The Power of No | In The Room

Sometimes “no” is the best response for our peace. Saying “no” can make room for the perfect “yes”! In this episode of #InTheRoom, we're discussing setting boundaries and overcoming brokenness along with a few key takeaways from #TheSameRoom conversation around Balance with Touré Roberts.
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[@kizzyrock]

Yes!!!! God will DRY things up including relationships, jobs, family etc! After a certain point he doesn't care about our emotions when his WILL is calling you! He will even allow people to leave you who you are not strong enough to leave! He will snatch the rug- literally

[@janey_oge8865]

Wow…this 📌

[@kizzyrock]

@@janey_oge8865 Yes sis!!! In 2015 he snatched EVERYTHING from me and threw me in isolation season! I was lonely, lost, confused and broken! I had NO clue what he was doing. He was stripping me in order to prepare me and my God, the blessings were tremendous! If ANYONE is going through a stripping season, he wants to transform you to give you everything that belongs to you! Many of us are called to break generational curses so he will pull you from your family sometimes because of toxic and trauma bonds, he will allow you to loose that job and push you towards purpose, he will end that relationship so he can prepare you for your husband. Hold on and remain obedient even when you don't understand because soon it will all make sense. Don't fight against the process because you will cause the storm to linger longer. ❤

[@janey_oge8865]

@@kizzyrock Hmm…this is such a well-thought out blessing. Thank you so much for this. God bless and keep us. May I also yield to the CALL by the Holy Spirit. Really appreciate you 🙏🏽🤗💜💜

[@priscillaxsafi]

@Kizzy Rock 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@kizzyrock]

@@janey_oge8865 I stand in agreement with you!!! The blessings God has for you will CHASE you down!!! When I came out of my storm, I promised God I will attempt to help as many people as I can so I started my KZbin channel. We literally have to hold hands and help each other. Following God is beautiful but NOT EASY!!! It's your time sis!!!!

[@gladiasnaturelle]

I was listening to Myles Munroe, I believe it was him if I’m correct, but he said something that convicted me. This what he said, and I’m paraphrasing, you tell God your laundry list of what He should do and we don’t give Him time to even answer! It’s like calling someone and telling them your problem and asking for help then hang up before they can say something. I’m telling you this talk with you guys was on time. He said it should be 5-minutes prayer and 2-hours listening. I was mind blown. It’s the truth. I’m a busy body myself and I have to force myself to slow down on purpose. Being intentional about where I’m going makes me intentional about what I should do to get there. That includes now sitting my behind down in silence. Baby steps for sure. But it’s a love language that I want to make a habit in my life. Love you guys for talking real like this.

[@dr.princessbriggs]

"if your judgment of me is not the truth, then I need to release that." Wooooowww.... Thank you Stephanie ❤️

[@priscillaxsafi]

This talk was personal to me from people pleasing to God drying things up in your life so you can be still in him! Literally God will call you, them strong convictions, soul groaning because there is something more in the inside or what he wants to tell you! I’m in a season of stillness, away from what i think that are my desires and just to be in awe of who he is and spend time with him. Morning Prayers and Stillness has become my fundamental routine, meeting my father and acknowledgment of my identity; to be in agreement with the great I am! Lastly all of you women of God are amazing! Brenda’s meter analogy was great the perceptive that makes you understand why your calling is worth fighting for

[@funmitaiwo4002]

These are the women I need to be around often JHEEZE. Lord thank you for these women 🙏🏽💎💞

[@maydavalle]

Thank you God 😌💜🙏🏽

[@earth2domi]

i really needed this right now. i’m trying to get out of my people pleasing phase of life (which has been all 20 years of my life lol 🙈)

[@yolandabacon3662]

It is a beautiful feeling - to be on the other side of people-pleasing.

[@eulicehooper6340]

I now know why I kept avoiding this podcast when it popped up, the powerful convo in this room was going to be a stepping stone in me breaking free. Every single thing said has been my entire journey in Christ. When I say everything. 🥺😢 From the first woman who spoke to the last. Wow!!! I hate disappointing others, I hate the thought I may miss out on what I need, I can go on and on.

[@JoniecePerez]

"Surrender to stillness so that your no may be purposeful"

[@wtfavor]

“Surrender to stillness so your “no” can be purposeful” -Brenda

[@dannib3948]

Everytime that I watch an episode I always wish I had REAL GIRLFRIENDS LIKE THIS💖

[@brainsNbeauty727]

Yessss!!

[@naomiomireh7014]

Me too

[@itsyahgirlebs5623]

Likewise

[@Maria-006.]

