The Mother Wound In Men

[@TatianaStreeter97]

This was the hardest relationship of my life.

[@taracook85]

My husband is leaving me and divorcing me because his mother wounds are so deep that he refuses to even acknowledge that he even has these wounds and has convinced himself that I'm the cause of all of his inner turmoil. Sir , EVERY WORD i just listened to describes the hell I'm experiencing. I'm absolutely devastated because until he acknowledges the real issues, that inner turmoil he's holding me accountable for will never go away, even when I do

[@MC-wv2wp]

I’ve been hurting my wife for 25 years because of this wound and also a father wound. Everything you said is spot on. Bought your father wound online course. Gold! Keep up the good work! This is a global problem and you are helping solve it head on. Very timely. We appreciate you, and your wisdom.

[@AverageAufa]

I wonder how many men vs women watched this video. 😢 It feels like the wife/gf are trying and trying but the husband/bf don’t even want to acknowledge anything

[@_IslaNearly]

I understand all of it and want to work it out. But that person refuse and get onto new relationship. Just because you can understand and be compassionate towards them, doesn’t mean you have to endure the dysfunctionality

[@ehsunanwar]

This is true :) There comes a point where you have done all you can. As I said, if he is not willing to improve, there can be no healthy relationship ❤

[@ts381]

I wish I could send my ex to you. Not for the relationship. He needs to heal for the next person. Otherwise these type of people keep spreading their wounds like contagious disease

[@jmecoo]

Thank you for talking about narcissism in such a compassionate way. I hope many people see this and feel worthy of healing. Right now it seems nearly everyone wants to label their exes as narcissists. I met with someone recently and she said the guy she’s dating is a narcissist. I didn’t want to discount her pain, but I did say you can have narcissistic traits without having NPD and it’s probably from trauma. It makes me so sad that people with trauma end up being completely vilified as a lost cause. They didn’t ask to be traumatized. The world definitely needs more compassion. Thank you!! 🙌

[@ehsunanwar]

Thanks for this, totally true. But as I said, it takes a lot of inner work to develop TRUE, gentle, loving compassion for all. I am on the journey like everyone else 🙏🏽❤️🌎

[@martaszyszka7654]

Have you ever been in a relationship with a REAL narcissist? I guess not. I'm kinda feeling sorry for my ex, very abusive ex, who had no problems leaving his own children (our son, and 2 girls from his relationship years ago) behind.and just moving on like they never existed. To say the least. I know he must have been hurt when he was a child and a teenager. Badly injured. But at the same time when I think about how he was treating me, I wanna send him straight to hell.

[@Pearltms3]

You just described my boyfriend 100%

[@AverageAufa]

I hope you’ve left him? This describes my husband 100% and divorce is a lot harder than a break up

[@briechilli4496]

Mine too.

[@leslielou4970]

My Dad always scoffed at my career ideas as a kid. I self loathed for a long time

[@carrielegg5480]

This is the best authentic video i have ever seen. I don't feel so alone hearing this video. I pray that things will start to change between my mom and I.

[@EggMCMUFFIN-e4l]

I was exactly like this. My mom left me and my two older sisters with my abusive biological father for a year and a half. My sisters had fend for ourselves as he was rarely home. I was 5 at the time. Fast forwards, my step father abused her, she left us again with my abusive stepfather. I was 14. I grew up with women so acting out as a man was not condoned. And i recently realized this after my last relationship where my ex even told me she was acting as my mother. I struggled to act out emotionally out of fear of emotional rejetion. I struggled to be there for her when she needed me emotionally. I miss her so much and she had every right to leave..

[@5kidsBubby]

I'm the mom who never knew how to love my sons. My dad was abusive and never loved himself, either... my sons are in their 40s. My husband was also treated as a military child. Broken and defensive. All I can do is cry.

[@carrielegg5480]

I hear you. You are a beautiful human being.

