"The Natural Hair Community Is Toxic"

"The Natural Hair Community Is Toxic" | BiancaReneeToday

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@sheilacarter710 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you made this video. I have a 10 year old daughter who has tighter curls than mine. For years I've been trying to justify why her hair doesn't look like mine so that she can learn to love her hair. For her birthday last month she asked for a special hairstyle (braids) but dad was totally against it because he didn't want her to think that adding weave would make her feel prettier. It was a proud moment for me to hear her tell him that she loves her hair the way that it is and that trying something different every once in a while wouldn't change how she feels. I've even challenged her to find hairstyles she can try herself to get comfortable with doing her hair. She is also learning how to properly wash it.

@jennahilton8259 2 жыл бұрын

OMG I love that so much ❤️

@villyv444 2 жыл бұрын

Dad is awesome

@coppercoloredcutiexoxo2315 2 жыл бұрын

I have been teaching my 2 and a half yr old to love her hair too ! She says , I have big twisty hair , and she shakes it . The children's book Emi's curly , coily hair is one she really loves .

@dharmon8798 2 жыл бұрын

Well her dad should not be against braids, it's part of our curlture, plus anyone can wear braids no matter the race

@teri5797 2 жыл бұрын

I love that you and her father are teaching her to embrace her texture. It’s important that starts at a young age. 💜🥰😘 She will learn to embrace what she has. She will learn that her hair is beautiful the way God made it! 😍

@kelseyarias5593 2 жыл бұрын

can we all just be thankful that we have hair🙂

@whatoncewas8480 2 жыл бұрын

Right???! Amen!

@realmaureenoyakhilome 2 жыл бұрын

🤣😂🤣 with the rate of auto immune conditions, we should really be grateful!

@sandy_carpetsthesecond5013 2 жыл бұрын

What if we're living in a simulation and none of us actually have hair in the real world?

@grrfacekitty 2 жыл бұрын

Being Dominican and traveling back home every other year with to visit family, having straight hair was the definition of beauty. Feeling left out because my cousins would go to the salon on a weekly basis to blowout their hair and me not being able to keep mine straight due to the humidity and heat. My mom would look at my hair sometimes and say I had “big hair” or say I have “bad hair” none of which are compliments it made it hard for me to embrace my hair until I was an adult and took the time to learn and understand. I’m glad I stepped out and showed my family that I’m just as beautiful with my natural hair as opposed to my straight hair and ever since then I’ve never looked back 🥰🥰🥰 Thank you for people like you. Although you gave us your opinion it made me realize that I should care all around about the products I use and what’s in them ❤️❤️❤️

@mrhernandez6101 2 жыл бұрын

Same sis I was the first in my family to do the same and it was difficult. “You didn’t find a comb today?” Was a common phrase tossed around among others. Glad you found the courage to do what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. ❤️

@irmatrantham6537 2 жыл бұрын

I was the same being Puerto Rican…had some of the same conversations too. I embraced my curls at 50, and haven’t turned back! Rock those beautiful curls girl!

@meljamz 2 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏❤

@yhineidy131 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, I'm also Dominican and my experience is similar to your. Like you, I can't straight my hair due to humidity and heat. I live in Florida, so here's a lot of humidity. When I was younger my mom would relax myself every 2 months because my hair wouldn't straight. I HATE IT. I decided to embrace my natural hair. To this day, my family don't see my natural hair as beautiful. I get comments like "péinate" or when I style my hair I get comments like "por fin te péinate". I can't never wear my hair it in it natural form without a negative comment. I've been constantly told to braid my hair because I look pretty with braid. I want to look pretty with both my natural hair and braid. I hope one day I can show my family just how beautiful my natural hair is.

@ashkeniasims1840 2 жыл бұрын

Agree with you! Being Dominican were straight hair was the “good hair” was really hard to change your brain from what we were taught from a very young age. Once you realized that you have to live for you instead of what other people think is the way to go!!! I used to hate my relaxed hair. I used to hate relaxing it, styling it. I hated everything! Finally I just had enough & stop relaxing my hair 3years ago, 2 years ago I did the big chop (which was extremely hair cause even tho you hate your relaxed long hair, you’ve never had short hair before!) that definitely took me out of my comfort zone! But I did it & im very happy I did!

@lisalanghart59 2 жыл бұрын

As a child of the 70s, I can say that the term “natural” originated from the concept of not using a relaxer or perm to straighten your type 4 hair. We actual used the word “natural” to also represent a hairstyle which was basically an afro. If you wore an afro, you were “rocking a natural”. The definition of “natural hair” has changed a lot since then. I always think of myself as belonging to the “curly hair” community. I have stopped blowing out and flat ironing my hair and I use whatever types of product work in my hair. If it has silicones and it works for me, I will rock with it. If it is completely pure, clean ingredients and it works, I’m with it. I think that probably knocks me out of the “natural” hair community and why I consider myself more part of the curly community. Honestly, at the end of the day, everyone should embrace their hair and rock it in whatever way makes sense. It’s all love!

@DH-uw3us 2 жыл бұрын

That's what I think of when I hear the term "natural". Afros and black people wearing their hair the way it grows naturally from their scalp. No chemicals. Just styling their hair in natural styles. Now it means different things to different people. Ultimately, if you don't have chemically altered hair, you have natural hair IMO.

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

Have faith in JESUS CHRIST as LORD and SAVIOR for HE SAVES ❗️ *What is the Gospel?* The true gospel is the good news that God saves sinners. Man is by nature sinful and separated from God with no hope of remedying that situation. But God, by His power, provided the means of man’s redemption in the death, burial, and resurrection of the Savior, Jesus Christ. Ephesians 2:8-9 For it is by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of GOD, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Romans 10:9 9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. JESUS CHRIST can come anytime! Just Believe ❤️ Love you and GOD BLESS

@shychameleon 2 жыл бұрын

Sing it sister! I’m with you.

@BlakButtaFlyy 2 жыл бұрын

Right, homegirl in this video would not be considered a part of the natural hair community. She’s in the curly hair community. Sorry 🤷🏽‍♀️

@LaBelleJouJou 2 жыл бұрын

@@BlakButtaFlyy Exactly I was wondering why is this lady doing a video on this We only have a natural hair community because people of color were denied the right to wear their natural hair The colonists went so far as to set up rules and laws that forced women to cover their hair with head wraps The lady in this video would not have experienced that Many people want to be part of this community but it’s not for them period If she does have a melanated parent it doesn’t matter she would have gotten a pass The natural hair community is for women to embrace their once shamed hair Shamed so much that they had to burn manipulate process weave perm jerri curl wave and do all sorts of things to fit in As for me imho adding heat or flat irons to my hair is not natural I personally kept away from all that before my hair loc’d Any style that had to be done to fit in is not for me I have locs They are not manicures They are not salon locs They formed naturally Like Bob Marley said “Wash it and leave it” That’s what I’ve been doing for 15 years and I love it I have no judgement on what ever any woman does or wants to do Be happy and Be true to yourselves ❤

@marissavazquez5344 2 жыл бұрын

The natural hair movement started with black women, and was originally intended to empower black women with curl patterns that are not typically considered the “standard” of beauty. It’s disheartening that so many companies and brands are capitalizing off of the movement and still only representing or targeting one type of curly hair. I also think including wavy hair in the natural hair movement is just not necessary and again takes away from the original point of the natural hair movement.

@보모 2 жыл бұрын

❗️❕❗️❕❗️❕❗️ it’s disingenuous to act as if the counterproductive [lite/mixed/loose] pedestal doesn’t exist

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

This!

@JordanFaith 2 жыл бұрын

I agree

@PennyMsElite 2 жыл бұрын

@M ok

@xXChibiTaokakaXx 2 жыл бұрын

@M What they said was true.

@aliciascott2081 2 жыл бұрын

I've been overwhelmed by the number of rules. I just do what my hair likes.

@lenuuh4109 2 жыл бұрын

As a dark skin girl with waist length looser type 3b-3c hair, I can’t even recall the amount of times someone would start touching my hair and ask “where’d you get the weave from?” or “is this your ACTUAL hair?” And even “you don’t need to perm you hair to be beautiful!” I understand that it’s not very common for a dark skin to have loose curls, but it’s very disrespectful when people worry so much about MY hair and assume I don’t love myself. I just want people to know that different ethnicities can have loose curls/waves even when your not exactly light skin or mixed. Stay positive guys! 💕💕

@WaterIsLife77 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this. I'm also dark-skinned with loosely textured hair, and I've been asked the same questions, or even asked if I'm Dominican. As far as the natural hair community goes, who is the gatekeeper of the term, or of whom it implies? I know a white woman with natural curly hair. She didn't really like her hair, and would try to straighten it. I encouraged her to embrace her natural. Her curls are gorgeous. Now, she's wearing her hair natural, feels confident, and says she will never go back.

@lenuuh4109 2 жыл бұрын

@@WaterIsLife77 Omg!! How sweet of you to help others with their curly hair, we definitely need more people like you to support and encourage others to love their natural hair texture. What a legend😆🤗

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

I can relate being asked what type of weave I'm wearing as well. I'm dark-skinned with 4a/4b but I guess dark-skinned people are not supposed to have any type of curl 🙄

@lenuuh4109 2 жыл бұрын

@@MarshasJourney seriously!! Most people think that type 4 hair is just frizz, but add some product and BOOM beautiful tight luscious curls

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

@@lenuuh4109 lol. Genetics are a funny thing. My father and aunt are the same mother and father and my father is dark-skinned while my aunt is lightskinned but they have similar hair texture. The difference in skin colour doesn't makes one of them "blacker" than the other. Their genes just express differently.

