The Harsh Reality of Being A Single Dad

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@ariannaarianna7792 2 жыл бұрын

A big salute to the father’s raising children on their own . I give credit to where it’s due. I use to go to school with a girl who’s father raised her on his own he was a great man to her . I never heard her speak of her my mom it was always “ my dad “ . Coming from a two parent home I never understood the single parent thing until now . I’m a single parent of two young toddlers no it’s not a easy thing and single mothers do get a lot of praise but I’m here to tell all of the men raising their kids single or married you all are really kings and continue to claim your thorn God bless .

@ernestfalk 2 жыл бұрын

My salute to you too single mama! I'm a single dad and never understood how tough it is to having no identity other than that of a caregiver, but it's rewarding at tue end of the day

@vdd9322 2 жыл бұрын

God Bless you and your glorious kids

@dancanmandela6351 2 жыл бұрын

Thank for this u inspire me girl

@michaeladikaibe2946 2 жыл бұрын

I'm gonna be one soon... I'm really scared

@jalisco805ra 2 жыл бұрын

That’s deep, I’m going through custody process I’m currently in temporary custody of my toddler he’s been with me full time for a month already and is tough sometimes, I’m just glad I know how to take care of him since he was born his mother showed me how to take care of him

@donnaturpin5995 2 жыл бұрын

my 22 yr old son is raising his 19 mo. the mom is gone away. he has full support from his parents but we all work, so he takes her to sitter goes to wrk, picks her up after n cares for her, puts her to bed n does this 5 days a week, on weekends he has no sitter so he doesnt go out w friends, he has none! he keeps her all weekend. so he is mom n dad both. He is doing an amazing job n i could not be more proud of him. but he does get down sometimes, so please pray for him. He is just the best 22 yr old mom n dad ever!! n his baby girl loves her dada!!!

@bgtasdomain 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for being there for your son. He may not speak much on how he feels pained. But having family support helps a single father a lot. I never had family support. God bless this family.

@vdd9322 2 жыл бұрын

This made me cry. My boy was 5 when his mother left us, now he is 12. Its 7 yrs of living in emergency mode for me, i just hope and pray that all the beautiful kids of this world be safe and happy, there is nothing more precious than them

@y.laurita7954 Жыл бұрын

Yo Soy madre soltera mi hija tiene 10 años la tuve muy joven ya me establecí tengo mi profesión mi trabajo y oro a Dios encontrar a un hombre padre soltero que cuide solo a sus hijos ..

@TcTc-ly6dc Жыл бұрын

How did you overcome

@Officialrichmartin Жыл бұрын

@@TcTc-ly6dcyou never could just a black hole

@kaliljeffries7525 Жыл бұрын

@vdd9322 I can relate same situation it sucks but these babies didn't ask to be here so it's our responsibility to take care of them

@garyr1934 9 ай бұрын

Hey Are things better ? Please update I can only hope you’ve reunited

@Glori4n Жыл бұрын

I'm a proud single dad and my kid is always with me.Thank God!

@rogergr5019 Жыл бұрын

Same here, but it's hard sometimes to raise a son by myself ... ❤

@SingleDadSurvival Жыл бұрын

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝

@Soudogg78 7 ай бұрын

ME TOO BRUTHA ! THANK GOD IS RIGHT AMEN!

@jdangernoiz5861 Жыл бұрын

I made mistakes and my daughters mother kidnapped her away. For 10 years I spent everyday living for the hope I would get the chance to have her in my life again. Becoming the best version of myself I could for her. And, now I am taking over full custody after having primary custody for a year. Don't ever give up hope!

@BruceFowlerTech Жыл бұрын

I did it for 5 years with a 7 year old and a 15 year old , both daughters . It was a hard time ! I had full custody

@harrypotts1299 2 жыл бұрын

My wife died. The reality is this for me is a better situation than seeing my kids being introduced to daddy number 2. I am right here.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍

@AnEagle1900 Ай бұрын

@matthewdixon7013 3 жыл бұрын

My daughter is 6 and I have been a single dad for 4 years now. I have half custody and my ex and and I don't see eye to eye on anything. Her house is do whatever you want, go to bed late, eat junk food and my house is structured and focused on development. Needless to say, my daughter prefers her mom's house. Aside from that, the toughest thing I work through is my own self identity . My life revolves around my daughter and providing for her. I don't even find pleasure in things I use to be attracted to, like traveling and dating, sports, etc. When I don't have my daughter I come home, sit down and don't know what to do with myself and most of the time I just go work. Your video really resonated with me on several points.

@proudatheist2042 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, that's powerful. Please reach out to a qualified therapist, because it's concerning that you don't find any joy in the hobbies that you used to. While your daughter, a child, sees the world through a child's eyes, it is not in her best interests to run the roost and do what she wants at her mother's house. While your situation being at odds with your child's mother over everything is deeply aggravating, you are doing the right thing by setting common sense boundaries and a healthy structure.

@christianr-m.3457 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes they think you don’t love them because you look out for them and don’t give them their way. But in reality those who discipline their kids are the ones who really love them

@dewetpretorius4395 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Matthew, I am in exactly the same situation, except her mother neglects any sort of attention or any type of love towards my daughter, I have to be the mother and father, and I know exactly what you are talking about, I just need to let you know that your comment alongside this video gives me so much motivation, and I wish I had friends like you to identify with, you are awesome man

@Yunit87 2 жыл бұрын

My ex is like that. Her house is like guys do whatever u like, eat pizza abd hotdogs from the fridge, they are all over place. So the week I have them is like hell because I have to start again everything from scratch. Why are women like that?

