THE REAL REASON BLACK WOMEN AREN’T ALLOWED TO BE INTROVERTED ! | LET'S TALK ABOUT IT BABY

[@ebonyaddison3021]

I'm an introverted black women. All of these black women are speaking the truth. We can't win no matter what we do. I've had stupid and hostile people, black and white or whatever, being disrespectful or hostile or aggressive toward me because I'm quiet and introverted. It's part of the reason why I don't enjoy being around others. I know how stupid, hostile, horrible and aggressive people become just because I'm quiet and minding my own business.

[@Adrienne.Michelle91]

If we're introverted, it's an issue. If we're extroverted and social, it's an issue. It's damned if you do, damned if you don't. 🤦🏽‍♀🤷🏽‍♀

[@olivia9408]

Its sickening, they mad at us for just breathing

[@sissysovereign1294]

You're not lying. And the bad part is we get this feedback from everyone on all sides including our own men. All of my life I've been bullied for being quiet, reserved, lacking a blaccent, and holding a love for adorable things. And you know what that's got me? "Why are you so quiet?" "You're too quiet!","You're weird", and my all time favorite? "Are you trying to be white?". Even my own mother would contribute to this and act embarrassed for me "not acting like a black girl" around family and friends.But the very same people that recoil at a black girl/woman for not acting like her stereotype will be just as disgusted for being the loud ghetto jezebel.

[@queen_k8444]

My thought exactly. Just be yourself and f these folks

[@pkp6791]

Exactly! That’s why it is best to be yourself and not gaf😂

[@benice3759]

Work is to make money not to make friends 😞

[@ForeverDrunkckoi]

Them non friends ef up your money tho. It's always the other way around they get rid of the introvert.

[@queen_k8444]

That part 💯💯💯

[@vpscreations5401]

Absolutely

[@ValerieAbena]

Sure but building relationships is important especially when you’re looking to progress and get promotions

[@nettienewsom9506]

What I’ve found out is the more “on” you are the more other folks like you but, if you’re quite keep to yourself and keep your private life private there’s something wrong with you.

[@Ebonaiti]

Most of society doesn't like any introverts no matter the skin. Black girl who graduated from art school who hang out with gamers and tech people. Our quietness freaks people out cause "they don't know what we're thinking" and junk like that

[@Robohead-z6z]

I mean I did had some kids picking on me cause being quiet=means less likely to speak up. However I did talk to people but only a little.

[@Robohead-z6z]

Funny cause I never dealt with that aggression and I am introverted. Maybe other race gets the flak too, but maybe some race gets more flak. I live in USA and I am African-American (with a bit of Irish) and on the lighter side. Maybe that’s why I don’t hardly if ever get any flak of being introvert.

[@cherylM.905]

This black woman doesn’t let anyone put her in a box, not even other black women….Winning🎉🎉🤣

[@PrincessPowerranger]

I smile all the time, and its a trauma response. I feel like Im not allowed to not smile because people think something is wrong

[@sissysovereign1294]

And the bad part is we get this feedback from everyone on all sides including our own men. All of my life I've been bullied for being quiet, reserved, lacking a blaccent, and holding a love for adorable things. And you know what that's got me? "Why are you so quiet?" "You're too quiet!","You're weird", and my all time favorite? "Are you trying to be white?". Even my own mother would contribute to this and act embarrassed for me "not acting like a black girl" around family and friends.But the very same people that recoil at a black girl/woman for not acting like her stereotype will be just as disgusted for being the loud ghetto jezebel. We truly can't win 😢

[@Jessmo2543]

Same here, my sibling literally called me the”white girl of the family.” They don’t understand, how that’s an insult.

[@jayj4439]

I my opinion it’s s harder to manipulate someone when you don’t know what they’re thinking or their personality. Who would’ve ever known that minding you business would stir up so much drama in the workplace?

[@ms.rivera7898]

Introverted black woman here! I can relate. Growing up, I was the quiet girl who read books and kept to herself. I still do. I talked proper and focused on myself. I enjoy my peace and quiet.

[@camousecheb8678]

This also happens at churches too. If you leave exactly when church is over you're seen as stuck up and then the pastor starts making rules that after church there will be a meeting and people have to stay back. And during church service they make it mandatory to greet everyone in the room. And if you choose not to you're seen as weird. Sometimes it's uncomfortable as an introvert. If you skip a Sunday without going to church you're seen as suspicious. Is there any place in the world where introverts can just be introverts?

[@TheDiaryofDestaney]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@SiddityPrincess]

I agree with this as an introverted black woman. I think WW tend to utilize workplaces to bully and to get access to BW and F with us even some WM esp those who likely dont interact much with us in their own lives. I think when we respond or refuse to play, it's like BOOM your entire career and livelihood is put in jeopardy because you don't "play their games" or want to be in mix company with these WW and even sometimes the men. As an introverted bw myself, I want to start normalizing the idea of bw not only beginning our own companies but us also supporting and hiring each other, and normalizing a new perspective of hiring that focuses on hiring based on personality types. In Workplaces that support BW.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

I was bullied by a ww. It was wild and bc a blond guy liked me. What you said is spot on.

[@marygambrell6411]

Yes I didn’t make friends real friends until I graduated from high school. It’s a really lonely life. But I refused to be friends with people who willingly become aggressive because you aren’t like them.