@tay1803 2 жыл бұрын

Growing up in Puerto Rico curly hair was called "pelo malo" or "bad hair". I remember wishing I had straight hair because I believed it was more beautiful. I didn't know how to take care of my curls so yeah, straight hair was more beautiful, but just because I didn't know how to take care of the beautiful curly hair I was born with. Now that I know how to properly style my hair, I love and embrace it and only straighten my hair maybe once a year just to switch it up. I'm glad there are channels like yours that taught me how to take care of my curls because now I can teach my daughter (who already has beautiful curls at 9 months) how to love her curls and take care of them. I can't wait till she's older and we can deep condition our hair together and make it a mom & daughter bonding time 😊❤️

@tatiannamiv 2 жыл бұрын

My mom did alisados (relax) on me because she didn’t know how to deal with my hair. It messed my curl pattern, it burned my scalp. My hair was 3B/3C growing up. It changed with puberty then it changed again after having 3 kids. My dad is afro and I remember hearing people telling my dad “Gracias a Dios la nena no te salió con pelo malo” And that’s so sad. That’s an insult to my dad’s hair texture 😣 so sad

@birdielee6718 2 жыл бұрын

@@tatiannamiv ok would you translate what people would say to your dad??

@skankfaceBECCA 2 жыл бұрын

“Thank god the girl didn’t come out with bad hair”

@leelalo6625 Жыл бұрын

Amen! 🎉

@leelalo6625 Жыл бұрын

Afro Latinos exist and reading this comment really speaks close to my upbringing as well. Curls equaled bad unkept hair. Terrible mindset.

@candlesandcarnage 2 жыл бұрын

I think the natural hair movement was originally devoted to tighter hair types whose hair was never celebrated who didn't know how to care for their loose hair, sans relaxer, etc. So when people say natural hair, I think that's who they are referring to specifically. Looser hair types co-opted the term and then became the face of the community, which was not the point of it. Now tighter hair types are not the face of the 'movement' and some looser types are lying about their actual type to get more views and sort of gaslit the tighter types. This is where I think the 'gatekeepy' behavior started and escalated from there.

@DH-uw3us 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Back in these early KZbin streets you saw women with type 4 hair dominating this space. Then over time it switched to people with looser textures becoming the face of the natural hair community.

@denisedavis2500 2 жыл бұрын

This comment says it all

@NaturalMonroe 2 жыл бұрын

That part!

@tiahnarodriguez3809 2 жыл бұрын

I agree, but let’s be real about the part type 4’s played in that. I remember when type 3’s were being uplifted it was mostly by type 4’s who were in denial about being type 4 and had hair envy for type 3’s, and the fact type 4 hate/ type 3 praise pages were being run by type 4’s shows that us type 4’s really need to do our part first, which is to love and promote our own hair texture before we expect others to do it for us. I personally think all curly/kinky hair types should be promoted, but we can do a better job at promoting our specific hair type.

@candlesandcarnage 2 жыл бұрын

@nono ne It isn't.

@vanessahinkle8197 2 жыл бұрын

You were the first person I ever followed when I started my transition back in 2018. I knew we didn't have the same curl pattern, but I learned so much of the basics from you. I cannot thank you enough for that! On top of that, I was able to find other women who do have a similar curl pattern as mine through you. Using the knowledge I got from the curl hair community, I was able to use my own judgment through trial and error to figure out what works best for me. Curly hair is curly hair. It doesn't matter if you're black, white, yellow, or purple. We need to just be accepting of each other because this curly hair business is no joke! We need all the support we can get!

@user-fc3xs4db9e 2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow same 2018.

@beautifulmariah6677 2 жыл бұрын

Yesssss sammmmmmeeee

@lillyyarney67 2 жыл бұрын

Same 2018 as well👏

@noelleannmarie4001 2 жыл бұрын

OMG same curly hair transition 2018

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

@MarielaQue 2 жыл бұрын

Perception is everything. There are millions in the natural hair community. It's easy to generalize to say that a community is toxic when it's only certain parts.

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

@florl.delgado4093 2 жыл бұрын

For goodness sakes, even dying your hair is "toxic". Will we stop? HELL NO. Now a days, people just like to "stir the pot" you know?

@bryanacamillebraxton4770 2 жыл бұрын

I define a natural hair curly as someone with curly, kinky, or wavy hair that isn’t relaxed or straightened. The movement started as black women trend (to defy the historic trend of straightening our hair to fit in with the majority) but now I’d include curlies of all races and shades. I follow so many amazing white curly hair influencers and their curls are very similar to mine. Mainstream media says long straight hair is the beauty standard. Let us curlies defy that narrative ✌🏾 I agree with what you said there’s beauty in every texture! 🤍

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

@tonibravo4221 2 жыл бұрын

See I love this energy ❤️

@islandprincess9666 2 жыл бұрын

Hair that is straighten by flat ironing it is still considered natural because when this type of hair gets wet it is washed it reverts back to being curly. I think that if a person uses chemicals to straighten their natural hair and wetting or washing the hair won’t revert it back to being curly then they are no longer considered natural.

@siennamelake9940 2 жыл бұрын

I agree except saying it was a trend when it started it wasn’t just a quirky hey let’s do this thing they sacrificed so much they lived lives under harassment and likely persecution since it was seen as revolutionary during the black power movement that’s one of the reasons I hold onto my hair so tightly cause it’s mine and they didn’t sacrifice for nothing

@youraveragedumbass2 Жыл бұрын

I agree with you I'm now caring about my natural which used to be 3b-3c but due to me getting 2 relaxers and straightening my hair once ever week (it started when I was 7-8 and ended when I was 11) it is now 2a-2b but I'm working on it and I now finally consider myself part of the curly hair community (will I stop straightening my hair no I will straighten it ever now and then but I will rock my curls as often as possible)

@akeylabarbourporcher4531 2 жыл бұрын

I think it’s important to remember the word “curl-friend” and use it as often as we can. When a person, no matter their ethnicity, feels beautiful the way God made them that should be celebrated. All hair types are beautiful and all textured hair people should be curl-friends. As someone who has 3C/4A curls I get approached A LOT and asked how I got my hair to look the way it does, by women who had completely different hair textures. I found myself responding with questions about their hair. “What does your hair like? Do you know the porosity of your hair? How do you love on your curls?” And this would completely change the dynamics of the conversation from comparing hair to how important it is to have a loving relationship with their hair. Such a great topic Bianca! It’s difficult to be self aware, proud of your own curl journey and avoid being judgmental. 💕

@jennahilton8259 2 жыл бұрын

YES!!! We have the same curl pattern! I used to work at Sally beauty and I was the go-to for people who had curly hair and needed new products. I have asked customers as well as random people in the street those exact same questions. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting your hair to look a certain way, people have to learn how to work with THEIR TYPE of hair and not always glorify mine so to speak.

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

@Godisloven09 2 жыл бұрын

People just need to stop. The issue comes when some feel excluded. Truth be told black women who have a tighter curl pattern felt some kind of way when black women of a looser curl pattern or perhaps biracial women started getting more attention. It’s that simple. We don’t want to admit it, but it’s true. The kinkier textured women have always been ridiculed and when this “movement” started gaining traction, they had a place in this hair world. I’m type 4 and I feel fortunate but when tighter curled folks got moved out by the looser textured folks, it started to unravel. I’m type 4 and I love my hair. I straighten it, I do a fro, I wear curls, I wear twists, I do whatever I want. And I’ve never wanted anyone else’s hair. Isn’t this world divided enough? Why do we divide ourselves even further? I say do what you want with your hair and don’t listen to the outside noise. Natural hair videos used to be about hair, now it’s about selling products. I rarely watch natural hair videos anymore. If I do, it’s for the entertainment factor only. I used to watch a lot because I didn’t know how to actually take care of my hair. Now that I do, I don’t need the vids anymore.

@gootsycollins3046 2 жыл бұрын

Couldnt agree more👍🏾..most of the natural hair videos i viewed are 90% sponsored and rave about a product but are onto the next one..if a certain product is the "holy grail" why not stick to what works for you..thats why i love @Razorempress she has beautiful healthy hair and isnt on the bandwagon with all the expensive "natural" hair products!!

@asha_vere 2 жыл бұрын

Story time! So I was on a date, and a girl behind us in line for the event my date and I were attending did the typical internal misogynistic thing by giving a backwards compliment and then contradicting it. She said she liked my hair but when I thanked her she interrupted me and asked if I used products on it or styled it a certain way to make it that way. I felt a bit awkward because why would that matter or be any of her business, but I told her yes. She continued pushing by asking what I did to make it that way and so I awkwardly told her, but she interrupted me and said "Oh okay" in a fake chipper voice, then walked off with a smirk on her face. For the record, I'm white and this woman was a different race from me. I've noticed this is very common, that women who use products on their hair or brush style it are said to not actually have curly hair. That coily hair is the only type of hair that's curly and nothing else is actually curly. I've also heard that ww wearing their curly hair is cultural appropriation. Which doesn't make sense to me because I thought the whole point of the natural hair movement was for people to not get shit for wearing their hair how they want to and not be told to wear and style it a certain way. You also mentioned it on your cancel culture video, but I personally saw on fb where a bw said she was going to stop using Shea Moisture because they were catering to ww now. I want to support black owned brands by buying their products, but I feel self conscious if I do because I get judgmental looks because those products aren't meant for women like me and the people who give me those looks don't think I have curly hair in the first place. I want to try and do my edges but I'm afraid of being accused personally of cultural appropriation. Even though I don't want to do designs, just make it look thicker so my hair line doesn't look like it has two bald spots on their side. In terms of representation, I see either one extreme or the other. In drugs stores it's two sections of products. The products for straight hair with sulphates and silicones. Even the "curly" hair products in that section have sulphates and silicones, so I don't use them. Then the other section focused on thick and coily hair, which I don't have, so I can't use most of the products in that section. In the adds I see it's the same way. One extreme or the other and no in between. And anyone in between is given shit on social media and told they don't have curly hair. Another personal experience I had was in middle school where a girl who had been bullying me was behind me on the risers one day in chorus class. She randomly started playing with my hair. Joking and saying how soft it was. I felt extremely awkward and was freaked out because of the unexpected touching. I tried to play it off, but I knew she was purposely trying to make me uncomfortable because her friends who also bullied me, were giggling and smirking at me. It wasn't until I was in college when I heard of how some white people ask to touch black peoples' hair. Which I never understood and never did because I respect people's personal space and want the same for myself. So I figured that's why they did this as a "joke" because I was white and an easy target for their bullying. So yeah, that's just a few of my experiences. I'll probably get hateful comments under mine for saying all this but my experience has been my experience and I won't be gaslit into thinking these things haven't happened or twisted into somehow making it my fault. Also, if you read this mini novel, thank you for your time and attention lol

@ag5495 2 жыл бұрын

Wow I just had to respond to this. I’m so sorry about all of those things you’ve experienced. Yes your feelings are completely valid! And as a black woman who has type 4 hair I completely sympathize with the the difficulties you’ve highlighted. You don’t want to be accused of cultural appropriation and there are many instances where you don’t feel adequately represented. It isn’t fair. And you can’t really say much because you’re white so how can you say it’s unfair. And yet…it is. Because no one should be excluded. I hope that one day things will improve for all hair types regardless of race with less gatekeeping and with better representation for all. I really appreciate this perspective. Much love❤️

@Layla___channel24 2 жыл бұрын

Use what works for your hair and who cares about those bullies. You do you.

