The Pros and Cons of Dating as an Orthodox Jew

[@barrenwasteland7782]

I appreciate you putting this information out here. Hashem saw that man was alone, and that it was not good." Since i have been trying to live kosher and i dont live anywhere near a jewish community so i dont even know how i am suppose to date or anything. I feel like i gotta get on top of that part of my life. I havent been in a relationship since i left Christianity and i havent wanted to try since ive begun to feel that i should just trust Hashem. Ive wanted to deepen my relationship with Hashem first. Now, its been a few years, i still dont live near a synagogue, even a reform. Which could be a blessing, i dont know because im so detached from the community. I think its important to keep kosher and raising a jewish family so thabk you for this nugget of information. Thank you for also reminding me that it is totally Hashem's will for me to get married

[@ayalavoice_]

I am so glad you got smthg from it!

[@ScenariosOfDrea]

I'm so glad I got the privlage to interview you and talk with you

[@JewishKeto]

So here is my experience… I used to date the traditional modern secular way of dating… I decided to get serious finding my wife… and I had spoken to a matchmaker and she put the entitle process out on the table. I felt like it was a job interview. Well to make a long story short.. afew days after Sukkos… I got a call and was told “I have a very nice girl you might be interested in…” I was given her resume and she sounded absolutely wonderful… it’s nice not having to explain shomer negiah to someone.

[@ReligionOfSacrifice]

I'm not a Jew so I don't care about carrying on things that are Jewish, but I am a Christian and so I approve of all your words about dating & the God Yahweh. You remind me of this little five year old in a dress waiting for her best friend to show up at church. I was fourteen and waiting for my best friend to show up. Her big round face was so cute and you could tell all she wanted was Abby to show up that day. All I wanted was John to show up that day. It got to be that I enjoyed seeing her friend show up before mine. Two fourteen year old boys just would talk and get in trouble, but those two five year olds hugging so hard each time they met would just melt my heart.

[@wenterinfaer1656]

Thanks, YT, that's all I ever needed

[@ayalavoice_]

why watch this is ur not interested?

[@wenterinfaer1656]

@@ayalavoice_ to cringe.

[@ayalavoice_]

@@wenterinfaer1656 thx keep helping my views enjoy! ♡

[@ts13579_texas_usa]

Ayala : Your videos are always among the very best! // Shidduch résumés are really interesting. Back in the day, not very long ago at all, there was no such thing in the Orthodox community. I hope your less-informed viewers don't assume that shidduch résumés are a requirement of Halachah, or anything ancient like that. As opposed to the many other things you mention in your videos which *are* exactly that: *Halachah* and therefore non-negotiable. // Without your help, your less savvy viewers cannot distinguish, I am afraid, between the different "layers" of Orthodox Jewish practice (Halachah, universally adopted minhag, Ashkenazi vs. Sefardi minhag, local minhag, convention, etc., etc.). // Thank you for yet another outstanding video!

[@ayalavoice_]

omg this made my life!!! thank you

[@ts13579_texas_usa]

@@ayalavoice_ That is so great to hear. שבת שלום !

[@purplevolution]

Hey Ayala, I like your videos and learning about Orthodox Judaism. I am curious about your thoughts on homosexuality… obviously it is a complicated topic and I know homosexual marriage is not permitted in Orthodox Judaism. I’m just curious.

[@ayalavoice_]

I asked my Rabbi about this and he said while Homosexual relations are listed as sinful in the Torah, the homosexual person themselves is not "sinful" or "bad" they deserve love and respect although Judaism does not condone the act itself

[@lockedonlaw]

You do you but life choices can severely limit your options. It's entirely possible for someone to check all the prerequisite boxes and still make you unhappy.

[@ayalavoice_]

That’s very true. What do u mean thi

[@avrohomrothenberg7052]

Very informative!

[@Sesa-iato]

Thanks for the interesting and informative video. Why is it called a resume? Those are for jobs. Do the observant view dating or marriage as a job? Did these exist as long as actual job resumes? It might as well be called an application. Is the name offputting? How do you know whether people's terms are similar. Many people i know say they keep laws but the way they keep them vary so much and some are more observant than may seem and some aren't really. As far as modern observant, don't most touch and even more whether or not in a relationship? And how on earth were you allowed to join into an observant man's life when you weren't yet observant? Wouldn't your lives be so different that he'd look at you at that time as not suitable for his way of life? Was that a tricky relationship? Did you first know you weren't at the same place? Did you have to keep to laws with him that you didn't yet follow? Do you have interesting, funny or inspiring stories or advice based on how being set up with a resume or matchmaker when information is right there for both of you didn't work or wasn't accurate but worked out or didn't? If the person's job or family doesnt matter, whats higher on your list? Is that something you put on a resume? Do you like specific character traits, personality, work ethic, creativity, hobbies, schooling? Is it strange for others it's called a resume? I just heard it and I'm stuck on it, its so formal and "pick me"...or hire me. 💙

[@ShmirchikArt]

It's true what you say about shomer negia, but as a former orthodox girl, it was hard for me to find a shadchan that was not nasty to me and who would actually call me back, sadly...

[@vilrugan]

Miss have you gone off the Derech?

[@ShmirchikArt]

@@vilrugan I'm on my own derech

[@vilrugan]

@@ShmirchikArt May Has-em help you do complete T'shuvah in your lifetime & also may he help you live by the Torah to the fullest. Shalom.