Same 🙏🏻🙌🏻🥰

[@misstodd6023]

🙌🏾

[@mzbrenbren9108]

Excellent Segment God knows when to send what you need The moment I said No to a so called best friend of 15 years previously saying yes to their every need they not only turned evil towards me and shut me out of their circle I can’t get the Time back I can’t get the resources back only thing I can do is move forward and learned that I probably should’ve said no a long time ago I have my peace I have more time for myself I have more money and I still have compassion towards people does it mean I say yes to everything that doesn’t mean I say no to everything that I learned valuable lesson in saying no ,

[@meganbryant9598]

You all talks are always AMAZING!! But this one right here spoke so much volume, from saying no to being still. Everyday, I'm faced with "what my task is for each day" because I just feel like I'm just doing life. And I am troubled with being still I always feel like I have to be doing something and when I am still, I feel like I'm not getting anything done. I often times feel like I have to be that friend and I have told myself, " I feel like I'm being fake" because I'm not genuinely doing it. I just think I'm doing the right thing. Also when Fatima she felt free when she said no, I desire that freeness, but my trouble is saying NO. THANK YOU, ladies for the beautiful topic and talk. It really dug deep!!

[@godswarriornana5860]

Being submissive, consistency and discipline in my stillness. Thank you Queens for this powerful word🤍

[@sallyebongo5236]

I think God speaks through His word. We can get daily guidance f as we read and ask questions and rightly divide scripture for the day. If He has more to tell us He would do so as well. I love your discussion.

[@StandazjahGunn]

Write more to God. That’s how a lot of my blessings came through. Finding what works between you and Him. It’s amazing you must think of it as a relationship. God loves intimacy!💕

[@jasminegeorge2811]

I’m sooo happy for the more consistent content 🙏🏾 the topics always resonate. God is really speaking through you guys. Thank you for the videos.

[@zandilesokhela1578]

Love you ladies,can't wait to hear Stephanie sharing her story of how God convicted her to say yes to her fiancé ❤ ♥ (Surrender to the stillness ...I believe God has called me to season of stillness in such a way that I don't care about Facebook WhattApp as I used to be)Thank you! ladies!!

[@Kensworld28]

Love these women. They have taught me a LOT.💯

[@divineukpaiama9223]

Thank you for this!!!!! Starting tomorrow, God willing I will wake up and pray for clarity for the day and setting my expectation. Also, learning and discerning how to say no. I just found the channel and just subscribed :)

[@refilwetsalaile7647]

YAAAY! Back with some power backed Wisdom. Thank You ladies for this platform. Watching from Botswana, Africa. God bless!!

[@LadyPetrine9205]

This was good, I really need to practice stillness cause I dobt do that at all. I will wake up early to pray, but once I'm done I dont give God the chance to speak. I'm sorry Lord🙈🙏

[@deborahlowe2440]

I love that you provided a talk show for young Christian women. This is something I needed.

[@titilayoabaniwonda6508]

If your judgment of me is not my truth, I would release you. This hit me differently

[@nduh2232]

You ladies are helping us in so many ways 🙌🏾

[@maydavalle]

Love that verse❣️ Luke 8:45-46 “Who touched me?” Jesus asked. Everyone denied it, and Peter said, “Master, this whole crowd is pressing up against you.” But Jesus said, “Someone deliberately touched me, for I felt healing power❤️ go out from me.” Luke 8:48 “Daughter,” he said to her, “your faith has made you well. Go in peace.”

[@bruceparramorejr.743]

I know the lord love yall what an vibe thanks you holy spirit for guiding the holy father daughters amen

[@stephanygomez8021]

Stephanie saying “your train of thought said no” I literally laughed out loud 🤣🤣

[@trinityfalayi1033]

God bless you stephanie ike, love you with the love of christ ❤

[@glowgirlempowerment_1]

I love this beautiful kingdom Women discussing the power of No and sharing the word of God! 🙏🏾💗 I’m learning to say no now and praying for discernment so I know when to say no.

[@sandrafarrell5587]

I can relate too, some days it has come to me to be still, and get easily distracted.

[@leahmwananyanda2960]

Thank you for the profound messages... The room is next level 💯❤️🔥

[@brittanyb9292]

This was so powerful I stuck people pleasing but when I start saying no it does help with my identity I able to hear what God need me know also stay in stillness but always distracting or fasting helps you figure out who you are and who God made who are you

[@laurensolomons5142]

I love your podcast❤️🇿🇦

[@Muhle64]

Setting boundaries should never be said to be overly spoken about. It is such an important topic for us to continue highlighting to empower us and set us up for success. 💯…to cement us in who God has called us to be; not seeking validation from people that we always trying to please above God’s perfect will 😢

[@carolinejepkorir9653]

Learning to say no out of love

[@LysaRenee]

When I say you all have blessed me! Whew chile, like literally spoke my whole life! Thank you all so much! This fed my spirit

[@nancychukwuemeka]

I want to be in this room!🥺💜 God bless y'all.