@yiacope5503 Жыл бұрын

Here is a bit of advice I hope will be helpful to you Basics of fathering 1. Tell and show your daughter you love her in a way she understands. That there is a special place in your heart that belongs to her and her alone and no matter what you will be there when she need you. 2. Be honest with her in a gentle manner 3. Let her be honest with you. You are a human being and you will make mistakes. When she does have the courage to tell you what you did wrong how you respond will set an example for how she will approach her problems in the future, with things she knows will probably disappoint you. It’s important she knows you are someone she can confide in when she has such problems. Now here is some advice on how you can help yourself grow 1. Go to a therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist despite all the stereotypes said around these professions they are very helpful and make life more understandable 2. Ask yourself what do you want out of life? What are the things or activities that would make you happy? 3. Make good and dependable friends. 4. Be sure to self conscious and self aware of your actions and don’t be ashamed or forget to validate yourself on the good things you’ve accomplished and have done. I hope this advice helped

@claudiaarends7524 3 жыл бұрын

I have so much respect to single dad's , my dad has been one for 10 years of my oldest sister. Then he met my mum who put my other sister and me on the world . However she constantly went on 'vacation' fooled around and didn't even want us. My dad taught me even all the girl stuff I needed to know and used to brush my hair . My mum had a hairdresser cut it all off . Because of her I wore ridiculous clothes on one school photo and bullying got worse. Dad was furious and so he chose and bought us clothing instead. Single fathers and those with an emotionally abusive spouse are in my eyes God given .. they're always there when you need a hug and someone to talk to. Sending much love to every single one of you guys.

@gimmemine8890 3 жыл бұрын

That's nice to hear. It's nice to see a comment section where single father's aren't shit on.

@smith3568 2 жыл бұрын

which means your dad as t o wives??

@espnluver7525 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like ur mom didn’t really care for u at all but at least u have ur dad

@outplay_kids6654 3 жыл бұрын

I’m a single dad but I couldn’t feel less like a dad. My daughter was born last October and the mom and I were never together, more or less a one night stand. She’s keeping me from my daughter every way she can and it’s been well over half a year since I’ve seen my daughter. I’m going through the legal process now of trying to get into her life and it’s honestly taking it’s toll. I have no one to vent to about it that truly understands because my parents were together the majority of my life. And while I feel I know what I like and who I am without her it’s the fact I don’t know the person I can be with my daughter. I feel like I’m missing her grow up and time is flying. Just needed a vent. Don’t know how else to get it out

@jasonbell7832 3 жыл бұрын

Feel free to hmu brother if you need a friend

@pardone8932 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t know if your a praying man but if you truly want to be her dad , you will be … it takes time … Trust this, the mother may not want you right now but your kid will want you soon enough …. No kid in this world doesn’t want to be with their father who shows he loves them ….. A mother can’t take that away, even if she’s trying to for now This will change over time Fight your best legally to get some visitation, even if supervised given the babies age Once you have supervised visitation, you can get more time as your kid gets older This isn’t a sprint , it’s a marathon You don’t know what tomorrow may bring Stay close as you can and pray for it to happen It will at the right time Until then work and have a good life and be a strong man ! The world needs them and your kid will need you too

@youngkey3051 2 жыл бұрын

She’s a narcissist. Does the mother try to reach out to you? Most of the time it’s for a reason. If you can get her served a subpoena then you can get your kid in most states. The hard part is finding out where she lives. Sometimes a private investigator can do it. Just make sure you have a process server that can serve her.

@These-nutz Жыл бұрын

You’re a single dad without the child?

@tl7163 Жыл бұрын

Hey man how’s it going now? I’m in your situation now that you were in two years ago lol.

@nikolaibarbarich7887 3 жыл бұрын

Sort of going through this minus a couple differences. Luckily for me I have my beautiful daughter in my life fulltime as her mother passed in October 2020 due to drug addiction. Everything this man has said rings true minus the situation of losing children in a custody battle. Stay strong dads , our children need us in their lives no matter what. Dont let you other ex rule your life as well as your children's. Do the right thing and the truth shall prevail. Sending good vibes to any single father watching this today , feeling lost and uncertain of the future!

@jmb1215 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@fatoubah7472 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry, bro!

@mikebutler7121 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that

@nikolaibarbarich7887 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks guys. Just had our daughters first birthday without Natalie. So strange , 18th of October is coming up fast and that's 1 year already. Stay strong guys !

@adama8514 3 жыл бұрын

Hang in there brother! God bless you!

@vishwassaxena640 2 жыл бұрын

Being a single father of a girl child is tough. Been 5 years now and don't know how many its gonna to be. Sometimes it's the best feeling and on the other hand - "Why Me?" I haven't lost hope but don't know how long I will be able to pull this off...

@kathys.3420 2 жыл бұрын

🙏

@marthaeagles2757 Жыл бұрын

Kudos bro GOD will strengthen you and soon you will realize it was not invain to sacrifice for her hugs

@espnluver7525 Жыл бұрын

Be strong man be the best dad u can be to ur daughter

@LOVEDBYGOD15 10 ай бұрын

My dad takes care of me and he dealt with a lot of stuff. I have 5 siblings in total, but only me, my younger sister and older brother live with my dad. Love my dad so much. I try to stay in contact with my mom bc everyday isn't promised.

@vishwassaxena640 10 ай бұрын

@@LOVEDBYGOD15 bless you.. 💕💕💕

@judahvukeya8203 Жыл бұрын

Broke up with the mother of son today. I needed to hear this

@SingleDadSurvival Жыл бұрын

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@Callum-px7cr 2 жыл бұрын

As a 21-year-old single dad, this hit home. I see him 2 days a week and constantly feel like it's not good enough and that I'm not good enough. I feel like a failure so even when he is here I spend my days in a depressed state

@jalisco805ra 2 жыл бұрын

Man I know is tough I’m in the same situation just think of how better your son’s life will be without drama, I left my own house to avoid conflict with his mom and she would use him as bait for me to come back to her, im in the process of custody and is very tough luckily I’ve had my son for a month now until next court date, but just keep your head up and think positive now you can enjoy your son more those 2 days try to plan fun stuff to do with him while you have him he’ll thank you later in life

@tl7163 Жыл бұрын

Yer man I feel you. It’s not your fault. I don’t have the answers though, I’m in the same situation, tough break. Your not alone

@conusx Жыл бұрын

You're there for him, good luck.

