The HARD Truth about Sex over 40 (Gay & Over 40) | Patrick Marano

[@ovh992]

Dude! Best episode ever!!! I have gone from having sex twice a week to twice a year. You didn't mention lack of sex drive. I used to be a horny Dawg. Now I am a disinterested cat. I can't believe men survive all those years of crazy hormones!

[@PatrickMarano]

Right? It's like we're possessed!

[@johniii8147]

Sounds like your running low on testosterone.

[@dewilew2137]

Disinterested cat 😂😂

[@esumiwa5583]

I stopped at 45. I am 56 now. Too many changes, too much effort, my right hand is all i need at this point.

[@evangeloskilos]

Truth

[@calboy2]

Exactly the same!

[@esumiwa5583]

I am shocked that so many people connect with what i said. truly.

[@dinocub1]

56 here too...and totally agree.

[@Harijnair]

Amen, brother 😏

[@charlesmcdermott6139]

All I can say is , wait until you are 60!

[@romuloemilioguevara5403]

Omg I thought it was only me becoming weird or overly complicated! This video is 100% on point!!

[@davidjloaderful]

You’re spot on! Well done on talking through such an analysis that relate to completely

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you kindly!

[@meschyk]

I am over 30 and had a chance to face all that you're talking about, great vid:)

[@ronanroswell1879]

Your educational segments are awesome. The very best. Patrick, seriously you're teaching is the best I've ever seen. You make it so easily understandable. Good points, great common sense. ❤❤

[@ronanroswell1879]

Since being in my 50s and even in my 40s I experienced bone issues, joint issues. And all the things that you talk about with lighting and what you eat or drink. It makes so much sense in the later stages of your life. And you are so correct The brain and you're thinking and your mental and emotional connection is much more important and has so much more to do with sexual attraction than ever before when we were young

[@PatrickMarano]

Wow, thank you!

[@mikefilimon1584]

“It’s really easy to talk yourself out of it.” AMEN! TRUTH! 😂 That is so me!

[@Bracketus]

Brilliant video! I’m 53 and would add in your fifties you spend more time with your doctor discussing hormone replacement therapy and viagra options and STD’s you are more practically aware of. Pacing and frequency become an issue; if there is someone especially active / younger might need to abstain for a few days and cut out the alcohol. 😂

[@PatrickMarano]

True!

[@alexandermackenzie8727]

Thank God for the decreased urgency and focus on other things in life. I worried in my 20s, 30s, and even 40s about the indignities I might encountered in venues where guys meet to hook up (or online). Glad I am not so thirsty now

[@Avievan91]

I honestly believe that sex is for the young , past 40 for me has been a definite shift in sexual behaviours and self love

[@PatrickMarano]

Self love... I love that!

[@pseudohyde]

Wow, thank you for that reality check. I thought surely, I'm still a bit too young (41) for my libido to have dropped so far so fast. I definitely know a fair number of 40- and 50-somethings who still hook up every weekend, love sex parties, etc. but I don't enjoy all that anymore. I hate transactional sex, feeling like a product to be consumed and discarded, I need more connection and security now. I had a second adolescence in my late 30s which was a ton of fun, then the pandemic kinda forced me to notice that routine was wearing thin. Yes, definitely all of the preparation, ambiance, connection, etc. go a long way, and even then, sometimes I just can't get interested. I quit bottoming around 39-40 because the lengthy prep just never seemed to justify the lackluster attention tops were giving me. I would rather just eat the pizza and drink that extra coffee lol. My partner is 24 and always so horny, gets a boner in 2 seconds flat just from looking at me across the room. Sometimes I envy him for that, on the other hand I enjoy having the mental clarity to focus on other things. I wish I could match his enthusiasm more often, but c'est la vie I guess.

[@PatrickMarano]

haha "I would rather eat the pizza and drink the coffee..." I can relate to that

[@raulmacias6018]

Me over 40 and playing out scenarios in my head to see if it's worth it. hehe Me all the way and glad to know I am in good company. 🤩

[@JorgePerez-vt9qe]

What you’ve said is soooo true!! Lol Ahhhh to be 20 again

[@robertschwartz4810]

In my 20s, any light. Over 55, BLACKOUT CURTAINS IN A COAL MINE.

