The Problem with The DUFF

[@TheBlushBunny]

Ok sooo… I had to upload this video 3 times. It kept getting blocked and demonetized. There’s way more gifs and talking bunnies than there is movie footage. Also this video is heavily freestyled so if I’m all over the place, that’s why. Lol

[@davidmaestas2915]

That is the reason why I am reluctant to do my own channel, but at this point, what is the point, exactly. 'Social' media pretty much sucks these days. There is way too much "YOU CAN'T" going on in this society.

[@DerekThomasLirio]

@@davidmaestas2915 If you don't want to make your own channel, you can be a part of my channel that I'll be starting to upload to. ITMiami.

[@DerekThomasLirio]

@@davidmaestas2915 To be fair, that has always been there. That's why I've always been the one to look supposed authority figures in the eyes, and inform them that they don't decide what I will do or won't do. Sophomore year of high school, teachers told me it was unrealistic for me to try to start a business being so young. At this point in time, those teachers have all hired me several times and have admitted that they were wrong. Look, if you need incentive for anything you want to accomplish, look no further than the Blush Bunny. She's a superstar, blinding all with her brilliance.

[@uh.itstia]

my “best friend” suggested watching this at a sleepover and warned me beforehand that it was a bit mean, and throughout kept asking me if i was upset or wanted to turn it off. pretty sure she was trying to tell me something

[@TheBlushBunny]

Oh wow. Shady… are y’all still friends?

[@uh.itstia]

@@TheBlushBunny not really. we speak occasionally but haven’t been friends for just short of a year now. she sort of ditched me for our other “friend” who she constantly complained to me about saying we should slowly distance from her. but then they both ended up just distancing from me.

[@raindropsonroses3919]

Wow 😮 am... get new friends girl 👧 she clearly jealous

[@uh.itstia]

@@raindropsonroses3919 we’re haven’t been friends for just short of a year.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

Personally, I'd like to be warned about movies with intense topics that might disturb the viewer.

[@jasminepick6246]

I read the book way before I saw the film, and the book was an actually interesting look at jealousy and self worth as a teen, but the movie saw the title and just... nothing else

[@TheBlushBunny]

Oh wow. That’s unfortunate lol often times the books are better though. Filmmakers need to do a case study so they can get it right.

[@TheyUsedStuPott2D]

WHAT I WAS GOING TO SAY. Man the book was actually genuinely so interesting and had Bianca as flawed and interesting and the using Wes to cope with her home life was so interesting. I'd love it to be remade with heavy book influence man. Talk about a fumbled bag :/

[@thamysilva3672]

It was also very relatable in the sense that teenagers are dumb sometime and using this kind of a relationship as a way to scape "real life" is actually common

[@trinaq]

Indeed, the book had an interesting plot in having Bianca and Wesley being "Friends with Benefits", and having casual sex to forget about their crappy home lives. Toby was a genuine nice guy too, and he was only using Bianca to make his ex jealous, and guessed that Bianca was subconsciously doing the same thing. They encouraged each other to go back to their respective exes, with no hard feelings.

[@delilahjohnson3690]

@@trinaq Toby wasn’t doing that to make his ex jealous, he actually liked bianca

[@marielaberge8236]

I read the book in high school and it was a darker story about a girl whose familial life was crumbling so she was coping in really unhealthy ways by self-destructing in her personal life, notably through casual sex with the guy who made her feel bad about her body because he called her the DUFF. She does fall for him, but it was a psycholologically fraught relationship that the movie turned into a feelgood romcom.

[@bibaolaitan5189]

I think i prefer the movie.. the book storyline sounds common.

[@islaizzy]

is it just me or does that sound like abby from ginny and georgia??

[@you-qm2ve]

@@bibaolaitan5189 I loved the book when I was younger. The movie was horrible

[@vichentez]

@@bibaolaitan5189 Pretty sure the romcom movie adaptation is the one that’s “common”

[@divine555]

Its not unhealthy to choose to screw someone

[@trinaq]

I really loved the friendship between Bianca, Jess and Casey. While they fade into the background until the climax, and don't question her unfriending them on social media, it's sweet that Jess and Casey genuinely consider Bianca their true bestie, and even take down that insulting video from social media on her behalf, despite being estranged from her at the time.

[@TheBlushBunny]

True friendship and a sign of maturity.

[@chaosspy6723]

Yea they thought she was just like them. Friends are supposed to be your people. They are supposed to make you feel included and equal. Bianca's friends probably considered her just as pretty as them and in my opinion they would be right.

[@Jendo11111]

That’s what I was thinking. In the beginning of the movie I thought they would be portrayed as fake friends, so when they started getting closer towards the ending I was really confused.

[@nakynie463]

So, so true!

[@propogandalf]

They were great friends to her. Honestly her behavior towards them was kind of toxic.

[@Snixq19]

What also annoyed me in the movie is how they describe Casey when they’re talking about her or how attractive she is it’s she’s a “fiery Latina” it’s just like 🙄

[@TheBlushBunny]

Right. Lol writers refuse to stay away from stereotypes.