[@Nbayoungguh]

I left my old job for this same reason..i mean damn i just cant do my work quietly and go home? It trinkled all the way down to managent and they were slick tryn me..felt like i was on that borderline of just snapping and telln mf where to kiss it💯..i also felt like other certain black ppl i was workn with was showin they azz for the satisfaction white counter parts..i got sick of it i left without puttn in my two weeks..for what lol.

[@kieradavis7694]

Ok so my experience has been more on the fact that im sensitive. I was never allowed to cry or feel any emotion growing up bc it would make you a target to be bullied. Also in a black household you already know any emotion can be treated as disrespect. In my case i went through alot of abuse so being the kid that cried & was sensitive to everything was something i was ridiculed for. I did try to make friends but i had very little. I did end up in foster care during my teens but i did learn that there was a major difference between me as a black girl vs the rest. They were loud, aggressive and showed skinned. They also were the ones who had a big friend group and guys that liked them. There was pressure that I had to act like them to be accepted but i didn't want to bc some of the things my cousins or other black girls i knew were doing was stupid and would sometimes land them in juvi. It felt like there was more acceptance if you became the stereotype and i didn't want it. I was quiet, enjoyed school, wasnt in trouble alot and very friendly but that translated that i was easy to use & weak. I was called an oreo and accused of trying to be white. My religious foster mom praised me when i was well behaved but called me rebellious if i disagreed or didnt follow what the bible said bc i had a very bad relationship with religion. So a lot of people and even some ex lovers took advantage of me because i was too nice and it messed me up bad. I was picked apart from my looks to my beliefs to how i act. I developed trust issues with the adults in my life bc i knew i was only a check for them plus one tried to groom me at 16. As an adult, my mental health deteriorated, so im in counseling and doing trauma therapy. I have social anxiety bc now i feel i have to monitor how i behave around people and make sure i dont talk too much. Also bc of how I've been treated in the past i don't know who to trust. It hurts bc i feel like thats not how i wanted to be. I want to have bffs i can hang with, depend on and travel with but the older i get the more im understanding that those type of friendships exist only in movies, tv shows and white ppl.

[@hooballoolify]

It's about time someone understands me! 😢

[@jasminediggs6895]

I love that I've found that I'm not the only one going thru this AND I'M 45!!! but I wanna say... this is NOT a race thing. Black people can also be mean to us and they take our quietness as an insult.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

Both things can be true and real at the same time. Saying this as an “Oreo” and as someone who went to predominantly white and Asian schools 😊

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

“This is NOT a race thing” when everyone sees our race and skin tone first, is a triggering statement to me

[@benice3759]

I have the same problem 😕 I am black sad for this double standard

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

Every thing you said is absolutely correct!

[@queshquesh2963]

I know when I die I will be cremated...and I'm just fine...the way I live is how I wanna die

[@pkp6791]

It isnt only at work or by nonBlack people! Ive had the most s dished out to me by BM and Bw who have called me stuck up because I am an introvert! 😢 I dgaf now. Got around the workplace bs by starting my own business and I dont tolerate ANY toxic BA by ANYONE! This is a great video!! Thank you🎉 It is unfortunate that people judge BW negatively regardless of how we are - extroverted and loud OR introverted and quiet. If we are too loud, we are ghetto a d ignorant. If we are too quiet, we are racist, stuck up or sneaky. People just need to live and let live!!

[@MEBITCH-c6y]

Love it💯

[@blackpowerdiva4958]

7:00 Thiiiiiiiiis!!! Mic 🎤 drop. 💯

[@Robohead-z6z]

Must be dark skin, cause I am on the light side and I never dealt with this. I do talk, but only a little.

[@ghost99100]

This make noo sense

[@TheTaylorPatrice]

it actually does 😂😂

[@ghost99100]

@TheTaylorPatrice so you saying people have a problem with black women being polight and respectful, and using their inside voices? You saying people would rather black women behaving classless and disrespectful and obnoxious? Is that what your saying? U think people prefer black women to behave like that?

[@deenadream]

Yes. In the workplace especially.

[@PenelopezA]

​@@ghost99100 You're telling us that we don't understand OUR OWN experiences???

[@sissysovereign1294]

What part of this didn't make sense? Whether people want to say it out loud or not, it IS the truth. You have over a hundred black girls and women in this comment section sharing very similar stories, and you mean to tell me you think we're all just spouting b.s?

[@peachyyp5126]

I’m annoyed because my entire career I been kinda bullied for staying to myself . I’m not conformational . I really just want to be left alone

[@melusimafu3900]

Oh my, you so pretty

[@sigmasiren7]

Felt.

[@bonitaxXx4]

Exactly

[@Laura-sg6ss]

Literally like the lady at 6:45... IDC. I DO NOT CARE. I WILL DO WHAT I WANT. 🫶🏾😌🫶🏾 And if you wanna be slick like 10:05 (maybe not to me but to anyone else that's a Black woman) then I will be mispronouncing your name even if it is Dave. Do not sit there and attempt stupidity I will be passive aggressive too babe 🙃 coz now I am gonna best you BETTER THAN YOU. I don't even need to be overtly mean. 😋😋 it's my time now, my fun time now, enjoyyyy coz I definitely will 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾😌