The Quiet Desperation of Life

[@makekikkeli2699]

The problem is right behind you on the wall and on those shelves

[@radmageirl]

Here's a TIL for you: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17309970/ Research shows surgeons who play video games make fewer errors. Sometimes, things you think lack value can actually sharpen important skills.

[@shune84]

was gonna say what does he do on his day off, if its gaming do something different

[@danrichards9823]

@@radmageirl That is fair enough, but are you a surgeon? Video games do have benefits, but the cost is high, your life and your time. If they are not doing anything for you, and your quality of life is still not good, stop using them.

[@radmageirl]

Well, I'm going to infer a bit here, as there have not been studies across all disciplines. No, I am not a surgeon, I am an Engineer of sorts, it's at least in my title and I do build things. I believe practices that help surgeons avoid physical errors can also lend to sharpening my mind or keeping it sharper. I don't even play games much, but I do receive many comments admonishing me for my presumed video game addiction. We pay a price for everything. Nothing is free.

[@DerekEklund]

You're not even listening. The problem is mainly work and security.

[@haritc8462]

I suspect that this is the untold reality of millions upon millions of unheard and unseen men.

[@coolbritannia1979]

And women.

[@paulmartinson875]

@@haritc8462 hanging on in quiet desperation

[@nalublackwater9729]

My life is like that and I'm a woman.

[@coolbritannia1979]

@nalublackwater9729 it's crap isn't it, what's going on?

[@nalublackwater9729]

@@coolbritannia1979 We lost the hability to be humans, we demand too much, we idealize too much, we think the grass is always greener on the other side... Back in the day we had fewer choices and we valued people for what they were inside, sure we had preferences but they weren't so damn specific. That I had to live to see guys trash talking Marilyn Monroe and call her f4t and ugly...

[@noahsmadda8828]

Benjamin Franklin said "some people die when they are 25 but don't get buried until 75"

[@pokiblue5870]

Those who cherish life are those that struggled from the botom, poverty, disabilities and health problems. Those who doesnt enjoy life should just take 1 day at a time and live in the current moment and live as if its their last month to live like they were in stage 4 cancer.

[@goseemekah]

I now understand this.

[@rdpillsforall6884]

Damn…..

[@dorkbrandon4422]

25 sounds about right, I'm in my late 30s now and since mid 20s I've just felt this all just a load of bollocks.

[@marcusknoll9500]

He would know

[@robmatheny2412]

I’m also 44. I’ve been dealing with a lot of anhedonia lately, nothing that used to make me happy really makes me happy anymore. My dreams are dead, I have no goals, I’m just working and existing.

[@kevinfinnerty8414]

Despite all my rage, I’m still just a rat in a cage.

[@Chaggy1978]

also...The world is a vampire...👍

[@kineticenergy1085]

You 2 rock for this one😎👍🏽

[@marcd2743]

Space Boy? Is that you?

[@EMPI75]

funny , i heard it yesterday for the first time after many years..

[@GenerationX1984]

The '90s really did have the best music. The song reflects how I feel about modern society.

[@cristhian900]

“Low risk but low reward lifestyle”, perfectly put.

[@jbissainthe]

Bottom line.

[@StevenJeffrey-h2g]

As we age, us men get more cautious & less risk prone. Weighing the benefits & drawbacks of actions & choices...some may call it settling down Some call it the walking the path towards Wisdom

[@markwolfe503]

So many years ago I chased dreams. After failing and failing I often feel that I don't have the energy. On the other hand I recently heard a very similar quote " avoiding discomfort leads to pain "

[@nobertstanel9428]

At 34 y.o i am taking huge risk, now broke in debts, failed at 2 bis, yet the 3'rd one kinda succeeded and is growing slowly. Still not enough to maintain myself, due the debts, but once those are gone, it will be enough or more than enough ,, to be my own boss '' . All of the hardships that i had to endure, say working at the ships for 2 years then checking my bank balance and having it almost empty (was saving everything in separate account to start a bis) was hard, but it starts to pay off. Safety of a .. good job '' is awesome, but you know what sucks guys ? Ending up at 60 y,o with no energy and dreams behind and then dying with a thought ,, i could have tried ''.

[@car-diologist]

Tell that to the countless homeless people that once believed the same thing.

[@littleaussierippa]

I feel your pain mate. I'm 51. Disabled (I have cerebral palsy). Not married, no children. Very few friends. I go to work. Come home. Read, watch movies, play video games. Listen to music. Go to bed. Go to work. Come home. Rinse and repeat. In the words of Meat Loaf: "Life is a lemon and I want my money back."

[@Andrew-b8i8v]

This is life for most men. It is cliche to say it, but it is true.

[@TwistedFuchsia]

Ah yes too true

[@andrewcruz1931]

It is true . We all feel this way

[@1ButtonDash]

it's because of social media... if you notice there are just as many if not more videos but the women's side that they "can't find a man" yet they are all over the place. But women today will not settle for someone like this... they all are chasing that 1% guy and it's causing the single crisis we are in atm

[@honkhonk1555]

@@1ButtonDash the main problem is what feminism which is just a branch, and extension of Talmudism has slowly but surely, done in the last 50 years or so.

[@adsmith1226]

@@honkhonk1555it’s not feminism it’s capitalism

[@SayNotoBIGgOVeRmeNt]

Technology has killed the human spirit. Unplug and go find yourself again.

[@John-f3d9l]

Been saying this for some time very spot on!

[@Fido-vm9zi]

I appreciate & value information & technology.

[@dadozygaming]

I used to take 2-4 hour long walks without my phone or even listening to music. I would repeat that almost every day. However, my wife wants me to carry my phone with me so she can contact me anytime. If your wife lets you, going out without your phone is nice.

[@Fido-vm9zi]

@dadozygaming How did those old humans, whom we came from, make it?

[@АртоВэнтьфорт]

How about you start saying no to your nagging wife

[@EGP90209]

34,single, no children, lonely, bored but no motivation to change because the pain of being alone is less than the pain of relationships for me

[@bobmcbobbington9220]

It's not pain, it's fear. You can't have pain from a person that isn't there. Don't let fear hold you underwater. Get up. Work on yourself. Connect with a person. Join a social club, hobby group. It doesn't have to be romantic.

[@Franko-Gaming]

@bobmcbobbington9220 what a comment. I was just about to reply but you've nailed it 👏

[@patrickr4762]

@@bobmcbobbington9220Agree. I’m in the service industry and human interaction is required. Been doing it for 20yrs and I don’t feel those years. Same reason why I think teachers look generally young. Bec. we get energy from other people as well.

[@Leon-ko5so]

Exactly where I'm at. I don't deal with stuff well enough at all. I dont have kids either and sometimes feel like I'm missing out but I also think would I really wanna bring a child into this world given its current condition? The way social media is making teens and the amount of stabbings and shootings that are just getting more and more common. Not having kids may be dodging a bullet no pun intended. I know a lot of people who got massively depressed after having children and maybe regretted it a little bit. Be happy with your own company! Most people aren't - and find it hard to be on their own

[@patrickr4762]

@@EGP90209 “Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening, it just stops you from enjoying the good.” When I was young I worked with this old guy, single and very successful. He always spent time with me sharing his wisdom and experiences. He enjoyed being alone but also wished he had someone to share his life and success with. I learned when we’re younger it easy to be alone but once you have lived a life and filled your cup you want to share that cup.

[@catherinemiller-vp4gn]

I've been disabled since 2018, I'm 54 yo. I lay in bed every day doing the same thing every day. I rarely get outside. Monotony is an understatement, my life sucks to say it bluntly, and I can't do anything to change it. Wish I had a job I hated, at least I could interact with other people and see the world. No matter how bad you think you have it, someone has it worse.

[@megmucklebones7538]

Yep, this - I would get into PC gaming my friend. There's a whole other world out there - it helps you get social interaction, it helps keep your brain sharp, there plenty of options.