[@jadacampbell9331]

Satire

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

​​@@jadacampbell9331 that's not satire, by any measure. Go look up satire and come back.

[@jadacampbell9331]

@@kimberleywilliams7802 yes it is. The film obviously pokes fun at the concept. The authors experience combined w/ Hollywood's parody of real life 🤣

[@8link]

@@jadacampbell9331 its not very obvious

[@emilyryan892]

I don't understand why they made Toby a complete asshole in the movie. From what I remember of the book, he was very sweet and actually liked Bianca and wasn't too fussed about her friends. He was a sweet little music nerd. It's like they toned down Wes's doucheyness and gave it to Toby. Also Madison wasn't even in it (she was in a companion novel) and * SPOILER* B and Wes were FWB's so their attraction to each other was more convincing and developed. They basically took the concept, kept the character names and book title but changed the plot.

[@emilyryan892]

Thinking now they probably made Toby an asshole so we'd root for Wes..

[@zigzaglychee7324]

I haven't read the book so I can't truly judge, but I just read the synopsis and I HATE the sound of Wes in the book. It sounds like he makes B feel bad by calling her the DUFF and then basically takes advantage of her spiraling self confidence and unstable home life to have casual sex with her. Even if they end up together in the end, that sounds gross and unhealthy. He doesn't sound nice in the least, he sounds like a very realistic depiction of a manipulative, opportunistic man who uses women. It sounds like a good book and I'm tempted to read it now

[@emilyryan892]

@@zigzaglychee7324 Ya his character was a lottttt different. Though he did improve he was a gigantic asshole for a lot of it. And as I said the reason they changed his character for the movie was probably because they wanted the audience to root for him and felt we wouldn't if he was the same arrogant, misogynistic tool that he was in the book. I will say though, he didn't know about her home life until well after they started sleeping together so it didn't really play a factor in it but you're definitely right about the self confidence part. You should read it, definitely recommend ☺️

[@LLCoolJ_25]

@@zigzaglychee7324I will say his character does improve. I do like that factor. Too bad most movies, (idk about books lately), show these guys who do not change for the better, and STILL get the girl.

[@brittanys505]

@@zigzaglychee7324 sounds kinda like my ex lol

[@tutu3909]

I agree though she isn't ugly like the movie suggests, she's cute but not catalog model I guess. The other friends are attractive but not my type of attractive. ( Beauty is subjective) However, the "Halo affect" is a thing in some cases when it comes to the dynamic of friendship groups or relationships sometimes too. Where the pretty/or most attractive friend/person is automatically sympathized with or seen as more intelligent, better and gets the most attention by default.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Good point.

[@itsonlysound]

The movie doesn't suggest she's ugly. Wes literally explains that it has nothing to do with actually being ugly or fat.

[@pussydestroyer69285]

Yall didn't get the movie

[@coldgrandpa]

She does fit the normal beauty standard for sure. They just dress her in darker clothes

[@unclenought6385]

They really said, “no guys, she is ugly, look she’s wearing dungarees and a hoodie around her waist”

[@ebiewah3113]

@@unclenought6385 Wes literally told her that she didn’t have to be fat or ugly to be considered a duff

[@infpedits]

pretty much all actors fit the normal beauty standards

[@erinsbooks]

I just wished they had gone with more of the books plot. Would've been an even better message for girls that much sooner. Toby was done dirty in the movie. He comes off as such an asshole.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Yea Toby took an unexpected turn.

[@pizza134]

I mean, i didnt think the duff in the movie was fat or ugly, her friends were just supermodel level

[@rufiredup90]

But that’s what the hero said, he told her she wasn’t actually fat or ugly.

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

I felt like the implication was there though, they made it seem like she was ugly, compared to her friends at least. At least that's how I felt when I was younger. And the actress isn't ugly at all, I think she's pretty.

[@meli1872]

@@kimberleywilliams7802 yes the movie did stress that she is pretty and not fat, but uglier and fatter than her friends. Like that made her look worse because she was next to them. But in the end she learned not to compareher self to others and stuff

[@drooooop]

@Highest In the Room lol I bet she’s better looking than you

[@jeffisjeff5511]

To me she’s fat or maybe she’s just plus sized. She’s either or, but still pretty. Fat people could be attractive too.

[@duckysguidetoshipping8930]

My strict Christian grandma watched this thinking it was a Cinderella story It was not She was very surprised I loved it

[@TheBlushBunny]

Did she like it as well?

[@duckysguidetoshipping8930]

@@TheBlushBunny she liked it but it wasn’t what she was expecting

[@nuggs9999]

was the christian part supposed to mean something

[@duckysguidetoshipping8930]

@@nuggs9999 yes she’s very strict Christian and can’t go anywhere without talking about it

[@nuggs9999]

@@duckysguidetoshipping8930 not a strict christian just annoying

[@qkun]

I really like this movie, I had never heard the term duff in my life until this movie. There's a scene where Ken jeong goes into the classroom, he tells something to a student I can't remember and the student replies "you're not my father", to which Ken's character responds "Yes I AM your daddy" That shit kills me everytime it's so funny

[@TheBlushBunny]

He’s hilarious lol

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

he was the best part of that movie, the BEST part.

