This Mindset Will Make You Tougher

Alex Hormozi shares his wisdom on how to start toughening up and face hard things. Why does Alex Hormozi think that expectations often don’t meet reality? How does Alex Hormozi get himself to do things if they’re difficult? Where does this pain truly stem from?
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[@ChrisWillx]

Watch the full episode with Alex here - kzbin.info/www/bejne/gKaxgHmNYtSJpJo

[@TheAndrey117]

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca

[@mjb6446]

It's so fucking true.

[@dimebagvinnie644]

truth

[@michellemostert1123]

I’ve also heard ‘choose your hard. Diet and exercise is hard Being overweight, overheated and out of breath is hard. Choose.Your.Hard Studying, working, raising your game is hard. Being broke and unemployable is hard. Choose.Your.Hard. Rarely does everything you want drop into your lap without expending effort. The road to contentment is uphill.

[@L.m.CeeTee]

Unfortunately in this Era ppl think by simply existing they are valuable.

[@lukelukey4155]

This is a very good point of view, never look at it like this. Thankyou

[@limo-swine6537]

Similar to "either choose the pain of discipline or the pain of regret." Very powerful quote.

[@shanepotter4635]

Sounds like the best life advice you could give someone

[@edenbreckhouse]

Oh yes. Running for me is hard. But not as hard as being in poor health and being unfit would be.

[@ssensei34]

This actually works. When we did double sessions for football, we had to set our mind to understand that the heat, pain, and everything else that sucked is going to be our new normal. And it makes the suffering feel less of a chore

[@Illmatic25]

Running gasers…still gives me nightmares during those 2 a days. Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable.

[@PeterBarber]

"This is what hard feels like" -- I've been coming back to this quote since this interview first dropped. Incredible.

[@rchi3906]

Really good thing to remember “ this is how hard feels like”and keep going

[@tizzyk311]

I love the part where he talked about burning out. It is necessary to keep that at the back of your mind. Even when doing hard things, you also need to know your limit.

[@MegaWorldadventure]

lol, ask Goggins what he thinks about "burning out", just another BS excuse

[@redblock1382]

yeah we all know why you loved it... lmao

[@michaelr5606]

@@MegaWorldadventure It can be an excuse. It can also be something with disastrous consequences if ignored. You can find 1 Goggins and I’ll find you thousands of dudes who had heart attacks and other illnesses because they were “alright”. I love Goggins but if part of your mission is to be around for your family you can’t go full Goggins and accomplish that mission.

[@sweatyredbull]

Alex is such a good story teller

[@s_989]

I've told myself "I enjoy a challenge" and I actually do

[@essassasassaass]

wow i watched this video at the perfect moment... like literally perfect. "this is what hard feels like".. man i needed that now. i will make it better tomorrow. thank you!

[@davidpascoe293]

Congratulations, you replicated boot camp. Genuinely, that’s awe inspiring. Basic training is hard. Even the easier services are hard. And after eight(12, 16, w/e) weeks, you hopefully have a cohesive unit. Doing that more or less for fun is damned impressive.

[@astroguyco]

“Can’t drink, can’t talk to girl and they can only talk to each other also we are mean to them” bro that’s sooo hard

[@ElChivoJ]

I’m sure that’s not what they were having them do, I’m sure it’s stuff that can’t be said on any platform. Haha

[@jsarracino]

No it’s wrong.

[@BusinessWolf1]

Read between the lines

[@bruceyako]

It's hard when they actually WANT to " talk" to you, but I doubt you've ever denied a willing woman 👠

[@unfoldablewealth]

Life is a journey, not a destination. You're not done yet, keep going... The Marathon Continues! 🏁

[@healingmelody112]

You are capable of achieving amazing things in your life!✨ You have within you the strength, courage, and determination to overcome any obstacle that comes your way!❤ Remember to always believe in yourself, to stay focused on your goals, and to never give up on your dreams!🙏

[@orlandocruzlopez3536]

Bro I really needed this, thank you

[@josefehoraku]

Alexes book is incredible, full of game changers

[@furrypuffskein6585]

holy shit this was so good like in the moment you forget about all the self help stuff and think that this is bad i cant do it this is what hard feels like it just turns on the switch

[@bigr0075]

The art of not burning out is a strength to keep going

[@copaxchannel]

I got another one from Adonis creed “pain is temporary”

[@edenbreckhouse]

Doing hard things is easy when you realise what the payoff is. I run. It's hard. The payoff is the endorphins and the knowledge that it's good for my long term health. Also sometimes hard stuff isn't hard - it's all about what's going on in your brain. A few years ago I did an 81 mile run in 3 days and it was easy - because in my mind at the start of the run I'd prepared physically and psychologically and knew that it was a done deal.