[@ravenshanks]

Sheesh... I saved this video to watch later. And remembered it today. And how on time it was today. This has been a major struggle for me. God is working in me everyday with this. In order to follow God we have to make a choice. I don't want to live my life allowing everybody to use me. Doing "good things" but miss the GOD things he wants me to do. When Jesus says come to me all who are heavy laden and I will give you rest for my burden is light. What God puts on you. What he sends you to do. He will give you the grace to do it. Even hard things seem easy when Jesus is gracing you to do it vs taking on things you were never meant to carry sheesh. This was so on time

[@wtfavor]

I’m so grateful to God for this channel

[@ponderingwithsaffronking]

Amen, this is a beautiful talk xxx

[@uapengondirokatjiuanjo1401]

This was so insightful yet so fun Whoever said Christianity is boring needs to watch this.

[@keirranorfleet]

Why is it so painful telling people no despite how things may transpire!!!!

[@danalewis3027]

Dope dope and healing conversation!🔥🙏🏾

[@cassie_ohsoclassic]

I feel like this episode was meant for me. I struggle with stillness a lot.

[@markietacrockett]

God is love! God changed all around me. God gave me a NEW LIFE! God is powerful and I have Holy Spirit power. Only blessings, favor and abundance is around and in me. In Jesus Name pray Matthew 6:9-13 LOVE ❣️

[@dmae93]

I LOVE THIS! 💕

[@kiashahines20]

This was good👏🏼✝️

[@ruvimbonyabando3849]

Loved this conversation 💕

[@itsyahgirlebs5623]

I really needed this ✨🙏🏼

[@TyGee777]

Beautiful Ladies! 👏👏👏 Yes to "No".

[@jojo_powers3147]

I needed to hear this

[@terrology]

Learning to say has been so hard for me

[@kizzyrock]

Yes!!! Many times it's ROOTED in past trauma. Sis- ask the holy spirit to show you the area of trauma. It takes intentional practice but it's freeing!!!

[@jatavialockett409]

Girl the stillness is hard!!!!!!!!!!frfr

[@nancychukwuemeka]

Hi Jatavia, Yes, it's hard- because we rely on our strength most of the time. I believe the Holy Spirit is the one who empowers us to surrender to the stillness. Ask Him to help you, it's His ability in you that helps you walk in alignment and fulfill your purpose. Don't rely on your strength, environment, or abilities. It's the Holy Spirit's ability in you that empowers you to do the things you didn't think you could do- Just Ask, Listen and Submit.

[@jatavialockett409]

@@nancychukwuemeka thankyou so much, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing, trying to do it in my own strength when all I needed to do was surrender,Thankyou father for using your children to do your work

[@nancychukwuemeka]

🤗

[@chrissygift]

Sooo great. & such an on time mentored message. Thank you!

[@gladiasnaturelle]

Amen!!!

[@summerjohnson1809]

This is sooooo good ladies! Thank-you

[@martiquatrammell1407]

Jesussss this !!!

[@mirian4837]

Can we have some more vids guys ? I love the conversations

[@raewithgrace]

This conversation.... !!!

[@chanteledmond9648]

I NEEDED THISSSS!!!!!!

[@MARIELLARAQUEL]

Then love! And forgive and forget 💖🦋🤍✨🌸🌈🥰💕

[@michellekusi1027]

amazing episode, God bless you all

[@gladiasnaturelle]

It’s both ends!!!

[@michelleknighton893]

So good! ❤

[@No_Propaganda]

Yea, apparently this season its very important to be separate from the media-voice...

[@citygirlofbethlehem]

[@phathuasante]

So good

[@Artishaxo]

🙌

[@fanelwatom7726]

What’s the book name that is written about Jesus that Brenda mentioned in 15:50? She’s speaking so fast, I can’t hear, please help

[@bcdmovement6856]

Wow is it all Jesus driving that !

[@dennismagee9555]

The problem is people love is always saying yess to everything. People think God's love is just yess and agree with everything. Pleasing people is God's way of loving people. That's not God's love at all. People think saying no and having boundaries is evil. You have to be fair with people. You have to do for people based on how they sow in your life. You will not feel convicted if you don't feed bad spirit with good things and favor. True help is to help people be self sufficient and make life easier. Help is not being responsible for people and people bad decisions too. When you do everything for people, than people can control you and you become a people pleaser too. People become a responsibility and you are no longer helping them. People can take you for granted and assume you going to always be there for them. This creative a wreckless behavior too. REMEMBER HELP IS EVERY NOW AND THEN!!!!!! NOT EVERYDAY AND ALL THE TIME!!!!! HELP IS NOT BAILING PEOPLE OUT WE ARE ALL RESPONSIBLE TO KNOW BETTER AND KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG TOO!!!!!!!