[@lenwelch2195]

That’s when sex was the best - after 40, after I lifted for5 years having and maintaining my best body . I looked my best AFTER 40. It’s only the start of third decade of adulthood . When your 50 your only halfway through your adult life .

[@PatrickMarano]

Perspective

[@daddysw]

I'm 71 now and have been lifting all my adult life. I think I finally looked my best and most confident 5 years ago. But amazed that just within the last 12 months, I'm struggling at the gym (swimming anyone?) And my libido has almost disappeared completely. It's a blow and I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with.

[@emosag]

@@daddyswhi have you tried the carnivore diet? Many people say it helps them with libido, muscle, energy etc

[@DonnieChoi]

58 year-old gay man here and haven't had sex since I was 38.

[@PatrickMarano]

Oh, by choice I suppose?

[@jeffwolfe5264]

At 60 what’s more important to me is an emotional connection spiritual connection. A psychological connection. A mental connection with the person I’m with I’m not just looking for someone to have sex with. I’m looking for my soulmate. That one person in the world is configure just for me and I’m very lucky I found that soulmate, we have actually never seen each other never touched each other. He’s currently deployed but every time we chat I get excited I have learned more about him because we have talked and talked and talked and it just makes seeing him for the first time that much more romantic that much more exciting That much more desirable I’ve met someone who loves me for me. I don’t have to be some guy that got ripped abs and looks like he works out 30 hours a day and I’m stopped comparing myself to other people and I’ve learned to accept who I am and what I am, and my body is never going to be a jack line And I have found a man that fulfills everything for me. He’s unconditionally loving I’m looking for a relationship not just sex. I want someone to be with who can be my best friend. That’s more important to me than the sex itself sex to me is just icing on the cake when you’re in a relationship with your soulmate it becomes almost a spiritual experience when you have sex at 60 the biggest problem I have to worry about is finding a natural remedy for ED. Yeah it happens the thing that I have found I can tell this person I met who’s become my fiancé online guess what it doesn’t matter what I talk about he’s interested in listening to mevice versa just hearing his voice just seeing his chats make me excited to be with him so that’s my comments. Thank you Patrick.!!

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey Jeff thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story with us! I'm happy you feel comfortable here. Sex is a little part that we make a big deal about. lol

[@KeithCrenshaw]

One of the important things that I noticed, I am 64 now, and as I get older, my organs and body doesn’t function like it used to. And for some things I have to take medication for. Medication is a big factor in your sex drive. I had to stop taking cholesterol pills It stopped me from having a sex drive and an orgasm. Beware of the type of medication that you’re taking and how it affects your body body.

[@PatrickMarano]

Great point

[@sg_dan]

I'm 35 now and I've been over 40 since my teens, according to this video LOL. I'll explain: everything you said about how sex and sex life are supposed to be in your 20s, I never felt those. I never thought any sex was worth the effort - let alone too much effort - and was always very picky about the conditions in which it occured. Fast foward to 10 years ago, when I was 25, it finally dawned on me that I'm actually ace LOL. But I totally get what you mean, Patrick, about the conditions for sex being important and the mind-body connection. Great video! Very fun and informative!

[@PatrickMarano]

Hey thanks for watching and commenting... and you're right, we're all different

[@sophiaamundsen9142]

I discovered I'm on the ace espectrum at 40 (a year ago)! We're not broken, it's absolutely OK! I rather go solo than with hubbie but he's the opposite so we need to reach a compromise sometimes 🤭

[@dramonmaster222]

Good Afternoon Patrick! And Thanks for making these videos.

[@PatrickMarano]

Glad you like them!

[@GawdsNectar]

As a single, 46 y.o., straight female... I'm both amused and amazed how much this describes me... *Subscribed*

[@PatrickMarano]

That's awesome! Thx for the sub too!

[@shooterboy69]

OMG... i really needed to see this today, thank you! I'm in my early 50s, and am seeing a 38 year old. Some of what you've said I thought was only happening to me! I forgot what sex in my 30s was like!!! Thank you Patrick. You've my new crush!!!