[@britneybij3997]

KZbin: **recommends me this video talking about DUFFs** Me: **choking back tears** I know it's true but you ain't gotta say it 😭

[@TheBlushBunny]

😂😂😂 stop ittt

[@hollyfegan9558]

I've never heard this term until seeing the film; upon watching it the term resignated with me because of me being a, "bigger girl" having glasses, freckles etc. all the things I deemed 'ugly'because I was picked on for them ... Then I realised I don't value myself for looks, I value my work ethic, intelligence, personality, talents,morals, kindness etc.- Ie. Things that make an actual contribution to the world ☆☆

[@TheBlushBunny]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 self-love is the best love. I love this.

[@jameeliaclarke3576]

Same but imma stick

[@hopethroughrain7774]

None of that is unattractive tho? Like good for you but I’m confused

[@hollyfegan9558]

@@hopethroughrain7774 It was what I was bullied for; thus I percieved it to be unattractive... As an adult I realise insecure people project their insecutities- that's my point :)

[@lovealexxxx3491]

They’re also great contributions to the health of friendships and relationships.

[@thegillmachine]

The novel is all about Wes and Bianca being fwb and Biancas abusive father. It’s really a better story

[@TheBlushBunny]

Hmm, that’s a completely different tone. I wonder how that would’ve panned out on the big screen.

[@thegillmachine]

@@TheBlushBunny probably not well. People don’t react to well to teenagers exploring their sexuality onscreen.

[@lisah8438]

@@thegillmachine I disagree. I think movies and TV shows oversexualize teenager too much actually. Riverdale? American Pie? Genna and Georgia? It is oversexualized

[@elcb845]

@@lisah8438 Euphoria, the Lolita movie, Cuties, Gossip Girl…. A child or teenager “exploring” their sexuality is easily one of the most COMMON & exploited topics there is in the entertainment industry! And yes I say “exploiting” because the directors or writers always glamorizes, over sexualizes and objectifies the “teenage” cast.

[@elcb845]

Also it’s not that people don’t react well to teenagers exploring their sexuality. It’s just that MOST of the time in popular movies or TV shows it’s portrayed strictly for the male gaze or from a pervy angle to increase viewership. Like I’m sorry but I don’t NEED to see ZOOM-IN shots of little girls shaking their behinds in mini skirts or “doing it” with an old man to understand the deeper message or plot. There’s plenty of ways to showcase or imply certain topics without exploiting children or a child’s image for that matter.

[@deaf-tomcat]

i read the book in high school and was so excited when I heard that it was being adapted, but as a fat person I was really disappointed in the fact that the main character wasn't fat. she's fat in the book, and not small fat or a size 6 compared to her size 0 friends. i really connected with the main character BECAUSE she was fat and was treated like shit because of it. the book is a lot more darker/serious in tone and idk I just couldn't get into the idea of this movie. it felt like a betrayal tbh. i was too attached to the book to just enjoy the movie for what it is

[@ao4698]

I was exactly the same when I first saw the movie. I feel like those of us who resonated with bianca in the book were betrayed by this movie in a way

[@mandyki6707]

She could be played by someone like Barbie ferera/ kat from euphoria

[@DavidKen878]

You felt betrayed because a movie character wasn't fat? Do yourself a favor and go touch some grass.

[@tamialeslie7187]

Barbie is super pretty it would be unrealistic do people to see her that way

[@caitlingill]

@@mandyki6707 or Beanie Feldstein (from Booksmart)

[@indigop1233]

I remember watching this movie when I was 14 and actually feeling empowered and understood because it was the first that I saw a story about the "fat girl". It had such an impact on me because I was always the one in my group of friends who was more heavy and overlooked by guys and so watching this movie truly made me feel special and it really gave me confidence. So idc what anyone says i will never see it as problematic or offensive.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Love this take

[@danielbalderas9796]

Something can help you remarkably in your development and you can still love it while also admitting it's errors. I love Glee and yet I'll never ignore the racist allegations about Lea Michele or the other many errors cast and production members have done. It's nice to thank something or someone for what they helped you with, but not to the point of treating it like it's perfect and can't commit errors

[@marviltonwarts8520]

I have no clue how I have never heard of this movie. Totally agree that the guy should have immediately stood up for Bianca, given their friendship and past, it would take everything in my petty self to forgive him. Also, I have literally never heard about the term "Duff". Anyways, how are you?

[@TheBlushBunny]

I’d never heard the term myself until seeing this film lol and I’m good love. How are you?

[@marviltonwarts8520]

@@TheBlushBunny I am doing well!

