The Most Frustrated Men in the Dating Game (It's Not Who You Think)

[@ajtaylor8750]

Rom, you were on FIRE with this one. Most of the guys I know are definitely solid men with character who struggle to get women because they're seen as "boring." They're not problematic guys, they're functional, and they are genuinely good men who want genuinely good women. If a woman calls you as a guy "boring," most of the time you're just not chaotic, problematic, or dysfunctional.

[@RomWills]

💯

[@dennisrobinson8008]

Certainly men with integrity are overlooked because she won't measure up. They prefer a slick liar or schemer. I have to believe there's a middleground of being socially lubricated without having to be a shit head.

[@TheUnitedDrills]

Preach 🙏🏾

[@TrillBill]

They call these guys "boring", because in their mind he has nothing for her to "fix". Women are healers by nature. Drama is like food to them.

[@ajtaylor8750]

@@TrillBill Women do love project men.

[@gregoryclarke8715]

This is huge. I'm an athlete, solid height low body fat, like to have meaningful conversion. I just want to chill with a good woman, not looking to run the block with every young lady out there, not super flirty. My experience with women has mostly been them coming at me for my looks and then losing interest when I don't try to tear them up immediately, I see it in their faces. Rom says the good good is essential, but I really want to know a girl and form a connection, they don't have any patience with my approach I guess.

[@Joshua__MEGA]

BROOOOOO it’s like they want you to come at them with the most lustful energy ever. Like man, I have those urges but I would rather not and I’ve hated everytime I’ve acted on my horniness. They GOTTA CHILL

[@SomeRetroGuy]

Ah yes, the classic signs of a woman "finding themselves". You dodged a lot of bullets my friend. Not one of those girls is loyal.

[@nweeezy]

this scenario is not hardly talked about enough

[@TomikaKelly]

You're likely over-valuing yourself in the market. It sounds like you may not qualify for the women you want.

[@SN-yn6it]

It’s scary how good Rom’s content is. Nothing else comes REMOTELY close.

[@TrillBill]

He's translating real life. No bullsh*t, no additives, just truth mixed with nuance. 💯

[@krees895]

You should check Casey Zander , uncle Rom is great , but Casey is just different .

[@elpatrondelpaisaje]

Dropping gems Rom. Some of these guys are even funny, romantic, and can fight like Chuck Norris. Women pass them up all day long for a more problematic bad boy persona, even if the good man is truly more of a badass, and doesn't flaunt it.

[@_itshadee]

You seem like one. Nice observation

[@CoppaTopPopYaTop]

i already knew you was talking about me before i even clicked 😭 incels have no clue. to have your shit together, practice self care, have a career, no kids, empathetic, etc. yet still struggle to find a woman worth being with in a LTR is VERY FRUSTRATING. its like a cruel joke

[@RASTAGOOB]

So it’s up to cats like me and you to help the incel and blackpill brothers.. I won’t throw them to the side

[@_itshadee]

It's fuckin crazy and funny bro

[@Relentless0521]

It’s not difficult trust me..U gotta stop looking for it mentally & it will suddenly appear 👀💪🏾💯

[@joshuajackson5203]

....theres no such thing as an incel, quit using feminine words and entertaining the thought please.

[@akobiballantyne]

That “spark” is sometimes drama, in certain women. Those types of women are almost repelled from stability

[@AyeYoZay]

Be likable. Not attainable.

[@stevearnold8265]

It’s simple if you judge women on their actions. They legitimately don’t want relationships anymore.

[@CutLikeDat]

Nope they don’t

[@CutLikeDat]

@@db6881 stop acting like men never gotten treated badly by women. Men just never really spoke about it, I tell you what, it’s a new law that if a women lie about a man being a the father she doing to jail.

[@CutLikeDat]

@@db6881 you can agree or disagree I don’t give a damn. I just stated my thought.

[@TomikaKelly]

Simple Solution: Don't date women.

[@busyrand]

One of my teammates in college was also a Soap Opera actor. He fits the description of what you're talking about. He's literally a model with ad campaigns, and handsome enough to be the eye candy love interest, but he rarely found girls he could pair up with. He's a great guy who's super charismatic and everything else...