[@tehreemrasool6917]

Thank you for sharing this valuable knowledge Ehsun! Sometimes i wonder ! Is there anyone emotionally healthy anymore? I mean, all i see around is wounded men n women! I just want the whole humanity to heal including myself

[@ehsunanwar]

Thank you for appreciating. To be honest, humanity has been living in survival mode for thousands of year. So it makes sense why very little of us are currently emotionally healthy. It will take time ❤

[@devinl8487]

It's so hard to stay. I am a wife that has wounds too. I try to be better and not stay in victim mode.

[@Psyched123]

And that's exactly how my dad used to behave. He had both mother and father wound.

[@ehsunanwar]

Thank you for sharing that

[@friedmangobean]

thanks for taking time to create this type of content!!! it's helpful for many of us navigating our own/others trauma 🙂☯️

[@ehsunanwar]

❤

[@bealright1186]

I literally cried, i don't know what to say i have a lot to say but i was raise by a single mother and i had to live with my aunt from 5-11 years. I still remember how much i cried for my mom, i didn't had a father figure in my life so i still don't know how handle fights, shouting or being ridiculed or judged. I'm very very sensitive to attachments and I'm very very scared of commitments, i had 2 relationship recently and i was cheated in 1 relationship and in another relationship she was head over heels for me but i was scared what my mom will tell, if she knew I'm in a relationship.(i come from typical Indian muslim family). So its a shame to have relationship. I don't have hobbies, likes, friends, relationship, enemies. Nothing. And I'm very scared to achieve good thing or earn more money. I want to fix my life. I'm doing little by little by self to heal my self. Just writing here to feel light in my chest.

[@anacraciun-lambru5291]

Thank you so much for this video! It brought so much insight into the inner struggles of my partner and the reasons of our conflicts. If brought a lot of insights to me as well, because it applies to what I have experienced in my life. I am so grateful that you are sharing this information, because it is so hard to discover what is truly going on inside us. I am really looking forward to your next videos about the father wound and the mother wound in women.

[@amaliariganova5181]

Hello brother, so here we are ur followers from instagram 🙏🥰

[@ehsunanwar]

❤

[@ItsRaitisLV]

Sadly I have a big mother wound and have hurt my girlfriend greatly

[@FatimaZahra-oe6br]

Unbelievable how straight to the point and pertinent this video is !! First time I see this channel 🎉🎉🎉 cudos .. bravo !

[@afterthestorm221]

Thank you this is an excellent video for both sides to listen and think about.

[@PatriciaHinojos-k3m]

This was an amazing piece. Completely informative. I have been trying to understand some seemingly disconnected actions from someone I care about great deal about. This untangled so much of it. Your ability to explain the complexities of the soul is truly a great gift. Thank you.

[@longingforjannah]

You...Are...Brilliant. The way you explained this is so simple yet deep enough to open up and uncover much unawareness. I'm truly grateful. Thank you so much.

[@izarawanjiru]

Golden knowledge ✨️ 💛 Much gratitude ✨️

[@coraimacarmona]

Thank you for this amazing video

[@Hebsparks]

Coming out of a 6 year relationship with someone with CPTS, DID, as well as complex bodily challenges. My inability to do this level of work made everything worse & we both suffered due to it. We both did our work as hard as we had the capacity for but it eventually was too overwhelming and we, for both of our own mother/father wounds, needed independence in order to focus on solely that. The trauma bonding wasn’t going to sustain us or give us a stable foundation. The clarity of this is amazing, thank you so much. I wish I could have come across it 4 years ago - but such as it is. I am grateful to be doing the work now. * I am also finding Alexander Lowen’s work very very helpful! The book “Fear of Life”. In the introduction alone he articulates the neurotic nature of our culture in a profound way.