[@mariedit9935]

I am most conflicted about the main romance. They do have good chemistry, but he basically just bullied her at the start like, come on

[@JoseKilen]

Your laughter is very contagious, and you sound like such a nice person. Just what I needed today.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Sending you love 💕🐇

[@katharinaweber9413]

"You know what...I'm rambling *chuckle* I don't even know where I was going...*chuckle*" 10/10 content. Highly enjoyed.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Haha! Glad you enjoyed love 💕

[@Amanda-ky7mo]

lowkey glad this came out bc it help me describe a phenomena I was experiencing as someone who is black and kinda curvy around a lot of white ppl tbh. Like I have never been considered ugly however I was treated like I was and I was confused about this until this movie came out.

[@bianca7519]

same girl ,I'm white but I relate to your situation being a curvy girl

[@urfav_lily07]

Same being curvy is a struggle around skinny girls

[@alexparra15]

I remember reading the book, and while I did think ohh I would be the duff (My 2 besties back then are super super gorgeous) I also had a hard time getting invested because of Bianca's sudden resentment towards her friends, like I get she must have been hurt by others comparing her like that but the way she holds that debt over her friends was kinda mean to me. idk why the term did pick up in my middle school for a while, especially boys using it to label girls and make fun of us, but I do remember some very pretty girls who took a hit to their selfesteem for that, it was awful. At first they were calling me the duff too but my bestie did lame puns with the word until they stopped xD (Like "she's the duffnut cause she's our favorite treat") being a preteen was a wild time.

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

your friends were awesome for that.

[@TheBlushBunny]

That’s terrible smh but shoutout to your friends for having your back.

[@wenders4908]

I remember when I initially watched this movie i was so confused why they kept saying she was ugly and fat i was always mad like she’s literally gorgeous ??

[@meli1872]

No but wesley stressed that she wasnt ugly or fat, just less attractive than her friends. Which still isnt good to compare but that was the thing, youll always be less attractive than someone u should just love you

[@stacyrodriguez672]

I looked up her weight and its 115 and 5ft 1. She's completely "average" . This wasn't even made in the 1990s/2000s, where being skinny was HEAVILY idolized. It would've been great to see an actual fat person so fat people could have some good representation, instead they made being fat a negative thing as well as a description of an "average" person. :/

[@tessawaslost366]

I actually really liked the movie when it came out cause I've always been the duff and I didn't even know until I saw that movie. It really helped me understand who people thought I was. It actually made me acknowledge that I suffered from bullying and finally treat myself right, by saying fuck you to bad people and not be afraid to be myself. Never thought a movie like this could do that but yeah

[@katiebird6929]

I watched this film when I was 14, and I adored it. Now that I'm older, I actually really want to read the book haha as it sounds really interesting

[@twohoursto]

Right! The comments are making me consider finding the book.

[@katiebird6929]

@@twohoursto the book is called The Duff by Kody Keplinger :) I’ve just ordered it from my local bookstore.

[@twohoursto]

@@katiebird6929 Thank you!

[@Zvwry]

I loved the duff as a book, I read it when I was 13. Mostly for the smut though.

[@morbidsearch]

Bella Thorne's character could have been cut from the movie and it wouldn't have affected the plot at all

[@TheBlushBunny]

I mean at all. Just threw her in lol

[@ren_7308]

Watching this movie gives me serious 2015 nostalgia

[@avantijoshi148]

I've read the book and it's almost completely different from the movie??? the mc and her friends dont actually cut each other off in the book if Im not wrong, I also feel like her character is way more better and smarter in the book. The book deals with more than the stereotypical transformation from fat nerd to beauty queen

[@TheBlushBunny]

Everybody is saying the book was better. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised lol

[@SRHisntSilent]

In my early 20s i saw this movie for the first time and it really had me thinking i was "the DUFF"

[@meli1872]

I actually found this movie really realistic. I am the person that people always ask about my friends, and i really identified with bianca, felt ugly compared to some and pretty compared to others.

[@amelia3146]

This kind of applies to all movies like this, but the balls to casually call someone ugly/fat to their face then zip the fuck up when that person is getting bullied by like ten people is truly unhinged behavior Edit: i know he explains that DUFF is just a title & not necessarily literal, but like. still. I’d be shocked if someone was like “you’re the designated ugly fat friend, obviously. oh, but that doesn’t mean you’re LITERALLY ugly or fat. you’re just not as good as your friends. oh, and it’s your job to get me and the boys in with them, so how about it?” like?? first lemme get that address & insurance info so I can send you the hospital bill for this whiplash

[@TheBlushBunny]

😂😂

[@sweetsea3607]

For me this was definitely one of the better teen movies. I really like the characters in this, but I felt like the story and some of the details were a bit off. Like you said I think they should have done more with the friends. When I was in school I was in a friendship group where we had whatever the opposite to a "DUFF" is. Designated Really Attractive Friend? She knew this quite well and was really arrogant about it. It got to the point where she thought she was the leader of the group and had rules like who we couldn't date and who we had to date, but everyone just ignored her and did whatever they wanted. She also believed that every guy who talked her was in love with her and likes to mention she has a boyfriend every chance she gets. I think it's safe to say she was crazy.