[@shawnhazel8208]

Because he is following society instructions and genuinely being nice and decent

[@dsds3968]

As someone who hasn't had many partners in my life I once fantasized about what life would be like as a chad. I quickly realised that it would just be a different type of trouble. The problem of over supply rather than under supply.

[@Millz5231]

Never lied on this one! I had way more women when I was young and broke. Fast forward 10 years and I’m in the best shape, multiple degrees, no kids, career driven, and small business owner, home owner. Overall a decent man. Man I am super selective and it gets lonely. Partly because of my selective nature but you also see the lack of quality candidates. And I really don’t require much. It is what it is though !

[@Millz5231]

@@Northphilly-wu4oq 35

[@15coals39]

Have you tried becoming a passport bro? You've got the means.

[@TomikaKelly]

It sounds like you're over-valuing yourself in the market....

[@splurchris]

@@TomikaKellystop projecting clown

[@kelphiuspolluxeldanimus6426]

This usually the main reason I've let myself stay broke. If you look like you only short term material they'll settle for it. But if you're a good looking guy who's also rich and the type of guy who she'd like to take home to their parents they'll usually try to hold off on him to play games with him so she can try to marry him. They'll fake their personality to try manipulate that guy. Because he's going to be the guy who provides for her and takes care with her after marriage. Meanwhile if the exact same guy was broke she would have just settled for being in bed with him straight away.

[@lashawndab3821]

Well, men and women, you won’t find your husband or wife on the internet or social media. Let’s start there.

[@sherrib2023]

Truth@lashawndab3821

[@jaton24]

No bs your like the mentor that I never had. I really appreciate what you do man much respect. Your sons are lucky to have a father like you! Peace and blessings.

[@RomWills]

🙏🏾

[@TwoLuckii]

31:40 That’s a damn good point. Growing up for me, I didn’t have both parents, but I had my uncle and my grandmother. I didn’t grow up in a drama filled household, it was stable. My grandmother loved me unconditionally, and showed me nothing but love and affection growing up. The only reason my grandfather wasn’t around, is because he died long before I was born. But you’re right. I grew up with unconditional love, stability and peace. So that’s what I want in my relationship.

[@A_JoshOfAllTrades]

We're frustrated, and even moreso, disappointed with the overall quality.

[@kyleharr10]

This is huge. I got it all, but showed too much love and affection too quickly because I thought she was ready. She ghosted him without a word or explanation. I'm tired of it all.

[@orefilemogatusi]

This is so true and it blows my mind how true it is.

[@datguy9408]

It’s no wonder every time I tried doing it right I got rejected but when I just did shit to get some I always tended to find “love” I guess I gotta go back to some of those old ways….

[@PeterElliot125]

This one really hit me. Finding cheeks to clap is just plain easy but finding that woman who can be a good mother is just about impossible. And that's a thing s lot of people get confused. Most of the time, I find that the women who give off a hint of "wild child" tend to be the most cooperative for the right man and that it's the most outwardly conservative women who are too hard headed to be married.

[@raskult]

This might just be 100% facts

[@thedustysocietycrimes]

Cooperative?🙄

[@brandonburns5365]

​@@thedustysocietycrimesexactly

[@TomikaKelly]

...but you're still single...

[@Brinkofinsanity]

@@TomikaKellysingle but still having female connection is actually better than being in a relationship

[@Thinkableness]

I thought i was crazy, this was the hardest truth I've experienced

[@eullidebah5479]

Thanks Uncle Rom too much wisdom . Even if a man is successful and a good guy with integrity he really need how to flirt with a woman and how to tease. We dont need to be too serious we need balance . Thanks for this game 💯💥

[@ElectricKoolaid904]

Great video! Someones level goes way deeper than their social standing or career success. Some people can’t even touch your spiritual level. You really have to watch what kind of energy you let inside your life.

[@takemehomebruh]

💯💯💯

[@florida_man3367]

I live this commentary, we spend a lot time talking about the extremes, but there’s a lot situations in the middle that aren’t talked about much, this is one of them.