[@shooterboy69]

Also, i would not have clocked you as over 40. 33, 34 maybe at most! You're a very attractive man!

[@PatrickMarano]

Cheers!

[@timothyj1966]

Def good Vlog. Really have to Plan ahead after 40 ! Lots of Work.

[@izodman]

Laugh my ass off on the vent! I’m in my late 40s and heck in the gym now, I am sensitive to the vent blowing direct cold air on me while I’m working out bc it feels chilly! I also seem to want to talk more now in my 40s with a guy and that sometimes is a mood killer if you’re trying to get some.

[@symon3304]

I'm 43 and love sex, but, what I love about it has changed from when I was 23. People evolve x

[@fredrick8691]

I'm turning 40 in a few days and honestly have no clue what it's gonna be like but I'm looking forward to it

[@simonsmatthew]

Your 40s are a great age.

[@stevekudlo1464]

A very useful video!

[@PatrickMarano]

Glad it was helpful!

[@paulstein7369]

64 here. Top guy, my boyfriends were mostly 25-35 yo str8 guys, so they were VERY SELF CONSCIOUS about prep, 💯 props to them. It would be a real P.I.T.A. to bottom now.

[@cedricksamaniego9146]

Tell my body it's old and done, not there yet 😂

[@bingo737]

I am 23 and I have never prepared for less than 40 minutes. Hygiene is very important for me.

[@PatrickMarano]

You're still young, I never prepared at your age, now I do

[@rogermusser7268]

20 miles seems to be the line, when I'm traveling, and moreso if I'm hosting. Since I am primarily oral...love the taste...my prep is brushing my teeth.

[@swedemartyrsonswade]

I am 32 gay, Asian, and single. But so busy as of now, my sex drive is getting down. Like I felt I was already in my 60's. God, I need a Husband.

[@raphaelszok8561]

It cost 20 dollars they give huge discounts to us over 60.

[@alfiewhiteside]

Hi Patrick.Im 60s now and didnt come out fully queer until age 55.Before I tried but too much internalised homophobia and shit. I do regret not falling in love with Mark age 24 coming out and going directly to Heaven! (a seminal gay dance club London back in the 80s) Oh well...better late than never Dorothy,Now Im a happy slut bottom cruising the woods and road stops at the moment with old dogs like myself and we do have a good time most of the time Hook ups online are mostly a let down but the thrill of a beaten track in the woods keeps me coming back.Yes prepping and the douche is time consuming but nothing like going TV let me tell you! All your comments are funny and so true especially the payoff the weather and tomorrow. Hoping one day for a lovely 45 year old to knock on my car window and propose a long walk off into the sunset with Toto. All the best boys x

[@PatrickMarano]

haha thank you for sharing this with us!

[@badolhaider9027]

How you mange so long without HIV? The main fear of gay sex is HIV and so many avoid that even if they like to have sex

[@PatrickMarano]

umm I'm undetectable. HIV in not a death sentence anymore. And there are lots of ways to 'protect' yourself against HIV... including Prep

[@badolhaider9027]

@@PatrickMarano please make a video on safe sex but enjoyable if possible. if you did not made one.

[@theoboule-prassl7980]

I’m 24 and it kinda feels like I’m already over 40 💀

[@PatrickMarano]

LOL

[@rogeramezquita5685]

I’m 42 and literally I became a “lesbian “ just want to lay down and cuddle 😂

[@PatrickMarano]

haha

[@aveuch]

4:07 this part. Good sheets are expensive.

[@boonieleblanc5385]

At 70 I am much more "picky" than ever..and I almost need a short vacation before having Sex..and though I love 20 and younger sex, anything with older males ages 30 to 50 requires much more planning, and I virtually would rather NAP than have sex with anyone over 50! So, YES, I Understand the age dilemma at age 70..Hugs and Thanks for confirming my own sexual experience.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thank you for sharing your story! xo

[@brettsabey7301]

64 and still not ready to give up.. slow down sure, wish i wasn't so far out in the sticks. or i would be on the prowl.. perhaps its a good thing

[@alikk9221]

😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂 my life as a 40 y old in one video

[@JT-qx7lb]

I’m 52 now and it’s lots of work

[@vidform]

After 40 (or 35) the first thing that changes is.......... the FACE. And the one thing that remains the same after 40 (or 35) is.......... the attraction to men UNDER 35.

[@fred3467]

Don’t like hassle of online dating or bars. I’ve had a lot of great sex in my life, so am satisfied being celibate.

[@debussy843]

Nah, you were just lucky the way your body worked in your 20s. I would generally recommend detailed prep for bottoming regardless of age.

[@BovitosumiBovitosumi]

I am now 41 yrs old, divorce for 12yrs now. Have two sons, cant share my feelings to them afraid. I discovered that iam gay man after my divorce. Wat will I do.

[@PatrickMarano]

Tell them. Kids these days are very tapped into fluidity in sexuality. Plus, you want to teach them that being their authentic selves is the most important thing. If they love you, They will accept you... I can almost guarantee it.

[@DonnieChoi]

Telling them is the best way to approach it. They should love no matter who you are.

[@davidbell5649]

😂 love this video

[@scottgilbey8064]

What is fans only and how do I join fans only?

[@PatrickMarano]

Just go to my website patrickmarano.com and click on the OnlyFans link, it will take you to the site and you just have to sign up there

[@capturedbycody]

some of these rules be applying at 30 damn....haha

[@PatrickMarano]

haha

[@danielely3807]

OMG, I feel so seen! 🤣🤣🤣

[@walpolenut5351]

Try the left hand for a change.

[@Luvforalll]

Can you do Canada’s cost of living crisis ?

[@PatrickMarano]

Oh, although it does affect me, I'm not an expert on that lol

[@jonwiley2592]

Although this topic is interesting, realistic and demonstrates that some gay men "of a certain age" still want sex to some degree, I can't help but wonder at the self-fulfilling prophecy of the posters on this video who are 40+ years old yet have nothing good or encouraging to impart about sex. My friend Brayan tries to date in his age range (50+) but now dates only younger men. These comments illustrate why there are so few decent mature men still in the dating pool: Y'all have given up appearance-wise and attitude-wise.

[@sasapetroski981]

44 years old and still have morning wood... Refractory period 10 minutes

[@ArunLove-ys4cw]

Comment if you have to Stretch before sex… hey Patrick, can you do a video on being gay in jail.

[@PatrickMarano]

Oh I've never been to jail, but it sure would be interesting to talk to a gay person who has

[@1pjmuscle]

I am now 68 lost my husband 3 yrs ago im starting to get active again since starting TRT treatments i feel like im young again and waking up with a boner is wonderful lol got some “buddies “ a few alot younger but yes all the prep time has become more of a chore

[@bryanclark5805]

Coffee is a laxative, not a diuretic. Diuretics make you urinate. Lol

[@henrypacheco9048]

😂

[@vincentbarnes7839]

I am 6 now and i just use my toys Patrick Carson be bothered any more Patrick

[@VampTwinkie]

what about the 90 year olds??? xD

[@pieterolie9809]

Getting old sucks

[@aaronkolt9104]

As a 20-year-old I disagreed with every single point made about 20-year-olds and felt called out by the 40-year-old points. This video convinced me that I'm actually 40😆😆😆

[@PatrickMarano]

lol, well I'm speaking from my experience of course... at least you can relate to the video in a way

[@pdxfun4888]

66 and always found the casual behavior regarding anal sex was disturbing. That act is another level of intimacy and feel being naked with someone a privilege. Silly to most but still affection and kissing and oral fun can be other level exhilarating if you have something deeper. Just sayin’ 🫣

[@PatrickMarano]

Totally, some people are only oral, some get turned on by kissing. There's too much emphasis on anal

[@simongoodwin5253]

My ex of 24 years and I split up in 2020. Now I'm 59. I haven't had sex for five years and I used to have sex at least five times per week! I loved sex. Now....I can't be bothered. I like sleeping with my dogs on my bed. Don't miss having to prep, don't miss the "Act", don't miss being in a relationship..... All is good after four years of trauma.