[@miaironstone6783]

Oh man this brought back memories. I don't remember a lot about the book or movie, but I remember being kind of obsessed with both for a while because I've related to that for a long time. Even when I was a kid back before romance was on anyone's mind, I was a chubby, hairy Latina kid with short hair and a mustache. People talked to me sometimes. I had friends kinda. I wasn't always bullied but even at the best of times nobody ever really seemed to want to be that close with me. We'd laugh and tell some stories when we happened to run into each other, send a few meme and that was it. I didn't even realize at the time but it really seemed like most groups I was in treated me kind of like a pet. I was a gateway to my friends like I was their agent and sometimes I found it fun and like I was included. But sometimes things are slowly hurting you without you realizing

[@dark_baphomet]

I was kinda the duff without being like ugly or fat or anything, people just used me to get to my friends a lot and even my friends made friends with me to get to my friends that I already had and not for me, I just wasn’t really important to anyone, I was just the add on, the freebie that people didn’t really want. It’s funny cause my mum also just talks over my problems and talks about herself lol

[@sybilchang2673]

2:38....You said I don't even know where I'm going with the novel thing....that statement and that laugh giving me high asf🤣🤣

[@GrapeSmasher13]

I saw this movie in theaters when it came out, but totally forgot about it until now 🤔 I see why now.. Either way another great Blush Bunny video as always ofc!! 😍

[@TheBlushBunny]

I think a lot of people have forgotten about it lol

[@shezamshazam9345]

I really like this movie, though I haven't read the book. It was relatable and realistic from my point of view. The only thing: I wish they show more scenes of the 3 friends, they don't seem that close

[@eyestotheskies]

I was definitely the duff at school lol. Makes little difference when you become adults and becomr your true self. ♥️

[@sidneyibiom2867]

this is so true being called fat is not an insult its a description of someone but society sees it as unattractive .. that's why its perceived as an insult

[@ctorre]

Tell me when you’ll EVER hear someone call another person fat with a good connotation behind it

[@ctorre]

Tell me when you’ll EVER hear someone call another person fat with a good connotation behind it

[@sidneyibiom2867]

@@ctorre sure its still a description you can also say the same about being slim SLIM PEOPLE ALSO GET SHAMED IN SOME PARTS OF THE WORLD they get comments like " ah.. don't you eat" e.t.c

[@phoebexxlouise]

"You know what? I'm rambling" I pissed myself laughing and hit subscribe

[@TheBlushBunny]

Haha!… thanks for subscribing love! Welcome! 💕🐇

[@sushilover720]

I felt like I was the duff to one of my friends, a guy that I had dated confessed to finding her more attractive and even being more attracted to her and only really noticing her. He didn't even consider me till I made my feelings known.

[@natasha8966]

What went wrong nothing like the book it could of been refreshing, but no we need makeovers and prom for the umpteenth time. They changed too much from what it was, I was very disappointed of how it turned out.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Makeovers and prom is definitely a whole genre on its own lol

[@fionnafinn]

throught my childhood/teen years i felt like i was a duff, but like, a skinny version (DUSF?). the thing is that skininess is only considered attractive when is on THEIR TERMS, and i didnt quite met those parameters. but, unlike bianca, my friends never cared about helping me feel better, they actually made it worst lol

[@AnotherOpinion695]

Yes! You're back!!!❤️

[@TheBlushBunny]

I’m backkkk! 💕

[@sarar7363]

Omg I watched this and internalized this movie WAYYY too young 😭😭

[@TheBlushBunny]

Oh no!… I hope you grew out of it.

[@sarar7363]

@@TheBlushBunny omg ofc

[@meganb1013]

Haven’t seen this in years! Loved your recap and exploration of it 💕

[@TheBlushBunny]

Glad you enjoyed 💓

[@wisehead1830]

I don't "identify" as a DUFF. But I watched this movie a long time ago. I liked it a lot then. And I do think it's not meant to be taken too seriously, that way you can enjoy it.

[@Anna-hh7td]

ive never read the book but ive loved the movie for YEARS its one of my favs

[@arima_song]

I'm quite literally a DUFF. My three friends are: 1. Instagram nude model; 2. Your usual Instagram celebrity, looking like one of the Kardashians; 3. The esoteric astrologic nature loving hot chick. And I'm... I'm a whale. Like from the movie. I've always been this way. Thyroid gland issues and stuff. Of course, my friends don't see me like that. Every time I talk about that, they're like "Gurl, what?" Their prettiness made them kind and oblivious. My ugliness made me bitter and cynical. So there's that.