[@yvonneadamski7406]

Almost 60 was looking forward to retirement with my husband, planned to buy a motor home and travel, camp and enjoy life with our dogs. A year ago as he reached retirement age he was diagnosed with MS. It has totally destroyed everything. We are stuck in a loop of hospital appointments having various equipment given to him to aid mobility, in our small house we can barely move. Life has become a drudge day after day. My advice to anyone is.... Take the leap now! Do the things you want to do now! Take the chance and don't regret waiting. Life is very very short

[@vulpinemachine]

I became chronically ill at the age of 31. It's been 9, extremely long years. I seriously even wonder if I'll make it to 60.

[@roberthensley8653]

God bless you......

[@AS-np3yq]

Pray to God plz

[@Vaultboy101]

This should be a lesson for the young that they will never listen to. Live long enough and everything starts to physically hurt. Only your mind hurts less as you get older.

[@AsTheWheelsTurn]

wow that is fucked up it sounds like you resent your husband for working hard his whole life then falling ill in retirement. what a piece of crap you are.traveling in an rv isn't all that great, not sure why so many people think that is something to strive for. loving your husband is more important but I guess you got lost on that.

[@davidlamotta1994]

You need three crucial things in life. Something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to. Nuff Said.

[@seppevb1181]

What wisdom, wow.

[@edward8972]

Some of us don’t have any of those things

[@jeremymullins1294]

Mostly something to do

[@lottorabbit]

I agree with you.

[@Mark_72]

At some point in my life, I’ve reached that same conclusion, so I went minimalistic in every aspects of my life. I bought myself a small land, and I built a shack. Now, I farm, I have hens, and I go fishing. I barely work 10 hours a week to make ends meet. I feel like I’m out of the slavery system that we were born into. I raised my son alone, before I proceeded with my dream to go in nature. The financial choices we are making are our own cage! We put ourselves in that situation for wanting more materials.

[@larrybuckner8619]

You are living the life I’ve been dreaming of for the last 5 years or so. THE EXACT LIFE!! I’ve been dreaming of living in West Virginia in the mountains. Secluded! I’m 53 now and I only hope I can make it happen.

[@asdfgh-uh6cy]

Living like a dog is not the answer. There's nothing wrong with wanting materialistic things in life. Good luck with your farm and hens.

[@christopherlarkin8524]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 well said sir……well said 👍🏾

[@panzer00]

​@asdfgh-uh6cy you have fallen for their trap; good luck.

[@apolloniusbeitsman5444]

Lol what an egotistical thing to push another being into existence. Why have a child when life is bad

[@reddalchemy5970]

You would be surprised, there are a lot of us women like this out here too. I am 49, just had a birthday with no one to celebrate it with. No boyfriend, no kids, no friends, just 2 dogs and I live alone. I play video games, watch my anime, read a lot a books and try not to go crazy from boredom and monotony of my days. I was married once, but got divorced. Had a string of bad relationships and just ended up being alone and it has been that way for the last 10 years. All I can do, is make sure my rent is paid, my dogs have kibble and I keep my streaming subscriptions going so I can watch my favorite shows. I feel his pain.

[@hellothere8812]

Yeah I’m not sure why everyone is making out like this just effects men, both men and women

[@fr_reynolds5002]

Unattractive woman are Jedi masters of the cope. At least you're honest.

[@evanm4682]

@@fr_reynolds5002 Incredibly shit and unnecessary comment, never ceases to amaze me the level of dickheadedness you find on here.

[@jynxce]

@@fr_reynolds5002 Why be an @ss when she's just trying to add to a conversation most of us in this predicament have with ourselves these days. People's situation wouldn't be so bad if they made the slightest effort to respond to people as they would if face-to-face.

[@jean4186]

My husband, Bill died 6 years ago. After almost dying of grief, I decided to live & found that I like being on my own. If anyone wants to rent a place in my building & be a companion to me in my older age, I would welcome that.

[@lottorabbit]

Most men (and women) live in quiet desperation. This man made a video about what most people feel and think.

[@cianog]

45 myself and completely get where you’re coming from. Life is just a big con.

[@PCgamerChannel]

Is what you make it.

[@Jsavv-k3x]

@@PCgamerChannelno it’s not it’s all a joke

[@bardnois]

how about making it an anthrocon! join the furry community, become one with the beast

[@mypiebecamepizza9503]

Depends

[@puppetmaster7479]

I’m so alone

[@witheredserenity3183]

Married with kids here, every day is the same except it's dictated by the needs of the family, which are almost identical every day. This is the fate of the masses. We are sold a pipedream as kids that we can be anything and dreams come true, but we are little more than tax-paying cattle until we die.

[@JR333JR]

Thanks for sharing your perspective

[@joshuastead326]

Amen 🙏. Identical situations you and I

[@arthurjulian6200]

"I tried so hard, and got so far, but in the end, it doesn't even matter!" Real words spoken here

[@michaeljamesjohnson]

47 male here, no kids, divorced long ago…I thought I was the only one living this personal hell. I feel ya brother.

[@lu1zh16]

U need God and Gym 😇☝️

[@nickfrost6325]

lets cry together omfg hahahahah

[@derekbos4404]

I can one up you. 47, divorced, my only child died 5 years ago. I get home from work and either drink or go straight to bed.

[@Badger17805]

​@@derekbos4404F

[@Mathias-jr2df]

@@michaeljamesjohnson this video and comments are depressing as hell, we are all barreling towards old age loneliness, quiet desperation. What can people do to lift them selves up? No one ever comes into your life to save you, that's what they teach you. It's up to us to decide? What is it? As they say , comparing Is the thief of joy. Thinking it should be like this, should be like that, I'm to old etc.

[@StevenDavies-el8ss]

Collecting movies keeps me going. Classic horror, action, thrillers, etc. A great distraction when you live alone and have no family.

[@mommom3172]

My husband is into saltwater aquariums. He started with fresh water tanks. Modern life has sucked all the fun out of life. Getting back to hobbies & venturing out is good for the soul. I've learned that being with animals is very healing. Especially, horses.

[@clarencebodicker3299]

Yeah I'm the same collected movies for yrs great escape

[@thomasallen4340]

Gaming helps too. Get into Skyrim

[@LobsterFusion]

Movies and games are my thing. I also love getting outdoors and hiking. Nature is good for my soul.

[@beamtweez1210]

Have you seen POLAR it’s a fantastic movie, Mads Medelkian

[@chrisshore5340]

Thanks for sharing this man. I hope you find something you can be inspired by once again.

[@Drew-im7is]

"Get busy livin, or get busy dyin" one of my favorite quotes from Shawshank Redemption. Life is not over my brother, dont give up, dont resign. Change something. Life can renew and reinvigorate

[@Shade84]

This 100%. People might acknowledge your pain, but no one's coming to save you. The only person who can change your life is you.

[@Franko-Gaming]

I've recently started youtube and Running, I'm gonna be doing some charity runs soon. Setting goals is the key.

[@AHundred-ec5yq]

​@Franko-Gaming oh pls u can plan and set goals all you want truth is life will never go how you want it unless your a billionaire

[@Franko-Gaming]

@AHundred-ec5yq we each have our own happiness. I have my daughter, my own home, and a misses. Do i have bad days? Yh ofcourse I do, my mum passed at 44 she wasn't given long. I look at life different now. I stopped chasing the unachievable. I seek happiness in what I enjoy now. Hiking, family time, hitting weights, and gaming are my hobbies. I and some friends have started golf today a new hobby we can share together. What do you enjoy? Spend time doing that. Get healthy a healthy body has a massive reflection on your mind.

[@twodummiesdogaming]

I used to jokingly say "enjoy today because tomorrow will be worse" and 5 years i realized that this is now the most optimistic thing. Really. Enjoy today. Because no matter how bad you feel or how long a day it is. Tomorrow youll be wishing you felt as good as you do today.