[@PatrickMarano]

Sounds like you needed some alone time... I get that!

[@EDOUARDSIQUET]

@@PatrickMarano I am 55 and I am so fed up with the gay scene that I have found a solution for my sex life : From to time I hire an Escort!

[@stuartm6069]

I'm 58 and became a widower a few years ago. My late husband and I were together for 27 years and the sex was great, 2 to 3 time a week. Now that I dating again, when I met someone for the first time I have found that if there isn't an emotional and Intellectual connection, I know my penis is not going to be up for the job. This is why I have gotten a group of friends to play with. We know each others likes and dislikes and the sex is good, but sometimes not as often as I would like, lol.

[@dmnddog7417]

Right on, man! Buddy group fun is the best.

[@joeintacoma9170]

I’m sorry for your loss. I became a widower 1.5 years ago.

[@joeintacoma9170]

The prep is hella longer than the actual. I’m 60. I’m always up for giving head. Yet, with pot, poppers and porn…best sex ever both solo and if giving head.

[@dinocub1]

Lucky you and congrats you've found new life after the passing of your husband. Must have been incredibly difficult to go through. 56 here and sex is pretty much non-existent. Married, love him dearly and can't imagine being with anyone else, however, haven't had sex in years. Overall, figure it's a good trade off.

[@stuartm6069]

@@joeintacoma9170 I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand how difficult it can be losing someone so close to you.

[@Christopherlawrencel]

I’m now 47 going on 48 and the brain/penis thing is way more important now than it was in my 20’s and even 30’s. I am much more prone to performance anxiety in new situations so I agree - regular hook ups who I am familiar with is where it’s at for me.

[@PatrickMarano]

Thanks for sharing with us!

[@jays.4254]

WOW!!! I'm not the only one. This was amazing Patrick, thank you so much for doing this. You are spot on! Reading everyone else's comments are great as well. I'm 55, it's amazing the things you mentioned that I have noticed about myself, especially time and "do I really wanna go out"? This video really gave me some comfort and helped.

[@PatrickMarano]

That's awesome!

[@neilschipper3741]

At 70 still going like I was 30. The most valuable lesson I learned in my twenties was make sure the Handcuff key was closer.😮😊

[@rethablair6902]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jameswalsh8754]

I know what you’re saying about the handcuff keys and I’m the same way I may be 61 but I cannot lift most of the young kids in the gym

[@dmnddog7417]

ROFL! Love it! Right on, man! 🤣

[@flenif2247]

Must be a top of you're still going strong. Bottoms bottom out. Pooter exhaustion is real!

[@philipfrancis2728]

I met the best and most fabulous husband/sex partner at 50 yo and we had a great 10 year run before I got traded in for a 30 yo. No regrets! But at 62, I believe I’m done. Even with testosterone replacement therapy to boost energy, strength and muscle mass, I’m just not interested in anything but self-pleasure. I really enjoy the extra 5-6 hours a week I’ve gotten back to do other things…LOL.

[@MrTentpegs]

Omg I related so much to a lot of this. I'm 56 and you aren't wrong about prepping taking a bit of time. I get together weekly with a friend and I dedicate a minimum of an hour to prepping. Also, I make sure I have the temp in the bedroom where I like it. I keep a large stack of fresh hand towels folded on the table next to the bed and a couple fresh bath towels handy "just in case". Last year I bought a bunch of red Christmas tree lights that I strung along the walls all the way around the room. Instant red light sex palace! I burn incense, get music set up, have favorite fuzzy blankets I put down and I keep all the fixings on hand for fun treats afterwards. Lately we're both addicted to peanut butter milkshakes. So good!! I would have never even considered ONE of these things in my twenties. But now, for me at least, those little things help make our get-togethers special. Besides, I care about him. I want every time to be the best it can be so it's very much worth the effort!

[@PatrickMarano]

Aww that's awesome... and I love peanut butter milkshakes!