[@BusinessWolf1]

Wanna know something funny? The frontal lobe of the brain is responsible for long term rewards and consequences. ADHD means that is ikmensely underdeveloped, and anyone with adhd is forced to somehow shrink the time horizon of everything they do down to the same day in order to feel anything about the task.

[@117Industries]

@@BusinessWolf1 I didn’t know this about ADHD, but this sounds about right. But while ADHD is a massive nuisance for those who suffer from it, can you see a benefit in this? For example, ADHD peoples, given that narrow time horizon for rewarding feelings, are incentivised to seek rewards from the imminence of an activity rather than the deferred feelings of gratification from completion. So they’re pushed towards finding pleasure in the moment, and perhaps by extension pushed towards the eternal present, or _eternal now_ .

[@silverlake973]

​​@@117Industries I see where you're coming from, but I think ADHD means impatience is at the core of someone with this condition. Being present requires immense patience and perpetual letting go. I think seeking such short term release only prevents one from being truly present.

[@117Industries]

@@silverlake973 Okay. I’ll take you at this because I’m no expert in the condition. Although I vaguely remember that impatience is supposed to be at the core of it- according to the Huberman videos I’ve been binging on for some time now. It reminds me of an Eckhart Tolle video I watched too, in which he states that an inability to be truly present and a constant need to escape the present (or to be anywhere else other than the present moment) are both symptoms of a deep dysfunction which affects very many of us right now. And what he said resonated with me. There does seem to be a restlessness within people which is harmful and contagious, and that restlessness seems to be drawing people’s attention _from_ the moment rather than _to_ it. I guess it boils down to the fact that someone can’t be in two places simultaneously. So you’re either present, or not. Thanks for the reply.

[@floydmcguirk6721]

Oh man this hit home I go so hard and I won't stop

[@KingaGorski]

Choose your "hard"-otherwise life will choose it for you.

[@beskidwood]

For podcasters (future, current, ex) go to @7.10 passage. After Ch.W.: -most do not reach 3rd poscast -if you reach doing 21 podcast you are in 10% of podcasters.

[@leviotten]

there is no adaptation when the chips are down. You simply just "DO". When I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes I didnt sit and think "oh I can just choose certain days to cheat on my diet". I immediately and permanently cut out all added sugar. I immediately started exercising more. I immediately started drinking more liquids. I tested myself twice a day. Just like if someone thratens your child or your home, you dont consider what to do. You immediately address the situation... Dont give yourself room to make excuses. if it matters to you, you will do it.

[@Epicturtle007]

The art of not burning out is the real deal

[@george46light]

I think an interesting guest for Chris would be Anna Bey, who runs an online finishing school, gives women advice on being elegant on her KZbin channel, and she also advices women how to marry up, which generates controversy. Her view on this I find interesting.

[@najverjetnejsa]

Yeeees

[@carlosmattey3135]

I needed this so bad!

[@pentlandpedals4941]

'Most people fail because they trade what they want most for what they want right now'.

[@BusinessWolf1]

Mental health is real.

[@amergingiles]

I've been applying to fucking oil rig jobs left and right. I got universal HVAC certs, the whole nine yards too. Ive even been marketing my IT skills without those stupid 300 dollad entry level certs. IVE GOTTEN FUCK ALL as far as responses go. 120 applications. 3 rejections. A pending interview cancelled. My work history is fine. My references are golden. I'm literally homeless and have nothing to lose, but the world doesn't want me to be productive it seems. LET ME CRAWL OUT OF THIS HOLE DAMNIT.

[@limo-swine6537]

Damn bro! That's tough. It seems like your luck is really bad for now. Hope you find the break real soon. All the best.

[@DZR-qo2px]

What state do you live in that you can’t get an hvac job? Where I’m at they practically beg for employees in the majority of the skilled trade sector.