[@rioblanco-rivas64]

Get over yourself already

[@BlueCollapse-vw8br]

This is the most retarded thing I have ever seen. U saying it's impossible to have better days in the future and things will only get worse LOL. Maybe for some but not for all and there are people whose lives improve so that by itself destroys ur point, let a lone the countless other points I could think of lmao

[@NayburhoodSnipa]

​@@rioblanco-rivas64Could you cry any more about it? What a wimp!

[@3825cmac]

@@rioblanco-rivas64Be nice you cock sucker. You can’t possibly know what it’s like to be in someone else’s shoes and acutely understand their unique circumstances.

[@Idkwhtpsipto]

@@rioblanco-rivas64right . Holy moly

[@brysctt72]

I’m 52. In my younger days I used to go out to bars and clubs and had a lot of friends. I decided to change my ways. Now trying to do better all I do is work and come home. It’s like my life was better when I was doing things I thought was bad.

[@jjthecat9692]

Haha this is also me. I used to live a pretty wild social life, drugs, promiscuity, drink, travel, raves etc etc. I did alot to clean up my life, keep fit, met my wife and we have our own family now but goddammit, how I still yearn for those days. More so recently lol.

[@metalbearuk]

Exactly the same here! At least when I was clubbing I had acquaintances and conversation. 61 years old now and wondering what it's all about.

[@fakenamerealchungus9851]

Corporate work culture really has Americans leaving behind life's riches for paycheques, huh?

[@fernandomaron87]

​Same, in my 30s now, lived a party lifestyle up till 23, cruising around with friends, smoking weed daily, drinking hard on weekends, taking ecstasy, cocaine, bedding many women and all of a sudden i find myself living with my wife and a cat, no social life at all, going from work to home and living an everyday cicle. As much as i love my wife, i definetly miss those days, the adventurous aspect and how random everything was, all the insane situations i've put myself in. I feel like a tamed Lion now.

[@matt7232]

@@fernandomaron87 I thought i an the only one:)) - almost 50, 2 small kids, 10 yr younger best wife...but i miss my rcokenroll days when i was partying, smokin weed, doing drugs, sleep with A LOT of woman, playin video games all thay (well to be honest - i still play games for 5 hours per day)...

[@Gene-XL]

53 here. I hear every word you are saying. It is more or less the same internal dialogue that I tell myself. I have no nuggets of wisdom to offer, but you are not alone.

[@lordlittletoeq8537]

"But you are not alone" a reminder, better than most wisdom. 👍

[@NikuKashi]

sad thing is, people say: "That's normal life, stop wining" 99% of the humans live like this, but never question it or try to change it.

[@nanach6276]

Yeah cuz thats so easy?

[@natman2939]

Change it to what?

[@TheRimBrakeGuy]

Get hobbies guys, visit places, build memories, not for anyone else, but for you. Don't get stuck on a little flat just lurking out to get food.

[@hamishanderson6738]

Meditate.

[@TheJase8566]

@@TheRimBrakeGuyhobbies cost money brah

[@olebrumme6356]

This is the reality for so many men, I'm glad there's someone making videos of it!

[@UPTAUT]

At 27, I had done everything right. I had brought a house and married a woman I loved. Ten years on I my wife is gone and the house with her. Middle aged with nothing to show for it. No children. No woman. No meaning. Just go to work to come home so that I can go to work again. It's a sad joke, but I stopped laughing long ago, and my tears have run dry. Numb rage remains.

[@Synomain]

You have become comfortably numb

[@biff3917]

We live in a dying empire, and there's a lot of us. Very soon let the rage loose. Gonna be the only way to survive.

[@marcusknoll9500]

Life is stupid lol ....for real tho..,....that sucks that stuff didn't work out for you tho.......what does it mean to you?

[@falloutmirelurk4471]

37 isn't middle aged dude 😅 I'm 35 I'm not middle aged..right!? Can you have a couple beers a few nights a week to feel better?

[@The1morningstar]

You’re so young you don’t even know it. one day you’ll look back and realize it.

[@RagingHamster8330]

Most men lead lives of quiet desperation! - Thoreau.

[@radmageirl]

Yes, like Thoreau The cost of a thing is the amount of what I will call life which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run

[@ButcherBob]

From Walden, a great book

[@hellamongstthedrumlins367]

@@RagingHamster8330 Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion. What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.

[@hellamongstthedrumlins367]

I'm 44 and i ride my motorcycle and fly stunt kites and i am happy. I draw, i play some video games. I buy very little beyond food and gas. I paint with watercolours. If i couldn't afford my motorcycle i would ride a bicycle instead and be equally happy in a smaller range of travel. I cook. I clean the house. My friends live far away and i am lonely sometimes but i am happy. I enjoy listening to music and playing instruments. I used to be sad when i was younger, but even then i had many fine moments in nature. I am still sad sometimes, but somehow happier than most.

[@Aduder999]

I'm also 44 and just seem to be realising that all the things I enjoy in life are what I should be pursuing. Which sounds obvious. But I think we get so caught up in our jobs we forget who we are. I refuse to let this system beat me down.

[@SnoopyReads]

That's all meaningless crap too, nothing really matters

[@hellamongstthedrumlins367]

@@SnoopyReads meaningless to you

[@SnoopyReads]

@@hellamongstthedrumlins367 meaningless period

[@vicko1978]

Stunt kite? Sounds like an interesting hobby, I'm gonna look up some vids on that

[@gamelover2222]

I'm your age and disabled for several things. One of the biggest changes happened when I had both hips replaced in my early 30's and broke my right big toe twice the year after. I went without properly walking for nearly 3 years. I got nearly back to how I was before it all started, then I fell and broke my right leg last year and I'm back to barely getting out of the house. Don't dwell on how bad your life is, consider how bad it isn't. There are people what would literally kill for what you have. Give yourself a goal or two at a time and make them doable (no matter how small you need to make the goal). That way you can go from baby-steps, to walking, to however far you want to take it.

[@BAngel-kr2ty]

You got bones made of dust 🤪🤪😭😭🤣🤣

[@penatio]

@@BAngel-kr2ty You got brain made out of play-doh.

[@johenderson3742]

​@@penatio😂😂😂😂

[@charlespancamo9771]

You're right. I'd take his consciousness in a heartbeat. Mine has been unstable ever since celiac disease destroyed my guts for 10 years. Makes you realize how much of everything, all the best things in life are purely chemical once that chemical production gets messed with/taken away.

[@jefftucker201]

49 here and I can relate mate. Every day is the same and I am loosing the will to even bother. Nothing matters and the things I do enjoy are loosing that joy quickly. Every day I find myself wishing more and more there would be a Zombie apocalypse... If it wasn't for my other half and Kids, I don't think I could go on...

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Dude, you need medication.

[@CyrilSneer123]

You have a partner and your children are in your life. You have your health. You have far more than many men.

[@Kilen81]

You have kids? That still acknowledges you? Then you are a lucky guy...

[@meatfistcannon3939]

I had a stroke at 35, and I have always been a realist. Take your loved ones to fun and be fun with them while you can. Joy, happy and fun are so finite.

[@RaccoonRepublic]

I relate to this. The crazy thing is, I started life believing in things. Being open minded and honest, one at a time I realized that the things I believed in were actually often lies. And so I let go of those things. I gave up faith and religion. I gave up obsession with career progression. I even gave up the intrinsic belief that people are good. That isn't to say that I don't believe people are capable of good, or that life has a purpose, or that work has value. I just became more pragmatic. With these realizations, came peace. But it came at a cost. It came with a realization that life is about the journey - not the destination. There is no higher purpose that will give you something worth reaching for beyond. Life just... is what it is. It is filled with peace. It is free from want. It is largely free from problems, and I am blessed. But it also feels like it is missing something. And that's a hard feeling to deal with, because you don't necessarily know how to find the things you're really looking for... without falling into the traps of all the lies people want to sell you, which in the end prove to be fools gold. There's lots of lonely men. But the truth is, there's lots of rich lonely men with families and busy lives too. And that's the real trick of it all. What we're looking for is something more spiritual, that you can't measure with material things. And it's something many people take many paths to seek - but few truly find. If I could lend any consolation, it would however be that sometimes we do find blessings later than we expected, when we don't see them coming. Good luck on your quest, brother. You're not alone.