[@srushtipatil1610]

hot take but the book is basically about a guy that tears down a self esteem and gaslights her into thinking she needs male validation to feel good about herself and then gives her said validation in order to use her for a physical relationship

[@annesilva3542]

I’ve always been an avid reader and this book was super popular for a time on the book review side of KZbin, I heard really good things about it but I never could bring myself to read it because I was also a very insecure 13 year old with what in my eyes were and still are really pretty and amazing friends. I think I’d give it a shot now that I know my own self worth

[@nayelitmartinez8937]

Its truly a disgrace what they did with this movie considering how good the book is, I saw the trailer when it come out and never watched the movie after, could tell it was going to ruin absolutely everything the book did right.

[@T_Cup]

The Duff is a perfect example of a girl’s complicated coming-of-age story being completely diminished when portrayed through a male perspective. The movie is centered entirely on male validation despite how shallow Bianca’s relationships with both love interests are, and almost all her positive female interactions are erased while an unnecessary spotlight was shone onto the attractive mean girl. The book discussed heavy topics, so it was never perfect source material for a light teen comedy, but giving it this treatment was seriously backward, even for 2015. It could probably be done more justice nowadays

[@JB49105]

The thing about this movie that put me off the most was Wes. When I read the book I imagined him as someone of average height with curly dirty blonde hair. I havent read the book in forever so I don't know what he actually looked like. I just can't imagine this movie's Wes as the real Wes.

[@xialynn4869]

When you mentioned the novel, I was kind of excited to talk about the vast differences between the novel and the movie (particularly the central plot shift from being friends-with-benefits to dating(novel), to friends to dating(movie)). And then I kind of deflated when you weren't really going to talk abt the book. I mean, I get it. And I don't blame you for not reading it, but I was just a bit sad...

[@dysto__pia0]

i really like the way you talk so calmly, i also like your chill criticism, you just have a down to earth vibe 👀✨

[@TheBlushBunny]

That’s me. Chill, calm, cool, and collected. Lol Glad you’re enjoying love 💕 🐇

[@kimberleywilliams7802]

it's HILARIOUS how I LOVED this movie when I was younger, I thought it was great. Now that I'm older though, I know that I'd probably dislike it a little more. This movie really tried to make me feel like the main character was ugly, AND IT ALMOST WORKED. This movie, instead of making me feel really empowered made me actually feel WORSE about myself because being the Duff isn't fun, and knowing you're the Duff is even worse, seeing a girl like Bianca and knowing that she is ostracized for how she looks, compared to her friends, in the film, where does that put me? someone who isn't white and is quite a bit heavier than her. on a lighter note. I'm seeing Robbie Amell a lil too much, he needs to find new gigs. He's too old for the wattpad movie he's starring in soon. I'm starting to see crows feet.

[@emiliejakobsen]

This was the first movie I watched with my mom. I was quite a bit younger and me who had never seen a romance movie before was so intrigued and I loved that movie, I couldn’t see that there was something wrong with the title. It is not a very memorable movie as I forgot about it until now, but I think it’s worth a watch if you have nothing else to see.

[@MissAyce]

This is a hybrid of Mean Girls and She’s All That

[@caitlingill]

And “10 things I hate about you”

[@jif635]

I was the DUFF in high school, I was fat and very unkempt so I wouldn’t say pretty either. But no one told me I was a “DUFF” and I didn’t care that my friends were pretty and popular, I was just grateful to have friends 😂

[@itss_theenellz]

Finally , ive missed the content💜😫🥺❤️ Love you lots by the way 😫🥺

[@TheBlushBunny]

I’m here! Lol love you back. 💓

[@Lilianamarie999]

I saw the promo for this. Not DUFF enough...I was like what's the problem? Lipstick and an outfit change later she aight 👀

[@chachacopen]

7:55 you had my dying 😂

[@doubleh333lix]

i watched this movie and just couldn’t get over how hot the main character was. she was curvy and grunge and cool. i wanted that brown long sleeve/overall outfit so much. they just kept shitting on this girl because she wasn’t preppy and whatever. her fashion held up better than the pretty preppy girls anyway. idk, i like her.

[@caitlingill]

I know right, the preppy girls fashion all look outdated even though it’s only been 8 years since the film release, but Bianca’s fashion still holds up

[@Dicergrey]

I remember watching this movie back in 2017 , idt my eyes ever went to the hotter friends as they described the characters to be , instead , they only focused on all of the characters thou Bianca def caught my eyes more due to her personality , ngl thought it was cute knowing Wes started liking her later on . Imo everyone could have points of admiration but we see what we wanna see .

[@turtleboy1188]

Designated anything friend, as if there is a main character in the group

[@adamivna]

I remember eating this movie up when I was in the 7th grade. I also red the novel in one night right before my final test of a term

[@broadwayfangirl987]

I remember watching this in high school feeling empowered ( the only thing was I wasn’t fat because I starve myself) because I was labeled as the scary weird girl because at the time I didn’t want anyone to know I have autism at the time but they knew and it made felt more isolated. Now looking at this I kinda cringe at it

[@amystravels]

Rather enjoyed this! Hope you’re all good. Also I didn’t know there was a PODCAST... Welcome 🥰

[@TheBlushBunny]

Glad you liked it! And yea still learning to navigate the podcast world lol. I’m good, how are you?