[@ricardocarter638]

I do relate to this! I’m currently building myself up in college, but I was raised in a stable 2 parent household and a positive family tree. For a while before dealing with some women, I felt so out of place because deep down My characteristics are very caring and sincere; not being a player. I’ve sort of developed those characteristics the more I’m outside and my dad puts me on game, but to be smart about it and not deal with bullshit. Great video Rom!

[@Ubuntu367]

I’ve been listening to you for a while now I listened to couple of your videos, and you seem to be one of the only man who understand women and see us as actual human beings and I thank you for that. ❤❤❤ new subbie

[@SnipesStudios]

Rom. You Described My Situation Perfectly. I Am Above Average In All Statistical Male Categories But I Do Find Myself Frustrated At Times. I Thought I Was Crazy, or That There Was Something Wrong With Me. I Had a Feeling This Was The Case, But Your Explanation Made A Lot of Sense & It Has Brought Me Some Peace.

[@RomWills]

💯

[@quintonmaldonado8368]

I was pretty much about to leave this exact comment but you saved me the trouble. I can't look at a woman and not consider the possible downside of mentality and lifestyle that they engage in. In fact I remember telling a woman that I was working on as a massage therapist in casual conversation. I think that picking the wrong woman can have just as bad an affect on your life as getting caught up in heavy drug use for a certain amount of time. It affects your mentality, physical state, willpower etc etc. Dudes used to tell me how lame that was until that inflation hit and shit got real on top of the normal dangers of making bad decisions. The only thing I'm thinking is ........damn if this person is able to get their claws in me its going to completely derail what I'm going for in life all over some sex. You might meet a woman that looks great but want's your son to be gender fluid and communist.....then you find out shes lazy with victim mindset. Slip up and put a kid in that and its a wrap once something goes south.

[@MrJslaps]

You just gotta keep searching brother they are out there!

[@brianmeen2158]

@@quintonmaldonado8368most men will never sit back and objectively think about sex and the work they put in to get it. In most cases it is not remotely close to worth it as most guys are not good with women and they have to put in real work to get a woman to open her legs. Plus, many men don’t just crave the sex but the validation that comes from being with a woman. I know very successful masculine guys that start to melt(mentally) if they are not with a woman for longer than a few weeks. Pathetic

[@visionarybrushstroker7694]

I learned that in my past I use to go after dominant women bc I was battling with my feminine and masculine but as I grew older more towards that masculine I’ve become what I use to look for in women and as a result I attract more feminine women… the domanancy and masculinity creates that “spark” that certain “thing” women can’t put their finger on when it comes to attraction.

[@PeterElliot125]

Good stuff dog. Glad to hear you're on your way up.

[@Oz4OzBoxing]

You just described the exact process/realization I’m currently going through. Turning 30 this December and this comment you made had a huge 💡 going off in my head.

[@andreharris144]

how did u build that masculinity

[@visionarybrushstroker7694]

@@andreharris144 bro by watching men like rom and how they move and also different manly men that are great with money and women. All attractive men and women all basically have the same characteristics when you really break things down.. I just chose to follow what I see attractive men do instead of women.

[@visionarybrushstroker7694]

@@andreharris144 it’s like when you reach a certain age really sometime when you’re younger it’s like you have a choice to follow men or women. Hints when gay guys turn gay it’s basically bc they’ve chosen to identify with the more feminine side vs thier masculine side.. we all have that choice

[@MrJslaps]

God damn unk you knock this one out park this is exactly where the fuck I'm at right now. I just let two go I was feeling a little down about that shit. This came right through to confirm that I need to keep going and get the right one 😮😮😮

[@lilgoodie06]

Spot on 🎯

[@fredjacobs3074]

Honestly after watching a bunch of your videos I ultimately realized I received a negative imprint throughout my childhood. My choices in women on a subconscious level are, in purely plain terms, just evil. Still figuring out how to fix this, if it's even possible, as I have a lot of psychological work to do. But I'm not even 30 yet and life can surely be long...Keep doing God's work Unc.