[@AC-mp7cx]

faith is all i have

[@3825cmac]

@@AC-mp7cxmy neighbors buy Teslas and luxury cars to fill their void. They are all overweight and don’t socialize at all. It’s like the Twilight Zone out there.

[@marcusknoll9500]

You gave up faith n religion???

[@RaccoonRepublic]

@@marcusknoll9500 For me it wasn't so much about turning my back on aspects of faith, as being more open minded to all perspectives. For example, I love many teachings in the Bible - and always will - but I also admire teachings from Eastern Religion/Philosophy and many other philosophical ideas. I believe in the truth - and I am wise enough to know that neither I - nor probably any of us - can truly grasp the reality of higher truth. It's a question we ask, that has no answer for us. But in that big empty space of unknowns, I still think there's lots of room for hope and faith. Just not quite the same as random people who just believe the teachings of their religious leaders at face value.

[@marcusknoll9500]

@RaccoonRepublic ahhhh......no.....I thought it was a good thing......... recently my parents told me that they ACTUALLY questioned THEIR faith..........and that made me feel good.......so what do you think about this guy's video?

[@mikepeters75]

I started hustling a side business and it became a full time excavation business. A salary job is killing the human spirit, energy, ambition, passion, excitement. I had a profession which was just stress all the time. Having my own business, is a life saver!!

[@jeffmacey6482]

I appreciate your comments. The schools just gear kids towards serfdom.

[@turolretar]

Wasn’t it supposed to be like work for someone and then after getting enough experience and know how start your own practice

[@geeman.8081]

I agree to an extent...but the salary jobs help society run. Whether that's good or not is the question.

[@taliawtf6944]

I think the gist of what he is saying is that there is no one to fight for, there is no one waiting for him at home once he gets off work nor will he leave a legacy or blood line to remember him when he is gone. He is alone, ignored and all his struggles will never be remembered or met with words of gratitude or the simple reward of a smiling face looking up at him. All the treasures of the world are as ash if you have only yourself to share them with.

[@Luciddreamer007]

A very wise man once corrected me when I used the expression my life. He pointed out there is no such thing. Life is something we all share. He went on to tell me about consciousness, awareness, and being able to accept now…. After all now is all we have. Life and consciousness are forces that are infinite. Then he told me about how meditation and committing myself to it could change everything ….. after years of discipline and commitment. I found out he was right. Good luck in your journey

[@jarnoronkainen75]

i am 49 unemployed. not worrying a thing. never bored... freedom to do and go. You just gotta find a way to enjoy your being and doings... otherwise it's heavy road to walk :| remember to live while you're busy surviving :)

[@floopsiebraadsie5638]

This is a great comment. And what I'd like to add is that you need to be active, especially when you're older and by yourself. It doesn't really matter what you do, but DO it. Whether it's sports, home renovation, working on your car, traveling, cooking, drawing, whatever, it doesn't matter. But you need to ACT and CREATE, whatever it is that comes to mind, to your mind.

[@apocalypticambience]

52 and been telling people for years that it's groundhog day for me every day. I get sick of people asking how I am and I have to keep saying, I'm the same as yesterday, and the day before, and the year before. Nothing changes even if I try. I feel like maybe I died and I'm in some purgatory or something.

[@JMB129]

I'm generally happy but find those people annoying. If I don't have some something to say that interests you, I don't ask "WhAtS nEw and ExCiTiNg?!" It's actually a lazy question to ask so they don't have to be the one to have something creative to say.

[@lu1zh16]

U need Jesus. Read the bible, go to the gym or do martial Arts. And ur life will change

[@DonRR97]

You don´t need Jesus, and for god sake, don´t read the bible!

[@nanach6276]

Tell them what episode you are on One Piece instead.

[@vulpinemachine]

@@DonRR97 "don't read one of the most influential books in human history." Geeze. The great texts of human kind are definitely worth reading and thinking about. If only to understand what other people hold near and dear.

[@MrMrt187]

A massively relevant video for me, I’m 50,single have a son but live on my own. Life is just passing me by day by day and there’s nothing I want to do about it. I’m actually looking forward to being 60 so I can finish work, how sad is that 😟I’m not even bothered about dying, I just feel that I’ve lived my life already. Had a great time in the armed forces in my 20s/30s. But now it’s just empty.

[@John-zv1hy]

Blessed are those who endure till the end.

[@jacobhoffman2553]

endure

[@John-zv1hy]

@@jacobhoffman2553 Thank you.

[@SamElliottsStache]

Not everyone is a Calvinist.

[@adamsultana8380]

As an only child I found myself constantly buying, watching and consuming entertainment like movies, shows, video games and books. It actually helped me not to feel alone in a way. I always had friends too, but I find the entertainment aspect would "keep me company" as weird as that may sound. Now at 39, I'm more or less doing the same thing, just with far less friends these days.....

[@CokefishR]

Try buying an electric skateboard or buy a tract of land and build a dirt bike trail on it.

[@schmidt969]

My uncle, 50 years old, a few years ago, met a much younger woman and a year ago their son Wiktor was born. It's never too late to revive brother.

[@JohnDoe-ko5yr]

Dude, i love that my life is the same. U got hygen, food, work, shelter. Dont stress urself that u dont have what society deems necessary

[@charlespancamo9771]

yea, right? The trick is GRATITUDE. Be grateful for what you have. Any of it can be taken from you. Including your own consciousness and I'm not talking about death. Finding joy in the small things can lead to greater self discovery and rumination. I think the root of this mans problems started long before he ever became consciously unhappy.

[@MrT-nh6di]

​@@charlespancamo9771 Exactly

[@Oiuytkjhgfmnbvc]

Right on. All this boohooing. These people don't know what real pain is. Hence a total lack of perspective.

[@billjones642]

having all those things is stressful. working a meaningless job is soul-crushing. it's meaningless because it doesn't make me feel any kind of satisfaction. nothing does. "other people have it worse" is no reason to live, quite the opposite.

[@Musso8771]

That "soul crushing" stuff is getting almost as tired as blaming cell phones for everything. The vast majority of.humanity has jobs they don't really care about or like (and very well always have). Very, very few people live their dreams, but that's life. There are still so many things to be into, learn about, and on and on - which is to say nothing of time with family or other people that matter. Basically, don't be a weirdo.

[@darrenfirth3458]

I'm 45 and exactly where you are no kids no women and a job that is slowly crippling me. I've felt this way for 4or5 years now. Life sucks but we can't give up

[@BrooklynBum]

Life has already given up on you

[@ghostofyou6468]

😢😢same here bro i nver had job family kids i failed my parents ,and im 44 i felt like useless ,im trying to be good and be a part of society that will respect you but its hard

[@darrenfirth3458]

@@ghostofyou6468 10 years ago I was a heroin addict with epilepsy with absolutely no hope and now I'm a head chef, I've meet plenty of women though work (but of course I managed to fuck it up every time) trust me I know how hard it is to turn things around but you've got to try and you have nothing to do lose and so much to gain. Just try and get a job as a kitchen porter (maybe a cash in hand one so you can keep your benefits) you've still got time

[@JSC178]

What's the job?

[@darrenfirth3458]

@@JSC178 I'm a chef in a nursing home, which doesn't sound to bad but the store room is in the basement (and the basement is only about 5f high so 8m constantly bending down first my back went then my hip and now my knees have gone, maybe it's time for a change??