@paulwizal23d89 4 жыл бұрын

I’m going through the same thing brother!! I’m trying to take the leap the best I can!! I have soul custody of my “irish twins” boy and girl for three years now!! They are 5 and 6! It’s so mentally hard! But then again so rewarding!! Which I knew you bud!!

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@dylanm2302 3 жыл бұрын

I have listened to your video over and over again for hours now because it’s hit me so hard! The first 30 seconds actually made me break down because it’s exactly how I feel! This video is exactly how I’ve been feeling and what I’ve been going through for the past year and a half!

@zainlewis5306 3 жыл бұрын

instablaster.

@thekingcollective4152 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you connected so deeply brother.

@Sigma100_ 2 жыл бұрын

I feel like this every day. My twins are only 4 years old. Every time they leave to go home with Mom, I feel so empty. Nothing fulfills me anymore. I'm simply going through the motions of life and everything means nothing. My greatest sadness is that I'll never be able to replace my time away from them, not being able to come home and embracing them. My heart is so broken.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@bigb2707 3 жыл бұрын

Shit.. im in a toxic broken marriage trying to prepare to walk away and this is making me even more empty.

@fatoubah7472 3 жыл бұрын

You got this, lean on God if you believe in Him or try some meditation and working out. Boxing helps. You got this.

@MrOwen84uk 3 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain man

@stevencurtis3959 3 жыл бұрын

Just walk..... if your hearts not in it your children will see you happy in the end. Be there for them and accept it hasn’t worked. Took me 3years to realise that, I wish you well my friend. 🙏🏻

@soul832006 3 жыл бұрын

@Big B mate take it one step at a time. Do you have an AVO to protect yourself and children? If you engage with DOCS or Brighter Futures and can show you've protected your children, you stand a greater chance of gaining custody. Children witnessing abuse are at serious risk of harm. You need to demonstrate you've tried to protect them and you're willing to take them out of a dangerous situation. I'm lucky to have the support of my parents. Her spitting at my face and withdrawing financial support for the daycare was the last straw for me. She no longer contributes anything to the home and bills. Seek good legal advice. If you have property make the initial consult easier by getting a few market appraisals first. I'm in that process and quietly getting ready to engage the services of a lawyer to understand my financial position, likelihood of custody, what visitation looks like etc. The scariest thing for me is thinking I won't be with my son everyday. But because she has a history of violence, I think I stand a high chance of gaining custody. I have the reports from my time engaging with Brighter Futures and the steps I undertook to bring my son to safety in the past. I think one of the saddest things is trying to come to terms with your child growing up between 2 homes. As they have a right to know both parents.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@daddyconnor3125 2 жыл бұрын

I’m going through this with a spouse who was unfaithful. While I’m trying to cope with not seeing my son who I consider to me my world she is telling lies about me to family and friends who unfortunately believe her without asking me anything. She is making me out like I am a bad father and I don’t tell anyone the truth about her because I don’t want to put my 6 year old son in any stressful situations. I’m struggling hard with only seeing him for a night a week while she , The lier , the cheater , the evil gets to have all these memories with him . I’m lost! 🤦🏻‍♂️

@moeal6590 11 ай бұрын

You're not alone man. Very similar situation here, and the financial burden is so over whelming, you feel lost in the depth of darkness, hopefully there is some light after all the deception and hate.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@fatsanch8817 3 жыл бұрын

Made me tear up instantly.. exactly me right now..

@realar 3 жыл бұрын

*hugs you*

@rather8948 3 жыл бұрын

Same brother

@kingcasper_stckd7544 2 жыл бұрын

Hope it got better man. Currently going through it rn

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@mini_kimmyy 2 жыл бұрын

This is a space for single dads. Huge props to you all for doing it every day. Remember to take time for yourself if you can

@markwilliams7381 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 💕

@These-nutz Жыл бұрын

I’ve had my son alone since he was 2, his mother died at 34 years old, he has behavioral issues, it’s hard, he’s 11 now, I haven’t had a night alone or a sitter in 3 years, I finally found a job that will let me come in after I get him to school, I have no help with him at all

@marthaeagles2757 Жыл бұрын

Hugs bro may her mum rest in peace one day you will look behind and see your sacrifice is not invain

@These-nutz Жыл бұрын

@@marthaeagles2757 🙏 ❤️

@beastiegrows 11 ай бұрын

Newly single Dad of twin 5 year old boys. Lifes not turned out like I expected. But im raising 2 future Kings so I need to be a King myself

@inmyopinion838 2 жыл бұрын

If you’re here , you’re a strong and hard working father💪remember that brother

@dudesterman9166 8 ай бұрын

Went thrue everything you just talked about. I regained full custody of my precious daughter 2 days ago. We live in a world where the loser can win and the winner can lose so badly. Dont ever give up hope.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@muckiemarfe2782 4 жыл бұрын

This is me right now, the fear of the unknown. Same situation as you brother, everyday i told myself why do this happens to me. But we have to man it up for our daughter. We have to be strong amidts the strom and face it. We have to be a father.

@donbain7444 3 жыл бұрын

Started the single dad last week. I’ve been feeling all of this.

@fatoubah7472 3 жыл бұрын

sorry to hear that! But congrats on the new journey. I've a few questions, is this because of a divorce? are you a surrogate? are you gay or straight? how many kids? I am planning to be a single parent as well. I will appreciate you helping me understand your situation

@Toomanymemes697 3 жыл бұрын

Keep it up

@fya7056 3 жыл бұрын

My prayers for you... I have started since Oct 2020..... May Almighty bless us all..

@AKAFU-wp5qp 3 жыл бұрын

No one wants this to work for me...everyone liked her more than me, baby sitter cost more than I make. I have to give up custody...and it might kill me. My kids are my life.