[@blr141]

I was thinking of this subject the other day. It really is a disadvantage for men looking for a good woman if he has money and status. Yes women will be plentiful sexually, but how many are psychologically or mentally stable to deal with a man on that level in a long-term relationship.

[@bobbybob6221]

This is sooooo on point it's ridiculous 😂. I'm a young man who's handsome, funny, smart and I have nothing but good intentions. Women and men both recognize it and verbalize it. Yet, I've been single and celibate for the past 6 years ( by choice and lack of good options ). I've rejected plenty of women's advances directly and indirectly. Men think I'm lying and women get suspicious. I no longer get frustrated though. I know that all the women avoiding/intimidated of me are just weeding themselves out.

[@TomikaKelly]

I don't think women are intimidated of you. It sounds like you view yourself much different than women view you. This is helpful if you're interested in dating yourself but not so much of you want to date a woman.

[@bobbybob6221]

@@TomikaKelly you sound like a person who thinks they are smarter than they actually are and ultimately end up sounding retarded. Don't know me, the women or the culture that I'm in. People get intimidated by others because of their perspective of them. Not because I'm God's greatest gift. Have a good day

[@LARULES100]

Take advantage of the opportunities you get and have some fun.The older you get the less opportunities you will have.

[@kdub2229]

Finally , someone covered this subject. Thanks Rom.

[@SiphamandlaNgcobo-mu8uk]

"The Spark", I love this term Mr Wills.

[@FrancisFCopp]

Rom, I’m a 47 yo white dude from Australia, your videos aren’t made with me in mind, yet they reflect my life’s experience with women right back at me. When I read the title of this video I knew exactly who you were talking about: me. An issue I (and others like me) me face that I haven’t been able to solve is auto-rejection. This is something you have to have experienced a few times to know what I’m talking about. Sometimes the most attractive women will avoid getting with one of our type, not because they’re not interested (they are), but because they know their smoke and mirrors show may come undone with a guy like this. If a woman is used to having guys wrapped around her little finger, the danger to her ego of dating a man who is superior to her in every way is just too terrifying, even if she wants him. In my experience, women say that they want what you call a “select” man, but when they have one sitting opposite them they simply don’t know what to do with him.

[@Humble_Legend]

Absolutely right Rom! These are also the guys who complain about women choosing Pookie and Ray Ray.

[@maravilloso002]

Some would say that I am a Tyrone w/ autism. The whole "sigma male" archetype are basically attractive men w/ autism who are generally good guys who have it altogether and practice body game. We march to the beat of our own drum, don't follow mainstream trends, obey the rules, have special skills/interests, maybe spiritual or religious, and prefer to be alone more than social. You'll either be seen as mysterious or "boring" to normies. They'll either be intrigued or intimidated by you. My lady and I are natural home-bodies and we spend a lot of time eating healthy, going to the gym, watching nerdy or ratchet shows, sharing memes, and nurturing and educating her son academically. So I won big there. The quality of women has declined, so there's disappointment in the fact that once you build yourself into somebody's who's a catch you'll find that the women are dumb, super masculine, very fat, have facial and chest tattoos, sport weird hairstyles or have fake hair and eyelashes, and if they're slim they got stitching scars across their stomachs b/c it had to be stapled shut after weight loss surgery. You can still get women, but a lot of the times you get hit on by women you don't find sexually attractive, so there's a compatibility issue there.

[@jamescheaye927]

I appreciate the honesty and concur with all this but brother…did you just say “Her son?” If it works well, that’s beautiful, sincerely. And I hope she makes it a worthwhile bill to pay

[@Sputnikcosmonot]

With attraction like what you were discussing regarding "F-Boy Island" we have to recognise that there's an unquantifiable, mysterious (mystical even?) and un-rational element to attraction - some subconscious or beyond the veil unexplainable aspects that apply to both men and women. Nobody can fully explain and quantify why they find their partner to be so attractive, or why they love them, it is something beyond full rational understanding. Many guys give the impression that they are uptight, overthinking and over-analysing every interaction with potential partners - you're not interviewing for a job vacancy in your life you're trying ot latch on to the above mentioned mystical connection that cannot be rationally understood whenever it reveals itself to you - I think Daoist philosophy is useful here. These guys need to relax and then pusrue the connections that present themselves, of which there will be many. And all the better for it, I say men and women should embrace that, lean in to the mystery and the gut feeling, that is the heart of romance for me. But I am young and idealistic and don't have trouble with dates, I may change my tune in future.