[@amystravels]

@@TheBlushBunny let me know if you want to chat about it at all - I have a few years experience with it! All good here thanks, just living as best I can!

[@No-wy2qd]

I watched this and it’s stuck with me since. Once my friend suggested me and her go on a double date with this guy she liked and his friend but I didn’t want the guys friend to be stuck with “the duff”

[@mickeewoop-woop9020]

Never saw the movie but from the moment I saw the trailer I was like omg that's me lmaoooo....ofc my friends were like omg noooooo that's not true but I mean hunny look at the material 🤣.

[@TheBlushBunny]

Lol not the material. Stop it.

[@catherinehealey6232]

Lmao a friend of mine gave me this film on DVD for my birthday one year. I genuinely can't tell if she meant it as an insult or she just liked the film.

[@TheBlushBunny]

*Side-eye to the friend

[@canaryqueen4050]

This movie underrate teen flim

[@TheBlushBunny]

It is. I only personally know one person who has seen it.

[@MonicaBryant]

I like the movie and the book even though they're both trash. The book has a lot of sex in it for being a teen book, lol.

[@sinmiadegboyega169]

The movie is not the book. Not at all. Like there really is no make over like in the movie. It has depth and more issues than just being the "DUFF" like that is something but it is not what the story focuses on in a sense.

[@nicodinisi]

When I saw commercials for this I was real young and ignorant and even I could see this was problematic

[@Matschen]

This movie is such a shame. The book was actually really good. The protagonist had a pretty interesting character and the guy she falls in love with is also more interesting. The story is totally different and way darker. I kinda liked it. Back then nearly every book in the teen section was happy and cheesy and this one wasn't. It became one of my favourites. Read it multiple times.

[@TakaMitsukai]

Just thinking out loud and I'd be curious to know if anyone else kind of feels this way, but I can really and truly say that I've had plenty of duff moments in my life...still do actually. I definitely agree that media is a bit of cesspool of capitalizing on people's insecurities, but some of these tropes are at least partly based in some messed up version of truth. I used to dance a lot and we frequented this salsa bar. It never failed that they would have people invite them to dance all night. We go hang out and I've literally been bumped out of the way as someone tried to approach one of my friends. Now look, I keep myself up, I consider myself a bit of a fashionista so I am always tidy and put together, but boy those moments sure do stick with me even now in my 30s. Unfortunately, I think it's a wider societal issue, not just media. Media is just a byproduct. And, sometimes I think women weaponize it against each other occasionally. I think at the end of the day, the duff label might be largly self ascribed because of no external positive feedback. My friends are great and supportive and have never made me feel less than, but it was and is hard not wonder when the rest of the world isn't equally validating. Great vid, BTW!!!

[@JC-yy8iv]

I’ve never watched this because I thought it looked terrible, but now that I know it stars Mae Whitman I’m a little conflicted because I love her work and I’d watch her in anything

[@JC-yy8iv]

Omg AND Allison Janney??!

[@JC-yy8iv]

Ok well now that I heard your conclusion maybe I will watch it, I can see how it could be just a fun lil movie that’s not to be taken seriously

[@TheBlushBunny]

Let me know what you think once you watch 💕

[@Catglittercrafts]

I’m the DUFF. I’m also a 39 yr old married woman with kids so idgaf. Lol.

[@TheBlushBunny]

You won girl, forget everybody else lol

[@wires5584]

lowkey lost every friend I had bc their boyfriend were actually after me

[@TheBlushBunny]

That’s so wack. They never say anything to the guy, it’s always them over you smh

[@sparklingblood09]

my friend was sh1tty to me repeatedly cause her crush liked me! and for her sake i didn’t date him. but then she ended things w me like 8 months later and i ended up dating him cause y not lol

[@Ualalalalalala]

" people go throught you to get to them " i had this happening to me so many times, and took so much time to realize what i meant xD People wanted to know my friend and they would messague me first, make small conversation, be overly friendly and shit, and then 2 days later id have her in my dm's saying/asking about the guy X said he was my friend and asked her out on a date xD, or ppl coming to me to ask about what she likes and how should they aproach her ....

[@featuring_ludacris]

is it dumb af? yes. is it my favorite movie? ever since it came out.

[@maggiefulop]

am i the only one who doesn't think the DUFF is fat or ugly? she doesn't even look that out of place with her friends. its just that her clothes and makeup were done to make her look 30 years older than everyone else

[@totallynotbatman6121]

I know! The actress is gorgeous, she’s just not skinny! But that isn’t a bad thing like all these old movies want to portray it as.

[@itsmefm]

Nah cuz SHE ISN'T EVEN FAT?????????????