@jonnasrios9446 3 жыл бұрын

I started this 2 months ago also it's the hardest thing I've had to go through

@thetrainersforum 3 жыл бұрын

Wowwww.. Jeeze, You spoke such absolute truth, awareness - almost as though you were telling my own very story.. Very much appreciated - Heavvy applause.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@rclamber1 2 жыл бұрын

Man this hits hard. I’m weeping. I’m a recovering alcoholic rebuilding my life and trying to be the best dad I can be. The mother of my son is the love of my life and knowing I’ll have to miss out on vacations, some holidays, and all that other good stuff is heart wrenching. Being around my son makes all those sad thoughts melt away. I can only hope I can learn to cope and ‘get over it’ with time.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@redalphapills Жыл бұрын

LEMME JUST WIPE THESE TEARS.....thank you. i needed this today on christmas eve, Kings stay strong.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@toddkostoff7224 Жыл бұрын

Ya stumble on this broke me down real bad was tough…My kids mom was something from diff planet.Still dealing but thank you

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@TheDphilly86 2 жыл бұрын

2 years later just hit me so hard I don't know what to say this made me feel so bad about myself but I'm so grateful of what I have I don't know if you guys understand what I am coming from everything that I have been through I just want to be the best single dad where I've come from and I don't know it just makes me feel so much more powerful from this message this message has made me feel so much more positive and being a single dad I just want to make my son's life more positive from what I have endured thank you

@smith3568 2 жыл бұрын

am so so sorry about that.how many children did you have?and where are you from

@jasonbrophy7921 Жыл бұрын

In a bad spot right now and you’ve hit it All on the nose,made me break down a bit during this,thanks so much

@adventureswithdad179 2 жыл бұрын

Man I totally relate. Being a single dad is the hardest thing in life. So many highs and lows. We started our own channel to have something fun to do together and give us a reason to "adventure." Stoked I just found your channel. Looking forward to checking out your videos.

@hazpacks8914 Жыл бұрын

My wife of 16 years and 48 days officially divorced me on July 20th. I’ve been on my own for about 3 weeks now. I did not want the divorce. I did not cheat but I did not love her as good as I should have. I had depression up until 2 years ago when she filed on me. She would cry asking me to get help and it never registered in my brain. Not until something drastic changed my life. I hate myself for it everyday and feel sad even when I have my girls with me. I can’t stop thinking of my ex wife. Crazy thing is, is that the last months together we finally got our marriage right. We were showing love and respect and putting the other first. It was all so natural. So much so that she wasn’t sure she wanted me to move out. Now that I’m out she is more standoffish. She says she is happy. I know I’m not. And not sure if and when I will be. I’m mentally exhausted by the end of the day and the pain is so bad. I would not wish this on anyone. Trying to stay strong but I question myself sometimes on how long I can maintain this. Just keep trying to be the best dad for my girls and remind myself it will be worse for them if I was not here.

@SingleDadSurvival Жыл бұрын

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝

@Lylelou233 11 ай бұрын

I hope you have made some progress over the last couple months. Tomorrow is always a brighter day!!

@GuitaristGuyJames 2 жыл бұрын

Why would it be hard if that’s what you want? People have kids with the wrong people everyday and waste their lives away in obligation to stay together for the kids, something that only leads to resentment. How about being a kickass version of yourself and see your kids as much as you can. That’s just my perspective from mentorship.

@fatoubah7472 3 жыл бұрын

I feel you on the loneliness and the lack of support and the judgement from others. I am going through a divorce, there is no one in the world I can mention it to, my family has been shaming me, I do not feel safe around my very family. So I workout, pray, and build my company. Luckily I don't have any kids at the moment but this experience made me realize. there is a crazy world out there, and you gotta be careful about how you approach life. I send you all the love in the world, brother. Stay strong.

@AnEagle1900 Ай бұрын

God is watching even when no one else is

@coolcoolguy4259 Жыл бұрын

This seriously made me cry, as a single father this really hit me..

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@kingcasper_stckd7544 2 жыл бұрын

This hit me so hard . Im deployed right now and as soon as I deployed it feels like my wife just used it to leave me . I question my self worth. I want to end my life cause i feel like a constant disappointment. To my wife , my daughter , my friends and just me. Ive tried to be a good husband and a good father but everyone shits on me . I just avcept it and laugh it off but deep inside i want to curl into a ball and leave society. It feels as if I have 0 self worth. My daughter was my purpose for living and now that im deployed im detached for my only reason living. I hope i can move on with this and be proud of who i am in a few months but rn i just wanna end it all. At the end of the day who loves and appreciates a single father ?

@sumantabiswas7662 2 жыл бұрын

First of all i salute ur decision being a single dad its never be easy.. i must believe u did great job be postive and control ur emotions make a plan how kids are grown.. its a journey how they build up with ur love and affectionate..

@m.m3383 Жыл бұрын

I'm struggling today, more than usual. I have been seperated from my partner a year now. A whole year where I barely get to see my mini me. It's been so fkn hard.... I dont know what to do other than just try to make it through the day. Hoping to see better days.

@SingleDadSurvival Жыл бұрын

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝

@jagsdomain203 6 ай бұрын

Just became a single dad I could do get to see them every day for 3 hours but it got to work two part-time jobs that don't pay anything and you do just lose your identity when they leave you got nothing left and they're there they're great

@BubuOZn 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it is hard to be a single parent, especially when you have no help from anyone. I am a single father to my 11 months old daughter and no matter how hard I try, it is not at all easy to find a job from home. Through all this hardship that I go through when I look at her, I know that it is worth it.

@kathys.3420 2 жыл бұрын

Remain 💪

@mikemieding4773 Жыл бұрын

Had a daughter with my now ex-wife, born with complications that required 4 corrective surgeries 2000 miles from family and home town, while starting a business.