[@Anvita444]

We did the party thing and then have them clean it up......at the end of the night, 3, 4 am, one of our drill instructors went into the main room and took a giant shit on the floor....hes a legend

[@Woodsey429]

This video is a blessing I will be pledging a frat next year 🙏

[@jujube2407]

As a sorority girl ( about his age) I'd say this accurately describes perfectly 👌

[@jamesgaz788]

anyone else really likes the way chris says unedited?

[@manwhohasnoname6549]

I think also another thing to keep in mind is that suffering doesn’t necessarily equal progress. Progress may entail suffering but all suffering does not entail progress

[@Anthony-yv4fg]

I’m one of those people who check their emails EVERYDAY

[@withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380]

This title is Golden !!!!!

[@otappiah]

"This is what hard feels like" that's what she said.

[@barcuda1250]

Cheers man the back of is the big thing

[@Kinson09]

This advice is a good start but really there is no comprehensive view of suffering without looking at Jesus Christ in love on the cross. Especially today (Good Friday 2023). My Lord and my God, I love you!

[@emmily6254]

It's hard to come to terms with the tought that there is a love that is so deep and profound, of such immense depth that it requires willingly bearing the suffering of losing a child for the sake of humanity's greater good.

[@user-hz6cn9bh4g]

Ugh

[@oscarernstyung1051]

​@@user-hz6cn9bh4g Oh lol

[@blzz42]

I agree. The pathway to less suffering is through suffering… And when you begin to walk down this path; the path of bearing your suffering nobly, and accepting the responsibility to confront that with courage, dignity and truth… the conclusion or the end of that road will always lead you back to Christ... Why? Because the story of the crucifixion is the ultimate expression of that truth brought to its logical conclusion. I mean, If you took on all the responsibility you could take on, and you faced everything you needed to face… What would you be like? Who would you be? and how would the world transform around you? If the partial answer is, well if I do that a little bit, things get a fair bit better. Then the next question might be: well what if you did that completely? It isn’t obvious to me what the upper limit of that is. And when you see people bear their suffering nobly, there is nothing in that but Good… that’s something. And then when you see people take on more responsibility and decide that they’re going to aim up, and confront their suffering honestly and forthrightly; that their lives get better and the lives of people around them get better too. That is why the pathway to less suffering is through suffering. It’s like well, there is suffering. How do you make it worse? You run away. How do you make it better? You confront it. You might say yeah, but it’s suffering. Well yeah it’s there… It exists. But it’s a precondition for life or something like that. And it’s like you have something important to do as well, and you confront it, and that’s the path to transcending it. So Imagine that acceptance of vulnerability and ignorance is the precondition for growth… Imagine that confrontation with the terrible unknown - with its paralyzing manifestations of tragedy and malevolence is necessary to catalyze both wisdom and maturity… Imagine finally, that human consciousness plays some central, and as of yet poorly understood role in the reality of the cosmos; at least as necessary observer. Imagine all of that, then ask yourself: what is the absolute hypothetical limit of human attainment when vulnerability and ignorance are fully and completely accepted? When the unknown is squarely confronted? and when consciousness is given its due at the very center of the world? That’s Christ’s acceptance of the crucifix. That’s his willingness to be betrayed subject to the evil of his closest companions and the state; and his embrace of brokenness and death. It is pure truth that even a small leaving of humility and courage engenders resilience, progress, and growth. It is pure truth that resentful rejection of the price of finite being multiplies suffering endlessly and unnecessarily. What is the ultimate expression of those truths taken to their final conclusion? Who is to say who we are, and what we might be capable of achieving if we develop the courage to accept our terrible fates, live in truth, and stumble uphill? This is the question posed by Christianity in its very essence.

[@legendarycondor]

Bullshit

[@EienAii]

I love the title

[@0owmjapo0]

what about when a hard thing is just getting out of bed or stepping outside haha

[@InsanitysApex]

Let your self be bored. I was at a similar point and filled my entire day with empty distractions. Try just sitting on the couch for 10 minutes with no distractions and no ruminations of past/anxiety of the future. Just be the vegetable that's in harmony with your life (no judgment or emotion). For me it broke me out of my cycle and a year later I'm back in the groove (down 70 lbs and running 5-10miles a day, taking care of myself, much more productive and happy).