[@jayhoo85]

Thank you for the inspirational speech! Now I think Iam doing just fine.

[@JamesHoth]

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. But so long as I sleep well, eat right and get exercise then I tend to be contented, despite my failures.

[@CokefishR]

This is some of the best advice. Be the pillar that others lean on.

[@TravisLauvao]

Spark it up. Let's light up the darkness y'all ❤ We love you our brother stay focused 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💪🏽🤙🏽

[@Sub-515]

Appreciate your simple life, there are many who didn't make to where you are. Stop and smell the roses, stop and really feel the breeze on your face especially on a super hot day, listen to the rain in silence. Life can change in an instant and the simple life you live now may be a distant dream you wish for again. Waking each morning in good health is the most precious thing you have.

[@drinnerd8532]

Was going to say something like this but you said it better. @Rad Mage (David), this doesn't discredit what you are feeling in any way. I just wonder how many people on the other side of the world felt exactly the same as we did until their worlds erupted into chaos through war, natural disasters or some other utterly, unexpected strife? I will say that as I have been seeing the onslaught of what you are describing approaching my life as well, my source of meaning has thankfully been reaffirmed by my Savior, Jesus... who doesn't just save us from eternal separation from God, but is ENTIRELY about activating significant purpose in your life through magnifying himself through it. He has thankfully, come along side me to remind me that my life is not my own but that I belong to him as he has purchased my life through his loving sacrifice so as to be used by him to help others discover his love for them as well. That I can be his hands and feet here and help those in need feel the warmth of his love and grace as they learn about his sacrifice for them and feel hope rekindled through their placing their faith in him. Please know that you are NOT alone, man. Every, word you said rang out completely true. I thank you for sharing your name so I can pray for you today. You are in my thoughts, David. Please know that your pain is not lost on our Lord. He hears you and is waiting to graciously, come alongside you and embrace you and your struggles and administer a peace upon you that surpasses understanding. I would not have believed it myself if I hadn't experienced it as well. Because of the love he has for us, I can tell you that there most certainly, is hope. Even for those in the most worst case scenarios.

[@michaelwills1926]

Yes indeed 🫡

[@royfontaine5526]

I do all that, pretty much daily. But life is still shit.

[@cristhian900]

Agreed, gleaning for the positive isn’t always easy but with practice it can be done.

[@m-el1880]

omg, another individual without an ounce of empathy... you see this guy is totally broken, hopeless... and you write: hey be happy for what you have wonderful comment that never needed to be written * oh i see on your profile now that you are a woman that makes sense life is extremely simple for most women and you get everything for free and if you have a problem there are x organizations or simps that will help you immediately a man is alone with his life and problems and as you yourself demonstrated, a man will not receive understanding and empathy

[@GREENMAYNE]

You have a home, electricity, plumbing and food- you’re doing better than more than half of the world. Don’t be too hard on yourself and ****never judge yourself*****

[@xxcrypt234]

I don’t care lol im not happy it is not worth it

[@m-el1880]

1) a comment without a grain of empathy 2) the people you are talking about don't work and spend their whole lives waiting with outstretched hands for someone to give them something from free 3) these "poor people" have smart phones and film themselves burning other people in tires 4) but you had to mention them for some reason, how is it supposed to help the guy in any way, even if he doesn't get anything for free and was born like most of us in a cage

[@Ender7j]

Judging yourself is how you know change or improvement is needed.

[@GREENMAYNE]

@ that would be more of a self-assessment. Read the Psychology Today definition. I get do where it it’s slight confusing, semantics

[@drock213]

​@@m-el1880Many people in the world could only dream of the life you have

[@raymiller1753]

This will sound easier said than done because it is, but if you change the way to look at things, you might find that life is full of joys and fulfillment. You might just be expecting them from the wrong sources. I'm 47 and I wish I had figured it out earlier, but I'll share with you the way I think about life. Hopefully this helps you and anyone else in the same position. The hardest thing for me to ever learn, was 'live in the moment'. Don't worry about the past or the future. They don't exist. The only thing real is RIGHT NOW. You're at the wheel now. If you feel that your current road will lead to a future you don't want, you can change it RIGHT NOW. You're never too old and it's never too late. It's scary, but you must trust yourself. You're stronger than you know. You showed that by posting this video in the first place. It takes a ton of courage and strength to reach out. My job as an asbestos abatement worker is a thankless one that I do all day and sometimes all night, but I don't expect it to make me happy. It just pays the bills so I can focus on the things that do make me happy. It's grueling and stressful, but at the end of the day, I get to see a beautiful sunset on the way home. I get to see the smiles on people's faces when I hold the door for them at the gas station. I don't have kids, but I get to see my cat, Pippin when I get home. I see all the little and beautiful things that we over-look every day because we're too stressed out about the future or the past. You got this in the bag, man. Keep your head up and trust yourself. You'll be fine. Seriously, if you ever need to talk, hit me up. I'm pretty sure KZbin has a DM feature. Same goes for anyone else here. None of you are alone. I've always got an ear open and a shoulder to lean on.

[@radmageirl]

It's often easy to say a thing, isn't it? Thanks for the optimism.

[@nickg2431]

Yes good things are often the simplest.Take pleasure in your life ,be friendly to people and you will be suprised how many respond.

[@JedidiahCarrick]

You're such a kind person for taking the time to write this! 👍🙌👏🔥 Great advice!

[@sbshaunb95]

44 yr old here as well. I was where you are 5 yrs ago. Single,never beeen married, no kids...until I met someone on a dating app, not really my type(divorcee,4 kids) but oh well, beggers cant be choosers I thought. Recently I threw in the towel. Wasnt worth the stress, Not at this age...we deserve happiness, not someone elses bad choices. Enjoy your freedom, make peace with it, for what its currently worth. I have to now deal with the dissapointment and breakup process all over again and going back to the mundane reality of where I was but in the end I know I will be better off.

[@qcriverrat]

I swear by the time most people, maybe most men, turn 30, there simply are not any meaningful options available on the dating market. You might find a needle in a haystack, but for the most part, there is zero chance you are going to find someone who moves you in the way you did as a teenager or young adult. It's happened twice since I turned 30. Beyond that, I just have zero appetite for what is out there. The idea of marrying someone with kids who you then have to babysit sounds like a colossal nightmare.

[@ScuffedF]

Same age and married with children but it aint no fun. Love both my daughters but my wife is a master of projection and takes no responsibility for the mistakes she makes and finds some way to blame it on me constantly. Nearly every day is a battle of wills and it wears me to the bone regularly. Marriage is like this 99% of the time in my mind and its not what I imagined it to be. But I have my children and that gives me the power to push through it. Its the only thing that keeps me here at times, I swear.

[@nickg2431]

@@ScuffedF divorce asap

[@colas_files948]

@@nickg2431yea but then he most likely will get fucked over I feel him honestly. And that’s his family and he feels that way. I seen some comments about dudes dating and marrying a girl with other kids and tbh I don’t even know what’s worst. But I would say raising kids that’s not urs and going thru what this guy stated above is the worst and that’s where I’m at. Never will I date a woman with kids. Create ur own legacy never try building off some one else legacy

[@colas_files948]

@@ScuffedFI really hope u okay brother. My ex is the same way and I have one kid with her and she has two older kids from another relationship which we now came to find it the first kid doesn’t belong to the guy we thought was the father. How I felt knowing I made a kid with a girl who has 2 baby dads and I now have one with her made me look at her totally different on top of what u mention that ur going thru above. Her Daughter is a disrespectful brat at 9 years old. Man I can go on. I hope u find happiness brother. I truly do and for all the men out there and hope u guys find happiness as well

[@AS-fu1kd]

The modern world really is soul crushing.

[@fr_reynolds5002]

Everyone is dying of boredom and nxgger fatigue simultaneously.