[@RomWills]

You see things better than some old heads. Keep Rising!

[@SaintNarquis]

facts

[@josiahandre_]

Man Rom, you spittin as usual. This video applies especially to black men. I just graduated from Howard, and I knew I had a find a girlfriend before I graduated not because that’s what I really really wanted, but because I knew how scarce the market was for “good women” to my standard after. And I did find mine. There’s a an abundance of women like that at Howard, trust me.😂 But yea, I fit the description of what you described, and the dating game is definitely difficult cuz u just not tryna fuck everything. Good women are a scarcity nowadays. And remember how annoying it was being single. You preaching to the choir tho. God Bless.

[@malonetravis5785]

The frustration comes in because ultimately, no matter how competent and attractive a guy is, most women nowadays don’t really love the man, the love the idea of the man and the idea of the wedding. Once they see the true nature and discipline and consitency of that man they lose their infatuation. The man want the relationship more than the woman in reality. Men like this start to understand it’s a lose/lose situation because it’ll just end up with him being a task rabbit and security until ultimately the woman finds some excuse to terminate the relationship because she is immature.

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

Rom dropping the truth as usual!

[@shawnwilliams2381]

Fboy Island is my favorite show! New season comes out October 21st 🔥

[@GamerGee]

8:47 this is very true. They like love and hip hop in their own life

[@7IronRell]

This is straight up real talk 💯. I'm a young black handsome man, dress well, slim fit figure, six figure salary with a couple rental business's on the side, genuinely good man. You'd probably think I'd have women lined up but I don't, and it's mostly to the points Rom hit on. One, I already have two kids. I use to lay em down before then, but now I have to be much more cautious because I definitely don't want more kids unless its a woman I know for sure I'll be marrying. I'm not trying to get caught up with no ratchet and lose half of what I've built. Location and social circle is also a real thing. Unfortunately I don't have nearly as many options due that alone, and if they are an option, are they "on my level". It's very frustrating. I'm actually thinking about packing up and moving to a location with more options.

[@hakeimreedel297]

This video came at the right time. I’m one of the frustrated bunch.

[@brandonscott8334]

This one hit close to home. Refreshing to hear it from someone else. Great video Unc ✊🏾

[@tds7078]

36:15 is crazy lmaooo Whole new address and everything is diabolical.

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

Being a highly sought after man sexually is both a blessing and a curse

[@kikobiko7088]

Why is that?

[@TomikaKelly]

Unless that highly sought after man comes with money, him being attractive or well endowed is of no benefit or desire to most women.

[@hustlebrave2006]

Facts

[@SomeRetroGuy]

I used to think my height at 5'6" would be a huge issue with dating. And while it isnt ideal, I managed to have a few relationships and had a fair amount of attractive women. My friend whos around my height has had way more than me. His best friend is shorter than us and is married to a really sexy lady. Its really not as bad as some men claim. Keep in mind women claim what they dont want in a man, but women never know what they want lol.

[@TomikaKelly]

I've been a woman all my life. Women know what they want, and most of them want tall men just like most men want attractive, in shape women. Sure there are women who will adjust that requirement, but it's a preferred standard overall.

[@thirtyframes5657]

Unc you've the best videos on KZbin to be honest i'm a 27 year old male never really had a father figure and such but also have not had a gf or anything like that. I'm a handsome man clearly I can say that, I work out and goal driven so I just be focusing on building myself up. My family always ask me about getting a gf but I just don't see the point when I'm focus on being a stable man while following my dreams. I do have experience talking to women after I graduated H.S I did go on some lunch dates just to be social but besides that kept it going for the experience. I'm ADHD and autistic too so missed a bunch of signals early on but learned from it and your uploads Uncle Rom really are interesting and can help me understand things from a different perspective so thank you.