[@Aholland1]

Set an alarm and get up on time. Cool, first win of the day. Now, shower and get ready. Cool second win of the day. Now set an alarm for when you have to leave the house. Cool, third win of the day. You get the idea.

[@BrainBerry_]

The guy knows what his talking about

[@camberbanbury3691]

Drinking whiskey is hard but persevere until you finish the bottle.

[@SARJENT.]

Kinda parallel to boot camp. After about two weeks, doods were quitting. The first time I had seen doods cry. Doing shitty difficult things together brings people close and builds culture.

[@TheFloozi]

i agree.

[@kicksnarehat4393]

most pertinent video name.

[@brett7011]

Choose your pain

[@seanfromtheyukon]

Listened 04.07.23

[@LAMMROD_]

where do you get your t-shirts?

[@LoicHurtubise]

who is the creators of the 2 quotes at the start of the video?

[@RakibulislamDM]

Great

[@DarrkMane]

Binary code. Fight or flight. Yes or no. its that simple.

[@Edgar-Friendly]

Romans 8:18

[@macewindont9922]

This guy is talking about his lame fraternity like it's some admirable accomplishment.

[@adamholbrook2281]

"The Comfort Crisis"

[@Nick-gg6tg]

Poor city folk getting a wake up call of "hard" 😂

[@jennysquesttowellness]

Chris invite Iman Ghadzi!

[@bryandjen107]

Ehh, sounds like douche lessons. Putting any value into Fraternity pledging is hilarious.

[@rylandpeters8982]

so easy to win yea you need a good character and personality too and confidence. You could be the fittest most motivated person in the world but if you cant interact with people youre pretty screwed. For him saying its so easy to do 21 podcasts

[@WtfReal]

Bro is on the liver king level roids and probably the same amount of lies.

[@Ctozzy95]

Ahhh so he was a in a frat, now that explains alot 😂

[@bearballs4206]

I love the videos keep it going

[@C420sailor]

If you want to grow, you have to suffer

[@brandoncrow8291]

If you want to gain, you have to give.

[@STELLASCUTENESS]

The sociopathy of this guy amazes me.

[@blake.the.protagonist]

7:07

[@matthewmc4363]

YOU MUST REMEMBER… gravity. Men like the honorable DAVID GOGGINS. Are still in the sugar. He is just able to talk about it……

[@BrandonCourt]

If you keep talking about something you want to get done as being hard then it will be. Just say it will be easy instead.

[@prideofalion]

I'm sorry but I have trouble taking advice from a guy who's had a very privileged life talking about how he helped toughen up another group of privileged men. Wasn't this guys dad a doctor? Yeah I'm sure it's been a real struggle for him 🙄

[@adolfotibana2810]

yawn

[@johnyang1420]

Sounds like you are making excuses to not take action…..cool

[@nightfighter7452]

@@johnyang1420 or maybe his life is actually harder than cleaning up a mess you made in your own house

[@Przepoczwarzenie]

Does it matter...? What choice do you have...? Roll down into the void? I got to admit though, cleaning after the party is... Hard...? A bit funny.

[@nirajjangid2447]

still takes more effort and hard work to build a networth of 100 million dollars, regardless if he came from a privileged background or not, he didn't take any help from his father, do your due diligence correctly

[@shoutatthesky]

Alex is a rich boy who doesn't even know what "hard" feels like!

[@matr1x83]

You sound super ridiculous

[@AZ-gs6hj]

Yup, dude grew up rich with daddy’s money. Makes money by acting like this guru. Typical online guru

[@CueStudent]

If you need fraternity, if your world needs to be challenged reply to this comment and join Exodus 90. I joined Exodus and I’m never going back.

[@al9552]

lmaoo thats what he wants

[@hhhhippo]

7:40 - Alex and Chris say it's easy to win, and they're correct - it's easy to win when you're already an attractive masculine male. I think Chris and Alex are great guys compared to almost everyone else, but they've never truly suffered - The problems of their life have always been limited to emotional self worth and the free-market. That's the missing piece here - the increased complexity of changing the expression of genetics - which these guys have never had to accomplish. That's the hard part, that's what suffering is, apart from physical 3rd world conditions and torture.