[@dmnddog7417]

That's awesome! I do many of those things too when it's with someone I know and trust. It may seem hokey, but it's just nice. A bit of role-playing is sexy fun too. I never used to get into that when I was younger, but now it's fun. Again, the mental thing is very very true.

[@dabeage]

All I can say about it is this, there comes a time when different parts of your body decide they want a life of their own and no longer wish to work in unison with your body and mind; but at their own whims and fashion.

[@flenif2247]

Especially if you're a bottom. Buttholes stop trying or can't get tight anymore

[@dabeage]

@@flenif2247 whaaaat? you need to exercise.....

[@flenif2247]

​@@dabeagemy butthole?

[@gods3nd822]

Doing clenches as I read this (46) 😂 ​@@dabeage

[@HenryBird-yq1hm]

I totally missed out, as being homo in the 60s was a BIG no-no. But l'm getting a big kick from watching your videos 😊😂. Unfortunately no lead in my old pencil 😢. Henry B KZN RSA

[@rockyhayles7693]

I love when you make this kind of video. I am 44 and I thought it was just me feeling this way. I thought, I am too young. Hearing that you and people in the comments are experiencing the same thing as me is comforting. Every single thing you mentioned is exactly what I am experiencing. What the heck man. We are too young. lol

[@PatrickMarano]

I think the body goes through phases too. So don't be discouraged friend!

[@seandouglas2223]

Sex over 40 can be amazing with the right partner. I have fun lol

[@wernerbergh2593]

I'm 45 and still get boners in the morning, but sex is usually a lot of prepping and security for me. When i moved to a new city i only had sex once in two years with a friend with benefits who came to visit me from the previous city. and i was on fire. since i live in the new city i am hungry for sex but for some reason i always check the fields out but part is my fault and secondly my busy life style which holds me back from having healthy fun and as you said Patrick, i started to notice this too i think many can relate to this why is that? I think when your in your 20's you are out of control . But over forty you become more controlled over the things in your life and with caring and much more responsibility in my opinion but there is that part of you that still wants go on if you where in your 20's but as if your body is making that choice for you weather you are aloud to or not . we always going true life as we age learn new things . I have friend who turned 52 last month and he said the same thing he wanted to see if he still have it in him or is this a waist of time.

[@PatrickMarano]

100%

[@dandelan]

Very relatable content... Btw, wait until you're over 50 😂

[@PatrickMarano]

Challenge accepted

[@rextrek]

2nd Heyy Patrick.......Loved this Video ...and your delivery of it......as a Married gay Boomer..... sex takes a backseat the older we've gotten.... Priorites change as well.... I was stunted sexually - esp. in the 80's was my 20's...and AIDS was the THING.....so..needless to say....that F'd peopel up emotionally / it did me..... and yes...I had no one to tell me what to do / prepare.....etc in my late teens /late 70's ......now I have to Plan everything.... You're right.....diet / douching showering...it better smell like soap 1st..or It aint happening.... ...thats why spontanious sex is Always RARE now if ever .... ..on a side note: watching porn..I cant stand people having sex on furniture....with no sheets.... its a pet peeve - is that weird?

[@PatrickMarano]

HAHA a little weird I guess since it's not your furniture... thanks so much for sharing!

[@jonwiley2592]

As long as it's not your furniture, why do you care?

[@EdwinJohnson-wi9yu]

Everything you said and even more when you're like me being over 60. How much sleep I get is also a factor. Better sleep equals a better time. Poor sleep or not a lot of sleep is a not so good time.

[@PatrickMarano]

100%

[@spaceparrot8702]

That's interesting. I get painfully horny when I'm sleep deprived, but it also makes me last only about half as long as I normally do.

[@stevesteve350]

OMG You are so charming and funny. Loved this. Wait until you hit 60! Holy shit.

[@dmnddog7417]

ROFL! OMG Patrick, you crack me up because all this is true. Except, I'm 49 and I still wake up with a boner. It's nice. I do very much agree that the mental part is way more important now. I definitely listen to my body more. I'm finding that short yoga exercises (10-15 mins) morning and evening really help. I feel more aware and ready to meet sexy challenges. At this stage, I feel I'm much more intuitive with a guy (or guys). I am comfortable in my own skin. There's always room for improvement, but I generally feel good.

