd is intrusive thoughts that bothering me to do something outside and avoid people cuz my intrusive thoughts told me that i have to harassing,stabbing,and harm myself and the others.....and back to topic,,, Iam now suffering of HOCD (fear of being gay), this decease brings you to false attraction,false arousal, and lose attraction to the opposite gender of your sex...I really affraid of becoming gay.. I want to have wife and kids (from straight relationship)...then, in my past I was harassed by my gay friend (now he is not my friend anymore),he touched my penis and iam really panic and can't fought him (at that time he was visiting my home), and I suddenly run away and told my parents to drove him outta my home.... I think i have hocd and ptsd in a row... could i be gay???? I rlly dont want to be gay.... cuz i've been liked girls all of my lifetime
@yournoneexistencefather5869
@yournoneexistencefather5869 2 жыл бұрын
I know you wouldn't believe me but, I've beaten my hcod by accepting my intrusive thoughts like for example. "Am I gay?" and then I agree with it "yeah totally".
@JessiV111
@JessiV111 8 ай бұрын
I’ve wondered about this my whole life
@lynlyn2099
@lynlyn2099 10 ай бұрын
I get this when I get angry or mad at someone because they’re annoying me or mistreating me which made me think what if I secretly like being assaulted and humiliated 💀💔💔💔 it’s driving me crazy
@bug9423
@bug9423 2 жыл бұрын
Remember, thoughts are just thoughts.
@Ackbarfangirl
@Ackbarfangirl 3 жыл бұрын
If only I knew this twenty years ago :(. I’ve got pelvic floor issues from genetic loose joints, so I guess that’s why. Shucks my family dynamic would have been so different. I figured I’d just repressed a memory but that never made sense to me.
@tanishqvarshney3176
@tanishqvarshney3176 3 жыл бұрын
Oh My God, thank you for this video. Super fucking relatable.
@juliaruhle1211
@juliaruhle1211 3 жыл бұрын
Is there an email that I can connect with you at?
@kadentakamatsu774
@kadentakamatsu774 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Joe, I am 17 with bad OCD on Zoloft, and I get arroused when I see/ think a torture scene or terrible thing in a movie or online or in my thought but I would never ever want to hurt anybody in any way. What is this and why is it happening? I feel discussed with my self and feel like a bad person I think what if I get turned on by torture and murder scenes, and again I would never want to hurt anyone. What is this?
@dodo7244
@dodo7244 2 жыл бұрын
15, thought of the same thing. Idk man, it just kinda happens sometimes. Reading up on intrusive thoughts helps, just to realize that said thoughts aren't actually who I am, and that they might as well have not happened at all as they don't hold any real meaning.
@Karma-wg5he
@Karma-wg5he 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been experiencing the groinal response with POCD and that stuff too. It’s basically an anxiety response. It doesn’t mean you actually like any of what your seeing.
@nehirdgr
@nehirdgr Жыл бұрын
I am also 17 and have these intrusive thoughts about my family. It makes me sick and i know that this is not who i am but it doesn't help the fact that i get gronial responses when something random happens. I am so tired of it but i understand all of you. Hope we get better some day. 💛
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
@@Karma-wg5he Can you a few questions about “groi nal reaction”?
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
@@nehirdgr sana bu konu hakkında birkaç şey sorabilir miyim nehir
@callumhulme5503
@callumhulme5503 3 жыл бұрын
Right now I'm not feeling alot of guilt. I get some anxiety mess on Friday and I might get some treatment for pocd. It sucks but the guilt is starting to get controllable
@jen6705
@jen6705 3 жыл бұрын
I understand where you’re coming from I’m having thoughts about animals and its scaring me i feel like a pervert especially since I’m getting a puppy soon.
@ncncndjdhndncnsjxj1438
@ncncndjdhndncnsjxj1438 2 жыл бұрын
how do i get help for this? i’m afraid to tell a doctor because i’m afraid they will not understand ocd and they will think i am the real thing.
@corruptpasta
@corruptpasta 6 ай бұрын
@@ncncndjdhndncnsjxj1438 its been two years how’ve you been doing has your ocd gotten better or worse?
@MultiSlimjim123
@MultiSlimjim123 Жыл бұрын
Everytime i have a gronial response i try very hard to just brush it off, but i find myself running to the bathroom and cleaning down there with soap and water because i am disgusted and disturbed by the repsonse ive had. I think that everytime i have a gronial response my body has produced some type of substance and i don't want to carry out my day without cleaning the response. I dont orgasm, its just a gronial repsonse, however, constantly cleaning after a gronial response has started to become very damaging for my physical health and financial stability. Should i no longer respond this way to a gronial repsonse? Am i only making this symptom worse by reacting to it? What can I tell myself to help realise this symptom doesnt need cleaning or any attention?
@myaxalienn
@myaxalienn 3 жыл бұрын
Can you experience this without OCD? I have severe anxiety and depression and during the pandemic my intrusive thoughts have skyrocketed and I feel so disgusting. I’m starting to worry that I am just a disgusting person
@emilyjane6578
@emilyjane6578 2 жыл бұрын
if you feel comfortable you can contact me on instagram @xemilyjane4 and we can speak about it. i am also struggling with this
@strutter9785
@strutter9785 2 жыл бұрын
I also have the same question, I go back and forth on if I really have ocd or if I'm a pedophile just trying to convince myself its pocd...it truly is a nightmare because I can never get certainty
@apollineplateau5251
@apollineplateau5251 2 жыл бұрын
@@strutter9785 omg omg omg i can relate ?? do you want to talk abt it on Instagram?? i really need to talk abt it with someone in order not to feel like I'm going crazy dkenqbjsjss
@whatisthis1958
@whatisthis1958 2 жыл бұрын
@@strutter9785 I get the same. I have the realisation currently that me suddenly doing a ton of research on what POCD is is probably a sign that I do, in fact, have POCD. I also wonder though if my issues are caused by trauma rather than actual OCD, but both are just as likely as each other unfortunately
@whatisthis1958
@whatisthis1958 2 жыл бұрын
OP, you can get intrusive thoughts due to anxiety and depression however the types of intrusive thoughts tend to be different, however they can definately over lap and look simular. I have simular questions to you however I would discuss this with a therapist, since my education in the differences between OCD and other disorders is limited. I hope you're well.
@deed777s9
@deed777s9 2 жыл бұрын
I'm scared because the thoughts have pretty well stopped. But now randomly feel Arousal. Even though I wouldn't do anything,
@aniresnevil8246
@aniresnevil8246 2 жыл бұрын
Omg same, the anxiety from it is killing me
@right..5651
@right..5651 Жыл бұрын
The groinal response is the thought. Don't be scared, we'll be alright ❤✝️🙏
@mduududu-ev8ct
@mduududu-ev8ct Ай бұрын
Can you a few questions about “groi nal reaction”?
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