@markmcgowan7340 Жыл бұрын

Hope your still doing well my guy 💪

@nickweltikol4772 3 жыл бұрын

Been pretty stressful, due to recent circumstances my daughter which is 8 years old is now living with me full time. I also work a full time job, this isn’t going to be easy. Any other fathers out there with similar situations?

@hikmaloadingservice 3 жыл бұрын

I live with my daughter who is 7 years old.Her mother died a year ago from Cancer ....

@gimmemine8890 3 жыл бұрын

Same man. It's just been me daughter and me since 2015, she is now 7.

@ernestfalk 2 жыл бұрын

Been taking care of my kids on and off for a few months now, and as of a couple weeks ago I'm having them full time, also starting a full time job in a week, youngest is 4. God help me! I am surrounded by a good community so that'll help

@Sigma100_ 2 жыл бұрын

Gentlemen do the best you can. Trust me it's the hardest thing you'll ever do. Ask for help if you need to. We as men feel weak doing so. It'll be worth it at the end. Be patient with your children. You're in it together. Say I love you everyday. Cheers ! You are Warriors !

@youngkey3051 2 жыл бұрын

Yes my daughter is almost 7 as well and she’s autistic. Once I got a routine down with babysitting etc it was ok. My daughter still requires time from me that I can’t give right now. So I thought long and hard and picked up a trade where I can have a more flexible schedule. Don’t let anything stop you. Keep pushing…. 🙏🏽💪🏽💯

@carrasco2011sc 3 жыл бұрын

You adjust to it. I was a single dad then the mom came back and the court gave her a couple of overnights. I do fine being single dad of 2 children. It's not that hard.

@michaelsfreethoughtsforfre3472 Жыл бұрын

Just a reminder: there's a big difference between a single father who is raising his children full time, and a dad who only has his kids on the weekend and just happens to be single.

@georgecoutermarsh6542 2 ай бұрын

I have lost everything. This world is sick. I am now lost

@Dragon67-A21 2 ай бұрын

I'm a full time single father and it is tougher than being a single mother, everything is designed to help single mothers and makes it easier for them, I get walls, ugly looks, they demand prove, documents, affidavits and such, then they question everything and deny my pleas, I get bounced around and to in circles, it's tough

@ThomasHammonds-x3z Ай бұрын

@@Dragon67-A21 I hear exactly what you're saying I am a single father as well and I'm done living by society's rules the government's rules I'm going to live by my rules if the government and society has a problem with it then they can come outside and meet me out there and catch a f****** fade cuz I'm sick and tired of the childish s*** I feel like a lot more single dads need to start getting in that mindset do what's best for you and your child government and society through the blocking the way plow through that s*** and keep going anybody gets pissed off about it tell them to f*** off and keep going in your direction that'll really piss them off cuz I understand exactly what you're saying and that's why I'm done what's societies little b******* and the government's little bulshit and I hope to God somebody from the government or society read this because deep down inside I will keep f****** fighting it until the day I die I'm sick and tired of the child as s***

@jahlilpope9915 Ай бұрын

I’m 24 with a full time job raising a 2 year old mom isn’t around it’s something but one day it’ll all come together

@So-cj4oj 8 күн бұрын

@@georgecoutermarsh6542you’re not alone my friend. I’m experiencing it too. I’m going to make you a promise, I’m going to keep my chin up and carry on. All I ask, is that you do the same. We got this my friend.

@DeeRock21 Жыл бұрын

I've been doing it for 12+ years and it's still hard saying goodbye after they visit. Im always wishing I had more time and they're almost adults now 😢

@SingleDadSurvival Жыл бұрын

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝

@jeremybistline3799 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I went through everything you describe here. I have a lot left to do but I came through it stronger and full of gratitude. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone. Thank you for sharing.

@_mahasalman 2 жыл бұрын

i hope you’re doing alright

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@jfor7074 7 ай бұрын

Dam bro first 30 seconds, brought me to tears. So true bro! Messed up! I dont blame anyone but myself.

@lol2skaters Жыл бұрын

this made me cry within the first few minutes so powerful

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@Tango-86 Жыл бұрын

I’m a single dad of five kids trying to sort out the mess of a situation after divorce. I’ve got sole custody of them and I have had to take time off work to take care of them. I’ve managed to make a bunch of progress, climbing 30 K out of debt, no longer having to visit the food bank after we were financially devastated. The difficult thing is trying to get back into a routine that works, trying to get back to work and figure out a way to take care of the little ones when I can’t be home for them. It’s difficult to because I find as a man you get very little sympathy. Most people are like well you know it’s your fault for choosing her. I’ve had to deal with the pain of the person I once loved and thought I knew turned out only to be a façade of who she really was. Life is better now, and we are getting back on track however the logistics of trying to maintain work and caring for the kids all at the same time is Massive.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@pyro1259 Жыл бұрын

I’m a single father of 3 and I’m now financially struggling so I was KZbin solution i stumbled on this video and it helps me to know someone else has gone thru this and understands the way I am struggling the way my struggle effects my strength and mind set my fears thank you

@espnluver7525 Жыл бұрын

How r u doing now????

@clh85 2 жыл бұрын

Be true to yourself. There is a good father inside despite all the flaws. It is inherent. Learn your own truth. Be Daddy.

@clydecruthird8503 4 ай бұрын

Man this really hurts.. it brings us tears to my eyes when the relationship ended I felt so bad I lost my job and I felt so lost. I still feel empty and useless..I really there is light at the end of the tunnel because man this is really hard 😢

@brickworknstuff9650 3 ай бұрын

Ive feeling like this for 13 years. My sons always wanted to live with his mum and we hav3 always had a relationship and seen him and hung out but its never really felt enough you know and i usually go watch him play football but i didn't seem to exist. And then a month ago i watched him play and im chatting with his coach at the end and he gets straight in the car and leaves without saying just 'bye dad' so i said i wasn't happy about that taking moral high ground and now his mum says he doesn't want to talk or see me. Just endless semi care and heart break. What do you do..