[@ONLYALEXISOMAR]

Rom I’ve been binging your videos I hope your doing well with your recovery God Bless You your videos are giving me so many answers to my life you literally described my life experience and my family experience in this video it’s amazing and very reassuring because now I know for a fact I’m on the right track I’m 24 and also live in the DMV area I’d love to connect with you many blessings you’re heaven sent!

[@Alexfieldmusicofficial]

Women don’t want handsome men cuz they want to be the attractive one in the relationship

[@carlosemiralonso7997]

My father used to talk on how the people of their work need to watch themselves, he said: in reunions they try to include a woman who is working on the night by saying she is a teacher or something... How obvious it was that a woman overly using make up and doll herself up, is not a teaacher!. Those reunion are important so they put a rule on it: do not bring a woman if not your wife. Corporate man and such want to be with a woman who is on the same understanding as is described on the video. 100% true

[@bobstone4672]

There are videos on youtube of women calling Micheal B Jordan cute but boring and have no edge. I know a particular woman who likes just his Kilmonger character

[@matthewchornedating]

Instant classic Uncle Rom. After a certain point as an elevated man it goes from frustration to acceptance. You look at how peaceful your life is and problematic pu$$y has no appeal. Most of your encounters with women will be brief. When they cross the line and attempt to come back, you’re mentally and spiritually checked out. Rinse and repeat until an elevated woman enters your space. The residue of the problematic woman is often a permanent stain.

[@_itshadee]

Thanks for this reminder

[@matthewchornedating]

@@_itshadee no prob

[@davidh9618]

And that is the silver lining to it all.

[@LordAlan01]

I’d love to learn more about this

[@FittopiaChallenge]

Love your videos bro💙🔥

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

I say the frustration in part is all the temptation when you not tryna be out here like that but these women are applying pressure all the while looking good and being feminine. I don’t wanna be that dude on the side, but shorty just looking too good.

[@KamauBarry]

I’ll say I fit into the category of a genuine good man after listening to this video. From my perspective, most people that knows me have said that to me at some point in my life. It can get frustrating to find the right woman, but I’m a picky man. So I understand that it will take time to find that woman. When I do, I’ll be confident that I chosen correctly and she will add to the peace I’ve established in my life. Appreciate the video Uncle Rom. Peace and blessings.

[@BranyeSouf]

This one really hit home

[@phillipcotton833]

Rom....you've probably been in some way asked this question already, but I'll ask anyways(lol). Have you ever considered elevating your writing talents,& insight into relationship dynamics to stage plays, or movie scripts? Btw....keep up the good work 🤜.

[@UnityInReps]

This reached me rom.

[@BW-cd7gp]

This video was on point!

[@DistantLightInThe]

This one... kinda ... hurt

[@alexmauldin446]

Rom, you're the man! The game is never what it appears on the surface! So many men make superficial and presumptuous assumptions about what women want. You are the true Godfather of the manosphere! If I am lying, then read the intro to Mode One. Just saying.

[@SuperPeteTV]

Grew up in the hood and had a single mom raise me. But my everyday thoughts was I wouldn't have my child grow up like my dad did. He fucked up, but we good now, love the guy but will not have the same shit go on. My mom used "You really yo daddy son" as an insult one time and I never forgot that.

[@TomikaKelly]

Perhaps your father should've been a better dad...

[@briannadickson2884]

But you forgave your dad for leaving you entirely 🤔

[@Bobby-hn3cu]

Very interesting topic

[@MaroonTiger]

This sounds like men that are gonna die alone or begrudgingly become a sugar daddy

[@TomikaKelly]

A lot of my family works in hospice and palliatative care. They are dying alone. Even when dying women are unmarried or childfree/childless, they tend to be better at maintaining non-romantic connections and relationships with others, so they usually tend to have at least SOMEONE by their bed side. My aunts have cared for MANY men who've died with no one visiting them OR with relatives who saw them as a burden.

[@GamerGee]

17:47 aka the building phase.