@asha_vere 2 жыл бұрын

@@ag5495 I teared up reading this. Thank you for your kind words ❤ I hope we can get to a better place in the curl community as well. I believe it's been this way because racial tension is once again at a high peak and everyone is pointing the finger at each other so everyone is defensive and I feel it's just leaked into the curly community. Internal misogyny never helps either. And you're right, I don't feel like I have a right to say much about it because I'm white and I don't want to take up space or try and make it about me. But I don't feel it's right either. I hope and pray that more people can talk to each other like you and I have, but sadly I feel like it will just get worse and worse. Sometimes I feel like society wants another civil war amongst races and it breaks my spirit because it's wrong 😔

@sevenships1661 2 жыл бұрын

I have sooo many experiences with people of my race (black) constantly asking me how did I get my hair curly. When I use to tell them what products I use they would give me an "ohh so you don't really have curly hair, I knew it" look. So now I just respond with "it's in my DNA" which is true lmao. Everyone uses hair products to help make their natural hair POP. But people only have an issue when those with curly hair do the same.

@marie-francoiset9402 2 жыл бұрын

@@sevenships1661 I NEVER explain how my hair is curly to anyone anymore. black or white. I just say I was born with it this way - which is TRUE!

@td4079 2 жыл бұрын

I now understand why black women say that we aren’t black if we are mixed. We pretend that we don’t get privileges and WE also take opportunities from 100% black women. The thing is type 4 hair representation shouldn’t be “getting better” this MOVEMENT was about them! It was their REPRESENTATION! This natural hair movement was theirs, it’s toxic because we took it and NOW they’re (type 4) told they are Not good enough to be in THEIR own movement. And some of us mixed women pretend as if we don’t see this because we gain from it.

@melleciosa 2 жыл бұрын

there is a difference between the Curly Hair Community and the Natural Hair Community The Natural Hair Community has traditionally been a black space... those of us who experienced the damage and self hatred of internalized racism and how it has played itself out in our ability to love and care for our hair, self love, self expression.... the Curly Hair Community is just that... any/everybody with curly hair. so to equate the two is inaccurate and diminishing. so, to me the real toxicity comes from the CO-OPTING and COMMERCIALIZATION of the NHC...the selling off of long standing black owned businesses, the patronizing token-ized fake "inclusion" in marketing... you acknowledge your privilege and it's great to have self-awareness and empathy. In what ways have you used your privilege to leverage inclusivity and address, reduce or rectify toxicity?

@TheDa247 2 жыл бұрын

FACTS!!

@jennahilton8259 2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you, but I just have one question: does Bianca need to “rectify” anything?

@melleciosa 2 жыл бұрын

@@jennahilton8259 no, she absolutely does not. but she is starting a conversation and acknowledging her own privilege. maybe rectify is not the right word and a bit strong, admittedly - however, with privilege comes opportunity if not responsibility. Bianca chose to have this conversation, not exactly sure why. So my question is why? why start the conversation or acknowledge an issue unless you're going to try to do something about it?

@jennahilton8259 2 жыл бұрын

@@melleciosa Ok you make a good point. I guess in my eyes she already did do something to address and reduce the toxicity in her own channel when she clarified that she didn’t want to make people feel bad about using products with silicones, sulfates, and parabens in their hair just because her own personal standard. As to why she brought it up, I figured that she did it simply to air some thoughts that she and her followers had. I would also like to bring up that other creators may see this video and become a bit introspective. Like “hmm, what are the toxicity levels in my channel and am I contributing anything??” Whether Bianca will do something greater with this conversation, like openly support the CROWN Act or engage in some other form of activism, I don’t know, and I don’t really care. As long as her channel is in the clear then we’re good.

@TressesOfAlexis 2 жыл бұрын

This! And I think some of the context of this video surely proves that.

@2k11Emma 2 жыл бұрын

I define it as someone who has naturally textured hair- so that’s curly, coily, wavy, kinky hair - no matter the colour of your skin. 🤷🏽‍♀️ it is very hard to define though. I have curly hair but always wear it in braids or a bun, I don’t wear it out because I’m lazy and I don’t like hair in my face 😄 I remember when I was in High school about 20 or so years ago, I was using Pink and I told my friends and they were like “no, that breaks your hair, you shouldn’t use it” and some of them didn’t believe I used it 🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t get many comments these days but when I was younger I had long thick hair, and used to get comments and people touching my hair ALL the time. Teach your kids not to touch or judge other peoples hair!!!

@Liannabelle8 2 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said ❤️ I hated my hair for more than half my life and finally embraced it about 6 years ago. I have it up more often than not lately (having a toddler does that lol) but I do finally love it. Getting comments and feeling judged by the "curly community" and others isn't fun.

@MiVidaBellisima 2 жыл бұрын

The roots can’t be ignored though. It was a space that was created because black peoples hair was vilified. Although nonblack people are not excluded, it is important to acknowledge why it was started.

@sneakerteacher89 2 жыл бұрын

Natural hair. Unchanged; simple. I don’t dictate none of the mess. Healthy hair is the most important.

@Loofabean 2 жыл бұрын

The realest comment here. Let's just strive for healthy hair in whatever form it comes. No hair is better than the other.

@sneakerteacher89 2 жыл бұрын

@@Loofabean all facts. You can have hair down to your ass, but if it’s looks and feels like shit it ain’t valid. I see so many people with fried hair from either over bleaching or heat damage that’s long and it looks terrible. Hair care practices need to be stressed.

@sophiaaloeristok 2 жыл бұрын

I appreciated you starting with the definition of “natural”. To me its always meant wearing your born with texture and rocking your natural texture. The problem I have with the exclusivity of some definitions is like you said the discouraging of others natural journeys. I do recognize that the community started with the intent of celebrating black and poc natural hair. But because it has grown beyond that, I dont understand why people should be excluded. Everyone is here to learn and improve and feel more confident in their hair, we should celebrate that

@JermaineAuNatural 2 жыл бұрын

I am Extremely selective with who I consume on YT so my experience has been more positive within the natural hair community than the few toxic people I bypass . IRL the "toxicity" has mainly been outdated terms used to describe tightly curled hair aka nappy by older people (which I gently check) The key point that is missed, ignored or people don't know, that you mentioned is that being natural was coined by us breaking away from baseless, forced, false and weak standards. So the phrase being/going natural has very different context then the technicality of just wearing your hair as it is without repercussions. I'd suggest googling The Crown Act for deeper context. Other than that, I'm here for people doing whatever they want to their hair, that ain't my business but if you ask for help with technique, products or maintenance I'll share what I know. Also, there are tons a people like myself with various tight/ kinky curls that promote working our curls as they are! No change or altering needed, they are perfect from the tightest to the not so tight to multi-textures. P.S. Miche is pronounced MEEsh 💚 The owners name is Michelle💚

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

@eshachavon9832 2 жыл бұрын

Natural is definitely for the black community…never heard a WW saying she wears her hair natural🤷🏽‍♀️. I’ve been judge because my hair is super curly and then when I straightened it & it was down my back, the natural group I was apart of in Facebook demanded that I cut it 😂🤣🤣

@hopiiii1 2 жыл бұрын

The BiancaRenee Today experience has always been a positive encounter . Your sense of humor, knowledge and positive attitude always . Your hair looks beautiful.

@Goatfarmer93 2 жыл бұрын

I always thought that "natural hair" was just our God-given hair. I'm white, born into a family who know NOTHING about curly hair. My hair journey started when I was 14 and I ran across Lorraine Massey's Curly Girl Handbook. I can't tell you how excited I was! I finally had a starting point to make my hair halfway likeable. It's been in the past few years that I realized that I'm not allowed in the "natural hair community" because I'm white, even though black women have way more experience with curly hair, so obviously could have the most information that could help. But we've let it divide us by race. We are all different but still all women who are beautiful. Can't we celebrate our beautiful differences and use them to fight society's ridiculous beauty standards? I saw a video on tiktok of a white girl with extremely curly hair who got attacked for using products designed for black hair. She apologized for it but why should she ever feel like she's not allowed to use a conditioner that works well with her hair?

@tj817 2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry you had this experience. I am a black woman married to a black man who only dated non blacks before me…. He hates my hair now that I transitioned and makes comments constantly … truth is my hair is beautiful and coily and curly. You rock and keep rocking it! Because I am too!!

@Goatfarmer93 2 жыл бұрын

@@tj817 Man! I'm so sorry! The thing is, more than likely many of the non-blacks he dated had some level of curls too, just maybe didn't let them show. This is why I think we need to all stand together and accept ourselves and each other the way we are. Only then will there be change in society and beauty standards.