[@TheBlushBunny]

Literally

[@sindhusanthanakrishnan5465]

but I think Wesley explains that - it's not literal, ie the DUFF may not be literally 'ugly' (his words) or fat, just that in that group of friends, they're the least visually appealing, so they're often overlooked and used as a way to reach the more attractive friends. and yes, I echo the others, I read the book many years ago, and found it more insightful and fleshed out than the movie, even though the movie is light hearted fun that I don't take it too seriously

[@raindropsonroses3919]

@@sindhusanthanakrishnan5465 perfect explanation 😅I was about to say the same thing, but you worded it a lot more eloquently than I could have

[@user-rt9dt3sy5k]

I watched this at the theater with friends, being the fat friends.... it was uncomfortable lmao

[@Darkrose517]

I liked the movie fine when I watched it, but I have no idea how they read the book and we got this movie out of it...(I know a lot of other people have been commenting similar things, but I need to get it out, lol). The book barely had anything to do with her being "The Duff". He does call her that and if I remember correctly, she does have some insecurities about it, but the book is about her life. She's dealing with an absent mom, an alcoholic dad, past heartbreak, a current crush, etc. She uses Wes as a sexual distraction from her life. And they fall in love from there.

[@stephjovi]

Well I've been the ugly friend all my life. But the DUFF from the movie is the only actress I know. Parenthood, Arrested development, good girls. Mae is awesome

[@ayyo6970]

i love the baby sensory music in the background

[@TheBlushBunny]

Lol wait the what?

[@ayyo6970]

at the very end of the video the music in the background is used in a baby sensory vid called happy birthday baby sensory video

[@JohnDoe-gl9zz]

i would be a duff if i had friends lol

[@TheBlushBunny]

😂

[@joebaumgart1146]

"See The Duff hangs out with her more attractive pridemates in an attempt to blend in using what we call "The Spice Girls Paradox"" - Richard Attenborough (probably)

[@DerekThomasLirio]

Now, as an additional comment. In high school, I started a business as a sophomore. I was meeting celebrities and politicians during lunch. If Mae Whitman, the actress that plays Bianca in this movie, would've been a student at my school, I would've chosen to be friends and even go out with her over her friends any day. I've always demanded respect of those around me, and unlike Wesley for most of this movie, I consider disrespect for those I'm friends with as disrespect to me. Now, to The Blush Bunny, you seem like someone worth knowing. I'm very easy to find. Oh, and I watch alot of movies as well, so I can give you pretty good recommendations for movies to watch.

[@fa1ruz]

I wanted to watch the movie because I love Mae! I love this move because I was the DUFF in my friend group

[@yagirl1014]

If you've ever thought one of your friends was the DUFF of the group you really need to reevaluate yourself and if any of your friends have ever treated you or called you the DUFF you deserve better friends. I had a "friend" once who said we were the DUFFS of the group and it really hurt my feelings and we are obviously not friends anymore. I also had a friend group where I was never treated like the DUFF but they would always talk about how two of the friends were the pretty ones and never included me in that (honestly think it was just jealousy always rubbing it in my faces that they were the pretty ones because I was hot AF at the time.) We were in a production of Heathers at the time and I guess they took the method acting too far because one of them played Veronica and the other played Mac (I was Duke.) One of our other friends who was fat played Martha and I remember I was hanging out with the girl playing Mac before rehearsal and said she liked our friend who played Martha but was sad she couldn't say fat jokes anymore and that she was so glad she didn't look like her. I just awkwardly laughed her off because I've never been a skinny person myself (this girl wasn't skinny either so idk what her issue was) and then next thing I know the girl playing Martha doesn't want to be my friend anymore because they told her I was the one talking crap about her. It makes me so sad because I thought we were all really good friends but they got so rude during that show and turns out they were just pretending to be my friend and making fun of me behind my back. Like one of them called me a whale one when I was in my bathing suit even tho I was skinnier than her at the time. Im so much better off without them now too. Turns out one of them is racist and lied about being Bisexual and another cheated on her boyfriend and told her shed break up with him if he ever came out as anything other than straight and bullied him for having Tourettes. Shocker they're both all around nasty and fat phobic too.

[@marleythechef8400]

They say I am the DUFF with my friend group and I agree

[@sradhanjalinayak6680]

how is every american teen having a party?

[@caradiel2644]

I hate the stereotype and interestingly enough this isn't a critique on the movie since a lot of movies do this and I've never actually watched this movie but to tell you what stereotype I'm talking about is that when a man or woman doesn't fit into the beauty standard they have to be just the most sweetest nicest person and there's nothing wrong with being a good person but there are many of movies where if a person does fit into that beauty standard they can be mean , cruel controlling and pretty much a bad person but as long as they give a barely good apology always forgiven because they're "pretty" but if you're not quote on quote "beautiful" and the absolute nicest person your made out to be a villain and pretty much unredeemable in most cases idk why this review made me go on this rant but I felt like it needed to be said

[@daisybrianna77]

This rant fits Descendants 3 perfectly. The things that the 'villain' did in the third one. Only to apologise and be forgiven girl pls.

[@caradiel2644]

@@daisybrianna77 you know what YES YES perfect example thank you

[@lovemagicandroad]

She’s not even fat nor overweight. That fact bothered me. She’s clearly very attractive, just dressed differently.