@jacobadams8306 Жыл бұрын

Man this absolutely hit home. I'm glad to see somebody sharing awareness about this. It's the hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life. I still get to see my blood daughter 3-4 days a week, but the other two that I raised for four years from the time they were babies, I only see maybe once a month for a couple hours and my strongest bond was with the six year old girl. Everytime I get to see her and she leaves I end up just completely breaking down. I already know what it's like to start losing that deep connection.

@scarygreenmonster4130 Жыл бұрын

I divorced her. I wanted things to work and I tried again. And I’m alone in my apartment having just ended things again… why did I have to fall in love with a toxic person? When you said who am I without my kids and my friends? I realized that was a question I’ve never asked myself. Thank you. I have hope now… to search for that answer.

@claudiozamudio2952 3 жыл бұрын

As a single father of a 2 and 3 year old I am devastated the mother cheated on me with her boss.. its ok she wanted to move on .. its been a year and my kids have always wlbeen with me .. she dint ask for them or care for them it was always me .. now she is filling for child support ... and the system will probably help her ..even now she's not taking the league.. how do I show court I am fit...

@x6fnxsauce 3 жыл бұрын

Hey brother, im pretty sure since you have full custody that you wont have to pay a dime. In fact typically its the non custodial parent that usually pays the primary custodial parent child support. Im no expert in this but this is what ive heard. Good luck brother

@joeroot9142 3 жыл бұрын

Depends hopefully you’re not in cali

@mikebutler7121 3 жыл бұрын

Im a single father i have a two month baby it come with all kind of emotions mom got sick on Me went from bad to worse I miss her so much and if she can see our baby wow she would melt the baby name is miracle companion butler

@thekingcollective4152 3 жыл бұрын

Stay strong mate.

@qatatvip5451 3 жыл бұрын

So much condolences take heart 💞💞

@qatatvip5451 3 жыл бұрын

Am here if you may need companion

@sentientcheese1620 2 жыл бұрын

I may not be a single dad or a man at all or a parent for that matter I'm actually not even an adult but to all you single dads out there working hard for your child/children. I wish you the best because I know my father figure is the best man I've ever had the blessing to be around and to learn from.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@lloydtunes2146 Жыл бұрын

You hit me right in those words. This hurts but I needed this. Thank you

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@banzaiman1 Ай бұрын

Fuuuck, you just hit the nail on the head. I've completely lost myself in my relationship, now I'm separated I don't know what to do. I'm completely broken. I don't know what makes me happy anymore

@josephclintmasa2705 Жыл бұрын

I don't know what to do just got separated from my partner and I'm. Away with my 1 year old baby girl. I miss her dearly

@SingleDadSurvival Жыл бұрын

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝

@AndDreakassj4 2 жыл бұрын

i am not alone... thank you brother.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@nickharris9026 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I needed this tonight 👑

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@Nate-lw2gd 9 ай бұрын

I’m a single father of two boys 4&5 full custody there mother got on heavy drugs I have to say this the biggest challenge I had but I won’t give up

@kyle1903 6 ай бұрын

I just became single dad. Kiddos over at their mom's for the wk. Man this sucks especially when I saw them everyday.

@brandonskelly35 Ай бұрын

Five years ago since your last upload? If I see that right. You made a real impact man. It’s really hard. This was a powerful truth. Thx

@narutouzamaki2487 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a 24 year old single father with a 5 year old daughter i have no idea where the mom left to . I ve been depressed since I was 13 but now the depression is much worse since I've just recently became a single father life is heavy dude 😕

@joeroot9142 3 жыл бұрын

Don’t worry you’ll be fine

@fatoubah7472 3 жыл бұрын

sorry!

@RTruth-el3ub 3 жыл бұрын

Live in the moment. Take life one day at a time. change ur focus and thinking about the responsibility ahead. There is no play book for parenting .just give ur 1001 and the universe will support u. There are social services that u can take advantage of and know that we men have the same strength just as the women do. I am a father of 3(2,7,10)and I won't trade this job for none other. U are not alone bruh

@K9SERPENT 3 жыл бұрын

All my respect to you brother. I'm 25 and my daughter is 4 years old, I see you and feel with you. We'll get through this and become stronger toward the other side, pulling our daughters up by being steadfast examples of never giving up

@soul832006 3 жыл бұрын

That's very hard! Stay strong! Hug your children and be there for them. You get to have all the quality time with them. Have you accessed emergency supports or the support of friends and family?

@youngkey3051 2 жыл бұрын

I have full custody of my daughter. She hates to see me leave and go to work. It hurts me the most. So I’m starting my own business. Problem solved….

@espnluver7525 Жыл бұрын

How old is she

@thehomeeconomistskitchen9307 Жыл бұрын

Being a single parent is always difficult but it becomes easy when you have your parents by your side.

@joncardwell6207 2 жыл бұрын

I would never hatefully take custody from my ex wife. Like others who hate women and children might.

@carolinawestern3875 9 ай бұрын

I was a single dad of 2 rambunctious boys. I got sole custody in 97, when they were 2 & 4yrs old. It was tough and i was a solo longhaul trucker. Running SC to CA and back, nearly 3 times a month. Hiring a nanny was expensive but they went w/me in summer. It was hard on me and I pay for it physically now. But wouldn't change a thing, if i had it to do over. Being their dad kept me focused and made a better man of me.

@harshulghai5166 2 жыл бұрын

I am single parent (father)raising my son since he was 2 yrs now he is 3.5 yrs.i always want his happiness 😊😊

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@therealshadescostello 3 жыл бұрын

Got sole custody of my two kids boy and a girl my daughter was a victim of a child abuse while with her mom and new boyfriend.. my kids are Native American so they're protected by the Indian Child Welfare Act therefore I had to fight the tribe for sole custody...I did and won...God is great but but as an ex street guy who's been thru a lot it's by far the biggest and hardest responsibility I have ever had and I thank God everyday for having the privilege of being in these guys life...I wouldn't trade it for anything

@Onlinesully 3 жыл бұрын

I wish you so much strength and courage to do so well and make a good life for you all

@huggywuggy995 2 жыл бұрын

You want other women to pay for the mistakes that you created. You chose the woman you got with you should have vetted properly.