@tj817 2 жыл бұрын

@@Goatfarmer93 I stand with you my curly sister!! Blessing to you

@isabellevasquez7433 2 жыл бұрын

@Anna very important distinction. I’m mixed black (afro latino and filipino) and I have a loose curl pattern (although it’s very big and coarse). I got comments about my hair sure but I have never and will never experience systemic discrimination for my hair. Yes there were pressures to straighten my hair, relax my hair which I did, I grew up in a mainly East Asian community where thinness paleness and silky straight hair was what was beautiful. So yes it’s a journey for me to love my hair, but even being part black it’s important to know that it isn’t just about “we’re all beautiful”. It’s about an act of resistance against anti blackness.

@Loofabean 2 жыл бұрын

@Anna I understand where you're coming from but I don't think it's fair to minimize anyone's experience because they don't belong to a certain group of people. That's exactly what we're trying to fix here. She just expressed that she hadn't been able to wear her hair comfortably and essentially you're saying because she isn't black, her hair experience isn't as valid as someone who is. It takes courage to be who you truly are period. People have a hard time being themselves for a variety of reasons and it's our job as humans to uplift each other regardless of the reasons that make it a fight. Her hair is not just hair to her. My hair is very tightly curled with multiple patterns. I've been discriminated against for my hair being too straight when it's straightened and being too kinky when it's curly. I feel your comment about it not being a competition is a much more empathic approach and I agreed. As biased as I am about loving curly hair, all hair is beautiful in all of its forms.

@tristantowns3342 2 жыл бұрын

This conversation needed to happen. Thank you for speaking on this. It’s time for us all to come together. Embrace your hair and do what works best for you. ❤️

@GamerBunny2024 2 жыл бұрын

I think you've always been a positive influencer overall. I think there will always be gatekeepers to any community, it's inevitable... but even within some individuals toxicity I see someone who is defensive because they were put in a corner so long. I think all we can do is pray for them that one day they can feel safe enough that they don't feel the need to lash out at perceived "enemies".

@tamicajetter7714 2 жыл бұрын

You can never satisfy haters!! Natural is your natural pattern weather wavy, straight!, curly or whatever TYPE!!! ADDING a product to help your natural looks best for YOU is still natural. Seriously, take several seats in the Back if you feel otherwise. BIANCA YOU HAVE HELP ME APPRECIATE MY natural hair Period point blank!!!! Thank you for making this video. 💜 you helped me nail what works for my hair. I used to think my hair look better straight!! I have sisters who have different patterns. We all appreciate your helping us use the products Right!! Reading how to use them made a Huge difference. We have said for years I didn't know I was using the products wrong even reading the directions. Not the same as seeing how you use them!! Stopping the blowing my hair made it come back to its natural beautiful state!!! Thank you again and again for being You!!!

@xrystal89 2 жыл бұрын

Just one thing bugs me about the "lack of representation" argument when it comes to the natural hair community. Whenever I google Type 4 hair or 4C hair, I get THOUSANDS of blogs, vlogs, images, websites, etc., all speaking on 4c hair and yet..when I ask people if they've Google researched their hair...silence. Too many of the people complaining are the same ones who can't be bothered to do a 5 second Google search. They *won't look* for the representation where they can find it nor will they support the representation that is there, so it gets buried. Then they will talk about about how it doesn't exist but really, they just keep clicking on the same videos with the same hair textures with the same styles and pushing those textures to the front even more. It's like when Think Like A Man came out and the all black cast had to basically beg our people to support a black film. If we supported people like Star Puppy or GreenBeauty as much as we click on all the loose curl videos, companies would see that and start including more types. We won't support our own but then get pissed at others for not supporting us. We out here gatekeeping a village that we don't even live in >.

@cuzimjennthatswhy 2 жыл бұрын

Girl! Before I hopped on KZbin, it was Google for me! Probably the one too I consistently saw on hair care tips for 4C hair was to keep it stretched. I understood the concept but needed to get a routine and also accept and love my hair! Them google searches really was the start of my natural hair journey

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

This is the comment! The lack or representation is being driven by self hate. The people with 4c hair don't support 4c influencers the way they idolize other textures hence those textures will always get more attention.

@not.a.robott 2 жыл бұрын

I see where you're coming from, and I totally agree and think it's important to remember that representation can be found if you search for it. I also think a key point of representation is that it needs to be part of the mainstream, and black people alone shouldn't carry the burden for making something mainstream. No one represented should need to search for themselves to see themselves. if curly influencers and companies are always focused on displaying medium and looser curls on white ppl, then that's the trend, it lacks representation, and is racist af. in a community about textured hair, all textures should be properly represented. there's data to suggest coily hair is greatly underrepresented for how common it is, especially in the curly hair community. Idk I just feel like combatting a lack of representation requires those in power to change the status quo to change things and marginalized ppl can't do it alone. I see my curl pattern everywhere without searching. Coily, natural hair should be seen without having to search, too.

@xrystal89 2 жыл бұрын

@@not.a.robott I also agree to an extent; if media says they are going to be representative and inclusive, that needs to apply for *everyone* and not just the closest standard they can find to their eurocentric ideology of beauty (loose curls, light skin). However, I think that modern society has turned representation into a crutch and people use it as a source of self revelation. I hear people say, "you need to see it to dream it" but if that was true, if our community had to wait on representation and the main stream, we would still be slaves; we'd still be banned from reading and writing; our school buses would still be bombed; acid would still be poured on our children; they'd still be cutting off our limbs and burning us alive, feeding us to dogs. How many times have we've been doctors, lawyers, judges, policemen, teachers, scientists, ect., in media and people still view us as ignorant, violent, thugs... America reduces our history to struggle and lack so people don't realize the power of marginalized groups, they don't even know of the great deeds done by us when we didn't even know the word "representation". We didn't need representation to stand against a government that tortured us and tell them that we wouldn't stand for it anymore but now we need it to feel good about our own hair? Our skin? Our blackness? Now we feed into a media that didn't care to represent us and play their game, begging them to toss us a bone when they contributed to the lack of our presence in media in the first place. The reason we've made it this far is because we didn't wait for others to show us who we were, instead we learned who we were from our community, our parents, our family, our history. That's why one of the first things that a conquering nation does is break up families: they did it to Native Americans, they did it to Africans, they've done it to us. When the media tells you who you are and is the one who makes you feel special about yourself, they control the narrative not you. Brands, corporations, media shouldn't have to tell our people or show our people their worth. We should be showing them how much we care about and support each other, just as we've always did in the past. That is what created change. Not them. Us. We have more access to information about our people than ever before and yet, we still allow each other to walk around feeling ashamed of our blackness bc we're waiting on the media to do our job.

@not.a.robott 2 жыл бұрын

@@xrystal89 That's all true and makes sense! white ppl and those in power need to acknowledge many marginalized people's complaints about lack of representation and do something about it, and that can coexist with black people leading the way like they've always done and continue to do. omg I totally didn't mean to step into a conversation directed to your community and people, and I realise I misread and got confused about your initial comment. I apologize! I hope you have a great night, day, whatever it is ♥️

@lillyyarney67 2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you addressed this. I used to be a member of the international curly girl method group on Facebook and anytime black or biracial women pointed out the racial issues of the group or the toxic traits they were called problematic. So I'm glad this is being addressed. 👏👏

@cyntcarr610 2 жыл бұрын

I once was told by a beautician in passing when I wanted to have my hair re-roded that she would love to do it for me... I told her this was my natural hair. She said black people don't have natural curly hair like that... 🙄😮wow! 🤣🤣

@LadyJCMuses 2 жыл бұрын

😳😳😳🤦🏾‍♀️

@blackgothgoddess3164 2 жыл бұрын

🙄🙄🙄😞😞😞😑😑

@Tune2dis41 2 жыл бұрын

Hell naw! Smh

@marie-francoiset9402 2 жыл бұрын

what?? wow

@cyntcarr610 2 жыл бұрын

@@marie-francoiset9402 exactly...

@shonnabcurlynaturalista7588 2 жыл бұрын

I can agree with the pressures of being judged if I want to straighten my hair from time to time or not using high end products. I feel like as long as I'm focusing on the health of my hair, that's all that matters

@takaraonea 2 жыл бұрын

This video was much needed! Such a good convo. I agree with everything you said 💖

@judymoronta4719 2 жыл бұрын

Me too, I agree. I’m Dominican and I was born with curly hair but my hair can easily become straight. I was never teased or felt bad about my hair. I was one that alway had height ponytail than grow to the bun and years has passed and my curls never came back like when I was young. . Well I bleached my hair recently and my curls came back,?? And I love it and now I’m watching how to keep the curls happy hence Why I’m here. Anyways I’m learning a lot from this channel, thank you.

@tama3442 2 жыл бұрын

@a.burrows-blair6434 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! This is something I have been noticing for a while now and it’s caused quite a lot of insecurities and jealousy among my friends and family and community. There is a MASSIVE belief system where I’m from that the type 3 textures are the “good hair”, the type 4 are “nappy and need to be tamed” (usually through perming), and anything below type 3 is “white people hair” and therefore not counted. It’s toxic and of course all links back to the history with black hair and supremacists views and the adoption of racist ideologies within the black community (i.e. colorism). We all need to remember that we were once collectively hated for everything about us, so let’s not do the same to our own - or to ANYONE. Also, a side note, I’ve also had comments thrown toward me that I’m not doing enough in my routine. I don’t prepoo and I only use two products when I style (styler and gel) so there are some persons who feel like I need to do more. I need to prepoo and oil treat and shampoo and conditioner and deep conditioner and leave in and oil and styler and gel and spray EVERY time I do my hair. So there’s also some criticisms happening with regards to routine and/or number of products and steps used in addition to everything else you spoke of (products, texture, style preferences, etc).

@Heydodoakskdkdjf 2 жыл бұрын

I also call my hair wavy, and it’s because it looks super different and wears different than curly and coily hair. It frizzes like crazy, the waves change shape so quickly depending on the time of year/products used/etc. I used to hurt my self-esteem by trying to emulate curly hair and failing, before learning about the typing system and accepted my hair for what it is: wavy! It’s still a long road for me but accepting my hair for what it is helped a lot.

