The Hypocrisy of TradWives and How to Actually Protect Your Finances

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@BloodSweatandFears 5 ай бұрын

I just wanted to say, those of us who are stay at home moms don’t just completely rely on our husbands for financial security. I have a nest egg I saved myself, we also have a prenuptial agreement in place. I also have a degree and experience under my resume. No one should ever quit their job for any reason without a back up plan. That’s just not very smart.

@sadfasde3108 5 ай бұрын

What happened to marriage being a team? Work together?

@BloodSweatandFears 5 ай бұрын

@@sadfasde3108 We do work together, every day. We work together for our children and for our life together. Neither of us believe in divorce but we both know things happen in life and anything is possible. Humans are imperfect and make mistakes. So we made sure both of us would be safe and secure if anything crazy ever happened. I think if anything, that IS working together.

@whitneyanders5945 5 ай бұрын

You’re not a trad wife then. You are a SAHM who was smart and has financial and job security to fall back on should the marriage fail. I figure trad wives are women who have nothing to offer to a relationship besides their uterus.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 19 күн бұрын

It’s def not all of you which is why so many SAHM and trad-wives become financially trapped in the marriage or end up in poverty when the marriage ends. You’re way ahead of the curve in that aspect.

@SkylerF 5 ай бұрын

It’s also funny that they assume that trad wife is what all the men want nowadays. As someone who has put off relationships to work on my career throughout the first 1/2 of my 20’s I’d much rather be with someone who is also carrier oriented, independent and on a similar financial page. But maybe I’m just weird.

@sadfasde3108 5 ай бұрын

Disagree. Prefer our kids to be raised by their mother.

@whitneyanders5945 5 ай бұрын

No, you are perfectly normal. What modern young men actually want to be the only one working and earning money ? What they say online is very different to reality. Trad wife (unless ok being controlled and are super religious) is a one way ticket to being a single parent living in poverty. Don’t do it! Much better being on equal footing than subservient

@journeytothevoid2899 3 ай бұрын

⁠@@sadfasde3108the point of tradwife isn’t to not make money. It’s making money from home so they can raise their kids which wouldn’t happen outside their husband. A lot of times women fight to work only to take home less money because of childcare. It’s to each their own.

@carladelagnomes 2 ай бұрын

Or maybe you are mentally and emotionally healthy!

@tiahnarodriguez3809 2 ай бұрын

@@journeytothevoid2899 Tradwives aren’t supposed to work at all, and it’s not just about raising children. It’s a mindset that puts women under men and keeps them in the home which has a lot of issues such as abuse, and since the woman has no money of her own she and her children are left vulnerable if something happens to her husband or their marriage.

@TheQueenOfDreams 5 ай бұрын

I feel so conflicted whenever I watch content on this topic. As a stay at home, homeschooling mother for over three decades, it feels like social media has pathologized normal, maternal behaviors that have been intrinsic to our species since the dawn of time. Rather than receiving the admiration that I once did for my life choices, all I hear today is politicized ideation of who I am from people who have never lived my life and truly have no idea what my life has been like. It’s surreal.

@Keilinger1 3 ай бұрын

I'm not a mom but I support you getting space from the dialogue about SAHMs that frankly, can sometimes come off as condescending. Wishing you (and everyone else) peace in their own choices and agency!

@TheQueenOfDreams 3 ай бұрын

@@Keilinger1 what a beautiful comment! Thank you kindly.

@backcountryFLcyclist 5 ай бұрын

Glad to see you back on this channel!

@Kat-cu9zp 2 ай бұрын

Every time I hear people talk about being a trad wife I think of two people I used to know as cautionary tales that you always have to be able to take care of yourself. The first woman was a stay at home mom who had two kids with a man she was in a relationship with. After 12 years together, he decided that he was no longer fulfilled by this relationship and moved out and left her alone with no job, two kids, and a house payment she could not afford without his income. The second woman was married to a man who made a good living in construction while she worked as a waitress part time while raising their two kids under 8. While the family was on a summer vacation they were in a car wreck and, unfortunately, she was left as a single parent with two kids with one of the kids in the hospital for months. Even if you pick the right man, you cannot control the future, so you have to be able to take care of yourself and your kids.

@ChardeneyMason 5 ай бұрын

I appreciate your take on this topic. You demonstrated how some Tradwives are influencers and you also gave particle advice for those considering this type of lifestyle. I think some people only see the glamorized content Tradwife influencers are presenting and don’t see the underlying context of what is also going on behind the scenes. Wishing you the best and keep up the great work!