@grantday2673 2 жыл бұрын

I really needed this.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@guadalupegarcia1335 Жыл бұрын

I can't stop crying just missing my little girl

@cedricthehustler Жыл бұрын

I found out I was still a boy not ready for the job. Now I am.

@tl7163 Жыл бұрын

Thanks bro. I needed that talk 4 years ago though 😂 … still helpful though 👊

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@Eastwindsmw Жыл бұрын

Very inspiring, I have been single Dad since last year I have a full custody of my 5 year boy. I was afraid at first place not anymore now.

@ArthurGorlov 2 жыл бұрын

First what you need to do is ACCEPT the reality. It can take a lot of time but it needs to be done. In order to move forward in life you need to realize where you at. It is ok to fail. We must make mistakes to become better versions of ourselves.

@joshknight8973 2 жыл бұрын

I'm a single dad. She keeps him. She is really difficult to talk and manage my sons time money and events. Man it sucks, specially when im actually trying to be active in my sons life.. the drive home after dropping him off. At least she gets nights and can cuddle him everyday. On my down days, it's just me. It does sucks for us the ones that are actually trying...

@SS5SS5 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this TKC! You’re saving lives rather you know it or not. I mean this sincerely

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@soul832006 3 жыл бұрын

Not all of us end up being left. We become the ones who leave because they've grown fed up with violence and abuse. The anger and damage to our belongings becomes too much. I don't want my 3 year old son to keep growing up in a home where he witnesses his mother talk to his father like trash, kick and break belongings (including our son's toys) etc. The breaking point for me was when she spat in my face last night and said I wasn't worth respecting. This morning she cancelled her payments of our son's daycare and said she didn't care what happened to his education. I figured out how I can budget for it on top of all the other bills. Last night I anonymously called the cops and today they came around investigating. I told them how she spat in my face, broke the new range hood (I hadn't installed it yet), threw a container of oily food all over the bedroom floor (destroying my uni papers and books) and destroyed my son's toy supermarket. It's a breach of avo because she has one in place against her. 2nd one in 2 years. I haven't told her that I informed the police of the damage. I just made up the story that the neighbours reported it. Police believe so too. I didn't want to risk having more of my belongings damaged. I'm considering moving more stuff to my parents' home to protect it.

@singledadsinglemom 6 ай бұрын

So well put, thank you for sharing brother!

@pjswagstone6186 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I really needed this.

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@justincregar8636 4 жыл бұрын

I am a single dad of 3 boys. they been with me for 5 years now. I was told by some poeple want me to give up my kids and then i can have more thim for my job

@kaxis26 4 жыл бұрын

Don't worry about people. People suck, worry about your kids. You can work when you need later. For now you need to be with them when enjoy your time together, you only get that once.

@janestanford2101 4 жыл бұрын

Justin can I get to know you better?

@justincregar8636 4 жыл бұрын

@@janestanford2101 ok

@janestanford2101 4 жыл бұрын

@@justincregar8636 text me on hangout Janestan111@gmail.com

@Onlinesully 3 жыл бұрын

@@kaxis26 people can give terrible advice. And make horrible comments and judgements.

@bgtasdomain 9 ай бұрын

... Being a single father isn't the only thing that hurts. It's also not having a supportive family myself. I tried dating to gain a connection. But that's not going to help. I just can't start dating and everything will be better. I walk away from dating, friends and any associates because I can't heal a "gunshot" with a bandaid. I am torn, damaged, and only have my boys. My boys only have me, they don't know any other family members. They don't know their names or mention them. So every day I put my cape on and remind them that we only have each other and we must be supportive of each other.

@MikeJohnson-em1nt 3 жыл бұрын

The sad thing is, that this only has 5000 views and 30 comments. Men go through the same struggles and have the same feelings as women. But the difference is that society says we can't show it, and it's so f***** up as a single father myself to look at this video and realize that this is the only way that I can get emotional. I can't even talk to my friends about this because of the judgment

@fatoubah7472 3 жыл бұрын

@I love 5G and the aliens that are coming back. thank you very much for the kin words. I appreciate it.

@pa4760 3 жыл бұрын

Why do they judge? Can you please elaborate. Lots of support to you😊

@mikebutler7121 3 жыл бұрын

I agree

@FallacyAsPraxis 3 жыл бұрын

If they're going to judge your situation then they're not really your friends. Friends support you when you need help. I am a single parent. I know what its like. Men hang out with the boys to play games, drink, watch sports, and shoot the breeze. But they don't talk about stuff like this. A shame. I tried to start a local group for single fathers and there was no interest. Its hard. Men are not cultured to respond to things like this. Even thought they know they need the help they think it makes them look weak.

@wheatstonebridge 2 жыл бұрын

Would a single dad be okay to date a woman who doesn't want her OWN kids? But is perfectly okay that you have yours?

@muhammadmahad9293 3 ай бұрын

She's pregnant! BUT She already threatened me about abortion. This marriage might not continue. Why well she's just done with me. Healing yes.. I'm Scared of marriage and parents are already planning to get me married again 😂... BUT THE CHILD... idk I'll fight for the custody if I have to. This child is my hope to continue.

@allennavas3830 2 жыл бұрын

Here's a sadder thought. Having a Daughter. Enjoy the memories your making with her now, be the best father she'd want to share the world to and always show that she will always have your support because one day she is going to be throttled like a ragdoll in heat when she meets the love of her life. So when time comes you can always look back at better days.

@sonnyv6749 3 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this. THANK YOU!