@TK-jj3pc 2 жыл бұрын

With me, when I just scrunch my hair its wavy and little curly at the ends, but it lasts 1-2 days then I put it in a bun for the rest of the week cuz it looks like a hot mess. But when I use the finger rolling technique, I end up getting ringlets and a lot of definition in my hair which lasts 1-1.5 weeks. But I feel like Im faking having curly hair, and feel the need to say well actually I have wavy kinda curly hair when I dont really style my hair but curly when I style it. Its rough cuz I had so much breakage and damage, from ripping my hair trying to brush it straight or using heat without protection. It also sucks that pieces just lay damaged straight at the top sigh

@carolschneider1404 2 жыл бұрын

And maybe we all need to get behind the CROWN ACT !

@noreehix5714 2 жыл бұрын

It's sad that it even exist in the first place but I agree.

@akeylabarbourporcher4531 2 жыл бұрын

Amen amen amen!! Every state needs to just adopt it, like yesterday.

@kianadavis42 2 жыл бұрын

I think you are natural if you are black and do not chemical alter your curl pattern. Thats it. The wigs, dyes, straightening, protective styles...,whatever. Do you. But I do think the "natural community" was made for black people by black people to combat the stigma of our hair. Curls in general were not the problem. Our curls was the issue.

@kianadavis42 2 жыл бұрын

Added: Being a part of the "curly community " and being part of the "natural community" is different to me.

@aleksandralempart8305 2 жыл бұрын

Water is a chemical

@kianadavis42 2 жыл бұрын

@@aleksandralempart8305 why are you like this? You know what I meant

@amixeblu 2 жыл бұрын

There was a time where I stopped using all silicones (thankfully I had put the products aside in a little cupboard in the garage) and all sulfates, and I had terrible hair. Then I realized and just continued to do what I have *always* done. Sulfates & silicones, and my hair is not dry, not damaged, it is super nice! Exactly Bianca, you do you!

@BriannaF930 2 жыл бұрын

I just bought regular grease the other day bc I was too overwhelmed in the hair store. Everyone is selling a product now and most of them are trash. Also, you need a 15 product “set” just to wash your hair lol. I’m done! 🤣

@tbev58 2 жыл бұрын

Lol I’m with you 🤣Afro sheen grease, blue magic, bergamot along with dippty do gel worked back in day! It’s a heap of too many products for me but I guess people had to jump on the opportunity train while it was hot in the natural hair community. Jus my opinion

@Kayla_Nicole 2 жыл бұрын

I’m done with all the natural hair products too. I’m just over it. Blue magic hair grease has been perfect for me.

@candice44441 2 жыл бұрын

That is part of the problem, as curlies we’ve been told we need 20 steps and 20 products to do our hair. Honestly how realistic is that? Back in the day there was step 3 wash, condition, and treat. But nowadays is like that times 3. This is why many find curly hair care daunting and inconvenient.

@BriannaF930 2 жыл бұрын

@@candice44441 I found myself in the hair store reading labels and ingredients trying to remember what’s good and what to stay away. I spent so much time in the aisle I said these ppl probably think I’m stealing. I ended up just getting the basics bc that was it for me.

@prettyllady 2 жыл бұрын

Gurl I did the same! Lol 😂 I found that these natural products don’t work. Many dry out my hair or cause more breakage. So out of desperation I started using blue magic hair grease like the shea butter one, & the coconut oil and voila! It works and my hair stopped breaking and it’s growing like crazy! 😁 now my hair is mid-back length almost hitting my bra strap. I’m so happy

@Palmundo91 2 жыл бұрын

It's so interesting to me how the very same people who were part of this whole community and making it popular on social media all of a sudden now want to act like they're not a part of it or they didn't contribute to some of the issues with it

@323mell 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah she was also claiming that some ingredients are good and we should not use at all, she also has had toxic traits, Like we can use what works for us period.

@candice44441 2 жыл бұрын

Lorraine Massey wrote the curly girl method, parted ways with Devacurl and basically disappeared from the scene because some of the methods she recommended are questionable

@thetwistyt6484 2 жыл бұрын

This is such an important topic for so many reasons! I personally want to live in a world where differences are celebrated rather than positioned against one another. Differences in hair types, similarly to skin color (like you mentioned) is literally not in anyone’s control, we are born with what we are born with. I believe the toxicity that exists in the natural hair community is unfortunately just another are of divisiveness our world as a whole has yet to work through. I’m so grateful you bring up topics that are so much larger than just what ingredients are heaviest for your hair, because it brings awareness and more importantly creates conversation around systemic root issues in our world. Thank you for choosing to celebrate all the differences in everything on your channel, it’s beautiful and it makes me feel happy inside!💜✨🙏🏽

@pgdi82 2 жыл бұрын

Somebody had to address this, it was long overdue. I'm glad it is you! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@joeliawemazing 2 жыл бұрын

I forgive you Bianca. You were the one who made me not want to straighten me hair for the health of my hair. So thank you for being a little mean about it. It's what I needed to hear and now I haven't straightened my hair since July 2020 because I choose not to. And all the heat damage is gone and I have healthy curly hair now. So again thank you!

@cuzimjennthatswhy 2 жыл бұрын

Tough love, but still love!

@joeliawemazing 2 жыл бұрын

@@cuzimjennthatswhy exactly

@ossier2796 2 жыл бұрын

As I remember my generations natural hair movement was about loving the hair that came from our head and seeing ourselves as beautiful without the need to straighten our hair. It was about Black beauty. Even back in the day the negativity towards my natural hair came from Black women.

@frumtheground 2 жыл бұрын

I'm white, ethnically Jewish. I have the stereotypical "jew curls" everyone loved to make fun of in high school. Then I got Systemic Lupus and RA in my early 20s which effectively destroyed it. For a while I hated it and i felt so ugly on top of dealing with everything else. I always wore my hair curly since I was 14 and then suddenly it was like everything I knew about my hair was wrong and i didn't know what to do until i found this community on youtube. I get talked to (and about) at work on a pretty regular basis because people don't like to look at it. How it looks unprofessional, how it looks as if I don't wash it, how it looks like I don't brush it, how I basically look like I rolled out of bed with it. Someone always has something to say about it (and whatever they feel like sharing about my illnesses in general lol). But I'm still inspired and happy when I see other people rocking their curls. I still take the best care of my hair that I can, and without the curly hair community I wouldn't still love my hair. I'm thankful for the women who taught me how to take care of my hair, and that includes you, Bianca! Thank you for talking about this.

@cmg25 2 жыл бұрын

The “natural hair movement” was about black women evaluating the massive amounts of energy they were putting into looking “presentable” according to Eurocentric beauty standards. The movement was commodified when companies saw an opportunity to tap a market, which then led to marketing practices that reinforced the very reason why we started the movement in the first place. As the net was cast wider, “natural” gave way to “curly girl” rhetoric that allowed more “inclusivity” to the detriment of the very tighter coiled people who started the movement. While conversations about representation eclipsed the hair itself, everyone benefited from the knowledge gains, product options, and styling choices that came out of the movement. All this to say that we all still live in a world that is ANTI black. So when non-black people began to reap benefits from things like “mini buns” and baby hair, it signaled that people love black things when they are not on black people. The real natural hair movement would mean that black folks get to be just as nonchalant with their hair as people who show up to work with stringy, wet, messy buns and receive zero judgement about their character, work ethic, or morals.

@BlakButtaFlyy 2 жыл бұрын

THIS 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@skb4055 2 жыл бұрын

I need to add that you are one of four of the people I like to listen and watch. I’ve LEARNED from you. We all need to be open to learning. I once criticized someone, an acquaintance, for spending her time making funny videos. I said something like she must have a lot of time on her hands. It made her feel bad and she addressed it. She never pointed me specifically but I realized that she meant me and possibly others that judged her. I apologized because I had to understand that she needs her creative outlet. I have enjoyed her humor more ever since. I hope that makes me a better friend. Thank you for your contribution to helping us all better ourselves. ❤️

@amdp2121 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been watching your videos for 4 years now and you have helped me so much to look after my hair. I am white with 3a hair and I cannot recall the number of times I have hated it and felt helpless in making it beautiful. I love your channel and I think you’ve been great for the ‘I want to wear my hair natural because it’s beautiful’ community!! Irrespective of skin colour you have been incred love you lots xx

@michellerojas9545 2 жыл бұрын

This was such a nice video!! I was so happy to hear you mention the Latino/Hispanic community because I am part of it and I grew up feeling and getting the message that curly hair wasn’t beautiful.

@a4lma 2 жыл бұрын

That happen to me a lot specially in high school in Puerto Rico

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

I feel like the "movement" became necessary because there was not enough products or representation for people with tighter/kinkier textures and it's has been hijacked by people with looser textures who didn't have that big of a problem in the first place. I can understand the ppl with looser hair who were forced to straighten wanting to grow out their hair in it's natural state. But I do feel like the people who started the movement have been shoved to the back.

@보모 2 жыл бұрын

Yet when they discussion is had it is ignore or dismissed as “divisive”. Suddenly a movement meant for highlighting a particular group becomes a game of semantics where people say race and texture do not matter. The act of including everyone yet again shoved the unambiguous to the back *again* after setting the space for themselves

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

@@보모 exactly. It's like all lives matter vs black lives matter

@보모 2 жыл бұрын

@@MarshasJourney you said the exact scenario I had in my head but withheld from the comment. The semantics at play by saying they too are natural are a clear indicator of cultural difference and ignorance of [another’s] intracommunal working. Natural was in reference to continuing the childhood coaxing of chemical relaxers NOT literal virgin hair status. Hence the understandable slap in the face some women felt when fair skin biracial loose textures girls were paid to be a face for a natural/textured hair community’s stable line of products. Leaving ethnic behind to be amongst the others which of course invites gentrification to the vary group that uplifted such product lines

@TooDamnGolden 2 жыл бұрын

Afros were a big thing, but by the time I was born relaxers and jheri curls were the rage😅 However, the origins of the actual movement, not using relaxers and highlighting curl pattern, were really type 3c/4a texture. 4bc natural styles didn't even start blowing up until tumblr pinterest and other forms of social media were really able to share the beauty of the styles globally. This perception that the movement was hijacked is false, because afro styles simply fell out of style. 3b/c just was able to use gels and jheri curl products, instead of relaxers.