[@LilLynda]

Most underrated comment, well said brother.

[@Youtuber1441_]

What about when God says no?

[@HernameisPurpose]

Then u have to listen!

[@queenofallsuits]

What is the name of the book by Erwin Mcmanus please?

[@sakhilegamedze6724]

😍

[@Muhle64]

I am so happy I have reached this place. Saying no. I love how you ladies are breaking it down. This conversation will enable me to navigate this season of my life better because it takes getting used to. But the peace that surpasses all understanding is my compass and safeguard 🤍. Joyce Meyer also speaks profoundly on the topic of people pleasing and boundaries.

[@kimberlygriffin8022]

“Wasn’t stopping for myself.” That was a powerful statement.

[@chancarter3440]

I agree!

[@ganaruth]

When Fatima said " she use to be friend to you" i figured she was talking to me. Its very hard for someone like me to say NO even when it hurt, and i had to learn to use the word NO rightly in a hard way. But at the end it paid off. I'm currently reading a book on setting boundaries and it has been beautiful journey riding with it. Thanks to "in the room" you guys are doing awesomely well and I'm learning a lot here.

[@artforchrist5065]

I love everything about this conversation, & I relate so much to everything said. A book that has blessed me is called, “Wake Up Girl & Push Through: Designating Morning Alone Time With God” It has beautiful morning prayers to start the day with. I stopped reading it mid way through, but I am deciding to start the book over again today. This word was one of the motivations I needed to focus on being consistent in my relationship with the Lord. As Pastor Stephanie said in a recent sermon, “Resist the Resistance”! Shalom to all of you beautiful ladies in Christ.

[@lovejoy6710]

Y’all got me weak 🤣🤣 i love the realness

[@shadowsofthemind6954]

I’m in love with the understanding that a properly placed No is a preservative for your calling. And as you guys said about saying No to yourself. The FAITH it requires to do that. Saying No to yourself is a work all in itself. I’ve witnessed the way that God stepped in for me when I just told myself No. powerful.

[@Love3nygel]

Can Brenda and Fatima talk about how they quit smoking weed and how their lives have changed (if any) after they stopped.

[@vanialegall8194]

So random, y’all are all some beautiful queens. That’s all. Had to say it. But for real though, I needed this.

[@MsIvy-gc3ls]

Omg!! I love this so much! I've been in a season of "No" and sometimes it's tough. I struggled with that people pleasing in some parts of my life. But I just really been allowing God to empty me and standing strong in my 'No". And you find out who's really rocking with you in your "No" season.

[@shanazhu2673]

When you stop pleasing others it is so freeing thanks be to God 🙏

[@letecianti109]

great conversation ladies!!!!

[@travis_km]

This is Good. Sometimes i felt that need to be still and even found worship music to be distracting. I thought i was the only one.😅

[@nubi688]

Hi Ladies, great conversation! "No" No has Peace, Strength, Purpose, Positive Energy, Awareness, Stillness, Mindful Movement and so much more. Can you please tell me the name of the book you mentioned? Thank you all for sharing!!!!! ❤❤❤

[@missyyyyy]

Hi! One book was Balance by Toure Roberts. I’m not sure about the other two they mentioned.

[@godswarriornana5860]

Fatima when you said I just started doing this today😂

[@edensgarden89]

Thank you God! because this was a message to me. I relate so much to what was said and the No's I need to start saying not just to my flesh but to what God has not set before me. "For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age" - Titus 2:11-13a

[@victoryv763]

Good stuff ❤️

[@brittanyb9292]

Love the wisdom in the podcast

[@Comfort_Moses]

God bless you 🙏

[@jaysmith143]

You all are such a blessing to me. I’m learning how to grow in the Lord. A better relationship with God. Can you please pray for me? Thank you Jaquay ❤

[@TheHighkeyLowkey]

Big shoutout to Brenda for that book recommendation from Erwin McManus. I’m checking him out asap

[@TimewithLivi]

Such a great conversation! So much to reflect on.

[@JazzWorld93]

This is POWERFUL! Thank you God✨🙏🏽

[@yolisadetyana1285]

I find you guys few months ago ♥️ I just want say that I love you .u bless me

[@realestatecoachestv]

Can a man be in there at least?

[@maydavalle]

“No” 😆 Respectfully, No.

[@zahairawilliams9125]

AMEN

[@Amberrechelle]

Breath prayers