[@PatrickMarano]

Awesome

[@paulvillavicencio6194]

At 56, with a 27 year old husband. I am a very fortunate person that nothing has changed with my libido yet. You are spot on with your observation here! I was exactly the same way; however, when I was in my 20's I missed out on a lot because of the AIDS Epidemic. I was too frightened to have sex with anyone. I made up for it in my 30's.

[@PatrickMarano]

Right on!

[@flenif2247]

You must be a top

[@drewwho4512]

I recently met someone with the same age gap as you with your significant other. He thinks I'm totally hot despite me nearing sixty and he in his lower thirties. It's very flattering, and I feel great when he's near. I'm hoping more comes of it as he really is a great guy.

[@kilted911]

I'm 57, and my partner is 33. Together for nine years, married for three. It's good to know we're not the only ones with this kind of an age gap.

[@carloshebres3982]

Hello

[@Tribalking]

Lmao ok I can relate , and yes your diet makes u huge difference . All this process food messes w the gut and our good bacteria, not that I bottom ( anymore ) but I do know my gut .

[@lordbyronkeith9488]

39 here and DAMN! Speaking the truth, 100%.

[@gregorykollarus8190]

I love your videos, Patrick. I am 35 and I am already picking up what you’re putting down. I get. It

[@PatrickMarano]

Thx for watching!

[@luisespinoza8391]

As a very late bloomer to sex, I feel like I missed out òn the sexual revolution. Lol. One good thing about being older is when I don't wear my glasses during sex, I can't see the hang ups I have about my body.

[@Bracketus]

On the other side if your partner likes internet porn might need to keep your readers handy! 😂

[@luisespinoza8391]

@Bracketus Now, I could find a partner and porn that doesn't bore after the first 5 minutes. Lol

[@bunbun8001]

56. A-sexual. Clean. Can't remember the last time I had it with someone else. But I still get off 3-4 times a week. Sometimes a couple times a day. Sometimes not for a couple of days. I don't think I would have appreciated a disease ruining the fantasy. One's health and nutrition is important. I've never done drugs, alcie, caffeine, soda, smoking, none of that. Drank water. I'm height weight...reasonably proportionate. Always have been.

[@PatrickMarano]

Just be careful with the word 'clean'. It implies the opposite is 'dirty' which is not a nice word to use for someone. It's unfortunate that word is so widely used.

[@jonwiley2592]

@@PatrickMarano Thank you for beating me to that observation. What's worse than having no sex is all the self-righteous types coming out of the woodwork think they are somehow more virtuous than the next gay man who has a busier sex life that he does.

[@karlrogers7317]

More cuddling and affection. The warm up is much more fun and emotional.

[@davidprescott9016]

You’re spot on with your perceptions. Particularly, in terms of time. I’m more concerned (at 77) with the quality of sex over quantity. Probably because I have less of it. Bravo to you for shining the light on this subject.

[@jamesnewman8712]

I’m 58 and some younger guys wanna have sex in the morning. I no longer care for a.m. sex. The three SSS plus extensive douching must be dealt with before “doing it”. Likewise I don’t care for sex after dinner either. I don’t feel sexy. So my time frame is limited to between 1pm-6pm. When I was young, it wasn’t even a consideration 😂

[@PatrickMarano]

hahaha so true. I was a morning sex person. Not anymore. And I'm not feeling sexy after food at all either

[@dmnddog7417]

Pro tip: take two Immodiums after douching and you'll be good for 24 hrs. No worries about morning fun the next day. Just a little check, and maybe a rinse, and you're good to go! LOL 🤟😄👍

[@kenken6550]

​@@dmnddog7417no one over 50 doesn't want to NOT poop for 24 hours. Most of my time is spent thinking "when can I" and "why can't i" and "why is this taking so long".

[@bobbun9630]

@@kenken6550 Fifty-five here, and no problems of that sort. My diet may be a bit unusual, though, as it includes no eating out, not much in the way of highly refined or fatty foods, and quite a bit of fiber from legumes, whole grains, etc. It's probably not for everybody. The pro-tip sounds like it might be useful under circumstances unlikely to actually come up in my life.