@MarshasJourney 2 жыл бұрын

@@TooDamnGolden ok

@_staterus 2 жыл бұрын

i’m not part of the natural hair community, i’m a white guy with very similar hair to yours, and i found this channel looking for products and hair ties for my hair. i’ve always been told what ingredients were supposed to be bad, but you were the first person i’ve found that actually explained why those ingredients were harmful. thank you for making such informational videos, cuz even me, someone quite far removed from the community, your videos are super useful. (also i’ve been using hask products in my hair for years now, which are all paraben, sulfate, and silicone free)

@ruffinarector541 2 жыл бұрын

Gurl you be hitting all the bases!!! Love this topic!!! You are absolutely right. It shouldn’t matter your ethnicity or tightness of your curl or lack of!! Personally I feel fortunate to have found your channel. I have learned so much!!! I started my natural or curly journey in the nineties!! But when my daughters came along they did not appreciate the natural look. So they begged me for perm. Now we are all natural!! It’s amazing how times have changed!!! Personally I love my curls, but I an not a creature of habit when it comes to my hair!!! I love that we can switch it up!!! I wear it curly, I braid it, and I am seriously thinking about sister locs!!! So as a community of natural we should embrace our differences and celebrate each other!!!

@ladyandrews9371 2 жыл бұрын

Great content. I appreciate that we can acknowledge that there is so much toxicity and bullying going on in the natural hair community. I started out following the 20 steps and all the madness. The process was overwhelming and time consuming. The moment I started educating myself and found a routine that works for me, my hair began the thrive and grew down my back. I plan to reach tailbone by years end. Now, that said I am an old exclusive straight natural. I wash, deep condition, and flat iron my hair once a month. The process takes me about 2 hours start to finish. That said, I stay ready to pop off on a bully because I lived both realities and I switched to what works for me. So if have never grown tailbone hair I don’t even listen. It takes someone who has been on the journey to blaze the trail period. I broke all the “rules”and followed what works for me and my crown.

@karenmonroe2058 2 жыл бұрын

I am white and I have wavy/curly hair. I use drugstore products and sometimes use silicones AND I watch you ALL the time. You have taught me about ingredients and I am forever indebted. I don’t feel judged by you or anyone!

@zing5140 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I have learned a lot from your channel and others as well! For me, the curly hair community is a place where you can learn about your curls without judgement. I also treat the videos and posts as educational. I look at what the reviews are then I decide what might work for my hair because everyone's hair is different! It also takes years to understand your hair, and it may take longer than you expect. When I first started researching about the curly hair products, I just wanted affordable products that could keep my hair strong after my desires to box dye.. also I lived in smalltown Alaska, and it was easier for me to get "drugstore" products such as Shea Moisture and Maui Moisture. Neither product worked for me, but they work for others and that's all that matters. Now, I live in Albuquerque, New Mexico, I have a lot of access to more items, and I am learning about caring for my hair in the desert! Right now I am trying Love, Beauty, and Planet shampoo and conditioner. And I am also trying Briosio hair masks, gels, ulta style things that were not in AK (unless you were in Anchorage). It's up to me to find the products that work and what my hair goals are. However, watching BiancaReneeToday, Penny Tovar, India Batson, Ayesha Malek, and other channels have greatly helped.. and still continue to help. Bianca may be sad for me about my haircut because it was cut too short, and I am okay with that, I actually am encouraged to hear her responses because now I know where to go for curly haircuts... but all I can do is rock this hair cut until my hair grows :)

@ellaments1995 2 жыл бұрын

13:30 I relate to this part so much but I’m Mexican and white and many people have told me I’m not Mexican because I’m also white and it always feels very discriminating to me and my dad. I also have curly hair but mine is more loose like around 3a and many people that have more curlier hair have told me my hair isn’t curly and made me feel very bad about it. Also I love you so much you’ve helped me so much especially because I never got much help from my mom with my curly hair and not having my dad in my life that has very curly hair thank you so much again :)!

@kassiemaelove 2 жыл бұрын

I love when you do hair styles and talk about controversial things! It’s fun to listen while I do my makeup 😂❤️ Thanks for talking about this! As a white person within the curly space, I understand that while I may have had a hard time getting a GOOD haircut there are many Black people who have been turned away from a service all together because of their texture. Hopefully as more and more people are wanting to wear their natural hair textures it puts more and more pressure on cosmetology programs to provide that as basic education!

@BranJo23199 2 жыл бұрын

I am European I have wavy hair , I was told to brush my hair out it looks messy . I know how it feels because i was bullied a lot by classmates and teachers because of my hair .

@gabybocaletti826 2 жыл бұрын

I love my curly hair, normally after the wash day I’m going to use it in a bun, I try to style it following different styling products or tips… however I do like to straighten ir now an then trying to protect my hair when I do it.

@realxistic 2 жыл бұрын

I love that you brought this topic to your channel. I never felt judged by you; if anything I've only felt inspired and encouraged. At the end of the day this is all based on perspective for the individual. As a community all we should be doing is showing support and being respectful. Much love! ❤️

@jennygracefully 2 жыл бұрын

I have 4c hair and a lot of the tutorials online show how to make my hair not look like 4c hair, which I guess I don’t mind, but it’s kinda not fair that looser textures have tutorials that showcase their curls.

@jydelca7297 2 жыл бұрын

I am so glad I found your channel and that you are Not running away from controversial topics. I am a 53 yr old Dominican woman who stopped relaxing over 12 years ago. I chose to cover my premature grays, rock my type 3 curls. I’m just recently becoming familiar with terms like curls types, porosity, etc. When I decided to go natural, and yes, Natural, I got a lot of criticism. However, I also became some type of trend-setter and many women in my family and friends from various ethnicities started going natural too. Fast forward 2 years ago, I started regularly going to my hairdresser to blow outs, out of convenience due to my hectic schedule. Then, I naively allowed someone to do a Brazilian botox which I thought was a deep conditioner. Now, I’m trying to restore my curls and educate myself (hence is how I found you, 2 days ago). I feel hopeful, as I see all if not most of my Dominican high school students relishing in the freedom of natural curls. Still, I’m about to say something to one of my Latina colleagues who keeps asking our students with natural curls to “get a comb” and make themselves presentable. Today, I made up my mind to have a conversation about building up our All our students so they feel proud about their beauty, and diversity in all shades and styles. So I agree with you 100%. Style your hair they way you like it or the way it works best for you but do not give into bias, ignorance and negative pressure. Keep up the good work! There is hope.

@mmay777 2 жыл бұрын

YES, I do enjoy all your styles of videos, but since you asked specifically... I like the conversation plus hair style duo. I WILL almost never watch someone just sitting in front of the camera talking for 20 minutes straight without some other visual aid. AND THANK YOU for touching on this topic. I am just a handful of months into this curly/natural hair journey but only 2 months of actual practice and heat tool free. I am shocked by all the hate and judgement from people in the curly community but also people OUTSIDE the community with so many weird comments and opinions. Thank you for spreading love and kindness. Be the light :)

@katemmontero8703 2 жыл бұрын

Omg omg! I was waiting for a moment in the day when I could truly sit down and watch you. Bravo Bianca! I fall into that unknown community. I am Afro Dominican. I fight on a daily basis with the entity I grew up with enforced from the Dominican culture that I have “Pelo Malo” or “un pajon” ( bad hair and Afro respectively.) since I decided 2 years ago to do the big chop I have had 3 big chops since then. My hair is so healthy and shiny and strong since I did it . I have accepted all of me and embrace who I am. This convo soo needed to be had. I totally can see where I fall into discrimination because I follow the thought that to be natural is not straight. Going forward I will correct myself and be the example for others to follow. Thank you soo soo soo much for having this convo and shouting out the toxic Dominican culture that I try to change within my family, friends and neighbors. Love yah girl!! And your hair is fiyah! 🥰🥴😍😍

@jesshoani428 2 жыл бұрын

20 years ago we had no information. I'm grateful for you. Thankyou x

@jennahilton8259 2 жыл бұрын

God I’m glad that you made this video! You brought up gripes that I’ve had with this community for the past 3-ish years. I just wish people would be proud of the hair type that they have regardless of what it is or who you are. There is one thing though that I have seen in the “natural hair” community that you perhaps didn’t know about. There are people who crap on curly haired people who use DIY or all natural products. The argument is that we (primarily Black women) are trying to copy our South Asian cousins’ hair growth when “we’re not supposed to have that kind of hair length/growth.” I honestly hate it because I went from being a Cantu user and hating my hair to loving my hair and making my own oils, hair butters, and even cleansers. Why encourage people to stop doing something when it’s natural and it WORKS FOR THEM??!

@cuzimjennthatswhy 2 жыл бұрын

Great point! DIY naturals def catch a lot of flack for wanting to make their own stuff

@tiahnarodriguez3809 2 жыл бұрын

The fact our African ancestors also used diy oils, butters, and hair concoctions that were sometimes similar to our South Asia cousins, but you’re getting ridiculed for it is interesting. I use a mix of diy Ayurvedic based and African based hair treatments myself, and am not copying any one’s hair growth. All I know is my diy’s keep my hair healthy, which has contributed to increased growth as a result, but growth isn’t my main goal. Health is, which is why I continue to use my diy treatments. I’ve used diy’s for years and notice a huge difference in my hair compared to when I didn’t use them. My take is that we should all use what works for our hair whether it’s diy, semi-diy, or store bought.

