The hidden danger of achieving your one big goal | Alireza Rohani | TEDxTwenteU

[@manuellemus3840]

This is what I’m going through. I’m no longer the lovable underdog. I’m now the defending champion. I have no competition. No enemies. Nothing to fight for.

[@7UPDoge]

I started my job 4 years ago as the youngest, skinniest and smallest (in every way) in my field, had an boss that would harass me in ways untolerable even outside of the workplace. I used those feelings to over achieve at work, stood up for myself and got my boss fired after two years and just this week I got promoted to his position. I succeed and I don't know what to, I peaked in my profession and I have no need to excel any further and I don't know how to handle it. I definitely put all my eggs in one basket

[@ceeceedior21]

I thought I was ungrateful or weird for feeling sad after passing my CNA class and state boards. Now I know this feeling is normal. I literally put my whole identity into being a healthcare worker

[@FelixCousins]

Single identity is a dangerous thing: If you achieve a big goal you can lose your whole identity Never ever put all your eggs in one basket. Do: Learn a language New sport New friends Care about them Dedicate yourself You need multiple identifiers so that if you lose one you still have an identity

[@FelixCousins]

@@FranSauce progress brings great satisfaction and happiness!

[@FelixCousins]

@@FranSauce love to hear it! myself as well!

[@Stifados]

Yo my friend what if I do all of that and still have the same problem

[@omareldaghar9390]

Thanks for the talk :) There're almost no materials about what "What to do after achieving goals and dreams?". Good to see this one.

[@jonasschanze5897]

Check out Slavoj Zizek or if you feel hardcore: Jacques Lacan

[@Bianca-en3oq]

I felt so lost after passing the licensure exam which I have been waiting for so long. I even get the top 1 spot and that is the proof how much I badly wanted it. So I dedicated most of my time figuring things that I barely know in order to increase my knowledge. Until now, I feel not enough and lost all my will and realising that I should crave more to be motivated and courageous enough to keep living and not be depressed...

[@Fetjdg]

Achieved my PhD in July 2022. I do not want to do anything anymore. I have waited so long to finally get this over, I never thought about what would come afterwards. Even though I was looking forward to all the nice things I could do when I have finished the PhD, now that I have time for it, I don't want to do anything of it.

[@snlvl]

I understand you. In my case I am a PhD drop out. I couldn't put up with the misstreatment from my PI... but I absolutely understand you. I don't know what to do anymore

[@loudletters4u]

Are you ok now? I felt the same … this made me launch my KZbin channel to document my life after PhD!

[@manuellemus3840]

Congratulations!

[@theghost3061]

After years of regret, I finally achieved a goal. I was so happy at the moment.

[@paul-kg6vq]

I worked so hard in my job and saved to become mortgage free on my first house that after i felt empty but soon realised it was because i had no other goals...now i know to keep at least 2 goals on the go all the time

[@loudletters4u]

I felt the same … this made me launch my KZbin channel to document my life after PhD!

[@lnagy88]

I wish I knew this before, but it's never too late, thank you!

[@余克雷蒙]

That’s really true. I just got a job and I find myself exceptionally empty because as a student, my ultimate goal is to get a good job. And I did it. Maybe I should start to look for my soulmate 😂 and learn something new

[@jdt8983]

This rule helps with dealing with failure too

[@YoungJustice1997]

I just graduated college with straight A's and I'm feeling just off like empty inside.

[@eddielo922]

Hey man keep on going I felt sad after achieving many goals and I messed up my life bad because I felt empty inside and I asked for what reason was this all for..Now I regret it I could not relate with no one I'm happy for you and wish you the best congratulations you graduated

[@toriderden139]

Same here. How are you doing right now? How did you cope?

[@Stifados]

Yea dude same problem with me

[@mobileuser806]

Tha answer that i have been findings since the last three and a half years👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@Giorgos60726072]

Nice speech ! It's really helpful to lessen to someone who has been in a similar situation

[@ChristineTinaD]

I’m going through this, I’m struggling to set new BIG goals

[@osamaqtaitat]

Are you mad?? Live the moment forget media bullshits like they know everything!!

[@roughroadrunner88]

Its different for me, i had a lot of friends before but did not have a goal. On my darkest moment, no friends were there for me. So now im anti social and focused on my goal.

[@cndvdxyhjblbilg]

Same

[@beatwavs]

I have what I call "post-deadline blues". It must have something to do with dopamines too.

[@Stifados]

Dopamines how on earth you solve something like that

[@tonyterng]

you open my eyes. Thank you !!!

[@breadams1940]

This was great! Just what I needed to hear! Wow

[@Muskgus]

This has no views.. how?!

[@theghost3061]

My thoughts exactly

[@volcom05345]

Most people are still watching videos on how to actaully achieve their goals

[@businessmogul4026]

@@volcom05345 😂True

[@PureSinaatraa]

This happened to me and I’m currently in that slump. I lost 145lbs and joined the Navy and have no idea what to do now

[@hannahmiller3960]

😲

[@plodelo2045]

get the 145Ibs back

[@luizmiller8570]

💀

[@michaelshawusa1]

@@plodelo2045lolololol

[@Maveric72]

I am listening it in my 5th year of my PhD

[@loudletters4u]

Have you graduated? I felt the same … this made me launch my KZbin channel to document my life after PhD!

[@JF098]

Sadly, I only realized this recently and I'm already knee-deep in depression. Finding something else to enjoy or be passionate about just isn't working.

[@loudletters4u]

I felt the same … this made me launch my KZbin channel to document my life after PhD!

[@Tc-ih8zj]

Pls find a new goal & set up a new project... little by little (baby steps) work towards this new goal, and your life will start having Purpose... and in time, even Passion!

[@hennesseyme9112]

Wow! this was a wonderful talk.

[@Aeronautgal]

Mashallah 👏

[@gauravsareen240]

That was awesome...soft slap on the face...

[@lightvsdark-stableversion3834]

This is what happens when studying is not passion. He just did it for PhD thesis. And that is Bad 😕

[@snlvl]

Well or not. Maybe the PhD itself was his dream. So after this is over... even if you can do a postdoc or somethibg like that is not the same.

[@HoopersDelight]

Thank you

[@warlopama5741]

It happened to me twice but in a small scale only. After achieving Mytic for the first time in Mobile Legends i feel empty inside. Then it happened to me again while playing Genshin Impact i grind daily, weekly, so that i can triple crown my Main unit Ningguang, then finally it happen i made it. I feel like empty and hollow inside. Like i lost my purpose. As the say -the journey is as important as the goal.

[@dylan-kt7kd]

I feel like he’s gonna have another crisis after this

[@introvertedsinethemba]

Yoooh I hear this man😢❤

[@alexmonreal6404]

Awesome presentation!!

[@anamarquez3851]

Wow, amazing

[@plodelo2045]

after I got B I felt empty man being Genuis is so hard

[@EmilyS2o2]

This is due to a paychological phenomenon called the hedonic tredmill if anyone is interested

[@KoolT]

Classic big goal achievement and then the crash. Common on PHD s actually.

[@geovaniefloresnaturalbodyb701]

I achieved my goal at my job now it just feel bored and lost my hunger

[@leafire3]

This.

[@Sarinasaritt]

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