[@kennethyoung4892]

It can be very difficult for a high value man to find that perfect woman who fits his criteria.

[@TheHonestTruth]

FACTSSS

[@gamworldworldwide673]

BIG FACTSS…I don’t have any issue getting women at all , my prob is mentally I moved on from the real fuck boy shit since 2019 - end of Covid ….priorities different but mindset still the same.

[@bossplayermfs5972]

Real talk.

[@takemehomebruh]

this is why i focus on myself and my relationship with god..these 304s are not worth the energy if its not returned surplus📈

[@dragosavo]

It is fascinating coincidence but there is video in the sidebar , How to Recognize Your Twin Flame, a womens channel, I presume, and over 160k views. They are looking for magic and no amount of logic, or rational appraisals will stand up to that. Sometimes it is hard to imagine how men and women even like each other.

[@DesertFit.]

Damn those brothers are the only ones that need to go overseas 😅 cuz even disabled men are getting something

[@willytodd2750]

You completely missed the point. Getting something is easy. As you said, even a disabled person can do it. Women are out here getting it from dogs, i mean the actual k-9 unit. The hardest part about getting with a woman is dealing with her degenerate ass if you don't like that stuff. If you are a morally decent person in the United States, finding a female that is your equal is nearly impossible. It is rough living in sodom and gomorrah for us.

[@JustCallMeZane]

24:18 😂this line right here Unc Rom tho

[@NobodyXSomebody]

This is me to some degree. Now I can't be my own witness in this due to the fact that any human can delude themselves into seeing themselves as the protagonist of any story but I've definitely had this experience before. I wouldn't say my mouth piece speaks the language of the gods but I'm not horrible around women either (I've had impressive days and days that I'm glad were never caught on tape). Women got to know me and were disappointed that I wasn't some brooding emotionally unavailable hypersexual emo guy because once you get to know me I'm very friendly (I just happen to like being alone most of the time, which is why I think women found me mysterious and aloof). One woman actually said this to my face and I could hear the disappointment in her voice (and as you have already guessed, the disrespectful/emasculating treatments followed soon after that up until I distanced myself from her). She also told a mutual friend of ours and he said she expressed how disappointed she was that I wasn't her tormented and mysterious emo guy that lit up her fantasies. Another woman I dated briefly used to try to make my decisions for me (particularly my vision). She tried to operate our relationship from a position of authority even over something like my vision which is where I drew the line and dumped her. Later on she texted and called me about how much she respected me after I chose my vision and stood my ground against her antics. Another one tried to punk me because i liked her but I wasn't the man she expected me to be so she played those "hot and cold" games with me. Left her alone, saw her a few years later and she tried to get my attention the same way she used to in the past while walking with her fiance and her baby but I just kept on moving like I saw nothing (because having an unnecessarily awkward encounter with her suspicious fiancé in public wasn't about to be on my to-do list). Come to think of it, most of my relationship issues came from me not being the player women thought I was. It's weird but maybe if I was actually a player they would have respected me...think about that...me being a womaniser would have rewarded me with more respect than me being a genuine man who actually wants to build something with/for her (not in a simp way though, just building for her in the sense of providing protecting for her on the condition that she plays her part). It's why these days I'm seriously considering just going through a f-boy phase and womanising for a while...enjoy all the free 😺 and not bother myself about anything long term. Its gotten to a point where I wonder if I'd be more content as a player rather than Mr Commitment. That's how fucked up this is🤷‍♂️

[@raskult]

Nah if you’re a f boy/player you can easily get trapped and abused by the wrong woman at any moments notice lmfao. The reason they want you to be like that is cuz they have a chance to have a child with you to ruin your life, or to have a form of control over you as they could claim you manipulated them/abused them in court

[@raskult]

It’s also because you’re seeing them as higher value than they are, when if they were a man they’d disrespect themselves because they know they aren’t worth anything so they think you’re dumb for viewing them as a high value individual when they know they’re not

[@raskult]

@chronicblast5505 Ye man for sure it’s cold in these streets, the stuff I seen some guys in relationships might have a threat of a false allegation over their head, might be getting cheated on with no way out or might even be unaware etc. the stuff I’ve seen is crazy.