@Proverbs3.3 7 ай бұрын

@Rogers15 3 жыл бұрын

This has been me the past 6 1/2 years. Got a girl pregnant my senior year in high school. Ever since then my daughter was born, I’ve built up a barricade around myself because of the struggles. It’s hard to let that barricade down after you’ve kept it up for so long

@sheri2845 2 жыл бұрын

Be strong's DADS! You CAN do it. 🌟🥇you already are! Even if you don't know what you're doing, take it one day at a time💖

@NeilEnvySA 3 ай бұрын

Lost my Wife due to a Car Accident in 2021. Raising my Kids Alone. Our Daughter was 3 years old at Time of Accident and was in the Car with Her Mom. She is 6 years old now and Her Brother 14 years old. After all The Trauma my Daughter could not be with a Nanny all Day. So i cut my Working Hours in Half so i can have Her with me when She gets out of School at 1pm. Some Days my Son looks after Her so i can go and Work in the Afternoons. They are Comfortable with each other. It is not Always Easy,but what is? Main thing is not to Never give up. Keep Praying. That pulled me through 🙏 Salute to All The Single Dads. Now i do not Feel Alone anymore. Keep up The Good Work and Stay Strong ❤ NV. South Africa 🇿🇦

@brodyd4676 2 жыл бұрын

When I held my first born for the first time I whispered to her “hey baby girl” she opened her eyes like she recognize the sound of my voice, probably cause I spent hours talking to my daughter through her mommas belly lol. I changed as a person in that moment, Only thing that ever mattered after that was my kids and my career success for my kids.

@Justdiggins 3 жыл бұрын

Hey bois, I felt the same pain my first week after my ex ran off with my kids, so I understand the initial impact, its life altering, demoralizing, and for some of us unfortunately it's the last straw... I was fortunate enough to be able to focus my pain and anger into letting my ADHD brain take over. That's right. I have mental health gifts! and I didn't even know it at the time, yet it allowed me to obsess over how I could get my life with my kids back! By the end of the next week I was in the solicitor generals office demanding a court date to protect my children's mental health and financial well being or they would have to arrest me to get me to leave ( multiple factors come into play for this ). By the next Monday I was self representing in front of the family court judge, that could only say. "despite the status quo, that the mother should have initial care of the children, until the court deems otherwise adherent to a lawful agreement or judgement. It would clearly be in the children's best interest that the father have interim day to day care until the mother has sufficiently proven to the court otherwise" Words spoken over 3 years, and now I have full custody and we are kicking ass as a little team of 3👍 main take away lawyers will drain you, read the laws, learn the basics, it shows the judge you care more than most rather than leave this most important situation to a stranger, and best part only costs you the time of work for court dates, while the ex is mounting massive legal fees everytime you e-mail their lawyer lol 👍 your welcome, best of luck bois

@JesusIsthedoor1 3 жыл бұрын

Stay encouraged. May Jesus bless you

@smith3568 2 жыл бұрын

sorry about that friend

@smith3568 2 жыл бұрын

which means you are single now

@ilkkak3065 Ай бұрын

Been single father of four soon six years. Not much dating but I know who needs me and loves me. I needed to learn much new things but after that it isn't that hard, much better than bad marriage.

@Looneytokk 3 жыл бұрын

I was a single father for the first 4 years of my daughters life. I lived with family this entire time so I had someone there and it was easy. I got a parenting plan so the mother could be in the moms life. I met a girl and fell in love. I Married her. I got my first house and life was good for a year at leased. One day I went to work and when I came home there where cops there so I was initially concerned, so I jumped out of my car and ran inside to see what my wife was doing to my surprise she had all of her things packed and she was loading them out into my carport. She wouldn’t talk to me or tell me what was going on at all I was completely lost and clueless as to what the situation was. She told me she was leaving and never coming back, my heart sank as I walked her walk away now keep in mind she had a baby when I got with her and I raised that little girl for two years of her life almost 3 actually. So for the first time in my life I’m all alone in my house and I have my five-year-old daughter every other week. I’ve been alone now for three weeks and it’s very hard. Some days I want to just end everything. And other days I have motivation and the urge to push on for the betterment of my life. But that feeling is rare most of the time I just feel like a zombie walking around just trying to accomplish simple goals cooking cleaning doing laundry etc. I have this urge and this feeling of despair like I’m gonna be alone for the rest of my life because how can I date again and put myself through this again. Things never seem to work in my favor I’m just a father who works a lot and comes home and does simple tasks around the house. It’s very scary sometimes and sometimes I just don’t know what to do with myself, I get really really depressed most days and I just don’t really wanna do anything but lay there and think about the past and things that I could’ve done differently. I know I have to look at the silver lining in things and I know that I have to push on for my daughter regardless of my situation. But my God let me tell you it is so hard.

@nigeljuniorpeters7831 2 жыл бұрын

Don't give up brother, you have someone that'll come looking for you.

@Atur1985 2 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s sounds like you are an amazing person. I think you did and are doing the best you can. Your wife that just walked out on you will someday regret it, trust me. She didn’t have the wisdom to know she had a great man. In the meantime, take care of yourself, your daughter, keep grinding you already have a home so I know you can provide. Strengthen your relationships with family or friends. The right women will come along but don’t ignore red flags of women. Don’t focus on her words,focus on her actions and her past. Good luck.

@reecewalton3177 Жыл бұрын

Ugh I have my daughter full time it's hard as hell with everything in life that got affected by it. My ex left me 10 Months ago for someone younger and basically turned into a slag with all types of blokes. I got my heart broken while having to move back to mum's living on her sofa with my 14 month old daughter at that time. Now I still live at my mum's but I have a bedroom I share with my daughter, my mum looks after her while I work. Unfortunately I came to agreement with the ex for 50/50 . Unfortunately she hasn't had her overnight since November. My daughter has definitely developed massively since being with me full-time and is comfortable. But even still to this day her mothers house is terrible. When she was staying there or has been with her mother. It would put her out of routine or come back with horrible habits of hitting or biting.