[@orionassante3386]

I don't just think it's the modern world. I think it always was like this for most people.

[@bingbingma]

Also im really happy you shared this to help us all remember this ever present reality while we all also try to find our own way to be happy and feel free.

[@basstradamus1]

There is a lot of peace coming out of this video... Thanks for sharing

[@TheMusicolophile]

Wonder, gentlemen. Don’t lose your wonder. And if you have, get it back. It’s the most important thing we have. It’s really the only thing you need.

[@theflyingninja1]

Don't you lose that when you're, like, five?

[@dannyho6786]

your right, lost my wonder, feel like it's coming back.......gradually, but yeah, you don't feel like the same person !

[@hellamongstthedrumlins367]

@@TheMusicolophile And your imagination

[@7755fgh]

I’ve learnt the hard lesson of chasing your dreams and the lesson is don’t, be grateful for what you do have, cherish everyday and be grateful for the little things, none of it matters anyway

[@radattk3145]

"every day that you see me... that is the worst day of my life."

[@ArcaneWorkshop]

What about today? Is today the worst day of your life?

[@b.pack3]

@@ArcaneWorkshop yep

[@ArcaneWorkshop]

@@b.pack3 Wow, that's messed up!

[@MonkMog]

Truest words ever said

[@kurekvision]

Why is it? ​@@MonkMog

[@ironleeFPS]

I worked at night, which made it so I could have daytimes off. Then eventually, I quit the job and moved to Asia and started a business after many years. If you’re depressed in your job you have to take a chance and quit your job and do something else. When I left for Asia I had no plan at all. I’m very glad I did. And that was when I was 35.

[@kingjesus7926]

Heck yeah, I move every 2 years to somewhere new to keep it fresh

[@seabrin]

We need to do meaningful things together. I say this as an introvert who is rarely happy, usually just hoping to not be despairingly adrift. I realized a while ago that I only remember people I've done meaningful work with; built a fence, configured a vSphere environment, ran a marathon. I think there's something to that. How do we find and do the things that are still worth doing? We don't have to just let life happen to us. I know how trite that sounds, how empty and meaningless it can feel, but I know there's still joy out there to be found, even a silent satisfaction that something is just a little bit better than yesterday because of you.

[@debaser_666]

”When no one wakes you up in the morning and no one waits for you at night and you can do whatever you want, what do you call that, Freedom or loneliness?

[@freespirit-111]

Both. We live in a world of duality.

[@turolretar]

there’s always that one goddamn fly that wakes me up, so no I’m not alone

[@vagabond127]

Freedom.

[@softpawsasmr]

Loneliness😢

[@Anomicx]

Great video. The answer is in service to others.

[@RJ-dw4jw]

@exiledmonastic4650 It doesn't, he's full of shit

[@marcusknoll9500]

That's true....that's a good one ......and not reproducing too

[@bobmcbobbington9220]

@@marcusknoll9500 Being a loving father or mother is the greatest service of all. It's sad that people have become so insular that I actually had to type this.

[@marcusknoll9500]

@bobmcbobbington9220 dam....I wish I knew what insular meant lol

[@dr3amboy3657]

You summed it up perfectly for the millions of middle age men and women. There are many days where I’ve felt the exact same way and no; it’s no depression. It’s a fact of modern day life. The reason is we are too comfortable and thus we stay in the comfort zone. Some things I’ve found that help the malaise: Appreciate the little things Change up your routine Change jobs, homes, location Meet new people Try new things

[@malmoran8643]

The Empty feeling is draining to our Soul. I've got it too. I just spent 6 weeks living in a small tent . It made me value what I have so much when I got home .

[@Sick3c3ll]

I feel your desperation, but my situation is almost an opposite of the same coin. I feel broken and damaged beyond repair, but these cycles we endure in life are never permanent. Theres a lesson to learn here regardless of what stage you are in, and i find comfort knowing our endless waltz with the angel of death, allows for us to reshape and reform old cycles into new ones. It just requires a conscious effort, which for many is a harrowing task.

[@GaryTongue-zn5di]

Hanging on in Quiet Desperation is the English Way!

[@gurrrrlish]

I love when every day of my life is the same.... I just adore that aspect when I can make it happen... LOVE LOVE LOVE....

[@Redhawk03a]

Brother this hits deep. I have nothing for you except to know you’re not alone.

[@valaquenta220]

As someone practically 10 years younger (I'm 35 years old) who launched his own business a year ago in a country without the same opportunities (Eastern Europe), and still struggling to make it go anywhere, I'll keep watching this video every time I feel like giving up, so I never do : I know EXACTLY what you're going through, I know the pain of the thought process, which is why I decided "never again" at 34. I strongly recommend you to act now and change what you want to do with your life ASAP : you're not 75, you're 44. Which means you have decades to act. If you don't do it now, you'll regret it in 25 years when it's too late. This is your midlife crisis, and you should listen to it and listen to yourself : lots of incredible things can happen if you make them happen, just DON'T give up now.

[@kozmicaos]

You did a solid, heartful monologue. I feel you, in a good way, young man. Let me give my more than 2 cents on this matter, but first: presentations. I am divorced, childless, 43 years old dude, living by myself, alone since 2019 (when I got divorced, right before COVID hit). No friends or family. I learned a few things after I converted to Christianity, things of wisdom that I didn't quite understood at first, but I do now. The most important thing to learn, for me, was to be grateful for every single little thing. Every warm bath, every food on the table, every safe arrival, the smell of clean clothes, a cat purring on my lap, a fresh rain on a summer day, the nice feeling after a nap, a beautiful bird landed on the wire while I put trash outside at the morning, an iridescent beetle visiting my blooming flower at my tiny garden, a starry night, a good watch on a nice show under the blankets. For every single little trivial thing, I learned to be grateful, to actively thank for living that, to shamelessly profess "thank you" in whispers as I live. It became a habit. It's no secret. Just acknowledging these things is enough. Why pursue the tradition of gratefulness for every trivial and daily thing that is always there? Why say "thank you", time and time again? Because, somehow, magically, it starts to build up a certain kind, an unique specimen, of high fidelity happiness, unexplained by logic alone. A joy, a colorful one, that turns every pebble into jewels. This happiness is just there, sitting in the corners of our beings, like a dust of gold and silver. One day, you realize, that life is so GOOD, but SO GOOD that you heart can't take it, even if, technically, nothing really changed (even if you continue to be alone for example), even when you have a few problems here and there (because, hey, nothing but God is perfect). Even when trouble and hard times come (and they will come), this dust of gold and silver will still be there, fueling your joy, sprinkling sparks of life. It's hard to explain why; it simply IS. After the hard times, every day is a joy. I can say that I completely understand you, about living like a trapped loop, underwhelming passage of time, wrinkles on my face and the feeling of having underperformed on the pursuit of my dreams. I tried suicide two times when I was young, came from a completely broken family, fatherless, a decade of depression, never got to therapy though (never put any big pharma on my stomach), I lived in the streets as a homeless for awhile until I got my life together. Then I met Christ. What I mean is that I know how hard troubles can hit you and how routine can suck the soul of you. But bear with me in that: a personal loving relationship with God (and I don't mean with a church, but with GOD, you and God only, on daily basis, on your intimacy) can truly bring peace, love and joy, something that I couldn't never experience with other things in life before. (And, of course, I think that, sometimes, we might get sick with certain kinds of depression that may be related to our lifestyles, to the kind of food we eat and to the kind of things we see and nurture in our mind and heart. Depression is, every so often, invisible at first. After all, we are mind, spirit and body and we ought to take care of them at once. Sometimes is biological, sometimes is spiritual, sometimes is psychological, sometimes is the three at once. But again, we must pursue wisdom to deal with these things.) The second greatest thing I learned was to stop comparing myself with other people. I quit 99% of social media just for that, got tired of the varnish of success that people paint themselves. I worked as a nurse for rich old men and I know how miserable "successful" people can be even when they are known for great things in life, when everyone acknowledge them as "the winners", except they were miserable. Life is so brief, like a vapor that you can't quite mold. As you try to hold with you hand, it vanishes between your fingers, dispersing away. Everyone is on this same BOAT. We all gonna die. Then we might responsibly enjoy it while it lasts, understanding that life is more about loving every aspect of it, including (and specially) other people. Young man, I hope you will do well. I'll pray for you. I wish you all the best. (hug). (and sorry for the broken English, not my main language. Cheers from Brazil! I LOVED your room!)