[@EidentDD]

Rom with it 🎶

[@EidentDD]

We want that female that subconsciously emulates the good traits as our mothers. FACT CHECK

[@GamerGee]

19:25 this is all the way true. Professional man are super picky!!!

[@davidh9618]

So then whats the solution then? Just stop wanting a relationship and fuck around? Like genuinely curious. Like idk if I could switch up. That personal imprint shit is deep lol.

[@nicosanchez_music]

Also wondering the same thing. I still want stability and low drama but maybe that’s too much to ask for

[@davidh9618]

@@nicosanchez_music Yeah. I think this video is more food for thought. Not necessarily absolute. Every person is different.

[@Siphamandla.Ngcobo]

You revealed some deep issues here Rom.

[@oldhpirs4]

I'm that guy lol wouldn't say in a 12/10 but iv had alot of women in my life, alot and usually I always fit the criteria, good looking, body game, gentleman, knows what he wants, wants 1 girl to himself etc. And what he's saying is facts, it's so frustrating dating women even if u have all these traits, infact sometimes I feel like it's a curse lol but hey u just gotta roll with it until the right one comes along 😅

[@rellconnects4695]

With Yet Another 🎬 #CarVideo #RomTalk

[@Dan.50]

The issue is that a guy in an orange jumpsuit with D.O.C. written across the back will get more action than a guy in an Armani suit.

[@TomikaKelly]

If your main concern is about who is "getting action" wouldn't it just be less of a hassle to just hire an escort? 🤔

[@dennisrobinson8008]

Easiest way around their bullshit in the dating game is to be dating multiple at all times. Date someone who likes you alot more than you like them, maybe she's a little heavier than you like or not as attractive as you prefer, but she's going to hang around, you can kind of treat her almost like a girlfriend but she knows you won't commit all the way. Then it makes the rest of the game easier. Once a man has one the others are easy.

[@kolyxix]

Great analysis.

[@tropicalbluevibes7674]

I don't understand why people think the man is either a good man or a f boy. I'm literally right in the middle.

[@TrillBill]

Damn, I never really considered the Imprint thing. Also, would you argue that maybe these guys just lack raw sex appeal? Once I heard the word "Spark", I knew what time it was.😅

[@RomWills]

Unfortunately many lack that sex appeal factor according to many women.

[@trence5]

@@RomWills Is it possible for one to acquire sex appeal, or is it you're born with it or not?

[@littleman4888]

Thank you Rom. It’s a fine line to walk between being a player-player and a Handsome Good Man. It’s ironic, I grew up in the Hood, but I do have both parents. I went to a terrible school, I even fought myself as a child. Despite that, top 9th and 8th percentile of my state, but It’s hard man. I want the ratchets, but I like the sophisticated ones intelligent smart. Then I found one who was fucking crazy and who had both. Finding that triple threat of balance is the only woman worthy fr But, what will I have to sacrifice to get that, a lot of free pussy or some isolation years?

[@calculatedrisk1]

Amen…

[@philmcculla4941]

He's authentic not following new trendy catch phrases also friends with Locario whose real smart when it comes to opposite gender.

[@dvevbm27]

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[@effexon]

Rom didnt talk much, well almost, but turnoff for me is when woman talks badly about men or even their son.... it is pretty common no matter how educated or not and what background. I bet not all of them are like that but that is something that sticks from other people. That last part seems to apply to highly succesful women too. It is common sense, someone close by keeps feet on the ground and personality in check to not go overboard in useless things. Although bad relationship can work other way, or working way too hard can break good relationship (work addiction).

[@dcuthbertson5778]

I haven't watched it yet. I wanted to see if we agreed. I would say people like me. You get the money. The house, car and assets and then those 8's and 9's don't come. I tell younger guys all the time... the money is not gonna fix your women issue.

[@Isuraaye]

Brothers need to go to the continent for a wife, there some good ones there.

[@adamkeller7749]

I'll give you 3 ✔☑✅!