[@gabrielmaja6127]

Also the fact that Alex's intellectually gifted

[@hhhhippo]

@Fenwick Chick Yeah, this comment is for their brain, not mine. I've taken lots of value from these guys.

[@adolfotibana2810]

never ever assume other people experiences, you literally have no idea.

[@hhhhippo]

@@adolfotibana2810 Well there's a limit to human experience, so if we assume they were abused or severely neglected (Alex has said he was suicidal), I still view that as less suffering than being born small and ugly or with a disability/in a 3rd world country/North Korea.

[@johnyang1420]

How do you know they never truly suffered? Sounds like you are making excuses to not take action.

[@117Industries]

Haha, you’re not a fan then Alius?

[@1988ZER]

I dont dislike Cameron Hanes because I think he's a poser or has it easy. He's an awesome hunter and athlete. He just annoys me with his Instagram Hunter personality. He's like a instathot for hunters.

[@aces8481]

How: stop being lazy

[@tapiwasoropa]

All respect to the key lessons being shared in this video, but American Frat culture is beyond ridiculous I'm sorry. As someone who grew up in the poorest country in the world I just can't relate or sympathize

[@quisrealtalk263]

So... He openly talking about hazing...😅

[@sydneymav]

dude talks way fast

[@onboarddatracks4247]

Wtf

[@newage3334]

I gained nothing from watching this nor did they say anything compelling or perspective changing

[@johnbrooks756]

Bad analogy

[@matr1x83]

Joining a fraternity sounds like selling your soul.(NOT LITERALLY) Cause when you have to lower your standards to be initiated in anything, it goes against your moral code! I’m sorry, but for that reason, I could and would never want to join one! My respect for myself wouldn’t even be valid from that point forward. And that’s not speaking for every man, so please try not to take offense.

[@user-fy3nf3lg2j]

Dude this is a fukn joke. I’m having second hand embarrassment.

[@cahlendavidson2921]

Steroids make you grow breats. That's all I'm going to say

[@ricky4977]

What a classic way of BS

[@simritnam612]

Maybe the worst beard in podcasts

[@117Industries]

That’s a bit mean.

[@cheesychester9647]

This guest is absolute cringe

[@user-fy3nf3lg2j]

Aahhhkkk terrible analogy. Wow so tough lmfao

[@salotto1]

Good video

[@enjinman]

Thank goodness TATES out Chris you simp all up in his feelings all the time 😂🤦🏽‍♂️

[@mylifesucks7979]

4:24 this is what i said to my wife when i tried viagra

[@thealiusjones]

Dude yes. So much value. We are gladiators. Testosterone. We are better than others. We are superior men. Ugh I'm so damn aroused. SO MUCH VALUE. VALUEEEE. 10XBUSINESS. 10XFORESKIN

[@ricflomusic]

😂😂😂

[@bltvd]

Fraternities are gay is what I learned from this.

[@djVania08]

If dudes have to mop and feel like that's the worst shit they've done. I'm worried. But I think he just used it as an example.

[@MisterCovek]

I never got why Americans were so obsessed with frats and hazing. Until I realized all these people who graduate from Ivy League schools, become world leaders, and the way they stay on top is by hazing and having dirt on eachother so they stay loyal to one another.

[@seansmythe802]

Is is more then moping

[@nightfighter7452]

@@seansmythe802 oh yeah, they were hungover too, so hard😭

[@fraz124]

Sup bro, just wanna say thanks for all your advice, I’ve started my own KZbin channel and am going to be implementing the advice you have given me. The quality of my vids is still not perfect but I’m just beginning and will be upgrading in the near future. As Alex hormoni said ‘the first 100 episodes is you finding your voice’

[@yarigg]

When i have those "Why do i even bother" moments,i just say Khamzat Chimaevs "Kill everybody,i'm the king" speech in my head,works well

[@justparadiso]

“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.”

[@brahamwijaya1039]

If youre not goggins, you aint tough

[@Sportside311]

Love both you guys but still waiting on the 'How' ❤ ahh eff me I'll go out and find it. There we go

[@devanmauch7843]

Permission to feel shitty is huge when feeling shitty is necessary, otherwise you feel like you're being slighted by yourself even though you're doing exactly what needs to be done to get what you want.