[@xepacagueta2009]

caraleo que lindo, quero ser seu amigo, posso?

[@TexasVexes]

One man’s obscurity is another man’s serenity

[@timmian85]

I pitty the people who did not spend their 20's partying and living like rock stars - because you'll never be that care free again.

[@bigd5080]

👏👏👏👏👏 Hell ya!! Great comment

[@zenaslloyd5074]

Nah, that lifestyle never has any good benefits to it. You end up wasting so much of your precious time and by the end of it your body will hate you afterwards for all the substance abuse you did to it. Develop a skill in music or work on cars. Don’t hang out with sedated people - Now that’s hell on earth

[@timmian85]

@@zenaslloyd5074 Yes, who wants memories and friends for life. Go play guitar in your bedroom.

[@bigd5080]

@ Oooooo! Nice comment! Spot on!

[@Matt_Wilson01]

@@timmian85did that thing is the memories are a blur anyway because you were drunk or high on something most of the time, enjoyed until 25 then it all felt hollow, partying is a short term dopamine hit and nothing else, glad I had a daughter at 31 and stopped that shit, sleeping with random girls and getting drunk all the time is a worthless existence

[@jamesgreen2495]

Everything you say I can relate to. I hate time I can see my life wasting away done nothing. Feel trapped.

[@kylec1411]

Same here brother. We as a group need to change what we chase in this life. Money aint it friends. Its empty.

[@FART-REPELLENT]

Wealth opens doors to opportunities closed to vast majority of people; for example, if one is not partner-material thus can’t get sex with women by normal means, but if you’re wealthy you can afford to hire sex-workers. Plus if you’re wealthy you can afford to fund hobbies you’re passionate about.

[@1deadpool11]

Thank you for sharing. I will learn from this and will live harder for the both of us. Stay strong brother i will pray for us.

[@sirvazo1633]

I’m a 59 yo wage slave but am also music creator for decades now. Imo, being creative in any way is one way to give purpose to your life.

[@WrYSVrZrtr]

Or delude yourself.

[@Unio-Mystica]

​@@WrYSVrZrtr😂😂😅

[@wanicki3579]

I'm a firm believer in finding meaning its not inherently there you gotta make it or be a nihilist and nobody likes them not even nihilists

[@Kilen81]

💯 Music is very healing, and pets.

[@FART-REPELLENT]

Music creator?; it costs a lot of money to buy technology to make music; really underprivileged men can’t afford to fund their hobbies.

[@longJ0HNxbanana]

I hope you feel the love of your followers!! I’m 33 with epilepsy and my license get suspended for six months when I have a seizure. Completely agree with you

[@DuggyDarko]

Im 40. Been single for over 2 years. I live alone. I work from home. I have very little face to face human interaction beyond exchanging the odd "good morning" with a stranger. I have friends but only see them a few times a year but we text and game together occasionally. The difference is, I love it. I have a dog. I spend my days working, gaming, cooking, exercising, swimming in the sea and walking my dog. Life is pointless and everything is just a distraction until you die so just try to spend it doing what you love.

[@snugglefrygames7726]

Similar situation here. My life is mundane, but pretty f@cking awsome. Edit: We both exercise, people really don't know how important it is. It's mind blowing that it's the 21st century and people still don't know you have to go outside and move around a little bittle to be healthy mentally and physically.

[@DuggyDarko]

@@snugglefrygames7726 exactly. Exercise is so important for your mental health. Walking, swimming, just being outside really has a positive affect on my mental wellbeing. Also there's my dog. I get so much love and affection from him but he also give my life routine and structure. On days when I can't be bothered to go outside he forces me to and I always feel better for it.

[@Kaminaari]

oh what i would give for a work from home job. You're lucky to have that at least.

[@VikingKong.]

I'm 31, been single for 31 years...

[@DuggyDarko]

@@Kaminaari I know. My work/life balance has made it life so much easier thanks to WFH. I think most people suffering right now are the ones who are stuck working themselves to death in an office or some other dead end job. Not to mention other aspects like commuting which brings further financial and time commitments.

[@freedomrocks7821]

65 here and I can tell you I'm looking at retirement with mixed feelings now. One the one hand lots of time and on the other not the energy I had at your age to do things. The working for a paycheck life sucks the very marrow out of ones soul. Try your best to find time and happiness if you can.

[@1983metalhead]

41 here, feeling the same way. Chronical disease since 17 has limited me in many aspects, not trying to victimize, but is a fact. Been into a toxic relation for 10 years, not finding strength to finish it. Thank God I still have my family. Hobbies have saved me so many times: videogames, music, reading, watches, sports... just find something to help you get through the day. I've come to realize life has no meaning at all, we are just here. So try to enjoy little things, and dont think about the future, its pointless.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

I made verry similar experiences as you and I am about the same age. Best wishes, brother. Know that we are millions by now. In the current time, the common man is living a life of quiet desperation.

[@marcusknoll9500]

Very well put ... Are you pro life or anti life? And we are ALL victims lol......even the plants n animals n insects n all that It's what we all have in common

[@JuxtaCrucem]

The N64 game Perfect Dark possibly even saved my life when I got depressed and divorced over 20 years ago due to picking a bad wife. Much better than medicine, I needed that escapism to pick my spirits up and take my mind off the despair.

[@joetoth5465]

Keep a list of all things good in your life and check them off when things get difficult. This has helped me stay grounded.

[@videogamesruinedmylife3769]

this is poetry

[@GaryTongue-zn5di]

It's like Poetry, It sort of.... It kinda Rymns!

[@beerdragon4583]

I never thought I’d be seeing middle-aged men’s midlife crisis as videos up on KZbin but here we are.

[@antinatalope]

@@beerdragon4583 More accurate to call them 'life crisis'. A crisis can happen at any age, the last of which being the end of life crisis. And we'll all have that one, no matter the age.

[@KingSausage74]

@@antinatalope i feel like midlife crisis is better since early 40's is when we give up on our dreams.

[@1ButtonDash]

these are popping up all over as well as women who "can't find a man" all over youtube as well. This guy right here is a prime example of someone who would be a good partner and probably a father with a woman but in today's era all these women are searching for that 1% man and if they can't have them then they stay single, causing exactly these videos we are seeing.

[@beerdragon4583]

@@1ButtonDash he said he has kids. Videos like what you’re describing has become repetitive and all the same. This really is turning into a Fight Club scenario. It’s the boring job, the routine, reaching your 40s and realizing your own mortality and your life is halfway over. It’s scary for a lot of men, yes, but ultimately futile as time is not on your side. So what to do?

[@jasondadarria]

Did you just get here? Welcome to KZbin. 😂

[@jacklee7104]

Fast closing in on 45 & feel (mostly) like this, seems like the blink of an eye since I was 25 & looking forward now I mostly look back at the good times & feel so old & those at work in their 20's seem to complain to me about anything & everything I guess it's just a state of mind. On the flipside I'm never sick, have no debts, so I am thankful & look forward to those summer days where the rain will stop (quite rare in the UK) & I can meet up with old friends & recycle stories of our glory days.