@jennahilton8259 2 жыл бұрын

@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Agreed! I’ve only been doing this for just under a year, but the health (and length) of my hair has changed DRASTICALLY. I love it and I’m not going to stop anytime soon 😁

@elioraimmanuel 2 жыл бұрын

I am over 50 and never knew I had curly hair until I was over 28. I never knew how to care of it until 50. So…..I brushed it out wet, used curling irons and the like. I am a white woman with naturally curly hair. I no longer wear my hair up in a ponytail or messy bun 95% of the time! I love my curls. I haven’t died my hair in 20 years. I rock my curls, wearing them down or with a few tiny claw clips and I LOVE IT! I had always wanted curls! For decades I had permed and then curled my hair and never achieved what I have now (after recovering from nearly loosing it all to DC.) Use whatever works for YOU, despite to whom it is marketed or what any group or”manual” says! HUMANS are Toxic! Far too many focus on the .01% of DNA that separates us and not on the 99.99% that Unites us! Show love, not hate! That doesn’t mean you have to agree! It means being loving and kind to others! Bianca, you are a gorgeous woman with a sweet spirit. Thanks for all the love, sarcasm, en and knowledge!!!

@lornamartinez5961 2 жыл бұрын

I keep hearing in the past decade, "don't judge", "no label", "we all human", "we all special" wish is the same s saying as no one is. What we need to do more is care about ourselves & let people live & have their own opinions.

@kenishabrown549 2 жыл бұрын

I wash & go more when it’s warm/ humid and then I straighten it when it gets colder. I have no issue with my curls after straightening. I wrap at night when it’s straight so I don’t put heat on it everyday. It works for me and I’m glad your telling everyone to do what’s best for them. I feel great about my hair no matter what even when I get protective styles. I have never felt judged by you or your vids. I love your content!

@justbykass7540 2 жыл бұрын

You are the person that got me to embrace my curly hair so thank you. 3 years without straightening and it has made me learn how to actually style it.

@azlynnjademonroe4820 2 жыл бұрын

Your comment about 7:30 mins in is spot on! I feel like so many other people are judgmental about how others do their hair/ take care of their hair. Like you said it’s YOUR hair. I’ve always seen it as more encouragement when you say not to straighten your hair. I struggled with loving my curls for a LONG time throughout school years. I still struggle now. I see all these women with beautiful straight hair, and I’m jealous of how their hair looks so manageable, and they don’t have to take as long to do their hair. But at the same time I know people who would kill to have beautiful curls.

@krystall.perezmartinez9942 2 жыл бұрын

Hi from Puerto Rico. Very good topic. Here on the island there is a beautiful awakening for wearing your "natural hair", but there is still a lot of internalized discrimination and external cultural discrimination. Is a work in progress. Here "natural" or curly hair is called "pelo malo", which translates to "bad hair". This kind of verbalization does stem from a historic racism in our culture. Hair that seems "unmanageable" or "messy" is called "pelo malo" (bad hair). Unfortunately the people that usually presented with this "pelo malo" where black or mixed people. Therefore, people where taught to break away from that; to be better or "mejorar la raza" (better the race). Terrible. I know. I promise, it's getting better, but there is a long way to go Wear what you want to wear!

@sneakerteacher89 2 жыл бұрын

All facts. The Caribbean got issues to resolve. I have always preferred my hair natural. My daughter is 12 and she loves her curls. Sadly my niece doesn’t because her lazy ass family don’t care to learn how to do her hair. I took her to get a curly cut in August and I taught her everything I knew so she could get started on learning to do it alone. My cousins got 3C/4A hair and they stay straightening it. One of them told me, “Na I don’t like that shit” when I told her she should try keeping it natural. It’s sad.

@patriciaphillips9432 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video. You discussed a lot of important topics. I've been on healthy hair journey for about 6 years now, and just big chopped last May. Used many of your recommended products, while I was still relaxed. Now that I'm natural, I know my years of watching natural hair influencers are helping me accept my 4c hair more easily. I agree that many 4c women seem to try to change their appearance of their curls by doing twist outs, braid outs and other stretched styles. Thankful for the positive voices like yours, that help me to be happy with my hair in a wash and go!

@chrisastacio-felix4115 2 жыл бұрын

I have 4C hair and i just want to thank you for creating your channel for us curly/coily hair community, I appreciate you so much and keep doing what you're doing. It's amazing how as we progress in something that's encouraging and positive, we always find a way to tarnish all that progression to the point where we become divided AGAIN. That's why these conversations are important to have, especially in the curly/coily hair community. What helped me is discovering that natural ingredients in the products I use actually improved my hair health, as well as discovering the different hair textures that i have, instead of just one type which is normal. The judgement and discrimination NOW is insane. Its to the point if you use a "canceled" hair product, you're immediately CANCELED. We need to show love to each other by not judging each other but having discussions like this often so we can educate each other and not discriminate each other, let us be willing to understand and be more aware.

@ladybird491 2 жыл бұрын

Your post is toxic, rushing to mentioned you are 4c which this is video is not even about what hair type you are. 4c try to find any opportunity to mention they are 4c among other black women as if they have special hair.

@bajanbreezy 2 жыл бұрын

A natural community member is who use to little or no heat aka 90% of the year their hair is in its natural condition but I don't include coloring. I use your videos as information and try to take your video to help inform my decision but I make my own decision as well. I try to follow your ingredients on why not to use certain ingredients in my products by reducing the number of products I utilize with those ingredients but I don't stop myself if a brand I want to try has those products. My hair has been braided, permed, straightened, wave nouveau (to bring back to curly state), cut short, and wore weaves to fit everyone's desires for me but because of you I have decided to do what want to do with my hair so in 2020 beginning of covid I dyed my hair and now I keep it short as well because I love the low maintenance. I would say I have 4c hair and I agree most of our videos are twist-outs or to get protective styles and doing an afro every day was tiring for my hands and couldn't find videos that talked about how to maintain an afro so I just cut short. Can we get more videos discussing all type of hair and you trying more different routines for different hair types.

@crystalpelham6324 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for calling this out! It’s horrible and exhausting to see so much discrimination in the community. I feel that we all should just do what we want with our hair and leave other people alone. We’re all great just the way we are!

@bobbig.8090 2 жыл бұрын

I’m mixed Afro Cubana mother and my dad also Cuban is white. My fathers family always made me self conscious about my hair and would always tell me to brush my hair (as if it would remove my curly hair) and my mom began relaxing my hair at the age of 12. I went natural a couple years back but the heat damage has now taken over. It’s hard to love your curls when people keep telling you it’s ugly and unwanted. We need more KZbinrs to open up about this. Thank you for talking about the curly hair stigma. 😌😌

@pondeck 2 жыл бұрын

B, you've said so much here! Girl, you've never been a bully, you're just passionate! And your even apologizing just in case you might have come off that way shows how far you've come in conquering the need for 'perfectionism' you once described. Your channel is so lovely & positive! I only watch channels I truly enjoy & that I feel happy for having given my time & attention to... it's my time to relax. Ppl are entitled to have & express honest concerns, & we can all learn so much from listening to each other. But that is different from the types of ppl who just want to constantly pump negativity & toxicity out into the world & bully anyone they can. No time for that ish, life's too precious & I'm too grown! 😘 xoxo

@Theonetiffanylynn 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Bianca for talking about this! Your entire channel is very positive and a I’m glad you also tell it like it is. Your transparency is a HUGE reason I respect your hair advice. I’m thankful for you and appreciate you! 💕 I’m loving these new style and chats. It’s kind of like being in the salon chair and talking to the stylist.

@pgdi82 2 жыл бұрын

Ok, pausing the video 😅 You can do to your hair whatever the f you want and NO ONE but you should have an opinion about it. Now, if you destroy it through chemicals, fryirons, and whatnot and have no clue on how to get your curls back, following Bianca's advices and yearly challenges might be a great starting point. But like everything in life, you have to put in the work and be consistent. I used to relax my hair once or twice a year because everyone said I looked better with straight hair and I believed it. I didn't really care about how I FELT when doing this until my hair was an absolute nightmare of damage. Feeling somewhat "pushed" (but also super encouraged!) by your content, Bianca, by your challenges, I've gotten my beautiful naturally curly hair back from the dead in a litter over 2 years. So, no, no, NO, I've never felt personally victimized by you. On the contrary, you've really made things clear to me with your straightforward opinions and advices ❤️

@trichar5 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Bianca, I will say I started watching your videos because I wanted my hair to look like yours. Only after a few years of experimentation did I realize my hair was never going to look like yours, and that’s OK. I remember when I was younger and used to get relaxers if I drenched my hair with gel and conditioner I would have a loose curl pattern like yours and I thought I was the bomb, lol! That was until it dried into a little Afro (if I didn’t use enough gel), or stayed stiff like Ramen noodles (if I used too much gel). You encouraged me to get my first devacut and learn more about what it was going to take to get my natural, unrelaxed but still terribly heat damaged, hair healthy. I very much enjoyed when you did collaborations with other curly girls and that’s how I branched off and found some techniques that finally worked for me and my curls. The fact that people are out here hatin’ is such a waste of time and energy. Just be happy that all curl types and textures are living their best life and FINALLY being able to wear their hair the way it grows from their scalp without shame. ♥️♥️♥️

@tatiannamiv 2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad you provided all the definitions for “natural hair”. To me natural hair was no alteration of your texture by heat or chemicals and only using natural products. I never knew that it meant something different depending on who you are. I have never bleached or dyed my hair. Have never changed the color of it in its entirety. Did highlights just once years ago (to try it and didn’t like them) but other than that…been natural! because of you: I haven’t straightened my hair since I found you I live a silicone & sulfate FREE lifestyle One thing that surprises me is to see how every so often (once in a blue moon) I see comments of some of your fans approve of the use of silicones and that’s them and that’s fine!

@Flamarea 2 жыл бұрын

Minute 6:19 of your video spoke to me. It would big me to when I would straighten my hair and get so many more compliments than I ever got wearing my curls. That right there is what made me want to search for channels like yours. I was determined to show the people in my life that my curls are worth complimenting. Thank you for all the work you (and your editor) put in to your videos.