@CarrieV9 5 ай бұрын

Are they influencers or paid actors and cult members?

@MoneywithKatie 5 ай бұрын

🤣

@natashadickson4819 5 ай бұрын

The viewer decides whether they are influential or not. The viewer is the one who decides what to do with the content, if anything.

@bueller2295 5 ай бұрын

Welcome back! Missed you 💖

@_shannons 4 ай бұрын

I didn't realize there was default pre-nup. Does it change if you move states?

@courtneypuzzo2502 5 ай бұрын

what if you live in a major city where both parents have to work especially if you have a child with special needs

@natashadickson4819 5 ай бұрын

You do whatever works for your family

@sadfasde3108 5 ай бұрын

Move

@courtneypuzzo2502 5 ай бұрын

@@sadfasde3108 its not always that simple not every city/town has a school with a good support system for children with special needs as someone who was diagnosed legally blind age 7 I can attest to this from my own school experiences

@OhWell0 5 ай бұрын

"The call is coming from inside the housewife" A+ no comments

@nopenope7088 5 ай бұрын

Saw you on The Compound and found very articulate and easy to follow. Subscribed!

@MoneywithKatie 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for being here!

@snowjae9380 Ай бұрын

I’m not on social media but this TradWife thing comes off as sexist and a scam. Glad I dropped social media years ago.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 19 күн бұрын

It is. It puts women under men and creates a false sense of freedom and choice for many who are indoctrinated into thinking this is the only way they can be a woman. I’ve seen trad content and it made me sick how a man preached that a good wife gives a man authority over her body.

@prepperchannel 2 ай бұрын

Katie, you can do much better than you did with this video. I like to hear you building women up instead of tearing down other women and their choices.

@easyrawlins2392 2 ай бұрын

Oh I disagree. The submissive wife can have her own money. Come on

@carladelagnomes 2 ай бұрын

Yep, she used to sell eggs and butter to have pin money.

@cookinthekitchen 2 ай бұрын

Wow, I have never heard tradwife quotes before, and Im not a fan

@christinebrito6535 5 ай бұрын

So because a wife works from home she's not a trad wife? And you definitely don't understand how these marriages work. We don't need permission to leave the house, we don't get an "allowance" or are denied access to the bank accounts. That's not how a healthy marriage works. Just because some of the relationships are like you describe doesn't mean that they ALL are. And frankly it's insulting that feminist say women have the choice to be what they want to be EXCEPT if it's a traditional wife.

@natashadickson4819 5 ай бұрын

They aren't saying you don't have the choice, just have a backup plan in case you end up having to support yourself.

@christinebrito6535 5 ай бұрын

@@natashadickson4819 what I mean by that is that they praise women who work and criticize and ridicule women who decide to be housewives

@natashadickson4819 5 ай бұрын

@@christinebrito6535 You heard ridicule? I heard her say get a prenup.

@sadfasde3108 5 ай бұрын

@@natashadickson4819Why can’t that backup plan be finding another husband? Why can’t a women chose to raise her children?

@natashadickson4819 5 ай бұрын

@@sadfasde3108 Yes! That can be the back up plan. The POINT is to have a back up plan. Raise your children but have a backup plan for your financial security.

@easyrawlins2392 2 ай бұрын

I like tradwives. 👍🏾 Traditional marriage

@Thomas-fl5zi 5 ай бұрын

dude, why do you care so much about other people's choices and their marriages. Most tradwives are not influencers. They're happy living their dream life and you just perpetually grumpy at them.

@natashadickson4819 5 ай бұрын

Because it can happen to a woman you care about. Happened to my sister. She was at home until the hubby lost his job by failing a random drug screening. Life happens. No harm in having a safety net.

@emily_8687 5 ай бұрын

I'm not how explaining how to protect yourself from financial ruin in the case of a being a widow or a divorcee is her being "just perpetually grumpy at [trad wives]". Maybe just watch the short 11 minute video until the end next time before commenting to avoid looking like such a dummy?

@Anisa-wi5zj Ай бұрын

All she is telling other women is to be cautious because life can happen. Why do u got a problem with that.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 19 күн бұрын

@@Anisa-wi5zj Cuz they don’t want to face the very real reality that this lifestyle can be a huge gamble. I think sooner or later people who have that false sense of security get their wake-up call.