[@rethablair6902]

Unfortunately I find myself at 54 yrs old showing a preference for being in my bed alone🥺 and night life is non-existent 🤫

[@PatrickMarano]

I hear ya. I love being alone, I get energized by it.

[@rethablair6902]

@@PatrickMarano 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@jameswalsh8754]

I am turning 61 in about one month when I hit my 50s my body started to fall apart. It was an ongoing thing that’s what happens when you get old. Wait to you get to 61. I still have a massive, strong, sexual desire but be on my body falling apart, and not as many options on Grindr, and becomes a world in itself.

[@PatrickMarano]

I can see that...

[@miguelpaul1164]

Its diet! And prepping is easier now bc i know my body. Ive prepped for guys who lasted less than five mins. Less than a minute!! All that prep and that's it? Yaaas about the lightning!!!! Im always conscious about it!!!! Omg i would do whatever to get it too, not anymore and its like hmmm nah. And I do like my regulars over the new D, which is fun, but the regulars im comfortable with. Agreed about the mind D connection.

[@PatrickMarano]

"Mind D connection" lol

[@slickandslaycious6579]

*sigh* I always knew I was mentally older (well part older part younger)..... Cause everything you described started happening to me before I even hit 35 🤷🏿

[@Jupiterape]

Great video Patrick! Going on 42 and I’m starting to notice everything you’ve said. By the way, you look soo good with short hair 🔥 Hi from Corktown 👋🏻😉

[@PatrickMarano]

Ohhhh Hiiiiii

[@Jupiterape]

Hi neighbor!! 👋🏻 Hope to run into you sometime. Love the channel man, thanks for such great videos!

[@kuxica]

I’ve experienced just about everything you speak of so to solve all those issues I got married. 😂 so far this past first week of getting married has been fine…. 😂

[@CamMcGinn1981]

The one about time I totally get. I just don't want to get back from a root at 1am to have to get up for work at 4:30. LOL. Also, I don't know if you've mentioned it yet, but I fear I'm about to meet Jeffrey Dahmer.... you know what I mean?

[@PatrickMarano]

That's a legit concern too...

[@LabanFilipinas]

Because u didnt care when u were younger. Now, u can easily be thrown away 😂😂😂

[@dougardvidson5634]

I'm NOW over 70 and I can't believe ANYBODY SO YOUNG could get So OLD!! LOL!! I can remember my youth and I DO AGREE WITH YOU 110% about how penises react when young or old! Although I still look MUCH better than the average male my age because of the way I both take care of my body & eat. I will say that when you're meeting one of your BEST FWB just put your arms around them the kiss them. Don't worry just enjoy it, then all of a sudden what between your legs all of a sudden "Comes to Life!" and the rest my man is "History" as they say... Enjoy!! Doug

[@PatrickMarano]

Thx for sharing Doug!

[@SABOREAME68]

⭐⭐⭐⭐ Great video topic Patrick. Everything that has been mentioned I go through it, plus I also think to myself did I recently manscaped!!! are my family jewels nice & soft and smell great? did I wear my sexy underwear, check my socks for any holes, Oh! thank God I did get a pedicure. The worse part of it some times, is when your partner doesn't even noticed all the effort you put into for this moment. Furthermore, much worse you come out of the bathroom and he's stretched out in bed snoring!!! So you go on to the sofa, and take care of yourself and call it a night.

[@PatrickMarano]

omg, lol, that terrible that happened to you... but I do know what you mean about them not even noticing your effort lol

[@danielmironov6751]

I was trying to find anyone near my age in comment😭 I guess I am just asexual or low libido, but I can be easily without any intimacy for half a year and I am 21 tho

[@PatrickMarano]

That's ok, everyone is different

[@sophiaamundsen9142]

That's ok, I'm on the ace spectrum too and now I'm 41 but I've always been like this: never cared about sex (and when I did I preferred having it with myself 🤭). So you're not alone and you're not weird! ❤️🤗