[@ShmirchikArt]

@vilrugan I am very close with the creator and I'm a strong defender of the tora, but keeping all the laws is hard on me, maybe you can bless me with a good husband so I can complete more mitzvah, thanks so much

[@NaProbablyNot]

Love it! Finding a special soulmate is beautiful. But it’s work. It’s not always roses.

[@ayalavoice_]

right im learning...

[@pickettzachary]

You are classy, I'd say brilliant, highly feminine, & interesting. You seem to have an advanced intuitive grasp into human nature. There is almost nothing you say that isn't highly thought provoking. So, you're almost like a walking, talking Yuval Harari book.

[@ayalavoice_]

Omg omg omg thank you so so so so much! This made my whole day!! Really needed to hear this lol

[@JohnEbrilo-s2k]

Will u ever go Israel, Ayala ?

[@DavidJohnAr]

We should go on a date and read Talmud. I'm at the part where it says its ok to have intxrcourse with a 3 year old. What part are you at?

[@Badhero4]

The Christ killers gave Muhammad some inspiration.

[@DavidJohnAr]

@@Badhero4 Isnt it utterly gobsmacking how they literally just ignore this part of their book? Like theres no way OP isnt a controlled agent or something. What is wrong with some people? And here people say "co-exist with all religions" and what ever, meanwhile these religions literally tell you to have intxercourse with babies? God will not be happy. Not at all. Rev 2:9.

[@toviaskryptonitelll976]

@@Badhero4 No one killed Christ he gave his life on his own

[@kingofthebingogame]

Where precisely is that stated?

[@DavidJohnAr]

@@kingofthebingogame If I found it and showed you the exact passage would you actually give an honest reconsideration to your beliefs or would you just handwave dismiss it anyways? Please be honest and tell me if the effort is worth it.

[@larryolsen4422]

What type of orthodox are you...?

[@ayalavoice_]

modern orthodox machmir :)

[@larryolsen4422]

Thank you..😊

[@zubairtalktv]

No Lie wanna date lol? From ny. I got a resume. Also only interested in dating jews or other religious individuals. I mean this in the most respectful way possible.

[@ayalavoice_]

lolol

[@zubairtalktv]

@@ayalavoice_ I tried dming you but you blocked me i believe. I do wonder why? Geniully was interested to get to know you.

[@Sesa-iato]

​@@zubairtalktvare you Jewish? What do you mean when you say you date Jews or other religious individuals? Like anyone of any religion who believes in God and adheres to some tradition?

[@zubairtalktv]

@@Sesa-iato Yes that's my question if she would date some who believes in God or has a different religion besides jewish.

[@none4530]

@@zubairtalktv No Orthodox Jew would marry someone who is not Jewish

[@nathanshubert]

i want love is blind, frum edition

[@ayalavoice_]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHUAHAAUAHAHAUAHAHHAHAAHHAHAHA OMG SAME

[@shoshi-w3o]

ayala

[@ayalavoice_]

awww hi

[@shoshi-w3o]

@@ayalavoice_ hi dear how u doin? sweetie

[@effy3720]

Bi shah tovah!

[@ayalavoice_]

amen you too!

[@hammerotongo4677]

are you Hungarian?

[@ayalavoice_]

nope

[@hammerotongo4677]

@@ayalavoice_ can we get a hint?

[@ayalavoice_]

@@hammerotongo4677 guess

[@hammerotongo4677]

@@ayalavoice_ half German, one quarter Turkish and one quarter Czech

[@ayalavoice_]

@@hammerotongo4677 ooo love it

[@mutawi3i]

Morrocain descent Arent you.

[@ayalavoice_]

ah i wish!! thank u such a compliment

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

Have you ever thought about becoming Catholic or dating a Catholic man? Just wondering. Honestly from my experience, Catholics and Jews have more in common putting God at the center of worship and sacrifice with the rites and rituals than with their own “Christian brothers” in the Protestants.

[@mikieemiike3979]

😂 Nice try.

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

@@mikieemiike3979 I am just speaking facts and truth here. Protestants deny worship without a sacrifice and Catholics offer up the bread and wine that Jesus commanded his disciples to always do as it is always his flesh and blood of the New Covenant which in John’s Gospel says will give us eternal life when we eat the Body and Blood of Jesus.

[@mikieemiike3979]

@@Justyouraverageguy172 If you want to date a girl like this you have to understand the old testament including obeying all the applicable laws, such as, the obvious 10, cannot eat unclean animals like pigs and shrimp etc., you have to keep the Sabbath Holy by resting (not working for money, buying or selling anything), observe the holy days of the old testament like passover, not Easter or lent, and so on. She won't date you unless you not only understand but observe the old testament.

[@mykrem11]

Nobody cares

[@normalbutnew2150]

Only cons I guess

[@93A.E]

Jesus Christ is God. ✝️🇻🇦

[@larryolsen4422]

He was Jewish also...and kept the law..James 2:24...He is Judah Jacob...for a man is justified not only by what he believes...but by what he does also..😊

[@DavidJohnAr]

@@larryolsen4422 revelations 2:9. you are not who you think you are. you are not like him.

[@watermelondreasymone7144]

Ew

[@ShmirchikArt]

Your god

[@Not-A-Sheep]

NO!

[@cantorcarmen]

Resumes are stupid and problematic.