[@naturalwomanhairandskincar9512]

Thank you so much for answering your calling ❤

[@SunShine2024-t2w]

Thank you for this video.A lot of key lightbulb type moments.Your insights and perspective are really inspiring and helpful

[@Vani_22]

Thank you ehsun for the awareness you brought into me while I was in confused state about the term narcissistic personality disorder. Now I got clear idea about the past childhood trauma is the factor of everything 🙏

[@ehsunanwar]

It absolutely is, in terms of explaining one's behaviour. But the other factor is, are they now open to growing? This is a pivotal factor for people's relationships

[@VanyaHolisticLiving]

Thank you. Very good and comprehensive explanation. And I appreciate your compassion and calm. Would love to hear your take on the golden child dynamics. How a glorified, pampered boy may be traumatised, have low self-esteem (as his true self was never seen / wanted etc.) and become a narcissist as adult. Glorification of sons (in certain countries / cultures like India) often results in their self-entitlement and really toxic relationship behaviour...

[@leslielou4970]

He would be pissed if I shared this video with him. He’s rejected all videos I’ve shared

[@rebeccamccaffrey5897]

I watch your shorts on Facebook/ instagram and you are incredible at explaining everything so well and spot on. ❤

[@ehsunanwar]

Thank you for your appreciation ❤

[@cbrumigin4107]

My God this is very, very good. Thank you for this video so much, God bless you 🙏

[@jamiec5274]

Thank you for sharing all your wisdom. I’ve learned so much! I would love to do one on one with you. I’m feeling so disconnected from husband. Like I’m just here, stay at home mom, taking care of kids and house. And he has no need to be loved or feel connected. So I feel like I’m with holding love to give and am not receiving connection from him. He’s very successful self employed, very drive and disciplined man.

[@ehsunanwar]

Thank you for sharing this. My one to one work has closed for now. But I would love to see you (and perhaps your husband if he is open to it) inside of the new Peace Program starting in June ☺

[@_AhaNah]

Thank you for such a informative video❣️ which it was made sooner, totally could’ve used this information when I was with my ex. It’s so hard to see someone hurt and not knowing how to help 😢

[@ehsunanwar]

Thank you for appreciating 🙂All happens in divine timing so don't worry. It will make sense soon enough

[@Zphora]

Simple and well explained Thankyou..a dismissive avoidant I met def had this. Makes sense. Just wondering Could you maybe come closer or have brighter lighting? Just helps to connect. Thanks again

[@stadium999]

Thanks man

[@omarelrafhi9595]

great video ! can you please make a video about father wound in men ?

[@alisonadenis-sickofibs]

Wow. So well explained.

[@kevinmai2947]

Nice video! Keep 'em coming!

[@FatimaZahra-oe6br]

Salam from Morocco ❤️

[@bserene6328]

Wow. What a great vlog. Thank you for all the explanations!

[@musicallife3981]

Please do father wounds for both too and mother wounds for women. 🙏

[@leslielou4970]

He can’t see it. He refuses counseling or anything similar. His behavior is unpredictable and he projects it all on me. His perception is king for him.

[@carrielegg5480]

Im going through this with my mom. I talk to her daily. I love my mom. Its very painful these terrible fights we get into. I feel deep pain. It hurts me so much. I feel sad, not good enough, unloved. My heart is broken. Yes im not adequate. My mom is very critical. I have grown so much too. I even lost 225lbs and maintaining for 15yrs now. So I get confused why can't I get past this? I have done deep inner work around this for years now.

[@taracook85]

How can i get my husband to acknowledge these wounds?

[@FatimaZahra-oe6br]

❤❤❤

[@saksoka4421]

Can you make also long video for father wound in men

[@jarhonda2702]

My Ex is a Narcissist because of this

[@cherryxcherie3950]

100%

[@advitiyasharma1536]

💯

[@ehsunanwar]

🙏🏽

[@qadz7635]

Solution then ​@@ehsunanwar

[@Nextlevelyo]

How do you get someone to understand this wo getting defensive

[@briechilli4496]

You leave !