@AshleyMarie1 2 жыл бұрын

I have mixed hair textures and I “wasn’t fully natural”when I transitioned because I blow dried my hair weekly and cut off my hair over a period of time. I didn’t do a big chop!!! My hair dresser gave me to best advice. For you to succeed at transitioning to natural, you have to do what works for you. Now my hair is getting longer and easier to wear it natural cuz my hair is so thick with many curly patterns. And I’m so happy I embraced the journey that worked for me!

@ceciliamorales8998 2 жыл бұрын

I can totally understand all these viewpoints. In my house alone there is 4 different type of curls. I am between a 2c/3a, 1 of my sons is 3a/3b, the other is 3c/4a, and my other son is 4a/4b. Growing up I would always get told to straighten my hair, bad idea. Now I definitely embrace my curls and reassure my kids as well how handsome they are with their curls.

@kenoaleblanc678 2 жыл бұрын

I love this so much. My curls have gotten tighter over the years my daughter has Shirley temple curls and my sons is straight (naturally) with a curl on the end. And we’re all natural and I love it. Your videos have helped me to get health back into my curls and keep my children’s healthy. I think personally natural just means keeping your hair healthy with limited interference. Just like we would to our body

@natalies4751 2 жыл бұрын

This was an interesting watch! I’m 1/4 black on my granddads side…so i have an olivey complexion, curly hair, get mistaken for Italian more than anything 🙈 but I feel like calling myself “white” would be sort of erasing a whole part of my family tree, it that makes sense? I thought that “natural hair” stemmed from the Natural Hair Movement of the 60s so I wouldn’t use it myself - maybe natural curls, but not natural hair. It’s a really difficult one because everyone sees it differently!

@zalea.ofcourse 2 жыл бұрын

Bianca I started watching you a little over a year ago so around like 2021 during covid then I had always tied my hair back for pretty much like 2 or 3 years but you are like the only person that made me keep going to make my curls healthier. I learned a lot from you but when I started to go back to school- in person I felt different and weird to be the only person with hair the wasn't just flat. And even tho I got a good amount of compliments there was some people just straight up saying stuff like "what wrong with your hair " I know that those people haven't been exposed to people with hair other than just flat hair. But then I also got people with pin straight hair telling me what to do with my hair having no expirence and saying stuff that doesn't make sense to most curly heads. But now mainly because of you Bianca I have been rocking my curls knowing that its my hair my choice And I feel so much self confidence now thanks to you Bianca and my hair has been better then ever

@tishc.849 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you said about the being a mixed girl has left you feeling to white for the black community an to black for the white community....it's been a struggle at times! My biological father is black an yes I'm a light skin mixed girl with curly hair. I do wish the curly hair community was more supportive of one another an what makes us unique and beautiful!

@chadalexandercooper 2 жыл бұрын

I'm of Mixed Black Heritage, when I have products to style my hair, my curls elongate and are wavy and big loop curls. But when I run out of products due to low income or not having enough money to buy some of my fave products due to them being super expensive. when my hair is bone dry it poofs out and gets wooly and wild, and drinks up. My parents often tell me to cut my hair when it takes me 2 years to grow it out. for my music career as well as a masculine man who was forced to cut it as a child by my dad. Since high school, I began to embrace the wavy loop curls that I loved. Ive decided to love my curls and embrace all of the man that i am and who i am becoming even if my parents don't agree with me growing long curly hair.

@aliyahjohnson8319 2 жыл бұрын

I was always told growing up by other kids that were my age or older that I had to be mixed with something because I have a looser curl pattern. They always told me that I couldn’t be fully black or majority black🥲

@nicholasjmarcoux 2 жыл бұрын

I have 3b hair and am 1/4 black. In 2020 I really started to embrace my curly hair and learned to take care of it and you really helped with that. Before I used to hate my hair because I live in a town where everyone has straight hair so I would brush out my hair everyday to try and make it less curly. So anyways thank you so much with helping me on my hair journey. You helped me find good products and now I only straighten my hair a couple of times a year because I want to switch it up. Thx♥️

@LAT6669 2 жыл бұрын

THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I STOPPED PAYING ANY ATTENTION TO ANY OF THE NATURAL HAIR OR CURLY HAIR GROUPS ON FACEBOOK, BECAUSE OF THE TOXICITY & BASICALLY JUST THE RUDENESS OF PPL OVER THERE, YOU CAN'T EVEN GIVE AN OPINION WITHOUT GETTING A BACKLASH AND I DON'T NEED THAT SHIT 😣

@cuzimjennthatswhy 2 жыл бұрын

So glad to hear your take on this topic. I remember the inception of the natural hair movement back in 2010 in college. I knew a few girls who would say to get on KZbin and learn how to rock it, but I wasn’t in the headspace to take that journey. I heard over the years and my sister even encouraged me to at least check out the natural hair space. Was damn near forced to once March 2020 hit and I actually had the time to see what was what and unfortunately that was around that time that the viral video was going around about why this one KZbinr was leaving the community and the videos that followed after made me really discouraged initially because it wasn’t the support I was expecting/looking for. Thankfully I found Bianca and Faye who are literally 2 of the last bright lights in the community who are all about positivity and transparency. I was already on the no heat train prior to my natural journey but I def bend the rules on silicone. There are different types of silicone and as long as I don’t feel a film or my hair consistently being dry, products with silicone get a pass. Def use one hairspray with a parabens but that’s also like a once every 6 months thing. Moderation is key in all things and seeing a professional stylist will help keep the damage at bay!

@tiffanygil1499 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for addressing this. We all want what we can't have. My best friend has straighten her hair forever. After leaving the relaxer world she straightens it every week. However, she is out of the country and is trying to go "curly" or "natural." She has type 4C hair and I'm 3C. She has told me she is jealous of my hair and I'm jealous of her thick hair as mine is fine. Your comments have given me more fire power to support her properly. Thank you.

@RecRoom77 2 жыл бұрын

I just recently straightened my hair for the first time in 2 years (and then colored it a fun red because I have prominent grey hairs in my crown). I felt sad about my decision because I had worked hard to love my natural curl patterns (yes multiple patterns naturally come out of my scalp). I had to because having “2 kids under 3” does not give me the luxury of time. I’m lucky if I get 10 min to shower let alone the 2 hrs it takes to do my hair and look like someone loves me. So I straightened my hair so that I can take 30 seconds wrap my hair at night and 30 seconds to take it down in the morning while I chase my type 3 curly top 21 month old around with a comb in the morning to make sure people know he is loved. And the 2nd reason I straightened my hair was to make sure all my dead ends were cut. It’s easier to see when my hair is straight because of my curl pattern. Glad I did because good God did I need a serious trim! When my kids become more independent I’ll go back to wearing my hair curly. Now if you’ll excuse me I have to chase the 21 month old because it’s bedtime and he’s refusing to stay in his bed.

@fieryrouge 2 жыл бұрын

As a curly hair person that is also a red head I constantly get asked if my hair is natural and I get tired of it. Yes I have curly hair and yes the colour is the one that grows from my scalp. I wish I see more inclusive comments. If you have textured hair, you do you and not why someone thinks you should. To me CGM is too restrictive and doesn’t work for me or where I live but it works for others. I have experimented to see works for me. I find listening to those with both tighter and looser curl patterns then me are helpful as they might have suggestions that are helpful to us all. I think we need to start being nicer to everyone. There are so much stress we all deal with already. Also can we be nicer to kids. I was always judged as a kid as I didn’t know how to style my curly and my hair was frizzy. There was also no one that really knew how to cut my hair or teach me how to style it. So you put it up in a ponytail, braid it or straighten it. Also we should judge based on length or stereotypes it to genders. There is amazing women with short hair, amazing men with long hair, and non-binary with all different lengths. We should encourage everyone to rock their hair they way they want to. It’s their hair not ours. I like when brands are inclusive all textures of all colours as textured hair is found all over the world of all genders and campaigns should reflect that. Glad you did this video and congrats on your growing family.

@_kimmikim_ 2 жыл бұрын

I never felt bullied by you BIANCA just tough love to learn how to take care of my beautiful curls!!! the curly hair community needs to be more excepting of all and not dismissing each other. Our hair is so versatile and can do so many styles!!!

@jaylahjones23 2 жыл бұрын

I loved this video!!! It’s so important to talk about these kinds of topics. At the end of the day, we all should be showing love and supporting one another through their hair journey.

@cherrishpryor7568 2 жыл бұрын

I stopped getting perms years ago, and started getting my hair straightened. But when COVID19 hit I started rocking my natural curls, and straightening my hair very infrequently for length check and for trims. I was so disappointed when I wore my straightened hair and someone said to me, ‘now I like your hair straight like that’. I told them they ‘shouldn’t have said anything and I prefer my curls, I just needed to do a trim so don’t get used to the straight hair because the curls will be back’. The kicker is the person that said that to me is natural and has been much longer then me. There I no need for others to be mean and negative towards us. We do it to people in our community often enough. Between that and our personal selfishness, well…let’s just pray we do better and learn to support our community.

@j.chayo45 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Latina my daughter is mixed she has 4b super long and thick hair. Mine is 2B. We are both tender headed.. I keep her hair in plats. She wants to wear her hair down like mine but her hair poofs up by the end of the day and super tangled. So far African pride and shea moisture work the best for her. I'm glad you are addressing this issue. When my daughter wears her hair natural she gets all kinds of looks. She feels beautiful and wants to look like mommy,as long as it's freshly washed and combed people shouldn't judge.

@anivonhunt 2 жыл бұрын

You have taught me a lot. I have learned what ingredients work for my hair. Products with silicone were drying out my hair so I decided to stay away from products that have silicone. My hair is so much softer now. Thank you for that. I stopped using sulfates years ago because it was damaging my scalp. I had people who did make comments about the way my hair look but I did not listen to them. I had to go on a journey to discover what my hair likes. People like to give unsolicited advice not really understanding what the person is going through. My motto is if you are not given me the money for my hair your opinion does not matter to me. I thank you for all the products you have shown like Briogeo and Curlsmith. I have discovered products on my own that I love like Seen shampoo and Frize-Frize products. I purchased them because of the ingredients that work on my hair. Thank you for your videos. I really enjoy them.