[@jordangreen6943]

Hang in there bro, life can get better for you, Focus on the positives, 45 you still got time to enjoy things

[@aminostruth3494]

Nihilism is a natural and healthy reaction to the world we live in today. Escaping into nature is the antidote. Find meaning in doing and not materialism and things will get better. Exercise is probably the best activity to counter these feelings of despair. If you are single, don't have kids and are not saddled with a mortgage, your options are wayyyyy more numerous! Capitalise on this advantage today. If you are up to you neck in responsibilities though, the mountain is much steeper and a more resilient mindset will be required to see you through or ascend to greener pastures. Remember, nothing lasts forever and this cycle of repetition and unfulfilling life will too one day pass. Take comfort in that at the very least.

[@rossn5186]

I feel your pain brother. It's an endless cycle of soul destroying crap, day in day out. What I can't stand are these "half cup full" people who say - theres always somebody worse off than you. I once had a "normal" existence 12 years ago with a loving wife and a beautiful home on the river until she decided "the grass was greener on the other side" and buggered off with a coworker of hers. I've now become a recluse and don't go out other than to work, it doesnt help that I now suffer from social anxiety brought on by the whole ugly process of seperation and divorce.

[@Niftynesgames]

I feel you. I think the idea was sold to our society that life needs to be grandiose, that we must take decadent vacations, eat lavish meals, and so on to be truly 'alive'. There is nothing wrong with a simple life, as long as you still find the joy in some aspects. If you are feeling dread or emptiness there needs to be a change in your lifestyle. For me that change was my hobbies, fitness, reading, etc. I had zero interest in my hobbies for a long time until I added medication to the equation. Video games are fine, I play them plenty, but be willing to step away from them if you no longer find them to be a stress reliever for you.

[@travisbplank]

This is why I dont have children. I can barely survive and enjoy any of my time. My children would grow up to have miserable lives as well. I don't see this getting any better.

[@ordinaryretrogamer6944]

This is a wek mindset

[@travisbplank]

@ordinaryretrogamer6944 Nah, just a mindset with a strong prefrontal cortex that can resist the urge to reproduce. Not my fault you're not sapient enough to override your animalistic programming.

[@dimitrijenikolic6602]

Same here.

[@BAngel-kr2ty]

You don't have children because you are not desirable to females 😭😭😂😂

[@wubuck79]

I’m 44 and my life feels pointless and empty BECAUSE I don’t have children.

[@fredhall4733]

You got this, man. I like to think of how many people have it worse. Every day is a blessing. Some are in disguise

[@ByrdXye]

Im 31 and for the past 2 years when i bought my house i have been living the groundhog day lifestyle and absolutely LOVE it. I get up, gym, shower, eat, work, then get on my computer and play videogames with some online friends. From age 18 to 28 my life has been a HUGE roller coaster, drugs, heartbreaks, moving more than yearly, job hopping, soul searching. I gave up soul searching and girlfriend looking and honestly now i couldnt enjoy my peace more. When does it start to go bad?

[@fitfogey]

We all did that at 31. When you’re 51 get back to us.

[@GymWorkFamily]

The gym is what most of these miserable people are missing. Striving to better yourself and age gracefully and be perfectly independent when you're 60,70,80,90 years old. Keep up at it. There are 80 year Olds running marathons all over the world. Don't listen to these lazy, fat fuck 50 year Olds. If they focused on getting outside and getting sun and exercise, they wouldn't have time to ponder nonsense and be depressed. Embrace discomfort and earn that 1 hour of television per day, it will make it worth it.

[@mikehunt4797]

@@fitfogey 43 and i hear ya!

[@RealArtVandelay]

Youre very young, you dont worry because you know you have choices and can turn it around.. when the clock is tickkng and one day youre 45. You realise its not the same

[@megmucklebones7538]

Gaming is one of the best hobbies a man can have. You have something enjoyable to do with your spare time, always. You will never get bored.

[@LogoForLife]

46 here,single ,no kids, no friends where i live . All my friends are in the midwest .I'm in Jacksonville FL to be near my senior parents . Past 5 years have been the same every day. I cant trust a woman anymore im over it. I love God more than anything and wish he would take my life , seems like theres a lot of guys in similar situations, been seeing more and more of stuff like this on youtube.

[@kingjesus7926]

Prayers brother . Keep the faith . Find purpose in helping others. Go do something crazy fun . Travel to another country.

[@mikedrones537]

@@kingjesus7926people living pay check to pay check would find it very difficult to travel. And traveling alone is ok but also reinforces the loneliness you might feel.

[@mikedrones537]

I’m in central FL. Pretty much in the same boat without the parents. I’ve seen my family disintegrate over the last few years. Lost 3 good friends since 2020, 2 dogs and the house I lived in for 24 years. Now I rent a small room in Lakeland in a house with people I don’t click with. Hate my job and soon won’t be able to do it. Too many injuries. Worried about bills and all my stuff. My claws are out trying to hang on. Often question why am I here. Why even try? If it were not for my dog I don’t know if I could cope. Just existing now. Nothing really to live for.

[@alex.starostin]

Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day You fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town Waiting for someone or something to show you the way Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain And you are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today And then one day you find ten years have got behind you No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun And you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking Racing around to come up behind you again Sun is the same, in a relative way, but you're older Shorter of breath and one day closer to death Every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time Plans that either come to naught, or half a page of scribbled lines Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way The time is gone, the song is over, thought I'd something more to say

[@calum1741]

That song is way ahead of it’s time.

[@chucklesm2391]

Wow. I am 63, retiring from my day job of 38 years in a month to live life by my own design, play music, cook, garden, fix stuff, ride my bike, read, study, write, paint, watch the seasons change, stare at the sky for a week, stare at the trees for a week, I have never been bored a day in my life. There is SO MUCH out there, there is no excuse for not living life, even just inside your own head. Life is a gift.

[@zummo61]

@@alephgates7519why?

[@chucklesm2391]

@@alephgates7519 quit yesterday. 2 weeks notice.

[@Bumbaclot213]

Life can be a gift or a curse to some

[@isaacthyer2858]

Couldn’t agree more !

[@bobb.2260]

Your best years to do those things are behind you

[@thewaywardgrape3838]

I'm homeless, living out of a car & tent in England. I work full time, I run cross country and climb for exercise. Honestly, I can't relate to this. I have to literally maintain the basics in order for me to not die outdoors; it's completely empowering! If I had nothing but comfort and ease, I'd too, be sad, sick and depressed.

[@TheJase8566]

How the hell do you get the car insured? They usually want an address and know where you park it

[@thewaywardgrape3838]

@@TheJase8566 I use my Brother's address. Sure it's a lie, yet I do what I must!

[@mykytaradko5776]

​@thewaywardgrape3838 you are a powerful man. Thank you

[@thewaywardgrape3838]

@@mykytaradko5776 I'm not, I'm just doing what needs to be done. Not sure why all the other replies have been deleted.

[@yasinelkarmoudi]

We are alone in this and die alone. Jobs kills passion and security kills joy. Like you said, low risk low reward and that’s the path many have taken.

[@PyroPopie]

I feel you bro. Same thing everyday. Sometimes I don’t even know what day it is anymore. My light at the end of the tunnel is in 6 years when I retire. Trapped is the perfect word. It’s a real struggle going to work sometimes. Especially after doing the same thing for 29 years. Hang in there. Hopefully your light will come soon.

[@d-fens646]

43 here in Australia. My life sounds exactly the same as this.. My body is breaking down too at the same time.. There has got to be more than this to life..

[@christophermoon3717]

Im 44 too, I feel this brotha. Stay strong

[@ronald_wolvers]

I wish I had wise words to offer but I'm sending you a big hug, as I am to everyone else in these comments ❤

[@obabas80]

Oh man, at 44 I am in the exact same boat as you. Feeling like Sisyphus as I drag that boulder up the mountain daily, only to watch it fall and having to do it again. The cadence in your voice is perfection for this tale of drudgery and toil and put a sardonic smile on my face as I realize at the end of the day, the joke is on me.